Diary of a PUA

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Bad body language Cant dance Unconfident Petrified of public speaking Low Self-esteem CV lacks qualifications Live in a boring small city

Ouch. Okay, the good news is that they are all taken care of. So what did I do?

Evolution Of A PUA: Part 1 The Ugly Shy Introvert

As you might know, I was not a natural with women. I wasnt even a natural with friends. I had bad social skills, was generally shy and introverted, and basically avoided social situations like the plague. Because ive gone from having nothing to being successful with women and good socially in a short space of time, I thought it might be valuable to document the steps I took and my influences along the way. Back in 2003, I got out a notebook and wrote down my problems and what steps id take to address them. Back then, I hadnt heard of game, so it was just focused on my perceived weaknesses: Heres what it said: Shit fashion Shy Bad social skills Ugly Not funny Quite voice Cant hold eye contact

1. I signed up to a TEFL course in Seville so that id be in a foreign country and be forced to speak in front of a group of people (the students), interact with a bunch of strangers (the other trainees), and also get a useful qualification and get to visit a cool city. I committed the money and time and it paid off. I was shaking and nervous in the first class. 6 hours of teaching time later and I was almost smooth! 2. I started slowly building a wardrobe of nice clothes and throwing out all the ill-fitting sporty rubbish that id worn for the past 5 years. I found the best brands for me, learnt about fit, materials, quality etc. Over 2 years I filled my wardrobe with great clothes (mostly at discount prices) that id be able to wear for years. I avoided obvious labels like Burberry and got classic stuff like Zegna and Ralph Lauren Purple Label. I now have a wardrobe that will last me a long long time and rarely buy clothes. Having done these two I already felt more confident. But there was still a lot to learn.

3. For my general self-esteem, happiness, and mental state, I read a lot of very useful books. I read everything out there on, by, or about Milton Erickson. I read all the old Bandler NLP books. I read buddhist stuff. I read Robert Anton Wilson, Tony Robbins, and Alan Watts. I stopped watching TV so much, stopped reading and watching the news, and spoke less to negative people. This made me happier through toning down my competitive side, reducing my need for material possesions, curing me of envy, and generally made me more content and happy. I came to understand that I was in control of my mood and happiness. Nowadays my mental state is solid and I am calm and not easy to affect emotionally. (picture, Cambridge, 2001)

Evolution Of A PUA - Part 2 - From Ugly To Model And More

So I was making progress, and that made me happy. I was able to talk to people without going red, I got admiring looks for my clothes, and I felt good inside. I still had a lot to work on though. 4. Next came my physical looks. I was called ugly at school and college. So what steps did I take to fix my looks? Ive already mentioned the fashion. Next came: eyebrows, I had hair in the middle a monobrow, so I had them shaped. Hair: I asked the best hairdresser I could find (www. neilcurryhairdressing.com - thank you Neil!) if I could have hair like Tom Cruise in The Last Samura. He said Yes and 18 months later thats pretty much what I have. (picture, Cambridge, 2006)

(picture, Cambridge, 2002)

I modeled actors and now I can resemble Colin Farrell, Tom Cruise, or Orlando Bloom. Women will say I look like these poeple when im doing it. I worked hard on body language to look more cool. From being called ugly by average girls, I now get asked every week Are you a model?. 5. One thing that held back my confidence was my lack of qualifications. I was born in London but lived in Cambridge, place that prizes academic achievement. I signed up for lots of courses and bulked up my CV with some impressive stuff like being a Chartered Financial Analyst (CFA). Not at all related to PU but it gave me confidence. 6. By studying NLP, psychology, and hypnosis, I became more artful in my use of language and used the techniques of influence to make people like me. I was good on job interviews and started to make connections and have some success socially. By this point, I was still useless with women, we are in mid-2005 now. Id only slept with one girl! I started approaching sometimes in bars, very rarely got numbers, and never progressed things to a physical level. Then in September 2005, I met Tyler Durden in Starbucks, Leicester Sq, London, and it all changed

We happened to be sitting next to what I would later find out to be an RSD bootcamp. Tyler was there, and about 7 students. I was listening in trying to figure out what the hell was going on. My best guess was speed-dating. I asked Tyler (who was kind of overseeing things) and he broke it all down to me. Told me to buy The Game, etc. At the time, it was interesting, but I couldnt imagine any of these guys being good with women. Fast forward a couple of weeks, ive read the game and now have the idea that there are these superhero PUA dudes that can have any woman they want. With this as my new end-goal, I decide to gobble up, packman-style, all the information I can find on the subject. Right after reading the game and a few other things I take a trip to Singapore. On the trip I get my first one night stand. She basically PUd me 60%, but at least I didnt make the mistakes of old. She was hot-ish, I was attracted to her. I was very proud of myself. I came back to England and carried on with the theory. I used to watch DVD programs on the PC whilst watching the stock market and making the occasional trade (my job at the time). I kept a notebook of all the cool ideas. Id listen to

Evolution Of A PUA: Part 3 Game Time

So I was sitting in Starbucks, Leicester Sq, London one day in September 2005. I lived in Cambridge at the time but used to come down to London every 10 days or so to hang out with my cousin.

audio products before sleeping, when cooking and eating, cleaning, travelling, playing playstation, etc. Between November 2005 and March 2006, I must have gone through a thousand hours or more of products.

Some of my favourite ones at the time were David Deangelos audio series - Interviews with Dating Gurus, his DVDs including Double Your Dating, the Mystery Method ebook (but not so much the DVDs), Swinggcats Real World Seduction audio, and RSD/Tylers Surviving the Game of Dating. During this time, I didnt do much in terms of PU. I came to London to visit my cousin and did the occasional approach. The problem was that all this theory was difficult to structure, I basically had a collection of cool lines and fun things to say. I had no idea how to link them all together.

them go with a goodbye. This counted as my first real approach. Before that, id talked to a girl on the train and n-closed but it was not really a cold approach because she came and sat next to me. Id n-closed a couple of girls in bars over the previous two years (literally less than 5!). It made me grow in confidence.Around this time I had the dream of being the best PUA in London and training people, and even having a Project London. I talked about this with my cousin. I made the plan to move to London in March 2006. On 24th March 2006, I moved into my place in

I remember a turning point for me. I was in Starbucks, mixed 3-set, I sprung into action using a situational opener - Can I look at your tube map, I need to get to errrrr Kentish Town! They helped me out, I transition into what they are doing in London etc. I ask boring questions, but then something happened, they said they were learning English. I talked about how I trained to be an English teacher, how I did it in Seville, and how people come to learn English and then they live with people from their own country. I was talking for 30 seconds, they were listening with interest, and laughing a bit, I felt a buzz. Id never had 3 people watching me and listening to me talk with interest before. I went red and was sweating but it was a great result.Small talk continued, then they said some tiny objection like we are meeting our friend soon, so I made an excuse to leave (I was looking for one I guess!). Sat back down, they seemed to linger around suggesting please n-close us, please! but I let

Leicester Sq, London. My goals: to become great with women, to meet cool people and develop a social circle, to have a blast!Cambridge allowed me to find myself, study hard, improve, now it was time to put it into action.

Evolution Of A PUA: Part 4 Make Or Break

I wanted to move to London for years. I was never happy living in Cambridge. Ithought it was too small, I thought the people were unfriendly and boring, and I didnt have the kind of social life that I wanted. Why did I wait so long? I found out the real answer, and thismight be the same thing that holds you back in many areas of your life, it was a HUGE realisation: I was afraid that if I moved to London and it was a failure, id be back in Cambridge AND I would no longer have thedream of something better to hold onto.

So at its core, it was fear of failure. Look at any bigsteps that you have avoided taking and maybe it is the same reason. But I finally did do it.. I basically didnt know anyone when I moved down. My flatmates were cool, and we got on, but they had no social cirlce so I didnt get to meet people that way. What happened was thatI found some London PUAs (from The London Seduction Society/LSS) and hooked up with them. I went out on some group sarges and met them and gave them the kind of respect id give Mystery himself. We went to some bars, but I quickly foundout that most of these guys could talk a good talk, look alpha, have an alpha-handshake and a cool walk, but they didnt seem to be able to open, hold, and close a set. I hadto ratchet down my expectations a little bit. Over the next few weeks, I met some more of theseguys. Most of them I didnt really want to hang out with, but I did meet two - Eugene andConor, who were cool guys and I tried to go out with these guys to clubs as much as possible. I was going out 4 nights a week. At this point, id been to a club less than 30 times, and was completely uncomfortable in the environment. So these nights would normally entail us opening 20 or so sets, not many would hold. I was overcoming my AA, and a couple of times I did get into sets that hooked and was ableto have a nice conversation using my pre-existing skills in one-on-one conversations that comefrom having the introvert qualities of being a good listener and being empathetic.

I had a regular night out in Covent Garden with my wing Conor where I started to get some good results. Wed run some good wing game with each of us isolating a chick and id try to connect and get a number close. When you are winging, it is pretty easy not to get blown out, because when those moments where the conversation dips happen, the girl looks at her friend, she is in set and happy so she re-engages. Holding on your own requires a lot more skill. I was able to get a few number closes. They didnt convert and I had no idea to kino-escalate to a k-close in the club.I have to say that by now I was pretty confident. The girls I was approaching were often hot and they did compliment me on my looks. It was new and it was good. The next big realisation happened about 3 weeks into my London adventure. I was in a Sohu club with Conor and the person I took over my room from and Conor approached a Swedish 2-set. I didnt go and wing straight away because I was having a go at an Australian chick. It didnt go too far, so I decided to go and wing him. It was an 18 year old Swedish chick. Pretty cute. I was there for AN HOUR talking to her, then I told her to move up and sat down next to her, carried on talking. I was getting no touching from her, and didnt know what the hell to do. My one night stand in Singapore only happened because she touched my leg first and I just matched her kino-escalation and then lead with the kiss.Anyhow, I said to myself fuck it and put my arm around her and went for the kiss.

Lo-and-behold it worked, she was into it. Now I know I probably could have done it after 30 seconds, but the point was that it shifted something in my mind - you dont need to ask if it is okay to kiss. Conor left early because his chick didnt pan out. When they left, looking back, it would have been an easy f-close with my girl (other one was happy to leave her in my care!) and even a pretty simple 3-some. But I didnt because I was probably buzzing from the k-close and didnt imagine it was possible.I was now happy in London, I had friends and I felt like I was in control of things a little more. I had a lot of confidence and was on a high because I now was able to attract and seduce women.

havent used this stuff since ust because it hasnt been necessary). I tried some light kino - touching her leg and arm and she reciprocated. I went for the kiss after about 5 minutes. She was tall, blonde, thin,blue eyes. Now shed be average, but at the time, she was very hot. I lead her around the club -lets go get a drink, lets dance, lets sit down. We got quite hot and heavy and then I just got up and said lets go, she started walking with me but asked where and I said somewhere else and walked her out of the club to my house. Got the wine out and smoothly escalated with no resistance. Ill leave out the details! Met her for a date another day and the attraction had vanished, I didnt like that she smoked, I didnt like her

Evolution Of A PUA: Part 5 Loser To PUA To Natural

I learnt the basic structure of a pickup from 6 months of theory and a few weeks in field. Admittedly I spent way too long geeking out on the material. I learnt way more from going out and doing stuff. I spent the next month going out and refining my approach. We used a lot of canned material - should I die my hair blonde, best friends test, palmistry etc. It worked to hook the sets. My first fclose came one night in a Covent Garden club. My friend identified an HB, I sat next to her, just chatted, in terms of lines used, maybe some C&F and I did bust out one of my own speed seduction patterns when I had her isolated (I

accent, I didnt like her shoes or the way she walked. I felt like Jerry Seinfeld for dumping the girl for silly reasons but I didnt call her again. Over the next month I got plenty of k-closes and a couple more f-closes. I did about 4 salsa classes. I didnt PU any girls in the class because they were generally not up to standard but Idid devise my salsa escalation where I go and ask the girl if she can salsa and then salsa my way into a k-close. I got a Serbian chick in 1-minute with this and she was a virgin, 7 hours of LMR before she slept with me and then she was my GF for about a month.6 foot tall, toned & tanned body, blonde, blue eyes. During that time I think I only k-closed one other girl and that was when I trained with Brent (from various Double Your Dating video series and as

seen on Cliffs List). He came over in May and I decided that either id learn loads or id realise that I could do it too. I paid $1000 + expenses for an evening from 7pm to 2am. He was good looking, confident and cool. The training wasnt very good because:He didnt demo anything cool.He couldnt hold the rest of a 3 set when I engaged one of the girls (they dragged her away).He only said I should talk louder and escalate faster. That was his only advice. Very nice guy though and maybe my level was already just damn high. Anyhow, I pulled a nice HB that night. This was the first time I was disappointed with the skills of a well-known guru. There were many more to come in the next few months! My attitude now when I meet famous PUAs is Hey, if they are great ill learn something and if they arent, it makes me more confident. Win Win! Over the next few months I improved my game, gained more confidence, had more hot girls, and met various influential charatcers, most importantly - Steve Jabba AKA Vertex and Anthony P. We went out a lot and gamed together. In June I had started Puatraining.com and had been doing 1-on-1s. I was a skilled teacher, could clearly communicate things, and was able to analyse the persons strengths and weaknesses very quicly and give them practical advice. Through teaching, I learned by stuff way more tightly and was forced to game. I learnt how to control my state instead of only being able to game when I felt like it.

In July I went on holiday for 2 months with Steve and we went out 40 out of 44 nights in 11 countries. During this holiday my kino, non-verbal pickup, dance-floor game, etc all got a huge boost. Steve is a legend and few people have seen his skills when he is at the top of his game. I saw him do things a couple fo times on holiday that gave me the shivers! Next level game. Fast forward to today. I am going to parties with celebrities to learn how to game in those environments, im working with the guys here to further refine the system, im travelling to different countries to test my game internationally. How do I pick up chicks now? I have an unbreakable routine stack that can get me laid every day of the week, one that uses an unbreakable opener, NLP, calculated responses, built in emotional spikes, push-pull, DHVs, my SS patterns. BUT I DONT USE IT! I want to be able to game naturally. I dont wantto know what im going to say next. I like to test my intelligence and exercise my mentalmuscles. I want to make a better self instead of making a character that I can step into and act out. My indirect game usually involves a situational opener, cocky funny, rapport and deep rapport, kino-escalation, close. Pretty simple right?My Direct game is: force IOI, kino opener, afc fluff with sexual undertones, quick close. Of course, I might use routines again at some point in the future.

