2012

TIPS & TRICKS A SINGAPORE PRIVATE DETECTIVE WILL USE TO CATCH A CHEATING WIFE

BY SK INVESTIGATION SERVICES http://www.sk.com.sg A Leading Private Detective In Singapore

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Contents
INTRODUCTION ....................................................................................................................................... 3 PHYSICAL VERSUS EMOTIONAL INFIDELITY ............................................................................................ 4 REASONS WHY WOMEN CHEAT.............................................................................................................. 6 SIGNS YOUR WIFE MAY BE CHEATING ON YOU .................................................................................... 10 DIGGING DEEPER .................................................................................................................................. 13 CHOOSING THE RIGHT SINGAPORE PRIVATE DETECTIVE FOR YOUR INVESTIGATIVE NEEDS............... 16 TIPS AND TRICKS THE SINGAPORE PI WILL USE IN CATCHING A CHEATING WIFE ............................... 19 WHAT NEXT AFTER PI HAS UNCOVERED YOUR WIFES CHEATING WAYS? .......................................... 21 CONCLUSION......................................................................................................................................... 23

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INTRODUCTION
Unfaithfulness is one of the leading causes of divorce not only here in Singapore but worldwide. Men are more likely to cheat than women and when women cheat, they are most likely to be emotionally unfaithful compared to men who mostly have one night stands and are physically unfaithful. Most women use cheating as a tool to inflict pain and take revenge on their spouses and they are more likely to leave their husbands for the other man as they are more involved emotionally as compared to men who cheat. A man on the other hand can separate his emotions from the sexual act when with another woman. I am sure as a man reading this, you are wondering how your marriage will end up if your wife is indeed cheating on you. The introduction is not meant to scare you but to show you the facts collected from various surveys over the years. But you as a husband can rest assured that women are usually faithful in their marriages, and if she has to cheat, she has a good reason behind it (even though cheating on your spouse is a bad thing whatever the reason that prompted you to cheat). This book is dedicated to husbands and would be husbands and it aims to educate and advice you as well as give you a few guidelines here and there so as to ensure you have the best marriage you could possibly have. I will take you to a journey from reasons why women cheat, signs that your wife may be cheating on you, the difference between emotional and physical infidelity, the role of the private investigator in all these and some of the investigative techniques a Singapore private detective may use to help you come to an informed conclusion on whether your wife is cheating in you or not as well as provide advice on what to do if it turns out that your wife is unfaithful. Before we dwell any further into the contents of this book, it would be wise to define who a private detective is. This will help us be on the same page and in the same frame of mind as we go through the contents of this book. A private detective is an individual who can be hired by persons or groups to undertake investigatory work under a legal framework. They can also be referred to as private eyes, private investigators or inquiry agents. Most of the people who work as private investigators usually have a police training background or a law background. Most retired police officers and ex military personnel take up private investigative work as they are well trained to do so and they are able to

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use their skills and knowledge to get some extra income and keep busy after retirement. PHYSICAL VERSUS EMOTIONAL INFIDELITY Infidelity, be it physical or emotional lity, can lead to a broken marriage. We are going to see what entails emotional infidelity as well as physical infidelity and the impact it has on ones marriage. We do not want you to end up tearing wedding pictures due to a br broken heart and end of your relationship with your wife. Understanding what constitutes infidelity will help you take preventive measures so as to shield your marriage from unfaithfulness. Emotional infidelity is when someone not only invests more of their emotional energy outside their marriage, but also is a recipient of emotional support and utside companionship from the clandestine relationship. If your wife is having an nship emotional affair, she will feel closer to the other man and may experience increasing sexual apprehension. She will not be guilt ridden most of the time apprehension. because no sex is involved. Even though an emotional affair is all about emotional intimacy, it is still considered cheating as you are opening up to another person and sharing your most intimate thoughts with them. Most women who have emotional relationships may end up falling in love with the other man and withdraw completely from her husband or significant other. Being emotional unfaithful is a sign that she has checked out of the marriage and high chances are she has moved on and it will take a lot of time and effort to bring her back to the marital fold. Physical infidelity is all about sex and nothing more. Your loins are the only thing that will be involved in the concealed affair and nothing more. It has no ed emotional basis to it and mainly involves a one night stand. Most people find it easier to forgive physical indiscretions as compared to emotional infidelity as

