ATTITUDE

1. The Ethics of Seduction Techniques

2. The Stigma of the Pick-Up Artist
3. Knowing What ou Want
4. !ea"i#e that Women are Se$ua" %eings
5. A Practica" &ut"ook'(or )ife
6. The *+th of ,enera" -onfidence
7. The Power of %e"iefs
8. The *ost Powerfu" %e"ief
9. -ontro""ing (rames and *eta-(rames
10. -ontro""ing our Ph+sica" and Emotiona" State
11. App"+ing it A"" in the (ie"d
This phase is not part of the encounter .ut instead is something that *UST .e
addressed .efore the encounter/ The 0Inner ,ame1 is E2E!T3I4,/ A"" of the
techniques5 strategies5 and "ines to fo""ow are USE)ESS un"ess +ou67e got the
right mindset/
1. The Ethics of Seduction Techniques
When I started to stud+ pick-up and seduction5 a .ig di"emma I had was
whether what I was undertaking was !I,3T/ I fe"t a "itt"e dishonest5 dare I sa+
S)EA85 a.out the who"e idea of using 9tricks9 to impro7e m+ chances with
women/ I a"so fe"t "ike "ess of a 9rea" man9 in seeing I had to resort to them/ I
rea"i#ed e7entua""+ that such mora" di"emmas wou"d ha7e to .e worked out in
order for me to .e congruent5 and ha7e an+ success in the fie"d at a""/ (rom
what I:7e seen most of the gu+s out there are decent5 mora" peop"e with a
conscience5 so I think that a "ot of peop"e in this game ha7e at some point or
another fe"t this wa+/ I:d "ike to "a+ out the thinking that got me o7er this
di"emma5 in the hopes that an+one e"se strugg"ing with the same pro."em
might .e a."e to iron out this kink in their inner game/
(irst of a""5 rea"i#e that there6s nothing wrong with ha7ing to "earn tactics to
meet and seduce women/ *ost men are a.so"ute"+ -)UE)ESS in this area5 and
it:s not entire"+ their fau"t/ A "ot of this has to do with .eing raised .+ our
mothers5 as we"" as the tendenc+ of men not to seek out he"p or ad7ice/
Women5 on the other hand5 grow up reading Se7enteen maga#ine and *5
watching soaps5 and focusing more on interpersona" re"ationships than men/ %+
the time the+6re adu"ts the+ ha7e a who"e arra+ of techniques and strategies to
tease5 hook5 and trap a man/ The+ .ecome *ASTE!S ;mistresses<= of
manipu"ation of the opposite se$/ Unti" the Internet resources we en>o+
.ecame a7ai"a."e and known5 men didn6t ha7e an+thing "ike -osmo or Se$ In
The -it+ to teach them the finer points of meeting and choosing a mate/ So the
fact that +ou6re "earning techniques to .e a."e to dea" with their e$pertise on
their "e7e" doesn6t make +ou "ess of a man? it >ust means that +ou6re catching
up to their e$tensi7e e$perience5 and "e7e"ing the p"a+ing fie"d/
Another important step is to remo7e from +our mind an+ negati7e connotations
with the idea of manipu"ation/ ;-redit to !oss @effries for getting me thinking
a.out this issue=/ I .e"ie7e that a"" human .eings require S&*E "e7e" of
manipu"ationA Ad7ertising tries to manipu"ate us to .u+ soft drinks and the
"atest c"othes/ ou tr+ to manipu"ate +our friends to go see the mo7ie that &U
want to see/ The act of manipu"ation ;and the techno"og+Btechniques we use in
our case to do it= is mora""+ 4EUT!A)? it6s >ust the conte$t under which it6s
done which makes it good or .ad/ (or e$amp"e5 a sa"esman manipu"ates +ou
into .u+ing a product5 which is his >o./ ou6re happ+ with the product +ou
.ought5 and he6s happ+ with the commission he made/ Where6s the harm<
ou ma+ a"so ha7e a pro."em assuming the techniques and the seduction
mindset into +our persona"it+5 thinking that the methods >ust aren6t &U and
that it presents a 9fake9 +ou/ -onsider thisC )et6s sa+ +ou6re an engineer/ Were
+ou an engineer from .irth< &f course not/ ou had to stud+ math and the
sciences in high schoo"5 and then pursue higher education to get an engineering
