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Narcissism In a Nutshell: The Mind-Boggling Behaviors Behind the Narcissist's Relationship Agenda
Narcissism In a Nutshell: The Mind-Boggling Behaviors Behind the Narcissist's Relationship Agenda
Narcissism In a Nutshell: The Mind-Boggling Behaviors Behind the Narcissist's Relationship Agenda
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Do you suspect that your partner is a narcissist...an emotional manipulator? If so, how can you know for sure? Connecting the dots between behaviors is the key to recognizing the differences between partners who simply behave badly and those that follow a narcissistic relationship agenda. Yet another amazingly intuitive book from author and narcissist abuse recovery coach Zari Ballard (thenarcissisticpersonality.com), Narcissism in A Nutshell provides the definitive answers about narcissism (in relationships) that we all need to safely navigate within today's social circles - answers intended to take the guesswork out of this particular relationship equation. In typical conversational style, she exposes the mind-boggling behaviors that define the narcissist's pathological relationship agenda and shows the reader exactly how to connect the dots.

In relationships, within social networking, and across dating websites, narcissism is running rampant in epidemic proportions. Learning to recognize the signs/behaviors of someone with a narcissistic personality can prevent this type of predatory abuse from happening to you at all OR if you're already involved, the knowledge will give you the confidence to finally (and permanently) go "no contact" and exit the game.

Here’s a nutshell version of how a narcissist’s mind-boggling behaviors connect from one to the other: The love-bombing described in Chapter I evolves into the future-faking in Chapter III in the same way that the silent treatment described in Chapter VI is a direct result of the managing down of expectations explained in Chapter VIII in the same way that the pathological lying in Chapter II along with the Cell Phone Game of Chapter V, the triangulation revealed in Chapter X, and the projection of Chapter XIII is all part of the chaos creation described in Chapter XII! Together and combined, they enable the overall mindset that allows the narcissist to perpetuate – and get away with - the “love” juggling exposed in Chapter VII. And those are just a FEW of the many ways that we can connect the dots within this book.

Like Zari's widely popular first book, When Love Is a Lie, this little handbook of bad relationship behaviors is filled with personal anecdotes, grown-up humor, and a wealth of valuable information for these perilous "relationship" times. Buy this book today and get ready for an "a-ha" moment.

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PublisherZari Ballard
Release dateJun 19, 2017
ISBN9781370576913
Narcissism In a Nutshell: The Mind-Boggling Behaviors Behind the Narcissist's Relationship Agenda
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Zari Ballard

Zari is a Freelance Writer/Author (and single mom) who resides with her son in sunny Tucson, AZ. Born and raised in Rhode Island, Zari, then an aspiring journalist, graduated from Rhode Island College with a B A in Mass Media Communications/English and headed out from the ocean state for a life in the Southwest.In 2005, when her son's diagnosis with child-onset schizophrenia changed everything, Zari set aside the executive rat race in lieu of a home-based career as a Freelance Writer. A leap of faith that could have gone either way, the choice to work from home was meant-to-be and she has never looked back.Motivated by the success of her first book, "When Love Is a Lie", Zari has since published four additional books about narcissism in relationships: "Stop Spinning, Start Breathing", a journal-style workbook about narcissist abuse recovery, "Narcissism In a Nutshell", a quick start guide to understanding narcissistic behaviors, "When Evil Is a Pretty Face", providing support for male victims of female narcissists, and now, in 2021, "Vacancy In the (Relationship) Rabbit Hole", a complete guide to a full recovery from narcissist abuse.Zari continues to provide support to narcissist abuse victims via one-on-one counseling, through her website, thenarcissisticpersonality.com, and also at her YouTube channel where she discusses in detail all aspects of narcissism in relationships.

