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BINABASBASAN ni Pope Francis ang isang sanggol habang nililibot niya ang may 200,000 nagtipon sa St. Peters Square bago ang Misa na pormal na nagluklok sa kanya bilang ika-266 pinuno ng Simbahang Katoliko. AFP

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ATICAN CITYSinimulan ni Pope Francis ang kanyang pamumuno nitong Martes sa isang panawagan sa mga pamahalaan na ipaglaban ang pinakamahina sa lipunan at ang kalikasan.
na ang misyon ng Simbahan ay ipagtanggol ang mahihirap at ang kapos sa buhay. Ang misyon ng Simbahan means respecting each of Gods creatures and respecting the environment in which we live. It

Sa talumpati niya sa may 200,000 na nagtipon sa St. Peters Square, kabilang na ang maraming pinuno ng mga bansa, binigyang diin ng Papa ang palagi niyang sinasabi mula nang mahalal nitong Marso 13,

means protecting people, showing loving concern for each and every person, especially children, the elderly, those in need, who are often the last we think about, ani Pope Francis sa kanyang talumpati matapos maluklok bilang ika-266 pinuno ng 1.2-bilyong Katoliko sa mundo. Anim na pinuno, si US Vice President Joe Biden at iba pang lider at pinuno ng sari-saring relihiyon ang kasama sa 130

delegado na sumaksi sa pormal na pagtatalaga sa Papa na mula sa Argentina, ang una mula sa mga kontinente ng Amerika. Sa kanila itinuon ni Pope Francis ang kanyang apela para sa mga nilikha ng Diyos. Please, I would like to ask all those who have positions of responsibility in economic, political and social life, and all men and women of goodwill: let us be protectors of creation, protectors of Gods plan in-

scribed in nature, protectors of one another and of the environment. Let us not forget that hatred, envy and pride defile our lives, anang Papa. Being protectors, then, also mean keeping watch over our emotions, over our hearts, because they are the seat of good and evil intentions: Intentions that build up and tear down. We must not be afraid of goodness or even tenderness. Inquirer wires

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Para kay PNoy, di na cool ang Baguio

Ni Frank Cimatu, Inquirer Northern Luzon

BAGUIO CITYHindi tulad ng dating pangulo na pumupunta sa Baguio tuwing may pagkakataon, madalang lang bumibisita si Pangulong Aquino sa tinaguriang summer capital ng bansa.
At nitong Linggo, nang ikampanya niya a n g Te a m P N o y s a Melvin Jones Grandstand sa Burnham Park, ibinunyag ng Pangulo sa mga residente ang dahilan. Kada punta ko ng Baguio, tumitingin na lang ako sa fireplace. Ayaw ko nang makita ang mga bundok ng Baguio, sabi niya. While still a boy, Kinumpara ni G. Aquino ang Baguio na alam niya noong bata pa siya at buhay pa ang kanyang ama, sa

Baguio ngayon. [A traveler] would know you are near [Baguio] when you smell the pine trees. The mountains were full of flowers and they were green. Now they are full of houses, sabi niya. Ibinahagi ni G. Aquino na marami siyang magagandang alaala hinggil sa mga tanawin sa siyudad. Ngunit marami na sa mga dating tanawin ang hindi na niya nakikita.

Nagbunyi Simbahan sa pasya ng Korte Suprema sa RH

PRAISE the Lord. I K I N AT U W A n g mga obispong Katoliko ang pasya ng Korte Suprema kahapon na itigil nang 120 araw ang pagpapatupad ng kontrobersiyal na reproductive health (RH) law habang dinidinig ang 10 petisyon na nagsasabing labag ito sa Saligang Batas. Sinabi ni Sorsogon Bishop Arturo Bastes na magiging very happy ang bagong upo na si Pope Francis sa kautusan ng hukuman, at idinagdag na tumutol ang dating arsobispo ng Buenos Aires sa pamimigay ng kontraseptiba sa Argentina. Thats exactly the same as the RH law, ani Bastes. I hope that in the end, that law will be abolished. Im happy. To the lay people, let us continue our campaign against the RH bill, particularly in the coming elections in May. Sinabi ni Theodore Te, tagapagsalita ng Korte Suprema, na bumoto ang hukuman ng 10-5 para maglabas ng apat-na-buwang freeze order sa batas na naguutos sa mga health center na mamigay ng libreng condom, at sa mga paaralan na magturo ng sex education. PCT, COA, MLU, LBS