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they have hope that the partner is not checked out of the marriage. Physical affairs always leave the woman riddled with guilt and she may not venture outside the marital bed again. But an emotional affair is very dangerous as i progresses over time and the more feelings and emotions are exchanged and shared, the more the bond is formed and exchanged the high likeliness that it would turn physical. When it does turn physical, there will be deep emotions involved in their love making tryst and your wife may even leave you for her lover. Whichever way you look at it, infidelity is still infidelity and it may lead to not only a broken hurt but also a broken marriage. At the end of the day, marriage is about staying faithful to your spouse, both physically and emotionally, as well as the vows that you made before God and sundry. Depending on the husband s and wife in the relationship, the years spent in marriage can either go down the drain or it may be rescued and many more added to it. The choice is yours to make.

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REASONS WHY WOMEN CHEAT

Men are from Pluto, and Women are from Mars. This famous anecdote that is n repeated time and again echoes true with regards to reasons why men and women cheat on their significant others. Men cheat simply because they can cheat and to boost their egos (both physical and sexual egos), and it is most of physical the time about the thrill of having forbidden sex; whereas women cheat due to a variety of reasons depending on each individual woman but it almost all boils down to her emotional needs and wants as well as emotional triggers. For a man emotional sex is more of a conquest as compared to a woman who sees sex as an expression of love. I will try to elaborate on some few reasons why women would cheat on their significant others. Neglect your wife at your own peril! The number one reason why most women cheat on their spouses is feeling their neglected, unappreciated, ignored and undervalued in her marriage and in her own home. A woman is a wife, a mother, a lover and a homemaker all rolled into one. In the modern world, a woman is also a career woman. The woman also plays different roles all at a go when she is at home: She has to make sure that her husband and children are well fed, the house is clean, the clothes are ironed and kept in its proper place, the husband is well tendered to se sexually and

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emotionally, among many other duties. If you cannot take some time out of your busy schedule to hang out with her, take her out for an alone time or a romantic getaway, and instead make her feel as a house help rather than the beautiful mother of your children, the sexy wife and the efficient homemaker f that she is, woe unto you! Your wife may just get someone out there who will listen to her and appreciate her as well as be attentive to her and soon the coffee dates will turn into hot, steamy bedroom sessions. Neglect your wife at your bedroom own peril! Wrath of a Wife Scorned Hell hath no fury than a woman (wife) scorned. If your wife has caught you with your pants down, time and again and your apologies seem to be only words with no meaning or weight behind it, then be prepared for her retaliation. Revenge is a dish best served cold and what a man can do, a woman can do better, seems to be the mantra the hurting wife will take into account. Sleeping with another man will be her way of getting you back, evening the playing field and showing you that she can dish out as much as she is served and even more. If you have ever cheated on your wife, apologise, change your behaviour, keep it in the pants and go for marriage counselling so as to start the healing process. The downside of revenge healing is that somebody is bound to get hurt, and most likely it is your children and high chances of transmitting sexual and other deadly diseases to each other. Retaliation sometimes is not the best defence. Monotony in the Boudoir udoir Ever since you have been married, you have had sex in the same position and no variety has ever been added to your bedroom activities. Variety is the spice of
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life, and when the spice lacks in the sex department; your wife may decide to go to look for excitement elsewhere. She may hook up with that hank of a stud in her office and turn her bedroom fantasies to reality. The man will take her to a journey in the boudoir like no other she has ever had in you and the excitement may lead her to take up the adventure and journey in another mans arms. Make sure you keep your wife sexually satisfied and make your love making an experience to remember and to look forward to two to three times in a weekly basis, depending on you and your wifes libido and preferences. Try picking a date in the month for the next one year where you will learn new sex positions as well as love making games so as to spice up your bedroom affairs. You will be guaranteed she will not stray from your marital bed. Self Esteem Self esteem is determined by the way a woman views herself and how attractive she is to you and how sexually and physically enticing she is to you. If your wife feels you find her revolting, judgemental on how she looks and what she wears and whenever she wants to take a sex trip with you in the bedroom or a quickie in the lounge and you keep rejecting her and making her feel unappealing to you, she may decide to venture outside and into the arms of the man who will make her feel like an attractive, sexually appealing woman. All the man has to do is compliment her, flirt with her, tell her how beautiful and sexy he finds her as well as pays attention to her needs and desires, she will give herself fully to him and make her little haven with him somewhere. Make sure you compliment your wife at all times, treating her to a beauty treatment once a month. If you see she is gaining weight and you do not like it, take an evening stroll with her or find creative ways you can exercise together. That will make her feel attractive and will make your marital bond stronger. Other Reasons Apart from the four major reasons mentioned above, women may cheat because they want to experiment and expand their sexual repertoire; if there are issues in the marriage she does not want to deal with, she may deal with it by cheating on you; if she wants to leave the marriage without too much hullabaloo, she may cheat on you so as you can let her go; if she is resentful because of the way you treat her; or some cheat simply because the opportunity presented itself and they took it up.
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Understanding the reasons behind why your wife may decide to cheat on you will help you in deciphering the signs on whether or not your wife is cheating on you. Women are very secretive and it is very hard to catch a woman red handed cheating on her significant other, unless she wants to get caught so as to instigate her revenge plan or leave you without much fuss.

