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NIKHILA TANTRAS

HAPPILY WE LIVE

Writer & Translator: S. Maitreya

(Swami Madhusudana Saraswati)

Editor: Bhairavi
(Jenna Madayag)

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NIKHILA TANTRAS

Happily We live
Writer & Translator: S. Maitreya
(Swami Madhusudana Saraswati)
Editor: Bhairavi
(Jenna Madayag – U.S.)

Contact us:
Email: Maitreya@nikhiltantra.org or Bhairavi@nikhiltantra.org
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First Print: Telugu (March 1993)

Second Print: Telugu (April 2006)

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Dedication

Absolute ecstasy, that is truth, can be called

as the God. From this ecstasy only, entire
creation springs. In it, only all the living
beings of this universe are nourished. Finally,
all the existing beings dissolved onto it.
The main stream for this book the is Upanishads, the part of
the Vedic yore. He, who is the seer of this truth, the rishi’s
feet, I am dedicating this book.
- Maitreya

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TABLE OF CONTENTS

SWEETNESS OF FRIENDSHIP ................................. .........................5

BHAIRAVI’S WORDS ................................................................... ....6
WRITER’S FORWARD .................................. ...................................8
DO YOU REALLY WANT TO BE HAPPY? ...........................................14
NOT TOO MUCH ................................................................... ........18
SATYAM SIVAM SUNDARAM .............................................. ............21
THE ART OF DISTRIBUTING HAPPINESS .........................................25
WHAT DO YOU WANT? ................................................................. .32
WHY DO YOU WANT TO KNOW? ....................................................40
BEYOND THE LOGIC ........................................ .............................43
STOP ASKING QUESTIONS ............................................... .............48
RIGHTEOUS THOUGHT AND PERFECT TALK ....................................44
BE SIMPLE .................................................. ................................48
YES, THIS TOO WILL PASS AWAY............................................ .......58
ACCEPT THE OLDER GENERATION .................................................61
NEVER STOP ............................................... ................................66
BE YOURSELF ................................................................. .............72
MY FOUR RUPEES ............................................................ ............73
YOUR BEAUTIFUL PROBLEMS .......................................................75
DON’T BE IN WILD DREAMS ..................................................... .....78
I CANNOT UNDERSTAND ..............................................................86
PROBLEMS OF THE WOMAN .........................................................91
KNOWLEDGE OR IGNORANCE .......................................................92
PLEASE DON’T TRY TO DO ANYTHING PERFECTLY ..........................96
YOU CARRY YOUR WEIGHT ...........................................................98
SAME GAUGE FOR EVERYONE .....................................................100
IN THE LAP OF THE NATURE .......................................................104
SAY NO TO “USE AND THROW” ............................................ .......106
JUST DON’T HOLD ON TO ANYTHING ...........................................108
EVERYTHING IS TUNED ............................................................. ..111
PLEASE WEEP ........................................................................ ....114
ATTENTION TOWARDS THE CAUSE ..............................................116
RUSSELL’S WAY....................................... ...................................117
AST AID ....................................................... .............................162
ALL THIS IS UNTRUE............................................ .......................165
LAST WORDS OF THE WRITER .................................................... .168
APPENDIX ............................................................. ....................170

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SWEETNESS OF FRIENDSHIP

I have seen so many great people in my life, but only

two people could touch my heart. The first person is
Maitreya; the second person is Laxmana Yatindra.
These two are like small children, so pure in heart
that they think friendship is everything. However
great they may be, but they think and act like small
children. I feel that this is the perfect way to bring
worldly people onto the path because they cannot
understand the greatness of the Guru parampara,
the hierarchy of the Guruhood. Here we talk about
Guru and sishya, teacher and disciple. We remember
from our epics, the Vishwāmitra, the Guru and
Rāmachandra, the disciple. Vishwāmitra woke up
early in the morning and he woke up his own disciple,
Rāmachandra. It means that, as a good friend he
wanted to wake up his inner reality, his dawn. That is
kousalya suprajarāma. Kousalya is his mother.
Suprajarāma means a good son of her. It means, “Oh
great Rāmachandra, it is time to wake up because it
is dawn.” When you look at such a scene, the
sweetness of friendship overwhelms your heart.
Vishwāmitra means the friend of this universe, that’s
why this man wanted to be called Maitreya, a good
friend of this world. He never had any ego. He never
feels like he is a Guru, but he wanted to give the
message. So the best way he found it is through
friendship. How can we maintain our friendship with
everyone in this society? He just talks about that in
this book, in which everyone can be happy.

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When a great man with his penance acts like a

friend, takes your hand in his hand, and leads you to
a goal, such miracles can happen. This man wrote
this book in a language which is of a friend, so there
are no inhibitions or hiding. Shamelessly he can
express everything. In his writing there is the beauty
of nature. His language is sweet, of a friendly nature.
It is touched by his penance, so beautiful, so
beautiful. Oh, just enter into it then you will know it.
Sometimes in the middle, some anecdotes and some
stories he tells, beautiful in themselves. Actually his
language itself is so sweet. You don’t have to hear all
these stories and these anecdotes. They themselves
have a lot of meaning. He could have separated
them from this book. They can prove their worth. He
doesn’t have to explain those, because they are so
simple and open. Gñāna vigñāna, means normal
study and experience. Mingle in it and you can feel it.
This is the combination of the east and west, Western
psychology touched by Eastern philosophy. He made
nectar out of it. Western psychology can be
completed only with Eastern philosophy. On a holy
path it went on, but any simple man can understand
who doesn’t know any philosophy. I hereby present
the Maitreya, the good friend in your hands. Embrace
him and have a good time with him. Why should I be
in the middle? I want to get out of it. Be happy.

Sri Mopi Devi Krishna Swami

Vijayawada, Andhra Pradesh, India.
19th Jan 1993

BHAIRAVI’S WORDS

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“Once in the realm that’s full of joy the seeing

mind becomes enriched,” Saraha says.

Osho wrote two volumes called “The Tantra Vision,”

where he enumerates the verses of “The Royal Song
of Saraha,” the founder of Vajrayāna Buddhism. And
Osho says that joy exists in three planes, it exists in
the body as pleasure, of the mind as happiness, and
of the spirit as bliss. To exist in joy, in all of these
three planes is the experience of joy. Joy is not
merely a thought or conception created by
knowledge, it is a full-time experience in all planes of
existence. It is not even something sought after, as it
is true once held deeply in the heart.