Batang Pisay hindi umabot sa graduation

APAT na araw bago ang graduation, biglang namatay ang isang fourth-year na estudyante ng Philippine Science High

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School matapos himatayin habang nagre-rehearse nitong Martes sa kampus ng paaralan sa Quezon City. Ayon sa ulat na nakarating sa Quezon City Police District (QCPD), nakilala ang estudyante na si Rodesto Mishael Laserna, 15, ng Section IV-Tau. Sinabi ni Senior Supt. Joel Pagdilao na hindi pa malinaw ang dahilan ng pagkahimatay ni Laserna bandang 9 a.m. sa gym ng paaralan. Sa Biernes ang graduation. Unang dinala sa klinika ng paaralan ang binatilyo at saka isinugod sa Philippine Childrens Medical Center kung saan idineklara siyang dead on arrival ni Dr. Lea Mislang, anang pulisya. Julie M. Aurelio

WEDNESDAY, MARCH 20, 2013

Dapat mag-lifestyle check din sa mga pari Cruz

Ni Philip C. Tubeza

HINDI lang dapat mga opisyal ng pamahalaan ang dumaan sa pagsisiyasat ng kanilang uri ng pamumuhay kundi pati mga pari.
Sa halimbawang ipinakita ni Santo Papa Francis at upang matiyak na maging Church of the Poor, dapat magsagawa ang Simbahang Katolika sa Pilipinas ng lifestyle checks sa mga pari nito, ayon sa isang retiradong arsobispo kahapon. Sinabi ni LingayenDagupan Archbishop Oscar Cruz na dapat mapabilang din ang mga obispo matapos tanggalin ng Vatican

ang seven to eight na obispong Pilipino nitong nakaraang 37 taon dahil sa hindi wastong asal at maling pagpapatakbo ng kanilang mga dayoseso. There were many bishops (who were removed)... I think about seven or eight whose misbehavior reached the Holy Father through the apostolic nuncio,

sabi ni Cruz sa isang panayam. The reasons (behind the resignations that) I knew were sexual reasons, one was obedience and another was administration. Sometimes a bishop does not know how to administer a (diocese) so there is chaos in its management, aniya.

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WEDNESDAY, MARCH 20, 2013

Ate Guy, Manoy bag acting honors in AFA

The film directed by the often-censored Lou Ye tells the story of a middle-age woman who plans to take revenge on her husband after discovering his infidelity. Lou said backstage Monday night that the award was an encouragement to the whole team, including photographers and art directors. Mystery also took home the award for best newcomer, Qi Xi, and best screenwriters. The Philippines topped the acting categories. Nora Aunor was named best actress for Thy Womb, and 87-year-old Eddie Garcia was named best actor for Bwakaw. Aunor thanked the AFA and her fans at home in the Philippines, while Garcia said he was elated and honored for his win. He also took home the peoples choice award for favorite actor. Japans Kitano Takeshi was named best director for Outrage Beyond but did not attend. Malaysian-born actress Michelle Yeoh, previously named recipient of the Excellence in Asian Cinema Award, called herself an extremely lucky gal. Ive worked with truly the best of directors, not just in Asia but around the world, she said. I do believe that the harder you work, the luckier you get

