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14—December 2008
What is Wisdom???
“The moment a person realizes that reality has many faces, he/she takes the first step on the road to wisdom.”
Dear Friends,
CRISIS? WHICH CHAPTER IS
In the previous issue I
misquoted a Navy com-
mercial. It should have
THAT?
been: “When you die,
they say your life passes True, most books on business administration do not mention what to do in ti-
by like a movie. It better mes of a serious economic crisis. This is the time when it all comes down to
be an interesting movie.” ‘thinking on your feet’, on improvisation, on applying the right tools and if they
aren’t at hand, to invent them. Although we may celebrate the end of the Bush
Well, our life’s movie is era, it’s yet too early to applaud Mr. Obama for results. He’ll have a very hard
an interesting one. The
highlight for me was my
job to repair the damage done, to restore the image of his country, and to win
wedding with Huong back trust. But he gained a lot to start with, and his election victory gives hope.
(Jane), with Peter as my We’ll have to write our own chapter on crisis
Best Man and Monique
management, now that several theories on economic
my Best Lady. It was a
lovely wedding. Finding business and financial management have proven to be
the love of your life is worthless, or even dangerous. It’s time for real change.
one. Getting married is
two. Reaching your
life’s destination, and
moving on from there,
is three: the goal we all
live for. Sure, it’s still
hard work, uncertain-
ties, a need to be creati-
ve to overcome barriers.
Loek
7 Habits 8
“There are no rules for friendship. It must be left to
Snap shots 13
itself. We cannot force it any more than love.”
Love & Marriage 19 William Hazlitt (1778-1830, British essayist)
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Thanks!!!
Note: the email address above is accessible to both Peter & Loek.
“You don’t have to be a fantastic hero to do certain things – to compete. You can
be just an ordinary chap, sufficiently motivated to reach challenging goals.”
Sir Edmund Hillary (1919-2008, New Zealand mountaineer and explorer. Nepalese Sherpa Tenzing Norgay and
Hillary first reached the summit of Mount Everest / Sagarmatha in 1953.)
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2009 is about to begin, and the new Moon Year will start within 5 weeks. So the time for our ‘new year
resolutions’ has arrived once again. Most people make the same mistake as the readers of The Secret.
They believe some magic will make their dream come true. I admit, luck is a factor. And the authors of
The Secret are right in stating that committing yourself to realization of your dream somehow helps you
have more luck: fact is, that you are focused at
finding opportunities. Once you find one and
use it, it’s often labelled as ‘luck’. Perhaps some
of it is. But most of it is … work. Hard work.
Which is not always fun. But the reward of rea-
lization of your dream is such, that it makes all
the hardship worth it. And as a wise man
once said, the road to happiness can be full
of happy moments when you care to appreciate
them for what they are: small steps towards
fullfillment. And once your dream is reality:
work hard atkeeping it alive, nourish it. And
don’t forget: dream a new dream. So there will always be something to look forward to, to fight for.
The secret: follow your chosen path, and be determined to reach its end. When you do, have a next
chosen path ready. On the way: face the bad times, and enjoy the good times. Yes: love makes it all run
easier and smoother. But it doesn’t pay your bills ... only your actions will. You know which one. LH
It is not the critic who counts. Not the man who points out how the strong man
stumbled or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to
the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and
blood; who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; who
knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy
cause. Who, at the best, knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and
who at the worst, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be
with those timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.
Theodore Roosevelt
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Useless Knowledge
1. The first stock market: Amsterdam
600 years ago Bruges, a thriving port in what is now Belgium, a money and debt market evolved in and
around the house of the Beurse family. 400 years ago the golden age of Bruges was past, as it no longer had
a connection to the sea. A city 200 km north was at starting its golden age, and had become a global trade
center: Amsterdam. Here, the Dutch East India Company financed its trade by selling shares. This trade in
East India Company shares became the first stock market. The Dutch word for stock market is ‘beurs’: the
old Bruges family name lives on. The first shares may have lost their stock value, but they belong to the
most sought-after collector’s items. On http://www.oldest-share.com/index.html you can check the evi-
dence. I wonder what would have happened if this kind of trade wouldn’t have been invented. Some claim
this marks the start of capitalism.
