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Parenting by Example For Drug

Free Kids

By K.D. Hardy

Copyright 2011 by K.D. Hardy Parenting by Example By K.D. Hardy Printed in the United States ISBN 978-0-9844314-7-2 All rights reserved solely by the author. The author guarantees all contents are original and do not infringe upon the legal rights of any other person or work. No part of this book may be reproduced in any form without the permission of the author. The views expressed in this book are not necessarily those of the publisher. Cover art by Shelley A.W. Roy Design by Shelley A.W. Roy FOR INFORMATION, CONTACT: KD UNLIMITED P.O. Box 772 Bessemer, Alabama 35021 Phone: 1-866-515-6852 Please visit our website at www.kdhardyspeakstoyouth.com

Table of Contents
Table of Contents
BAD FRIENDS BAD VS. WRONG TRACK GETTING TO KNOW THE FRIEND MYSTERIOUS ITEMS WHERE DID THIS COME FROM? HOW TO HANDLE YOU DONT TRUST ME! LYING UNACCEPTABLE LYING MAKING IT EASIER FOR T HEM TO BE HONEST BEING IRRESPONSIBLE GETTING THE SCHOOLWORK DONE SLACKING IN CHORES AND AFTER SCHOOL ACTIVITIES PRIORITIES FOCUSING ON THINGS INSTEAD OF RELATIONSHIPS LAZINESS WANTING SOMETHING FOR NOTHING BUT I DONT WANNA RECOMMENDED READING FOR TEENS WHEN TO GET A JOB SNEAKINESS 24 ARENT ALL KIDS SNEAKY ? 24 9 9 10 11 11 13 15 15 16 17 17 19 20 20 21 21 22 22 23

EXAMPLE REASONS WHAT IF SOMETHING BAD HAPPENS SMOKING ITS NOT TECHNICALLY A DRUG, RIGHT ? NO MEANS NO LACK OF PURPOSE WHAT AM I DOING WITH MY LIFE? TOO MUCH TELEVISION GANGS ARE G ANGS GATEWAYS TO DRUGS? CONSISTENT PARENTING TWO KEY VALUES BUILD UP THEIR WEAKNESSES VS. PLAY TO THEIR STRENGTHS DRUGS, ALCOHOL, AND SEX
WHY NOT MAKE IT OK IF THEYRE AT HOME? BUT WILL THEY LISTEN? SHOULD I BE HER FRIEND?

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WHEN AND HOW FOR THE DRUG TALK

SEX TALK, YES, BUT DRUG TALK? SO WHAT DO I SAY? TALK IS CHEAP

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ANSWERING THE TOUGH QUESTION

WHEN YOU WERE MY AGE

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GET YOURSELF EDUCATED SAUCE FOR THE GOOSE

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LOCK THEM UP? IS METH REALLY THAT BAD? WHAT SHOULD I KEEP LOCKED UP? GETTING THE WAYWARD CHILD BACK ON TRACK LITTLE CHILD LOST DETOX? HOW TO INTERVENE? YOUR BIGGEST ROLE THE FINAL QUESTION

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BABY GROWS UP CONCLUSION

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Introduction
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Whether youre a new mom, or an experienced dad, or anyone in between, you have a lot of questions on how best to raise your child and keep them on the right path. And no doubt youre worrying about what happens if they get off that path.
We hope you never have to deal with the problems we discuss here. You will want to read everything in order to better educate yourself about what might happen. By knowing and by being aware, you can catch problems before they happen. And if you missed something, well give you the foundation to get your child back on track. I dont believe its ever too late to turn a childs life around. It requires courage, love and a solid understanding of whats going on and in which direction you need to point your child. Then well talk about being a consistent parent, and how to talk to your child about drugs and alcohol. I hope you find this book useful. The tone is intended to be a conversation between the two of us. Please email me your thoughts and experiences. I want to cheer you along as you raise your child to be a shining star in our society.

Well talk about the top warning signs that your child is headed for trouble: The kids hes choosing to be around are a bad influence When you constantly find things in the house that you didnt buy, and he has no job Shes constantly lying all the time Hes refusing to be responsible as far as understanding the importance of discipline, schoolwork, etc. His priorities are on things instead of relationships Lack of drive and initiative. Theyre lazy and want something for nothing. Acting sneaky, and doing things behind your back Smoking Lack of purpose Too much television Gangs

PRIORITIES
Focusing On Things Instead of Relationships
Our society puts a lot of pressure on people to worry about how they look, what jeans theyre wearing, which car theyre driving, etc. As parents, we want to bring them back to reality, and teach them that the relationships in life are more important. Each child will need to learn differently. The goal is to focus on the message rather than the individual lesson. And you need to ensure that your message is consistent. What if your child wanted to get a job to buy a name brand pair of jeans? Some might think that its great that the child wants to get a job and buy their own extras. However, the message that theyre sending is that they are only working to get better things rather than working to learn skills or make a difference helping others. Theres nothing wrong with having nice things. But right now at this stage in their lives, they should be concentrating on improving who they are as individual people. They should have enough self-awareness to understand who they want to be, and what they want to do to be a contributing person in society. As parents, we need to teach our children to concentrate on things of substance and not things of materialism. Kids believe that if they look a certain way or wear certain clothes, someone popular will date them. If their friends all wear certain brands of jeans, then they might fear that they wont continue to be their friends if they dont. Peer pressure is very strong, and we all know kids can be mean. We want our kids to feel like they fit in and feel like they belong in the social structures. The difference is if you buy your daughter the designer jeans rather than having her work for them. You want to teach them that theres nothing wrong with having nice things, but dont let that be the thing that they live and die for. As long as your child is acting responsibly and his focus is in the right place, then the material things should be the reward. Its just as important to reward when theyre doing good as it is to punish when theyre acting badly.

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LACK OF PURPOSE
What Am I Doing With My Life?
People who take drugs and abuse alcohol dont feel like they have a purpose; therefore, we need to help guide our child into finding their purpose. Teach your children to tap into their purpose early. The sooner they do, the sooner it allows them to become successful. Dr. Myles Munroe said the problem with most people is that they first get an education, and then they find out their purpose 20 years later. At that point, they have to go back and reeducate themselves switching everything around. But in their teenage years or before, help your child to start asking what their purpose is:

1. What is the thing that Im really passionate about? 2. What do I enjoy doing no matter how badly I feel? 3. What makes me feel happy inside? 4. What makes me feel accomplished? 5. What do I want to keep doing no matter how many mistakes I make? 6. Who do I enjoy being with? 7. Who do I admire? 8. Who do I want to be like?

We all fall off track in life. When you know your purpose, it makes it easier to get back on that track. Knowing who you are, what you want to become, and your purpose in life allows you to keep moving when you dont want to keep moving.

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