Since this book is a Nikhila Tantra, it is an experience

of joy in this creation. It satisfies the sensual
pleasures of the body, that even while writing and
editing this book, the sensation of joy is felt as any
suppression held in the physical body as pain or
diseases, releases itself. This release can first be
distinguished as pleasure, then it is not even
recognized at all. This release allows for the mind’s
walls to tumble down and reveal the happiness that
always existed. Just as when one is in pain, we can
feel the sensation of pain. But when we are well, we
don’t even remember what that sensation was, nor
could we describe it properly in words. Words and
language exist in the mind, and no more does the
mind want to even describe it, as now we are in
happiness. It is the tumbling down of the blockages
of the mind that identifies so strongly with the ego, in
which happiness can be left to experience. Pervading
all this is the bliss of the spirit that is fed by the

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enriched mind. The enriched mind is not just the

mind full of knowledge, as knowledge can cloud and
confuse humans as well. Ignorance can be the better
guide, as it can allow for the innocent mind to grasp
onto concepts that the knowledgeable mind cannot.
The mind, enriched and overwhelmed with
innocence, bathes in bliss. This bath of bliss is never
ending. We splash and play in this bath during our
meditations and during the meditation that we call
life. Sometimes the water is scalding hot, freezing
cold, and somewhere in between. But it doesn’t
matter, because the bath is still a bath, no matter
what temperature we can or cannot tolerate at that
moment in time.

WRITER’S FOREWORD

I’m not a philosopher. I’m not a man who has gone

above my basic animal instincts, but neither I live in
them nor in the philosophy. I’ve accepted my
drawbacks as a sincere man. I never say that these
worldly pleasures are everything, nor can I say that
philosophy is everything. I cannot say, just pray to
the Lord and everything is all right either. But also I
cannot say that no God exists, because I don’t know.
I cannot give logic to everything. But it does not
mean I can never ask you to give up logic and
reasoning. All this is essential for the human being.
My academic education ended with the 10th grade.
What I studied is from the library and from my life. Of
course I have done some penance, but I cannot claim
that it was everything. All this which I negated or
affirmed becomes our life. All this is useful to the
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human life. We can give up nothing. All that which is

really useful for the human being, I want the human
being to have to be happy. As an evolved human
being, I want you to know that these subjects
individually cannot fulfill the needs of the human
being. When they are all put together, then it can be
done

“Experience is a comb which a man gets when

he becomes bald,” says Emerson.

But I had a comb prior to my baldness, that’s why I

wanted to give this comb to the fellow beings those
who have the hair. I want every human being to be
happy on this earth, because it’s a beautiful planet.
God never created problems; it is the stupid human
being who creates it. That’s why I want you, all
people, to enjoy the truth and fragrance of this
beautiful nature. I have experienced that no scripture
can fulfill your desires.

These Communists and Socialists say the body is

everything. They say if the people are given bread
and butter they will be happy. They are the followers
of Darwin, a great fool. He started saying that there
was nothing on this earth, and then slowly the five
elements took place. First, underwater creation
started; a microorganism was born from fish, then
fish became frog, then frog became monkey. Finally,
from monkey, this stupid man came out. And with
this absolute development, nothing more can be
done, Darwin says. And these Communists and
Socialists say that all men are equal because they
are developed to the maximum extent. No, every

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individual’s needs, feelings, and thoughts are totally

different.

“It may be that men are not equal in all

respects, but they are equally men,” says Hugh
Gaitskell.

All are not equally tall, so you want to make them

equal height. You want to cut off their limbs. You
cannot give numbers to the individual and count
them like robots. They’re human beings, living
beings. They have their emotional and psychological
needs. So be careful. Never count them like sheep.
Dr. Freud found some diseases which occurred in
human beings that can never be cured by medicine,
and from there, psychology started. His disciples, like
Jung, built a big castle of psychology. They dove into
the ocean of psychology, the human mind, and
searched for the troubles and drawbacks of the
human being. Why and what is happening to these
people? That’s why they wanted to establish a good
relation of human beings in this society. They felt
that is the way to peace in this society. It is a good
movement, but imagine, almost in every street of the
United States, you can easily find one psychologist
and they are treating thousands and thousands of
patients. But still they could not reach a conclusion
why could they not heal all the people. Then in 1913,
Dr. Freud formed a society of psychiatrists, but his
disciples Carl Gust Jung and Alfred Adler divided from
him. They could not tune in with the philosophy of Dr.
Freud, that’s why their own propagations are
different. The world of psychology could not come to
any conclusion. And everyday a new theory is being

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proposed. Yes, for anything, there should be a proper

gauge. If one proposes a kilogram as a standard
gauge of an object and someone else says it’s a half
gauge, how can we live together? For one man, one
mile is not even one mile. It is not even half a mile.
So how can we tune together? How can we live
together in the society? We need to have a standard
scale in the society. So for that, we should have an
equal proper gauge for everyone.

One day I did not allow Bhairavi into the meditation

room during her menstrual period. Her feelings got
hurt. She thinks that during her menses, a natural
phenomenon is going on which cannot be stopped,
and that shouldn’t prevent anyone from worshipping
anywhere and anytime. In suppressed Indian culture,
a woman is considered impure and cannot do so
many things, such as enter a temple. One day, a
woman told Bhairavi that God is angry at her during
her menstrual period, so that is why she couldn’t
participate in the fire worship, and again Bhairavi
was confused. So there is one scale that Bhairavi
lives by, one scale that that woman lives by, and
there is another scale in society. Me, I wanted to stay
out of that situation and leave it up to the Absolute
Scale. So, I said, let’s ask our Guru, the Absolute
Scale, and let him decide. So I did, and he said
Bhairavi is not allowed in the meditation room during
her menstrual periods. As his servant, we cannot ask
questions, and there are so many scales which we
don’t know about. To fulfill this, the subject of logic
came out, but it was misused by the ancient Greeks.
They started thinking “I’m here, that’s why I’m
thinking,” or “I’m thinking, because of that, I’m

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here.” This is stupidity. The human being’s emotions

and thoughts are the gauge for one’s truth, what
they think is right. Truth is that this entire world is
impermanent. There is only sorrow, and really no
bliss in it. And as long as we’re holding on to it, we
will be suffering. And unless we find the ultimate
goal, which is not at all changing, it is truth in itself.
We have to attain it, that’s what philosophy says.

We never find the Upanishad rishis, the ancient

seers, neglecting this body or negating it. They never
escaped from this world, and they had families. They
took up the responsibilities of their families. All this
false thinking started from Buddha and
Shankaracharya. They said that those who are totally
indulged in the senses are not trying to find the
absolute truth. These people neglected the total
body and its needs, and spoke about the absolute
reality. Your mind is the cause of the bondage and
the freedom. Based on this, nobody is trying to come
out of it. Following this false philosophy, so many
people are stuck in this stage. That’s why I wrote an
essay in this book called “Satyam Sivam Sundaram.”
Certainly you can enjoy this life when you are in your
senses, but you have to grow out of the senses. In
another essay, “Righteous Thought and Perfect Talk,”
I have shown you how proper thinking can lead you if
this logic is extended to the maximum extent. I
discussed about logic, so don’t question anything in
these essays I did. Even this will pass away in that
essay. One can then relax because everything is
impermanent. “Stop Asking Questions.” That is
another essay, questioning everything. “The Art of
Distributing Happiness”, in this essay you will find

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the main spring from which all the happiness comes

out. In another essay, “Not Too Much,” you can find
the analysis of all that which I have told till now.
“Russell’s Way,” is the big chapter in my book. He
gave some analysis, but I changed it as per my time
and society. All the people cannot go through all
these experiences, and they cannot understand it all
easily. That’s why I’m trying to help them come out
of these limitations. If one can understand it and
digest it, I hope that they will come out of all their
sorrow.