Right now, I just want to round-out my game some more and learn from guys that have something unique to offer. Now I have confidence and an energy that projects from that confidence. I used routines when I first started and many high-level guys still use them. Its a personal choice. For a newbie, routines are the fastest way to get improvement and thats why we teach both on our courses: routines, canned openers. A structure for any pickup.The skills that you need to be a natural.My ex-students all game differently, they are not robotic, and some have gone the natural route and some the routine route. All of them seem to improve markedly for months afterwards. Success?Email me for my HB pics! I meet a girl of high quality once every 3 weeks. Can k-close any time I go out. Can f-close multiple times a week. The only things that hold me back are:Busy with the business.Not enough hot girls in London clubs!Sex drive is not so high that I need 7 girls a week.I get more out of a loving relationship than lots of casual sex.

Gamblers Philosophy Of Happiness: Part 1

In the past, before mass communication and globalisation, a persons frame of reference was his peer group and the people he came into personal contact with. Today, our peer group is still our primary frame of reference, but now there are also people we know of and know about, like celebrities. We come to know about these people and they can exert just as strong an influence on us as our peer group does. First the world is brought into our lives through the internet and TV: amounting to 1385 messages a day. Because our peer group is subjected to the same onslaught, we would are infected through them, even if we could avoid it all. Global travel means people from different cultures live in one place. In the 1900s example, the man in the village who had a full-time manual labour job, had a healthy family, and was married to a woman who he thought could be a good carer for him and their family had everything he thought life had to offer. He didnt expect that he could ever be the factory owner, because that man was educated and had inherited wealth, unlike himself. He didnt expect that he could be married to a beautiful or upper class woman, because he was working class and not so financially secure. He didnt expect that he could live in a mansion, because there was no frame of reference of a normal working class person who had achieved that. In modern times, 90% of people are educated up to a point where they consider themselves literate. Class lines have been blurred and wealth and class no longer correlate to the same extent.

(Picture, London, 2007)

Because our basic needs of health, food, clothing, and shelter are almost guaranteed, we take them for granted and they are not enough to make us happy because our frame of reference does not include contact with people who dont have these basic needs taken care of. Wealth and success are no longer confined to inherited wealth, genius, or super hard work. Every person knows of a story of someone getting rich very quickly and easily by a method that seems in reach of the average person. We are presented with an infinite amount of choice, which is some ways is good, and in others, isnt. When people were born, took on the trade of their parents, and stayed in that profession until they died, and considered themselves to have had a good life if their children were married and healthy, the lack of choice meant constant contentment. People today would find it difficult to be content with a life like that, because they are aware of all the choices that now are possible. Choices make people unsure, they are unhappy with their job because they know that there are other jobs that might be better for them. If you live in the city, you know that you could live in the countryside and vice versa. Media. Advertising. Politics people focussing on wealth and other distractions suits politicians. Cheap media set the agenda. Getting rich with no talent is a new phenomenon. Media mainly shows positive side of shallow materialism instead of chastising it and promoting intelligence and wisdom. There has been a degeneration of language and values. Easy money is only available to the top percentile but the whole population aspires to it. There has been a role reversal in the gender stakes with the feminisation of men and masculinisation of women. Relationships are over

complicated with games and what you should/not do dictating events.Casual sex is promoted and means people in settled relationships cheat more and are not as easily satisfied with what they have. When you buy something is a big motivating factor the expected response you will get from other people? Do you imagine what they will say when they see your new suit, electronics, jewellery? Was the need to buy this item driven internally or was it by external influence?

Gamblers Philosophy Of Happiness: Part 2

Your peers are your peers because they legitimise your lifestyle, the same is true for drug addicts or criminals. Whatever you do and think, you can always find similar people to legitimise it. It is common to say but person X is even worse. This mindset does not serve you, because it is a way of avoiding progressive change. Most people are not surrounded by positive influences. We generally do not have the grounding of a close extended family. This means that the people we use for support do not always genuinely wish us well. Maybe if we do something they are scared to do, like make a big change, they will discourage us because it would make them feel bad if you could do it. Sure, they will support you, but probably only until you start doing better than them, and only while you continue to legitimise their life style. Try going from a party animal, recreational drug user, with no hobbies; to a serious, hard working, interesting person and still keep the same friends.

When we do not have the peer group that is positive about what we want to do, and can show us better ways to live through example, we need to make changes. It is possible to surround yourself with models for success through books, audio courses, and media. Knowing the stories of Edison, Da Vinci, Tesla, etc will be inspirational. This inspiration is what will allow you to break out past your perceived limits. Once you know what is possible, you will want more for yourself. Generally people stagnate and dont progress as their peer groups will too. Try to surround yourself with models for success. After you spend an hour with someone, ask do I feel more positive for spending that hour with that person, in 75% of cases, the answer will be no.

I am ugly. I am fat. I am single. I am lonely. I am poor. Notice how you feel when you write these statements, you are now at a low ebb, just as you might be any day when you are having a bad day. Now do the opposite and write all the positive things on a different sheet of paper. I am a good mother

Gamblers Philosophy Of Happiness: Part 3

I have an even keel philosophy, I believe that the ebbs and flows of mood are not a necessity. You can be happy one day, and then the next day, with nothing new happening, you can be unhappy. Most people believe that it is like a sine wave, and that they are held hostage to their emotions. Oh I am having a bad day. There are two steps that will allow you to conquer 90% of these negative emotions that are thought of as ebbs and flows. The first is to become aware of the base cause, and the second is to be able to disassociate from the emotion and understand and control it. To become, you can perform the following simple task that you will find very powerful. Take a sheet of paper and write down all the things you are unhappy with about yourself (not your possessions, your self) in pencil:

I am funny. I am intelligent. I am outgoing and friendly. I am popular, and people like to be around me. People will have more trouble with the second list in general, because our culture does not promote bragging. Try to find as many things as you can though. Every person will be able to list at least 10 positive things about themselves. Read the positive list again. Notice how you immediately feel better, as if you are at a high ebb, and feel like you would if you were having a good day. How you feel from day to day is simply a matter of this changing focus. On a negative day, your focus is on the things in the negative list, on a positive day, your focus is on the things on the positive list.

Your next goal is to restrict the things that you are unhappy about to things that you cannot change. On my personal list, the things that I cannot change all relate to physical appearance. Every person has issues with their physical appearance, no matter how attractive you might think they are. With physical appearance, it is possible to make incremental improvements. Fix your fashion sense, whiten your teeth, get a tan, get in better shape, lose weight, have a great haircut. All these will make incremental improvements that will make you happier. You will NEVER be 100% satisfied with your appearance so you need to accept yourself.

I want to learn about and improve my body language. I want to improve my posture. Rules: do not use negative contructions, i.e. do not say I am not stupid, say I am clever. The next step is to make a plan of how you can achieve each of these aims. For me, the answers were: read book - comedy writing secrets, watch and listen to a lot of comedy; read NLP & psychology books, sign up for courses; Do TEFL course in Seville for 5 weeks, teaching and working with strangers forcing social interaction and public speaking each day additional

Gamblers Philosophy Of Happiness: Part 4

Lets start a new list that reframes any negative things in a positive way instead of saying Im stupid and dont know anything say I want to learn interesting things and be more educated. Also include other things that didnt make you unhappy but that you would like to do. Write down your goals in this way. I did this for the first time 3 years ago and have done it every 18 months since then. The list included things like:

achievement improved English grammar skills; start with book Emotional Intelligence, and study the area; read book Set your voice free, and sign up to voice workshop; study high status and cool role models on film & television and try to see what they do and copy it in the mirror! Read books and watch videos on body language; Take a lesson in Alexander technique. Normally when people talk about what they want, they start with I want to have, not I want to do. Its moot to say thats just the way I am

I want to be funnier. I want to learn psychology. I want to be more outgoing and comfortable in social settings. I want to understand relationships better. I want to have a better voice. Most people use distractions from themselves- TV, drinking, socialising, internet, talking on phone. If everyone was in a darkened room with no sound and thought about themselves and their life, how many would be happy?

Gamblers Philosophy Of Happiness: Part 5

Most people say I want to have, not I want to do. Collecting material goods so you have them in the bank, at least I have my stamps. Externalised showings of confidence include clothes, cars, lifestyle. These are very weak compared to internal displays of confidence that can be steadfast in any situation without the need for flashy clothes and a Ferrari. Take two people in the same situation except one that is happy will have a different focus to one that is not. Once you understand what is going on inside, you can disassociate and take control. It is the fist step. We are not slaves to our emotions: we are in control of them. We do not need to be feeling down today and feeling great the next with no changes. Negative messages advertising, bad people- can always be found and those who are successful are always at risk of being undermined by jealous rivals. Complete arrogance inside leads to much better results. To balance all the negativity, surround yourself with positive role models that become like friends, affirmations, subliminal stuff, music, film. Strive to seek out the positive.

that nothing particularly fatal is likely to happen over a period of several moments and that the brain can use that time to put its feet up and generate a response to a chunk of moments rather than create each moment from first principles. Being in the moment, in each and every moment, is therefore something like an act of will where the will persuades the brain that each moment is actually fatal; this requires me to be intensely interested in what is going on outside my head, and to live each moment as if it were my last. Top players often report on how they see game situations open up as if they were in the matrix; sports players talk about how time stands still and suddenly they see the playing area as a space without time. These players are able to see being in the moment as an act of will, attention as something we really do pay (for), and being interested in the world outside our head as a simple discipline which can be developed and strengthened. Many of the techniques of pick-up purport to teach a man how to be interesting telling stories and jokes, performing magic tricks, having exciting hobbies, but the argument which follows here is that we are never more interesting than when we are interested in the other person.

Anthony P: Being in the moment why it is so difficult

Being in the moment is in many respects the opposite process to the normal functioning of the brain, which appears to be the chunking together of moments into familiar scenes and patterns to be matched with familiar responses and solutions. This saves the brain a lot of work, so its natural mechanism is to pull me out of the moment and back into my head. Being in my head or thinking relies on the reasonable assumption

Steve: What are girls all about? Consider girls. What are girls all about? Hot girls are human beings. Same as me and you. They eat food and they shit it out. They urinate. They get bad breath. They have insecurites, same as me and you. Maybe worseWe live in a society that BREEDS them. Hev you ever opened a really hot girl

and been AMAZED at how she reacts to you? Friendly, open, even a little insecure? maybe a LOT insecure?? When youre dealing with girls, no matter what youre level, what kind of girl you are used to, bear all of the above in mind. Remember it. When they shit test you, or when they go quiet, or when they look at you in a particlar way, remember that they are living inside their own head. If they are quiet, DONT think does she like me, is she offended, why is she quiet, why is she smiling? Is she laughing at me? Sit still, quiet your revving mind. Dont think about what she is thinking.Often you will be wrong. I promise you. And worse : if you imagine these things you will MAKE HER THINK THEM. She will sense it, girls are AMAZINGLY perceptive about this kind of stuff. So Dont worry about what she is thinking, dont allow yourself to indulge in negative and debilitating thought loops. Dont imagine or consider that she is thinking badly of you..Really really try to just live in the moment. Take in the environment, notice what is going on around you. Smile at her. If she is nervous or skittish, think to yourself, I AM A MAN goddamit, I WILL NOT let myself think badly of myself. She is a girl, and she is faced with her own pressures. Really try not to put her on a pedastal.. I tell you with full truth that even the hottest girls have all sorts of funny shit flying around in their head. So many people are putting on an act. Dont do this. Be yourself, your best self. Ask the question of yourself - do I like this girl? Why do I like her?

Look at her face when she is talking, look at her body. Do you want her? Then just try and imagine, convincingly that YOU CAN HAVE HER. You can. You can have her, girls want to be taken. They long for a man that will take her and ravish her. Keep that one simple truth in mind and all other stuff becomes irrelevantJust be strong in yourself, like a rock and nothing else matters Forget everything else.

Reflexs fast escalation bar-game

Guys Here is one basic method I use to go very quickly from meeting an HB in a high-energy bar to going straight to kino, rapport and quite often a k-close at super-fast speed. I dont always use routines for bar game opinion openers, wanted or needed, how soon is too soon etc. Dont get me wrong, they are powerful, Ive seen them work and they are good for students because they give you a set speech to make, thereby removing the anxiety of not knowing what to say. But if youre feeling confident try this 4-step approach. 1. Force the IOI. An HB walks past you at the bar: force an IOI. A cheeky grin, a point, Becksters classic hide-behind-the-hand manoeuvre, anything. 2. Get kino. If she smiles or in any way gives an IOI from step 1 then simply raise your class to clink, or put your hand up for the high five. Do with a BIG SMILE! If she clinks your glass or returns the high five then ITS ON. Move quickly to no 3.

3. Introduction. This is the crucial part. Offer a HANDSHAKE with a BIG SWEEPING GESTURE, and say Hi, Im !! I sometimes dont go for small talk, asking opinions etc, I just introduce myself. You see, if youve got an IOI and a glass clink that means she is open and so introducing yourself will not feel odd to her. The critical thing with step 3 is CONFIDENDCE. You must speak loudly, confidently and act as if you will not tolerate refusal! Offering a handshake with a big arm movement is almost impossible to ignore. Try it with people you meet in other environments the office, or wherever. It puts enormous pressure on the person to offer their hand in return because ignoring it will leave the person feeling as if theyve been terribly rude! Its a very British thing thats ingrained into all of us. Salesmen in shopping centres or the street use this technique to get members of the public to interact with them, and I see them do it all the time.

You could use your own bit of humour, just make one up. It doesnt have to be absolutely hilarious, but needs to relax the situation. Thanks for offering, but Ill get my own drink, or whatever you want. So thats it. IOI-kino-introduction-humour. Those 4 steps. Where you go from there is up to you, but Ive closed very quickly from this. The point is youre compressing many of the elements of a pick-up into less than 10 seconds. Youve broken the ice, got her name, had some kino and shown youre confident and humourous. Obviously with most girls youll need to go into rapport at some stage but a lot of the work has already been done. The good thing is you can tell from her reaction to step 1 (the forced IOI) whether she is open. If she is, then its on. Have fun with this one!

