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A Womans Guide to Understanding Idealized Portrayals of Men and Relationships in the Mass Media
BY: ISABELLE ARTHUR
For many of us women, fairytales are the very first stories that we grow to love as little girls. They create the foundation of our understanding of social behavior and constructs of the real world with the addition of sparkling magic. Because of their brilliance, our small hearts begin to fantasize about them throughout our childhood, wishing that we could take on the roles of one of the characters and be immersed in their fairytale land. As young princesses we long to fall in love with the wonderful prince, however his character has an unfortunate major flaw. The best-known feature of Prince Charming is that he is absolutely perfect in every respect and does everything in the way it is expected, including the destined rescue of his damsel in distress. This traditional stock character and its modernized versions are continuously presented throughout the mass media and perpetuate what we saw as children into our adult lives. Contemporary portrayals of men are idealized in a manner similar to the fairytale Prince Charming, however they have become much more complex as there is a lot more that is expected of them.
Women have a tendency to fantasize about the men they read about or see in the mass media, which consist of powerful influencers that disseminate messages to our society through narratives that inform, entertain, and persuade us (Galician, 8-69). Integrating itself into our daily lives through the mediums of Hollywood film, television, literature, recorded music, magazines and the World Wide Web, the mass medias capacity to shape our beliefs is very influential. Many concepts about gender and romantic relationships are constructed and learnt through the images that surround us, however the mass media rarely offer models of healthy, realistic romance (Galician, 5). Despite its misleading portrayals, the mass media is responsible for encouraging the irrational fantasies that women develop from a young age, and which we now desire for our own lives. According to Dr. Mary-Lou Galician, Higher usage of certain mass media is related to unrealistic expectations about coupleship, and these unrealistic expectations are also related to dissatisfaction in real-life romantic relationships(5). This statement reveals that while immersing oneself in a love fantasy is something many of us may do, it is detrimental to our relationship happiness. The reason for this is that it is irrational to believe that a human being could possibly live up to the perfection of a fictional hero, as media narratives often focus on superhuman characters that are physically, intellectually and emotionally stronger than normal people (Galician, 77). Developing the criteria for our perfect man based on what we see in the mass media is therefore a direct path to happily-never-after.
By restricting oneself to a limited view of what describes our ideal partner, we are missing out on the possibility for many great relationships. We are forming expectations for the men in our lives that simply cannot be met, and it has been found that twentieth-century women expect similar behavior from men that is based on the twelfth-century concept of courtly love (Galician, 57). When we do not receive from our partner what we have forever been anticipating, dissatisfaction is the inevitable consequence. In order to avoid this unfortunate outcome, contemporary women must become aware of the various ways that the mass media idealizes portrayals of men. Dr. Galician believes that the best way to achieve this is through media literacy, as she explains: Media literacy is a vital strategy and skill for everyone[and] is about understanding the sources and technologies of communication, the codes that are used, the messages that are produced, and the selection, interpretation, and impact of those messages(8-100). Therefore as a means of escaping from the idealized illusions formed by the mass media, media literacy is an empowering ability for women to develop as it allows us to distinguish between what is irrational and what can be realistically achieved.
In the case of idealized portrayals of men and relationships, there are certain aspects that are predominantly unrealistic. In order to help women improve their romantic relationships, several of them have been revealed and explained in the following pages. This guide has been developed with the intention to make North American women aware of the various ways that idealizations happen, and to teach them what to look out for when trying to be media literate. As a result of the research that has been done in relation to this topic, the information provided concerns heterosexual relationships, however certain aspects are certainly applicable to other types. With each idealization that is covered, advice is offered to assist women in subverting these unrealistic expectations in their real personal relationships. With this guidebook one can now understand which aspects of men should be less harshly critiqued, and which ones should be taken more seriously as they are warning signs for destructive relationships. A better understanding of these idealizations will help women develop rational expectations, and therefore lead them to forming happier and more satisfying relationships. It is now time to toss those Prince Charming checklists, and follow the path to happy-ever-after with the advice of this guide.
WORKS CITED
Galician, Mary-Lou. Sex, Love, and Romance in the Mass Media: Analysis and Criticism of Unrealistic Portrayals and Their Influence. New Jersey: Psychology Press, 2004. Print. MacKinnon, Kenneth. Representing men: maleness and masculinity in the media. New York: Arnold, 2003. Print. Patzer, Gordon L. Looks: Why They Matter More Than You Ever Imagined. New York: Amacom, 2008. Print.