The Cheating Game: The Signs and Reasons People Cheat and What to Do About It!
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The Cheating Game is a book that addresses the issue of infidelity and adultery. Many people know the signs of cheating behaviors but few know the reasons their spouses cheat on them. Some think the only reason people cheat is because of sex. This is not true. The behavior might be sexual but the motives can range from revenge to the need for emotional connection. The Cheating Game not only addresses the signs and reasons people cheat, but it also offers solutions. Some of these solutions come in the form of knowing how to please your mate and how to be pleased as a woman. Other options to stopping the cheating game are explored including open relationships.
The Cheating Game is written allowing all individuals to identify with the desire to save their relationship. Honesty is stressed along with open communication. While reading The Cheating Game, you will see yourself in the various examples. This book will make you want to take positive steps towards growth as a person and as a couple. It will be a revelation that transforms your life.
Terry Azzouz MA LPC LSOTP
Terry Azzouz earned her Master’s in Clinical Psychology. She is a Licensed Professional Counselor, Licensed Sex Offender Treatment Provider, and Certified Anger Resolution Therapist. She has been providing counseling for children and their families since 1991. She opened her private practice in 2002 serving the greater Houston area. Terry primary focus is working with children who have been abused. She has testified in court cases helping with family reunification issues and helping victims receive resolution from their perpetrators. In addition to working with children in her practice, Terry is also a Realtor with ReMax. Terry developed a passion for real estate in 2006 when she began investing for her retirement. She has taken this passion and now also works with families to help make their dreams of home ownership a reality. She also works with other investors as they plan for their retirement through the purchase of real estate. Terry loves spending time with her family, including her grandchildren. She takes pleasure in the simple things of life, including family, friends, and the great outdoors. She is a student of life and enjoys learning. Terry is very active in her community, as she understands the importance of giving back through service. Most of all, Terry is a very spiritual person. Although she receives her peace as a Catholic, she is open to all faiths and walks with God. She enjoys that God is bigger than religion and can reveal Himself to all in many different methods. She prays that this book has been a revelation to you.
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The Cheating Game - Terry Azzouz MA LPC LSOTP
© 2010 Terry Azzouz, MA, LPC, LSOTP. All rights reserved.
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First published by AuthorHouse 10/16/2010
ISBN: 978-1-4520-9104-4 (e)
ISBN: 978-1-4520-9103-7 (sc)
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Contents
Preface
Inspiration and Guidance
The Numbers and Other Interesting Facts
Part One
Let The Games Begin
Chapter 1
Dating Games
Chapter 2
Marriage
Chapter 3
The Realities of Marriage
Chapter 4
Men Cheat
Chapter 5
Women Cheat Too
PART TWO
Alternatives
Chapter 1
From The Beginning
Chapter 2
The Big Love Approach
Chapter 3
Open love
Part Three
Staying Happy
Chapter 1:
Decisions, Decisions
Chapter 2
Men want Sex-
How to Please Him
Chapter 3
How to be pleased as a woman/How to please a woman
Conclusion
About the Author
References
Preface
It’s April 11, 2010 and I’m awake at 6:30 am although it’s Sunday. I’ll been reading the book Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man
by Steve Harvey. Over the weekend, for the first time in years, I went to see a movie at the theater that wasn’t rated G or PG. We saw Why Did I Get Married Too
by Tyler Perry. During the last week I had to console a friend who thought her husband was cheating on her. Then support her in her decision to only focus on his love.
So I’m up at 6:30 in the morning. God usually talks to me around 4 a.m. Every day I pray God guide my thoughts, words, and deeds that I may do your will today
. Amazing things happen. He talks to me, guides me in my steps.
So here I am, up early on a Sunday morning, and I hear Him, Write a book
. Crazy. I know. But here I am writing.
As a psychotherapist, Realtor, and investor, you would not believe the stories I hear. I have many social groups, including people 20 plus years older than me. My closest friends tell me frequently that I think like a man. Indeed, I have many male friends who tell me the truth about their views and experiences.