degree/ It took +ears .ut now5 &U are an engineerA And so it is with seduction/
If +ou continue "earning new materia" and fie"d-testing it5 e7entua""+ it6""
.ecome &U/ !ea"i#e a"so that a woman out on the town in f"ash+5 skin-tight
c"othes and painstaking"+-app"ied makeup is 4&T 0her1/ 03er1 is the gir" who D
hours ear"ier was standing in front of her mirror misera."e and panicking
.ecause she was ha7ing a .ad hair da+/ The hee"s5 the make-up5 the confident
air5 A)) of these are too"s to make herse"f appear more attracti7e to the
opposite se$/ So don6t fee" gui"t+ or awkward when using 9persona"it+ too"s9 of
+our own to achie7e the same resu"t/
*ost important"+5 if +ou 7a"ue +ourse"f and +our "ife as .eing important in the
grand scheme of things ;and +ou S3&U)D5 since it6s &U! "ife=5 then +ou shou"d
a"so .e"ie7e that +ou deser7e the 7er+ .est that "ife has to offer/ This inc"udes
finding the 7er+ .est *ATE that +ou can find/ If "earning seduction techniques
and app"+ing them can impro7e +our chances of meeting the .est woman for
+ou out there5 then mastering them is one of the no."est undertakings of +our
"ife/
2. The Stigma of the Pick-Up Artist
The words 0Pick-Up Artist15 0,etting picked up15 0A quick pick-up15 etc a""
ha7e a 4E,ATI2E stigma attached to them/ The imp"ication is that the+6re
something sneak+ or dishonest a.out approaching women with the intention of
meeting them5 and that an+ man that does this is o.7ious"+ a s"ea#e .a""/ The
word 0seduction1 a"so has a negati7e connotation as we""5 somewhat a"ong the
"ines of 0conning1 a woman into s"eeping with +ou/ )ast"+5 there6s the word
0P"a+er15 denoting a man who p"a+s games with women6s hearts to get them
into .ed/
%efore +ou do an+thing e"se5 +ou *UST remo7e from +our mind an+ negati7e
stigmas attached to these concepts/ These stigmas are tota" .u""shit5 stuff "eft
o7er from more prudish times when women were chaste and men were seen as
.eing up to no good5 tr+ing to 0def"ower1 the poor5 poor5 7ictimBwoman/
)et6s .e c"ear hereC A"though the word 0pick-up artistBPUA1 or 0picking up1 is
used throughout this guide5 to 0pick up1 someone5 is to *EET them/ Peop"e
ha7e .een meeting their mates in one wa+ or another since the human race
.egan/ In a"most a"" cases it in7o"7ed one or .oth of the parties sticking their
neck out to meet and form a connection/ 4ow of course5 there are e$ceptions/
It6s nice that +our unc"e met his wife .ecause the+ sat together in a co""ege
c"ass5 or that a .eautifu" woman accidenta""+ spi""ed coffee on +our friend and
the+6re now happi"+ married5 .ut this is rare/ &ut of a"" the women on the
p"anet5 what do +ou think the !EA) chances are that +ou6"" meet +our perfect
mate comp"ete"+ .+ chance< 4ot good at a"" ;a"though 3o""+wood mo7ies and
&prah wi"" ha7e +ou .e"ie7e otherwise=/
In fact5 the 0pick-up artist1 deser7es *&!E respect than someone who
0stum."ed onto his wife1/ The pick-up artist5 the one re"ent"ess"+ and fear"ess"+
approaching women5 meeting a )&T of peop"e and forming a )&T of
connections5 is acti7e"+ making an effort at finding the right woman for him ;or
at "east .ui"ding a ski""-set so that he knows what to do when he finds her=/
3e6s gra..ing his cojones and going out on the hunt/ In ca7eman times this gu+
wou"d .e the one dragging a .uffa"o home for supper e7er+ night5 whi"e the
rest wou"d wait for an o"d .uffa"o to fa"" o7er dead at their feet/
The word 0seduction1 a"so has a negati7e stigma5 most "ike"+ .ecause of the
outdated .e"iefs in feminine chastit+/ The truth is that women WA4T to .e
seduced/ It6s up to the man to take the "ead5 and up to the woman to p"a+fu""+
