PERSONAL VALUE SYSTEM MATERIAL DIMENSIONS OF MAN Emotions Emotions are extreme mental state wherein the individual

l experiences pleasant or unpleasant psychological and/or physical conditions The emotions that we express depict the kind of personality that we have Our ability to identify, explain, and accept our emotions is a sign of emotional maturity Anger Joy Fear Sadness Disgust Curiosity Acceptance Surprise

External Senses Our senses make us aware of the things that are happening around us Sight Touch Internal Senses Memory Consciousness Instinct Imagination Taste Hearing Smell

SPIRITUAL DIMENSION OF MAN Human intellect - the ability to know and understand; the law of nature mandates man to responsibly use his intellect for the common good Will - the powerful weapon of man to determine whether a particular thing is within the bounds of morality Conscience - the inner voice; fusion between intellect and will which he/she uses to make a moral judgment Types of Conscience Correct/true conscience - occurs when the judgment is based on fact Erroneous conscience - occurs when the judgment is based on incorrect and irrational moral principles or applied within the bounds of morality but in incorrect means Certain conscience - judgment is based on an assured fact without committing any mistake Doubtful conscience - the person who made a judgment is aware that his/her judgment may be a mistake FUSION OF MATERIAL AND SPIRITUAL DIMENSIONS Components of material dimension of man have a direct contact on the reality because the sensory information that the individual receives The internal senses play a significant role on how the individual understands and interprets the relayed information

 In order to maximize the fusion of these two dimensions, everyone must develop their intellect and will Tips on Developing Intellect Ask questions about the purpose and reason for the existence of life Understand and rationalize absolute moral principles Render judgment and decision in accordance with the objective standard of morality Examine and understand the absolute truth Synthesize the cause and effects of actions and decisions Tips on Developing Human Will Selection of moral values that are within the bounds of absolute truth Meticulous, rational, and systematic process should be performed before rendering the final decision Immediate execution of the plans after rendering the decision Exercise of freedom with responsibility Self-discipline; control of subjective emotions THE NATURE OF SELF SELF = pagkatao George Herbert Mead posited that in order to obtain the real SELF, the individual must monitor, respond to, and address his behavior

 The SELF should be viewed as the product of an individuals social interaction with another individual The SELF is a collection of social activities and experiences during the beginning of individuals social life SELF is the object of every mans consciousness Characteristics of SELF Notion of the SELF as a process instead of an entity - the difference of I and ME Means whereby Social Control becomes Self Control - we follow the socially accepted norms in order to fit in Composed of attitudes Reflexive - the individual must monitor, respond, and address his own behavior; cope up with the settings in the environment Functions of SELF Provides unique and dynamic characteristics in ones personality Associated with intense and complex emotions like failure, success, joy, sadness, grief, etc. The SELF pushes us to be consistent and stable

CONFIDENCE, COMPETENCE, AND SELF-ESTEEM CONFIDENCE A behavior by which the individual believes that he can do things that he is expected to deliver/accomplish A trait that shows how prepared the people are in executing their respective responsibilities SELF-DEFEATING THOUGH PATTERNS The all or nothing thinking - when the job is fairly done, the person automatically believes that hes a failure Seeing only dark clouds - one disaster will make the person believe that everything else will fail Magnifying negativity/minimizing positivity - negative thinker Accepting emotions as truth without critical thought acceptance of truth as anything that is emotionally unsatisfactory Overemphasis on I should statements - over perfectionism Labeling - blaming mistakes to self, to other people, and the unavoidable circumstances Difficulty in accepting compliments - people believing that they do not deserve compliments; always think of themselves as unworthy

HOW TO DEVELOP SELF-CONFIDENCE Learn to appreciate your strengths - tiwala lang sa sarili Take risks - no pain, no gain, bahala na si Batman Self-talk - constantly remind yourself of your strengths, and obligations Self-evaluate - evaluate yourself if you achieved your goals and exceeded your own expectations COMPETENCE Ability to do work that needs to be accomplished Ability to convey the image that you are strong, confident, and able to deliver and exceed ones expectations HOW TO ACHIEVE SELF-COMPTETENCE Become truly interested in other people - always pay attention to what others are saying; ask questions about what they just said Smile - show appositive emotion other than nodding Address the person according to his name - ease the tension by calling each other through their first names Be a good listener - encourage others to talk about themselves, and make sure to listen to what theyre saying Talk about the interest of the other person - ask about their interests so that they could talk more and you have more to talk about Make the other person feel important - make them feel that the time spent with them is worth it

BUILDING SELF ESTEEM Be aware of your personal strengths Accept yourself as a good person despite your weaknesses Low self-esteem is self-imposed Low self-esteem is developed by putting your self-worth lower than others Finding fault in everything around you will put you down more A simple change of view can help increase your selfesteem Building self-esteem starts with spending more time doing things than spending time sitting around thinking about your situation Talking to different kinds of people will make your viewpoints bigger It is normal to feel bad, just dont drown yourself with it

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE First introduced by Dr. Salovey (Yale Univ.) and Dr. Mayer (Univ. of N. Hampshire) in 1990 Daniel Goldman - Emotional Intelligence: Why it Can Matter More Than IQ and Working with Emotional Intelligence DEFINITIONS The ability to monitor ones own and others feelings and emotions, to discriminate among them and use this information to guide ones thinking and actions Managing feelings so that they are expressed appropriately and effectively, enabling people to work together smoothly toward their common goals Ability to manage ones emotions in a healthy and productive manner Skill that involves the ability to perceive, assess, and positively influence ones own and other peoples emotions DOMAINS OF E.Q. (Goleman) Knowing your emotions Managing your emotions Recognizing and understanding other peoples emotions Managing relationships and emotions of others

HOW TO BE EMOTIONALLY LITERATE Increase self-awareness Manage emotions Norms of acceptable behavior Control negative impulses Develop listening and communication skills Self-motivate Nurture your own EQ HIGH EQ Expresses his feelings clearly Does not disguise thoughts Not afraid to express feelings Recognizes non-verbal comm. Balances feelings with reason, logic, and reality Independent Optimistic Interested in other peoples feelings Comfortable about their own feelings Can handle stress LOW EQ Insensitive to others feelings Cant express his feelings Lays guilt trips to other people No conscience No empathy or compassion Not emotionally available Pessimistic Feels inadequate, bitter, or victimized Avoids connections with other people Poor listener