Gender and sexuality

TINTIN Bersolas article published last week on philstar.com raised a lot of questions and a lot of eyebrows from within and outside the gay community. In it, she shared her interview with psychiatrist Dr. Camille Garcia of TV5s Face to Face. Ang intention nung article is to guide parents on what to do kapag nagpakita ng signs ang anak nila that they are gay. Tintin Bersola begins by saying she does not believe being gay is a plague. But the article causes mixed emotions pagdating sa part kung saan nakasaad na ayon kay Garcia, homosexuality can be corrected as long as the parents convince children of what is right. Sensitive topic talaga. And of course being gay myself, I cant entirely comment without any bias pero I just want to share my thoughts on the matter. Garcia later on advised parents to tell their kids what the right thing is and that true gayness emerges sa pubertal stage pa lang and pagkaeffeminate in the early years is still not a sign of being gay. At ayon kay Garcia maiaayos ang pagiging bading dahil hindi ito genetic. So in effect, the impression of this part to me is that if a child turns out to be gay, then there must be some sort of failure on the part of the parent by not being able to arrest their childs gayness from progressing? With all due respect to Garcia, I think she should have reflected more on the various implications ng mga statements na ito. And dragging religion into the picture by touching upon the Christian way of life may have made many gay Christian readers uncomfortable. Ganoon talaga kapag morality na ang pinag-uusapan. She should have

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just stated her opinion from a scientific point of view, as a doctor, to inform and not to impose her own personal opinions. Tintin ends the article by saying that if her 3-year-old son turns out to be gay, she will accept him and that being a kind human being is more important than what your gender is. She ends the article with an ominous statement, it is God Who will judge us. I understand where Tintin is coming from and I know her to be a very sweet and intelligent woman. But those readers who dont know her personally might have gotten a holier than thou impression of her. The article was too preachy and written from a limited view of what gayness is. Gay men are men too. Just because a boy likes barbies doesnt mean hes gay in the same way that a girl who enjoys race cars is not necessarily a lesbian. Maleness isnt only liking what boys should like. Gay men still possess male attributes. I think they are confusing gender with sexuality. There are many types of gay men and women who are very much male and female. Its unfair to limit them and label them because they are all beautiful and unique. I think when we talk about homosexuality its important to get rid of stereotypes. To view homosexuality in general as not a disease that needs to be cured or corrected but a part of someones identity and soul. It should not be defined by stereotypes or defined based on our limited understanding, it should simply be embraced.

ONG KONGChinese melodrama Mystery has been honored as the best film at the Asian Film Awards.

EDDIE Garcia, Best Actor for Bwakaw INQUIRER WIRES

and Ive been very, very privileged. So I thank God every day that Ive been so blessed. Last years peoples choice winner Andy Lau was in a different role this year, president of the jury. I like films or performances that moved me, he said about how he decided his votes. Asked backstage why films from the greater China region did not fare well this year, Lau said his own theory was that it was just a cycle.

NORA Aunor hugs her Best Actress trophy for her performance in Thy Womb
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This year, perhaps Hong Kong produced more comedy films, like the ones you saw, and also some action films. They are at a slight disadvantage, he said. With new films from other directors in Hong Kong and Taiwan in the coming year, things will change. It takes a year or more to make a film, the Hong Kong actor said. So I think next year we will make a comeback. Inquirer wires

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WEDNESDAY, MARCH 20, 2013

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WEDNESDAY, MARCH 20, 2013

Miami Heat tinakas ika-23 sunod panalo

OSTON Nalusutan ni LeBron James at ng Miami Heat ang Boston Celtics, 105-103, upang kunin ang karangalan bilang koponan na may ikalawang pinakamahabang winning streak sa NBA.

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INAATAKE ni Chicago Bulls playmaker Nate Robinson ang depensa ni Wilson Chandler ng Denver Nuggets sa kanilang laban Lunes sa Chicago, Illinois. Inungusan ng Nuggets ang Bulls sa overtime, 119-118. Kumpletong resulta: Philadelphia 101 Portland 100; Charlotte 119 Washington 114; Indiana 111 Cleveland 90; Dallas 127 Atlanta 113; Brooklyn 119 Detroit 82; Miami 105 Boston 103; Denver 119 Chicago 118 (OT); Memphis 92 Minnesota 77; Golden State 93 New Orleans 72; Phoenix 99 LA Lakers 76; NY Knicks 90 Utah 83. REUTERS

