The Ultimate Texting Guide

The Ultimate Texting Guide
The Ultimate Texting Guide by Tyler Tray 2008, All Rights Reserved
www.TipsToTexting.com
The Ultimate
Texting Guide
FOR MEN
Never wonder what to text again!
Over 101 proven txt messages to build

attraction, get you a date and more!
By Tyler Tray
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Introduction
Overview
Sowhatisattraction
Section#1
Mostguysfailtextmessagingbecause
Howmensucceedattextmessaging
Section#2
Underlyingphilosophyinrelationships
Thepurposeoftextmessaging
Textorcall
Whenyouwanttomeetup
Guidelinesfortexting
Section#3
Howtoflirt
Thekeypointstoflirting
Threeeasywaystoflirting
Section#4
Makingthefirstinitialtextkillertextmessages
Textmessagestocreateattraction
Thefourstepprocesstomeetingup
Section#5
Reallifetextmessagingexamples
TextingConversation#1
BonusSection#6
Makingthephonecall
5pointstohitwhentalkingtoheronthephone
Decodingawomanstext
Section#7
Safetyconcernsfortextmessaging
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Introduction
Overview
Textmessaginghasrapidlygrowninthepastfewyears.Starting
in2005,textmessaginghasmorethandoubledeveryyearanditsnot
goingtostopanytimesoon.ZDNetResearchstatedtherewillbe2.3
trilliontextmessagessentby2010.Withthosefacts,itsclearthatifa
manwantstobesuccessfulwithwomen,hemustunderstandhowto
textmessage.Itsasimpleskill,butsomanymenfailtorecognizehow
crucialitisandtheymissopportunitiesbecauseofthat.
AwhilebackIrealizedthisevolutionincommunicationandputa
lotoftimeintomaximizingmyabilityinit.Truthis,Iammoreofa
quietguybecausemyvoiceisbad(hoarseandscratchy)mostofthe
yearandIknewtextmessagingwouldbemywaytoovercomethat
crux.ThefirststepItookwasnottomeetwomen,butinstead,justget
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theirnumbers.Ididthisthroughonlinedating,andquickapproaches.
Mybestquickapproachwentsomethinglikethis
Iwouldwalkupsayingafewwordsthatbuiltrapport(meaning
feelingorrelatingaboutthesamething)andtheninanurgentwayI
wouldtakeoffandbeforeleavingsay,Hey,Igottogo.Here,putyour
numberinmyphone,wellkeepintouch.FromthatIwouldstart
buildingonmytextingtechniquesandstrategies.Withinafewmonths
oftrialanderror,Istartedtoseeadrasticchangeinmysuccesswith
women.Becauseofmytextingabilities,alotofguysstartedseeingthis
increaseofwomenwantingtobewithmeandIstartedgettingalotof
questionsfromthemaboutwhattotext.ThemoreIcoached,themore
Istartedtoseethebigpictureofwhereguyswerescrewingupandhow
toexactlybesuccessfulattextmessaging.Andthatswhatbroughtme
towritingthefirstebookeverwrittenfortexting,TheUltimateTexting
Guide.
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MostmenthatreadthiseBookwillhaveaparadigmshiftand
theymightfinishtheebooksaying,Oh,thatshowyoutextwomento
buildattraction.Isaythisbecausemostmenareonlytextingmenand
friendsandhaveverylittleknowledgeintextingwomentheydesire.
Thismeanstheirusualstyleoftextingfriendswillcarryoverintotexting
thewomentheylikeanditdoesntwork,becauseyoudonttalktoyour
friendsthesamewayyoutalktoawoman.Tobesuccessfulwith
womenyoumustbeabletoflirtandbuildattractionandsexual
tension.Oneofthemostimportantpointstothisebookistoshowyou
andgiveyoutheunderstandingofwhatitsliketoreallycreate
attractionwithwomen.
Beforewestartintotheactualtextingpart,youneedto
understandafewimportantpoints.First,youneedtounderstandthat
womenaredifferentfrommenandwillrespondindifferentways.Iam
goingtopresenttoyouwhatworksformeandthementhatIve
coached.Youshouldtakewhatyoulearnandthenchangethingsupa
bittomatchyourstyle.Keepinmindhoweverthatstayingtrueand
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beingcongruenttoacertainwayoftextingandbeinggetsthemost
resultsintheend.Also,womenwilltestyoutoseeifyouarethereal
dealanditscrucialthatyoucankeepgoingandnotmissabeat.
Womenwillseethatyouareincontrolandeventuallytheywillcome
aroundandrespondexactlythewayyouwant.Imnotsayingtobe
controllingbutthatyouhavetohavecontroloveryouremotionsand
dontbuyintohertests.
Nowhereisthekeywheremostmenfail:Tobesuccessfulwith
womenyoumustcommunicatetothemattheirleveltheirEmotional
Level!Reallythinkaboutthis:Whydomenwanttobewithwomen?
Whydowomenwanttobewithmen?Whatdoyoureallythinkisthe
answer?Therearealotofdifferentanswerstothesequestionsbutthe
onethingthatsuniversalisthatweallwantafeeling.Andfeelingis
whatdrivesourlives;especiallywomenslives.Thinkaboutit,whatdo
youfeelwhenyouarewithanattractivewomanorareevenaround
one?Thatsafeelingthatstriggeredfromtheattractivewomanandit
pullsyoutowardsher.Themostimportantfeelingthatwillgetany
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womantowantyouisattraction.Withoutattraction,awomancant
feelanythingforyou.
SoWhatIsAttraction?
First,thegreatpartaboutattractionisthatAttractionisan
uncontrollablefeelinganditsabiologicalresponse.Womendont
logicallyfeelattractedtoaman.Theyhaveagutlevelemotional
responsethatcreatesattraction.Womenneedtofeelattractionin
ordertodesireandfallinlove.Whatdoyouthinkisthebestwayto
triggertheseemotions?Ihavefoundthatexperiencesorthinkingofan
experienceisthebestway.Obviously,youcantphysicallyexperience
beingplayfulwithawomanviatext;butyoucan,however,giveher
thosesamefeelingsthatcomewithplaying.
Iwantyoutodosomething.Takeinadeepbreathandholditfor
afewsecondsthen,letitgoallthewayuntilyouarefullyrelieved.Do
itonemoretimeandnoticehowyoufeel.Now,thinkbacktothetime
whenyoufirstrodeabigrollercoaster.Gothroughthestepsastohow
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youfelt.First,youllfeelalittleanxietyanddangerforyourlifeasyou
stepinsidethecartandgiveoveryourpowerandcontroltothisride.
Whatisthefeelingasittakesyouupthefirsthill?Thetensioninyour
bodyisbuildingsuspensetowardsthetop.Onceatthetop,youhold
yourbreathinanticipation.Nowwhat?Acompleterushasyou
plummettotheground!Whathappensatthebottomofthehilla
senseofrelief,right.Howaboutwhentherideisover?Itsnowfun
andyoufeelsafebecauseyoureincontrolagain.Butyounowcrave
thatrollercoasterfeelingagain.Closeyoureyesandimaginethisin
yourownmind.Breatheinatthetopofthehillandoutasyougo
downfeelthereliefattheendofyourbreathandnoticehowitis
takenawayagainasyouzoomupthenexthillorloop.Thisisthe
naturalfeelingthatcomesinwaveorrhythm,ifyouwill.
Nowwhatwasthedifferencebetweenthatlittleprocessyoudid
andactuallygoingontherollercoaster?Theresonlyaslightdifference
betweenactuallybeingthere,experiencingtherollercoaster,and
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actuallyexperiencingitinyourmind.Theybothtriggerthesame
emotions.
ThinkofhowrealityTVshowsareusingthismodel.Reality
showsarealwayssimple,easygoingsituationsandeverythinggoesjust
dandyNotevenclose!Peoplewanttheintensityoffeelingtheups
anddownsintheshowwelovewatchingtheargumentsandthenwe
lovewatchingthemsettledownandmakefriendsagain.Feelingis
stronglyconnectedtoyourbreathing.Nexttimeyouarewitha
woman,noticeyourownbreathingwhentalkingtoherandyourrise
andfallinyouremotionalstate.Observethis,aswellinthewomen
youinteractwith.Saysomethingthatgetsthemtoholdtheirbreathin
anticipation,andthenletherfeelrelievedtoexhaleandbreatheagain.
Womenarehopingtofindguystogivethemthisemotionalroller
coaster.Whatmakesridingonastreetbikesoappealingtoawoman?
Putyourselfinherplace.Sheisgivinguphercontroltoyou.Shemay
bealittlenervousandreluctant,buttheexcitementistoointriguing
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becauseherlifeispotentiallyatrisk.Therideisusuallyfastand
somewhatdangerous.Shegetsthatrushofexhilaration.Whenits
over,shefeelsasenseofreliefthatthedangerisoverandatthesame
timefeelinganadrenalinerush.Aslongasitwasnttoodangerousshe
willnowtrustyouandfeelmorecomfortablebeingprotectedaround
you.Andthebestpartisnowshehasafeelingconnectedtoyouand
thatisnevergoingtoleave.