resist and throw up o.stac"es5 and gi7e in if the man is successfu" in
demonstrating his 7a"ue to her/ It6s part of courtship5 and a"wa+s wi"" .e/
As for the word 0p"a+er15 granted there are men out there who 0p"a+1 women5
as in con them into .ed through "ies and fa"se promises/ %ut >ust as fish ha7e
their mating dances5 peacocks ha7e their disp"a+s5 and e"k ha7e their mascu"ine
posturing5 humans ha7e their own courtship ritua"s/ The s"ang for these ritua"s
is 0The ,ame15 and e7er+one out to meet a mate is technica""+ a 0p"a+er1 in
the game/ Women p"a+ games a"" the time5 .ut it6s not ma"icious'the+6re >ust
p"a+ing their part in that courtship ritua"/ We men need to p"a+ the game too5
and this doesn6t necessari"+ in7o"7e .reaking a woman6s heart or tricking her/ It
>ust means p"a+ing our ro"e in the courtship ritua" with our own techniques and
know"edge of the ru"es/
As with an+ socia" situation5 it a"" comes down to thisC %e fair in +our dea"ings
with peop"e5 and +ou6"" .e .e+ond reproach/ Don6t "et a si""+ "a.e" make +ou
fee" gui"t+/
3. Knoing !hat "ou !ant
%efore +ou can work towards a goa"5 +ou ha7e to proper"+ define what that goa"
is/ So if +ou6re "ooking for +our idea" woman5 +ou ha7e to decide what qua"ities
and 7a"ues she6s going to ha7e to ha7e to .e the one/
ou ha7e to come up with +our own5 .ut these are mine/ K4&W what +ou want
and +ou:"" .e more "ike"+ to get it/
Ad7enturous
Spontaneous
Emotiona""+ Strong
Up (or A -ha""enge
%ise$ua"
,ood Wit ;Sarcasm=
Sophistication
&ptimist
4ot Afraid To Take -hances
Sti"" 3as A )itt"e ,ir" Eua"it+ A.out 3er
Anti 2a"uesC
Drama
4eediness
Indecisi7eness
("akiness
3&WE2E!5 no matter how much a woman fits +our 0criteria15 D&46T think
a.out her as a gir"friend/ Start .+ thinking of her as a fun5 .eautifu"5 .ut
temporar+ addition to +our "ife/ In other words5 >ust ha7e fun with her5 gi7e her
no restrictions5 don:t .o$ her in5 don:t demand an+thing of her5 don:t take
an+thing too serious"+5 etc/ @ust "augh with her and ha7e se$ with her5 take her
to mo7ies5 .e coo" around town with her on +our arm5 etc/ If it6s going to get
serious5 it6"" happen on its own if +ou >ust TAKE IT EAS/ *ost re"ationships fai"
.ecause peop"e get too serious too fast5 and .ui"d up fantasies of the other
person that the+ can6t "i7e up to/ The ones that "ast are the ones where the
two parties were at the 7er+ "east 0f"irting friends1 for a whi"e5 or had a
ph+sica" f"ing that grew into something more with time/
%eware of women in the 9gimme9 categor+5 i/e/ commitment5 amount of time
spent5 emotiona" support5 ta"king a.out what the+ want to ta"k a.out5 etc/ In
other words5 T3EI! agenda5 without considering what +ou cou"d want/ It:s as if
the+ assume that >ust .ecause the+ gi7e +ou se$ or attention5 somehow +ou as
a man now are getting e7er+thing +ou cou"d want and must gi7e them what
the+ want/ A woman who6"" respect +our other needs as we"" as her own5 has
the potentia" to .e a "ong-term match/
#. $ea%i&e that !omen are Se'ua% (eings
Women "o7e se$ as much as men do/ The on"+ difference is their TE!*S for
ha7ing it/ With this in mind5 rea"i#e that women are in fact SEFUA) %EI4,S/
Stop ta"king to them as if the+ were fragi"e "itt"e chi"dren5 or immacu"ate5
perfect ange"s with no sense of se$ua"it+/ A"so rea"i#e their games are TESTS5 to
see if +ou6re good enough to get se$ua""+ in7o"7ed with/ En>o+ the games5 get
e$cited when she 0shit-tests1 +ou5 .ecause it means she6s e7a"uating +ou as a
potentia" partner/ Women want a man who6s more powerfu" than the+ are5 a
man who can o7ercome her o.stac"es/ So how do +ou think a woman is going to
test for that< She6s going to gi7e +ou shitA
