Lets Look at Anger

Note the Four Cells Leaving only one cell (25%) appropriate both for anger and expression of anger
Appropriate Anger

2 X 2 Table of Anger
Appropriate Expression Inappropriate Expression

25 %

25%

25 %

25%

Inappropriate Anger
100 %

But its even more complicated

Perception is at the root of all stress.
And

our perceptions are moderated by our brain/mind.

Four Ways Things Go Wrong

1.
2.

Distorted Thinking.
Irrational Beliefs.

3.
4.

Unrealistic Expectations.
Family Scripting.

When these are active, the appropriate expression of appropriate anger cell is depleted.
Appropriate Expression Inappropriate Expression

Appropriate Anger

25%

Inappropriate Anger

25%

100 %

So what to do?

Managing Stress
1. Learning ways to relax
The relaxation response Progressive muscle relaxation Meditation techniques Yoga Visualization Prayer Guided Imagery Relaxation or Serenity Tapes/ CDs

Managing Stress
Journaling. Exercise.

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2. Setting Aside Personal Time.

My wife left me for health reasons. She was sick of me.

Managing Stress
2. Setting Aside Personal Time
Journaling Exercise Social Support Pursuing joyful activities Eating well Time management

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Managing Stress
2. Setting Aside Personal Time
Journaling Exercise Social Support Pursuing joyful activities Eating well Time management 10 2 4 Rule

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Managing Stress
3. Cognitive Restructuring

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Reframing automatic negative thoughts with more rational responses that promote coping. Learned Optimism. Cognitive Restructuring literally means changing the way you think about something. It does not just apply to stress management or negative thoughts.

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