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    While I can appreciate (as is evident in the book) that the author's ex is / was a Narcissist; this book is written from her own unique experience with that person. Filled with anecdotal evidence; I was bothered by the lack of balance. She uses the word "he" (which is common), but in this case you feel she is talking about that one particular 'he'. Also the assumption that cheating is somehow involved in every case. Profanity when used is unnecessary. I agree the 'getting out - no contact' option is likely the only solution (it works). However there is no clinical sense of the causes or underlying reasons for Narcissism, and no mention why treatment does / does not work etc..

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Narcissism In a Nutshell - Zari Ballard

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Narcissism In a Nutshell

The Mind-Boggling Behaviors Behind the

Narcissist’s Relationship Agenda

Other Books by Zari Ballard:

When Love Is a Lie

(Narcissistic Partners & the Pathological Relationship Agenda)

Stop Spinning, Start Breathing

(A Codependency Workbook for Narcissist Abuse Recovery)

When Evil Is a Pretty Face:

(Narcissistic Females & the Pathological Relationship Agenda)

Copyright@2017 Zari Ballard

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Table of Contents

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Introduction: Connecting the Dots

Chapter I: The Love Bomber

Chapter II: The Pathological Liar

Chapter III: The Future-Faker

Chapter IV: The Gas-Lighter

Chapter V: The Cell Phone Ninja

Chapter VI: The Silent Abuser

Chapter VII: The Love Juggler

Chapter VIII: The Expectation Manager

Chapter IX: The Distracter

Chapter X: The Triangulator

Chapter XI: The Holiday Houdini

Chapter XII: The Chaos Creator

Chapter XIII: The Great Pretender

Conclusion

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Introduction: Connecting the Dots

When we’re involved with the type of partner that I describe in this book, we can read a zillion articles on the topic and still not feel confident that we know the truth. We may even devour books on how we can change ourselves to fix the problem and never get to the nitty gritty of what is really going on. Something about the relationship is off yet we don’t know what it is. At times we feel as if this person is our soul mate and at other times we feel completely disconnected. Even after years, this person can become a stranger in the blink of an eye. How is that even possible? Moreover, it’s not as if this is our first rodeo. Indeed, some of us have been married and divorced or had our hearts broken five times over. What is it about this relationship that makes it so different from the others? Why is the pain so unbearable and the misery so isolating? Are we making a big deal about nothing or is something really going on behind our backs? Who or what is this person and why do we even care? Is this person a narcissist, a sociopath, or just a fucking asshole and how can I even tell? For the first eight years of my relationship with a narcissistic partner, I felt incapable of connecting the dots and drawing my own conclusion as to what was really happening.

Although I’ve written several detailed books about narcissism in relationships, I’ve come to understand that sometimes all a suspecting partner wants is a quick answer. I understand this because I’ve been there. I spent 13-years with a narcissistic partner and didn’t even begin to look for answers until the 8th year. At that time, I felt very desperate and hadn’t a clue what the true meaning of narcissism even was. All my life I’d thought that being narcissistic meant that one was over-the-top conceited about his/her physical appearance. I was completely floored when I discovered the true scope of the definition. In my case, after some intensive googling, there wasn’t a doubt in my mind what I was up against. This person I had known for many years prior to becoming a couple wasn’t anything close to the person that I thought he was. As his girlfriend, I found myself repeatedly being subjected to behaviors that blew my mind…such as the silent treatment. How could this person I love disappear for weeks on end for no apparent reason and then reappear again as if nothing had happened? And why did I allow it to happen? There were so many questions and I felt bombarded with answers that made no sense. What the hell was going on? Little did I know that my journey was just beginning. Even after I grasped the true definition of this supposed disorder called narcissism, I hung in there another four years thinking I could fix it. Having so much information often makes a conclusion impossible to process!

The truth is that unless a person has already experienced this relationship madness for themselves, they can never understand the scope of the betrayal. As this person’s partner, this applies to us as well. Much of the abuse is covert and extremely passive aggressive. The bad behaviors come disguised as something else, causing confusion and self-blame. The narcissist’s

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