Oxymoronica: Paradoxical Wit and Wisdom from History's Greatest Wordsmiths
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ox-y-mor-on-i-ca (OK-se-mor-ON-uh-ca) noun, plural: Any variety of tantalizing, self-contradictory statements or observations that on the surface appear false or illogical, but at a deeper level are true, often profoundly true. See also oxymoron, paradox.
examples:
"Melancholy is the pleasure of being sad."
Victor Hugo
"To lead the people, walk behind them."
Lao-tzu
"You'd be surprised how much it coststo look this cheap."
Dolly Parton
You won't find the word "oxymoronica" in any dictionary (at least not yet) because Dr. Mardy Grothe introduces it to readers in this delightful collection of 1,400 of the most provocative quotations of all time. From ancient thinkers like Confucius, Aristotle, and Saint Augustine to great writers like Shakespeare, Oscar Wilde, and G. B. Shaw to modern social observers like Woody Allen and Lily Tomlin, Oxymoronica celebrates the power and beauty of paradoxical thinking. All areas of human activity are explored, including love, sex and romance, politics, the arts, the literary life, and, of course, marriage and family life. The wise and witty observations in this book are as highly entertaining as they are intellectually nourishing and are sure to grab the attention of language lovers everywhere.
Dr. Mardy Grothe
Dr. Mardy Grothe is a retired psychologist, management consultant, and platform speaker; the author of six books on words and language; the creator of Dr. Mardy’s Dictionary of Metaphorical Quotations; and one of America’s most beloved quotation anthologists. He lives in Southern Pines, North Carolina, with his wife, Katherine Robinson.
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- Rating: 3 out of 5 stars3/5Oxymoronica is essentially a collection of oxymoronic and paradoxical quotes throughout history as assembled by Dr. Mardy Grothe. Dividing the book and the collection into 14 separate entries (literature, politics, wit & wisdom, etc.), Grothe gives introductions to each category and giving examples to the part of the collection he is emphasizing before finished the last half of the chapter with quotes from various sources. Though Grothe tries to bring context and interest to each topical entry, it sometimes comes off as pompous. Overall the collection is pretty interesting, but it’s not the greatest read.
- Rating: 3 out of 5 stars3/5A nice collection of quotes, quick, easily readable. Amusing but nothing spectacular or amazing.
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5This was an ejoyable read, with lots of humor and insight reflected in the quotations. I especially liked the ones on marriage and family and the chapter on inadvertent oxymoronica (Sam Goldwyn telling Cary Grant to gallop off in all directions is pretty funny, as are most of Yogi Berra's quotes).
- Rating: 3 out of 5 stars3/5This collection of short stories and essays remind the reader of the complete and utter absurdity of the holidays. The best of the selections is undeniably Sedaris's memoir of working as an elf in the Santa display at Macy's in Manhattan. Tales from the Santa line are just as absurd as one might expect. Sedaris's maligning of children's Christmas pageants is good too. The other stories were not as funny. This confirms what I've always suspected about Sedaris, which is that he shines in the humorous memoir genre. And really, he is quite a funny man. The non-memoir material means that this is not the strongest of his work. It's good for a holiday chuckle, and probably best for those who have to face crazy holiday relatives, but this is by no means the best of Sedaris.
