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What Men Say About #MeToo in Therapy

NOT LONG AFTER THE STORIES ABOUT HARVEY WEINSTEIN BROKE, THE TOPIC WAS ON MY PATIENTS’ MINDS.

We were midway through a session this winter when my patient paused. He is a young man, a recent college graduate who moved from Michigan to New York last summer for a tech job.

“I have something I need to talk about and I’m afraid you’re going to judge me,” he said. He told me that he had been thinking about women he had slept with and that he felt terrible about some of the encounters.

“I didn’t rape anyone or anything like that, but I think I made them pretty uncomfortable.”

I’m a psychotherapist who works largely with men in New York City. Before last fall, I can’t remember hearing a statement like

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