That tells you how this book came into existence. It is a book that needed to be written. There are so many games going on out there and no one is really addressing it. Yes, you see it in movies. You hear about the stars getting caught having affairs. You probably know too many friends that have experienced infidelity. Even you may have experienced it. But no one really talks about it to help you fully understand it. No one gives you the truth about what is going on in our society, let alone possible solutions to the problem. Well, here is that book with those answers: The Cheating Game
.
Inspiration and Guidance
Oh, that you would bless me indeed,
and enlarge my territory,
that Your hand would be with me,
and that You would keep me from evil.
The Prayer of Jabez
Read the book and say it daily
The Numbers and Other Interesting Facts
• Alfred Kindsey, in his ground breaking research in 1953, found that one third of men and one fifth of women reported extra-marital sex.
• Psychologists assert that women are attracted by power and resources in men, while men are attracted by beauty and youth.
• 50% of women who have affairs were sexually abused as girls.
• Persons who are highly educated are more likely to cheat. Those with a graduate degree are 1.75 times more likely to stray from a relationship than those with high school diplomas.
• Individuals who earn more than $30,000 are more likely to cheat. (Source: Forbes magazine)
• 50% of married individuals admit to having affairs.
• Black men and women have higher rates of cheating compared to white men and women.
• 62% of unfaithful husbands and 46% of unfaithful wives had affairs with someone at work.
• 34% of cheating women and 56% of cheating men said they had a happy marriage.
• In one sample, over 60% of people who commit infidelity don’t use condoms.
• 75% of all unfaithful individuals who marry their lovers end up divorced.
• Over 90% of a survey of 4,300 people reported their affair was based on emotional needs not being met by their spouse, not sexually motivated reasons.
Part One
Let The Games Begin
How we meet, how the conversation goes, how the relationship develops, and the demands you make on a man will all determine whether you’ll be treated like a sports fish- a throwback- or a keeper, the kind of woman a man can envision settling down with.
Steve Harvey
Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man
Chapter 1
Dating Games
Think about it, dating is a lot like a business; the best way to become successful is to master and control things you have control over.
Steve Harvey
Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man
What is your earliest memory of liking the opposite sex? Was it in high school? Junior high? Or maybe as early as elementary school? Do you remember playing hide and go get? Or house?
You know those games. In hide and go get
, you hid like in regular hide and seek; but this time you got to hide with a boy you liked. And you got to do whatever (usually kiss) until you were caught. Or in the game house
, someone was the mother, someone was the father, and the rest were the kids.
Now, if you never played these games, I am certain you know about spin the bottle. Boys and girls sit in a circle, spin the bottle, and you have to kiss the person it lands on. Yes, even while very young, we played games regarding the opposite sex.
But did you ever think about really how those games actually went? Were you ever with the same person? Did you always have the same husband while playing house? Who you kissed in spin the bottle was all up to fate, and each time you played, it was going to be someone different that you kissed. And we were ok with that. For better or worse, we got to play around with it and experience different people.
By junior high or high school, most people start to date. Long ago, there were some standards about dating. You would exchange phone numbers, and maybe talk on the phone for a while. You usually saw this person during school hours. You knew his friends, and maybe his family. You might have gone to the same church and your family knew his family. Your decision to go out with him was typically based upon gathering a lot of information long before you actually went out on a date.
There was also this idea in the back of everyone’s mind good girls don’t
. Guys and girls knew this. It meant don’t expect all that nasty stuff from a good girl
. If a guy got it, then she was not a good girl, not one to take home to mamma. Every girl wants to meet mamma, to be in the guys’ family, so you had to make the decisions to keep your dates clean. Yes, maybe some kissing, and maybe even some touching. But never sex.
This mindset allowed for some type of a relationship to occur. A friendship would usually develop over the course of several months. In my high school, there were so many couples that were together for months, if not years. Some got married after high school. I am friends with