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5‘Oxymoron’ is one of those words we learn at school to define a contradiction in terms, and by the time you reach matric you know better than to use phrases such as fiery cold or pale black.The definition of Oxymoronica is quotations that ‘contain incompatible or incongruous elements’ – even everyday terms like ‘pretty ugly’, ‘jumbo shrimp’ or ‘acting naturally’. The undisputed master of the witty paradox was Oscar ‘to be natural is a very difficult pose to keep up’ Wilde, followed by George Bernard ‘I claim to be a conscientiously immoral writer’ Shaw, which has caused many to believe the oxymoron originated with late 19th Century Irish writers. However, although the term did not appear in English until 1640, the concept is as old as the written word, with Aesop stating way back in the 6th Century BC: We would often be sorry if our wishes were granted.Confucius, the Bible, the Greeks, the Romans, St Augustus – the still unnamed oxymoron just got more and more popular: Shakespeare, as we know, penned some real zingers, the most quoted probably being ‘Parting is such sweet sorrow’ [Romeo and Juliet]. The most entertaining way of reviewing this book would be simply to quote about 800 words worth of quotations but then readers might simply keep the review instead of buying the book – and this is really a book you should own.A collection of ‘1,400 of the most provocative quotations of all time’ is irresistibly readable: moreover, at some stage even the most confirmed philistine will have need of a collection of pithy, quirky sayings.‘Sex, Love and Romance’ is ideal for engagement parties – ‘A man chases a woman until she catches him’ [Anon] – while ‘Marriage, Home and Family Life’ – ‘After winning an argument with his wife, the wisest thing a man can do is apologise’ [Anon] – is perfect for a wedding speech. If you are forced into a political discussion, lighten the atmosphere with a few quotes, such as ‘No Government can be long secure without a formidable opposition’ [ANC, are you listening?] by Benjamin Disraeli, or William Whitelaw: The Labour Party [substitute with the DA or COPE] is going about the country stirring up apathy’.Everyone has a favourite oxymoron from stage and screen: my Oscar for best quote goes to George Burns with ‘Acting is all about honesty. If you can fake that, you’ve got it made.’ While Samuel ‘we pay him too much but he’s worth it’ Goldwyn gets the Lifetime Achiever award. Posthumously.The chapter on oxymoronic insults is so wonderful one is tempted to quote it verbatim: Deep down, he’s shallow [Anon], He had nothing to say and he said it [Ambrose Bierce], he has not a single redeeming defect [Disraeli again], He has delusions of adequacy [Walter Kerr], A genius with the IQ of a moron [Gore Vidal] and on and on and on….But this is a review not a list: the chapter on oxymoronic advice will prove invaluable to anyone giving a birthday speech, no matter what the age of the celebrant. Nobody actually wants unsolicited advice which is why quotations like ‘I always advise people never to give advice’ [the incomparable PG Wodehouse] will always be popular. The Literary Life contains the following gem by Barbara Kingsolver: Write a nonfiction book and be prepared for the legions of readers who are going to doubt your facts. But write a novel and get ready for the world to assume every word is true.”Some of the least witty but most funny entries are in the final chapter, Inadvertent Oxymorons, and it is here that American politicians – especially Republican presidents – come into their own: the George Bushes, father and son, are well represented, as are Richard Nixon, Ronald Reagan and Don Quale, although Gerald Ford takes the cake with ‘If Lincoln were alive today, he’d roll over in his grave’. Fascinating and a fantastic source of quotes, Oxymoronica is not only a must read but a must own, and thoroughly recommended.
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Such a great book!! I know the definition of oxymoron, I've seen some of the more familiar ones, but I've never seen anything like this book! It is, at the same time, hilarious and deeply inspirational, touching on such serious topics as death, love, human needs, and sex, while somehow keeping a lighthearted view around the quotes. A book absolutely FILLED with those kinds of phrases that really make you stop and think, this is very definitely not something to read straight-through. This is something to ponder, to sit and think about, maybe even discuss with a friend.
- Rating: 3 out of 5 stars3/5Again mostly funny stuff. I didn't care much for Season's Greetings to our Friends and Family, the story about framing the Vietnamese step-daughter, or for Dinah the Christmas Whore, about the loser that sister Liz befriends,but the other tales were good stuff.
