Soul Mate Dreams

By Ariadne Green, author of

Divine Complement, 2006

"I saw my former lover (male) all dressed

in black holding red roses and he said a
part of me will always belongs to you."--
anonymous dreamer.

Why do I keep dreaming about my old

flame? Am I missing him or what?

Recurring dreams starring ex-lovers or about a

relationship you thought was long over, such as a
marriage that ended badly, can be haunting and
perplexing. Just when you think you have buried the
relationship and have finally let go, a dream unearths
the bones from the burial, resurrects the lover and
you may find yourself back in the throws of the
passionate love affair you so cherished before. The
possible dream scenarios are many, from cuddling in
bed to fighting like you always did over next to
nothing. Dreams like these seem to reconcile a
deep sense of loss, sort out the bad residual feelings
and somehow make right what went wrong.

For a man or a woman who is married to someone

else and with children in the next room, a dream of
reconciliation with someone from their past may be
at best unsettling. One may naturally wonder if they
are secretly so dissatisfied with their present
relationship that they are looking for a higher volume
of love with someone from their past. Or, is it that
they are in bondage to the dream lover and
helplessly subject to their desires? Most may not
consider their dream mate is really their soulmate.

Although not all dream lovers are soul mates or as I

prefer to call them Divine Complements, a large
number are, pointing to a mysterious soul-to-soul
connection that lingers beyond the duration of an
ordinary commitment. Divine Complements
collaborate and interact in the psychic realms even
when a relationship in real life is deemed impossible.
The collaboration at the otherworldly dimensions is
realized in dreams as the consciousness of one
collides with the consciousness of their twin to share
intimate details about their lives, such as thoughts,
pursuits and desires for reconciliation. From these
dreams one becomes cognoscente that there is a
spiritual purpose to the relationship that goes beyond
conscious attitudes, personal ideals, promises to
others, desires and personal needs. The purpose is
a divine one.

Divine Complements or twin souls are mysteriously

linked through a heart bond. A signature exists within
an invisible heart matrix, an aspect of the oversoul
linking twin souls together through a code of light
and harmony. Therefore, twin souls are forever bound
at a dimension of spirit in much the same way that
we are connected to God. This bond is of a divine
nature and higher order than emotional bonds or
psychic connections and represents a sacred and
spiritual covenant- a promise that is spirit driven.
Called the Stellar Promise, this commitment has
origins are before the fall, when both were birth out
of a creative miracle of God's intention of
comparable partnership.

This signature at the heart has lasted for eons and

drives twin souls together to fulfill their life purpose
together lifetime after lifetime. If and when they
meet again the spiritual chemistry between them is
hopefully enough to ignite their hearts to recognize
the deep bond as greater than any romantic ideal.
When all goes as planned twin souls become
intimate and commit to a lasting partnership or
friendship.

Too many times however the soul and spirit driven

connection is not enough to outweigh the problems
associated with conflicting personalities. Twin souls
part without having had the opportunity to reconcile
the past, such as making up for their mistakes in past
lives. The well laid out promises they made for this
incarnation in their soul contract, may fall to
irreconcilable differences or a poverty of love.
Falling from grace, they drift apart only to reunite
once in a while in the dreamscape to share in the joy
of their continued communion at the heart.

Longing and Pining Dreams

The emotional connection we feel for our Divine

Complement is a bond of human love. This love can
be preserved, respected and prized or it can be
trampled on, buried, abandoned, and even destroyed
by our carelessness. Our human condition is
appreciated for its ability to bond deeply with
another human being. The emotional bond with our
Divine Complement is doubled in strength because of
an even stronger soul and spirit connection, one that
is impossible to dissolve completely because soul
mates share a room in each other's hearts forever.

Prolonged emotional attachment, however, can

cause one to pine for their twin for years. Some
may never be able to let go completely. It seems that
they are set adrift on an endless sea of restless
waves until the heart gives way to acceptance and
forgiveness. At some point, they should arrive at
some level of understanding that even a twin soul
relationship can end abruptly and without closure.
Those who hang on too long tend to recreate the
pain of their loss by revisiting the memories of the
relationship over and over again. They may
daydream about the good times and ponder
unanswerable questions about what went wrong.
Full of guilt, anger, and grief, they drown their
creativity making it hard to fulfill the more
independent goals they have for their life including
maybe finding someone else. Nothing in their life
seems to have the same magic and they have little
passion for what does. Even more heart wrenching
is the evaporation of the dreams and hopes for the
future, growing old together and fulfilling their
children's future side by side. Life may go on,
finances recover, but the subconscious clings. Some
will dream of reunion even when their soul mate has
buried the friendship and danced on its grave. They
just can't accept its over. In this case, a dream where
they are reunited again may merely be the result of
an unconscious desire to reconcile the loss. It is
pure wish fulfillment. It is as if the dream arrives
with a magical elixir to mend the broken heart. A
"reconciling dream" attempts to reconcile the losses
even when there is no point to a real reconciliation.
It seems to temporarily satisfy a deep subconscious
need for continued love.