Reflexs situational openers : Queues

For queues, in any environment. It could be for a

But confidence is the key. If you meekly offer a limp handshake while stammering your name, it is easy for her to shrug you off and walk on. If you stand tall (no side approaches this time, be direct and dominant) and loudly and confidently offer your name and hand she will return the shake and tell you her name back. It works. No matter what else, she will be impressed by your confidence. 4. Humour. After shes taken your hand and said her name say Nice to meet you . I was worried, for a minute I thought you were the bouncer. This should get a laugh, it relieves some of the tension and will relax her (and you).

bar, cloakroom, cash machine, cafe or checkout at Tescos. If there is an HB in the queue in front of you as you join here are a few options: 1. Is this the queue for the good looking people??! Dyou mind if I join it?!!! I use this one all the time and it NEVER fails to get a smirk, smile, laugh or verbal response from a woman, no matter how grumpy, sour-faced or closed they might look. Its hard not to smile when someone says it. Its also very good for when theres a group of girls, it makes them feel good (isnt that what everyone wants?) Its also paying them a subtle compliment. But the key here is HOW you say it. Its hard to describe in writing but

you should say it playfully, with a slight smirk, and a glint in your eye. You can combine it with a subtle finger-point and head-tilt, as if youre sharing a conspiracy theory with someone. If youre feeling bold you can continue the joke by asking them if they could please keep all those people over there away from our queue, its just for us you know! 2. For a very very long queue youve just joined, one that will take ages ask the girl if theyre providing deck chairs for us while we wait?! 3. For long queues: I dont know whats going on here, but it looks like it must be interesting so I thought Id join.

Contrast that with a nightclub when every chump is hitting on the girls. Plus HBs wont be expecting an approach on their journey home! 2nd guideline: ignore other passengers. Sometimes when Im gaming I get a little audience listening in over the tops of their newspapers. Blank them out and keep going. If you show your nervousness you will communicate that to the girl. Conversely if you show youre comfortable with the situation then the girl will share your confidence. Remember, people get on and off tubes all the time and your eavesdroppers will always get bored lose interest after all, they have their lives to get on with, and other things to do. 3rd guideline: dont linger and let a girl see you

4. Simply say Whos playing? Say with faux seriousness. A girl with a sense of humour will get the joke!

checking her out before you approach. Always try and make it look SPONTANEOUS. Especially on platforms. Through trial and error Ive found thats the key. Thats the value of the 3-second rule. As soon as she sees you, you MUST talk.

Reflex: Gaming on the tube - part 1

4th guideline: if you want to game on the 2 million people a day use the tube. Thats a lot of HBs, whichever way you look at it. Ive started gaming on the tube in earnest in the last few months and have started getting numbers and dates. Ive put together some guidelines that Ive found useful; I say guidelines rather than rules because you need to be flexible when you do pickup! 1st guideline: ignore what everyone says about the underground that everyones miserable, that you must never talk or make eye contact with anyone, etc. Bollocks! If no other guy does that, well, great, that means less competition for you! platform, check on the electronic board to see when the next tube is due. If its less than 2 or 3 minutes you might want to wait until you both get on the tube itself. The reason, Ive found, is this. If you chat for 30 seconds and then a train comes roaring in to the station and theres lots of hustle and bustle as everyone gets on and off, then in the confusion the girls state will be broken, you lose what little rapport youve established and its hard to restart again on the train. Also, after such a brief conversation she may not be comfortable with you sitting next to/opposite her. If by contrast the next train is due in 5 minutes or more, then ok that should be enough time to

establish some rapport on the platform, maybe share a joke etc. Then when the train comes and theres a break in the conversation shell feel comfortable continuing your chat and comfortable sitting near you. You can more easily pick up where you left off. Get it?

I find this works well at initiating chat. You may get a one-word answer yes or no so the important thing is to plow with talk about trains: how awful they are, how you have to get to suchand-such etc Other platform openers: Dont jump, its not

Ok, thats the guidelines done. Now what do you actually say?! Sorry to keep you in suspense buttune in next week for part 2 of my post for the answers!

worth it! (If shes close to the platform edge) Oh my God, did you see that mouse?! I saw it just now (You dont have to actually see one, obviously. But this ALWAYS gets a response, girls find it impossible to ignore, so its very solid.)

Reflexs Tube Game - part 2

Game is game. It doesnt really matter where you do it, on the tube or anywhere else. In part 1 I discussed timing and attitude. The guidelines are the same: you really do have to do virtually all of the talking for the first 30 seconds or so; make your approach look spontaneous (dont linger); speak with confidence; hold eye contact; plow through if she is unresponsive; feed off any verbal hooks you get.

Did you hear that busker?! Hes pretty good. I used to be one myself. Really?! No. But thanks for believing me. This usually gets a laugh. I think were standing in the best/worst place to get a seat. This is good because when the train comes the two of you can put your prediction to the test and therefore have something natural to talk about, even if she hasnt said much about it on the platform. If there is a seat next to her, and shes noticed

So lets get into what to say. Here are some examples: Is this the train for Hammersmith?Yes/no/etc Are you sure?!! I hope so. Cos when I was a kid and people used to ask me that Id deliberately tell them the wrong thing to screw them up. I was basically a little shit. Youre not like that are you?! Do you know how long the train takes to reach x?

youre walking towards it :Oh, were you saving this seat for me?!If you get a laugh, start talking. By the way, this works for seats anywhere. If she has an ipod: Hey, cool ipod, I bet you pirate your music, right? Me too, what do you pirate? This has to be spontaneous. Dont worry, they ALWAYS take their earphones out if they cant hear you! Eye-Coding: This is a good one for packed tubes

Better than have you been waiting long which has pick-up written all over it

(or trains or buses). If something happens, like someone wont move down, or is annoying other passengers by talking too loudly on their phone

or causing a problem by having too many bags then you can sort of look at her, and raise your eyes to heaven as if to say : For Gods sake! Some people! If you get a reciprocal eye-code back from her, as if shes saying Yeah, I know! then youre good to go. Start talking. If she has funky clothes, bag, or apparel: You look like you like shopping! Plow with chat about shopping: I bet youre one of these girls who pushes people out of the way in sales! Making assumptions is one of the keys to getting over awkward silences and keeping the conversation going. I have gamed girls successfully by looking for situational stuff to open with - Ive asked girls if they want to swap papers (or even books!) that theyre reading; told them not to use that vending machine because it will take their money; asked if they have something with just celebrity photos in it for me to read because Im sick of reading books with wordsthe key with all these is delivery with cheekiness and a grin.

Introduction to Dirty Cardenas

Hi I am Dirty Cardenas and I am an evil PUA, I will bum your mother. I am a natural and have pretty much always been good with girls. I came into the community a year ago with the intention of meeting some absolute heroes and going out and having threesomes with super models every week. Unfortunately I found that the community in London is comprised mostly of key board jockeys who spend the majority of the time bickering on internet forums and theorising as to the best way to get a woman as opposed to going out and actually f*cking some women. By the grace of God I some how managed to meet Vertex (Steve Jabba) and Beckster. Later on Vertex introduced me to Gambler and so here I am. I am one of the bootcamp instructors and specialise in Inner Game, Dominance, Sexual Confidence and Female Ejaculation. I hope the stories I share help you achieve

And dont forget forcing IOIs like we show you on the bootcamps! If youre eagle-eyed you will see girls checking you out! Finally : dont be embarrassed to ask for a number or a date - if you are nervous you can wait until you are just about to get off anyway, or wait till you both get off. And ignore the other passengers who may eavesdrop on you. They will get off soon anyway!

whatever it is you hope to achieve as a PUA.

Cardenas: Owning the frame

Last Sunday I went on a date with a girl that Id actually dropped a while back. She is pretty hot and a model. But about 2 months ago she annoyed me so I dumped her. Last week guess what - she sent me a text out of the blue saying hi, its been a long time, how are you? I could tell what she was angling for so I thought Id meet her.

On the date I didnt make any move on her early on. I just kept my distance and talked politely. I didnt say Oh its so nice to see you again or any such thing. After all, Id dumped her because she had shown a jealous streak and had annoyed me. She said I was different and that I was hard to work out. We eventually went on to a nightclub and I finally k-closed her etc. But I didnt try and get her back to mine, I told her I was going and left early. Shes not used to being dumped, I think, and after dropping her I made sure I didnt contact her for a few months at all, so she had to get in touch with me if she wanted to. I had moved on and she had faded from my mind. Now shes bought into my frame and I have more control. Im still considering what sort of relationship, if any, I want from her. Another story: This weekend Im going away for a few days with another girl. She used to be my girlfriend way back last year, but I ended it for similar reasons to the girl above. Until Id dumped her she had been in complete control of me - shed left me dangling as if I were on a piece of string, constantly changing her mind about me, blowing hot and cold, telling me when I could see her and deciding when I could visit her. She was not averse to flirting with other men either (she is tall, blonde and very attractive). It left me in the supplicating role in the relationship and demoralised me completely, as I had totally fallen for her. Then I discovered Game, the PU community, and entered the world that you too have now entered. I knew Id allowed her to set the frame and dominate me. So when she continued to mess me around I gave her an ultimatum to start treating me properly - and when she didnt change I

dumped her. She went pretty hysterical when I gave her the news but I refused to buckle or relent. Quite a few months of no contact went by and I moved on - then she got back in touch, asking to see me again, saying shed missed me etc. Id moved on from being besotted and no longer felt that way, but was ok with seeing her again. Now its me that is in control. I decide when to see her, where, and for how long. Same principle: always own the frame. There are lessons in all of this: 1. Dont go chasing like a desperado. Know when to draw the line. Make her wait if necessary. Always have things you can fall back on - career, interests, hobbies, mates, whatever. 2. If you know for sure that a girl is simply using you and playing you: tell her point blank that you wont stand for it. If she continues, BREAK IT OFF. This is vital. Never be talked out of it. Otherwise you will end up like so many suckers out there, trapped in a relationship you feel is controlled by a woman who knows you will always come crawling back . And that, my friend, is a very very bad place to be. All your self-respect will dribble away pitifully. The more attractive the girl, the You must know some men who have fallen into that, as do I. Im not suggesting you just dump a girl at the slightest thing that annoys you or that you dont try to work things out; just dont let yourself be taken for a ride (no, not THAT sort of ride!) Remember, if the girl wants and values you SHE will re-initiate things. If she doesnt then shes not worth your precious time. Find someone else. Dont worry, you will. That way you will keep your self-respect. And if she does come back, YOU and not her, are in control.

Beckster: Game Science Formula

These are new techniques which a small team of us have been developing and using over the past 2 years. Went out with Lord o Lust or LOL for short, just for a few drinks to chat to him about DeepGame, LOL told me some great stories which we will develop into spiked stories. We decide to go to a salsa place, I open a 2 set HB7.5Slovak and HB7Polish, can speak a few sentence in both languages make them laugh, I anchor it in case I want to talk to them again, but not really my type. Beckon over a well suited girl HB8suit with my finger, she walks over and imitates me with a finger motion. I ask her if she is a secret agent, because of her suit and that she was surveying the area.

have to drive over and collect them, she laughed and said I know, I let you because I like your eyes (she said this in a jokey way). I said yeah, and I catch you checking out my ass all the time! and walk out without a good bye. Lord o Lust says his goodbyes and I head to Chelsea, not much live but I see one bar and in the window a lone girl so I enter and as I walk in I give her a wink then up to the bar order a drink, she is still watching me. I walk over and Me:Do you know what. oh sorry are you with you boyfriend as I point to the pint glass near her (you all know what I doing in that one sentence right? Interest and analysing the situation. HB8Scandi: NO No thats my flat mates. Turns out that I lived in her country for a while

Turns out she is the managers top hired gun, this should be fun. Run some stuff on her, neg her, etc. Some people come in so we move to the cash register so she can charge them admission. I ask her if she lets in boys that she fancies for free, she said its happened once or twice, I say to her great Im in free all the time then, she smiles and nods.

and I saw in this bar watching her country place on TV so I thought I would incorporate this in to a mind reading trick. So I said give me your hand blah blah blah. HB8Scandi: Wow thats amazing Me: Thats not all, sometimes like 1 in a thousand

I run my famous fish routine on her as its in her palm more customers come in but she doesnt put it down she admits them, taking cash and giving hand stamps with one hand, still holding up my fish as if it were real. I neg her about it then tell her fortune, told her Im going to a better club in Chelsea and shell be lucky to see me again. Left it at that as its better not to pull her as she can be more useful letting me in for free. I told her as I let that Ive been stealing glasses from her bar for 5 years and that if she wants them back shell

I can have this instantaneous connection with someone and something strange will happen. HB8Scandi: Really what? Me: Well I now can speak in your language. HB8Scandi: No way! Me: Yes way.

Talk to her in her language for 10mins about her remote town (which I have been to) tell her about the shops and station there, she laps it up. Her male house mate comes back he is Russian and doesnt like me being there, trys to AMOG me, he doesnt even break the ice, every time he trys I speak to her in her language he get pissed of asks us to stop it. I play good cop bad cop with him and he chills out a bit. Plus he knows hes beat as she keeps saying hes just jealous of you because hes in love with me and you must go to the gym a lot you have big muscles while she squeezed them. No I wrestle bears like your flat mate probably does right Ivon? He laughs. I use some new GSF stuff on her then she agrees to come home with me, but I tell her another time (as I have an early date Thursday and need some rest as Ive been on it for a week solid.

like when seducing them, then do the other when shes free. Then do it to each of them again, but in front of each other so it seems to the other HB that its the first time your turning on the charm with her mate and how easy you do it will attract her then again, do the other one too. The attraction will be high also the competition between women will also be strong, now you can say something like this: (Use this old one first) Me: Who kisses better, men or women? HBs: Women blah blah blah Me: So you have kissed a women before? HBs: (Always seem to say) Yes, blah blah blah Me: Theres this test to find out which are better kissers, but you wouldnt be interested as your

Not once did they ask why I was by myself think hard why that is I will arrange to meet her at a later date when Im free

friends, even though everyone at my Uni parties use to test the theory and it worked soooo well? Are you both open minded? HBs: Yes (Now you have just got them to say Yes to doing the game, but it way you have asked them, they have said yes to everything you

Beckster: 3 Way Kissing Technique

First you must build up the comfort with wit and humour- be cocky too- but in a way that makes everyone happy. Kino both HBs a lot and build it up, give them both intimate time with you when one goes to the toilet/bar/use phone, start being a bit more serious

ask in the sentence) now to confirm it before they realise, quickly say before they speak again. Me: I knew you two would be cool and open minded, some people can be soo boring and miss out on fun and great opportunities, you both grab on for life right?

