The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More & Change the Way You Lead Forever
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In Michael Bungay Stanier's The Coaching Habit, coaching becomes a regular, informal part of your day so managers and their teams can work less hard and have more impact.Drawing on years of experience training more than 10,000 busy managers from around the globe in practical, everyday coaching skills, Bungay Stanier reveals how to unlock your peoples' potential. He unpacks seven essential coaching questions to demonstrate how—by saying less and asking more—you can develop coaching methods that produce great results.· Get straight to the point in any conversation with The Kickstart Question· Stay on track during any interaction with The Awe Question· Save hours of time for yourself with The Lazy Question, and hours of time for others with The Strategic Question· Get to the heart of any interpersonal or external challenge with The Focus Question and The Foundation Question· Finally ensure others find your coaching as beneficial as you do with The Learning QuestionA fresh innovative take on the traditional how-to manual, the book combines insider information with research based in neuroscience and behavioural economics, together with interactive training tools to turn practical advice into practiced habits. Witty and conversational, The Coaching Habit takes your work—and your workplace—from good to great."Coaching is an art and it's far easier said than done. It takes courage to ask a question rather than offer up advice, provide and answer, or unleash a solution. giving another person the opportunity to find their own way, make their own mistakes, and create their own wisdom is both brave and vulnerable. In this practical and inspiring book, Michael shares seven transformative questions that can make a difference in how we lead and support. And he guides us through the tricky part—how to take this new information and turn it into habits and a daily practice.—Brené Brown, author of Rising Strong and Daring Greatly.
Michael Bungay Stanier
George Orwell said, “An autobiography is only to be trusted when it reveals something disgraceful.” In that vein, Michael was banned from his high school graduation for “the balloon incident”, was sued by one of his Law School lecturers for defamation, and managed to give himself a concussion while digging a hole as a labourer...Luckily, there’s also been some upside. He is the author of a number of books, and the one he is best known for with 90,000 copies sold is Do More Great Work. However, the one he’s proudest of is End Malaria, a collection of articles about Great Work from thought leaders that’s raised about $400,000 for Malaria No More and reached #2 on Amazon.com.Michael also organized the Great Work MBA, a virtual conference featuring 30 world class speakers and which had more than 10,000 registered participants.All of this is done as founder and Senior Partner of Box of Crayons, a company that helps organizations do less Good Work and more Great Work. Their focus is on helping time-crunched managers coach in 10 minutes or less, and their Fortune 500 clients include TD Bank, Kraft, Gartner and VMWare.Michael is a well-regarded speaker, and as well as speaking to organizations he regularly keynotes at conferences such as HRPA, SHRM, CSTD, the Evanta HR Leadership series and The Conference Board of Canada. He’s known for sessions that are highly engaging, interactive and entertaining. And for his colourful Box of Crayons socks.Before Box of Crayons, Michael spent time inventing products and services as part of an innovation agency, and working as a management consultant on large scale change, where amongst other things he wrote the global vision for GlaxoSmithKline.Michael was a Rhodes Scholar and the first Canadian Coach of the Year.
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Humorous, but concrete examples helps to implement the model and new ways of coaching to my own workplace.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5The book gives profound insight on what most managers are doing wrong when it comes to coaching. Most organizations emphasize on coaching but rarely trains managers how to do it. This books is short but very good in doing exactly the same.
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5A crisp well written book. Gives the managers and the coaches a tool kit of 7 powerful questions to ask their people to take them on a journey of self discovery.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Loved this book alot. Great questions and well-structured. Loads of new book-tips in it too!
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Coaching question with simple and clear understanding . I recommend every manager to read this
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Good read. The book is packed with seven essential question as a part of management repertoire for building effective coaching habit for organizational success. The contents are well researched with psychological facts.
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5it's a fast read with good tips to apply in everyday life
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Really easygoing book, with examples and guided exercises to help develop those coaching habits. Loved the content and really useful with those research insights!
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5A great book for anyone that hesitates to ask questions. And I really liked it because of the neuroscience and psychology research analysis and hundreds of books Micheal the quotes in this book.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5This book is full of practical advice which can be used to adapt to your own coaching style. It provides a good framework of seven questions, and ideas on the situations where you can leverage them. There is also a meeting script which I found to be very useful. Another good thing about this book is that it morphs the key ideas from several other famous authors and books in neuroscience and psychology area in its own framework.
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The Coaching Habit - Michael Bungay Stanier
This book is NOT about turning you into a coach
It’s about making you a leader, a manager, a human being who’s more coach-like. Which means building this simple but difficult new habit: Stay curious a little longer, rush to action and advice-giving a little more slowly. It’s a fast and practical read, and I think you’ll enjoy it.
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Praise for The Coaching Habit
Michael Bungay Stanier distills the essentials of coaching to seven core questions. And if you master his simple yet profound technique, you’ll get a two-fer. You’ll provide more effective support to your employees and co-workers. And you may find that you become the ultimate coach for yourself.
DANIEL H. PINK, author of To Sell Is Human and Drive
Coaching is an art, and it’s far easier said than done. It takes courage to ask a question rather than offer up advice, provide an answer or unleash a solution. Giving another person the opportunity to find their own way, make their own mistakes and create their own wisdom is both brave and vulnerable. It can also mean unlearning our fix it
habits. In this practical and inspiring book, Michael shares seven transformative questions that can make a difference in how we lead and support. And he guides us through the tricky part: how to take this new information and turn it into habits and a daily practice.