Today, modesty reigns the stock markets, as it
is now proven beyond any doubt, that it’s really
a casino, where greed, luck and reaction time
determine fortune, rather than clever reaso-
ning. And as in a real casino, the guy who wins
likes to think it’s his cleverness that made the
difference. This delusion is similar to what we
have seen in the stock markets and the busi-
ness world these past few decades. ‘Free for all’
economists dictated deregulation and no
governmental interference. This is now past; all
around the world governments have interfered
in attempts to limit and control the damage.
Now, once again it’s looking for a new balance.
Wise Crackers
“If you have a great
ambition, take as big
a step as possible in
the direction of ful-
filling it. The step
may only be a tiny
one, but trust that it
may be the largest
one possible for
now.”
Mildred Mcafee
“The man who re-
moves a mountain
begins by carrying
away small stones.”
Chinese proverb
“When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.”
Wayne Dyer (1940-, American psychotherapist, author, lecturer)
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Write it down.
Ready? Action!
Many people dream of writing a book. Many of those dream of writing a bestselling book. When a
bestseller is a novel, the author dreams of it being turned into a movie. Or to receive the Nobel Prize for
Literature for it, one day. When a bestseller is non-fiction, the author’s dream may be to have it turned
into a documentary, or to have it promoted at major schools and universities as a recommended text
book. Sometimes the promotion of a book that becomes a bestseller leads to the author becoming some
kind of Star. You see her or him on TV, read about her or his private life, or see an advertisement that
the author will be in town to sign books, or to deliver a lecture. When the author is a fine public speaker,
this may result in a very well paid activity. Many people like to see a famous person, and when you have a
few million fans, they will come to see you when you’re in town.
One of those famous authors is Stephen R. Covey. His bestselling book: ‘The 7 Habits of Highly
Effective People’, first came out in 1989. Soon to be 20 years ago. My 1990 edition carries the hreading:
‘over 10 million sold’. Since then, it has always been available. What makes this book so popular? It
inspires people to follow the example of successful people. Not with impossible advice, but with simple
yet sharply formulated statements. And a use of words which arrive easily in our minds. I’m not sure, but
he may be the one who popularized the word ‘proactive’. To understand the full meaning and use of
these ‘habits’, read the book. To give you a taste, this is from the book’s contents:
Private Victory
Habit 1: Be Proactive—Principles of Personal Vision
Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind—Principles of Personal Leadership
Habit 3: Put First Things First—Principles of Personal Management
Public Victory
Habit 4: Think Win/Win—Principles of Interpersonal Leadership
Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood—Principles of Empathic Communication
Habit 6: Synergize—Principles of Creative Cooperation
Renewal
Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw—Principles of Balanced Self-Renewal.
15 years later, he published ‘The 8th Habit’: Find Your Voice, and Inspire Others to Use Theirs.
Wittenborgers
The final months of the year have been busy times at Wittenborg. Gra-
duations, of course. Also, partying. Clockwise from top left: Graduate
Maarten Wender; Graduate Peter Zhang proudly showing his Bachelor
certificate (‘with Distinction’); Lasantha observing a graduation assign-
ment presentation (note his crutches); Mr. Peter Birdsall with alumnus/
staff Florentin Popescu and (former) HR lady Marion Balke; Graduates
Alexander de Jonge Oudraat & Jelle Visser; Peter Z. with graduation-
thesis ‘Big Boss’: Dick Bos, and in the middle a very happy Lasantha.
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Servant Leadership
Remember ‘Ciao’ in Wisdom no. 13? The original meaning is “I am your servant”. Since business man and
entrepreneur mr. Robert K. Greenleaf introduced the concept in 1970, servant leadership has been recogni-
zed worldwide as a universal, yet practical management philosophy. With it comes a tool box that is being
taught all over the planet, under the supervision of the Greenleaf Center for Servant Leadership. Many ma-
nagement schools and universities have now included it in their curriculum.
As with all sound systems, it’s based on experience, and common sense. It has been thoroughly tested in ma-
ny situations. The ultimate test is applying it in different cultures. Sofar, there is a rapidly growing interest in
Servant Leadership in Asia: entrepreneurs in India, Singapore, China, Vietnam and Malaysia are showing ac-
tive interest. In 2009 I hope to be part of its further introduction in Asia. To give you a flavor of what it’s all
about, these are the Ten Characteristics of a Servant Leader:
What makes these 10 characteristics extra interesting, is that they do not only apply to leaders and top
managers. They are also 100% applicable on an individual level: evidence of a sound system. In fact, you
could say that these are basic competencies for living and working. Imagine you and your career, you and
your family, you and your team mates.
