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Susan Mosteller

FHS 2450
Professor Mark O. Jarvis
U1 Essay 1

September 15, 2015

Question: Parental Communication: Why do you think some parents (maybe yours included) are
hesitant to discuss sexuality with their children? If you are not a parent, do you think you will
communicate about sexuality like your parents or will you approach the subject differently? If
you are a parent, have you communicated to your children about sexuality? Was your approach
different than your parents?
Parental Communication
I believe there are a few main reasons why parents are reluctant to discuss sex and
sexuality with their children. The first reason I believe they dont discuss sex or sexuality is
because the parents are not comfortable with the topic themselves. Another reason I believe
parents arent willing to discuss the topic is because they are not educated enough and they dont
know what is considered age appropriate discussion. The final reason I believe parents dont
discuss sex or sexuality with their children is because of a parents own moral or religious
preferences concerning the subjects. Our class textbook says, Few topics generate as much
attention and evoke as much pleasure and distress as the expression and control of human
sexuality (Robert Crooks). I believe that the parents who view human sexuality subjects as
distressful are the same parents that have a difficult time communicating with their children
about these subjects.
When I was 16, and already sexually active, I was driving home from a concert with my
mom when she out of nowhere said to me, Susan, do you know about the birds and the bees?
To myself I giggled a little and then responded by saying, Yes mom I know about the birds and
the bees. She then said very uncomfortable, Well is there anything that you would like to know
or ask me about? My teenage response was, Eewww gross mom, No!

Susan Mosteller
FHS 2450
Professor Mark O. Jarvis
U1 Essay 1

September 15, 2015

Needless to say, I ended up a teenage pregnant girl my senior year and partly because I was
afraid to have birth control in the house that my mother might have been able to find. My mother
is very religious and would not have approved of me having sex at that age but I believe that if I
would have been able to talk open and honestly about those subjects with her a lot of things
might have been different in my life.
My oldest daughter is now 21 and while raising her I took a very different approach to
discussing sexuality with her than my mother took with me. The main difference being is that
from the time she was old enough to comprehend sexuality I actually talked about it. From
young initial toddler discussions teaching her the correct words for human anatomy to later
teenage discussions ranging from gender roles, gender stereo types, birth control, sex, and
sexually transmitted diseases my daughter and I have discussed it and continue to do so. I never
gave my daughter the option to tell me, No I dont want to talk about the birds and the bees. To
me that wasnt any kind of an option at all. Of course most subjects were uncomfortable to talk
about with my daughter at first because I was unsure about how to bring up subjects concerning
sexuality without making us both want to run for the hills. I tried many approaches but most
failed until I finally found a way that worked. For whatever subject I wanted to talk to her about I
would go to Barnes and Noble and find a correlating magazine article in one of the magazines
for sale. Then I would buy it, take it home, pretend to read it while she was sitting somewhere
close to me, and then say, Oh my gosh, this article is crazy. Listen to what I just read. It
worked every time.

Susan Mosteller
FHS 2450
Professor Mark O. Jarvis
U1 Essay 1

September 15, 2015

Using this approach to talk about and teach her different topics about sexuality has been a
great experience for us both. It has kept my daughter informed correctly about these topics, has
made it that she is able and comfortable to come to me when she has questions and not just some
random peer with lord knows what type of information, and most importantly to me has made
our mother daughter relationship close and amazing. I continue to use this discussion style with
my 10 and 7 year old sons and it is thus far working great. I believe parental communication with
your children about subjects concerning sexuality is an imperative need for a childs wellbeing,
safety, and education.

Works Cited
Robert Crooks, Karla Baur. Our Sexuality. Belmont: Jon-David Hague, 2014 Pg. 4.

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