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Frustrated in your relationship?
Feeling Lonely?
With Te-Erika
Thank you for joining us here on Embrace Your Fantasy with Te-Erika
This week we will be speaking with two couples who are having issues in their
Our first couple is Joanie and Matt. They are both in their late twenties and living
together and they say they are not in a rush to get married. They have been together for 5
years and recently finished graduate school. Joanie is a 2nd grade teacher and Matt is an
engineer.
Te-Erika: We are pleased that you have joined us. Our staff tells us that you have an issue
that you have been trying to resolve for the past 6 months. Would you mind telling us
about it?
Matt: This is the issue. Well…Joanie and I haven’t been..you know.. Having sex lately.
She says it’s because I’m working too much but I don’t think that’s it. I think it’s because
she’s not interested in experimenting with me. After five years I’m tired of the same old
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thing but when I try to get her to get a little free with me, she declines and starts
Joanie: Well Te-Erika. Matt is the love of my life but he works over 60 hours a week.
When I do see him, I want to do things like go out on dates or cuddle and watch TV. He
doesn’t want to go out, he just wants to have sex. And then he had the nerve to bring a
plastic penis into bed with us one night. He had to sleep on the couch that night! I’m not
Which theory can we use to help this couple redirect their expectations and actions
Solution-focused brief therapy teaches you that if you do more of what has
Identifying of exceptions
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The “Miracle Question” – If you woke up tomorrow knowing that a miracle had
occurred, what would you see around you that would let you know that your
miracle happened?
Instead of talking about what you don’t want, identify what you DO want.
Class Participation: The class suggested that the couple revisit their most rewarding
intimate encounter and try to recreate that event. The class also suggested that they
communicate their ideals surrounding their expectations for sexual pleasure and come to
a compromise.
Now let’s meet Yolanda and Joseph. Yolanda and Joe are newly weds in their mid 30’s.
They have been dating for 3 years and have one child. Yolanda is a nurse and Joe is a
musician. Joe has a daughter from a previous relationship and it seems the stress of
Te-Erika: You have a beautiful family! How are things on the home front?
Yolanda: Things are going just fine. We’re working through our first year and it’s been a
bit of an adjustment but we both know that we love each other and we want this to work.
The only problem is, Joe doesn’t let me into his life entirely. Sometimes he’s upset and he
won’t tell me why. Then weeks later he’ll tell me about some drama he’s had with his
relationship, he would share this part of himself too. Sometimes it makes me feel as
Te-Erika: Joe. Is this an accurate depiction? What is happening from your perspective?
Joe: I keep telling Yolanda that I’m fine. Yes, I do have issues with my daughter’s mother,
but I don’t feel that I should burden Yolanda with them. I’m a man and as a man I’m
supposed to protect my woman from the world, besides, my issues with Chevelle’s Mom
feel like your relationship with her is more important than ours!
Which approach would you use to help this situation? Gauge your ability to help by
What would you say to Yolanda and Joe to help them to communicate more
effectively?
Class Participation: The class discussed a variety of approaches including the Family
Centered Approach- Which invites the entire family to sit down and discuss their needs as
a unit, rather than individually. When the family is able to communicate their emotions
and how they affect them as a unit, the respect they have for each other’s feelings will