The current CEO of the Greenleaf Center, dr. Kent M. Keith, recently published a book: The Case for
Servant Leadership. One part describes the differences between the traditional power model of leadership,
and the service model. Another title of interest is ‘It’s not About Coffee’, by Howard Behar—the man
who made Starbucks great, and himself a Servant Leader. Both are affordable, and can be ordered at
http://www.greenleaf.org/index.html.
“It begins with the natural feeling that one wants to serve, to serve first.
Then conscious choice brings one to aspire to lead.”
Robert K. Greenleaf
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This way of dealing with tough topics can be quite enlightening. Here are some more examples:
Trust
You have two cows. You go on holiday and ask your friend to take care of them while you’re away. You
return and they are in great shape.
Marriage
You have two handsome cows. You introduce them to two handsome bulls.
Employment
You have two cows. You give the money you make to the person who takes care of them.
Financial crisis
You have two cows. You put a fence around them and make sure the taxman doesn’t find out you have
two cows. Or two hundred thousand.
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Top left: Liu Fan (Sarah) back home in Nanning. Above: Liu Yan
(Eileen) congratulating Zhou Lincheng (Apple) on her 25th birthday.
Right: this symbolizes a happy and Below left: Joe & Chrissie ready to get married. Below right: Yan Van
successful marriage - a wonderful and Rooij-Chen (Morgan) on holiday in Shangri-La.
working combination of characters. A
Chinese symbol that is present at every
Vietnamese wedding.
Right: a Nobel
Prize winner sig-
ning his book: the
Turkish author
Orhan Pamuk.
“Until you get dissatisfied, you won’t do anything to really move your life to another level.
Dissatisfaction is a gem. If you’re totally satisfied, you’re going to get comfortable. And then your
life begins to deteriorate.” Anthony Robbins (1960-, American author, trainer)
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Is all the financial turmoil — not to mention the already-existing political/election and terrorist/war stress —
getting to you? We’re all connected to the financial system, and though many people have become complacent
again after the bailouts, and because no huge institutions have failed in the last couple of weeks, many experts say
the worst is yet to come. So what can you do? Are we facing a depression like the 1930s? How bad will it get? The
real question, though, is how can you prepare yourself, financially and emotionally, for what might happen. I’d like
to offer my advice, for whatever it’s worth.
First, though I think things could get very bad, the world isn’t going to come to an end. As things get worse, some
people WILL say that it’s coming to an end, but when and if you begin to hear that, it will be a signal that things
are about to get better. Such comments invariably come when things have gotten as bad as they’re going to get.
Second, though it’s tempting to do so, I would avoid finger-pointing and trying to figure out who to blame.
Though there are some people who ARE to blame, in other ways this debacle is a universal cultural event, not
something caused by mean and greedy people in some smoke-filled back room.
For the entire lifetimes of most people reading this, buying whatever you want, but before you have the money, has
been the accepted thing to do. Everyone else seemed to be doing it, and the idea that it might not be the smart
thing to do (spend money before you actually have it) just hasn’t occurred to a lot of people.This has resulted in
many people ending up in debt, which means you spent tomorrow’s money yesterday. When tomorrow comes, you
either have to live on less money, or add MORE debt, which just forestalls the inevitable payback.
To keep the game going, credit markets become more and more leveraged. The bankers did just what they always
do, and what the public wanted them to do — they figured out better and better ways to allow people, corporati-
ons, and other institutions to buy things before they actually had the money to pay for them. The criteria for who
actually had the ability to repay became less and less realistic.
Anyone in the financial industry who didn’t provide this sort of easy credit to people was at a disadvantage, so the
game continued until people who had no money were buying houses they couldn’t afford to pay for. No one,
though, can live on credit forever, and the chickens are now coming home to roost.
I don’t have a crystal ball, but I think we’re facing a massive and fundamental change in the way money works in
this society, and it’s going to involve a period of tough times. So, what can you do?
First, I would suggest focusing on what you can do to improve your own situation, rather than finding someone to
blame, as tempting as it might be. People who feel helpless blame others. Don’t be helpless. If you focus on what
you can do, you’ll save yourself a lot of frustration and aggravation. If you like to feel angry and frustrated, then by
all means blame everyone in sight.