Womenthriveoffemotionorchemicalinteractions.Stimulate
theirfeelings;takethemonanemotionalrollercoasterandmakesure
youkeepheronhertoes.Trytokeepitpositive,butremember,
negativefeelingscanbegoodtoo.Keepitlightandfunandthenjump
intoseriousstuffandthenbacktolightandfun.Whateveryoudo,
dontbeboring.Boredomisoneofgreatestfearsinlife.Whyisthat?
Becausethereisnofeelinginboredom.Pointhereis:thinkabout
creatingsomekindoffeelinginallofyourtextmessages.
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Section #1
Mostguysfailattextmessagingbecause
Theycomeacrosstoonice.
Theytextthefull160characterswhileawomanisonlytexting
lessthan20.
Theysaytoomuchandaretoonicesayingit.
Theytryhavingaconversationviatext.Savethewhole
conversationthingforwhenyoureinpersonoratleastonthe
phone.
Theyfollowthewomansflowofconversationandanswerallof
herquestions.
Theydontaskthemouttodosomething.
Theydonttrytogettoknowthegirl
Theydontincludethewomanintheirresponses.Womenare
moreinterestedwhensomethinginvolvesthem.Sotrytorelate
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thingsbacktoher.Implyingherinvolvementinsomethingisa
creativewaytodothat.
Theirtextsarentwrittentoberespondedtoo.Forexample,ifa
womanwritesHey,whatdidyoudolastnight?andthe
responseshegetsis,Wenttothemovies.Itleavesherwith
nothing,noemotion,nofun,justdullness.Instead,say
somethinglikeHey,Isawamovieanditgotmethinkingabout
you.ShesayssomethinglikeOhreally,whatsthat?Thensay
somethinglikeTherewasthisadorablelittlepuppy,thatwhined
likeyou.
Theyhavelongmessagesthatmaketoomuchsense.Keepinga
textlogicalisboring.Instead,spiceitUP!
Theyarealwaysavailablewhenawomantextsthem.
Theywriteboringtexts.Insteadusepunctuation,likeALLCAPS,
exclamationmarks,questionmarks,etc.Everysooftenusea
smileyface.Usedescriptivewordsandadjectives.Matchthe
feelingofthetextthatfitstheemotionsinvolvedinwhatyoure
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writing.Forinstance,ifIsawamovie,Imnotgoingtobeall
excitedlikeHey!Ijustsawamovie!
TextingOkisawasteofatext.Ifitmustbesaidthenfollowit
withsomethinglikeOk,talktoyalater.
Theyseekthewomansapproval.
Theyagreetoeverythingshewantsandsaysinsteadofputting
upachallenge.
Howmensucceedinthetextinggame
Theywriteshort,witty,funtextmessagesthatgetthegirlinan
emotionalstate.
Theydontanswerquestions,butleadtheconversation.
Theydontseekapproval.
Theyareachallengeforthewoman.
Theytellwomenwhattheyaredoingandsuggestorimplythey
cometoo.Theyneverinviteorask:HeyImgoingtogoout,you
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gottimeforsomefun?orIwanttogettoknowyoubetterso
comejoinmefordinner.
Theybanterbackandforthandleavetheinteractiononahigh
note,byeithernotrespondingbackortalkingtothemlaterorby
endingit.
Theyhavehighvalueandhighstatussotheyarebusywiththeir
livesandwomencanpickuponthatvibe.
Theyknowhowtohavefunandbesocialsowomendontgeta
needyfeeling.
Theyleadexcitingadventurouslivesandwomengetafeelofthat
inthetextmessages.
Theyareinteresting,mysterious,andchallenging.
Theyendtheinteractionfirsteitherbysayingseeyalateror
justdeadair,meaningnomoreresponding.Theyhavehighvalue
orappeartohavehighvalue.DoyouthinkBradPittisgoingto
sitthereandtextbackandforthforeverorrespondimmediately
afterhegetsatext?Thepointisthebusieryouarewithyourlife
themoreimportantyoubecome.Thisisagoodthingincaseyou
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missedit.Yourtimeisvaluableandanytimeyouarewitha
womanshewillthenfeelvaluable.
Mensucceedintextingbecausetheyareawareofwhatwomen
responddesirablytoandcanthinkaboutwhattheyregoingtosayand
becreativeaboutit.Textingisperfectfordevelopingbetterskillsin
communicatingwithwomen.Isaythisbecausewomenaregenerally
moreexperiencedcommunicators.Sobeingabletothinkaboutwhat
youregoingtosayandsayingittherightwaygivesyouagreat
advantage.
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Section #2
Beforeyoustartsendingtextmessages,itsimportantto
understandwhyyouwantwomeninyourlifesoyoucancreatethe
rightapproach.Youneedtounderstandtherealpurposeintextingand
thedifferencebetweentextingandcalling.Andlastly,youneedtoget
yourselfintherightmindsetforwhatkindofguytobewhenevertext
messagingwomen.
Underlyingphilosophyinrelationships
Attractionshesyourlittlefling
Connectionshesyourbestfriend
AttractionandConnectionshesyourgirlfriend
Decidewhatyouwantandneedtoworkon.Ifyouwanta
girlfriend,thenyoumustfirstknowhowtoattractawoman,andthen
developadeeplevelofconnection/rapport.Gettingtoadeeper
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connectionallowsawomantoopenupandbevulnerable.Youwill
oftenhereawomansaysomethinglikeHeseessomethinginmethat
nooneelsesees.
Ifyouwanttojustfindwomenforagoodtime,thenyoumust
thinkaboutcreatingsexualtension.Foraflingrelationship,youneed
tohavebothconnectionandsexualtensionintherelationship.Thisis
whereyoubagonher,flirt,tease,andimplythingstogether.Thisisa
seductivegamethathastobeplayedacertainway.
Thepurposeoftextmessaging
Thepurposeoftextmessagingistoflirt,createalittleconnection,
andgetawomanthinkingaboutyou.
Textingisanothergreattooltomeetupwithwomenandallows
youtocomeacrossinmanydifferentways.Alwaysaimtogetan
emotionalreactionsuchasthepossibilityofdanger,beingsomewhat
kind,challengingher,givingherdoubtaboutyoulikingher,showing
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interest,ornotshowinginterest.Whenyouuseacombinationof
these,itwillleaveheralwayswonderingaboutyouandwhereshe
stands.Thisbyitselfgetsyouonhermind.Remember,onceawoman
knowsyouandknowswhatyouwilldo,shewillstopthinkingabout
you.Becreativeanduncertainsoshecannotpinyoudown.
Attractionisafeelingthatyouneedhertofeeltogetherto
desireyou.Butmostimportantlythatfeelinghastobebackedupwith
consistentthought.Meaning,themoreyouthinkaboutsomeone,the
moreyouwanttobewiththatperson.Thisisthebeautyoftexting:
regardlessofthetimeofdayorwhosheswith,youcanstayinher
thoughtsandshellkeepyouonhermind.Thoseconsistentthoughts
aboutyouareverypowerfulindrivinghertowanttoseeyou.
Textorcall?
Textingjusttosayhiinthemiddleoftheafternoonwillgive
herandyouabetterfeelingforwhentocall.Bynomeansareyou
communicatingand/orhavingalongconversationviatext.Youare
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simplywritinghernotestogetherfeelinggoodaboutyouandto
workyourselfintoherlife.Shehasmanyoptionsandsoyoumustat
leastbeonhermindlogistically.Whenyouwanttomeetupwithher,
especiallyifitsthefirsttime,giveheracallandtalktoher.Thisalone
tellsherthatyoureamanandnotawuss.
Now,whenyoudocallher,remembertofeelandactnatural.
Relaxandbeyourself.Normallyguysarentthemselvesaroundwomen
theychange.Thisisbecausebeautifulwomencausearesponsein
men.Ifawomanisattractivetousthenwewanttobepleasingtoher
andseekherapproval.Noticehowmostmencommunicatetoreally
goodlookingwomen.Theygivethewomanalloftheirattention,are
agreeableandtheirbodyorientsormirrorsthewomans.Menthink
thatiftheyareniceandpleasingtoherthenshewilllikethem.This
obviouslydoesntwork.Mostmentreatexceptionallygoodlooking
womenwithhighervalueorstatusthanthemselves.Thiswillalmost
alwaysturnawomanoff.Awomancannotfeelattractionifyouare
lowerstatusthanher.Statusandhighervaluearesocialdynamicsthat
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letusknowandfeelcomfortablewithwherewefitintothegroupor
setting.
Notknowingwhereyoubelongcreatesstatusanxiety,which
womendontrespondtoverywell.Sobeingcomfortablewithwhoyou
areandnotseekingapprovalortryingtofitin,willgiveyouhigher
status.Letothersconformtoyou.Youaretheleaderofyourlife.