HBs: Yes (they normally giggle or something, remember you dont have to say this word for word).

she should say yes as she was kissing you more then the other HB. Also you can get 3somes from this, I have and I

Me: OK, are you ready? HBs: Yes (Now I have made them say yes 3 times, the yes ladder is so powerful). Me: Now this may seem weird to hear, but to feel how it works afterwards you will be amazed. Do you like being amazed by new and exciting things? (REMEMBER PAUSES). HBs: Yes (one more yes for luck lol, you can make them say yes them all day if you like and anchor it too). Me: OK, all hold hands in a circle (you can be sitting or standing), now we must connect our lips together much like a kiss and the currents in our bodies will be attracted to the most strongest current (you can add this bit to if you want but dont kill the moment did you know each human body gives off enough electricity to power a light bulb). Now girls shut your eyes and as we kiss on 3 (seconds) hold it there for 5 seconds try to feel who is giving off more power, if its the same we all our compatible. Go through the motions and turn it into a snog. If this doesnt work either blame them for trying to snog you or say, I wanna try that again. If you feel one was kissing you more, then youll be able to kiss her as soon as you alone with her, tell her you felt it more with her, did she with you,

havent even experiment much with it.

Conquering Approach Anxiety (AA): 2 Perspectives

Gambler: 1. Frame it differently. If you frame an approach as a do or die situation in which you are desperate for a close, this is high pressure. Frame it like this: You are being the fun sociable guy who will talk to people and have fun, and if you happen to be in an interaction with an HB (Hot Babe) that is going well, the close will be natural. 2. Take baby steps: If you are going in to close, you have a lot more to think about and you will have more AA. Instead, in the early days, just aim to open as much as possible. Dont over think, just say hi to strangers or cheers them, or wave, or ask a simple question then leave. When you are comfortable opening, you can work on progressing things and actually start opening to close. 3. Reduce the pressure. Going up to a girl and telling her I want you, and nothing is going to stop me getting you would be pretty cool if it worked but is going to give you huge approach anxiety because there is too much pressure. Find simple reasons to start conversations to start with. Opinion openers are low-pressure and a much easier way to start a conversation.

4. Dont be too fussy. If you only approach SHBs (Super Hot Babes), it will take you years to get over your approach anxiety simply because there arent many about. Lower your standards for starting interactions until you can find 20 sets a night to open. You dont need to close them, only open! You will still conquer your AA and then you can raise your standards again.

The more you let that voice control you the more it will, until its so powerful that pretty much nothing but hypnosis can cure it!!! If you fight it every day, hour, minute, do crazy things, wave at people, stick your tongue out, wink and smile little things to start with until the voice dies out to a quiet murmur. Beckster: Kino Is King

Beckster: So we touch to feel someone or to make someone Its called analysis paralysis, once you think about it longer then 3 seconds (hence the 3 second rule was invented) your inner voice takes over and you first have to have a debate with your inner voice to see if you will or will not approach. We when get (to) excited or sad. You may win or lose this battle in your head but even if you win your inner voice has spread doubt in your influenced mind, so you will be going in not the full ticket! So its not just as easy as saying touch her here, You can battle this inner voice with your own voice and also using an anchor, I like to squeeze my fist and say in my head or out loud (for special) occasions) MAN UP. To me it means be the man, Im a man, its a mans right, lets get breeding. Its natural to breed, its the most powerful instinct so why fight it? why let that little voice that has been the bane of your life? Dont let it mess with you anymore, because you know in your heart that every time you have stood up to your (bad) inner voice you have felt powerful and great, so why wont you stand up to him, if you stand up to him you can stand up to anyone. Dont look where you are touching her. Touch gently with the back of your hands and do not linger, pull away slowly other times quickly. So some quick tips: And its not the same as sling your arm around everyone and shouting hey buddy. But a blue print can be used to help you along your way and you know what, you will never get better or good at it unless you practice. there and the other oooppss. We use kino to say things without using words, to express what we cant say without words also. We use it to push our point, to exaggerate or put emphasis on our emotions. feel us.

Use the back of your hands even better the finger nails. Push away from her as you do this, its none threatening and it confuses her mind if you like her or not, sort of push pull but with body language. Use your heels or toes to pivot away while you kino then pull yourself in again. Use indirect kino Use misdirection kino, is that David Beckham over there as you point in at some random person and put your arm around her or on the small of her back. Touch non sexual erogenous zone behind the ear for example, please ROOT why you are doing this otherwise she will think youre a perv. So think of a routine to allow you, also let me know how you get on. Touch her shoes not many people do that, root this with a routine to, you can really pull her leg on to your lap and inspect them, this works wonders it also conveys a lot of balls doing this and how different you are to other people. Dont be scared to take a HBs hand just root again why you are doing so. Leading is fine once enough kino has be installed, you will even be able to look her it the eyes and stick your arm out for her to link on to then parade her around the place. If its a 2set touch one but look at the other. This is a long and advanced one for another time. Along with boob-kino, yes I said boob-kino.

I will leave you with a little game to practice which I call 3 touches in a minute. You must touch her 3 times on each side of her body in a minute, but you must keep swapping each side with each touch. Hard to explain I have a rough quickly knocked up u-tube video of it to help you get an idea.. Up up and Kinos away Kino is King

Megadirt: The Underestimated Benefits Of Going Out

Bit of background info to start you off. My sudonym is Megadirt, or MD if you wish. I was the type of guy who would end up falling into lucky relationships with 7s or 8s and they would last a long time.I say long, 6 months at best. The repercussions of the break-up however lasted a LONG time, sometimes 2 years of nothing, no socialising even with people I already knew. I discovered the community when I was 16 (5 years ago) but when I was 16, as most 16 year olds do, I did everything half-assed, I fell into another relationship and just forgot about it. Earlier this summer my AFC friend got dumped just before taking his CB4 girlfriend to NewYork. So I went with him instead, and at a Playboy book signing picked up a book by my, by then, second only to Douglas Adams, favourite author Neil Strauss. It all came flooding back. I looked at my friend and his CB4 ex-gf (who came anyway) and all the acronyms and sudonyms patterns, everything Id learned all of a sudden seemed to make more sense. For fear of being chastised I left

the book down and vowed to get it once I got back to familiar bookshops. So I read it tried and tested a few wings and have whittled it down to 3 very good eager to learn guys. I went to see Gambler and by the end of the day I was approaching like a motherfucker. First week back out I email close and F-closed a fortnight later, got a half assed relationship outve it. Not enough to make me leave the game. We went out once a week did one approach maybe, but would spend the rest of the week watching DVDs, reading E-books, making up scenarios. There got to a point where I realised that I could get past any womans LMR, AMOG the drunkest of guys and we were all really pleased with ourselves..but we couldnt approach anyone. Every week was the same, maybe open one or two sets, and then laugh it up when they went wrong, high five if they went right then my relationship ended, I watched the loverboy tribute to sarging video. It ended on a Thursday. I went out that night, and everynight until tonight. 9 Days. 9 Nights out. I figured out since last week Ive approached about 150 people. Early in the week the sets wouldnt hook that easily, or would go dry but we opened loads of them, got rid of the AA which was the point. Middle of the week wed hold sets for ages, theyd get slightly bitchy after a while but the interactions where fun. We have had to incorporate negs, C&F, false takeaways..all those little decorations for the stages and as of last night AMOGing. These two really drunk guys where diving right into the seduction stage hanging off girls and

making them feel REALLY uncomfortable. I walked up, alpha handshake, hey man hows it going I really love your tie, whered you get it, its really cool I had one just like it, where you guys out for tonight, just out drinknig on the pull? Thats really cool, youll go really far, youve a great sense of tact basically I just kept talking as I walked him and his friend over to the other side of the bar. I then opened the two set Id just saved, fired an opener at them, DHVd took a while, their shields where up a bit cos of the guys, but they invited us out the following day, one of the girls was really shy and submissive, the other quite dominant and playful. TBH, closing shouldve been no problem, but I just didnt, thats the next stage I have to get to, thats for next week. Another set I opened later that day had someone in it I already recognised, but she didnt recognise me, so I opened them and told her what her name was and she got a bit scared, I guessed her friends birthday to proove I was psychic. Then isolated her friend, teased her, c&f all was going well, pushed for the number close she couldnt remember her number. The interaction went quite well, but I dont think I displayed enough personality and it was quite near the end of the night but thats another step up, besides Ill see her again, if not, 7 billion people in the world ive still most of them to meet. Ive been at the game for 3 months, and I find that Ive had to extreme progress points, Gamblers workshop, and the past 9 days. The commonalities? Approach everything. High five people without drinks, clink glasses, say cheers or happy christmas, work the room. Ive internalised

more in the past week than I have in the apst 3 months just because of this, most of which was yesterday and the previous day. Game the world, old lady serving you in a shop wearing an odd scarf? Talk about it. Girl walks into you in the street? Bust her on it. Guy wearing your favourite bands t-shirt? Talk to him about them. Just talk to everyone, if you tease a guy working in a pizza shop, or a girl working in a bookstore, they probably arent going to accuse you of gaming them.

shes probably just putting all this on anyway Ill give you guys a better idea by being more specific. Today me and WING went out to a bar called Stiff Kitten, its one of our regular establishments. We went in said hey to the bouncers and headed on down the steps and approached the bar, as I ordered my Vodka and red bull, I took a quick peripheral look around, guy sets and couples all the way. I started talking to WING, I noticed a two set a tall brunette HB7, and leading her down the steps, a half-Italian HB8.5 long legs, eyes you could lose yourself in, a hypnotic walk and most importantly a life with a me-shaped hole in it. I looked around, there was a set near them a guy

Megadirt: Fear of success

Ive had many sticking points in my three and a half months of gaming. Approach anxiety because I was new to the game. Being able to talk in sets because I was so nervous. Keeping high energy because I was thinking negative thoughts. Creating attraction because I didnt understand about kino etc. Building comfort because I talked about myself a bit too much and didnt really care about them. These are all pretty generic, nothing to be ashamed of, they all make sense, easy to get past. But recently Ive hit an odd one. I hope other people get this and Im not just mental. I cant number close. Not because she isnt giving me enough IOIs or is being bitchy, but because its going so well. I look at the girl who is hotter than anyone Ive ever spoken to before, she is feeling me up, rubbing against me, holding my hand from time to time and shes looking at me with those DDB eyes, this is the point when my that evil little man who lives in my head steps in and suggests Look at her shes so hot, if you ask for her number, her friend will think youre weird, and

set, I briefly considered pawning them but just grew some balls and went in to the two set with no idea of what I was gonna say. Hey guys, wheres there thats good to go on a Saturday that isnt here or the Limelight? Erm..Theres the beach clubbut theyve got a really strict dress code, sometimes they wont let you in. I cut her off here and looked offended What are you trying to say? in a cocky funny way, while indicating how well I was dressed. She laughed and continued No no no, I mean if you go in wearing a mini-skirt sometimes they. Wow wow wow, what about my personality makes you think Im gonna try and go in there in a mini skirt? She laughed and lightly Kinod me, I let her finish waht she was trying to say, thanked her Kinod the obstacle lightly and went back to WING. He asked me if there was anywhere around for food that wasnt takeaway crap. So I asked the set, Hey guys, you were so much help the last time Im gonna let you consult me on my next problem, were can we get something to eat around here that isnt greasy and burger king-y.

We fluffed for a bit, and then WING took care of the obstacle. We started talking she started to give me a bit of kino and she asked me what I did for work, we talked about her being half Itialian, and where abouts she was from, Sicily it turns out, and she asked how often I am in the Stiff Kitten. I wasnt sure if the truth was a good idea but I said About 4 times a week cos I love meeting new people, and it keeps work very seperate from my social life. I also pointed out I wasnt an alcoholic and didnt drink everytime I was there. Her next question knocked me off guard Have you read the game? I replied with a cool, yeah its cool then she kept trying to make sure that I had constantly asking me questions about it, as if it was a DHV to have read it and she HAD to make sure. She then was really interested in my path from being a nervos little boy to my current situation. I cant imagine you being shy. Yeah this time 2 weeks ago my hair was long frizzy and I probably wouldnt be tlaking to you, this time 3 months ago I definately wouldnt have been talknig to you, and this time 6 months ago I probably wouldnt even have been out at the bar. Have you a photo of you with your hair longer, you look really sexy now. She was kinoing me so much at this point it was getting ridiculous, I was gonna have to close her. We fluffed for a while, it came time for both of us to go to our next destinations, my head kept saying We should hang out sometime.. we should hang out sometime.we should hang out sometime She invited me to go with her to the bar she was going to, I didnt go because I was so skint I couldnt afford it, we both left about the same time, I didnt close her, I couldve real easily even when we left she looked back at us twice I couldve called her over and done it there but didnt. I really dont feel comfortable doing it,

Im gonna have to get over that soon, Ill keep you posted as I get better.

Gambler: The Importance Of Morals When Dealing With Women

So you want the skill of a PUA which basically means you can have choice with women? You can have multiple long term relationships, you can have all the one-night stands you want, or you can find a good quality girl and stick with her. The problem for me is when guys dont consider the womans wants whatsoever. Maybe they hate women for all the times theyve been rejected and want to get their own back. This is messed up. Luckily most of our customers are good quality guys who love women and just want more control over their love lives. With great power comes great responsibility as Spiderman says. It is possible (and not even too difficult) to make sure you never break a girl heart. You just need to follow a few simple rules: -If you just want sex, you dont need a conversation to set these rules, you just need to keep the intera -Now, by being honest and having morals, you MIGHT sleep with less women, but that love for women and the desire not to hurt them will make you more attractive and will earn you trust when you really want it.

-Keep the interaction light, not mislead her, and not connect with her on a deep level. You know what she wants in a boyfriend, dont be it! -When you are dating, be honest. If you tell her you are seeing other women or dont want something too serious, she wont be investing emotion in something that isnt real. -You are a PUA, you can find another girl easily, she might be heat-broken for months if you split up with her. Better to let the girl dump you. Just be needy and clingy and unattractive, you dont need to start being a bastard. This isnt about status, its about not being nasty when you dont need to.

Give compliments. But do it right! Do it when you really feel it. Dont be generic with the compliment, and dont say it weakly. Deliver it deadpan. Compliments about character or something that she has done with herself that she wasnt born with are always better. You only need to play hard to get if she is, if she is open to talking to you initially, dont be distant, engage with her before she thinks you are interested in her ugly friend and decides to leave the two of you together! Take any rule with a pinch of salt. Find out what works for you. I break other guys rules every time I go out and still get tons of quality girls.