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SIGNS YOUR WIFE MAY BE CHEATING ON YOU

As a husband, it is very hurtful and heart breaking to have your wife cheating on you. It is a blow to your ego as it makes you feel like you are not man enough to reign in your wife and satisfy her needs and desires. I am sure the previous section on the reasons why your wife may cheat on you has given you some insight and something to think about. If you have not yet taken up preventive action so as to ensure that your wife is not cheating on you, you may end up with a broken marriage and divorce papers on your hands. In this section, I will elaborate some of the major and minor signs your wife may exhibit if she is cheating on you. As discussed in a previous section, women can cheat physically or emotionally and emotional infidelity is usually a precursor to physically infidelity in most cases. Without much ado, here are some of the signs your wife may be unfaithful to you: The need for attention and intimacy decreases rapidly When your wife suddenly is not bothered by you not giving her enough attention or even being intimate with her both emotionally and physically, she may be getting her needs met somewhere else. She stops telling you how her day was and also stops getting you to pay attention to her. If she used to nag the heck out of you, the nagging decreases significantly and she does not keep requesting you to do things time and again. If you are not going to pay your wife the attention she deserves, she may just find someone else to take her seriously and meet her needs. She starts paying attention to her appearance When you have been married for some time, you will notice that your wife has let go of herself, as many men put it, as the woman has already bagged herself a man and he has put a ring on it. She no longer dresses as fancy and fashion forward as she used to when you were dating and when you were in the honeymoon phase of the marriage. You are used to her wearing torn old t-shirts to bed and the old, ugly looking stalking on her head, some long socks and other items of clothing that make getting physical intimate a tad bit hard. When she goes to work, she dresses like an old lady, covering each and every part of her body for none to see. When all of a sudden she starts wearing sexy lingerie and clothes that are revealing some leg or cleavage when she is going to the office,