Next, realize that as things become more uncertain — financially, politically, and in other ways — people will begin
to feel helpless. They will feel more isolated and separate. When this happens it’s easier to become more self-
involved. Instead of thinking only of yourself, become more aware of other people and their needs. Yes, look for
your own opportunities, and then help other people see their opportunities — the positives in their own lives. Be-
come a source of inspiration to others.
Crises feed on fear. Help others to look for the seed of an equivalent or greater benefit that exists even in the worst
situations. If you do this, others will look to you for leadership, and your own fortunes will improve in ways you
can’t even imagine.
“Yes, look for your own opportunities, and then help other people see their opportunities — the
positives in their own lives. Become a source of inspiration to others.” Bill Harris
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My next suggestion is to let go of your attachments to things. Instead, emphasize the value of your relationships.
Material things are nice, but life is really about love and friendship. If you have these things, and cultivate them, your
life will be more meaningful, no matter what the economic conditions.
From a business perspective, focusing on your relationships will strengthen your ability to survive no matter how
bad things get. Sincerely think of the other person and his or her needs. In good times it’s easy to succeed and even
the worst-run business can at least make some money. In tough times, those who really care about their customers
or their employer, and do their best to discover and meet their needs, succeed while others are failing.
If you’ve lost money, or customers, or a job, instead of focusing on what you’ve lost, focus on potential opportuni-
ties and what you can do now. Leave the past in the past, whatever it was, and look to what’s next. And, be willing
to be flexible enough to change, to do something different.
Who knows? Perhaps your losses are the doorway to some amazing new endeavor or adventure that will change
your life for the better — and which might never have happened if those losses you’ve experienced hadn’t happe-
ned. Forget about who you were and begin to dream about who you can be.
I’d also encourage you to get rid of “what if?” thinking. Focus on what you want, and what you can do to get it.
There’s no value or benefit in worrying about the future. Yes, think of the potential challenges, but only to help you
generate plans and solutions that you can take action on now. If there’s something you can’t do anything about, sur-
render to it, and then move on.
When something dreadful happens — and it might — move immediately to, “Okay, that has happened. What are
my options? What can I do now?” Focusing on what has gone wrong has no value. Focusing on what to do next has
great value.
You say you don’t have the tools, resources, or help you need to move ahead? Resolve to do the best with whatever
is available. Take action anyway. This will give you confidence, and this additional confidence will allow you to find
and utilize additional resources — even when it initially seemed like there are none.
Spend time every day — before falling asleep and when you first wake up is an excellent time — thinking about
what you have to be grateful for. Gratitude can make you happy, and happy people seem to attract what they need.
Look for ways to help others, especially those who don’t seem to be able to help themselves. Do it without expec-
ting anything in return. Do it just because we’re all in this together. Go the extra mile for your friends, your custo-
mers, your employer, and even for total strangers. People so want someone to really care about them. If you do
this, you’ll never be alone — and your life will be fulfilling no matter what is happening.
“Go the extra mile for your friends, your customers, your employer, and even for total strangers.
People so want someone to really care about them. If you do this, you’ll never be alone — and
your life will be fulfilling no matter what is happening.”
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Deventer
Deventer, November 8—During my walks from Peter’s
house to school, I’ve passed these locations many times.
When the whole world seems to change, these spots remain
the same. This is quite comforting: some things in life you
can rely on. I’m writing this the day after I took these pictu-
res. Within a few hours, Singapore Airlines will fly me to
Ho Chi Minh City. I said goodbye to Deventer yesterday,
bur when I return in January, I know one thing for sure:
Deventer will still be Deventer. Sure, the trees will be leaf-
less, it will be colder. But those are small details.
There will be many days when you can make pictures like
these. Deventer may change its complexion, not its face.
“Don’t wait. The time will never be just right.” Napoleon Hill
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When I’m at Van Kerkwijk’s Piano’s I’m surrounded by piano sounds. Even when no ones plays them. The piano is my favorite musi-
cal instrument. At Van Kerkwijk they restore old Steinway’s and Petrov’s, and know what makes a Bösendorfer so outstanding. And
yet, they do appreciate the great qualities of a Yamaha electric grand piano. Below you see a performance of 5 world class musicians in the
Van Kerkwijk showroom: Louis van Dijk (piano), Frits Landesbergen (Vibraharp), and the famous Rosenberg Trio featuring Stochelo
Rosenberg—the guys who stepped into the footsteps of legendary Django Reinhardt. The Rosenbergs live in Nuenen, the village where
Van Gogh spent his youth. During a workshop I photographed Karin van Kerkwijk, manager, and Ton op de Beek, salesman. Between
the Yamaha and the Bösendorfer you see a € 53,000 concert piano. When you touch a key on this piano, and you’re not moved, you
have a serious defect. One day you may find me at your doorstep with a number of cd’s, trying to cure you. Pianos are carriers of pure
emotion, able to move the hearts & souls of people all over the world. Especially, when played by someone who is also pure emotion.