Gamblers PUA Method Gambler: Seduction Tips The Pick-Up Rules

Dont listen to the rules! You cant buy drinks for girls. Dont ask their name. Dont give a compliment. Dont pay attention to the one you fancy! Ignore all that rubbish. These rules should not be taken as law. If you are a millionaire, she is broke, and you are both thirsty from talking for 30 minutes, its fine to buy her a drink! Just avoid girls that ONLY want a drink, and dont think of it as winning her over if you buy her a drink. Ask her name, its fine, getting a name is powerful, do it early. If you wait for her, chances are she will forget to ask, its an IOI if she asks, but most of the time they are caught up in the conversation and will forget! Naturally Im not high energy, I was a shy, introvert, who wasnt very sociable. Ive learnt how to turn on my extrovert skills, but usually Id prefer to not be too high energy. I can do it When I got into Game, one of the first things I decided was that I didnt want to limit myself in any way. I wanted to be able to do day game, night game, dance floor, basically anytime I saw a girl that I wanted to speak to, I wanted to be able to approach her. People think Im a natural, but Im not, I didnt kiss a girl until 21! People call me good looking, thanks, but I was called ugly until my early twenties too. I have worked on every aspect of my character, and Ive done everything possible to engineer my looks. I didnt know anything about this stuff until late 2005. At that time, Id only slept with 2 girls!

however, I can hold a 6 set on my own for 20 minutes, and do crazy flashy things. I guess these are skills that naturals dont have, so it is a mark of a PUA. Students like it, I have a rule on 1-on1s that Ill open any set they tell me to, so I had to develop this skill. Ive got a super high energy game, and its there when I need it. After doing 500+ hours of training, I have state control, I can switch it on and off anytime.

your mind that the girl will come over to you, then it will work. This style is good for fast escalation in clubs, ONSs, etc. The girl doesnt know you, so if you just want something casual, do this. If you want something more, you need to connect with her, and thats where I employ my second method. In the second style, Ill be semi-indirect to start.

More likely, if I see a big set with a girl I want in it, Ill go directly to her, when Steve/Vertex says hes never done a mixed set and things like this, he has, he just did it in this way. I game in different ways when Im training, so Ill talk about how I game when Im doing things for myself. Ive got two types of styles: 1. Very direct and fast escalation. 2. Slow burning girlfriend close. In the first style, Ill attract the girls attention from a distance, force an IOI (verbally or nonverbally), go in in a sexual state and escalate quickly. This is how I got a 20 minute street to bed with a genuine HB9 (on the Vertex & Gambler scale, I only SAW three 9s in 2006), and its how I got 2 k-closes at Movida on Wednesday without even talking to the girls first. I use a lot of nonverbal stuff, I can even have a little conversation non-verbally to warm the girls up. This style of mine took a while to develop, you need complete confidence and authority otherwise it just wont work. The example is beckoning a girl to come over to you, if you do it with doubt, she wont come. If there is no doubt in

By semi-indirect I mean Im not putting on a show for the girl or using time-constraints etc, but I am just coming across like a sociable person that wants to chat to them. I aim to hook by being more funny and interesting than what they were doing and then get into rapport. I do this crazy deep connection stuff. I focus on digging out real emotions. Emotions are attached to memories, passions, future dreams, etc. I elicit and connect on this. This is where the girls say I trust you, I feel like Ive known you for 3 months, and it melts them pretty well. So Ive got this connection, at some point I switch to a sexual character and this brings in the sexual tension. She knows I know that I can kiss her, and the tension builds. Its up to me when I do it. Ive had girls Ive brought back to my house, havent kissed them at all so far, and they still are naked in bed within 10 minutes. When they know you can kiss them but wait, the tension builds, and its not that awkward type because they know you are doing it on purpose rather than just being scared. So I use this to get my girlfriend close. The GFclose is basically when they would move in with me, commit to a relationship, whatever, just after a few hours. Another facet of this style is my

complete honesty, I will tell them my job, if I have any other girls, if I dont like something about them, etc. What this does is it makes my emotion for them and the compliments I give much more powerful because they are genuine. I love women. Im honest with them. I dont try and control them. I dont exploit them. Heres my take on social proof game: I use it. Sometimes. 2 times recently Ive done The Takeover where we will just take over a section of the club and create a bubble around us, any girl in that bubble will be a warm approach. Ill work the room, be ultra high energy, dance around like a nutter, do all that stuff. Last bootcamp, on the Sunday night, there were more than 10 close-able girls, and when I left, some ran after me to make me take their number. I got solid closes from only a couple of minutes. What I dont do is talk to people who I dont want to, when I dont feel like it. Just like I cant bring myself to use a routine or canned lines in a PU, I cant be fake with people who Im just trying to get something from. It works fine for me, Ive spent no time schmoozing but still get film premieres, VIP parties, etc. In my opinion, social circle game is much easier so its worth trying to get HBs in your social circle. The owner of a model agency needs no game. Can you say that game is getting the girls whether it comes from a cold approach, or whether it comes from you making friends with her boss?

My morals also extend to demos for students, and how I treat my girls. Ive never broken a girls heart! I manage relationships very very well. I dont n-close a girl I wouldnt call just to demo it. I dont play with them or take things too far. I dont use an unwitting pivot and then leave her to go off with an HB. This isnt Zan level stuff of spending an hour with a fat girl just to make her feel better. I just will do what is in my power to not hurt girls. If I got blown out, Id never do anything rude in response. On bootcamps, we teach the elements of social proof game, since they apply to making people like you, making a good impression, etc.

Gambler: Strip Club Game

Not many guys that come to bootcamps have considered stripper game. A lot of people view strippers as little better than prostitutes. The thing is that in London, a stripper can earn 1000 a night in a top venue. Guys are not allowed to touch, the girls are well looked after, and the crowd is much better than you would find in an average club. This means that a hot girl can make a lot more from stripping than she could for most other things. She can work for a few months and save up enough money to put towards a house or something else. So, the upshot is that the strip club is not full

Sure you can, I just morally object to working people like that.

of skanky bitches, its filled with generally good quality girls. They could be students, they could have a dream of being a singer or model, or yes, they could be a skanky bitch. The point is, the girls

will be no worse than the average that you find in a night club in character, and will be a LOT better in looks. Not all the girls are hot in a strip club, there are some fat ones, there are some with ugly faces. But the average standard is much higher, and chances are that out of 70 girls, 2 or 3 will be HB8s (on our strict scale). The other misconception is that you are going to need to buy loads of dances. You dont. We spend very little money at the strip club (1 drink). We get in for free with vouchers, buy our drink, and sit there for a few hours and game the girls. Favourite strip clubs in London for gaming the girls are Stringfellows in Wardour St and Upper St Martins Lane (next to my house!), Spearmint Rhino, and Secrets in Chancery Lane or Euston.

considered the hardest to pick up. I dont really know what to work on next, but I do know that if I can take another PU holiday in a place with hot women, Ill come back with a whole bunch of new refinements to my game and teaching method. I think the next step could be further research on state control. I want to be able to generate the state at will that women find irresistible. It is easy to get into this state if youve got a bunch of k-closes around a club, but Id like to be able to generate it any time. Something I need to do is bring back some balance. I work almost exclusively on PUA stuff, I have meant to do lots of classes and courses but just havent had the time. Ive started going to the gym for the first time in my life which is good for my energy levels and fitness but havent done the other things Ive meant to. I want to do Brazilian Jiu Jitsu for martial arts &

Gambler: Looking back and forward: Personal

If I look back at what Ive achieved in terms of increasing my skill with women, building the business, and working on my character, Im very satisfied. If I had just learned game and never thought about training, I would have quit learning about 9 months ago. At that point, I could go out a few times a week and get numbers to line up dates for the rest of the week. I kept on trying to improve because I wanted to be the best that I could so that I would offer the best service to customers. I wasnt improving for myself, I went beyond that. So now I date fashion models and strippers, the kind of girls that are

fitness. I want to do some yoga/pilates classes because I am very inflexible. I want to learn Portuguese (for when I go to Brazil), and Russian. I have loads of books I want to read. On an even more personal note, Ive met lots of good friends and girls through moving to London and dedicating my time to PUA. These are people that will always be part of my life now, and its amazing to see what big events small decisions have lead to. People that have read my story might imagine that Im not at all an introvert anymore, but I still am. I still prefer small groups, 1on1 conversations, and need time to myself. I just have the extravert skills when necessary.

Gambler: Eye Contact, Rapport & Conversational Flow

I was on a 1on1 the other day and had some deeper realisations on eye contact. We were in set together, I was winging and observing my student whilst he was in set. I noticed that I was able to get my girl comfortable and in rapport very quickly but his conversation seemed to be a bit stop-start. A lot of guys also tell me that they run out of things to say, etc. I used to have this problem, but maybe I wasnt completely conscious of all the elements I have now that make this not happen anymore. He was breaking eye contact to think of what to say next. When you break eye contact, the other persons attention can wander. They will look around the room, things will catch their eye, the eye wanders and then the mind wanders. It will break them out of the moment. Its very difficult to do this if someone is holding eye contact with you, you might look away but you will feel drawn back in. I knew this already, but what I realised was the timing of the eye contact break. If you break it when there is a break in the conversation (end of subject, thinking of what to say next), then it increases the strength of the break and creates the stop-start kind of conversation. If you break eye contact when they are in flow or you are in flow, they still have the words there to hold their attention so it is more acceptable and doesnt create that break. I advocate constant eye contact, but I notice that I break it when Im winging, talking to guys, or generally talking to people that I dont want to be attracted to me. But I break it when there is not a conversational break, this

means that I only lose the attraction but not the flow. Another factor was that he nodded and moved his head a lot when the girl was speaking. Subconsciously, this told her that she should finish what she is saying quickly. We all know what it is like when someone is nodding and saying aha, yeah, aha, its annoying and it communicates that they have something to say. He wasnt verbally doing this, but he was nodding and moving his head quickly which both makes it look like he wasnt listening well and made her think he wanted to jump in with something to say. If you can keep eye contact and match their vocal tone and be relaxed in your body language, you can create an environment where they forget about the whole room and everything going on for a few minutes, its almost hypnotic. I think this is what I do, and this is why my conversation flows. We are focused completely on each other, Im not in my head wondering what to say, and they arent looking around getting distracted. It is powerful. Of course, eye contact is also essential for the seduction phase

Gambler: 93% Of Gaming Is Non-Verbal

This is a recent realisation of mine. It goes against conventional thought, and it goes against all the guys that constantly ask what should I open with.

In a night club, you can k-close without saying a word. Sexual tension is generated almost completely through non-verbal communication. Of course, day-game has a much larger verbal element, and it is kind of stupid that most of the pickup material is verbally heavy but focused on clubs. Who lies more doesnt work in the street or supermarket. Clubs are noisy, the girls have lower attention spans, and in big cities there are often a large number of foreign girls. Assuming the basic rule that number closes are for the day-time and physical closes are for the night game (because one is a sexually charged environment with alcohol and the other isnt) most of how night game is taught should focus on non-verbal communication. There is a shortage of day-game material. My non-verbal game includes forcing IOIs, sexual tension generation, sexual state projection, and conveying attractive qualities (sexual confidence, relaxed, indifferent, nonneedy).

Recently Ive been gaming with a different style, this is similar to what Beckster has been doing for years. Ill go to a club and get 5 or more numbers of the hottest girls. I might only be in set with them for a short time. Normally all we have is attraction. Ill get the number and then Ill send them the same series of text messages which is designed to get them back to my house. From Wednesday Ive got 3 dates arranged, and from Thursday another 2. The girls are hot, some models, all meet my criteria of looking good without make-up, bening thin, and having other attractive qualities outside their looks. For my first time trying this style it went well, but I think with some refinements I could line up dates for the whole week from just one night out. Of course, one constraint on this is the quality of the girls, and luckily now Ive found the best places in London for hot girls so I can guarantee that Im going to be attracted to quite a few of

Gambler: Fast Closes And Text Game, Gaming The Lazy Way
When I first started gaming, I opened 20 sets or so a night, partly to get lots of practice and partly because the sets werent lasting that long. Then I got good, and only opened girls that I wanted.

them vs none of them in the usual Leicester Square venues.

Natural Game vs Routine-based, Gamblers take

I have never directly commented on this

For the past 6 months, ive been going for solid closes with very targeted girls. Id go to the club and usually only open one girl, and theyd be the ones that I stay with for the rest of the night. Because of the amount of time we are together, its pretty much guaranteed that theyd want to see me again. I called this the girlfriend close.

arguement - is it better to develop a script and go out and use it to pull women, or is it better to try and be natural? On our bootcamps, we take the view that it is easier to get started and build confidence if you

have some material to fall back on, and that is why we teach some. Personally I used canned material and routines to begin with and it took a few months to completely leave them behind. Assuming someone is a PUA or MPUA, why would they still use routines? Here are my problems with routine based game: 1. The woman is being attracted to a fake you, do you want someone to be attrracted, like, or love you for who you are or not?

feel a connection with you because you ran all this emotional stuff on them and you are going to break a lot of hearts. Does someone who is great with women need to do this? Shouldnt he be better and more moral than the average guy. Normally it is desperation that causes a guy to lie and use tricks (and even spike girls drinks), so why do these so-called PUAs still do it? 6. Are you developing yourself and making yourself into a more attractive man if you are working so much on your outer game, and specifically the script you use? Doesnt that make you a weirdo? Of course, this stuff all has its place and im glad

2. Men that have choice and skills with women do not need to lie, cheat, steal, manipulate, or trick a woman into bed. Fake DHV stories, openers, kissclose techniques, etc are all fakery that substitute putting yourself on the line. 3. Do we really want a girl that would fall for all this shit? I know it works on a lot of girls, but it puts me off a girl when she falls for it! 4. There is a chance I could end up in a relationship with a girl I use a routine stack on, could I live with myself knowing that I might not have got her if I didnt use it? Can I look at her every day knowing she fell for who lies more? Do I want a girl that any routine robot might have been able to get?

I had some openers and stuff when I first started but the goal of us all should be to leave it all behind as soon as possible.