BRENÉ BROWN, author of Rising Strong and Daring Greatly
What can you do to become a better leader? Michael asks and answers this question by offering aspiring leaders seven thoughtful questions that will change their leadership habits. This book is full of practical, useful and interesting questions, ideas and tools that will guide any leader trying to be better.
DAVE ULRICH, co-author of The Why of Work and The Leadership Code
Michael’s intelligence, wit, articulateness and dedication to the craft of coaching shine forth in this brilliant how-to manual for anyone called to assist others. Even after four decades of my own experience in this arena, The Coaching Habit has provided me with great takeaways.
DAVID ALLEN, author of Getting Things Done
Amid a sea of coaching books that drone on with the same old, over-used conceptual frameworks, there is a gem of hope. The Coaching Habit is a treasure trove of practical wisdom that takes a timeless pursuit—to turn every manager into a coach—and breaks it down into a simple set of everyday habits. If you are ready to take your leadership to the next level, you need this book.
JESSICA AMORTEGUI, Senior Director Learning & Development, Logitech
There are many coaching books out there that end up on the bookshelf half read. Michael Bungay Stanier’s The Coaching Habit engages you from start to finish. A simple read that is bold and direct, relatable and real, this book will change the way you communicate with colleagues at work and family at home. If you want to read one book on coaching that will resonate with you quickly and that is not overwhelming, choose this one.
JOHANNE MCNALLY MYERS, VP Human Resources, Tim Hortons
Among a plethora of books, studies and op-ed pieces about the importance of coaching and how to execute this most critical of development interventions well, it’s easy to understand why students and practitioners of the craft feel confused or overwhelmed by the array of approaches, frameworks and systems extolled as the right way.
Michael Bungay Stanier has expertly cut through this confusion with his new book in a manner that is simple to understand, realistic in its intention and ultimately effective to apply. I believe this book will establish itself as a powerful and useful toolset for the professional coach, the student learner and the people manager alike.
STUART CRABB, Director Learning & Development, Facebook
This is not just a book; this is the voice in your head, the person that sits on your shoulder—guiding you to greatness. Being a great coach is more than skill; it’s a mindset, a way of being. Michael has a remarkable way of delivering that message through artful storytelling, practical examples and proven techniques. A must-have book for the coach who truly wants to make a difference.
SINÉAD CONDON, Head of Global Performance Enablement, CA Technologies
The Coaching Habit is funny, smart, practical, memorable and grounded in current behavioural science. I found it highly valuable for my own work and collaborations.
JAMES SLEZAK, Executive Director of Strategy, New York Times
Where others can overcomplicate the purpose and practice of coaching, Michael Bungay Stanier provides a practical and unintimidating approach to this essential habit of great leaders. He succinctly articulates the research behind the art of respectful inquiry and its role in fostering an authentic partnership among colleagues who are committed to doing meaningful work together. The Coaching Habit is a thoroughly enjoyable read that immediately inspired me to adopt new habits.
DANA WOODS, CEO, American Association of Critical-Care Nurses
The magic of leadership occurs in daily conversations. With The Coaching Habit, Michael Bungay Stanier gives managers an extremely simple yet powerful tool (just seven questions!) to help them coach their teams to greatness, each and every day.
ANDREW COLLIER, Head of Leadership Development, Nestlé
"Fantastic . . . and Where was this book when I needed it?" are the first thoughts popping into my head after reading this book. I’ve read countless books on leadership and coaching over my career but few brought it all together like Michael Bungay Stanier’s. I love the concepts of keeping it simple and practice, practice, practice, which are key to building your coaching habit. Michael makes what some leaders see as complex a simple process, whether you are an experienced or new people leader. Definitely a must-read book.
MONIQUE BATEMAN, SVP, TD Bank Group
The Coaching Habit is the essence of practical coaching for busy managers. No filler, no abstract theory, no tedious stories. Just everyday, practical tools so that you can coach in ten minutes or less.
MELISSA DAIMLER, Head of Learning & Organizational Development, Twitter
Bungay Stanier has it right. We are creatures of habit, and from our habits we create ourselves, our lives and the world around us. The Coaching Habit is a manual for applying the power of habit to the power of coaching to accomplish more with and through others. Do not read this book. Practice it. Apply it. Keep it on your desk and build your coaching habit.
MICHELE MILAN, CEO Executive Programs, Rotman School of Management, University of Toronto
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Way You Lead
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Harlan Howard said every great country song has three chords and the truth.
This book gives you seven questions and the tools to make them an everyday way to work less hard and have more impact.
Contents
You Need a Coaching Habit
How to Build a Habit
Question Masterclass Part 1:
Ask One Question at a Time
1 The Kickstart Question
Question Masterclass Part 2:
Cut the Intro and Ask the Question
2 The AWE Question
Question Masterclass Part 3:
Should You Ask Rhetorical Questions?
3 The Focus Question
Question Masterclass Part 4:
Stick to Questions Starting with What
An Irresistible 1-2-3 Combination
4 The Foundation Question
Question Masterclass Part 5:
Get Comfortable with Silence
5 The Lazy Question
Question Masterclass Part 6:
Actually Listen to the Answer
6 The Strategic Question
Question Masterclass Part 7:
Acknowledge the Answers You Get
7 The Learning Question
Question Masterclass Part 8:
Use Every Channel to Ask a Question
Conclusion
A Treasure Trove of Additional Awesomeness
Acknowledgments
Landmarks
Title Page
Contents
Beginning
Cover
You Need
a Coaching
Habit
Everyone now knows that managers and leaders need to coach their people.
The leadership press has endless articles about it. Assorted gurus suggest that coaching is an essential leadership behaviour. The number of executive coaches seems to be multiplying according to Moore’s Law. Even