*ost important"+ of a""5 don6t tr+ to hide the fact that &U are a se$ua" .eingA
Women know we want them and "o7e se$5 so don6t hide +our "i.ido comp"ete"+
or make apo"ogies for +our desires as a man/ Women ne7er apo"ogi#e or act
ashamed for wanting "o7e or emotiona" fu"fi"ment5 so wh+ shou"d +ou hide the
fact that +ou "o7e se$<
We men often don6t rea"i#e the se$ua" power that we ha7e o7er women/ We
seem to percei7e that women ha7e a"" the se$ua" power5 .ut when we rea"i#e
that women desire men >ust as much as we desire them5 we can take .ack that
se$ua" power/ We ha7e the power to choose who we want to ta"k to5 and we
are the ones who take the "ead/ If choice is power5 who has more power in this
situationC The woman who chooses one of GH men who approach her5 or one of
the men who had IHH womenBoptions in the c"u. and decided to approach 3E!<
And here6s a "itt"e-known factC A woman has a "ot more to "ose than +ou do if
+ou don6t approach her/ She spent a "ot of mone+ on her outfit5 a "ot of time
getting read+5 putting on makeup5 doing her hair5 etc/ %+ the time she goes out
she ma+ ha7e in7ested GH hours in shopping for that perfect outfit and getting
prepared/ If she gi7es +ou a signa" and +ou decide not to approach her5 it can
.e a rea" ."ow to her ego/ !emem.er that ne$t time +ou think her .eaut+ gi7es
her a"" the se$ua" powerA
). A Practica% *ut%ook+,or -ife
Indifference to success or fai"ure is the u"timate power/ In fact5 it6s impossi."e
to define success or fai"ure5 .ecause each is conte$tua" and can on"+ .e
assessed in retrospect/ (or e$amp"e5 if a woman +ou67e .een in7o"7ed with
decides +ou6re not the one for her and dumps +ou5 and +ou didn6t see it
coming5 does that mean +ou67e fai"ed< In the immediate conte$t of the
moment it appears +ou did/ %UT if the ne$t da+5 to fee" .etter +ou go out with
+our sing"e friends and meet the woman of +our dreams5 did +ou technica""+
(AI) in the "ong run< &f course notA If +ou6d 0succeeded1 with the other
woman5 +ou pro.a."+ wou"d67e missed the opportunit+ with the new woman of
+our dreams/ ou need to stop thinking in terms of success or fai"ure5 and start
taking this &2E!A)) 7iew of "ife5 instead of 7iewing things as separate
0.u.."es1 in +our "ife where success or fai"ure are defined in the moment/
.. The /0th of 1enera% 2onfidence
There is no such thing as 0confidence1 as a genera" term/ -onfidence is
conte$t-specific/ )et me e$p"ainC
)et6s sa+ that +ou6re a high"+-ski""ed heart surgeon/ After +ears of schoo"ing and
training5 and e$perience in the operating room5 +ou6re as confident as it gets
on the >o./ ou6re tops in +our fie"d and +ou know it/ 4ow5 >ust as +ou "ea7e the
operating room5 +ou go into the waiting room and see that a terrorist has "eft a
nuc"ear suitcase .om. in the waiting roomA There6s G minutes unti" it ."ows5
meaning there6s no time to ca"" the .om. squad/ ou open the .om. and see a
.unch of wires and parts5 and +our confidence drops to 8E!& as +ou rea"i#e
that +ou6re c"ue"ess and power"ess in this situation/
Sudden"+ a man in the waiting room sees what +ou6re doing and comes to he"p
+ou/ 3e ca"m"+ reaches into the de7ice5 turns a dia" and pu""s a wire5 and the
timer on the de7ice stops/ 3e doesn6t e7en "ook scaredA In fact5 he "ooks
e$treme"+ confident/ ou ask him how he knew how to stop the .om. and he
proud"+ sa+s 0I designed this weapon/ I worked for GD +ears at )os A"amos
.ui"ding nukes/ Turning it off is chi"d6s p"a+/1 4ow +our heart is sti"" racing at
this point and the stress hasn6t gone awa+ +et5 and a"" of a sudden +ou ha7e a
heart attack and stop .reathing/ The nuc"ear .om. technician has no medica"
