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    PLANE BEFORE SPEAKING: Listen Better and Speak More Clearly
    PLANE BEFORE SPEAKING: Listen Better and Speak More Clearly
    PLANE BEFORE SPEAKING: Listen Better and Speak More Clearly
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    PLANE BEFORE SPEAKING: Listen Better and Speak More Clearly

    By Margaret Johnson

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    My goal was to write a short, easy-to-read book with suggestions the reader could begin to use immediately. As a therapist I know that learning, strengthening and refining the skills of communication is an issue with almost everyone. Hopefully, these suggestions will give you a head start on that path.

    Communication is basically listening and responding. Sounds easy enough, doesn't it? Communication can become easy and healthy if you commit to learning the Plane Before Speaking suggestions that can smooth out some of the rough edges of how you communicate now.

    Healthy communication creates better conversations, better relationships, and improves self esteem. It also increases intimacy, reduces stress, and eliminates so much conflict. If you want to improve your communication skills, it will take conscious and consistent effort. It will be worth it.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherMargaret Johnson
    Release dateFeb 26, 2012
    ISBN9781466143296
    PLANE BEFORE SPEAKING: Listen Better and Speak More Clearly
    Author

    Margaret Johnson

    Margaret was born and raised in rural Tioga County in upstate NY, where she lived until the late 80s. Since then she has lived all over the southeast, southwest and a few months in southern England. She lives now in the Ozark Mountains of Arkansas, off grid and way off the beaten path. Drawing on her experiences of life and the study of people she started writing years ago, her work published in a variety of periodicals and books. The books here on Smashwords are her first e-books.

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      PLANE BEFORE SPEAKING - Margaret Johnson

      PLANE BEFORE SPEAKING

      Listen Better & Speak More Clearly

      by

      Margaret Johnson, MFT

      Published by Margaret Johnson at Smashwords

      Copyright 2012 Margaret Johnson

      This ebook is licensed for your personal enjoyment only. This ebook may not be re-sold or given away to other people. If you would like to share this book with another person, please purchase an additional copy for each person you share it with. If you’re reading this book and did not purchase it, or it was not purchased for your use only, then you should return to Smashwords.com and purchase your own copy.

      Thank you for respecting the hard work of this author.

      Plane: (1) to make smoother or even; (2) to remove by or as if by planing. [merriam-webster.com/dictionary/plane]

      Speak: (1) to utter words or articulate sounds, as human beings;

      (2) to express thoughts, opinions, feelings orally. [merriam-webster.com/dictionary/speak]

      Plane Before Speaking: A powerful tool for smoothing or shaping communication; to shave off words and/or attitude that distract from your message. [Margaret Johnson]

      PLANE BEFORE SPEAKING

      Listen Better & Speak More Clearly

      Table of Contents

      Introduction - Immediate Help

      Chapter 1

      Chapter 2 - Reactions vs. Responses

      Chapter 3 - Healthy Listening

      Defensiveness

      Active Listening

      Listening to Content

      Speaker’s Voice & Behavior

      Monitor Your Thoughts/Feelings

      Integrating Results

      Chapter 4 - Healthy Responding

      Listening

      Filtering

      Editing

      Multi-tasking

      Chapter 5 - Five Practical Steps

      Words Only

      Words + Voice Quality & Nonverbal Behavior

      Words + VQ + NB + Self Observation

      Integration of Information

      Chapter 6 - Healthy Exercises to Try

      Listen without Judgment or Personalizing

      Importance of Words

      Get Clarification

      Slack

      Chapter 7 - Ouch - Hurt Feelings

      Chapter 8 - Eliminate Bad Habits

      Hot Buttons

      Rein in Reactions

      Debating & Challenging

      Insults

      Do Not Retaliate

      D Word & B Word

      Inflammatory Phrases

      Need to be

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