Dear Therapist: Can I Still Trust My Husband?
After we cheated on each other 26 years ago, we promised to never let outsiders into our marriage again. But for more than two years, he’s been carrying on some sort of friendship with a woman from his high school.
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Dear Therapist,
Twenty-six years ago, my husband and I had a rough spot in our now 50-year marriage. We were both unfaithful, but we knew we loved each other, and went to counseling to learn how to have honesty and trust in our marriage. No outsiders would be allowed in.
I lived up to it. But I just learned that for more than two and a half years, my husband has been having a phone relationship with a single woman with whom he went to high school. There’s been no sex, according to him, but he did take lunch to her at her home. He knew I
