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    I Feel Insufferior: New Hope for Real Change
    I Feel Insufferior: New Hope for Real Change
    I Feel Insufferior: New Hope for Real Change
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    I Feel Insufferior: New Hope for Real Change

    By Melody Metzger, MC and MTC

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    Insecurity, inferiority, inadequacy, insufficiency, low self-esteem… the greatest plagues of mankind today, which often lead to depression and anxiety.

    Do you want to overcome your insufferiority? Nobody should feel or believe that they are less important than others, but it is epidemic in our society.

    As you read, you’ll get step-by-step help to overcome your insufferiority. There is hope. There is freedom. God didn’t create a bunch of namby-pamby scared Christians. He built an army—an army full of King’s kids. Yes, we are heirs to the throne of God and He has provided all the tools and armour we need to be strong warriors.

    Do you want to be an overcomer? Do you want to embrace who God created you to be? Do you want to feel secure, adequate, sufficient, and confident? God wants you to. I want you to.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherWord Alive Press
    Release dateOct 22, 2015
    ISBN9781486610969
    I Feel Insufferior: New Hope for Real Change

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      I Feel Insufferior - Melody Metzger

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      1. I Feel Insufferior!

      When my daughter uttered these words to me, my first thought was to correct her vocabulary. Oh, you mean inferior, or insufficient, or inadequate, or insecure. Of course, I did empathize with and comfort her, though. I told her the truth of who she is. I told her how I see her. I told her how God sees her.

      However, as I pondered the word she had used—insufferior—I immediately realized that I knew exactly how she felt. That word said so much and expressed what has become epidemic in today’s society. It is a combination of all these fears—inferiority, insecurity, inadequacy, and insufficiency—adding up to low self-esteem. This was my child who is usually so bubbly, confident, outgoing, effervescent, and full of joy, but she was going through a rough time. Some people go through most of their lives with feelings of insecurity, inferiority, inadequacy, low self-esteem, and all the maladies that can accompany it. Others will only experience it temporarily.

      Of course, I knew what she was feeling because I had spent most of my life fighting those very feelings. What she was experiencing had been modelled by me, as I had learned them from my mother, and so on and so on. The generational curses will continue as long as we allow them. Colossians 2:15 says, And having disarmed the powers and authorities, he made a public spectacle of them, triumphing over them by the cross (NIV). So why is it so hard to overcome? Why does it feel like such a daily struggle? Why do I recognize these traits in so many people, not only myself?

      I hold a Masters in Therapeutic Counselling, and this is the underlying problem in most people who come to me for counsel. As I work with them and they start to get better, I often feel like a fraud, because I’m still struggling with these issues on a regular basis myself. Then I question whether they’re really healed. Is it just temporary? Of course, I recognize that these thoughts come on my low days. In other words, on the days when I haven’t taken authority over the lies. On the days when I feel weak. So why, with all my knowledge and training, and with the ability to help others, do I still have to fight this battle?

      I have pondered and worked at these very questions for my whole career—for most of my life, in fact. Now I have taken steps to overcome them, and I’ll share how with you in this book.

      It is my calling to help people on the road to recovery. Emotional health belongs to all of us, but few of us actually live there. Yes, many appear confident and self-assured, but often those who exude the most confidence struggle inwardly to believe it. Most of us walk around with covers, a façade of well-being, cheerfulness, and confidence. Inside, we ask ourselves, Did that sound stupid? Do I look like an idiot? Why can’t I be like other people?

      Does this sound like you?

      First, we need to understand what insecurity, inferiority, inadequacy, insufficiency, and low self-esteem are. From this point on, I will refer to all of these afflictions as insufferiority. I fully believe we cannot overcome issues if we don’t really understand what they are and where they come from.

      I believe in delving into the roots of problems. Just like weeds, if we don’t deal with the roots, they will only come back—usually multiplied. Dealing with surface issues, like the dandelion head, is like putting a bandage over an infected cut; it will only grow, spread, and worsen. It’s usually painful to clean out that wound and kill the infection. It is the same with our emotions.

      It’s much easier to understand our emotional issues by comparing them to physical ones. The society we live in accepts physical illness and issues as things we can’t help, and it’s understood that we sometimes need help from others, such as medical professionals. Unfortunately, mental illness and emotional issues tend to be viewed as weaknesses, and sometimes people are shunned because of them. Many are afraid to reach out for help or seek counselling because there’s still a lot of stigma attached. It’s definitely better than it used to be, but I still have clients who are embarrassed. Most insurance companies cover counselling in employee benefit packages, but many people never claim them because they don’t want others to know that they needed help. How sad.

      Truly, this is insufferiority, a fear of man and what other people will think.

      2. Understanding Insecurity, Inferiority, Insufficiency, Inadequacy, and Low Self-Esteem

      What Is Insecurity?

      So let’s get to the root of this epidemic. What is insecurity? I could give you dictionary definitions, but if you’re reading this book, chances are you are only too aware of the definitions. You perhaps believe that you’re less than other people in some or all ways. You have a basic lack of confidence in yourself and your abilities. You don’t feel secure or safe maybe. You are uncertain about your future, even for the day.

      When I’m in big groups of people, I tend to feel more insecure. Why would this be? I’m definitely introverted, so this might contribute, but being introverted doesn’t make me less than others or less capable. I do feel more comfortable in a one-on-one situation, and this is common with introverts. However, if I’m honest with myself, perhaps part of it is that there are fewer people to dispute what I’m saying or challenge me. So I must be insecure in what I’m saying. But really, I’m not. I fully believe what I profess. The underlying issue is still insecurity. Not that I believe it less, but that someone else might not believe me.

      So what? Why should that matter? Nobody’s going to believe everything another person says. We’re all different, unique individuals with differing opinions, values, and views. That’s what makes this world so wonderful and relationships so valuable. We do challenge each other, and this helps us to come to our own unique understandings and beliefs. I can counsel myself through problems, but why is my natural response still fear?

      Do you relate? Well, the truth is that it’s becoming less and less so for me, because I’ve worked through the insufferiority so much. I will teach you how to overcome as well.

      Of course, I struggle sometimes. I’m

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