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“Other people’s opinion of you does not have to become your reality.”
Les Brown (1945-, American speaker, author, trainer, motivation lecturer)
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Faits Divers
The bridge across the IJssel
was made world famous in
1976 by a movie: A Bridge
Too Far. This WWII movie
tells the story of the failed
attempt to drive the Nazis out
of Arnhem, in 1944. The mo-
viemakers were looking for a
bridge that resembled the one
in Arnhem, and found this
one in Deventer. Remember
this was before computer ani-
mation became the standard.
So parts of the movie were
shot in Deventer, and the city
made sure it benefited from
this event.
Photo made by Peter, from his bal-
cony.
Left: a Great
Cook in Ho
Chi Minh
City— in a
small side
street, a 3
table restau-
rant: our
favorite
breakfast
place.
Right: Peter’s
favorite de-
sert.
Ho Chi Minh City, Nov. 16—Lien Huong (Jane) and Loek celebrated their engagement in a traditional Vietnamese way. The event
took place at Jane’s house, the weather was perfect and so was the ceremony. Apart from the family members and close family friends, our
DDU friends whom Loek & Jane always met during Loek’s four previous visits to Vietnam made the event even more special: Tran Thi
Huyen Nga (Anna), Tran Thu Thao (Amy), Tran Trong Van (Van) and Tran Cong Duc (Tony). Van & Tony helped Loek bring
his trays with gifts from his hotel to Jane’s house. On the picture you also see Peter, Amy’s husband Nhat, and Anna’s friend.
After our wedding, we flew to the island of Phu Quoc, off the south
west coast of Vietnam. Within a few years this marvelous tropical
paradise will become another centre for mass tourism. We enjoyed
its natural beauty, its roughness, its quietness, its sunrises, its sun-
sets, its food, and each other.
Clockwise from top left: our cottage, as seen from the beach; in the
nearby butterfly garden; sunset at sea, while getting ready for squid
fishing; a fisherman passing by while having breakfast; the 2 of us.
From Nov. 15—24 Peter was Loek & Jane’s guest in Ho Chi Minh City. He attended both their engagement and wedding, and in
the meantime, absorbed the HCMC life. Clockwise from top left: in front of a typical HCMC advertising wall; meeting Tom & Tom-
my; eating his first pho; contacting HCMC citizens by collecting images of ‘Saigon streetlife’; completing a wrap; rehearsing for his song
during the church service; having dinner with Nga (Anna) & Loek.
“If what you did yesterday seems big, you haven’t done anything today.”
Lou Holtz (1937-, American football coach)
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WHAT IS
WISDOM???
Sofar, What is
Wisdom??? is published
4x a year. When you
want to see your stories
and pictures in the next
edition, make sure I
have it/them at least
two weeks before
publication.
All correspondence:
loek.hopstaken@gmail.
com.
Amsterdam/Ho Chi
Minh City/Deventer
December 23, 2008
Since the 60ies of the 20th Century Amsterdam has a magnetic attraction on
young people. As soon as I could afford a train ticket, I’d go there to check
out the local music and theatre scene.
Most students of DDU and Wittenborg use(d) the opportunity to check out
this city. Thousands of pictures must have been taken on Dam Square, and
other famous sites. The Van Gogh Museum, the Anne Frank House and
one other ‘museum’ (what was that name again?) are no. 1 attractions.
Amsterdam is working on image improvement. Call it a necessary facelift.
When I was in the USA for a few months, the only two items on the news
about Holland were about drugs and prostitution. As you can imagine, this
didn’t make me feel comfortable. The red light district is now ‘under fire’: the
city isn’t happy with this kind of tourist attraction. Another attraction, the
‘çoffee shop’, is still there. For how long? If I had my way, I’d turn the city
centre into a World Heritage Site … close the coffee shops. And only allow
access to cars belonging to inhabitants & delivery vans for shops. Till 10 am.