training whatsoe7er5 not e7en a first aid course/ Sudden"+ 3IS confidence drops
to 8E!& as he rea"i#es that he6s c"ue"ess and power"ess in this situation5 and he
ca""s for he"p/
The a.o7e stor+ i""ustrates m+ pointC There6s no such thing as a 0confident1
person5 on"+ a person confident in areas he6s 7er+ fami"iar with/ If +ou ha7e no
ski""s and e$perience dea"ing with something5 +ou won6t ha7e an+ confidence in
dea"ing with it eitherA
And so it is with women/ If someone is e$periencing ner7ousness or a "ack of
confidence in dea"ing with women5 it6s .ecause the+ don6t ha7e the SKI))-SET
or e$perience for dea"ing with them/ 4o h+pnosis tape5 no affirmation program5
or 4euro-)inguistic Programming trick wi"" gi7e +ou instant confidence for
dea"ing with women/ The on"+ thing that wi"" gi7e +ou that confidence is the
SKI))-SET of how to dea" with women ;the point of this guide=5 and EFPE!IE4-E
in dea"ing with them ;+ou getting out there and interacting with them5 using
+our ski""set=/
3. The Poer of (e%iefs
Strong .e"iefs set the groundwork for a proper mindset/
ou can6t contro" e7ents/ Instead5 +ou can a"wa+s contro" W3AT T3I4,S *EA4/
ou need to communicate to +ourse"f what things mean5 in order to contro"
+our reaction to them/ 4othing in "ife has an+ meaning e$cept the meaning +ou
gi7e itA The meaning +ou gi7e something forms the .asis of a .e"ief/
What +ou .e"ie7e .ecomes +our rea"it+/ When +ou ha7e .e"iefs that &U are the
pri#e'such as 0women find me irresisti."e1 or 0women >ust want to use me for
se$1 +our mind .egins to find e7idence of this in the rea" wor"d/
And the more e7idence +our mind finds of +our .e"iefs5 the stronger the+
.ecome5 and the stronger the+ .ecome5 the more con7incing and congruent
+ou6"" come off to women/
Does it matter if these .e"iefs are tota" .u""shit< &f course notA *ost of the
.e"iefs we ha7e are wrong an+wa+5 .e it the .e"ief that we6re not good enough
to do A5 not smart enough to know %5 etc/ If +ou6re going to .e"ie7e things that
are wrong5 wh+ not adopt a wrong .e"ief that E*P&WE!S +ou instead<
&nce adopted5 .e"iefs can take on a "ife of their own and turn us into a
comp"ete"+ new person/ )ook at a hardcore racist for e$amp"eC 3is .e"iefs are
ignorant and ridicu"ous5 .ut to him the+6re comp"ete"+ rea"/ 3is interpretations
of his e$periences5 according to his .e"iefs5 ha7e "ed him to .e"ie7e that
certain races are .etter than others5 or e7en that the inferior ones shou"d .e
wiped out/ If a person can adopt such e$treme .e"iefs as those5 then ha7ing it
.ecome +our rea"it+ that women want +ou shou"d .e a cakewa"k/ A"" it takes is
the right thoughts and inf"uences5 and whether +ou rea"i#e it or not &U are in
-&*P)ETE -&4T!&) of these/
4. The /ost Poerfu% (e%ief
The most important ;actua""+5 ESSE4TIA)= .e"ief +ou must ha7e is the .e"ief
that &U are the P!I8E when dea"ing with women/ %e"ie7e that %EI4, WIT3
&U IS T3E %EST -3&I-E T3AT A W&*A4 -A4 *AKE/ When +ou adopt this
.e"ief5 a"" +our other .e"iefs a.out dea"ing with women fa"" into p"ace
natura""+/
When &U adopt the .e"ief that +ou6re the pri#e5 +ou communicate it
automatica""+ through +our words5 .od+ "anguage5 and .eha7ior/ 3ere are some
wa+s the .e"ief manifests itse"fC
When +ou approach a .eautifu" woman5 +ou6re not tr+ing to win her o7er/
Instead5 +ou6re in7estigating whether she6s good enough to .e with +ou/
TPI-A) ,U %E3A2I&!C ,u+ gets a"" ner7ous approaching5 worr+ing if S3E
wi"" accept him/ ,u+ tries to pro7e himse"f to her/
When a woman isn6t interested in +ou5 it doesn6t .other +ou one .it
.ecause she missed out on &U/ In fact5 +ou fee" sorr+ for her5 in that she6""