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you have a reason to worry. She may just be dressing up for someone else, taking her time to wax, manicure, pedicure and do facials bi-monthly and even keeping up with the latest trends. Some other man may be wooing her and sweeping her off her feet, so she takes her time to look the part. Your wife may also decide to take up some weight loss and weight management program as well as check on what she is eating and making sure she is in the best physical shape that she can be. You may write it off as concern for her well being, seeing that she gained a few pounds in addition to the baby weight over the years. You may also think it is because you paid for her the gym a year ago and she has finally gotten the hint that you want her to cut down on some of her extra weight and love handles. That might just be further from the truth. She may simply be doing this so that she can hook up with that guy in the opposite cubicle who flirts with her daily, and calls her cute, cuddly and beautiful. If you do not show your wife that she is attractive to you and you keep putting a dent on her self esteem, then you might lead her to the arms of another man. She no longer cares or gets angry or frustrated with you. You have not taken the garbage put when she asked you to, you come home expecting the lecture of a lifetime and she just gives you a peck on the cheek and seems cool, calm and collected. You have come home an hour late and even forgotten that you has a dinner date with her, she does not show even a single morsel or hint of anger. You forgot that it was a special occasion, maybe the day your first kissed, nothing! My brother, wake up and smell the coffee! While you are busy not doing what she asked you to do and she does not seem to be bothered by your behaviour, or lack of, she is busy having a hot and steamy affair with that young stud in the office who caters and responds to her every whim. You should ask yourself why she no longer gets offended by the small and big things you used to do that drove her crazy. You might not like the answer that you get. Secretive and Information not forthcoming When your wife stops divulging information to you about her day, the milkman, the guy at the grocery, that irritating secretary at the office, that next door neighbour and all the other tales she used to regal you with, then you are in trouble. May be she us giving you the silent treatment, but most likely, she is

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sharing her day, thoughts, ambitions and aspirations to some other guy who is a good listener and has time for her many tales and stories. When you find out that she was promoted or one of her relatives was sick a month ago and she told you nothing about it, you should be concerned. A woman is open and willing to share every part of her day, even the irrelevant facts to someone she is intimate with. She is not secretive and takes time to connect with you emotionally. When your wife starts keeping secrets and does not share anything personal with you, you should dig deeper and find out the reason behind it. Bedroom Matters You consider your wife as a prude. She is not adventurous in bed and she squirms at any mention of spicing up the love making experience. You have even tried to get her to have sex in the shower, somewhere apart from the bed with the lights off, but she will have none of it. All of a sudden, she starts becoming a gymnast in bed, unleashing styles you have only seen or read about in the Kama sutra. She becomes very experimental in the boudoir and even agrees to do the deed with the lights on, in the shower, on the coffee table and even a quickie in your office when she drops off the folder you left at home. As a husband, you should be apprehensive and find out where she is learning to embrace sex and sexuality from. I hope it is not from another man! Still speaking of bedroom matters, when you find some sex toys hidden and a set of sexy lingerie and other sensual stuff put in a secret compartment, and they appear to be used, am afraid you need to get worried before you get infected or left behind wifeless. It is better you learn the bedroom manoeuvres together so as to be absolutely sure she is not getting lessons from some other guys bed. Over Affectionate and Space When a woman is cheating on her significant other and her conscious is tearing at her, she will tend to be over affectionate with you so as to get rid of her guilt. She stops nagging you and lets you put your feet up on the table, buying you presents and even letting you watch your favourite football match instead of her favourite soap. She will also shower you with kisses and when you ask for your conjugal rights, she will be giving without any hesitations. She will also respect your personal space and will not question you when you go out till the wee hours of the morning. By giving you your space to thrive and do what you want to do, she expects that you will also respect her need for personal space and
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time as well as privacy. This will give her an opportunity to meet up with her clandestine lover for her night or afternoon of love, seduction and passion. If your wife was once a control freak who never let you have any free time or go anywhere without giving you a hard time about it, she may be occupied elsewhere to be bothered. Too much space and too much showers of love and affection may be a sign of danger. Other signs The fact that it is hard to read the signs on whether your wife is cheating on you or not as it is difficult to read a woman as compared to a man, the other tell tale signs of a cheating wife include: Mood swings where she is happy with you one moment and the other she does not want to lay her eyes on you, smelling of a mans cologne (she may tell you she wanted to buy you a bottle as a present), picking arguments over non issues, working overtime most nights, going for more company trips, having more girls night out as well as spending more time online and password protecting her phone and personal computer. She may also pick up a new hobby, start listening to genres of music she previously did not like, and even start hypothetical questions on what you would do if you fell in love with someone else or found someone else more attractive than her. Please take note that the signs outlined above are not an absolute, fool proof way of ascertaining that your wife is cheating on you. It is just an indicator that things are not well in your marital union and your wife may have ventured outside of the confines of the marital bed and marriage vows to go get her freak on. You should in no way confront your wife with allegations of cheating if you do not have incontrovertible evidence to back up your claims of being cheated on. The next section will help you ascertain whether or not the signs mentioned above are an indicator that she is cheating on you or maybe there is something else going through her mind that needs to be resolves as soon as humanly possible.