Listen to this story about King George VI’s wife,

Queen Victoria Elizabeth, who went to Toronto in
1939. They distributed white flowers upon her arrival
in all the hospitals.

So many years later, Lotta Denca, a woman, went to

Toronto in a taxi to see her son, daughter-in-law and
granddaughter. The taxi driver was angry, and he
was driving his car very fast. Lotta Denca told him to
drive it slow, “It’s my son’s birthday, and I’m taking
some gifts to him.” The driver said,

“Today is my birthday too, but nobody gave me any

gifts.” She looked at him and felt very bad, because
nobody is there to look after him. Denca said, “You
are exactly the same age as my son.”

He said, “I’m born the same date as your son at St.

Michael’s Hospital. On the same day, in same
hospital, my mother and you gave birth to me and
your son.”

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“Did you know about this?” she asked him.

In a sorrowful face, he said, “I lost my mom in my

childhood, and I don’t know anything about it.”

She said to him, “Queen Victoria Elizabeth came and

distributed white flowers to all of us. It was such a
beautiful day.”

Immediately he said, “Oh, I can remember that. My

mother used to keep a dry white flower in the bible.
Maybe she kept it as her sweet memory.” That
woman gave a gift of sweet memory to him, which
he collected for his own son. He was happy.

In this world there are so many people who are in

pain, agony, and suffering. Just a sweet word, a
smile, a small touch, and compassion in the eyes, if
you show it to them, they will be happy. You don’t
have to go through so many books for this. That’s
what I wanted to say in this book, nothing else.

The past American president, Abraham Lincoln, went

to a small village and gave a lecture. A peasant came
up to him and said, “Mr. Lincoln, I couldn’t
understand all of what you said, but I liked it.”

Lincoln started laughing, “Even my dog has the same

problem. She wants to catch all the flies. Sometimes
she catches them, but she cannot get all of them.
You don’t have to be depressed about it. Whatever
you can catch, is enough for you.”

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All those who read my book may not be able to

understand all of what I wrote, but whatever they can
catch is enough for me. I cannot claim that this book
is complete and that it can reveal all the secrets of
nature. It is my experience and I wanted to type it in
my own words. If you can make use of it, I will be
happy. If at all you cannot, then I wrote one essay in
this book, “All This is Untrue,” and the truth is
revealed. If you can make use of this book, and can
attain some happiness, I will be the first one to be
happy. If you find it’s all useless, and if you scold me
or curse, I will not be unhappy, because it has
nothing to do with my happiness. I am in my
happiness, and no one can disturb it. I have learned
the art of living.

I’m sorry to say that I don’t want to insult anybody,

any culture, any caste, creed, or any country’s
people. Hereby, I produce the naked truth, whether
you like it or not. I have no reservations about it. I’m
mentioning this because one Indian pointed out that I
was trying to insult the Indians, and uplift the
westerners. I feel that all of you can embrace this
truth, as it is.

“Continuous work until you are tired and total control

of your mind leads to realization on the intellectual
level. When the love is in the heart, you surrender
your ego, and no I-ness remains, all that makes us
beautiful human beings. Be happy,” says Maitreya.

DO YOU REALLY WANT TO BE HAPPY?

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“Man supports his misery, nourishes it, takes

care that it does not leave because it is his
only companion,” says Osho.

Do you really want happiness? You may think that

this is a mad question. Everyone wants love and
happiness, but it is not necessarily true. Some people
really want some happiness. All other people, they
want luxury, not happiness. They want to sleep in
comfortable beds, and have air conditioning. All they
want to do is relax. I don’t know whether God exists
or not. Even if He comes to them, will they receive
him? I don’t know, but certainly they will allow
happiness. But the problem exists with the human
being is that they want to have their own homes,
family, husband, wife, children and comforts, and
along with that they want to have happiness. But
without those things, who is going to ask for
happiness? I’m unable to find these people. I’m not
going to say that if you avoid all these things, you’ll
have happiness. But happiness can be given to them,
to those who want only happiness. If at all you want
to have happiness, why should I give permission to
you? Because it is your birthright, and you can have
it. You may want happiness, that’s why you’re
reading this book. But this book cannot give you
happiness unless you realize the truth of happiness.
I’m sorry, but to have the happiness, you don’t have
to go through this book. I’m sorry if you are
sorrowful, because life is beautiful. You can be happy.
If you are still in sorrow, I feel sorry for you. Because
life means happiness. I’m sorry to say one more
thing, you are so capable to make it miserable, really
you are. You, yourself made your life as sorrowful, full

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of agony, and as insulting as it is. I really feel sorry

about it. That is your deed, I cannot help it. For the
baby, for his happiness, there’s no cause. And for
those who are grown, I cannot find anyway why they
are sorrowful. If you really want to have happiness,
you can have it. If you want to be sorrowful, I cannot
help you.

I wrote a book that said achievement is yours. One

man said, “I read your book. I’m happy about it, but I
could not achieve the ultimate reality.”

I said, “In that book, I was talking about absolute

reality. If you have not found it, I’m sorry. It means
that you have achieved sorrow in your lineage.” It is
true that man has attained absolute reality, but still
he is sorrowful. I cannot help him.

Horace said, “All your unachievements tell you

about your personality. But truth remains
inherent. To that be careful. All your
achievements hide your personality. All your
unachievements tell where you’ve failed. For
our happiness, we always keep some burdens.”

We think that if we have a house, we can be happy.

We feel that if we marry, we’ll be happy. We feel that
if our child has a job, we’ll be happy. We feel that if
we have a promotion, we’ll be happy. We feel that if
we have a bank balance, we’ll be happy. All this is
stupid. Happiness never belongs to all these things.
After completing something, we feel that we’re going
to have happiness. But this is not possible. This is the
mind’s trick. We may feel, let me have a computer

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then I’ll be happy. Then let me have a laptop I’ll be

happy. Then let me have an ipod, I’ll be happy. Then
you may feel, let me have a DVD player then I’ll be
happy. This mind is so chaotic. There’s no end to it.
We’ll get exhausted when we try to find these things.

When a person wants to find something out, but he

can’t because of fear, he thinks maybe he’s not
qualified enough to find it out. And he feels without
an ego, why can’t I do it? And for a second he may
feel, why can’t I find it out? And when he cannot find
it out, with that depression, how can he find the
happiness?