Tinipa ng Heat ang ika-23 sunod tagumpay na marami ng isang panalo kontra sa nagawa ng Houston Rockets limang taon na ang nakararaan. Pinutol ng Boston ang winning streak ng Rockets at sa unang tingin ay gagawin ito ng Celtics sa Heat na nagwagi sa TD Garden sa unang pagkakataon matapos ang 11 laro ng regular season. Pinagbidahan ni LeBron James ang panalo na may 37 puntos kabilang ang krusyal syut na tumapos sa Celtics, 10.5 segundo nalalabi. Hawak ng Los Angeles Lakers ang marka na 33 sunod-sunod tagumpay. Ginawa ito ng Lakers noong 1971-72 season. It means a lot, sabi ni James. I know the history of the game. To be sitting in second place right now ... for us to be there and doing it the way we want to do it, it means a lot. Hindi nakalaro dahil sa injury si Kevin Garnett ngunit dinala ng 43 puntos ni Jeff Green

ang atake ng Celtics na hindi umubra sa Heat sa nakaraang dalawang seasons sa playoffs. Umiskor si Paul Pierce ng 17 puntos at humatak ng walong rebounds at nagbigay ng walong assists. Ngunit sablay ang tres ni Pierce na nagpanalo sana sa Celtics. This was a passionate game, a lot of history between the two teams, wika ni Miami forward Shane Battier na kabilang sa Houston Rockets na gumawa ng 22-0 atake.Not that its playoff intensity ... nothings like the playoffs. May 12 assists si James samantalang tumirada si Mario Chalmers ng 21 puntos para sa Miami na hindi pa natatalo mula noong Pebrero 1. Its a special opportunity that we have with this group and you dont want to take it for granted, COACH Erik Spoelstra sabi ni coach Erik Spoel-

stra. You want to treat every day as a special opportunity to be with this group, to share these moments together, but more importantly to take a step closer to going after our goal and every day that we improve puts us in a better position in a quest where nothing is guaranteed for anybody. Reuters

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UAAP board to appear in Senate

By Jasmine W. Payo
THE UAAP Board is set to explain the wisdom of a new league rule when the Senate holds a hearing tomorrow on the controversial two-year residency requirement that Sen. Pia Cayetano described as a cruel and unjust punishment for athletes. Cayetano, chair of the Senate youth committee, called for the hearing after the UAAP board ruled early this month that foreigners and UAAP high school players transferring to a member-school for college must sit out for two years. The rule, an amendment of the one-year residency requirement, covers all sports in the league. Were going to explain the wisdom behind the rule, said UAAP president Nilo Ocampo of host National University. We know that she (Cayetano) means well and shes just making sure to protect the rights of the youth and the students. Ocampo also cleared that the new rule, set to be implemented next season starting in June, remains open to amendments. Nothing is final until the final Board meeting, said Ocampo. We can still fine-tune and certain clauses may still be included. Among those likely covered by the new residency period are prospective transferees Jerie Pingoy and Ben Mbala, two of the top mens basketball recruits this year. Pingoy, the back-to-back UAAP juniors MVP from Far Eastern University, is set to play for Ateneo in college, while Mbala, the Cameroonian center of Cebu champion Southwestern University, is set to transfer to La Salle. It goes against the constitutional mandate to promote sports especially among our youth, and is an unreasonable limit on an athletes freedom of choice as well as academic freedom to choose which college to enter into, Cayetano said in a recent open letter to the UAAP Board. Cayetano, a triathlete and a former UAAP volleyball player for the University of the Philippines, added that the residency rule kills the dream and only serves as a cruel and unjust punishment for athletes.

