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Prof. Lago
College Writing 1100
Jan 28, 2014
Successful Parenting
Based on my own experience of being parented, and based on what resulted from that
experience, The two most important things that should come into play in a parent child
relationship is honesty and understanding. Once there is honesty and understanding, everything
else will fall in to place. Ultimately, the parent should want to reach the goal of raising an
outstanding and well-rounded human being. Successful parenting is not only about academic
success of the child, but also about morality, ethics, and traits such as compassion and indness.
!my "hua believes "hinese mothers are superior because of their very strict way of
parenting that is able to produce hard woring children who are to be nothing less than her idea
of a successfully brought up child. These "hinese mothers also claim to now what is best for
their children, so when the child accomplishes something, it is the mother that has put the child
on that particular path to achieve that particular goal. #n !my "hua$s article, She explains in
various different ways and gives various different examples of how the method of parenting that
"hinese mothers use produce better results when it comes to academics, playing musical
instruments, extracurricular activities lie dancing, and other such things. !t one point in the
article, !my provides us with a statistic about "hinese mothers vs. western parents. The study
surveyed fifty western !merican mothers and forty-eight "hinese immigrant mothers. The study
reveals seventy percent of the western !merican mothers maing statements lie %stressing
academic success is not good for children.% and &parents need to foster the idea that learning is
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fun.%. )ero percent of the "hinese mothers felt this way. instead, ma*ority of the "hinese mothers
made statements lie % their children can be the best students, that academic achievement reflects
successful parenting, and that if children did not excel at school then there was a problem and
parents were not doing their *ob%$. successful +arenting should not be should not be based on
academic success
,eflecting on !my "hua$s idea of successful parenting, she is partly right. # do believe
that the parenting methods of "hinese mothers can sometimes produce better results, when it
comes to things lie academics and musical instruments, but # also feel lie her method lacs
other important variables, lie morality, ethics, and traits such as compassion and indness . #n
the article, !my "hua explained how after she put her child through what seems lie hell to other
people, in the end, her child was still the same loving person. %!fter that, she wanted to play the
piece over and over and wouldn$t leave the piano. That night, she came to sleep in my bed, and
we snuggled and hugged, cracing each other up.%-!my "hua, .hy "hinese /others !re
Superior, www.online.ws*.com0. !lthough !my "hua$s child showed compassion after the long
and grueling practices, the level of compassion showed by "hua was very low. !lthough it is
sometimes necessary to be a strict parent, there has to be some ind of proper balance between
the two strict and %non-strict%, otherwise the child will see this as a way of good behavior
because, the parent is a role model for the child. The $do whatever it taes, no matter how unind$
attitude might be necessary in some competitive fields lie sports, *obs, and other such things,
but it might tear apart future relationships that the child may have with anyone.
.hen # was growing up, my mother and # had, and still have, a well-balanced
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relationship. # might not have always gotten what # wanted because, my mom had certain rules
that # had to follow because # lived under her roof and # was her son. # had to be in the house by
23pm -until a certain age, of course0, # had to do whatever chores or tass she assigned to me,
and if she told me to do something, # would do it, granted, she would always explain why she
told me to do it, and she never gave that same old explanation that parents use.-&Because # said
so%0. 4ust lie me, she didn$t always get what she wanted because she reali)ed that even though
she is my mom, she can$t have control over every little thing # do because, in the end, it is my
life, and # could mae whatever choices that impact it in a negative or positive way. She
understood that she was there to support me, and if there ever is a situation where # could be
harmed in any ind of way, she would either find some way to pull me away if it meant life or
death. #f # was going to mae a choice that might hurt me emotionally, she would try her best to
explain how she thought it might not be a good idea for me to go through with it. #n the end, we
understood and were honest with each other, no matter what the cost, and that$s what made the
relationship a fairly valuable one.
The parent-child relationship # had with my mom was very helpful when it came to living
my life to the fullest.
%.here do they learn how to manage people5 .here do they learn to construct and
manipulate metaphors5 .here do they learn to perceive details of a scene the way
a hunter reads a landscape5 .here do they learn how to detect their own
shortcomings5 .here do they learn how to put themselves in others6 minds and anticipate
others6 reactions5% - 7avid Broos, !my "hua #s ! .imp, www.nytimes.com0.
%These and a million other sills are imparted by the informal maturity process and are not
developed if formal learning monopoli)es a child6s time.% - 7avid Broos, !my "hua #s !
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.imp, www.nytimes.com0. These 9uotes by 7avid Broos can help you understand how having
a balance in the parent child relationship can benefit the child. #f my mom or any other mothers
were to have total control over their child6s life, the child might be deprived of their social
abilities and how they interact with other people, which are two very important factors that play
into life. $%.e tal about giving our ids freedom,% she said, %but the way to be free is to be able
to get a good *ob and have the opportunities that come from hard wor.% # can$t argue with that%$
-/eghan 7aum, #n The :ye Of The Tiger, http;<<articles.latimes.com<0. This 9uote originally
from !my "hua, +roperly states what truth in today6s society is, but her way of reaching that
preferred solution is the wrong way to do go about achieving success in parenting.
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