So with this weakness, astrologers are making a

business out of it. Because this being is thinking
about the future, he’s not thinking about the present.
How can he have peace? How can he have bliss?
Happiness means the present time. If you want to be
happy, you can be happy without anything, without
any inhibitions of the past or reservations about the
future. Because you have a right to be happy.
Outside aspects, other people’s desires, any kind of
outside things cannot affect you, if you want to be
happy. When you are all alone, it makes you
depressed. But when you are in the company of so
many people, that also makes you unhappy because
sometimes you are unable to tune in with them. If
you want to be happy, you can have it. I’m asking
again the same question. Really, do you want to be
happy? Because so many people want to be in
sorrow. It appears very negative, but it is true,
because one who is in sorrow will be consoled by so
many people. In that way, one’s ego can be satisfied.

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If one is happy, nobody pays any attention to him.

That’s why so many people create sorrow around him
or her.

Samuel Jackson says, “The sorrow is only a

mask.”

That small boy who doesn’t want to go to school,

acts as if he has a belly pain. In that way, we always
act as if we are sorrowful. But when we act as if this
sorrow is real, it becomes real. And finally I will tell
you one more thing, as long as you act as if you are
in sorrow, it becomes truth. So you can never have
the happiness. If at all you never exist, who is going
to have the sorrow or the happiness? That’s why the
man whose ego exists, says, “I want to have it”.

When a man wants to come out of his sorrow

because it’s too much for him, he drinks whisky; he
takes intoxications so that he forgets about it. But
when he wakes up the sorrow appears to him. So
again I ask you, are you really interested to have
happiness? So many people think that coming from
the lesser problems to the higher problems is bliss.
But this is not true. To get out of all that, people use
intoxications. Try to come out of it. It is like half an
hour of bliss and so many months of agony. Come
out of it.

“If you want to be happy, don’t find a fault,

find a remedy,” says Henry Ford.

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NOT TOO MUCH

“There is a great difference between knowing

a thing and understanding,” says Charles
Kerrering.

Once upon a time in India, there used to be a great

city called Shravasti ruled by a king named Shrona.
He was a great artist, and he had a wonderful vision
about nature and beauty. He beautifully molded the
Shravasti town with beautiful ponds, wide roads, big
trees, and beautiful gardens. In those days it was
heaven on earth, the Paris of those days. Shrona
used to keep so many learned scholars, poets,
musicians, dancers, singers and such people in his
court. He used to keep only beautiful girls to serve
him and used to collect a lot of costly antiques and
beautiful furniture. He used to drink only well
brewed, costly wine. For twenty-four hours daily he
used to indulge in luxuries, but finally he got bored.
He was vexed with all the luxuries, and wanted to
commit suicide. When he was going away to commit
suicide he saw Gautama the Buddha giving lectures
to thousands of his disciples. He saw a beautiful aura
around his face, and his voice was so deep and
pleasant. He listened to it, then immediately he
surrendered at his feet. He asked for renunciation
from him. Gautama the Buddha knew that he was
indulging in worldly pleasures up to the brink, so he
was hesitating on giving him the renunciation
initiation. Then, Shrona the King said, “Tathā gatha.
(It means he who accepts anything comes into his
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either I get renunciation initiation from you or I

commit suicide. Please decide for yourself.”

Buddha did not want to be the cause for his suicide,

so he gave him the renunciation initiation. Shrona
the King once went to the extreme end of indulgence
in sensual pleasure, now he touched the other end of
renunciation. He started negating his body. He
started incurring a lot of pain to his body. He was
sleeping on the thorns. In scorching hot sun he lit
four sides of the fire in the middle of the day and
used to meditate in it. In the time of spring and cold
winter seasons, he used to put a lot of ice in a big
bath, sit in it and meditate. Within six months,
nobody could recognize him. He was totally changed,
and his body became totally useless.

Buddha came to him, and asked him, “Shrona, you

used to play guitar, I heard.”

Shrona said, “Yes, my Lord. But why are you asking

about all that nonsense? All those sense pleasures
are useless to me now.”

Buddha was laughing. He said, “I don’t want to know

about those sense pleasures you had. I just want to
know about your guitar. If you tighten the strings of
the guitar, will it really work properly?”

Shrona said, “No. If you tighten them too tightly, the

guitar may break.”

Buddha was laughing. He said, “If at all you tighten

the strings, can it play good music?”

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Shrona was looking at Buddha. Why is this great man

asking all these stupid questions? But with respect
and love he said, “Oh my lord. Good music can’t be
produced if you don’t tighten the strings.”

Buddha was laughing like anything. “So beautifully

you have said it. When you are so intelligent to
handle the guitar, how come you are not handling
your body properly? If you indulge in sense pleasures
too much, then this body becomes too much. If you
torture your body in penance, the same thing will
happen. Either you’re not supposed to tighten the
strings of your body too much, nor are you supposed
to leave them loose. That’s why please stop doing all
this nonsense. Eat only one time per day, I won’t
mind. But eat well because you have to keep your
body fit. And give your body rest too. It requires it. In
the name of penance you don’t have to burn your
body in fire or freeze in the ice. You don’t have to
sleep on the thorns. Balance everything. Certainly
you’ll attain your goal of absolute reality.”

In a small path, if you have thorns, glass pieces, and

sharp pebbles, you should be very careful while
putting your foot on that path. You should be very
alert and cautious while you walk on that path. It is
not possible for a drunkard. So such is the life. This
life is like a clay lamp. It is made of mud. It is inert,
but the flame in it which is doing the lighting is not
inert. It is sentient. It is one of the five elements. And
there is a wonderful link in between inert mud and a
sentient flame. If you think your body is totally inert,
then it is dangerous. If you think that this body is not

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inert, then that also is a problem. To light this flame,

you need the clay lamp. It is necessary, but without a
flame it has no value. Those who are skeptics,
logicians, those who are non-believers of the truth,
those who are totally intoxicated by the five senses,
all they think is that this body is everything. To make
it comfortable, to clean it, to give it a lot of luxuries,
they spend their entire life.

The other extreme of people, in the name of penance

they go to the Himalayas and torture their bodies. If
you break the clay lamp, then where are you going to
light the flame? And if you go on cleaning it and
don’t light a flame, what is the use of that life? This
life is only a chance. How you can make use of it
depends on you. If you indulge yourself up to the
nose in the sense pleasures, you will never have
mental peace. Or if you give up, reject the entire
universe, crave for that which you never know
whether it exists or not, and torture the body, then
you will never have the mental peace. You can never
reach your goal. Yes, you have to look after your
mind and your body too. Fulfill their needs, slowly
mediate to meditation. Thus, you can certainly attain
the happiness in your life.

SATYAM SIVAM SUNDARAM

“Attaining love is the fulfillment of life,” says

Osho.

Satyam is the necessity, the truth, the food.