Steve: Sexual Escalation - Gaming For Sex After Short Interactions

I wanted to write this post after thinking about the 10 step guide to natural game. Ive seen posts / spoken to guys about their view on game and have noticed that there tends to be a ubiquitous view that the process should be followed, dogmatically, religiously, at all times. Either MM, SS or whatever. Pulled a HB 8.5 and are attracting well? Better

5. This is the biggest of all. When you use a routine stack time and time again. you cant calibrate to how much you like the girl. Whether you just want to sleep with her or whether you really really like her, you use the same shit. So what happens? Girls that you dont like too much

lather some rapport on there sonny jim, otherwise you in fo a whole heap o flaking. In a group situation? Better go in a take care of the CBs first, and fo sho dont game the target direct,

cos shell blow you out and kick you to the kerb, girlfriend. Bollocks. Im speaking from my own personal experience on this matter, so what I wanted to talk about was the notion of having to have all this rapport / comfort in order to ensure the HB will meet you again after the first encounter. In my view, its not necessary, at least not to the degree that a lot of guys seem to think. Attraction and fascination will do just fine.

(Fake gangster accent a la Robert De Niro, with exaggerated hand gestures) Ehhh, forget abaaaat it, so where you goin eh? Hot damn..HB 8.5 tall redhead (laughing): Im going to Swindon Me : Whatchou goin there for, wassa matta withchu? Come with me to London.. (Puts hand under chin and gestures toward her, gangster style HB 8.5 tall redhead (laughing more) : Hey Id love to but Im tired from work, blah blah Me : Ah yeah, work eh. Hah I bet youre tired, climing up that pole, stripper girl. Thus the convo was started

NOTE : Obviously its preferable to have some kind of connection, however I am posting this because I think its helpful in situations where : (i) There isnt enough fucking time for rapport i.e train station, tube, etc etc.(ii) Youre in an environment where there are lots of HBs and you dont want to spend hours with her talking shite. (iii) You get the point. Here is an example which illustrates the point, with follow up: I met HB 8.5 tall redhead at Cheltenham train station last Friday, I thought I would game her for a laugh as I havent been doing too much recently. Me : Hey how long does x take to get to London, it doesnt say on the boardHB 8.5 tall redhead : Er about 2 hours I thinkMe : Wow youre really expressive with your hand gestures, what are you a gangster or something? You Italian? It revolves around star signs and sexuality, I tell her that she is a naughty girl and a typical red head, she accuses me of being a player, doing this all the time etcI eventually say to her that I think we should go to the toilets and fuck, she So we get on the train and talk more, I tell her I have been to see my accountant and she tells me she is a trainee account. At this point were sitting opposite each other, so I move across next to her and show her my expenses on my laptop (I also show her pics of HB Spanish model who Ive been shagging, I dont know why but this came up) So I have about 1 hour to game her, plenty. keep busting on her about various things and then go kino. Hardcore. Started off brushing a bit of hair off her face and told her I love readheads, she says Im cheesy but is loving it. Were chatting like this for a while and then some guy sits opposite so I open up my laptop and start typing messages for her on the screen.

replies with something like (my heart says yes but my head says noI cant do it,, Im a good girl). I am escalating kino all the time, I put my hand on her knee and tell her that perfect symmetry is rare in nature, she says one of her knees is bigger than the other as she had an accident once, etc etc. So I play about with this for a while and then move my hand further up, part her legs etc and stroke thighsThen lean in and nibble on her neck and earlobes After more of this and more sexy talk I end up getting off with her, not hugely passionate kissing but proper, right on the train This is a crowded train, theres a guy opposite and to the other side are various other passengers. They cant see my hand under the table though As she gets off I smack her on the arse (my speciality) and tell her Ill be seeing her real soonI have the number of course. So try to get her down at the weekend but she doesnt make it although she has rung me twice and will prob come down on Sunday.

I felt we had something there and I want to see where it takes us, its not very often I meet someone I really like..You felt it too babe didnt you, I know you did..Speak soon. The KEY points here are: (i) She was obviously very attracted and that alone may have guaranteed a shag AT THAT TIME (e.g at her house), however due to the time lag she might have flaked, however because the attraction and fascination was so strong she made it easy for me to progress things by making comments like youre a player, dont go shagging and leaving too many girls when you go out this weekend etc etc. She was making it clear that she thought I was like that, BUT WAS GIVING ME A CLEAR WAY OUT OF IT, all I had to say was that I felt something special with her.(ii)This is absolutely key with quick seductions that of necessity have to lead to sex at another time you HAVE to have MAJOR attraction, escalate smoothly, confidently and in a dominant way, and then later when she gives you a chance to make her feel a little special, you take it.

THE REAL KEY TO THIS POST :

Ive had 3 minute, hell 2 minute no closes from I could sense that she thought I was a player and not really faithful to girls and she felt like one in a long queue, so I had to at least provide some sort of spurious reason for her to come down and shag me (ok she hasnt yet but the fact that she has called twice now indicates to me that its on. If she does come down, I am 95% sure I will nail her). So I sent her a txt, along the lines of Hey in all seriousness, I know we got a bit carried away there on the train but I did really quite like you.. She knows she wants to fuck but has to rationalise it to herself in some way, so will most nightclubs, coffee shops etc that have led to prolonged contact and in some cases, sex. You have to sense the energy of the interaction and leave on a high note when her interest is highdont let it flag and dont talk too fucking much. (iii) Even though she probably knows its bullshit, in her mind she is probably resolved of all responsibility as I am the one escalating etc.

definitely come down with the view Im not going to shag him, but will do it and then rationalise afterwards that it was all my fault I am typing this at work and my manager is watching me like a fucking hawk, I will come back to it another time and reread to make sure it makes senseanyway there have been other examples but I wanted to give a detailed breakdown so you could see what I was talking about Summary (i) Escalate physically, SMOOTHLY, CONFIDENTLY, DOMINANT. She WILL be sucked into it if you do this, doesnt matter that much where you are. (ii) Leave the interaction on a high note (iii) Theres NOTHING wrong with her thinking youre a player, its a challenge to her, she is turned on by it and will give you a way in by dropping little hints so that you can make her feel a little special (iv) When you see her again, escalate from where you left off. First thing you do when you see her walk up to her, kiss her and grab her arse.

Now, what is going on here? Is it natural to do this are are you using a technique? A frame control technique? To me, anything that is not natural is WEAK. You will be found out eventually, IMHO. Also, if not done correctly it looks fucking stupid. You look like a dork who is socially maladjusted, trying to be alpha. Ive seen this out there, by the way, it;s cringeworthy. Its totally different from someone who GENUINELY cant be arsed to listen to any bullshit and gives a congruent reaction. It looks WEIRD. Ive been thinking about game recently and a key part of having a natural style is living in the moment. To me, this means just saying the first thing that comes into my head!! Listen to what your body is telling you, what pops into your mind when someone says something to you? I think it depends on a bunch of factors : your state, how tired you are, the environment, etc etc. What about if you could just say the first thing that comes into your mind, and give your natural response with no regards to the consequenecs? Because you really dont care? London Hunk has been posting every Tuesday

Steve: A Powerful Natural Frame To Have

Ive seen a lot of talk on here about FRAME. Your frame in the interaction with HBs. For eg, if the HB says something unnacceptable, or is shit testing you or whatever, you FRAME CONTROL it away.

about responding when a HB hits you with THIS. I find this really cool, but I was thinking : my response would be totally different depending on how I feel at any given time, what my body is telling me. Example : HB : So why do I need you as a boyfriend? What

Yeah cool, so whatever

will you do for me?

Me (happy relaxed and playful state) - Turn her over, smack her on the arse. Shut up silly girl. Smack her arse again. Me (moody and pissed off state) - Wincing. Look at her - Thats a fucking stupid thing to say. Shut up. Dont say stuff like that to me againMe (Angry state) Shut up you stupid cuntMe (horny state) FUCK THE ARSE OFF YOU. You wouldnt fucking believe it. Now shut up and grab my dick! Do you see where I am going with this? Its amazingly powerful. You just wander through life, living in your own reality. Now, I am not advocating hitting people or being criminal. You need to be socially adjusted and have respect for peoples boundries. An obvious one is : never fuck around with peoples religions. Be socially aware but live in YOUR reality. Further info: OK there are some valid points here and ill ignore the pointless diatribe against meNo need for it. I am genuinely trying to help and am genuinely trying to break down how I game because I feel its valid : its not easy for me to do this.

being insecure. SO this is stuff I HAVE LEARNED MY SELF. To my mind, there is NO reason why someone else cannot learn it too. I think I am advocating something that is much more simple, organic and natural that learning techniques. I am advocating doing exactly what your body and mind say at that point in time. Have you ever noticed the nerdy guys who, when you get talking to them, occasionaly come out with hysterical comments that have everyone rolling around the floor laughing? Would you ever expect that? No. So, what about if these guys try giving themselves free reign to let this personality come out. This is what I am saying. Let the real person come out, past all the social programming. Other guys on here can probably advise more technical ways of doing this : I am offering another alternative. Have you ever seen that movie, Falling Down? The Micheal Douglas character is going insane, sure. But whats he up to? HES ACTING AS HE WANTS TO!! It is fucking annoying to him that they are digging up the street, so he blows it up with a fucking rocket launcher!!! So, if a girl is giving you shit, and yuore pissed

1st point : Frame control IS something that can be learned. I was not a natural before I started : I wasnt walking up to girls on the street and taking them home. I had NEVER done a cold approach in my life : I used to wait for EC and then move in. Only in nightclubs. Usually it worked. My game was 1 dimensional. But I managed to talk my self out of SO SO many lays merely by

off, FUCKING TELL HER!!! Women want a guy who IS emotional, who IS truthful, they dont want a fucking invented personality!

Steve: Club Game Escalation - Tactics And Techniques

I see / hear a lot of guys asking about what openers are best to use in clubs, what method to use, c&f, direct etc. I see other guys discussing the merits of mini techniques, like grabbing her arm, spinning her round etc etc. Whilst this is all great I dont see anyone talking about SEXUAL DOMINANCE/ PROJECTING A SEXUAL VIBE at all times. Elements of this should exist in ANY interaction with females, to one degree or another. However in club game, you can be EXTREMLY overt about it. I shall put this in context. I am a 6ft tall bloke, with a good body and good looks. When I am walking round the streets I often get very good looking women checking me out, giving me IOIs etc. I say this not to boast but to point out that the stuff I describe here WORKS FOR ME, it may not work for everyone. If you use this kind of stuff though, it can get results like blow jobs on trains, stuff like that. You will probably find that if you do stuff like this, you will get women calling you dangerous, sexy, horny, a predator etc. They will probably not trust you but they WILL find it sexy. If you have good lay logistics and can extract well, you may get lots on ONS by doing this.

If you want more Day 2s then you need to TONE IT DOWN. Go for more rapport once you have attraction. If you want to just roll around the club being wild, getting off with good looking chicks left right and centre, then give it a try, its GREAT FUN!! Clubs are full of good looking, alpha guys. Often with money, practically ALL horny, ALL wanting to get the girl. YOU HAVE TO STAND OUT!! I choose to do it by trying to portray the best looking, most alpha, NON DRUNK, sexually powerful, dominant guy. NOTE: This does not work on all girls, you have to calibrate. It does usually work on girls who are giving you IOIs. Otherwise you need to be able to tell if a girl fancies you immediately when you open look for the usual IOIs. NOTE 2: You have to get into the right state to do it. NOTE 3: Please, no bleating about is this field tested, does it work, of course its fucking field tested, and it works for me. So, how to project a sexual vibe These are general things that you can do. 1. When you see a HB or SHB, imagine her naked. Imagine her sucking on your cock, imagine her bent over with her pink slit on display, imagine sliding your cock into her. 2. Feel the weight of your cock between your legs, feel your balls. Think of it as your big fat tool,

think of how you can slam it into the HBS and make her wet. THINK SEXUAL. 3. Your body language should convey this sexual vibe. You should be standing tall, when you stand still stand with your legs apart. TAKE UP SPACE. 4. If you get the eye of a HB, look at her and decide if you want to fuck her. If you do, think to yourself mmm, she is going to get some of my cock.. Swagger over to her (you have to do this right, its NOT like Liam Gallagher, its like you KNOW she wants you, the deal is already done, she wants to feel your cock in her mouth). Say anything, use something like whats your story then? Say it in the right way, get in close, invade the fuck out of her body space. Im serious, do not be a joker, be sexually powerful. NO TIMIDITY CAN BE SHOWN. BE OVERLY SEXUALLY CONFIDENT. 5. When you see her and are up close, use your eyes and whole body to capture her attention. You should almost instantly shut out the rest of the club for her. You have to swallow her with your eyes, whole. Stare at her, extremely suggestively. You should almost be sneering, this is how sexual you need to be. I cant describe it better than that, you need to have her in the state where nothing else in the world exists in that moment except your beautiful, fucking sexy face (this is honestly how you need to be thinking). Do something like put 2 fingers under her chin and just look at her, STUDY her for a while.

You can escalate extremely fast by doing this. Fluff about bullshit but be invading her space and overwhelm her with masculine presence. 6. When you first start to touch her, alternate. Start off with extremely alpha stuff, after you have kissed her, SLAP her arse, I mean SLAP it, hard. Grab one of her arse cheeks and pull her into you so her pussy is pressed up against your cock. Grab her and pull her into you and let her feel your cock rubbing against her. Grab the back of her head and pull her hair so that her head goes back, kiss her neck. If you are doing this right, you should be almost instantly hard and maybe have some precum coming out of your cock. Then alternate it later (usually after prolonged kissing), put one hand under her chin and lean back, study her whole face and look at her softly. Put both hands on her face, one on each side. Lean in softly, bump heads a little. Rub noses with her and laugh with her about it. At this point I am thinking I am using my big brown eyes to show her my tender side. Usually then you can hug her and stroke her back. Its almost as if you are taming a wild horse, you have to show it whos boss to start, then you can show your tender side later. 7. When kissing, start off slowly, and gentle and then when you get more into it, make appreciative noises if you want, really get into it, pull back, kiss her HARD, almost like you are going to bruise her mouth, pull her hair and position her mouth where YOU want it. Stick your tongue in as you feel like it.