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Oxymoronica - Dr. Mardy Grothe
dedication
In memory of Leonard Roy Frank
contents
Dedication
Foreword by Richard Lederer
An Introduction to Oxymoronica
CHAPTER ONE: Oxymoronic Wit & Humor
CHAPTER TWO: The Human Condition
CHAPTER THREE: Sex, Love, & Romance
CHAPTER FOUR: Marriage, Home, & Family Life
CHAPTER FIVE: Ancient Oxymoronica
CHAPTER SIX: Political Oxymoronica
CHAPTER SEVEN: Oxymoronica on Stage & Screen
CHAPTER EIGHT: Artistic Oxymoronica
CHAPTER NINE: Oxymoronic Insults (and a Few Compliments)
CHAPTER TEN: Oxymoronic Advice
CHAPTER ELEVEN: Descriptive Oxymoronica
CHAPTER TWELVE: The Literary Life
CHAPTER THIRTEEN: Oxymoronic Insights from World Literature
CHAPTER FOURTEEN: Inadvertent Oxymoronica
Index
About the Author
Also by Dr. Mardy Grothe
Credits
Metaphors Be With You
Back Ad
Copyright
About the Publisher
foreword
by
Richard Lederer
My son, Howard, and daughter, Annie, are full-time professional poker players who live and move and have their beings in that windowless, clockless pleasure dome known as Las Vegas. It’s an easy life—earning thousands of dollars in a single night just sitting around playing card games. But it’s a hard-knock life, too, what with the long, sedentary hours; the addictive behavior and secondhand smoke that suffuse the poker rooms; and the times when Lady Luck goes out whoring and your pocketbook and ego get roughed up.
How best to catch and crystallize this collide-o-scopic life my children lead, this life of gorgeous poker rooms and hearts of darkness, of Euclidean clarity and survival of the meanest? Bob Silver Eagle
Thompson, tournament director of the World Series of Poker at Binion’s Horseshoe casino, said it best: Poker is a tough way to make an easy living.
That’s a paradox, a statement that seems absurd or self-contradictory but that, as Mardy Grothe illuminates in what you are about to read, turns out to be true. Paradox is a particularly powerful device to ensnare truth because it concisely illuminates the contradictions that are at the very heart of our lives. It engages our hearts and minds because, beyond its figurative employment, paradox has always been at the center of the human condition. Man’s real life,
wrote Carl Jung, consists of a complex of inexorable opposites—day and night, birth and death, happiness and misery, good and evil. If it were not so, existence would come to an end.
Paradox was a fact of life long before it became a literary and rhetorical device. Who among us has not experienced something ugly in everything beautiful, something true in everything false, something female in everything male, or, as King Claudius says in Shakespeare’s Hamlet, mirth in funeral
and dirge in marriage
?
What you are about to read is the quintessential collection of memorable, push-me-pull-you, yin-yang statements. Mardy Grothe has labored lovingly in the word yards of paradoxology to show us that we are, to borrow two lines from Alexander Pope’s Essay on Man,
Sole judge of Truth, in endless Error hurled:
The glory, jest, and riddle of the world!
As you—glory, jest, and riddle—feast on the wise and witty examples and explanations in Oxymoronica, you will discover truths about your life that you did not know you knew.
an introduction to oxymoronica
Oxymoronica? you might be thinking,
What’s that?" While you surely know what an oxymoron is, oxymoronica is probably a new word to you. You won’t find it in any dictionary (at least not yet) because I came up with it only when I sat down to write this book. In coining oxymoronica, I was inspired by words you may know:
Playing off these words, I use the word oxymoronica to describe quotations that contain incompatible or incongruous elements. Many examples of oxymoronica appear illogical or self-contradictory on the surface. But at a deeper level, they usually make a great deal of sense and are often profoundly true.
When people are asked to describe an oxymoron, they almost always think of a contradiction in terms
like jumbo shrimp, acting naturally, pretty ugly, or, according to some, military intelligence. Sometimes an oxymoron is neatly inserted into an observation, as in this legendary line from Romeo and Juliet:
Parting is such sweet sorrow.
When Shakespeare tried to capture the bittersweet (a one-word oxymoron) tangle of emotions felt by young lovers as they leave each other’s embrace, he did what many other great writers have done throughout history—he used an oxymoron to convey the idea. Before Shakespeare, the words sweet and sorrow had never been paired. Afterwards, nobody ever forgot them.