Havethismindsetwhentalkingandtextingawoman.Talklikeyoure
justfriendsandyoudontneedhertobehappy.Youarethesourceof
yourownhappiness.Havingthispresencewillbeveryattractiveto
womenespeciallytheexceptionalones.Whenyouretalkingtoher
comfortably,itwillgiveherthegoaheadthatshecanrelax,feelsafe
andopenuptoconnectwithyou.Sheknowsthroughyourtextsthat
youarefun,soshellhaveabetterattitudealtogether.Butdocallher
attimestomeetupandatrandomtoshowyouareaconfidentmanto
createabettertransitionforwhenyoumeetup.
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Textmessagingiswherequalifyingandthegamecomeinto
play.Womenaregreatatsendingmixedmessages,andtheyrespond
wellwhenmendoittothem.Sendingmixedmessageswillgeta
womanwonderingifyouareseriousorjokingliketexting,Yourefun!
Especiallywhenyoujuststandtherelookingboredandnotsaying
anything.
Putthingsinperspective.Sheisnotaroundyouandismost
likelyinalogicalstateofmind.Youmustcomeacrossunneedy.You
arebusywithyourownlifeandmaythinkaboutherfromtimetotime.
Ifyoudecidetoletherknowthis,thentextHey,Iwasjustthinking
aboutyou.Usually,thatsallyouwouldsay.Youdontmissher.If
sherepliesbackthenyouhaveachoicetoeitherrespondorjusttalkto
herlaterandleaveherhanging.Hertextshouldbethelastonesentif
youdoendupresponding.
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Whenyouwanttomeetup
Nowremember,youarestillthatinteresting,fun,coolguythat
shefirstmetandyouaresobusywithyourlifeandotherwomenthat
shebarelyevenknowsthatyouaregoingtoaskherout.Youhaveno
fearoflosssincebeautyandwomenarecommon.Shewantsyouto
tellherwhenandwheretomeether.Neverinviteoraskheraman
leads.Beconfidentthatshelikesyouandthatitsherthatisruining
herchanceswithyou.Itsallastateofmind.
Guidelinesfortexting
HowdoIsettherighttone?Keepitshortandfun,flirtyand
funny,charmingorseductive.Itshouldbeemotionalnotlogical.
Womencreateemotionalconnectionsnotlogicalones.
HowdoIkeepitfunandsimple?Makethemfeelliketheyare
missingoutbynotbeingwithyouanddontalwaysgivethem
information.Aneasywaytodothisistonotanswertheir
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questions.Keepyourtextsasshortaspossiblespicingitupwith
witandotheremotionallychargedwords.LikewhenIgiveagirla
compliment,Isortoftakeitawayatthesametimeorchallenge
them.IlltextsomethinglikeYeahyourefunsofar.or
Youreactuallycutewhenyourenotwhining.orinreverse
Stopwhiningevenifyouaregoodlooking.
Howtogetthewomantoreplyback.Remember,moreand
morewomenaregettingusedtoflirtingwithtextmessagesand
theywillgetthatyouarefunandrespondback.Insomecasesa
fewwomenhavehadsomebadexperienceswithtexting,so
dontrelyontextmessagingforallyourcommunication.Butthe
bestwaytogetareplyistoaskaquestionsortextsomething
thatisfunandflirtythathasapullforhertorespond.For
example,Itextagirlaboutcookingtogetheronenightandheres
howitwent:Heyifyoudontcookyoucanalwayswatchme
cook.Herresponseback,Ohwhatever,youhaventseenmein
thekitchenyet.Myresponse,Uh,ImnotsureifIshouldbe
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scaredorturnedon.Herresponse,Both.Ididntrespond
backandthentenminuteslatershewrote,Sowhattimearewe
cookingtonight?
Howtogetpassedawomansdefenses.Neverletherintimidate
you.Womentestwhatkindofamanyouareandwillseeifyou
backdowntoher.Yourenotnecessarilybackingherdown,but
standingyourgroundandbeingcomfortablewithwhoyouare
andincontrol.Thatisthekindofconfidencethatwomenlovein
aman.Itsveryimportantyoushowthissideofyou.
Whattodoifawomanisntbehaving?Donttolerateher
secondratebehavior.Ifawomanisactinglameordumbcallher
onitormoveontothenextgirl.Example,Icanseeyouarestill
tryingtogetoveryourlastboyfriend.Goodluckwiththat.Your
timeisvaluableandyourenotgoingtoletsomeegotisticalgirl
trytocontrolyouorgetawaywithtreatingyoubadly.
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Howtoavoidthewrongwomeninyourlife.Youdeservethe
best!Donteversettle.Alwaysworkonimprovingyourselfand
understandingothers.Itsnevertoolatetobethemanyou
alwayswantedtobeandhavethatgirlofyourdreams.Ifyou
wanttohavequalitywomeninyourlife,thenyoumustfeelata
deeplevelthatyouareworthyofthemanddeservetheirlove.
Thinkaboutthewomenyouaretextingandifyoulikewhatshes
doingornot.Ifyoulikeit,keepgoing.Ifnot,MOVEON!Your
firstthoughtsandimpulsesarealmostalwaysright.
HowdoIcreateclosenessandcomfort?Speaktoherlikeyoure
alreadyfriends.Talktoherasifshesrightthere.Mostwomen
arenaturalfollowersandrespondtowhatyoudoandsay.So
youmustbecomfortableinorderforthewomantofeel
comfortable.Youcansayalmostanythingtoyourfriendsand
notworryaboutwhattheythinkdothesamewhenitcomesto
women.Listentoherandaskherquestionsonwhatsheis
talkingaboutthiswillrelaxher.
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Whentotextback?Igetalotofguysaskingmehowfastorsoon
totextbackbecausetheyarentthefastestatwritingatext
messageortheyarebusywithsomethingortheyjustwantto
knowhowlongtowaitbeforeresponding.Iintentionallydont
respondrightaway.UnlessImridingonsomeemotionthatis
goingonbetweenus,Iusuallywaitatleast10minutesbefore
respondingback.ThisshowsawomanthatIambusyandshe
mustworkformyattention.Anytimeyoucanbeachallengetoa
woman,itsagoodthing.Also,ifshewritessomethingthatyou
dontwanttorespondtoorsheisjustbeinglameorgiving
attitude,juststopandtryagainlater,thenextdayorthenext
week.Youcontrolwhathappens.GiveHERtheapproval.Never
seekherapproval.Youetherneedtobeonthesamelevelor
higher.Youcandothisbytextingsomethinglike,youcaneven
holdmyhandoryoucancallme.Showingapprovaland
qualifyingisinvolvedineveryrelationshipitsimportantyouare
ontherightside.Thiscanbeverysubtle,itjustneedstobe
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present.Example:Donttellmeyouliketoplaytennis.OrMy
friendsthinktheyknowyou,wheredidyougrowupat?
Justrememberthatyouhaveequalorgreatervalueinthe
communicationandrelationship.Rememberingthisfactwillhelpyour
communicationgosmoothandwillbuildattractionandpreventyou
fromgettingrejected.
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Section #3
Howtoflirt
Flirtingisoneofthemostimportantskillsintexting.Below,Im
goingtogiveyoueverythingyouneedtoknowaboutflirting.Imgoing
toexplainthekeypoints,themindsetandabunchofapplicabletextsto
getmovingintherightdirection.
Thekeypointstoflirting
Dontbenice.Kindnessisgoodattimes,butniceneverworks.
Infact,thewordniceisthenumberonewordwomenuse
whenaguyisnotrightforher,Hewasaniceguy,butitwasnt
there.Sincewomenusethewordnicetokindlyrejectmen,
thenusethewordnicewhencomplimentingwomen.Say,
Yourenice,youllmakeagoodfriendorItwasgoodto
hangoutwithanicegirl.Awomanwillrecognizeitsarejection,
andshellbethrownoffwhenyouuseitonher.
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Flirtinginawaythatsetsyouupforanexcitingnight.Thisisa
techniqueIuseongirlsImalreadyseeing.Thisisaneasy
technique:Startasmalllittlebanteringsessionearlyoninthe
dayaroundnoon.Saysomefunthingssoyougetinhermind
logistically.Then,endthetextsinawaywhereyouleaveher
hanging.Thenwhenyoudocallherlateronintheevening,you
canjustcontinuewhereyouleftoff.
Creatingasparkofinterestthenleave(deadair)Yourecute;I
betyougotalotofhotfriends.ifshesayssomething,itcanbe
anything,sayThatsaysalotaboutyou.
Implementingallthelawsofpersuasion(socialproof,scarcity,
urgency,reciprocation,mystery)Forexample:Youcoulduse
socialproofbygettingyourfriendsinvolvedbytexting,Iwas
justtalkingtomyfriendsaboutyou,Ilearnedsomecrazystuff
orHey,agroupofusareheadingtoaparty,youcoming?You
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couldalsousescarcitybytexting,Imheadinguptoyourcity
tomorrowforaday,yougoingtobearound?OrSorryitsjust
notgoingtoworkbetweenus,soImtakingoffnextweek.You
couldcreateurgencybytexting,Weneedtotalk.Greatwayto
stayonhermindanditwillbugherallday.
