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Goal:
To be more assertive when I am talking to people. I will strive to stand up for myself, and be
open to expressing myself more.
Rationale:
Being other-oriented does not mean letting people intimidate or take advantage of you. It also
does not mean answering to aggressive mistreatment by being aggressive yourself. Assertiveness and
aggressiveness are two different things. (Beebe, Pg.179). I tend to feel intimidated and insecure when
someone is talking to me in an aggressive tone. Instead of standing up for my own rights and feelings, I
retreat and just take an avoidant approach to the situation.
Not being assertive comes feeling insecure in my ability to express myself, and by avoiding the
conflict and essentially let people talk down to me, I leave feeling more frustrated with myself than the
person who mistreated me. This is especially true in my work. I am a manager at a food company and I
deal with customers on a daily basis, people with all kinds of personalities. There are many occasions
that people have a problem and rather than talk to me about it, they explode at me and are very
aggressive in the way they talk to me. Instead of asking them not to talk they way that they are to me so
I can fix their complaint, I retreat and avoid the conflict by continuing to allow them to mistreat me. I
would like to be more assertive and expressive with my feelings.
Strategies:
By the time that my Personal Change Report is due, I will express myself in ways that I am not
insecure or afraid to stand up for myself when being mistreated.
1. Describe (Beebe, 181). The first thing I will need to do is describe the situation. For example
when people as swearing at me because one of my employees took their order wrong I will
describe to them that it is not okay to express their frustration at me in this way. I will be calm
discouraged with myself because not being assertive or confident communicating when I am being
approached in an aggressive manner has made me feel insecure in my communication abilities. The
more I improve and get better at being assertive the more confident I will feel in myself as far as
communicating my feelings.
Works Cited:
Beebe S., Beebe. S, & Redmond M. (2014). Interpersonal Communication: Relating to Others
(7th ed.). Boston: Pearson Publishers.