Dear Therapist: My Boyfriend Had an Affair and Now We’re Stuck at Home Together

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Dear Therapist,

I found out during the stay-at-home orders that my boyfriend of eight years has been cheating on me with a co-worker for at least four months (that I know of). He lied to me by saying that he was going out for errands, but he was really meeting with her in a parking lot.

She is married. When he came home, I confronted him and he told me he loves me, will cut it off with her, and wants to work on our relationship. We have different love languages and he felt “unloved” by me, so he sought it elsewhere. I’ve also felt “unloved” in the sense that I’ve been abandoned by