Setitupthatsheispursuingyou,thatsheisseducingyou.
Yourenaughty,stoptryingtoseduceme.Implythatsheis
naughty.Thisisagreatwaytocreatesomesexualtension.
Letherknowyouretheman.Soifshesaysyouregoodat
somethingjustcontinueandsay,Thanks,Imgladyounoticed.
OrYea,ImgoodateverythingIdo.Oryoucouldplayitona
morehumbleside,YeaIgetthatalot.Justmakesureyouown
it.Sheisactuallytestingyoutoseeifyoucanbeconfidentin
yourself,neversay,NoImnot,justluck.Youwilllosethe
secondyousaythisandshewillmoveon.
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Whatdoyoudoifawomanistryingtogetsomethingoutof
you?IfshewantsyoutodosomethingforherIkeepitsimple
andcallheroutandsay,Yourejustheretouseme.Italmost
alwaysworksifyoucallawomanoutonsomethingsheistrying
togetawaywithespeciallythegoodlookingwomen.Ifshe
asksforsomething,andyouknowshestryingtomilkitwithher
looks,Illapproachittactfullyandsaysomethinglike,Iwould,
butyourfaceisntprettyenoughtogetthatfromme.Itseems
mean,butthosekindofwomenloveitbecausenoguytreats
themlikethatanditgivesthemachallenge.
Rolereversalsaregreatflirtingtechniques.Likesaying,Justas
longasyoumakeenoughmoneytosupportbothofus.OrHey
honeyhowarethekids?Playhouseandpretending
relationshipsareagirlsfavoritepasttime.Whynotbringa
familiarfeelingback.Itsetsagoodtoneandisalotoffun.
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Twistherwordsorfinddoublemeaning.Thisisbestdoneby
implyingsexualmeaning.Thisisreallyeasyandcanbealotof
fun.Heresanexampletodemonstrate:AgirlImetlastnight
justtextme,literallywhileIwaswritingthis.Shewasresponding
tomytextinwhichIsaid,Hey!Whatareyoudoingrightnow?
Shesays,Justabouttoleavemyhouseandgotothegym.What
aboutyou?ShesentthisrightbacksoshehasagoodideaImby
myphoneanditwouldntbetherighttimetoplayoffthatIm
toobusytoreplyrightback.SoIrideoffthemomentandshoot
back,MyhouseisntthegymbutnicetryShesaysbackHaha
ohman,really?IthoughtitwasIsayYeahmaybenexttime.I
spelledyournamewrongbutanywaytalktoyalater.Her
phonesendshernamealongwiththetext;which,bytheway,if
yourphonedoesntdothis,thenthefirsttimeyouwriteagirlput
yournameinthetextatthebottom.Thatwayshewonthaveto
askwhostextingher,whichisarealtimewaster.Sobacktothe
text,sherepliesbackwithHawellyoubetterfixitthen,its
muchbetterthewayIspellitlaterAnytimeagirlissaying
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Ha,orlaughingisasuresignofinterest.Iwasthefirsttoendit
andIknewshewasgoingtothegymsoIendeditquickly.The
wholeinteractionlastedabout8minutes.Sheisthelasttosay
somethingsonowIcancallortextheranytimeIwant.
Preferably,thenextday,butthesameeveningworkstooaslong
asyourenotbeingneedy.
Textingthenextdayisfineconsideringtherelationshipand
howneedyyouarecomingacross.Mostguyswillsaywaitthree
daystohideanyneedinessorflawsinyourgame.Thatworks,
buttextingafewtimesthroughouttheweekworksgreatifyou
usethesetechniquesbecauseallyouredoingisgivingher
emotionalvalue.Sowhentexting,justkeepinminditslike
yourejustsayinghi.Soifyouhavesomefunthenightbefore
youcancommentonherperformancelastnight,orbustonher
forherlackofperformance.Thesequicklittleinteractionsback
andforth,orevenjustaonelinertogetherthinkingaboutyou,
willhelpherfeelshemissesyouwhenyouregone.Ilikeusing,
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Heystopthinkingaboutme.Andthatsit.Neversayyoumiss
herevenifshetriestogetitfromyou.Justsaythatshecrossed
yourmindandthatsheisdoinganokjobseducingyou,andthat
sheneedstotryharderforyourattention.
Talktowomeninafunwaywithnoagenda.Thiswasalways
hardformeatfirstbecauseIdontnaturallytalktogirlsjustto
talk.Ihavenowlearnedthathavingsomethingfunand
interestingtotalkabout,askingquestionsandkeepingitflirty
andemotionallychargedalwayskeepsmeinterestedin
conversations.Ifyouwanttobeinteresting,beinterested.Dont
interviewher,butbegenuinelyinterestedinwhosheisandwhat
makesherunique.
Buildrapportandconnection.Relateaboutsomethingthatyou
bothdoortexthersomethingthatyoubothexperienced
together.HeresatextconversationwithagirlImetdancingand
howIcreatedaconnection,HeyImtryingtofindagirlthatis5
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foot6andlikestofallonherfacewhiledancing.Youknowher?
Herresponse,HaHaHa,thanksforthereminder.Ihelpedher
upaftershetrippedontoherfaceandIusedthatinthetextand
itworkedgreat.Ifyoucan,trytotextsomethingthatrelatestoa
connectionyouhaveintherealworld.
Understandcommunicationandmakefriendswithwomen.
Justhavingtheabilitytocomfortablyholdaconversationwitha
womancangiveyouagoodbreakfromflirtingtodevelop
rapport.AgreatbooktoreadaboutthisisMenAreFromMars
andWomenAreFromVenus.Itgivesagreatunderstandingof
thecommunicationbarrierbetweenmenandwomen.Clickhere
tograbacopy.
Thingsstartgoingbad,meaningsheisntreplyingtoyourtexts.I
eithercallheroutormoveon.Iliketousesomethinglike,What
isitaboutaveragegirlsalwaystryingtoplayhardtoget.orI
guessIamtoogoodforyou.Orevenbetter,justbackoff.Forget
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aboutherforafewdays,evenweeks,oramonthwhileyou
moveonwithyourlife.Then,youcandecidetotextagain.Alot
oftimesItotallyforgetaboutthemandIloveitwhenthesegirls
sendmetextsweeksorevenmonthsafterthefact.
Yougottorealizethatwomenmustbeselectiveinorderto
carryouttheirlives.Womenhavemanyoptionswithmenand
theycanthavethemwastingtheirtime.Soyouneedtoslowly
butsurelyweaveyourlifeintoherssothatyourelikefriendsor
loversandshecantwaittoseeyouagain.
Valueyourtimeandletwomenknowthisbykeeping
conversationsshortandsettingupthatyouhavetobegoingor
thatyouretoobusyandyoulltalktothemlater.
Neverlaughinatext.Thatisforwomentodo.RarelywillIeven
sayHainatextbecauseitdestroysthetension.Asmileyface
canbefunattimes:)WhenItextagirl,Ioftenusedryhumorto
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createmoresuspenseandmystery.NowIlovetolaughandIdo
itoften,butwhenitcomestotextingIfindtheJamesBond
methodtobethemosteffectivetheslightgrinonyourface
whilekeepingyourcomposure.WatchthefaceofDanielCraigin
CasinoRoyale,especiallythepartwhenhesaystotheone
marriedwoman,Perhapsyourejustoutofpractice.(Hes
implyingthatshecanstillbeaplayer).Ifyouwatchthatscene
youwillnoticethathedoesntbreakhiscomposureandhasthat
slysmilethattellsherthatheisplayingwithher.Hedoesnt
laughorgetuncomfortableandheconfidentlyletsherlaughoff
thetension.ThatswhatImeanbytheJamesBondapproach.
Mostimportantly,keepitfunandflirtytowherethewoman
doesntreallyhavetoreplybutyouknowshewillbecompelled
toyoubecauseyourtextisemotionallycharged.SomethingLike
Wow,IthoughtIwasshallow.orIhaventlostallrespectfor
youyet.OrImjustbetterlookingthanyoubutIstillthink
yourecute.Thisplayfultextingiswhatwomenlovetoread.
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HeresanexampleofaflirtytextconversationIhadtoday:
Hey,Iknowyoureprobablyouttodinnerwiththefolksinsteadof
mebuthowareya?Mostwomenenjoygoingouttoeatwith
friendsorfamily,sothisisaneasyfirsttext.Herreply,LolIm
actuallysickinbedhowwasyourconcert?Ihadtextherthe
previousdaylettingherknowsheismissingoutonsomefun.Ireply
with,Ohthatsucks.Youllgetbettersoon.Justpretendyoullget
somethingreallyspecialfrommewhenyourebetter.Likeacookie.
Thiswaslong,butIknewIwasendingithere.Sherepliesbackwith
Hahathatdoessoundreallyspecial!!!Thisfunenergycancarry
overandnowIhaveshapedthewaywecommunicatetoeachother
andwearebothenjoyingit.Sheendeduptextingmethenextday
forhercookie.
