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The Boys Are Not All Right

WHAT DO AMERICA’S MASS SHOOTINGS HAVE IN COMMON? GUNS, YES. BUT ALSO, BOYS.

I used to have this one-liner: “If you want to emasculate a guy friend, when you’re at a restaurant, ask him everything that he’s going to order, and then when the waitress comes … order for him.” It’s funny because it shouldn’t be that easy to rob a man of his masculinity — but it is.

Last week, 17 people, most of them teenagers, were shot dead at

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