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HowtoHandleDifficultPeople
Abullyatyourworkisdifficultforyoutoface.Heisdemandingyoudopartofhisjobwithoutpayorcredit.Howdoyouhandle it? Yourneighborsareconstantlyfighting.Theywakeyouupinthemiddleofthenightwiththeirscreamsandcurses.Whatdo yousaytothem? Yourfatherisunhappyaboutyourcareerchoice.Heconstantlycriticizesyourworkandpointsoutwhathethinksyoushould do.Howdoyoudealwithhim? Difficultsituationsarepartofeveryoneslife.Employersandemployeescantgetalong.Partnersclashovermoney.Spouses cannotresolvedisagreements. Ifyouignorethesesituations,theyalwaysgetworse.Employeesgetfired,partnershipsandmarriagesbreakup,everyoneis miserable. Waitingandworrying,themostcommon"solution,"alsoallowstheproblemtogetworsewhilegivingyoustressand shorteningyourlifespan. Ifyouattacktheperson,atleastyouaretryingtofixtheproblem.Butattacks,rageorirrationalangergivesyouabadname, makespeopleafraidofyouandreduceshonestcommunication. Disconnectingfromtheproblemorfromthepersonisnotalwayswiseorpractical.Losingemployees,supportersandfriends becauseyouneedlesslydisassociatefromthemmayreduceyourstress,butyoumightalsobecomelonelyandpoor.

TheBestSolutionIstoConfrontandHandlePeople
"Theabilitytostanduptoandconfrontandhandlewhatevercomesthewayoftheorganizationdepends utterlyontheabilityoftheindividualsoftheorganizationtostandupto,confrontandhandlewhatcomes theindividual'sway."L.RonHubbard Whenyoufaceandresolvetheproblemyourself,youfeelwonderful.Youareincontrolofyourlife.Younotonlyconquerthe opposition,youconqueryourfear.Fewaccomplishmentsaremoresatisfyingthanconfrontingsomeonewhoisdifficulttoface andhandlingtheconflict.

HowtoConfrontandHandleSomeone
Bygettingorganizedandworkingoutaplanofaction,confrontingandhandlingpeoplebecomesmucheasier.Thekeyis
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yourpreparation. "Thesuccessofanyeventisdirectlyproportionaltothetimelypreparation."L.RonHubbard Followthesesevenstepstoprepareyourselffordealingwiththedifficultpeopleinyourlife. 1.Makethedecisiontofaceuptothepersondirectlyandbyyourself. 2.Writedowntheexactproblemyouneedtohandleandyourgoalfortheconfrontation. Examplesofproblemstobeconfrontedthatyoumightwritedown: "Joeisrefusingtopaymedespiteouragreement." "Chrisishurtingofficemoraleandcausingmestresswithhercontinualcomplaining." "BobissupposedlytellingpeoplethatmyworkisinferiorandIamdishonest." Onceyouspecificallynameoridentifytheproblem,writedownagoalforthemeeting. "Bytheendofthemeeting,Iwant..." Examplesofgoalsorobjectivesyoumightwantasaresultofaconfrontation: "Joepaysmeinfull." "Chrisstopscomplainingorleaves." "LearnthetruthaboutBobscommentsandiftrue,gethimtostopit." Insomecases,yourobjectivemayalsostate: "FigureoutifIwantthispersonasapartner/employee/boss/friend." 3.WritedownaPlanorListofPointsYouNeedtoMaketoSupportYourGoal: Writedownfacts,reasons,andexplanationsyoumayneedtheotherpersontounderstand.Listthepointsinorderofpriority orimportance. Forexample,togetJoetounderstandwhyhemustpayyou,youmightmakethesepoints: A.Joerequestedtheservice. B.Joesignedanagreementtopayfortheservice. C.Weprovidedtheserviceaspromised. D.Joewashappywiththeservice. 4.Writedownobjections,reactionsordisagreementstheotherpersonmayhave. Includeeverythingyouareafraidmighthappenduringthemeeting.Puttingspecificconcernsandfearsinwritingreduces theirimpactonyou. Foreachobjection,reactionordisagreementyouexpectwillhappen,writeasolutionofhowyouwilldealwitheach. 5.Organizeyournotesandgathersupportivedocuments. 6.Arrangethemeetingwhereyouwillnotbedisturbed,preferablyinaspaceyoucontrol. 7.Startthemeeting. A.Lookthepersondirectlyintheeye. B.ExplainthespecificproblemyouwanttoresolveasyounotedinStep2. C.GooveryourfirstpointonthelistfromStep3. D.Listencarefullytotheotherpersonandmakecertaintheyfeelunderstood.
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E.Holdapositiononyourpoints. F.UseyoursolutionstotheirreactionsasyouworkedoutinStep4. G.Continuedescribingyourpointsandlisteningtotheperson'sside. H.Donotgiveup.Communicateandpersistforaslongasittakestoreachyourgoal. Themorefrequentlyyouconfrontandhandledifficultpeople,theeasieritbecomes.Theamountoftimeittakestopreparefor aconfrontationdecreases.Youbecomestrongandtough. Whenyouconfrontandhandleeveryonearoundyou,peoplerespectyouforyourcourage,yourhonestyandyourcontrol. Yourassociates,employeesorcoworkersfollowyourexampleandbecomemoreproductive.Yourenemieseitherbecome harmlessorbecomefriends. Takingpositiveorganizedaction,despitefear,isthekindofcourageallsuccessfulpeoplemusthavetosucceed. HomeSeriesIndex
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