IfyounoticedIdidntanswerallofherquestions,girls
naturallywanttogatherinformationbutIletherknowwhatshe
needstoknowandkepttherestamystery.
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Threeeasywaystoflirting
Banteringistospeaktooraddressinawittyandteasing
manner.Easyforonelinersbutmoreeffectiveifabantering
interactionisplayedout.Thisisagreatwaytoqualifyhertosee
ifshecanplayaround.SosayingsomethinglikeHeyhoney,Im
goingtobeinlatetonight,makesureJimmygetshisbath.
Womenalwaysplayedhousegrowingupandthisisagreatway
toslideintothatroleandhavefun.Bysettinguproles,wecan
nowplaythemoutandhavethosefeelingsandattitudes
associatedwiththem.Womenlovethis.Alotofwomenalso
haveanaughtysideorguiltypleasuretothem,soifyouletthem
playoutthisroletheywillfindyouexcitingtobearoundasthey
areabletoexpressthemselves.Example,Iwouldgoshopping
withyoubutIdontwantyoutobetemptedtomakeoutwith
meinthedressingroom.Remember,youreplayingwiththem,
havingagoodtimebringingupeventhemostchildlikeemotions.
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Arroganthumoralsoknownascockyfunny.Arroganceishaving
anattitudeofsuperioritymanifestedinanoverbearingmanner
orinpresumptuousclaimsorassumptions.SayingImthe
hottestguyhereiscockyandarrogant.SayingImprobablythe
bestlookingguyyouveeverseensoyoumightwanttotakea
pictureiscocky,butinahumorousway.
Jokingaroundandhavingagoodtimeisthenumberone
attractionsecret.Womenalwaysratehumorasthenumberone
thingtheylookforinaman.Laughteristhebestwaytoshare
timeandcreateconnectionswithothers.Peoplegenerallylaugh
fortworeasons:becausesomethingisdoneoutoftheordinary,
orbecauseofnervousness.Yourbodycantholdnervousnessif
youarelaughing.Soanytimeyourearoundwomen,itsagood
ideatodofunthingsthatevokelaughtertohelpbothofyou
relax.Nowontheotherhand,ifyouretoofunny,thenyoull
endupbeingherentertaining,littlemonkey.Andifyouretoo
cockyyoullbeseenasaprick.
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Sokeepthemixgoodanduseittospiceupconversations.
Arroganthumorisagreatwaytoestablishconfidence.Yousee
manymenthesedaysplayoutahumblerole.Thismaybeinpart
ofreligiousvalues,butregardlessofyourbeliefs,beinghumbleis
notanattractivequality.Itcanworkattimestoshow
vulnerability.Amanmustbestrong,selfconfident,and
sometimesevenalittlecocky.Haveyouevernoticedhowcocky
menaresuccessfulwithwomen?Womenaremagicallydrawnto
thisattitudewhenitsspicedupwithhumorandplayfulness.So
whentexting,saythingsinanarrogantwaythatisfunnyatthe
sametime.
PlayfulTeasingthisisjustwhatboysdotogirls.Thinkbackin
yourearlychildhoodwhenyouchasedgirlsaroundthe
playgroundpullingtheirpigtails.Thisisuniversalflirtingandyou
seeitallaroundyou.
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Really,whodidntliketeasinggirlswhentheywereyoung?Keep
thatsamecontextandgrowupjustalittlebitwithitbypickingapart
whatawomaniswearingwhenyouseeher,orjustbustingonherover
somethingshesays.Forexample,iftheydyedtheirhair,kindofsquint
youreyesasifyourenoticingsomethingwrongwithitandsay
somethinglike,Howdoyougetyourrootssodark?orHuh,doyou
likeit?Ifareallyattractivewomanknocksoveradrink,saylookslike
youowemeadrinkafteryoucleanupyourmess.Treatherlikeyour
brattylittlesister,andthatyoucouldcarelesswhatshethinks.
Thekeyistogethertolaughatherself.Itsgreattoexposea
womansinsecuritiesandhaveherlaughaboutthem.Iveevensaidto
girlsthattheyareboringandthattheyhadtoprovetomethatthey
knowhowtobefun.Womenloveattentionandachallengeatthe
sametime.Soregulatethatattentionbyeithernotgivingthemanyor
justplayfullyteasingthemsotheycanalmostfeellikeyourepossibly
pursuingthem.Ifyoudoitright,youwillalwaysbehappyyouteased
her.
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Section #4
Makingthefirstinitialtext
Thissectionispackedwithproventextmessagesthatyoucan
usetogetanideaofwhatwomenrespondto.Makesureyoutakeand
twistthetextmessagestofityourstyle.Anddontstopimprovingon
themuntilyoustartseeingbetterresults.
Whatshouldyoutext?Refertoexperiencesyouhadwiththe
womaninthepastorcreateanewexperiencebyroleplayingthatgets
hertobeacharacter.Itdependsonwhatyouwantthecontexttobe.
Ifyouarejustsayinghi,thenusesomecockyhumor.Iusuallyjust
say,Heydorkwhatsup,orHowsmyadorablelittlebrat?,orHey
cutie,thinkingofmemuch?ormypersonalfavorite,asimpleHey,
whatup?Oraskheraquestionthatrelatestoheroraboutwhat
youvetalkedaboutordidinthepast.Thiscanbesituational.For
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instance,ifyoumetdancinglastnight,yourfirsttextcouldbe,Hey
you,meetanycool,goodlookingguyslastnight?Which,ofcourse,
youreimplyingisyouanditwillsettherighttoneandgetthe
conversationstarted.Remember,toputyournameattheendofyour
textyoudontwanttowastetime.Ifitsbeenacoupleofdays,you
couldsayHey,stayingoutoftroublelately?Andthengofromthere.
Textmessagestocreateattraction
Theseareaimedatgettingsomesortofreactionfromwomen
(myfavoriteisthejawdrop)andtobuildattractionbycreatingsexual
tensionandconnection.Mixthemuphoweveryoulike.Theywork
greatwhenpluggedintherightplaceandtime.Youllgetbetter
responsesifyouusethingsthatawomanprobablyneverhears;like
callingaclassyladyabrat.
Accusingawomanforbeingshallow
Youjustlikemeforbeingridiculouslygoodlooking
Youjustwantmeformyhotbody
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Whydoyougirlsalwaysusemeformylooks
Imnotjustsomeprizetobewon
Surprisedtoseesheactuallyhasgoodqualities
Wow,youreactuallyfun
Huh,youresmarttoo
Ineverknewyouhadfeelings
Whenawomanistryingtoseduceyou
Nicetry
IknowyoucandobetterthanthatIhope
Togetherthinkingaboutyou
Stopthinkingaboutmesomuch
Missmeyet?
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Disqualifyingheroryourself.Ialsocallthiscreatingdoubt,whichcan
beverypowerful.
Youdontlike_________,Idontthinkthisisgoingtoworkout
Example:Youdontlikeicecream,Idontthinkthisisgoingto
workout
Yourejustnotmytype
IdontthinkyoucanhandlemeThisalsohasadouble
meaning
Yourejustnotgoodenoughforme
YourejustnotwhatIhadinmind
Areyoualwaysthisdifficult?
Whycantyoubeagoodlittlegirl
Imnogoodforyou
Thisisntworkingoutwejustfightallthetime
Yourejustmakingitworse
Thisisnthelpingyourchanceswithme
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Thegolddiggerapproach
IdidntknowyouwererichIwantadivorcenowforhalfof
yourmoney
Wellaslongasyoumakealotofmoney,Imkindofhigh
maintenance.
Justbeingfriendsandotherfunplaysonher
Itsok,Iknowyouwantme
Werejustfriends,eventhoughyouwantit
Whatever,yousowantmerightnow
IdontwanttosaythatImbetterthanyou,justonahigher
level.
Okayyourright,letsmakeoutnow.
WellIguessifyoureallywanttocomeyoucan
Yeah,IthinkmyfriendswilllikeyouinsteadofIthinkyou
mightlikemyfriendsseethedifference.Youcanalwayschange
yourtonetomatchtheatmosphere,butkeepthegeneral
qualifyingmentalitythatyouaretheprizetobewon.
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YouknowIdontnormallysaythis,butyoumightbetheone
Youresuchadork
Imsooooutofyourleague
Yourejustnotmytype
Makingsuresheiscool
IfyoupromisetobehavethenIlldoafavorforyouandthen
whenshesaysokayorsomething,yousay,ohandIdontdo
sexualfavors.
Justbeonyourbestbehaviorthistime
Justtrynottoembarrassme
Talkabouttheirclothesandoutfits
Girlsarealwayswonderingwhattowear,soitsfuntohelpthemout:
JustwearsomethingcuteandIllseeyouthen
Callmeifyoudontknowwhattowear.
Ditchtheextensionsthistime,youlookedcuterwithoutthem.