Another example comes from the actor Alec Guinness:
Acting is happy agony.
Happy
and agony
are contradictory emotional states that simply don’t go together, but Guinness links them in a way that captures one of the most important characteristics of the acting profession. It’s a perfect oxymoronic observation—false at a superficial level, true at a deeper one.
The same may be said about a famous line from the actress Ava Gardner:
I am deeply superficial.
In normal discourse, deep
is the opposite of superficial. But when Gardner links these two antonyms together, the marriage of opposites arrests our attention and tantalizes our thinking. The Polish writer Stanislaw Jerzy Lec was thinking along the same lines when he once said of a peer:
Even his ignorance is encyclopedic.
Lec was describing someone whose ignorance was so immense he could have called it vast.
But he chose to call it encyclopedic,
adding more pizzazz to his remark.
Another example occurs in the Albert Camus observation:
I love my country too much to be a nationalist.
Camus is suggesting that an extreme love for one’s country—which often goes by the name nationalism—is not a good thing. His point is that he wouldn’t want to do something so detrimental to a country he loves.
All of these quotes contain a juxtaposition of opposing terms. They may be described by the adjective oxymoronic because they are characterized by or related to the rhetorical figure called an oxymoron. The Oxford English Dictionary defines oxymoron this way:
A rhetorical figure by which contradictory or incongruous terms are conjoined so as to give point to the statement or expression; an expression in its superficial or literal meaning self-contradictory or absurd, but involving a point.
The word, which appears in English for the first time in 1640, has an interesting etymology. In ancient Greek oxus means sharp or pointed
and moros means dull, stupid, or foolish.
So oxymoron is itself an oxymoron, literally meaning a sharp dullness
or pointed foolishness.
Technically, the correct plural form of the word is oxymora, but so many people say oxymorons that (except for purists, pedants, and yours truly) it is now generally regarded as an acceptable usage.
The best examples of oxymoronica don’t contain a simple contradiction in terms; they contain what might be described as a contradiction in ideas. Many oxymoronic observations stretch our minds and expand our thinking:
Free love is too expensive.
BERNADETTE DEVLIN
Chivalry is the most delicate form of contempt.
ALBERT GUERARD
Melancholy is the pleasure of being sad.
VICTOR HUGO
The superfluous is the most necessary.
VOLTAIRE
Observations like these are usually called paradoxical, and all are consistent with one of the definitions of the word paradox:
A statement that seems self-contradictory, false, or absurd but is nonetheless well-founded or true.
The word shows up for the first time in English in 1540, a hundred years before the appearance of the word oxymoron. Paradox also comes from two ancient Greek words, para meaning beyond
and doxa meaning opinion.
Literally, it means beyond opinion,
but it originally conveyed the sense of being beyond the pale of current opinion
or contrary to current thinking.
In the early days, it had a negative connotation, suggesting something that was fantastically unbelievable or even heretical. Shakespeare used the word in this sense when he wrote in Othello, These are old fond paradoxes to make fools laugh i’ the alehouse.
Over time, the word gradually took on today’s more favorable connotation—something that is true even though it may look false.
Many famous sayings in history fit under the umbrella of oxymoronica:
Less is more.
Coined by Robert Browning and popularized by the German-born American architect Ludwig Mies van der Rohe, nothing could be further from the literal truth. But when people use this expression, they’re not speaking logically, they’re using self-contradictory phrasing to describe an important principle—keeping things simple and avoiding unnecessary detail often improves things. Yes, one could say Simpler is better,
but such a bland observation wouldn’t attract our attention like Browning’s more provocative observation.
To grasp the meaning of oxymoronic and paradoxical observations, people must be able to engage in abstract thinking. If you ask a group of early-elementary-school students, "What does less is more mean?" most of them won’t know because they’re at an age when people tend to think concretely. Ask them the same question a few years later and the percentage of those answering correctly will shoot up. Another famous example comes from the French writer Alphonse Karr:
The more things change, the more they remain the same.
