Teach our kids their identity I too felt depressed and sad after red Be sensitive to childrens feelings

(Monday Star, June 4) written by Ng Shu Tsung. Whoever read the news would feel that childrens lifestyle nowadays is totally differ from those days. Its not same anymore and we are the parents should not compare our living style in our sweet old days with our childrens currents modern days. I still remember the word expressed by my father when the very first day he send me to school and told the teacher do whatever necessary and make him study. The words are just like license to my teacher to screw my friends and me with their old hard method to correct our mistake. Yes, that is good enough for those days because we dont even know what was children psychology. Now students psychology already became a part of the component in our teacher training colleges in our country. Teachers always urged by the Ministry of Education to use the psychology method to overcome childrens problem in school rather disciplinary action. As Mr. Ng said suicide is preventable illness and sometime the cure can be a simple solution. It just we are the adult how we can understand the childs problem and find a suitable solution to help them ease their life style. As addition to say parental role is more vital and important to curb these kind of grievous incidents from threatening our society anymore. As I mentioned early, childrens lifestyle nowadays not same anymore like our days, but the psychological method use by our parents or maybe our old timers are most effective and brought the total system of social or community to most stable situation. Parents in our time always teach us the religious value in our life by bringing yourself to the temple, church or mosque. Children got to learn about the religious value and the important these values must apply in our life. In those days, even though parents some time had to used the hard way to correct our mistake, but the next moment they shows their care and show their love by their action. Our grand parents too from time to time stressed the important of the cultural values should nurture in the young childrens heart so that the next generation would know the best way to continue their life. Everything changes to become more challengeable and most parents as well want their children success in their future. More and more pressure were given by the parents towards their kids in academic excel and their carrier as well. But what is most important to do is teach our kids to become more stable in their psychological condition. Giving them such luxurious life is not a good answer to build the inner strength of the children. Parents should spend more time with the children doesnt matter they still in kids level or in college. They still need us to build their identity. Giving them enough opportunity to build their good character also very essence and ultimate method should take by parents. Having talk with them would give them a way to express and share their problems in their daily life. We, parents shouldnt let them solve their problem their own way because their still note matured enough to value their problem and find difficult to solve their dilemma. Our life becomes meaningless when our children cannot success in there. So, its our part to take proper prevention to build strong and good character among our children and I feel like not fare to give this job to the teachers. Academically teachers know better our kids but deep in their heart we parents know them better. Yes, we, the parents are the first teacher, the first facilitator and as counsellor too for our kids. If we can play our role effectively we can build very strong young generation to face their future in bravely and confidently. Lets we move from now to guide and teach our kids become more strong and brave. Selvam Narayanasamy 33, Jalan Qamari U/5, Nusa Subang, Seksyen U5, 40150 Shah Alam. 630701 02 5865 (016 3020723)