DIGGING DEEPER
There are many ways to catch a cheating wife and this section is a do it yourself guide on how to dig deeper and establish whether the signs you are seeing are
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not a mere fiction of your imagination. Below are some questions you should ask yourself and answer honestly.

1. Keep a dairy or a journal of all the events and sayings that seemed odd to you or uncharacteristically out of place and against the norm for your wife. You may even note down the date and time and place so as to refresh your 2. 3. memory. Does she seem happier and have a bounce to her step of late? Does she always have a glow on her face that you have not seen before? Has your wife picked up new hobbies? Has she started to listen to genres of music and watch movies that are out of character for her and do not fit into her preferences and tastes? Check on her reactions when you do something that previously irritated her. Does she show concern or simply ignores it? Does it arouse anger in her or does she seem calm and nonchalant nonchalant? Has she picked up new moves in the bedroom? Is she more experimental and open to try new things? Does she pay more attention to her appearance than before? Has she taken up initiative to get into better physical shape? Is she over affectionate with you? Does she give you more space, free time and privacy? Has she become more secretive? Does she keep her phone and computer out of reach? Has she password protected her phone and personal computer?

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As a husband, you should keep vigil and be observant of her behaviours and daily routine. You can decide to go through her phone or put a spyware on her phone or computer so as to get details of who she is talking to and what about.

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You could also put a GPS tracker on her phone as well as her car so that you can trace her movements. You may also go through her purse or her car if need be. But all these can land you into trouble with the law and your wife. The best thing to do is to hire a Singapore private detective who will track down all the evidence and facts you need so that you can plot your way forward. Never confront your wife without any tangible and undeniable proof of her philandering ways. A Singapore private detective is at a better place to put your mind at ease, for a small fee.

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CHOOSING THE RIGHT SINGAPORE PRIVATE DETECTIVE FOR YOUR INVESTIGATIV E NEEDS
First and foremost, you should have a clear idea on what exactly you need from the private detective before you go and hunt for one. You should do a little research to find out the requirements to become a certified Singapore private detective and what exactly a private detective does so that you can choose a private detective who will meet your expectations as far as determining whether or not your wife is an unfaithful woman. Having suspicions that your wife may be a philanderer may take a toll on you physically, mentally as well as emotionally so finding the well right private detective in Singapore for you is highly advised. Below I will enumerate a quick guideline on how to choose the right Singapore private detective for your investigative needs needs.

1) The Singapore private detective must be licensed. You should confirm the date of registration and licensing of the private investigator and when his or her license expires. You can go to the Security Industry Regulatory