Sundaram is the beauty, the next meal after the
belly. When the basic need of food is fulfilled, he goes

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for beauty. Sivam is the absolute reality. When

satyam and sundaram are fulfilled, then he can go
for the absolute reality. While food is the basic need,
it may not be a spiritual need. It may be false
appearance or delusion. Truth is as past, present, and
future. If it is not, and appears to be in only one
period of time, it is false. Maybe this life is like a
dream. But the same Guru who gave a wonderful
lecture about this delusion, he too has to eat. This
need existed in that same person who was not grown
thousands of years back. And the need is here now;
then what is the difference? Maybe then he ate raw
meat. Then he learned to cook it in various ways.
That’s what is called as culture. The moment he
started cooking the food, no more was it a need. It
became a luxury. There was a king who used to ask
the people to prepare the food in various ways. He
used to eat it, forcefully vomit it out, and then eat it
again. For him, food is not a need. It is a luxury. For
the common man, food is a bodily need. If it is not
fulfilled, he will be sorrowful. If he wants to enjoy it
and extend too much, it becomes a sorrow for him
again. Man’s second need is the mind. To fulfill it, he
has to go for art. If the physical need is not fulfilled,
he cannot think of anything else. Then he will look at
the world for its usefulness. Once he looks at the
world for his usefulness, it becomes a business for
him. He will lack love and attachment.

Aurangajeb was the Muslim king of India. He never

cared for the arts. That’s where his entire dynasty
collapsed. When you look at the world with the
usefulness for you, there you will have lust and
greed. Then you will lack the art. A Chinese quotation

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says, “We have two breads. Give away one and

purchase a flower for the second one. So after the
first need, which is food, the need for art and beauty
comes in.” When you look at a beautiful thing, you
can never resist it unless you purchase it. But once
you possess it, you lose the interest in it. Once you
look at a beautiful thing, you lose interest in it. But if
you have the beautiful vision, then you will have a
beautiful eye to look through every second.”

“Senai senaihe yenna vatā mapoyate gadeva

rupam lāvanyatām.”

In Sanskrit, it means slowly that which creates

newness, that is called as beauty. If you can look at
this creation with a beautiful eye, then you can see
beauty everywhere. Does it mean that beauty is only
there in the eye? Is it not in the creation?

Once, the great king that ruled this India was named
Akbar. He said, taking his grandson onto his lap, “Can
anybody be more beautiful than my grandson?”
Everyone said, “No. He is the beauty of everyone in
Agra.”

But Birbal, Akbar’s minister, said, “No, my Lord. I

know a boy who is more beautiful than your
grandson in Agra (then the capital of India). If you
can come with me, I’ll show you to him.” So
incognito, changing their dresses, they went to the
slums of Agra. On a garbage pit they saw a boy who
was so ugly, so skinny with a big belly, oozing some
morbid material from his nose. Akbar became very
angry.

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“Is this the one you say is so beautiful?” he said, “I’ll

cut off your head.”

Birbal was laughing. “Just wait my Lord,” he said. “I’ll

prove that he’s the beautiful one.” And he pinched
that boy. He started weeping. From the small hut, his
mother came out.

“How come you have produced this child who is so

ugly? I feel like killing him,” said Birbal, “I would like
to crush him under my feet like a bug.”

The mother of the child said, “Is there anybody more

beautiful than my child? How dare you give such bad
words to my boy. I’ll beat you red and white.” Saying
this, she went into her hut to get a stick to beat
these fellows. And all these fellows ran away from
this place.

Does it mean beauty is only there in the eyes? No,

there are a few things in this creation like flowers,
landscapes, mountains, beautiful clouds, and ocean
waves which are so beautiful, that everyone likes
them. That’s why artists say beauty is the objectified
happiness. Not only that, happiness is the
subjectified beauty. So, the beauty is there in the
creation, and you should have the eye to see it. In a
way, we have to say, objectified beauty when
reflected in the eye, becomes happiness. When the
happiness subjectifies in the creation, it becomes
beauty. So it is the one truth reflected in two ways.
As long as we have the mind, we’ll have the
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enter into the absolute truth, there’ll be no

difference. Once he realizes that he’s in the truth,
looking in the beauty of the object, he can never see
it. Rather, he will enter into it.

There is a story in Jen philosophy. There was a great

king who had this vision that he wanted to make a
beautiful painting on the wall of his meditation room.
He said, looking at it, “I should enter it. Could anyone
create such art?” He asked all his subordinates.

One old artist came out and said, “My Lord, I can do
it, but I need three years of time. And you are not
supposed to enter into your meditation hall as long
as I will be working there.”

The king accepted it, and he provided all that he

needed. For three years he waited, and finally the
time came. The artist took the king into the
meditation room. He immediately closed the doors
behind them. The king could not believe his eyes as
he saw such a beautiful art on his wall. In that
painting, there is a flowing river and a hill. He found
so many bushes and trees. He saw a small path
which is going behind that hill, and it was
disappearing. The king asked him, “Where does this
path lead to?”

The artist said, “I don’t know, my lord.” Then the king

said, “Ok, let us enter into it and try to find out the
ultimate goal.” He took the artist’s hand into his
hand and they walked onto the path, went behind
the hill and never came back. This is the way to enter
from satyam to sundaram, from the truth to beauty,

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this is the path. When the need of food becomes

chaotic, it becomes a mental disease. But when they
enter into the beauty, it can lead them to the
absolute truth, sivam. So many artists end up only in
beauty, but only a few can enter into the sivam.
Some people, from the beauty, they enter into the
gñāna path, the knowledge path. They become
scholars, but that is not really the way. Finally,
everybody has to reach the absolute truth. When
hunger is fulfilled, man becomes satisfied. If he can
enter into the happiness, that is the absolute truth.
The path is beauty. In calmness, intuition gives birth
to faith.

THE ART OF DISTRIBUTING HAPPINESS

“It is not well: Thou has reaped and thou must

sow,” by the Light on the Path.

Everyone is trying and struggling to distribute

happiness to others. But after all these struggles and
strives, everyone is getting only sorrow and
unhappiness. What is the cause of it? A husband
wants to give happiness to his wife, a wife wants to
give happiness to her husband, relatives want to give
happiness to their relatives, and friends want to give
happiness to their friends. They want to give
happiness, but sorrow is still prevailing everywhere.
What is the cause? Why is it happening? Because
you really don’t have any happiness with you. If you
want to distribute the thing that is not there with
you, how can you distribute it? Every father wants to
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pain and sorrow to him. So finally the son becomes

an enemy to his father.

