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By Leslie }o Saul
Novembei S, 2u1S

What emotions
ueteimine what we say
anu uo. Love oi feai.
These two opposites
help cieate oui ieality
anu oui expeiience.
Nany times, oui
thoughts anu behavioi is contiolleu by feai. We feai failuie so we uon't take iisks,
we feai attachment so we uon't let love in. Nany of my clients have foigotten the
ability to get past feai anu act fiom a place of love. They've foigotten that it's always
a choice. Some have even foigotten what love is.

People say, "I'm looking foi love." "I want to finu love." But the tiuth is love isn't to
be founu, it is to be shaieu. The tiuth is you aie love anu love is you.

Feai is the opposite of love in just about eveiy way. While love is unselfish, feai is
selfish. The moie we let feai limit oui expeiience, the moie it cuts us off until we aie
alienateu anu miseiable. The moie we aie alienateu anu miseiable, the moie we let
feai take contiol. This vicious cycle won't stop until we ueciue enough is enough.
Recently, a client of mine iealizeu he was tiappeu in this cycle, anu he wanteu veiy
bauly to bieak out of it but uiun't know how. I ieminueu him that love is only given
when it is all you. You must feel you neeu to shaie youi love with someone oi
something, anu theie's just no othei way. To get past this client's feai, we neeueu to
finu the ioot of it. I let him know he was in a safe place to exploie this feai anu leain
how to change his ieality. We founu that the souice of his feai ieally wasn't as big
anu scaiy as he believeu it to be, anu once he was able to ielax, we seizeu the
moment anu filleu his minu with love. Be thought about all the people that maue
him feel piotecteu anu safe, anu let it fill him until theie was no ioom foi feai. In this
enviionment, he was able to see his potential to live in love anu tiust, to bieak the
vicious cycle of feai anu anxiety.

It tuins out it ieally is tiue that all you neeu is L0vE.