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Department (SIRD) website to confirm that the private investigator is licensed or go to any Singapore police department near you. SIRD will also give you information on whether there has been any complaints lodged against the private investigator, the action taken, whether or not any disciplinary action has ever been taken against the private eye and if his or her professional conduct has ever been questioned. Steer clear of private detectives who have complaints lodged, their conduct questioned and disciplinary action taken against them. When you go for a consultative meeting, this is the first meeting with the private investigator and it is usually free, check on his professional and academic credentials. Do his or her credentials meet your expectations? Is he or she well qualified to take up your case? Ask for referrals as well as the experience of the private investigator in conducting an investigation that is similar to yours. Does the investigator meet your experience threshold? Keep in mind that experience triumphs academic credentials so do not dismiss an investigator before you are sure that their credentials and experience is not what you need. The rapport you have with the private detective is also important. Does the investigator make you feel comfortable? Does he or she understand your needs and has he or she presented a solution that is comfortable to you? Does the investigator give you the impression that he or she knows what they are doing? Do you gel with the private investigator? How well does he communicate? If a good rapport is not there, move on and find yourself a good Singapore private detective. Is the investigator insured? Does he or she have an indemnity cover? Does he or she have a personal accident cover? If the private detective is not insured, do not work with him or her as anything can happen during the investigation leaving you with a huge bill on your hands. The price to undertake your investigation is also important. Does he or she offer a reasonable price? What is the mode of payment? What constitutes the final price? Does he require a retainer? Who else will be working on your case? What are their qualifications and experience? You need to ensure that everyone who is handling your case is competent and well qualified and experienced.

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You should also ask for the timeline of when the private investigator expects to deliver the results of the investigation, mode and frequency of communication as well as the type of evidence he or she will collect. Before you sign on the dotted line and hire the private investigator, make sure your attorney goes over it and advices you accordingly. Keep an open mind as the evidence may clear or implicate your wife on infidelity charges and it may also unearth things about your wife you wish you never knew. Keep an open mind and be prepared for any potential outcome. Make sure you do not let anyone know that you have hired a private detective to look into your wifes affairs and act normal around her as letting the cat out of the bag or even acting suspiciously may jeopardise the investigation.

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TIPS AND TRICKS THE SINGAPORE PI WILL USE IN CATCHING A CHEATING WIFE
It has been said that catching a woman who is cheating on her significant other is quite hard and a tasking job. As a husband, you may be leaving with a cheating wife and you will be none the wiser. For this reason, hiring a private detective is advised. A Singapore private detective has a few tips and tricks up his or her sleeve that will be utilized in determining whether or not your wife is living a double life or not. I will try to outline some of the tips and tricks a Singapore Private detective may use in pursuant of facts in your infidelity case. Surveillance: Surveillance requires experience and creativity to solve cases and uncover the facts. The PI is equipped with high-tech cameras and video gear, as well as highly developed communication capabilities for observation and documentation of data in all surveillance cases. The surveillance can be done on foot, using a vehicle or using the global positioning system (GPS) and a GPS tracker. The PI will follow your wife in her daily endeavours over a period of time and document her movements and interactions using audio-visual devices so that you can see firsthand what your beloved wife has been up to. This is the most used method by private detectives when determining your wifes faithfulness as it gives them collaborative evidence on a real time basis. Most women have a love nest in a secure place or meet up with their lovers in motels and hotels during lunch hours and other free time, having their illicit affair and get home in time to make you dinner with no hair out of place. So surveillance is the best way to catch a cheating wife.

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Cell Phone Surveillance: The private detective will install a software on your wifes phone that will help him or her keep track of her text messages and phone calls, both outgoing and incoming. The PI will also be able to scroll through her contact list and come up with a detailed report on who she speaks with, about what and the frequency of calls or texts from each number, listed and unlisted on her phone. This will not tell the PI much but it will give him or her lead on where to look so as to dig up more evidence of her philandering ways. Document Analysis: The Singapore private detective will go through the credit : private card bills as well as phone bills so as to see what your wife purchased, where they purchased it, when and at what time it was bought. You may be surprised to note that your wife bought some sexy underwear as well as some present over Valentines Day yet you never saw her in it or received any present. Maybe she shared that with her lover. The phone bill will also be scrutinised with a fine microscope so as to come up with a detailed analysis on who she called or who called her and how who often the calls were made to and fro a certain number. She may have saved him as plumber John on her phone, but it is not the water pipes he is working on! From the information gathered from the analysed data, the private detective wi will follow up on the numbers that pop up often and do a background check so as to establish where him and your wife may have met or if they have anything in common that may have brought them together. Digital Forensics: This is the assessment of digital media in a forensically sound way with the aim of identifying, preserving, recovering, analyzing and presenting facts and opinions with reference to the information obtained. Digital
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forensics involves computer forensics, e-mail tracking as well as data recovery and phone surveillance. Digital forensics requires an individual who is well versed with computer science or any information communication technology related field. Most women do not cheat using online methods or surf through pornographic sites, but some may do a little bit of internet dating or catch up with an old flame via social media which may eventually lead to a physical meeting and a romp in the sack. The private detective in Singapore will go through her laptop or personal computer so as to retrieve information that will help in the case. A Singapore private detective may combine all the three methods depending on the complexity of the case so as to come up with air tight evidence to proof or disproof your allegations about a cheating wife. Keep an open mind as the results of the investigation may go either way. Whatever the outcome of the investigations will be, remember to keep a cool and calm head.