ne7er get to e$perience .eing with +ou/ TPI-A) ,U %E3A2I&!C It hurts his
se"f-worth5 and he fee"s sorr+ for himse"f5 .ecause he6"" ne7er ha7e the
e$perience of .eing with her/
If a woman +ou6re in7o"7ed with decides to "ea7e5 it6s no .ig dea" .ecause
&U are the pri#e/ 4ot on"+ is it her "oss5 .ut someone .etter than her wi""
come a"ong short"+/ TPI-A) ,U %E3A2I&!C ,u+ chases the woman5 .egs
her to come .ack5 sa+ing that he6"" ne7er meet an+one "ike her again/
ou ne7er chase after5 p"ead5 .eg5 supp"icate5 or tr+ to .u+ a woman6s
attention or affection with dinners and gifts/ S3E shou"d .e the one .u+ing
&U gifts5 and tr+ing to win &U o7er/ TPI-A) ,U %E3A2I&!C %etra+s his
insecurit+ .+ chasing after her5 asking how she fee"s a.out him5 tr+ing to
win her affection with gifts5 etc/
ou ne7er get stuck on &4E woman ;the scarcit+ menta"it+=5 since +ou6re
.etter than she is an+wa+'&U are the pri#eA TPI-A) ,U %E3A2I&!C
Suffers from 0&ne-itis15 .ui"ds up a huge fantas+ in his mind a.out her5 and
since he >ust 3AS to get T3IS particu"ar gir"5 he6s "ost a"" his power with her/
ou ha7e a )I(E of +our own5 the "ifest+"e of a coo" gu+ fu"" of great friends5
successfu" peop"e5 and good 7i.es/ ou sta+ in7ested in +our ho..ies and
en>o+ +our "ife/ If a woman wants to .e with +ou5 she has to respect the "ife
+ou a"read+ ha7e/ It6s &U! train5 and she >ust gets to ride it/ TPI-A) ,U
%E3A2I&!C Drops his friends to .e with a woman5 makes her the center of
his uni7erse5 drops his ho..ies to spend time with her ;or worse5 makes
thinking a.out her his ho..+=/
ou date mu"tip"e women at once5 to determine who6s .est for +ou to .e
with "ong-term/ ou e$pect the %EST mate possi."e .ecause &U are the
pri#e5 and +ou can6t find the .est if +ou on"+ spend time with and get to
know one/ ou fee" much more comforta."e approaching women5 .ecause if
it doesn6t work +ou6re sti"" dating other women/ TPI-A) ,U %E3A2I&!C
-ommits to one woman at a time5 usua""+ the first to 0accept1 him5
o7er"ooks her g"aring fau"ts5 0sett"es1 unti" she dumps him and he wonders
0What did I see in her<1
ou don6t accept shitt+ .eha7ior from women/ Since +ou6re the P!I8E5 she6d
.etter .e treating +ou proper"+ or she6s &UT/ TPI-A) ,U %E3A2I&!C )ets
gir" wa"k a"" o7er him and .oss him around5 .ecause he thanks his "uck+ stars
that a gir" as hot as her has 0accepted1 him'to him she6s the pri#e/
4o matter how much +ou grow to "ike or "o7e her5 +ou imagine that she "ikes
or "o7es +ou *&!E/ A"though +ou6re "uck+ to .e with her5 she6s e7en "uckier
to .e with +ou/ TPI-A) ,U %E3A2I&!C ,u+ fa""s head o7er hee"s and "ets
her 0own1 him5 te""s her how "uck+ he is to .e with her5 or how he cou"d
ne7er "i7e without her/
When +ou first meet a woman5 whene7er she te""s +ou she doesn6t "ike
something a.out +ou5 +ou see it as 3E! pro."em5 not +ours/ TPI-A) ,U
%E3A2I&!C ,u+ gets a"" se"f-conscious a.out whate7er it was she pointed
out5 and either agrees with her or tries to >ustif+ himse"f to get .ack in her
fa7or/
See the difference< *ost t+pica" gu+ .eha7iors imp"+ that the woman is the
pri#e/ %ut when +ou switch things around and assume the ro"e of the pri#e in
+our thoughts5 words5 and actions5 +ou .eha7e much different"+/ our .eha7ior
wi"" communicate to women that &U are the pri#e that she has to win o7er5
without sa+ing it outright/
Again5 does it matter whether it6s true or not that +ou rea""+ A!E the pri#e< 4&A
A fat5 .a"ding5 ug"+ man who .e"ie7es he6s ,od6s gift to women wi"" ha7e more
success with women than a fat5 .a"ding5 ug"+ man who6s 0rea"istic1 and thinks
that no woman wou"d .e into him gi7en his state/ ;(unn+ enough5 negati7e