It is said by Sigmund Freud that every son wanted to

kill his father. At least once in his lifetime, the
thought occurs to him. And he calls this the Oedipal
Complex. As the child grows, if his mind grows and
his heart grows, he may not be able to harm his
father. But if he won’t grow, he may harm his father.
Now we know that we don’t have happiness with us,
and still we want to distribute it. But that is not the
only full stop in our life. Since we don’t have it, we
want to extract it from someone else. But he too
doesn’t have it. How can he give it to you? It is like
two beggars sitting in front of each other and
begging for happiness from the opposite person. And
since they won’t get that happiness, they feel that
they have been cheated by each other. Each one
feels like he does have the happiness with him, but
they don’t want to give it away. It may appear to you
that the other person has the happiness, but only
you are looking at the surface. In depth, he doesn’t
have it. Since he doesn’t have it, he cannot give it to
you. Try to understand, nobody cheated you. You
cheated yourself. Try to understand this happiness is
an unending spring. If it starts, it can never end
though you may distribute it on this earth. If you
won’t distribute it, it will dry out. If one has it, he
cannot resist himself, he will go on giving it out. But
in the world of these beggars, nobody has it. When a
man becomes a friend to another one, or marries a
girl, everything looks so beautiful. Happiness is
everywhere. We think that everyday it will grow and
become happiness forever. But as you walk the path

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of life, it becomes full of sorrow. Because everyone is

a beggar, and he feels like he’s going to get
happiness from his partner. His expectations cannot
be fulfilled, and they become a mirage. I’m all alone.
That’s why I’m feeling sorrowful. If I invite somebody
into my life, I will be happy. That’s what people think.
And they go for wedlock. It’s like one who cannot
sing a song and he is trying to use instruments to
help his songs. When you cannot sing, try to learn
how to sing. Instruments can never help you sing.
But everyone wants to go into the wedlock. He feels
that being with her he can be happy. But she is also
full of sorrow. She cannot give you any happiness.
With the same intention, she married you so she
could have some happiness from you. You both are
beggars. Some fools can never compromise with the
facts of nature. Oh, I couldn’t get happiness with this
wife, so I may try another one.

He goes on changing wives, and his troubles multiply.

As we have quoted in the front of the chapter, “It is
not well: Thou has reaped and thou must sow,” says
the book “Light on the Path,” anything can be divided
into two ways. One way is to search for it. The
second way is to distribute it. If one has attained
happiness, and he is not distributing it, it means he
has not attained it. Even the search of happiness is
another delusion of this world. Because attaining of
happiness is also self-centered and ego-centered. As
long as you search for happiness for yourself, you will
never attain it because there is ego-centeredness in
it. As long as you give importance to I-ness, the ego,
you will never be able to attain the absolute

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happiness, and you can never come out of your

sorrow. I-ness itself is sorrow. That is pain.

The second part of life, to distribute happiness in that

I-ness, can never exist. Because who are you to
distribute happiness? This is the work of nature,
when you become nature, how can you be an
individual? People think that they live because they
are breathing an incoming and outgoing breath.
Either you can stop inhaling or stop exhaling. It is a
natural phenomenon. Once you get the happiness,
you cannot restrain it, nor can you claim that you are
doing it. You will become a medium in the hands of
the nature. If you are unable to do it, know that you
never achieved it. How can you distribute it? A man
shrinks with sorrow. So many people fake sorrow to
be consoled, because it is not true sorrow. What they
really want is attention. But if you have true sorrow,
you would never allow anyone into your life to
console you because it would spread to them too. In
happiness only, can man or woman open up like a
lotus flower. Yes, this happiness brings fragrance to
this earth. Like a lamp they will be lit, and the light
from them spreads everywhere. Then, they will never
have any greed. The will be happy to distribute their
happiness to everybody. All the sorrowful people are
greedy. They possess things like money and they
embrace it. The psychiatrists say that a greedy fellow
cannot even take a long breath because the moment
he takes a lot of air in his lungs, he will have to
exhale it. But he doesn’t want to do it because he is
greedy. All these greedy fellows become constipated,
because they cannot shit. Because to them, shit is
the same color of gold; they don’t want to lose it. As

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per the mind, the body works. Once happiness enters

into you, you will be so open. For anything that is
asked by anybody, you will give it up. But don’t be
frightened by it. As it is a spring, you will be
distributing the happiness, and it will be coming up
again and again. It is like well water, if you won’t use
the water, it will stink. As you go on using it, it will be
fresh.

That’s why the book, “Light on the Path,” says, “As

you have taken the essence of your grains from
your field, then you are supposed to sow the
seeds again.”

It appears to be crazy, because you have to sow the

seeds, and reap the essence out of it. Whereas you
say, get the essence, then you sow the seeds. This is
the crazy world. Everything appears in the opposite
direction. First you take your breath in, then you
exhale. So first you are supposed to have the
happiness, then you can distribute it.

“Sow a thought, reap an act. Sow an act, reap

a habit. Sow a habit, reap a character. Sow a
character, reap a destiny. Sow a destiny, and
reap meditation.”

This wide space, great people like Krishna, Buddha,

Nikhileshwara, Paramahamsa Yogananda, and Shirdhi
Sai Baba have sown the seeds. Just enter into
meditation, and you can reap all that. Once you
attain it, then you can distribute it. Meditation is like
science, it is not a religion. It has nothing to do with
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any unseen God. Almighty, all-pervasive happiness

itself is the God. If you attain it, you’ll become the
God. It is said that everyone desires to be with a
person who does not have a desire. So this person
who does not have any desires won’t be using the
other person to fulfill anything. This person will fulfill
their own desires. And then you can fulfill your own
desires, rather than expecting that person to fulfill
yours. So attain that state, and you’ll be capable
enough to distribute happiness in this world.

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WHAT DO YOU WANT?

“Needs can be fulfilled, but desires cannot be. Desire is

a need gone mad,” says Osho.

Chang Tzu is one of the eminent philosophers who ever

existed in China. Once he was sitting near a river called Pu,
fishing. He heard a voice from his back saying that, “Oh
Chang Tzu, we have come all this way to you. And we are
sent by the Prince Chu. He wants you to be his prime
minister.” Chang Tzu never looked back.

He said, “I heard that there is a tortoise in the palace which

is wrapped in a golden cover, and I heard too that from 3000
years it has been worshipped from the king’s hierarchy. Is it
true?”

“Yes, it’s true,” they said, “The holy tortoise has been
worshipped by the kings from an unknown time.”

Then that same great man saw another tortoise which was
playing in the mud, and he asked those people, “Do you
think I should remain in the palace and be worshipped as a
dead man or should I enjoy my life like this reptile happily
playing in the mud?”

Then they replied, “For the tortoise, it is better that she

remains here in the mud.”

Then he said, “I’m not stupid, more stupid than a tortoise to

go to the palace. I’m happy.”

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What do you want? Total relaxation, mental peace,

happiness, tranquility? Or every second someone may pull
your chair and acquire a lot of gold, possessions, name and
fame? What do you want? It is your choice. I’m not going to
suggest anything for you. That life which is filled with
happiness, tranquility, mental peace and happiness may not
have gold, possessions or name and fame. If you want to
choose that, I’m nobody to hinder you. But you will never get
mental tranquility. As far as I am concerned, I want to have a
happy, tranquil life, nothing else. One who is grown in the
society will not have freedom. He cannot eat what he wants.
He cannot live in the way he really wants. He becomes the
social property. One who gives importance to name, fame
and riches has to live his life as per the society. And he will
lose his mental tranquility and happiness. It’s up to you to
decide what you want.

