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    What to Do When You Don't Know What to Do: Sex and Intimacy
    What to Do When You Don't Know What to Do: Sex and Intimacy
    What to Do When You Don't Know What to Do: Sex and Intimacy
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    What to Do When You Don't Know What to Do: Sex and Intimacy

    By Henry Cloud and John Townsend

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    Based on the incredible success of the book What to Do When You Don't Know What to Do, Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend offer a line of books that address specific crises and some of the most prevalent problems facing our culture today. These books give readers a starting point to deal with their problems. Beautifully designed in a full-color small format, these books are perfect for giving to a friend in distress.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherThomas Nelson
    Release dateDec 1, 2005
    ISBN9781418561277
    What to Do When You Don't Know What to Do: Sex and Intimacy
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    Henry Cloud

    Dr. Henry Cloud is an acclaimed leadership expert, psychologist, and New York Times bestselling author whose books have sold over 10 million copies. In 2014, Success magazine named Dr. Cloud one of the top 25 most influential leaders in personal growth and development. He graduated from Southern Methodist University with a BS in psychology and completed his PhD in clinical psychology at Biola University. 

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      What to Do When You Don't Know What to Do - Henry Cloud

      A GIFT FOR

      _______________________________

      FROM

      _______________________________

      Dr. Henry Cloud

      & Dr. John Townsend

      What to Do

      When You Don't

      Know What

      to Do

      God Will Make a Way

      WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO: SEX & INTIMACY

      Copyright © 2005 by Henry Cloud and John Townsend.

      Published by Integrity Publishers, a division of Integrity Media, Inc., 5250 Virginia Way, Suite 110, Brentwood, TN 37027.

      HELPING PEOPLE WORLD WIDE EXPERIENCE the MANIFEST PRESENCE of GOD.

      All rights reserved. No portion of this book may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means— electronic, mechanical, photocopy, recording, or any other—except for brief quotations in printed reviews, without the prior written permission of the publisher.

      Published in association with Yates & Yates, LLP, Literary Agents, Orange, California.

      Unless otherwise indicated, Scripture quotations are taken from The Holy Bible, New International Version (NIV), copyright ©1973, 1978, 1984, International Bible Society. Used by permission of Zondervan Bible Publishers.

      Other Scripture quotations are taken from the following sources:

      The New King James Version (NKJV), copyright ©1979, 1980, 1982, Thomas Nelson, Inc., Publishers. Used by permission.

      The Holy Bible, New Living Translation (NLT), copyright ©1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois. All rights reserved.

      Cover and interior design: UDG | DesignWorks,

      www.udgdesignworks.com

      ISBN 1-59145-352-6

      Printed in the United States of America

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      Contents

      Prologue

      PART I: EIGHT PRINCIPLES TO GUIDE YOU

      1. PRINCIPLE ONE:

      Begin Your Journey with God

      2. PRINCIPLE TWO:

      Choose Your Traveling Companions Wisely

      3. PRINCIPLE THREE:

      Place High Value on Wisdom

      4. PRINCIPLE FOUR:

      Leave Your Baggage Behind

      5. PRINCIPLE FIVE:

      Own Your Faults and Weaknesses

      6. PRINCIPLE SIX:

      Embrace Problems as Gifts

      7. PRINCIPLE SEVEN:

      Take Life as It Comes

      8. PRINCIPLE EIGHT:

      Love God with All You Are

      PART II: INTIMACY & SEX

      PART III: BEGIN YOUR JOURNEY TODAY

      Prologue

      Sexual difficulties in marriage can be a devastating experience. Couples who find that their romantic intimacy isn’t working—for S whatever reason—go through tremendous emotional and relational pain. They wonder if they are really in love, or if they are damaged beyond repair. They start to give up hope that they will ever feel the completion and deep connection that comes with a loving and sexual marriage.

      One couple I worked with, Dan and Linda, were almost at the end of their marriage because of a sexual conflict. Though she loved Dan, Linda simply had very little sexual desire for her husband. She never approached him for sexual relations, and whenever he took the initiative, she would either try to avoid it or simply endure the experience. On his part, Dan was extremely hurt and frustrated by this and often felt like giving up on the relationship.

      As I got to know the couple, I became aware of a pattern in their relationship that seemed significant. Though he loved Linda, Dan was pretty controlling with her. He told her what to do and called the shots quite often. And Linda seemed to simply take it. She took a more compliant and docile role, as it helped them to avoid butting heads and having conflict.

      I knew that this sort of dance between two people often makes one spouse feel like a child and the other a parent. The child feels helpless and choiceless, and the parent feels in control and sometimes alone without an adult partner. Neither spouse feels really happy with the child-parent pattern.

      I also knew that many problems in sexual unresponsiveness are associated with this pattern. Kids aren’t designed to want to have sex with

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