Elasto Painters kontra Energy

Ni Musong R. Castillo
NAIS ng Rain or Shine na putulin ang two-game losing streak samantalang puntirya ng Air21 na makuha ang ikatlong sunod panalo sa pagharap nila kontra sa magkakaibang katunggali ngayon sa PBA Commissioners Cup ngayon sa Cuneta Astrodome sa Pasay City. Haharapin ng Elasto Painters ang Energy 5:15 p.m. samantalang susubukan ng Express ang San Mig Coffee Mixers 7:30 p.m. Natalo sa kanilang huling laban noong Sabado ang RoS bagamat walang import ang Petron Blaze Boosters, 87-79. Hangad ng RoS na makuha ang playoff incentive sa pagtatapos ng eliminasyon. Nangunguna ang Alaska na may 7-2 marka kasunod ang Petron na may 6-2 kartada. Nasa ikatlong puwesto ang RoS na may 5-2 marka. Samantala nais ng Air21 na pagandahin ang 3-5 marka sa pagharap ng Express laban sa Mixers na nabawasan ang tangkad sa pagkawala ni 6-foot7 Joe Devance na may problema sa tuhod. Malaking problema ni coach Tim Cone kung paano patitigilin si Michael Dunigan ng Express.

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DEAR Joe, I never really thought I would be writing you a letter. I guess I was desperate. I needed someone to tell me what to do, when to give up, how to start.
I was married for seven years. He was a seafarer. My husband and I got married without our families knowing about it. Initially, everything started wrong. I was a Catholic, he was INC. And though I know it will be hard for me, I got on, because I love him. His parents didnt approve of me, particularly because I was a Catholic and he is the sole breadwinner of his family. Ive been through a lot Joe, I managed to live my life being scolded by his family, or whenever I go home with him to his province, no one would bother talking to me, or worst, being embarrassed in front of their neighbors. I kept it all in heart, because I love my husband. I never answered back and I never retaliated. There were three instances that I had argued with my husband, three instances that led me being hurt physically. He didnt use to be like that, he was so loving, so sweet. I live a life full of pretensions, being afraid that one day he would leave me. I lost who I am because I have to adhere to what he wants me to be or else he would leave me. I thought love is not about conditions, its loving because you simply love the person despite their imperfections. He never did reassure me that whatever happens, he will always be there. It came to a point when I had to lie to myself, to him, to everybody around me. I love my husband Joe, more than anything else, more than God for I even traded God to be with him. I traded my principles and values.

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Recently, he broke up with me through e-mail, he said he was through with me. My world fell apart. Its already been three months now, and yet each second of my life seems to be a long journey. We have a son, and I cant seem to dig down inside me how he is able to surpass each day without talking to me or even to my son. I feel lost, I dont know where to start. I cant seem to move on. Maya DEAR Maya, The are so many things that we can do, so many rules that we can defy, so many people that we can ignore and so much of ourselves

that we can sacrifice all because of love. Love makes us believe in the promise of togetherness even if it means going against seemingly impossible obstacles. It gives us the courage to face our own fears and rebel against our own values. Love can make us do almost anything. You have loved so much that you forgot to leave a little for yourself. There is nothing wrong in loving your husband and completely submitting yourself to him but you have to remember that marriage is not just about making you husband happy. It is also about your husband doing the same for you. You give in to what he wants even if it hurts you. He has physically abused you and has shown you what you truly meant to him. It is just sad that the love that you have given so much to him was something that he probably will never give back to you. He has left you and your son and he probably didnt realize that he has gained his freedom but lost his family.

Marrying you was his choice and leaving you was also his choice. I believe that its about time that you learn to love and respect yourself. You have sacrificed enough. If he wants out, then let him go where he wants to be. You just have to accept that sometimes the only way to prove our love for someone is to let go and set that person free. Ultimately, it will be his loss not yours. You have your son. Take care of him and give him all the love that he deserves. God will take care of you and make things right in his own time. You just have to patient and believe that it will comethe time when you will truly be happy in love. Thank you for writing and never cease to pray for a miracle that will transform and renew you family. I wish you well. Heard and seen on 92.3newsfm and Radyo5 ch 41 every Friday from 12 midnight to 2 a.m. visit www.lovenotes.tv