“Chell bullea chell othe chellyea jitte vasana sāre anne

nākoyi saday jāt pachāne thena koyi sānu manne,” says
Bullea.

Bullea says, “Please go to that place where you will not be

recognized as a great man, where no one will respect you or
worship you. Also, your caste or creed will not be asked of
you. You better go to that village where only blind people
exist.”

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That great man Bullea, who taught himself, and was born in
Punjab, India, did not want to be recognized. He wanted to
be a simple man. Those people who deeply meditate will
have some mesmerizing energies in their eyes. They will
have attraction, love, and compassion. The moment the
energy happens, people will be gathering around them.
Every second they will want to press their legs. They are
ready to give them anything they want. But it becomes a
problem, because they will be spending their yogic energies.
All of these energies will be exploited by the people.

There was a great man with his yogic energies who used to
cure so many diseases of the people. Whoever took the holy
water from his hands, not only were diseases cured, so
many mothers got children, so many virgins got husbands,
and so many jobless got jobs. And his name and fame was
spread all around. Once a man was pressing his feet, and he
found that a hair fell down from this great man’s head. He
kept that hair in a talisman and tied it to his neck. All his
problems were solved by that. His sick wife got up from the
deathbed and started walking. His fields started giving lots of
grains to him. He could marry his daughter off. He could get
a new business for his son. Then that man, one day, shared
his experience in front of thousands of people. Immediately
all those people jumped on the holy man and pulled off all
the hairs off his head, beard and moustache. Now you
decide for yourself. Do you want to be popular and lose all
your hair? Or do you want to be happy remaining exactly
where you are?

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In Russia, Karenski was the president of Russia prior to

Lenin. He was so famous and when Lenin became
president, nobody looked at him. No one knew where he
went. This is the way of the world. When you are in the
position with energies, everyone will want to exploit you.
Everyone will want to suck you. What do you want? Again
and again I ask you the same question. Do you want such a
life? Or do you want to hilariously dance, sing, and make
merry? It is said by one great man, man is no more
important than a coin. And man is more important than
wisdom. And truth is more important than wisdom. So where
are you going to give the importance? That is up to you.

WHY DO YOU WANT TO KNOW?

It is not at all of your concern.

“Great men discuss ideals; Average men

discuss events; And below average men
discuss personalities,” says Andre Maurios.

Sri Swami Tilak tells a story. One anthropologist,

economist and ecologist sat together and started a
discussion.

“If this population is going to grow in this way, we

won’t have any space to roam here and there,” said
the anthropologist.

The economist says, “We won’t get any food. Nothing

will be available to us.”

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The ecologist says, “If only we are alive, then these

problems will crop up. Because of this population, the
pollution will increase, and we will all die.”

Meantime, they heard a voice of a child. They went

to see him. He was the child of the economist. He
was sitting in front of a bush weeping.

They inquired, “Why are you weeping?”

He said, “I am observing this bush. It’s growing very

fast. If this growth continues, even stars will not have
any place. It’s going to grow so tall.” All the great
people started laughing at his stupidity.

When the child looked into their face, he asked, “Are

you laughing at my stupidity or at your stupidity?”

This is how people invite sorrow into their lives. You

don’t have to worry about anything. Nature is going
to take care of everything. People want to take the
responsibility of the entire creation. Unnecessarily
they think and invite sorrow into their life. If you want
to be happy, you don’t have to divert your vision
towards anybody in this society or the social aspects
or the social problems. Who has given you the
responsibility to take care of the entire creation?

Immediately people ask me when I say this, “Are you

not responsible for this society?”

I say, “I am.” If I can help this society, I am happy.

But I don’t want to be depressed towards it, if it
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worry about those things which are not in your

ability. There is happiness in simplicity. But people
are suffering of curiosity. You can observe the
children. They want to know everything. They
constantly ask questions. When you answer one
question, they don’t listen. They go to the next
question. When you answer that question, they’ll
think of the next question. They don’t want to listen
to the answers. They are happy asking questions.
They are not interested in the answers. The same
problem happens when they grow up, but it is more
complicated and cunning. “Hello, how are you?” one
asks. He doesn’t have any work to do. He just wants
to chat and pass the time. That’s why he asked this
question. He’s not at all interested in any answer.
People think more of the questions than the answers.
When you start thinking about the questions, you will
know the technique of questioning. Subtle sadism, it
is. Since they know the questioning technique, they
will go on asking questions to test the people.
They’re not at all interested in the answers. It
supports the ego, nourishes the ego, keeps it strong.
That’s what lawyers do. Constantly questioning one
person, they keep them in confusion. Then they want
to extract the answer which they want.

But that is not the way of extracting the truth, based

on what they think is truth. Truth is truth, but it
cannot be achieved easily. When they ask questions
to someone, and that person cannot answer it, and is
suffocated, then these people feel happy. Think, if
the same situation faces you, how do you feel?
Everyone wants to be a secret agent and plunder the
inner secrets of a particular person. What are you

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going to do? Become a blackmailer? Please, if you

want to be happy, divert your attention from others
and let it come to you. In the same way, look at your
inner personality and flaws of your inner heart. Come
out of your sorrow. When one person’s life becomes a
research lab, then he’ll be the guinea pig, not others.
He will analyze himself and attain happiness. If it is
only curiosity, your diversion will be towards others.
Then, there will be a big valley between your
knowledge, source of information and your way of
approach towards your life. I know so many
professors who give lectures about their subject.
They have the information, of medicine. But when
practically we ask them to practice medicine, they
cannot heal them for their good health nor relieve
their pain. But they can speak a lot about medicine.
Is it useful? Maybe those students taught by them
can be good doctors, but the professors can never be
good doctors. Because all their so called information
is not practical. A person who cannot practice all that
which he knows is useless. He may talk a lot about
love, but when he goes back to his house, he’ll
struggle with his family. He’ll scold his children or
beat them. Knowledge has to be imbibed. It has to be
practiced. Then it can give you the happiness, not
the information.

Somebody called me from a place called Warangal.

He wanted to know what happens to man after
death.

I asked him, “What should I do when I’m alive? Why

are you worried after life? What for do you want
this?” I asked him.

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He said, “I want to know my future lives.” I told him,

“Why don’t you live a good life, here, now. Why are
you worried about your future?” People ask so many
useless questions. Somebody else asked me, “In the
Hindu rituals, we break the coconuts. When we break
the coconut, shall we remove the extra pigtail from it
or can we offer it directly?” So many great men,
spiritual leaders, tell how to offer it in different ways.

