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Volume 10
Issue 3
London, Ontario
NEWSLETTER
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Top Ten Mistakes Christian Parents of Teens make....2 Ellen White Encyclopedia available at the preorder price!...................4 A.C.E.S Constituency Meeting March 29, at 7:00 P.M.................4 Presentations from the recent GYC conference are available for download as resources.....................4 CHIP London Community Health Weekend, March 21....... 5
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9. Letting your teens activities take top priority for your family.
The number of parents who wrap their lives/schedules around their teens activities is mind-boggling to me. I honest-
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dont want to, because their own self esteem is too tied up in their child s perception of them, and they couldnt handle having their teen get angry at them for actually trying to parent. Maybe its because many parents feel so overwhelmed with their own issues, they can hardly think of pouring more energy into a (potentially) taxing struggle or point of contention. Permissive parenting is completely irreconcilable with a Christian worldview. If we practice a permission parenting style were abdicating our God-given responsibility to provide guidance, nurture, limits, discipline and consequences to our teen (all of which actually help our teen flourish long-term).
ly just dont get it. I know many parents want to provide their children with experiences and opportunities they never had growing up, but somethings gone wrong with our understanding of family and parenting when our teens wants/needs are allowed to overwhelm the familys day-to-day routines. Parents need to prioritize investing in their relationship with God (individually and as a couple), themselves and each other, but sadly all of these are often neglected in the name of helping the kids get ahead. Dont let the youth sports cartel run your life! I cant think of many good reasons why families can t limit teens to one major sport/extracurricular activity per season. Not only will a frenetic schedule slowly grind down your entire family of time, you ll be teaching your teen that the good life is a hyper-active one. That doesnt align itself to Jesus teaching as it relates to the healthy rhythms of prayer, Sabbath, and down-time, all of which are critical to the larger Christian task of
7. Permissive parenting.
Whatever its not just for teens anymore! The devil-may-care ambivalence that once defined the teenage subculture has now taken root as parents shrug their shoulders, ask, What can you do? and let their teens figure things out for themselves. I think permissive parenting (i.e., providing little direction, limits, and consequences) is on the rise because many parents dont know how to dialogue with and discipline their children. Maybe parents dont have any limits of boundaries within their own life, so they dont know how to communicate the value of these to their teen. Maybe its because they
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what you sow into determines what you reap; if you want to reap a teenager who has a genuine, flourishing faith, don t expect that to happen if youre ok with their commitment to youth group/church to be casual and half -hearted.
3. Outsourcing your teens spiritual formation. While youth group and church is very important,
another mistake I see Christian parents make is assuming them can completely outsource the spiritual development of their child to these two things. I see the same pattern when it comes to Christian education: parents sometimes choose to send their children/teens to Christian schools, because by doing so they think theyve done their parental duty to raise their child in a godly way. As a parentand especially if you are a Christian yourself YOU are THE key spiritual role model and mentor for your teen. And that isnt if you want to be eitherthats the way it is. Ultimately, you are charged with teaching and modelling to your teen what follow Jesus means, and while church, youth groups, Christian schools can be a support to that end, they are only that: support mechanisms. Read Deuteronomy 6 for an overview of what God expects from parents as it relates to the spiritual nurture and development of their children. (Hint: its doesnt say, Hand them off to the youth pastor and bring them to church.)
4. Not prioritizing youth group/church involvement. This one is one of my personal pet peeves
(but not just because this is my professional gig). I simply do not understand parents who expect and want their kids to have a dynamic, flourishing faith, and yet don t move heaven and earth to get them connected to both a youth group and local church. Im going to let everyone in on a little secret: no teenager can thrive in their faith without these two support mechanisms. Im not saying a strong youth group and church community is all they need, but what I am saying that you can have everything else you think your teen needs, but without these two things, dont expect to have a spiritually healthy and mature teen. Maybe there are teens out there who defy this claim, but honestly, I cant think of one out of my own experience. As a parent, youth group and church involvement should be a non-negotiable part of your teen s life, and that means they take priority over homework (do it the night before), sports, or any other extra -curricular commitments. Dont be the parent who is soft on these two commitments, but pushes their kid in schooling, sports, etc. In general,
2. Not expressing genuine love and like to your teen. Its sad that I have to write this one at all, but
Im convinced very few Christian parents actually express genuine love and like to their teen. It can become easy for parents to only see how their teen is irresponsible, failing, immature, etc., and become a harping voice instead of an encouraging, empowering one. Do you intentionally set aside time to tell your teen how much you love and admire them? Do you write letters of encouragement to them? Do you have date nights where you spend time together and share with them the things you see in them that you are proud of? Your teen wont ask you for it, so dont wait for an invitation. Everyday say something encouraging to your teen that builds them up (they get enough criticism as it is!). Pray everyday for them and ask God to help you become one of the core people in your teens life that He uses to affirm them.
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