Deepen Love and Happiness with Healthy Anger: A guide to Owning and Expressing our Feelings
By Guru Jah
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When you are ready to deepen your experiences of Love and Happiness, you will need this book.
We all want to feel good about ourselves and to feel happy, especially in our experiences of love. We have designed this book to maximize getting you to Deeper Love and Happiness through understanding anger in a very different way.
Anger is not our enemy. Anger is the front line defense to hurt feelings.
Within these pages, you will be directed through a formula for Healthy Anger, the Steps of Discovery, the Five Steps of Finding Anger Issues, and, seeing the Six Steps to Forgiving in a unique perspective. These processes take us to the core of our hurt feelings and emotions in a way to resolve them. The end result is a sense of freedom to trust ourselves opening up to far deeper expressions of love and happiness, for ourselves and in our relationships.
We incorporate over 60 illustrations to impart visual understanding of key points that can stay with the reader far better than just the written word. Full color illustrations are included in this eBook.
Print editions are also available. Though we feel full-color illustrations serve the imagery far better, for affordability, we also offer a black-and-white [greyscale] print edition.
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Blessings on your journey,
Guru Jah here ...
Guru Jah
Before me, I see my passion. That relentless burning fire within me sees a world where people can live happier, healthier, more fulfilling, and meaningfully transformed lives as awakened beings.Through my counseling, training, presentations, workshops, books and webpages, people find:•Healing of emotional, mental, and physical dis-ease•Self-Love based on realistic Self-Acceptance and Self-Appreciation•Deeper Connection and Authentic Intimacy in relationships•Empowerment through Self-Expression of feelings and needs•Sacredness in Sexuality•The ability to forgive•and Awakening unto one’s True Divine SelfCountless people have experienced miraculous transformations, and in that, I am blessed. Many of my teachings come from resolution of identical struggles throughout my own life, for I have been there. Yet in the end, I work in union with the Divine Presence within and about me.That is my work. That is our work. Together we can do it.Whom do you know in need of a healing transformation in life?I am Guru Aum Jah
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Deepen Love and Happiness with Healthy Anger - Guru Jah
Deepen Love and Happiness
with Healthy Anger
A guide to Owning
and Expressing our Feelings
Full Color eBook Edition
with Guru Jah
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Guru Jah
ISBN: 978-0-9914504-3-5
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Dedication:
To you, the reader,
and The Rise of Humanity.
Guru Jah, GuruJah.org, and affiliates thereof, are not part of any established standards of care
or scope of practice
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Table of Contents
Forward
The Outlook
To Whom … We as a Player
To Whom … We and Others
The Touchy Subject of Angry Language
Owning our Feelings
Our Resistance to The When
Our Choices of When
…
Making When
Real in the Now
In the Amount Due to that Person
The Symptoms of Poisoned Suppression
How much Force?
Raw Expression of Anger
Healthy Rage
Our Self Image
Discovery
The Steps of Discovery: Getting to the Root
Resolving the Past
The Five Steps of Finding Anger Issues
The Active Emotional Past
The Six Steps to Forgiving
Finding our Balance
Simplified Points …
Other Works by Guru Jah
Meet Guru Jah
Forward
Blessings there …
We all desire, and actually need a sense of connection. Along with that we desire and need a sense of self-expression. Our tendency is to embrace these desires and needs through love. It is all a big part of how we feel good about ourselves, and what makes us happy. Yet, as I sit in preparation to write a definitive book on love, I look into the hearts of the people and see blockages that prohibit the depth of love to which I shall write. The surface blockage is suppressed anger.
Suppressed anger looms in denial; we avoid our anger like a plague. Thus, before I can bring people to a place of deeper love, where we are alive and passionate in its expression as an ongoing shared experience, the issue of anger suppression must be resolved.
Most people do not even know they live with anger let alone just how angry they really are; they have buried it that deeply and anger can seem subtle.
There is a common axiom stating that anger solves nothing. While on the surface that is true, it is a gross misunderstanding. Yes, in a state of undirected anger or aggression, there are limits as to what [if anything] can be resolved. But, anger has an invaluable purpose in our self-expression as a tool to resolving what really blocks our happiness, our growth, our sense of self, and our ability to love. That second or deeper blockage is unresolved hurt feelings.
Anger is the front line defense to unresolved hurt feelings, thus, in avoiding our anger, we avoid dealing with our emotional past. But we lose, we lose big time. Anger eats away at our body, but suppressed anger makes it far worse. It eats away at our soul and our joy of life. We disguise our anger as barriers and boundaries; it is our inability to trust in openness; it becomes a failure of intimacy we long for.
This book is designed to correct that as a guide through realizing your feelings, your emotions, and how to resolve those that carry pain. It is the pain of unresolved feelings that causes anger. When we denounce, avoid, or suppress our anger, we never get to those hurt feelings in a healthy manner that can resolve them.
Within these pages, you will be directed through a formula for Healthy Anger, the Steps of Discovery, the Five Steps of Finding Anger Issues, and, seeing the Six Steps to Forgiving in a unique perspective. These processes take us to the core of our hurt feelings and emotions in a way to resolve them. The end result is a sense of freedom to trust ourselves opening up to far deeper expression of love and happiness, for ourselves and in our relationships.
Guru Aum Jah
P.S. Throughout this book, you will find variations of this icon. The invitation is to really think about what you just read, or to actually stop and do the step-by-step exercise. Doing the work is what makes this book real.
Think About It …
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The Outlook
It amazed me to sit in a three-way conversation with myself, a partner of the day, and her therapist, and to find the therapist unable to define anger clearly. Yet, I can go to a simple dictionary, and in this case, pull up a fairly accurate definition:
1: a strong feeling of displeasure and usually of antagonism [Antagonism: 1a: opposition of a conflicting force, tendency, or principle b: actively expressed opposition or hostility] 2: RAGE.
It is also interesting to look at some of the historical source root words:
As a Noun:
mid-13c., "distress, suffering; anguish, agony, also
hostile attitude, ill will, surliness, from Old Norse angr
distress, grie, sorrow, affliction," from the same root as anger (v.). Sense of rage, wrath
is early 14c.
As a Verb:
c. 1200, to irritate, annoy, provoke,
from Old Norse angra" to grieve, vex, distress; to be vexed at, take offense with, from Proto-Germanic *angus (cognates: Old English enge
narrow, painful, from PIE root *angh-
tight, painfully constricted, painful"
To understand Healthy Anger,
key words from the definition are: a strong feeling of displeasure, affliction, over a principle, or grief. Quite personally, I add the word resentment
to that list. Later in this work, we shall also point to Healthy Rage.
On almost a global level, we denounce anger as something bad and undesirable; we strive to avoid such a strong feeling. Yet, our feelings are the experience and expression of life itself. To detach from our feelings is to detach from living, to detach from life. To experience our feelings strongly is to have passion.
A seed stirs in its shell by desire, but it breaks that shell and grows with passion. It is its passion to express its being in truth of what it is, fully. Without the passion to grow, the shell of existence would never be broken. Life without passion is not life; it is only existence.
We are no different than that seed.
Our question then becomes, why would we condemn ourselves to existence by denying a strong feeling?
In our youth, if that feeling were love,
we would be all over it, singing its glories, all as a strong feeling. Yet as life progresses, we get