8. Tell her what you want to do to her. Be graphic. Be extremely fucking sexual, I am going to fuck you so hard, I am going to make you scream, etc etc. If she objects with some feeble shit, tell her to shut the fuck up, come here (then kiss her again) 9. In general just be extremely dominant. Be cool with it, you dont want to come across like a school teacher, more like an extremely confident, sexually powerful guy who gets what he wants from women. You should be thinking of the women as little retarded girls who dont know what they want and need a big guy to show them what the fuck is going on. 10. Tell her what to do, almost in an offhand way. Come here, sit there, get me a beer, do this, do that. Accompany it with little smacks etc. Even, at some points, a gentle slap in the face if she gives you any shit, but stare her down and do not back down after you have done it. 11. Dont be afraid to game her friends if there are two or more of them. Put your arms round both of them, feel their arses, have fun with them, they are girls and they come out to meet and have fun with sexy guys. So dont be afraid to have fun with them!! I shall try and break this down into more specific techniques in certain situations with examples if anyone is interested. I would say that its easier to show you guys but I am still not used to gaming with other guys much and find it much harder, but hopefully when I wing some of you I can get into this state and do it naturally to demonstrate.

A Powerful Frame To Have : What Does Your Body Say?

Ive seen a lot of talk on here about FRAME. Your frame in the interaction with HBs.For eg, if the HB says something unnacceptable, or is shit testing you or whatever, you FRAME CONTROL it away. Yeah cool, so whateverNow, what is going on here? Is it natural to do this are are you using a technique? A frame control technique? To me, anything that is not natural is WEAK. You will be found out eventually, IMHO. Also, if not done correctly it looks fucking stupid. You look like a dork who is socially maladjusted, trying to be alpha. Ive seen this out there, by the way, it;s cringeworthy. Its totally different from someone who GENUINELY cant be arsed to listen to any bullshit and gives a congruent reaction. It looks WEIRD.Ive been thinking about game recently and a key part of having a natural style is living in the moment. To me, this means just saying the first thing that comes into my head!! Listen to what your body is telling you, what pops into your mind when someone says something to you? I think it depends on a bunch of factors : your state, how tired you are, the environment, etc etc.What about if you could just say the first thing that comes into your mind, and give your natural response with no regards to the consequenecs? Because you really dont care? London Hunk has been posting every Tuesday about responding when a HB hits you with THIS. I find this really cool, but I was thinking : my response would be totally different depending on how I feel at any given time, what my body is telling me.Example :

HB : So why do I need you as a boyfriend? What will you do for me?Me (happy relaxed and playful state) - Turn her over, smack her on the arse. Shut up silly girl. Smack her arse again.Me (moody and pissed off state) - Wincing. Look at her - Thats a fucking stupid thing to say. Shut up. Dont say stuff like that to me againMe (Angry state) Shut up you stupid cuntMe (horny state) FUCK THE ARSE OFF YOU. You wouldnt fucking believe it. Now shut up and grab my dick!Do you see where I am going with this? Its amazingly powerful. You just wander through life, living in your own reality. Now, I am not advocating hitting people or being criminal. I used to post stupid stuff like this, and guess what? It was because I was feeling like it at that time and it amused me. Anyway, of course you cant go around hitting people. You need to be socially adjusted and have respect for peoples boundries. An obvious one is : never fuck around with peoples religions. Be socially aware but live in YOUR reality.

in the following example :PUA : Hey can you tell me where the nearest hairdressers is?Her : Oh yeah, its just up there, turn left at the bank. PUA : OK , just up therePAUSE..Did you say you wanted to watch me wank? Ive only just met you, my god you are forwardThis is a rather extreme, however its useful because it illustrates the technique. Using this kind of sexual misinterpretation is great because :(i) You can use it at ANY point in the conversation e.g after opening, rapport stage etc etc.(ii) It shows great confidence, and if delivered correctly is very funny 2 ideal ingredients you want to demonstrate to a girl.(iii) It immediately cuts through the bullshit and sets the tone of the conversation as sexual. Remember, a degree of sexual tension is a MUST in interacting with girls. We all have boring, anodyne conversations all day long : this is different and makes you stand out.(iv) It shows you are sexually confident and direct. Again this is unusual and attractive. Ask as many attractive women as you can if they would appreciate being approached by an attractive guy who is direct and

Steves Guide To Creating Attraction

Here is my guide to creating attraction. There is a bunch of other stuff that I do that I am trying to quantify and break down, this is a good start though. Youll have to wait. Creating attraction There are numerous ways in which you can create attraction. The following are some of the best, most powerful ways : Method one Conversational jujitsu.Using this method you pretend not to hear what she is saying and misinterpret it in a sexual way, as

humourous.This technique is a way of creating sexual tension and quickly changing the nature of the interaction and getting you talking as a man and woman who may be interested in sex. Use it sparingly as overuse will reduce its effectiveness. Its difficult to put an exact figure on how many times you should do this but in a 3 minute number close in the daytime, once should be enough. Try and use it directly after the opener as its a great way of flipping the attraction switches. Another conversational method is to use ANY hook to turn the conversation onto a sexual / dating plane. You can use literally ANYTHING to do this, as with the example below :PUA : So where you from?HB : Im from LatviaPUA : Latvia

 oh yeah, cool. I heard about that placeI read an article about it actually. Yeah, it said that the girls from Latvia are all super hot(IRONICALLY) I couldnt comment , of coursePAUSEAnd it also said they all seem to have a special interest in (describe yourself) e.g 56 guys who wear brown courdroy pants and pink socks and matching pink underwear. PAUSEHow strange. Are you aware of this phenomenon?Your lucky day eh?Again, use this sparingly as you do not want to appear to be a clown by using too much humour. This method is best used shortly after the opener. Method two prolonged eye contact.This technique is most useful throughout the pickup. Generally you should aim to keep eye contact as long as possible but NOT IN A THREATING WAY! When in conversation with a girl, try and hold her eyes and smile at appropriate points. Dont stare! You know youre staring if she starts to say what and appears to think something is wrong with her.When holding eye contact, you can create attraction spikes by thinking of her in a sexual way and appreciating her beauty. However, be careful NOT to appear sleazy, as there is a world of difference between a sexual man and a sleazy one. A sexual man has an honest appreciation for beauty and gets pleasure from it, whereas a sleazy guy has a running porno video in his mind and views women as a sex object. To practice this skill, try to keep holding eye contact in every interaction with a woman. Dont look away and notice their reactions. If they appear uncomfortable, keep practicing and try to smile more, in a genuine and sexually interested way. As you practice this, you can let her in on the fact that you find her attractive and play with fake coyness, women can and WILL pick up on this and it becomes a sort of game, as every

comment you make can become pregnant with sexual undertones.To practice this, try and focus on something that you find physically attractive about her and gain pleasure from it and SHOW IT to the girl. Use the powerful statements in method five to enhance the effect. Method three pregnant pauses and sexual innuendo When youre confident, showing prolonged eye contact and using sexual humour, you can also use pauses and sexual innuendo. These techniques can be applied at any point during the pickup.Here is an example, this is an actual transcript taken from a 2 minute number close, which lead to an f close on a day 2.PUA : You look just like the cat that got the cream (PAUSE, looking at her in smiling way, but with sexual intent)See any interesting guys in here (INNUENDO)HB : Not really, its a bad night..Except you (attraction gained within 2 seconds)PUA : (Ironic smile) I see..Youre very forward arnet you? (Get closer). A bit of a naughty girl infact (Sexual humour). Do you know what happens to naughty girls (Innuendo)HB : I couldnt guess (fake innocence)PUA : (Grabbing her bum). They get their arses smacked, of course. But youd like that (sexual humour)PUA : Where you from??In the above example we have all of the techniques being used simultaneously, which allowed me to get a solid number close and arrange to meet her for a day 2. It was necessary to build up some comfort on text in order to solidify a day 2 but using these techniques you can get solid numbers very quickly as very very few guys out there are making this kind of impression so quickly. Method four Raise your standards.As a general principle, whenever youre in conversation with a girl, you need to keep 1 principle in mind :

know your standards and stick to them. Write them down if you have to! What do you want in a girl? What qualities are an absolute MUST (try to be more specific than 32DD breasts!). When youre talking, is she displaying qualities that you dont like? Has she said something that on some level pisses you off? Then SHOW IT!!This sounds obvious but its surprising how many guys will try to hide their distaste in the hopes of getting into a girls knickers. In truth the opposite is true : if you show youre a man with standards and will call her on shoddy behaviour, then youre much more likely to gain attraction. Here is the key : its how you show disdain that matters. DONT get into a prolonged logical debate about her behaviour or what she has said. Use your body and a quick word to convey distaste. Turn away from her a little if she genuinely pisses you off. Its not necessary to tell her off, just say I see as you backturn, or even thats a little weirdThen fall silent. Youll find that if shes attracted, shell claw at you and try to explain her position or apologise. This is a great opportunity to be won over (if you agree with what shes saying) and gain control of the frame. Method five tell her what you want / shock tactics.This technique is very powerful, and can literally transform the dynamic of an interaction with 1 clear sentence. It sends a very direct signal to her that you are interested and that you want her ;delivered at the right time its a devastating technique and can instantly transform an interaction and set the tone to whatever you want.When in a conversation, you can bust out these kind of powerful statements but they have to be used at the right time. Use the conversational pauses, look directly at her and then deliver the statements. You can start off with

the tamer ones and move up the ladder to the more powerful ones : (i) When was the last time you got really drunk? (Gets rapport and sets tone for day 2 meeting, gets personal) (ii) Those earrings (or X Y Z adornment) really say a lot about you (playful and slightly ironic)What do they say?? Curious arnet you..They tell me that (go into cold read). (Gets personal, instant DHV and shows you are paying attention, creates attraction, sets dating / sexual frame) (iii) Theres something about a girl like you thats very sexy. I think its.the combination of x quality and y quality. Wed be good together, imagine what our kids would look like (humourous) As long as they got my looks, it would be cool anyway (Immediatley sets tone for dating frame, gets her thinking of you in a bf / gf way, funny) (iv) This is getting boring when was the last time you got fucked properly? (WHAM!! Very powerful, can be used to create massive sexual tension, gets her thinking of sex WITH YOU, in a very powerful direct way) You have to consider the effect that you want to achieve in order to evaluate the best time to use these statements. In the above four examples, you might use (iii) immediately after receiving an IOI, whilst invading her personal space.You might use (iv) on a day 2, in a natural pause in the conversation, after sexual tension has been created but before you have kissed. Especially effective if you are talking about boring subjects that neither of you are interested in,

as conversation fillers, especially if she is the nervous type.You must use your judgement about when to use these statements. You can practice by writing out some simple, declarative, powerful statements that you want to achieve a particular effect, then bringing them out at particular points in the interaction. Method six Invasion of personal space.Traditional social dynamics literature will tell you that respecting another persons personal space is very important to avoid conflict and create rapport. This is mostly true, however in pickup, flaunting this rule can be extremely effective in creating attraction. The main reasons why this works as a technique are (i) You show that you have the sexual confidence to escalate. Most guys are afraid of screwing this up and losing the girl, and women can sense this. If you are different, in that you invade their personal space in a dominant and congruent way, it shows that you are not like most men and have more sexual confidence. Displays like this send a very clear signal to her that you are the kind of man that can take her to bed and show her a good time, something that is lacking in most men. It shows you are an alpha male and that when you see something you like, you go for it.(ii) It shows that you are investing in the interaction and are not afraid to put your balls on the line.

move straight in. Get closer to her. Kino lightly, start off by putting your hand on her arm and whisper in her ear. Immediately drop any cocky techniques and get serious with her, by delivering a powerful statement about how you like her..In all seriousness, were messing around butI gotta say I like you because of X Y Z quality (pick out a quality thats unique to her DONT JUST SAY NICE TITS. Try and think of something unique). Now youre having a real interaction! Sexual interest is there, its established, youre on. Now its time to focus on building and escalating to an f close, this will be covered in later chapters. Or, you can get a number close and if you reach this point, you can be 90% sure the number will not flake if you use the techniques as directed.

More bar and club game techniques

Although I believe game is game, I think this kind of stuff is more suited to bars / clubsDaytime is more about fast closes or longer insta dates (in my experince tho I am no day game specialist) See my blog for the club game and sexual escalation techniques. So (i) What needs further explanation / clarification

Again, you are not behaving in a wishy washy way and are clearly telegraphing your interest to the girl in a direct and powerful way. Ironically, you are less likely to receive a negative reaction if you act in this way than if you pussyfoot around and are scared to screw up or scare her away. So how do you do it?Firstly, when talking, use the techniques above. When you get one IOI,

(ii) Is it well explained? (iii) How could it be improved for you?? e.g explain HOW TO in easy steps POST FOLLOWS!!

Key principles
Indifference to outcome You must be coming from a place where you are not leeching off her, or TAKING SOMETHING from her that she doesnt want to give. Sexual attraction and tension should be its own free flowing entity that exists between TWO people, its not something that you should be wanting to take from her. Therefore in the early stages, until you have gained mutual respect and sexual attraction is between both of you, you must try NOT TO CARE about the outcome. This mindset encompasses a number of sub elements You shouldnt be thinking of what she is thinking of you. You shouldnt be thinking in terms of what can I do to impress this girl. You must not be WANTING or NEEDING anything off her. You must not attach your emotional state to how she reacts to you.

You demonstrate physical dominance using the techniques described here, sexual dominance, and finally mental dominance (breaking her and then the shift of mindset). Putting your real personality on the line adopting frame of doing what your body says. If you are acting in the moment, and NATURALLY i.e indifferent to outcome and knowning you have broken her, you cannot help but do this. You should be living in your own reality but at the same time you are painfully honest with the HB and you give of yourself. Step One : dominate and break her. This is the stage when you are clearly attracted to each other, IOIs are flowing. First step is that you must make a quick strike and break her. Breaking the girl is more overt and obvious for sexually agressive girls.. But it is a method that is employed on ALL girls in the early stages, though the technique is different. The idea of breaking the girl is that you have to

Dominance The aspect of dominance is vital because it demonstrates that You are a man who will take charge and LEAD her in a way that is highly exciting to her : sexy, slightly risky, strong, forceful.

quickly establish who is in charge, so in addition to the indifferent frame that we are familiar with that has been discussed elsewhere, you are demonstrating to her as a man that you are going to LEAD her, but in a confident, slightly risky way that will turn her on. You are overwhelming her in a short space of time and OWNING her in a sexy risky way.

Sexually aggressive girls You have to make an assessment of the level of sexual aggression of the girl, go a notch higher and then break her with your aggression and dominance. Ways of spotting her sexual agressivity: How hard does she kiss is she a PASSIVE kisser (receiver), or does she push back with her tongue? Does she move your hands for you to where she wants them to be?