This observation is so popular that people often refer to it as an old saying
or a French proverb,
failing to credit Karr as the author. At a literal level, the statement is false—things that change are clearly not the same. But at another level, Karr is describing one of life’s most important lessons: Even though many things change dramatically as the years go by, essential aspects of the human condition remain remarkably similar over time.
Some examples of oxymoronica are ancient. More than twenty-five hundred years ago, the Chinese sage Lao-Tzu wrote:
To lead the people, walk behind them.
Lao-Tzu is revealing an ancient secret about leadership with these words. To forge a strong connection between leaders and followers, he is suggesting, the people must feel as if their leaders are truly behind them.
That is, the people must believe that their leaders will be helpful to them as they strive to achieve their most important life goals.
A paradoxical quotation I discovered many years ago took on renewed meaning after the attacks on the World Trade Center and Pentagon on September 11, 2001:
A nation is only at peace when it’s at war.
HUGH KINGSMILL
How can a nation be at peace when it’s at war? Kingsmill’s point is that a nation experiences the highest levels of domestic peace when it is united against a common enemy. The day before September 11, there were deep divisions within the United States. The day after, the country was united in ways that hadn’t been seen since World War II.
An oxymoron has been wisely described as a compressed paradox.
Looking at it the other way around, I think of a paradox as an extended oxymoron.
To me, they’re close cousins because they both link up contradictory or incongruous elements. And they both play around in the most fascinating way with the difference between literal truth and figurative truth. For this reason, I include both oxymoronic and paradoxical observations (and a few others, as you shall soon see) under the rubric of oxymoronica.
Great writers have often captured the imagination of readers with inspired examples of oxymoronica. In the late 1800s, the Scottish author Robert Louis Stevenson became famous for such thrilling novels as Treasure Island, Kidnapped, and The Strange Case of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. Among his many literary talents, Stevenson was also an acclaimed travel writer, chronicling his excursions throughout Europe and America in many articles and books. In Across the Plains, published in 1892, he wrote about his experiences in America, capturing the vastness of the country with a remarkable line:
We were at sea—there is no other adequate expression—on the plains of Nebraska.
At sea on the plains of Nebraska? The idea compels our attention. And if you’ve ever driven across the Great Plains in late summer—when, as far as you can see, vast acres of wheat fields roll gently with the wind—you can appreciate the truth as well as the beauty of Stevenson’s observation.
In the opening paragraph of G. K. Chesterton’s 1937 short story When Doctors Agree,
the narrator says:
Paradox has been defined as Truth standing on her head to attract attention.
For years, I believed that Chesterton—a master of paradoxical and oxymoronic phrasing—penned the line himself, but presented it in this way to give it a timeless quality. I’ve since learned that he actually purloined the line from a 1902 review of his very first book, The Defendant. In discussing the role of paradox in Chesterton’s work, an anonymously authored review in The Athenaeum, a British literary magazine, contained exactly the same line shown above. Chesterton apparently admired the phrasing so much that, thirty-five years later, he found a way to put it into his 1937 short story.
I’ve since discovered one other memorable example of the sentiment—and, fittingly, it was used in a description of another great master of paradoxology. In The Romantic Nineties (1926), English writer and poet Richard Le Gallienne wrote about Oscar Wilde:
Paradox was with him only truth standing on its head to attract attention.
The image of truth standing on its head to make sure we’re paying attention helps to explain our long-standing fascination with statements that on the surface seem patently false or even ridiculous, but at a deeper level are profoundly true:
Perhaps the only true dignity of man is his capacity to despise himself.
GEORGE SANTAYANA
What dignity can there be in despising oneself? In a perfect example of the sentiment we’ve been discussing, Santayana is advancing a profound thought. Human beings have a unique capacity to reflect on their behavior. When they behave badly and then despise themselves for their not-so-honorable actions, it does seem appropriate to say they’ve arrived at a moment of dignity.
Another attention-grabbing observation comes from Katherine Mansfield:
If you wish to live, you must first attend your