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Waystoteaseher
Ithinkyourenice,callmesometime.Callingawomanniceisa
complimentyougiveyourneighbor,sisterorsomeoneyoure
kindlyrejecting.Shewontlikeitifitsdoneright.
Yourelikemybrattylittlesister.
Youreboring.Letsgoout
Youreboringme,comeon,youresupposedtoentertainme
Dontworry;Imsuretheressomethingfascinatingaboutyou
Whatswrongwithyou?
Whenareyougoingtotakemeout?
Imnotgoingtowaitaroundforeveryouknow
Youseemlikeyoudmakeanicefriend
Youredecentorlastnightwasdecent
Ifshesayssomethingevenassimpleascallmeinsteadof
sayingokay,say,Donttellmewhattodo
Ifsheisaskingsomethingfromyousay,Youresodemanding
Yourenotthatbadorwhencommentingonhercookingsay,
itsnotthatbad,Imjustsurprisedyoucancook.
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Hey,youlooklikethisoneamazinggirlinmyclassshe
respondswithOhreally!youreplywithYeah,toobadshe
wasntallthat.
Talkingasthoughsheisinthe3rdperson
YeahImseeingsomeonerightnow,youmightknowher.Shes
kindofdifficultbuthasarealsweetsidetoher
YeahImetthisreallyamazinggirllastnight,hopefullyshelives
uptothehypeThisoneisperfectofareallycoolgirlyoujust
metlastnightandsheasksyouifyouhadfun.OrImetthis
reallycoolgirlbutshewasjustsohardtoread,Idontknow,you
thinkshelikesme?
Gettinghertocomeover
Idontthinkitsagoodideaforyoutocomeover
Comebyandsayhi
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IfyoucomeoveryougottopromisenottolaughShewillthink
thatyourplaceisamessorsomething,whichitshouldntbe
right?
HeyImgoingtoheadhome,havefunwithyourfriends
Yourenice,maybewecanhangoutsometime
Whenareyougoingtocomeoverandcookforme?
Challengingher
Idontknowifyoucankeepup
Canyouhandleme?gooddoublemeaning
Idontthinkthisisgoingtoworkout,gotanyhotfriends?
Rolereversals
Youjustwanttoshowmeofftoallyourfriends
Youllprobablyjustbragtoallyourfriendshowyougotwith
me
Imkindofabigdeal,sodonttakeitpersonalifIgetallthe
attention
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What,justbecauseIdontputoutdoesntmeanwecantbe
together.
Whenareyougoingtotakemeouttoanicedinnerandbuyme
things?
Beingbusyisgood.Itshowsyouhavealifeofyourown.Women
dontwanttobeyourlifetheywanttobeapartofyourlife.
HeyImbusy,letstalklater.SometimesIwilljustsayIm
busyandthatsit,whichisfine,butyourenotgivingherany
options,whichdoesntgetanywhere.
TomorrowisnotgoingtoworkIgottofinishaproject.
Givinghersuggestionsonthingssheshoulddo,liketipstoimprove
herlook.
Itsok,butyoushouldwearyourhairdown.Thissetsupthat
shemustworkforyourapproval.
SoifshehasblondhairsayItsnice,IlikebrunettesIfshesays
shecandyeitthensay,IdontwantyoubeingfakeorJust
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wearahat.Thatwillgetapunchonthearm.Sheisthereto
impressyouandgetyoureattention.Thinkaboutit,whydo
womendressupandlookascuteastheycan?Togetyour
attentionandimpressyou.Soputthatintheopenandhave
themimpressyouinotherways.
Rememberinallofyourtextmessagestochallengeher,flirt,role
play,havefun,twistwords,crackjokes,putheronthespot,approve,
disapprove,qualify,beimportant,beamystery,teaseandmost
importantlycreatesomekindoffeelingsheisgoingtohavewhenshe
readsyourtext.Generallyspeaking,peoplealwayswantwhatthey
canthave.Sojustgiveherenoughhopetokeeptrying.Youcansatisfy
herfromtimetotimetosurpriseher,butkeepheronhertoes.Inother
words,alwayskeepherguessingandhavingdoubt,withthepossibility
forexcitement.
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Secrettexttip,exercisethewordNO
ThewordNOisaveryattractivewordtowomen,especiallyif
theyaregoodlooking.Itshowsthatyouarepicky,youhavean
opinion,youareaqualifierandyouareincontrol.Ifsheasks,Doyou
wanttogodothis?andyoudontwantto,justsay,no,doyouwant
to?Orletssayshewantstomeetupandyoucant,insteadofsaying
ohIcantsorrysay,No,nextweekwillbebetter.Itsavery
powerfulwordbecausethewordNOinternallytriggersachallenge.
Anotherreasonisbecausewomendonthearthatwordfrommenalot
(especiallytheattractiveones).Theyalmostalwayshearyesthisand
yesthatorsomepassivewayofsayingno.Soduringyourtext
messaging,trytoexercisethewordNO.
Thefourstepprocesstomeetingup
Youcantexttomeetup,butonlyafteryouvemetuponce
before.Callingherforthefirstmeetupestablishesthatyouare
interestedinherandsetsthetonethatyouareaman,whichiswhat
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shewants!Youneedtobethemanandcontinuetoprogressandlead
therelationship.
1. CreateInterest
Thisiswhatgetsawomancuriousaboutyou.Ifsheis
curiousshewillwanttoknowmoreaboutyou.Shewillgenerally
askyouquestionsofinterestandengageyouintextingbackand
forth.Donotanswerallofherquestions,butleadtheinteraction
andkeepherinterested.Justmakesureyouhavesomething
interestingaboutyouthatshefeels.
2. Createafeeling
Anyemotionawomanfeelswhendealingwithyouis
alwaystoyouradvantage.Trytokeepthosefeelingsmore
positive,butnegativeonesworktoo.Keepinmindhumoristhe
numberoneemotionwomenwanttofeel.
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Thisisimportantbecauseifyouweretojustjumpright
intohey,letshangoutandyouhaventcreatedafeelingabout
youthenshehasnoreasonto.Herreasoningtomeetwithyou
comesfromhowmuchshefeelswhensheinteractswithyou.
Usethetextmessagesaboveforguidelinesonhowtocreate
desirablefeelingsandthetextingconversationsinthenext
sectiontoseehowIcreatedthoseemotions.
3. Leaveherhanging(deadair)
Creatingvalueandthenleavingherhangingisvery
powerful.Shemustfeelwhatitslikewhenyourearoundand
thenmissthosefeelingswhenyourenotaround.Thisisbest
doneafter35texts.Dontbetextingherallday.Keepitshort
andfunthatgetsafeelingandthenyouregone.
4. Meetup
Youresetifyouhavecreatedinterest,afeelingaboutyou
andanemptyvoidwhenyouaregone.Allyouhavetodoatthis
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pointiscallherupeitherthateveningorthenextdayandsee
whatshesuptoo.Haveaplanforsomethingtodo,likeHey
somefriendsofminearegettingtogethertowatchsurvivoror
Heyhaveyoueverseenxyzmovie?orIgotabarbecuegoing
oncomejoin.Ifshehasplanssay,Thatstoobad,andlether
knowhowsheismissingout.Dontbesurprisedifagirlyou
havebeentextingearlier,textsyouthatnighttoseewhatyoure
doing.Ifyouvegivenherthatemotionalvaluethenshewillbe
thinkingofyouandshewillwanttoseeyou.Ivehadmanygirls
callortextmelatertoseewhatIwasdoing,beforeIwaseven
abletotextheraboutmeetingup.
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Section #5
Reallifetextmessagingexamples
Asyoupracticeandgainmoreexperiencedatingandmeeting
women,itwillbecomesecondnaturetoflirt,createemotionsandbea
challengethroughtextmessaging.Forinstance,oneSundaynightIwas
talkingto8differentwomenviatext.ItwasaSundayeveningandmost
womenareavailabletotextatthistime.Mostofthoseinteractions
lasted24textsfrommebeforeIendedit.Iwillgiveyouoneofthe
longeronesasanexampleofhowtoamplifyattraction.
Conversation#1
ThisisfromagirlImetlastnight.Wehadafuntimedancingand
jokingaround.Ievenprotectedherfromsomerealcreepyguysby
leadingheraroundthedancefloorsoshecouldfindherfriends.Iwas
abletoreallyconnectanddevelopattractionwithhersoIknewthat
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thenextdaywouldbefinetotextherorevenseeher.Ataboutonein
theafternoonItextedher,tosayhi.ThisishowIdidit:
Note:BeforeIgothernumberandleft,Iwastalkingtoherabout
whetherornotIthoughtshewasfake.
Me:Hey,Thanksforthefakenumber.Whatelseisfakeaboutyou?
Tyler
Remembertoaddyournamethefirsttimeyoutextifshedoesnthave
yournumberyet.
Her:Hahaalwayswiththefake!IcantbelieveyoudontthinkImsky
divingontheweekend!:)
SherepliesafewminutesafterminesoIknowsheisdowntotalkright
now.
