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Makenna Dunn Period 4

8A: ARE YOU READY?


Suppose your 21 year old child or best friend came to you and asked the question, "How do you
know if you are ready for marriage?" How would you respond? If it will help, you may interview
two other people and list their answers in your paper. As you consider the factors predicting
marital success, look at your own past relationships. What factors, such as background,
personality characteristics, and relationship characteristics, might have predicted the quality of
your relationship? Were any particular characteristics especially important for you? Why?

Is he the one? Am I ready? These are only some of the questions that
come up when people are in love. But the most asked is, How do I know if
Im ready for marriage? There are many things that need to be considered
when thinking about marriage. Your background should be considered along
with personality and relationship factors. Under this main question How do I
know if Im ready for marriage? there are three sub-questions: Am I old
enough for marriage?, Do mine and my partners personalities complement
each other?, and last Has the relationship been stable through dating?.
The first question, Am I old enough for marriage? is a very important
question to consider. Young marriages are the most likely to fail out of any
marriage. The reason for this is the immaturity and impulsivity of the couple
(Strong & Cohen Pg. 291). Immaturity can cause all kinds of problems in a
relationship, not knowing how to properly handle conflict and disagreement
is the most hurtful. Being young also means that each partner has had little
educational attainment. When people marry at an older age, when they have
more education, they are more likely to have occupational and economic
success. When considering marriage, this question should have no gray area
for the answer.

Next question is Do mine and my partners personalities complement


each other?. Our personalities are fixed and unchanging(Strong &Cohen
Pg.293). If you go in to a relationship/marriage wanting to change the other
person, then just know that that relationship is doomed. You also need to
have the personality to be able to communicate your emotions and opinion
to your partner. Without this communication, it will be harder to solve
conflict. Personality is very important to the relationship and its success.
Last but not least is the question, Has the relationship been successful
while dating?. Courtship is the largest indication of how the marriage will
end up. If there is constant fighting and arguing during dating and courtship,
then most likely the marriage will go the same direction. During courtship,
partners discover what they like and dislike about each other and if they can
deal with what they dont like about their partner. If there has been only
arguing and disagreement about everything in courtship, then a marriage
probably will not work out.
Looking over yourself and your partner will help you to decide if you
are ready for marriage or not. Answering the questions above will also help.
There should be no gray area to any of the questions answers. If you arent
old enough, then dont risk a marriage. Taking a leap too early can affect
your future occupational and economic success. If you and your partners
personalities dont go well together, then the marriage is most likely not
going to go in your favor. And last, if there is trouble in the dating
relationship, then that is a sign that a marriage is probably not a good idea.

Take the answers to this question into consideration when asking yourself if
you are ready for marriage.

Reference:
Strong, B, & Cohen, T. F. (2014). The marriage and family experience: Intimate relationships in a
changing society (12th ed.). Belmont, CA: Wadsworth.

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