The Soul Mourns

For others, the bond and yearning may not be as

conscious a choice. The soul itself appears to have a
lot at stake in keeping old promises alive. Soul
contracts that were laid to fulfill the promises for the
incarnation that could not be completed because
there was not sufficient time, may necessitate the
soul stay connected in the ethers. The karma weighs
heavy on the soul and a solution is sought, one that
will fulfill the Stellar Promise as well as the promises
for the life. In such a case, a dreamer may find their
"twin" showing up in their dreams expressing love
and devotion, especially at times when they may
need a helping hand. The 'dream reunion' will fill
each with a strong sense of wellbeing and even joy.

I ran into a woman recently who when I told her I was

a dream expert disclosed that she was plagued by
dreams about her ex-husband. Although she insisted
she seldom thinks about him during the day, at night
he's the leading man in most of her dreams. The
dreams' scenarios though always different, pointed
to a continuing desire to reconcile feelings of guilt
and responsibility about the distance now between
them. Intuitively, I could see that they were Divine
Complements who still had a great deal of karma to
clear up for a past life as well as a great deal of
continued love housed in their hearts for each other.
In her case, her soul was committed to advance his
soul through a soulful communion of nighttime
communications. She was nurturing him in the only
way she could-- at a distance.

Psychic bonds between intimate partners can present

challenges after two have separated. When psychic
connections persist they are experienced as
anywhere from being tuned in from time to time to
sharing an overcrowded psychic space and feeling
overrun with unwanted emotions. It is not unusual
for soul mates to sense when the other is in danger,
has suffered a loss or is in the midst of a personal
crisis. They may even to well up suddenly with
unexplainable emotions never suspecting they are
picking up on their soul mates mood through psychic
channels. A dream may even spell out the details
of their soul mate's crisis offering an open window
view of their personal dilemmas. These psychic
experiences constitute a strong psychic bond that is
undeniable and that can be difficult shake. For
those remaining loyal and steadfast to their soul
contracts, their willingness to see their Divine
Compliment through tough times may add to their
own suffering. They will unconsciously run to the
rescue taking on the karma of their soul mate, not
realizing how overburdened by their soul mate's
problems they are. They may wake up feeling
exhausted and unable to figure out a reason for their
restless sleep.
The Death of a Spiritual Spouse

A soul mate who has left the earthly plane may

revisit their spiritual spouse for quite some time,
making their way into their dreams at night for a
chance to communicate. These dreams are
remarkable otherworldly communications and often
touch the heart of the dreamer like nothing else can,
soothing some of the sense of loss and instilling faith
in an afterlife. However, not all such dreams are
actual visitations. A young women who was anxious
to uncover why her old high school and college
sweetheart was the character in so many dreams,
shared her dream with me. Admittedly, her soul
mate's tragic death had left a vacuum in her heart,
but she felt it was time to let him go especially
because she was now happily married to someone
else. The dream that stood out was one in which
she was in a house with her sweetheart, who was
very much alive. She was revisiting the relationship.
In the dream, his family was accusing her of not
treating him with the love and respect he deserved
and she was defending against their allegations.
She mentioned that in truth his family had always
embraced her as one of the family, therefore it was
hard to imagine that they were actually harboring
any anger or casting any real blame on her. The
dream was revealing unconscious shame and
feelings of guilt surrounding the end of their
relationship. She was blaming herself for her
shortcomings, despite the fact that she couldn't
consciously admit any wrongdoing. The shear fact
that he died suddenly and at such a young age was
enough cast a level of shame on her. Her
unconscious just couldn't let go of the fact that she
would never be able to see him again and make up
for any times when she fell short of her commitment
to love.

Second Chance Dreams

Some dreams may hold a secret promise of

fulfillment and signal it's time to reunite for a second
chance. "Second chance dreams" come as signs that
the door is open for a future reunion and that
perhaps a phone call can smooth the way for a new
beginning. I ran into a man recently who said that
he reconnected with his Divine Complement,
someone he dated in college, after he had a dream
that told him that he would marry her. He told me
that shortly after the dream he heard from her cousin
that she had divorced recently and he couldn't resist
ringing her up and asking her out. The dream
illuminated their destiny and coaxed him enough to
make a move to make his dream come true. It did.
Discerning whether a dream offers any hope for a
second chance or whether it is pure wish fulfillment
is difficult. If the dream reoccurs it may be
worthwhile to consider that it may be paving the way
for a second chance.