: I am the man here, I am in charge, this girl will not tame me, I am going to break her. For other types of girls.. For other types of girls your approach is less aggressive but you are still physically demonstrating that you are in charge. So when kissing her, withdraw and look at her, study herThen do a move that shows that as the man you are leading, you are in charge, and you will dominate her.. Put one hand under her chin, tilt her head back.

Does she grab you with force with her hands? Is she generally feisty i.e doing what she wants, lots of energetic movements? As a basic principle, you must always be in charge. If she starts to dominate YOU sexually, you must stop that immediately and physically and aggressively take charge:

Put your hand on the back of her head, arrange it so that its in a good position for kissing then move in and kiss her..Whilst doing so put your hand on the side of her face and stroke it gently. NOTE : The move is irrelevant really, this is just an example and one that I use, its the underlying MINDSET that is CRUCIAL. This move shows her physically that you are in

If she kisses you back hard, increase the tension by pulling back, grabbing her face, forcing her mouth onto yours

charge, in a dominant but less sexually aggressive way than with sexually aggressive HBs. When you do this you should find that you get

If she is moving your hands, GRAB her hands, pin them and push her back. If she keeps moving around, pin her down, stop her, get her doing what you want her to do.

HUGE DDB eyes. You know that look that women get when their mouths are slightly open and they look a but dumb, and their eyes are HUGE and shining? This is what should happen Phase two : The shift (now she is yours)

You should find that she will submit to your physical will after a few push backs. If she doesnt, KEEP GOING. YOU HAVE to take charge and dominate her. In your mind you are thinking Once this has happened, sit back and look at her in a complacent way. At this point you are now going to reinforce what has just happened and assert your position further.

Now is the time to ARRANGE herMove her about a bit, say come here, in an offhand way, then smack her bum. Your mindset : This is my girl now, Ive broken her and shes submitted. There is NO QUESTION that she is mine, all pretence is gone. Phase three : comfort Now that you are comfortable, and have broken her, she is yours and you are steering the interaction. In addition to the usual rapport / comfort techniques, you will reinforce this with PHYSICAL actions Your touch should be more tender Your faces should be physically closer Rub noses with her Stroke her face So within the space of a few minutes to half and hour you are sending her emotions on a rollercoaster rideIn her mind she is thinking:

her, youre tender too, a strong man with a tender sideShe loves it..And youre interested in her as a person too, and you want to know more Can you see how this rollercoaster ride can fascinate a woman?? These three phases can happen very quickly (literally within 3-5 minutes or even shorter), or may take up to 20. But you should aim to be in the comfort phase within 5 minutes. In comfort Whatever your style for creating comfort is, when you are in this phase you cannot backslide and contradict the impression you have already made. You must adopt the usual principles but also be indifferent to the outcome. Dont wuss out now. Generally throughout the entire PU your underlying mindset is This is one girl, there are millions more out there and I can get them I am the man and I am in charge

Yeah Im the shit, Im confident, etc etc. Then you guy roll up and take charge, you appear to be all man You have lead her and controlled her in a way that she likes and that turns her on. Then all of a sudden you are leaning back, looking at her like shes a little girlWhats going on? You suddenly appear to be treating her differently Some switch has flipped in your mind and shes now certain that this is a man that she cannot tame, that she can never control..But wait, now youre acting soppy, and youre getting to know

HOWEVER Put yourself on the line and dont dick around Tell her you like her and SHOW it..But the underlying FRAME shouldnt change, since you are not coming from a place of NEEDINESS, you are coming from an authentic place as a man who has already DEMONSTRATED that you are in charge and you are aware that she is attracted to you (the mental phase shift)Now you are showing that you like her too. You can now AFFORD to be 100% genuine and natural with her

and the PU will move along naturally towards its logical outcome.

Strategy Before I will write something about strategy I would like to introduce myself. My name is Strat,

Gambler: Strip Club Game: How To Game Strippers, Get Their Numbers And Close Them
Okay so weve established that the strip club is a good place to pick up. How do you do it? Well the guys here all have a different approach.

I have been living in Germany, France, the USA and Australia. During that time I got to know a lot of different women in partially totally different cultures. However interesting is that one thing always works with women all around the world: Strategy What is strategy? Of course there is the kind

Anthony P is very sexually aggressive. He aims to be more sexual than the girl. He is very direct, hell grab them and mess with them. Hell be very intense. These are tough girls so they respond well to this. Steve/Vertex is more cocky/funny and uses his wit. He is very sexual and manly, and strippers are probably very happy to meet a man that looks like he can handle their sexuality because he has more than them.

of strategy that you need to compete against competitors in the business environment, there is the kind of strategy that leads small countries to victories against big countries in a time of war, but there is also the kind of strategy that is involved in seducing, keeping and winning women back. The last one is the kind of strategy that I have been studying since I got my first real kiss when I was 14. This kind of strategy is about psychology. What I am good in is the long term seduction.

I go the rapport route and show difference from the usual customers. I give them something they havent experienced before, and get to their real emotions and the real person under the faade. The key in all cases is to break the frame. It starts as you being the punter, and it changes into you being a potential boyfriend/date/sexual partner. This is the key in every case. None of us use the Mystery Method or Archer Sloan stuff for strip clubs, we dont think it is necessary.

Strategically thought through, well planned and executed. What I will write about in my posts has not much to do with the actual process of picking up. I will leave that up to professionals like Gambler and his team, Mystery and Ross. I will write about getting the women that you cannot get. The woman that has a boyfriend and who you cannot pick up in a bar, on the street or in a club. The woman that you have been knowing forever but that does not notice you because you are just not her type, or the woman that you had been with, you still love and who is with another guy now.

Boyfriend Destroyer Strategy by Strat

First I want to say that I am sorry for not posting anything in such a long time. I was long thinking about publishing this post because it is somehow evil. It gives you an overview over the tools to attract a person that is in a relationship and to somehow manipulate her to be turned her away from her boyfriend. I dont know if you guys are religious, but I think that you should at least not mess with an instance that is way higher then you. Therefore I am writing this post because I want you to see what other people might try to destroy your relationship by getting your girl. This post is therefore designed to make you realise that especially a long relationship is not a guarantee for an everlasting relationship. I dont want to encourage you to actually use this strategy as I said I it is evil in my eyes. I have done it and it worked over and over again but after a couple years I have realised that it is more important to know about this kind of strategy and to prevent it from happening once you have the girl that you really love. This strategy is for boyfriends who dont want their women to get slowly seduced by another guy out of their own arms. However I am writing it as if you would be the guy how wants to seduce another girl, because that is the position that I know best. If you for example already know the woman for a while or you know that you would not be able to pick her up in just one night and you know that you want her as your girlfriend. If you just want to have fun for a couple nights, then Gamblers, Mysterys and Rosss Methods definitely work better.

I always found that girls that are in a relationship are actually easier to get then girls that are not. The longer the relationship has been the easier it is. Most guys probably thing the opposite. Thus I will explain you why that is. A girl that has been in a relationship for lets say two years is definitely missing something. If she is not then we need to demonstrate her that she is. Especially girls between 17 and 26 have a intuitive drive to experience something, some more some less, but everybody has this drive build in by mother nature. It is also a fact that most guys dont care about their girl after two years as much anymore as at the beginning. They might argue a bit more, sex is almost a routine, kisses get shorter and less after a couple months and the attention they give her is not as high as it used to be. But we all know that girls need attention. Guys are kind of retiring after a couple years and think that they have the girl for sure because she is constantly bagging him for more kisses, love and attention. Thus this is exactly our chance. This is where we attack. This is where we win her over! Once you got the girl to go out with you, to spend a day with you or something else the first step is to: 1. Study her boyfriend

What does he do? How old is he? How long has their relationship been going on for? Ask her simple superficial questions first, later on try to get her to tell you about their relationship. The goal is to find out if there are any weaknesses. Do they go out a lot? Is he taking her on vacations? Is he just lying on the sofa when he gets home?

Are they doing a lot with their friends? Is he creative? Those questions need to come out naturally though, dont bomb her with exactly those questions; these are just the questions that you want to have answered for yourself. By asking her a couple questions she might even tell you her complains and that is exactly where we want to have her. 2. Demonstrate value

Show her that there is a lot more to do in the world then watching movies. She needs to have the feeling that she is missing out when she is spending time with him and not with you. Make her realise that live can be so much more exiting, funny and spontaneous and interesting with you. 3. Dont talk about him unless she brings it up

After you have studied her boyfriend in the first part, dont ever mention him again. You dont want her to think about him, in fact you want her to forget him, to just enjoy her time. If she brings him up, listen to her, but dont let it turn into a big discussion. Just listen and agree with her. She will project all the things that he is not into you by complaining to you about him and by you agreeing with her. Just say every once in awhile things like: Hmm, I cant understand that, That is wired, Why would he do that? 4. Spend time with her

From now on his weaknesses needs to be your strength. If she tells you that they are usually at home watching movies, then that is exactly what you will not do! You will take her out, take her to a lake rent a canoe or take her to nice places that you know. Just make sure that she hasnt been there with him yet. Otherwise it will just remind her of good old times with her boyfriend. She will feel like betraying him by coming there with you and she will block. Hence it has to be a place where she hasnt been. It also always looks good if you make it look like it is spontaneous, like you just had a great idea. Maybe dont even tell her yet were you will go. If you think about it, in a long relationship everything is usually planed, she knows how much time he has, she knows the places that he knows and there are no real surprises anymore. Therefore surprise her! Make her laugh! Make her enjoy the day like no other day! If he is more the quite guy, then be crazy! Be the opposite. Make her realise that she is missing out. Be a gentleman, be all the things that he has forgotten, fight for her! Her boyfriend is not fighting for her anymore, he is probably not opening every door for her, because he thinks he is on the save site.

This is actually the most difficult and crucial part because here you have to take care that you dont turn into her best friend that she can do nice things with and then she goes home and gets the sex from her boyfriend. The goal is to make her as comfortable around you as possible and to make her fall in love with you. The trick is to do that without her even recognising it. I mean, if you think about it, what is the difference between a good friend a boyfriend? It pretty much just comes down to the physical part. Hence, touch her gently every once in a while. If you walk next to her make your hand touch hers for half a second, when you sit in front of her, put her hair back, make her gentle compliments like: Your hair is beautiful, I love you fingers. You can learn a lot

of those things from the PUAs posting on this site. make her attracted to you. This case is a bit different from a seduction in a bar though in a bar you need to win her attention here you already have it, you are already somewhat between a friend and a boyfriend hence compliments from you are like from some random guy at a pub.

Dont be shocked if she doesnt kiss you back. I will write you in the next couple of posts what to do in this case or what do so that this doesnt turn out into a onetime thing that she regrets.

Gambler: High-Rollers, lots of money, not so much game

Recently, Ive started going to upmarket venues.

When you drop her off tell her nice things like: It was wonderful with you, as always- big smile- If she tells you this then reply Well it was you who made it wonderful, I was just the driver. Or tell her when she just got out of the car: Hey! You can call me anytime you want. Again, this might sound a bit cheesy and some PUAs might disagree with me here because you could say that you are running after her a bit, well in this case you are not. You want to win her over by being at the right time in the right place. 5. Wait for the right time

Ive met lots of guys in there who will happily spend 1000 on a night out, and one of the main reasons they are spending that much is to get women. They order champagne and invite women to share it with them. The funny thing is, even in these cases, the guys often dont get anywhere. They say Im an investment banker at Goldman Sachs and they think that the women will get wet over that. Fact is, most women would prefer a mountain climber who plays the electric guitar any day over just another guy with money. Think about it, these women of high value have offers of dinners and champagne every day of the week. These guys definitely lack what PUAs call game. Their game is to get the girls drunk, get drunk themselves, and see if she rejects the sleazy advances. Of course, if the guy is not too bad looking and the girl isnt too fussy, it might work, but are these guys getting what they want? Do they feel satisfied with only the kind of girls that will sleep with them as long as they get to live a nice lifestyle. The usual problem with these guys is not running out of things to say like it is with other guys, its talking too much about themselves, being boring, and not being sensitive to what the woman wants. For us in these clubs, its pretty funny. We dont spend money, and the girls really dont care, theyre happy to meet guys that are attractive past the wallet, that know how

Dont make a move when she is happy with her boyfriend right now, wait for a day when she is annoyed by him, they had an argument or she is just pissed because of something he did. This will lower the chance to be rejected dramatically. She will not run off with you when she just got fifty roses from him that day. If you have done the fourth step right she might even call you when she wants to talk to you or when she is annoyed by him. Try the ideas to get a kiss close from this site to actually kiss her.

to treat them, how to talk to them, and how to turn them on.

started out and each of them are relatively easy to overcome given focused effort.

Gambler: The common sticking points

After meeting nearly 400 customers, its become possible to categorise guys into a number of sticking points. They will either have one or many, and luckily we have a method of getting over each one. The common sticking points are:

Gambler: Not Being Dumped: Keeping the girl

A friend of mine recently pulled a very hot girl. She is the most attractive girl hes even number closed. He met her in a club, saw her for a date,

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Fear of the approach. Run out of things to say and get stuck conversationally. Get into a long conversation and dont know how to close. Get numbers but they flake. Get dates and girls dont want to see them again after first one. Dont know how to escalate physically. Girls just want to be friends.

everything was cool. He had another date with her, and he thought he made some mistakes. Then disaster struck, he called, she didnt answer, she didnt call back and hours had passed, he thought shed gone off him and that was that. My thoughts were this: You meet the girl and close her, that means she likes certain things about you. Maybe you were cocky and funny, maybe you were sweet, whatever. The problem is that when a guy falls for a girl or puts too much pressure on the situation, he changes. He stops doing the things that made her fall for him initially, the attraction disappears and then hes finished.

And the answers to these are: 1. Desensitisation, giving content, confidence boosting, framing the situation differently, motivation strategies. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. Impro exercises and giving content. Verbally leading into a number or kiss close. Solid number closing, text game, phone game. Rapport, day-2 system, status. Sexual tension, verbal and non-verbal sexual escalation. Sexual escalation, prizing.

So, the advice to anyone who finds this situation familar is this: Think about what the girl liked about you when you first met her and give her more of this. Oh yeah, the end of the story? Its all cool, she had a legitimate excuse and is now chasing him. Guys, do this stuff, but there is much more you can do to keep a girl interested, without being a jerk.

Of course, every individual is different and its bad to categorise guys like that, but thats basically it. I know that I had each of the 7 problems when I