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    Friends with Benefits: Friendship, Intimacy, Sex
    Friends with Benefits: Friendship, Intimacy, Sex
    Friends with Benefits: Friendship, Intimacy, Sex
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    Friends with Benefits: Friendship, Intimacy, Sex

    By Chinenye Ezeh

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    Friends with benefits (FWB) relationship is adjudged to be awesome and sometimes hurtful. It is awesome because it gives partners the liberty to get physically intimate without the encumbrance exclusivity prevelant in traditional relationships. On the other hand, it is hurtful because oftentimes, FWB relationship ends with someone feeling exploited and deceived.


    This book gives a thorough exposition of “Friends with Benefits” relationships and the life experiences of some persons who have been there. The contents are well researched. Diverse opinions and findings from experts and researchers are equally presented. The facts offered in this book will avail one with much knowledge as well as help people make informed judgments about FWB relationships. 

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherChinenye Ezeh
    Release dateAug 28, 2020
    Friends with Benefits: Friendship, Intimacy, Sex

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      Friends with Benefits - Chinenye Ezeh

      Obioma

      Acknowledgment

      I am highly indebted to my kid sister Ifeoma-Chiamaka who always turns every of my literary piece into interesting works. She took it upon herself to contract a professional cover art designer and an editor just to make sure that this book’s quality is superb.

      I also appreciate my very good friend Oluchukwu Ifeanyi who took time to read the first draft of this work and made constructive remarks about it. Other persons include: Onyeka, Ifesinachi, Oluchi Precious, Patrice, Frank, Cosmos and so many other persons that offered some words of encouragement.

      I sincerely thank my significant other, Onyinyechi for her prayers and encouraging words. She always enquired about the progress of this work and offered me support all through its development.

      CONTENTS

      ACKNOWLEDGMENT

      CONTENTS

      PREFACE

      ONE: Friends with Benefits: What does it mean?

      TWO: Spell out the terms

      THREE: Be on the same page

      FOUR: Emotions

      FIVE: Sex

      SIX: Privacy and limit lines

      SEVEN: Financial commitment

      EIGHT: When to quit and what follows afterward

      CONCLUSION

      ABOUT THE AUTHOR

      REFERENCES

      PREFACE

      In recent times, youngsters are constantly pushing the boundaries and the frontiers with regard to relationships. Some people yearn for long-lasting relationships in search of genuine love, while a lot of the people are not ready for anything very serious, or they are only willing to catch fun and enjoy life without been tied to a partner. Most of the time, some persons tend to keep things at a minimal level but the other party may need something more.

      A lot of people have embraced the act of getting into friendships without commitments, with the intention of enjoying certain benefits therein. The practice may not be entirely new, but it has become a normal way of life and some sort of trend for people around the world. Friends with benefits (FWB) relationships have become very common lately, with so many people reliving their experiences depending on how it turned out for them. Some persons relish beautiful experiences of it while some others think otherwise. However, the truth remains that majority of the people get into it oblivious of what they are signing up for.

      There are contradicting views and opinions with regard to the whole essence of FWB relationships. Findings show that there is majorly one thing that people seek in it whether they got into it knowingly or unknowingly. This work gives a thorough exposition of Friends with Benefits relationships and the life experiences of some persons who have been there. The contents are well researched. Diverse opinions and findings from experts and researchers are equally presented. The facts offered in this work will avail one with much knowledge as well as help people make informed judgments about FWB relationships.

      ONE

      Friends with Benefits: What does it mean?

      In times past, a friend with benefits (FWB) relationship possibly was not a thing as it is presently. It may have existed through centuries without much hype, but in this contemporary time, it has become very popular and some persons have embraced it as a way of life [¹].

      In fact, majority of young adults indulge in FWB relationships [², ³, ⁴] series of times before settling into a traditional relationship. Traditional relationship here means a romantic relationship in which both partners are duly committed to each other. One of the surveys targeted at some young college students revealed that about 60% of them engaged in FWB relationships at least once at some stage of their lives [², ⁵, ⁶, ⁷, ⁸].

      Origin of the term friends with benefits, may not be exactly pinpointed, but back in the year 1995, singer Alanis Morissette used the term in one of her lines, You are my best friend / best friend with benefits. From that time on, the term was used in different forums and in the year 2011, it was used as a movie title Friends with Benefits [⁹].

      Friends with benefits relationship is an integration of friendship, intimacy, and sex involving most often two persons who are not committed to each other [¹, ², ³, ⁵, ¹⁰, ¹¹]. In other words, the sole aim of this type of relationship is mostly friendship, physical intimacy or sexual connection and there are no strings attached.

      In my opinion, FWB relationship could mean more than just sexual connection. I choose to be liberal in my definition of FWB relationship because there are people who are of the opinion that some FWB relationships do not necessarily include sex as part of the benefits or even if it is there, it is not the predominant or sole benefit. They argue that some people can actually be in a mutually beneficial relationship without sleeping with each other and yet they help one another in some other ways.

      Of course, this line of thought somewhat does not reflect aptly what is generally known and accepted to be a friend with benefits arrangement. But then, it is not less valid as there is some sense in the argument. In an

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