Me:Iamnotsayingyoudonthaveitinyou.Ijustdoubtifyougot
whatittakes
Thisisafunwayofchallengingherandwomenlovethis.
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Her:Hahaisthatachallenge?
Sheislaughing,goodsign.
Me:Notformebutwellseeifyoureuptoit
ThisissubconsciouslytellingherthatIamachallenge.Iactuallygot
anothertextfromherrightwhenIsentthis,becauseItookabout5min
torespondback.Thiswillusuallygethertobeinterestedinyou.
Her:Sowhatelseisfakeaboutyou?
ThisisthetextshesentwhileIwasabouttosendmyprevioustext.As
youcansee,sheisaskingmeaquestion.Sheisinterestedorbuying.
Me:Youlljusthavetowaitandfindoutforyourself
Notansweringherquestionandagaingettinghermorecuriousand
interested.
Her:Areyouaskingmeoutonadate?
YouseewomenreadintothingsandwhatIsaidisindirectlytellingher
thatIwanttoseeher.WomenalwaysgiveindirectsignalslikewhatI
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justsaid.Imjusttryingtospeaktheirlanguage,whichcreates
connectionandattraction.
Me:No,butitlookslikeyoujustdid
AswetalkedaboutinSection#4aboutthepowerofthewordNOI
pluggedinthewordNOandthiswordreallydialsuptheattraction.
Her:HahayeahsometimesIcanbeforward.;)
NoticehowsheislaughingoffthetensionandIamnot.
Me:Cool,Illcallyoulaterandletyouknowwhenyoucantakemeout
:)
ThisismyfirstsmileybecauseIusuallywanthertobewonderingifIam
jokingornot.
Isentthislastmessagemorethan10minutesafterhertext.We
weretextingbackandforthandthenIpausedtoletthetensionbuild,
especiallyafterwhatshesaid.NoticehowImkeepingcontrolofthe
interaction.NowImrightwhereIwanttobewhenIgiveheracall
later.(Note:IhavesetthetonethatIamtheleaderandsheistaking
thepositionofafollower.Thisisfineandmostwomenareokwiththat
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andmostofthetimetheywantyoutobetheleader.)Icouldlether
takemeout,butIcantellshereallywantsmetobetheoneinthe
driversseat.Thisisonlyatestbymetoseeifshecanhavefunandgo
withit.Thistotallykeepsheronhertoes.
Her:Hahacantwait!
AtthispointIwillcallherlaterontosayhiandtoletherknow
thatIambusytonightandIwonttellherwhatImdoing.Iwillendoff
sayingthatweshouldmeetuptomorrowforwhateverIgotgoingon.
Now,ifshedoesntanswerherphone,justleaveamessageandsay
HeyitsTylerIlltalktoyalater.ThatsallIwillleaveonthe
message.Iwillmakesuremyvoiceisclear,slowandlittlelowertogive
itamanliertone(allofwhichwomenrespondwellto).Chancesare,
shewilleithercallmeortextmebeforeIcallhertomorrowbecauseI
havecreatedenoughcuriosityaboutwhoIamandIknowshewantsto
seeme.
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Conversation#2
ThisisfromanothergirlImetafewnightsagoandIendedup
goinghomewithlateronthatnight.Wejustkissed,Ipromise.WhenI
leftherplaceIwasmeetingupwithsomeofmyfamilyforlunch.
Heresaquicktextconversationtokeepbuildingtheattractionandto
helpherfeelgoodaboutlastnight.
Me:Iwaslatebecauseofyoubutitgavemeanopportunitytotellmy
familyhowIhookedupwithareallyawesomegirl
Ididntevenmentionthisgirltomyfamily.
Her:Hahayeahright,Imsureyoutoldthemhowyouhookedup
Sheisjoking,butmostwomenreallywanttoknowthiskindof
informationsoshecanthelpbutinvestigate.
Me:What,Ididtellthem.
MakingitmoreserioustoherthatImcoolwithitandnotembarrassed
byher.
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Her:Youmusthaveareallyopenfamily
ShesnowhookedandnowImgoingtotakeheronalittleemotional
ride.
Me:Yeahtheywanttomeetyou
IamreallypushingithereandnotlettingherknowthatIamjoking.
Her:Howmanysiblingsdoyouhave?
Sheispreparingherselfandnotbailingout.Thisletsmeknowthat
shesreallyintome,whichIalreadyknewfromlastnight.Butit
reconfirmsittoherandbuildstherelationship.
Me:Noyoudork.Idontkissandtell.
AlthoughIjustbustedonhersheisactuallyrelievedofthepressureof
meetingmyfamily.Ijustmadeupaquickstoryforheranditputheron
arealemotionalrollercoasterride,whichwillinstinctivelyconnecther
moretome.
Her:Hahayousuck
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Me:Anyway,IllcallyouwhenIgetbackfrommytripandletyou
knowhowyoumissedout
Iwasleavingthenextdayonvacation.
Her:Ohthanks!:)
Conversation#3
ThisisaconversationwithagirlImetrecentlyandsheisasuper
cute,littleblondeandwetotallyvibewitheachother.
Me:IamgoingswimminginyourpoollaterIguessyoucancome
too
Shehasmentionedthatshehasapoolandinvitedmetocomeon
Saturdaynight.Ihadbetterthingstodolikemeetgorgeouswomen.
Her:OhmanIcanttonight.IhavethishugepaperduethatIhavent
startedon.Raincheck?
Ididntscreenhertoseeifshewasavailable;notlikeitreallymatters
though.Shecounterswiththeraincheckcomment.
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Me:Ohyouslacker.LookslikeIllbeswimminglapswithoutyou
Imnotlettingitgettomethatshecantmakeit,andIbustonherfor
procrastinating.
Her:HahayourejustscaredIwouldlapyou
Sheisabletocomeintomyworldandplay!
Me:No.IfanythingImconcernedyouwontbeabletohandleme
AnytimeIcansaynoisapersonalfavorite.Ithenchallengeherwith
thedoublemeaningofhandleme.
Her:HahaIworrythesameaboutyou!
Sheisalwayslaughing,whichisasuresignofinterest.Imgetting
excellentresponses,whichletsmeknowsheisinterested.
Me:Nice,justfinishyourpaperandcallmesometime:)
Complimentingherabilitytoplayandthenendingitfirst.
Her:Onlyifyouthinkyoucankeepup:)
Sheschallengingme!Awesome!Icoulduseachallenge.Sheisafun
girl.Thisisagreatexampleofhowlongyourtextinginteractions
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shouldbeandhowtheyshouldflowonanemotionallevel.Webanter
backandforthandIleaveonahighnote.Thisisfunforbothofus.
ThenexttimeIcomeincontactwithher,itwilldefinitelybefun!
Thesearesomeexamplesofthepowerthattextmessagingcan
haveonyourrelationships.Remember,youretextingtobuild
attraction,NOTfriendship.Giveitashot.Withalittlepractice,youll
havethesetechniquesdowninnotime.
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Bonus Section #6
Makingthephonecall
Itwillbealoteasiertocallherbecauseyouvealreadybeen
textingandcommunicatingwithher.Callingisalsoanothergreatway
totransitionsmoothlyintotherealworldandmeet.
Thisisacrucialstepinmeetingupwithawoman.Formanymen
thisstepcanbeverydifficult.Youcangetthatfeelingofanxietywhere
youarenotsureexactlywhattosayorhopethatsheisnotbusyand
yougetheratagoodtime.Therearethousandsofthingstoworry
about.Iknow,Ivebeentherebeforemyself.Andnow,Idontthink
aboutit.WhenIgetaminute,IwillcallherandactuallytellherIhada
minuteandwantedtotalktoher.Itdoesntreallymatterwhatyousay
aslongasyouarecalmandcollected.Dontletyourselfthinkaboutit
andgetallworkedupandnervous.Justcasuallydialthenumberlike
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yourecallingafriend.Youtalkcasualwithafriendonthephone;keep
thatsamevibeandmindsetwithwomen.
5pointstohitwhentalkingtoheronthephone
Womenloveamanthatcansuccessfullyhaveaphone
conversation.Everytimeyoucallandtalktoawomanhitall5ofthese
points:
1. Getherlaughing
Jokingaround,beingplayful,teasingherandflirtingare
thebestwaystocreateattractionanditwillmakeherwantto
meetwithyou.
Herearesomewaystojokeandflirtwithheronthephone
Talkaboutsomethingdumbshewroteonlineandjoke
aboutit.
Makefunofyourself.
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Interpretwhatsheissayinginafunnyway.Ifshesays
somethinglikeIamgoingtocleanmyhouse.
Interpretitandsay,Soyourehavingabadaday?
Askquestionsthatputheronthespot.Ifshesays
somethingthatsheisdoingsay,Whatisitabout
womenand(saywhatevershesdoing.)Makeit
seemlikeshehasissuesthatshehastoexplainherway
outof.