peop"e often >ustif+ their negati7e attitude .+ c"aiming to .e 0rea"istic1=/ I6""
sa+ it one more timeC Whether the .e"ief is true or not means nothing? IT6S
3&W ST!&4,) T3AT %E)IE( IS 3E)D T3AT -&U4TS/ Perception is e7er+thingA
5. 2ontro%%ing ,rames and /eta-,rames
(or a proper attitude in dea"ing with women it6s 7er+ important to understand
the concept of (!A*ES/ Swinggcat e$p"ains the concept prett+ we"" in his e-
.ook 0!ea" Wor"d Seduction1/ 3ere6s a paraphrasing of the section on framesC
A 0frame1 is a genera" focus or direction that pro7ides an o7era"" guide for
thoughts and actions during an interaction/ A frame determines the under"+ing
meaning of .eha7iors and actions/ A 0meta-frame1 is an o7era"" focus or
direction that pro7ides a meaning to the interaction/ A more genera" term for
frames and meta-frames is the S&-IA) D4A*I-/
(rames don6t e$ist in o.>ecti7e rea"it+/ The+6re not 0rea"1/ The+ on"+ e$ist
inside the sku""s of human .eings/ %ut the+6re e$treme"+ important in dea"ing
with peop"e/
,enera""+5 when two peop"e6s meta-frames are in conf"ict5 the strongerBmore
asserti7e meta-frame is dominant/
A woman ma+ or ma+ not .u+ into +our meta-frame/ %ut e7en if she doesn6t5
+ou6re con7e+ing that +ou6re unwi""ing to .u+ into hers/
3ow to contro" the *eta-(rameC
Step 16 Define the meta-frameC If +ou don6t set it5 the woman wi"" define it for
+ou5 and assert hers/
3ere6s a wa+ to proper"+ define the under"+ing meaning of the interactionC
1. ou are the P!I8E/
2. She6s tr+ing to get +ou to "ike her or tr+ing to win +ou o7er'whether it
.e in the sense of attraction5 acceptance5 or 7a"idation/
3. She wants +ou so .ad that she6s tr+ing to make +ou s"eep with her/
4. The .oth of +ou are going to s"eep together5 .ut on"+ if she "i7es up to
+our standards and e$pectations/
Step 26 Assume the meta-frame in ad7ance
Assume .efore e7en ta"king to her that the under"+ing meaning of a"" her
.eha7iors and actions when +ou do ta"k to her wi"" fit into +our meta-frame/
Step 36 Set frames that imp"+ the meta-frame/ Some wa+s to do thisC
1. (rame one or more of her actions5 .eha7iors5 or things a.out her as
meaning that she6s not good enough for +ou or can6t hand"e +ou ;imp"ies
+ou6re the pri#e=
2. (rame one or more of her actions as her .eing interested or tr+ing to
pursue &U
3. (rame one or more of her .eha7iors or actions as her .eing a "itt"e cra#+
;refuse to .u+ into it=
4. (rame one or more of her .eha7iors5 actions5 or something a.out her as
meaning that she "acks c"ass
5. (rame one or more of her .eha7iors5 actions5 or something a.out her as
meaning that she6s a dork
6. Accuse her of not rea""+ "i7ing the "ife that she wants to "i7e5 or accuse
her of .eing en7ious of +ou
7. (rame one or more of her .eha7iors5 actions5 or something a.out her as
meaning that she6s a "itt"e creep+
8. (rame some of her .eha7iors5 actions5 or things a.out her as meaning
that she6s a s"ea#e .a""/
9. (rame some of her .eha7iors and actions as .eing rude and insensiti7e
4otice that man+ of these frames are the frames that women set with gu+s/ So5
+ou6re taking the frames the+ use to turn gu+s into frustrated5 pathetic
.eggars5 and using them against them/
Attempt at a"" times to do this in a humorous wa+/ When women are "aughing5
their guard is down and the+6re more apt to go a"ong with the frames +ou6re
setting/
17. 2ontro%%ing "our Ph0sica% and Emotiona% State
&U are the on"+ one responsi."e for how +ou fee"/ &ther peop"e don6t make us
fee" an+thing/ It:s &U! &W4 interpretations of their words and .eha7ior that
affect us/
-ontro""ing how +ou fee" is crucia"/ It:s up to +ou to remain emotiona""+ ca"m/
Women count on us for this5 and thank us for it when the+ go nutt+/ It:s the