WHAT NEXT AFTER PI HAS UNCOVERED YOUR WIFES CHEATING WAYS?

Finding out that your wife has been unfaithful can be quite devastating and earth shattering as well as heart breaking. What you do after you have the evidence of her infidelity is what will define the future of your marriage. The first thing you should do is talk to your wife and find out the reason why she has been sleeping in another mans arms. Present to her the evidence you have acquired in a cool, calm and collected manner. Remember that a conversation does not include accusations and counter accusations as well as shouting matches and argument. Talk as adults and come to a mutual decision. The worst that could happen is that your wife may decide that she wants a divorce as she is in love with someone else. Here are some of the tips and advice you can follow so as you can have peace of mind and face your future bravely: Forgive & Forget I know it hurts right now but a cheating wife may indicate that there is a problem in the relationship that you two need to deal with. Accept the role you have played in contributing to her cheating and work together to resolve your problems. It may take a long while to forgive her and even a little bit longer to

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forget what she did but eventually it will be a stepping stone to a stronger marriage. Forgiving her unfaithfulness will also give you peace of mind and it will free your heart from heart and pain. Do not go confronting the other man, deal with your wife as she is the one you are angry at and hurt by. Counselling It is advisable to take up marriage counselling so that you can talk through all your issues and feelings and pain as well as hurt in a neutral environment so as to come to a conclusive solution about all the problems and issues that may arise before, during and after counselling. This is especially important if your wife cheating on you because you cheated on her first and if it is due to self esteem issues. Make sure that you both put the effort and work required as well as time and other resources so as to ensure that your marriage gets back to the right footing. Counselling will also help for both of you to understand each other better in terms of needs and wants. Rebuild the Relationship Infidelity usually leads to lack of trust between the partners as well as other pent up emotions may rise to the surface. It will take time and effort to rebuild your relationship as its foundation is already shaken. Start dating each other again like you did before you got married, taking time to learn about each other. You can also take up a hobby that both of you agree on and create time for romance. You will not have the same relationship that you had before the infidelity, but strive to have an open, trustworthy and loving relationship that is nurtured each and every single day. On the flip side If your wife had the affair so that she could twist your arm into divorcing her, then she may not be willing to rebuild a relationship with you. If you cannot trust your wife and you continue keeping tabs on her, it is better that you have a trial separation or a divorce. You cannot have a relationship that lacks in trust. If your wife is an apologetic or is a serial cheater, you will have to forgive her and live with her or forgive her and leave her. Whatever you decide to do, the ball is in your court. And remember that just because she cheated on you once does not necessarily mean she will cheat on you again.

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CONCLUSION
Finding out your wife has cheated on you requires some observation skills as well as investigative work. It is not advisable to confront your wife based on suspicion alone. You will need to get solid proof and verify your suspicions before having a dialogue with your wife about her behaviour and how it is affecting you. A Singapore private detective will be able to collect the evidence you require so as to not accuse your wife falsely or make a fool of yourself. Having a private investigator who is licensed, you have a good rapport with and has the qualifications, experience and understanding to handle your case discreetly at a reasonable price is advisable. Keep an open mind and come ase up with an action plan of all the possible outcomes and how you will handle each outcome. At the end of the day, you have the choice to stay with your cheating wife or leave, the decision is solely your own.

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