Relatewithherinafunway.SaysomethinglikeNow,
wereyoujustsayingyoulovedhikingjusttogetsolid
guystowantyouandthentalkaboutwhereyouhave
hikedandwhattypeofhikersheisandjokearound
aboutthedifferenttypes.
Teaseher.Saythingslikeyouwould,thatskindof
creepy,Idontthinkyouarereadyforthatyet.
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2. Slowdownandspeakclearly
Talkingtoofastisasignofneediness,lackofconfidence
andapoorpresentationofwhoyouare.Aslow,clear
communicatorisalwaysmoreattractive.
3. Keepitshort,510minutesmax
Conversationsthatareshortbuildattraction.Youre
basicallyjustseeingwhatsgoingonandiftheresapossibilitythat
shegetstomeetupwithyou.Ifyourehavinginteresting
conversation,justsayIgottogetgoing,letscontinuethislaterif
sheaskswhereyouregoing,justsayitsasurpriseorIgotsome
stripperscomingover.
Itsgoodtobuildasenseofurgencythatyouneedtoget
heroffthephonebecauseyouhavesomethingelsemoreimportant
thatneedsyourattention.Tellingheryouhaveallthetimeinthe
worldforherislikesayingIamboringandtheresnotmuchtome.
Evensay,HeyIgottogetgoinghereinaminute,butIwantedto
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seewhatyoureupto.Whendoneright,itwillleaveherwanting
more,andshewillbedowntomeetup.
4. Haveaplan
Neversay,Whatdoyouwanttodo?Thisisnottherole
ofamanandmostwomendontliketotakethepositionofthe
decisionmaker.Arealmanwillconfidentlytakeherbythehand
andmakesomethinghappen.
Thingstodo
Goshoppingforatripyouregoingon
Seeamovie
Yourehungryandaregettingsomethingtoeat
Goouttoabarorsocialscene
Theresanartshoworconcert
Yourehavingsomefriendsover
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Becreative:Suchas,youranoutofmilkandneedhertopickyou
upsomeandbringitover.Keepinmind,everydaythingslikegoing
groceryshoppingorbuyingabookworkgreat.
Justremembertoalwayspresentideasandneversay,
Whatever.Idontcarewhatwedo.Ifyoubothcantcomeupwith
something,alwaysjumpinandsay,Okay,well,letsdothisandifit
doesntworkorifitsnotfunwellgodothat.
Ifyoudomakeplans,keepinmindthemoreunavailableyouare
themoreattractiveyoubecome.Sodontsayanytimeisgoodfor
me.Thisisanexcellenttimetosetupboundariesbysayingnothat
doesntworkforme.Womeneatitupthatyouhaveanopinionanda
fulllife.
5. Makesureyouendthecallfirst
Alwaysendtheconversationbeforeyourunintotalkingabout
eachotherandyourlives,orbeforeanuncomfortablepausehappens.
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Remember,tobecool,dontstressit,andbringthatfunenergy
intothephonecallthatyouvebeenhavingwiththetextmessages.
Bealittlebusyandlikeyougotalotonyourplate.Youcaneven
bringupthesamethingsyouweretextingherlikesodidyougetthe
kidstobedItsfunandsimple.Takecontroloftheconversation
earlyonbyaskingherquestionsaboutherselfandseewhensheis
availabletomeetup.SaytoherImbusytomorrowsohowaboutwe
bespontaneousandmeetuptonight.Dontsitthereandtalkforever.
Justseewhenshecanmeetupandletherknowifthatworksforyouor
not,andmeetupalready!Usually,youwanttoendoffwithher
laughing.Trysayingsomethinglike,yeahjusttrynottoembarrass
meoryeahanddontforgettopaintyourtoenails.orIhopeyoure
funtobewith.orAslongasyoulookgood.
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Decodingawomanstext
Itsimportantyouunderstandthatyouarereallynotdecodinga
womanstext,butratherconfidentlyhandlingthesituationsand
movingtheconversation.Forthemostpart,womenareresponders
andmenareinitiators.Womenmighttest,sendyouamixedsignalor
whatever,butshewillchangebasedontheconfidencethatcomesout
ofyou.Yourjobistonotbeaffectedbyherandkeepdoingyourthing.
Ifsheissendingatextmessagethatisiffyandyouarenotsure
whatisgoingon,thenWithdrawYourInterest.Ifawomansays,
somethingcameupandIcantmakeitIusuallydontrespondback
becausesheisnotgivingmeanycounteroffer.SoIwithdrawmy
interest.Youcantrycallingheroutandsaysheslameorsayshes
goingtomissout.Butforsomethinglikethat,Iusuallyjustleaveitand
putnothing.
Themostimportantthingyoucandoismoveon.Dothebest
youcantolearnfromwhathappened.Dontletitgettoyou.Move
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on.Womenbasetheirdecisionsonemotion,andrightthen,shewasnt
feelingit.Thatsfine.Thereareplentyofothergirlsthatwill.She
missedherchanceandwillhavetomakeituptoyouifshewantstosee
youagain.Ifsheflakedonyoutrysending,Sohowareyougoingto
makeuplastnighttome?
Understandwhatshereallymeans
IdontbotherwiththistoomuchbecauseIjustassume
thatshewantstoseemeandmightbealittleinsecureaboutit.
Thepersonthatcarestheleasthasthemostpower.Soyoure
goingtoliveyourlifeandbehappyregardlessofher.Youare
merelysharingthatwithher.
Whattosayback
Ifyoudontknowwhattosay,thendontsayanythingat
thatparticularmoment.Silenceisthebestanswer.Dontget
emotionallyinvolvedinwhatsheissaying;ifyouactfrom
emotion,thenyouarereactinginsteadofresponding.
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Respondingcorrectlytothehardesttextsshewillputonyou
Eitherdontanswerandignoreitortrytolookatthings
fromadifferentperspective.Thebestperspectiveiswhereyour
happinesscomesfirst.SoifshesaysDoyoulikeme?sayWell
ImstillgettingtoknowyouorYesasafriendorYeah
yourenice
Letssaysheasksyouaquestionyoudontwanther
knowingtheanswerto,likesayyouhadadatelastnightandshe
says,Whatdidyoudolastnight.Youcaneitherignoreherand
talkaboutsomethingelseorjustsay,Iwastalkingtoallofthe
dancersatthestripclubtoseeifyouwereanygoodforme.If
shesays,noreallyjustsay,Yeahandlaterweallhadahuge
orgy,youmissedoutDontgivein,shedoesntreallywantto
know.Shesjustactingoncuriousimpulsesandtestingtoseeif
youwillbreak.Youcouldjustsay,OhIwasoutwithafriend.
Whatdoyouthinkgirlssayinthesesituations?Womenarepros
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atbeingvagueandnottellingyouthingsthatyoumightnotlike.
Sheknowsyouwillleaveifshesays,yeah,Iwaswiththishot
guyandwehadsomecasualfun.Unlessyoureexclusive,you
dontneedtoknowallofeachothersbusiness.
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Section #7
Safetyconcernsfortextmessaging
Textinghasanimpersonalandunsafesidebecauseyoucannever
besurewhoisontheotherside.Thepointsbelowarehelpfultipsto
thinkaboutwhentextingandusingyourphone:
Don'tevertextpersonalinformationsuchasyourPINnumber,
password,orbankinginformationtoanyone.Remember,once
yousendthatinformationtoanotherperson,itgetsstoredin
theircellphone.Iveheardofafewaccountswhereaguy/girl
stolesomeonesphoneandtextmessagedallthepeopleonthe
phoneandgotvaluableinformation.Dontbethatpersonthat
becomesavictimtothis.Neverreleasevaluableinformation.
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Puttingapasswordonyourphonekeepsothersfromaccessing
yourtextlogsoremail.Thiswillalsopreventthievesfrom
stealinginformationstoredinyourphone.
Don'tforgettoeraseallyourpersonaldatabeforeselling,
recyclingordonatingyouroldphone.Manypeoplearestill
undertheimpressionthattakingoutyourSIM(Subscriber
IdentityModule)cardwilldothetrick,butthat'snotentirely
true.MostCingularandTmobilephoneshaveSIMcardswhile
someothercarriersuseaRUIM(RemovableUserIdentity
Module).You'llneedaseriesofcodestopermanentlydelete
storedinformation.Forthis,findoutifyourphonehasa"master
reset"feature,whichwipesoutallthestoreddataatonce.Since
everyphonehasadifferentsetof"masterreset"instructions,
you'llneedtoeitherlookthemuponlineoronyourphone's
manual.Recellularhasadatabaseofthesecodeswithstepby
stepinstructions.You'llneedyourphone'smakeandmodelto
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getstarted.Ifyoudon'tknowit,checkthebackofthephoneor
thebox.
Andlastbutnotleast,ultimately,thesecurityofprivatetext
messagesdependsontherecipient.
Keepthesepointsinmindandyoushouldhavenosecurity
problemswithtextmessaging.
ThisconcludesTheUltimateTextingGuide.
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already.Imalwaysreleasingnewinformationandadditionaltipsabout
howtobemoresuccessfulwithtextingandwomen.
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