*A4:S responsi.i"it+ to .e in contro" of his emotions/ Women are 4&T attracted
to weep+ "itt"e wimps/ I:m not sa+ing +ou can:t show emotion5 .ut don6t .e
pro7oked to fee" an emotion .+ another person that +ou don6t -3&&SE to ha7e/
E7er+ woman out there has her own insecurities and fears/ !emem.er that +ou
ha7e the ad7antage of strategies and "ogic on +our side5 and a"" +ou need to do
is -&4T!&) &U! STATEA
ou are going to ha7e to ST&P getting emotiona" when women tr+ to make +ou
angr+5 sad5 or upset/ These are a"" tests .+ women5 and +ou wi"" (A)) right into
the trap .+ getting a"" worked up/ ou are going to ha7e to ST&P fa""ing for a""
their games5 dramatic .eha7ior5 and attempts to contro" +ou through +our fear
of "osing them/ Women DESI!E a man who is %E&4D their contro"5 .e+ond
their attempts to make him do an+thing5 or to make him upset/ The message is
if +ou put up with her crap5 how can +ou protect her< A dominant man a""ows a
woman to fee" safe and protected/
So how do +ou contro" +our state< 3ow do +ou sta+ ca"m when a woman is
+e""ing at +ou for stupid shit5 or when she >ust dissed +ou in front of the entire
part+<
Positi7e"+ interpreting things is one wa+/ At some point in +our "ife +ou67e
pro.a."+ .een in a situation where something em.arrassing or negati7e
happened to +ou5 and someone said 0&ne da+ +ou6"" "ook .ack on this and
"augh/1 And +ou pro.a."+ didA We"" when +ou find +ourse"f in a shitt+ situation
toda+5 wh+ not "augh at it T&DA< Wh+ wait for someda+< A"so5 think of how
terri."e something ma+ ha7e seemed when it happened to +ou +ears ago5 and
how it means nothing to +ou now/ When something negati7e happens to +ou
toda+5 wh+ not ha7e it mean nothing to +ou T&DA as we""< This can .e done
through positi7e interpretation5 a !E-(!A*I4, of the 0negati7e1 situation/
3ere6s another method for contro""ing +our stateC
our ph+sica" and emotiona" states are c"ose"+ tied together/ (or e$amp"e5
when someone is depressed5 what do the+ "ook "ike ph+sica""+< &ften the+6re
s"umped o7er with poor posture5 taking short steps5 their head6s down5 and
the+ ha7e a sad "ook on their face/ And when someone6s happ+ or e$cited the+
.ounce around and the+6re more animated/
The fact that there6s a "ink .etween the ph+sica" and the emotiona" is good
news for contro""ing our state/ When +ou find +ourse"f s"ouched o7er and
unfocused5 +ou can sit up straight with good posture and .reathe deep"+5 and
+ou6"" find +ourse"f more a"ert and a."e to concentrate/ When +ou find +ourse"f
worried a.out something5 +ou can stand ta""5 "ook up at the cei"ing5 smi"e a .ig
smi"e5 and ho"d it ;in fact5 it6s hard to sta+ in A4 negati7e state in this
position=/ ou can .reathe deep"+ and s"ow"+ to reduce an$iet+ and fear/ And
when a woman is going cra#+ and gi7ing +ou pro."ems5 +ou can take a deep
.reath5 smi"e and narrow +our e+es at her5 and s"ow"+ cross +our arms/
11. App%0ing it A%% in The ,ie%d
It6s e$treme"+ important to adopt the attitudes a.o7e .efore going out to app"+
what +ou "earn in the fie"d/ A"though the techniques descri.ed "ater in this
guide are 2E! effecti7e for what the+6re supposed to do5 if +ou don6t ha7e the
right mindset the+6"" work poor"+/ *an+ newcomers to this stuff want to "earn
the tricks and techniques on"+5 and this is a .ad idea/ )earning on"+ the pick-up
techniques whi"e keeping +our o"d attitudes is "ike "earning fanc+ >iu->itsu
techniques whi"e sta+ing serious"+ out of shape/ ou ma+ "earn a great arm-"ock
or strike that cou"d end a fight in seconds5 .ut if +ou don6t ha7e the strength
and conditioning to app"+ it5 the technique itse"f is use"ess/