I said, “The celestial beings will take the essence of

the food, not the food itself. Whether you offer it with
the pigtail or not, it will be accepted by them. And
finally you have to take the gross food. So why are
you worried? Offer it anyway you want, and enjoy it
as a work of your spiritual practice.”

So the stupid questions go on. If you want to be

happy, stop asking questions. Try to imbibe the truth.
Go deep into it. Curiosity is a big disease in human
beings. If you put a hole in a door and write on it,
don’t look through the hole, everyone will want to
look into the hole. Why do you want to look into the
secrets of others? Why do you want to know their
privacy? It’s a psychological disease, voyeurism.
They want to peep into other’s bathrooms and see
the naked truth of other people. Why? They want to
exploit them, molest them, maybe extract money
from them. Stop looking at others. Look into yourself.

I know so many Indian housewives who never work

and look only after the household aspects. But after
their men go away to work, they are free. They don’t
have any work so they gossip and talk nonsense

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about society and others. They waste their time. And

it contains a lot of negligence and irresponsibility,
trying to blame others to cover up their own flaws,
and spreading rumors all around in the society. It’s
good for nothing. Some people will believe anything
if it is whispered to them. So that is the problem of
the people. That’s where rumors spread. You have to
interact with the person, not listen to gossip. Gossip
may not be the truth. Rumors can be spread easily in
this world, but not the truth.

“People who want to cover up their own flaws

look for weak points in others,” says Heing
Caspers.

Yes, to cover their own flaws they look for other’s

weak points. How long are you going to live your life
like this? You can never be happy. Please find their
wonderful points, their greatness, not their flaws.
Okay, if you are a cynic, I won’t mind. You can look
into the flaws of others, but you also have to look
into yourself too. You can mock the entire society,
but you have to mock yourself too. You are not
different. You are not separate from the society.
There are those people who think they are great and
all others are useless. Psychiatrists say this is the
jaundice complex. They always direct their attention
on others. They will feel jealous of them when they
see that they are growing. And their ego cannot
accept it. They feel that they are great, and they can
never accept the greatness of others. And they want
to live in their own dreams. They always feel that
they are going to seize their capacities, their virtue.

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They feel helpless, angry and lethargic when they

look at others. It’s all in their mind.

George Elliott says, “Animals never ask questions

to other animals. They never criticize, they’re
happy.”

Why are you doing it? Because you are not an

animal. Why does your attention immediately go to
others? Why do you want to know about him? Is it
necessary for you? Can you solve your own
problems? When you can’t solve your own problems,
then why are you paying attention to the problems of
others? So, be careful. If you want to be happy,
always ask, why are you worried about the world?
Why are you worried about others? Is it a concern to
you? Are you the Lord Almighty to look after
everyone’s problems? When you come out of all this
network of your mind then only will you be able to
realize the absolute truth. When you start with these
questions, what for, for whom, and why, these
questions will cleanse you too because you’re always
supposed to put it onto yourselves. This is called
introspection, and once introspection starts, your
eyes will be diverted from other people and you will
reach your inner core. When you can analyze
yourself clearly, you cannot commit any mistakes
because you are aware and conscious. In this process
itself, you’ll get happiness.

I was giving a lecture and one man stood up and

asked, “If somebody’s drowning, do you say you’re
not supposed to pay attention to him?” By feeling
sorry for him, you’re not going to uplift him.

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I said, “When you say sorry, can he come out of the

water? Can he be saved? Then what is the use of you
saying sorry.”

If you can protect him, do it, if not, whether you feel

sorry for him or not, it makes no difference. But
without learning the art of saving a person, you will
also drown. You will never make him come out of the
water. Knowing how to swim is different, and knowing
how to save a person is an art. Unless you know how
to save someone, don’t fake as if you are a Guru and
try to save them. Guru is the life-saver. He’s full-
fledged and trained to save you. Without learning the
art, you can never save anybody. So, unless you get
the capacity to save somebody, you may have the
compassion, you may weep for them, but you will
never be able to uplift them. So until that time, be
happy. Though you may be in the medical field, you
cannot save the people who are suffering with
natural calamities. If you try to save them, you could
be killing more people. So unless you get the
capacity to save somebody else, say why should I?
Accept the truth.

In this process, I suggest a few things: never give

advice, never try to soothe somebody, never try to
preach to anybody, because all these suggestions
are like castor oil.

There is an English saying, “To give castor oil to

somebody is very easy, but consuming it is
very difficult.”

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It is said from unknown time not to tell an untruth.

From time unknown we know this, but we also know
that without telling untruths we cannot exist. So
nobody has followed it. It is said, from so many
generations that you are always supposed to tell the
truth. It has been given in hierarchy and has reached
down to us, but we know that it doesn’t always
happen. Everyone tries for an opportunity to preach
to somebody else. It is very easy to preach, but very
difficult to practice. Everyone tries for a chance to
give free suggestions to those with a sad face.
Immediately as soon as they see a sad face, they
rush to them and begin preaching. Personally he may
have difficulties, but it’s very easy for him to preach.
And there are more people who downplay other’s
problems saying that they had more problems in
their past (as if their problems are a measuring
gauge). They want to prove that they are the
ultimate source of everything. This is very typical of
the ego. Not only do these people want to boast
about their properties, money, and their comforts,
but they even want to expose their problems too.
And they say that they are the only one who faced it,
that’s why they are stronger than you.

“The most valuable of all talents is that of

never using two words when one will do,” says
Thomas Jefferson.

So never try to speak a lot. Thomas Jefferson says it’s

not necessary when one word is required to use
more, unless it is asked. Even if it is asked, if you
don’t know about the subject, don’t say anything.
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it if they do not deserve it. Sometimes it happens in

society. Some fools may be discussing things well
known to you, but you don’t have to involve in it
because you are not invited. Always question
yourself, is it necessary for you? And is it needed?
Why should you speak? Because giving advice is very
easy. Even those fools who don’t know how to clean
their nose, they too try to give advice. So, keeping
silent is a better way. Giving advice is very easy,
following it is difficult. Maybe the advice is bitter, but
if it really applies to you, it is good. Even if there are
good advisors, there is no one to listen. And one
more thing, never get involved in a wife and
husband’s quarrel, because you are none. You will be
blamed. Because they may fight for a while, but they
are one. They are half of each other. You should
never enter into their personal affairs.

If you want to be happy, I ask you, why do you

want to get involved?

BEYOND THE LOGIC

“If we were logical, the future would be bleak

indeed. But we are more than logical,” says
Jacques Cousteau.

When India was occupied by the British, they put the

railway tracks around the country. One train was on
its path. A peasant was in it, and he went through
seven tunnels in the hills. He said, “It seems that I
could have travelled on my horse or donkey. But in
seven days I’ve been through dawn and dusk, but
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perfect. He was only going through tunnels, not dawn

and dusk. His experience is the basic point on which
he speaks.

Life cannot be attained by logic. Logic is petty and

paltry. It can make you feel that you have understood
something, but it always eludes you. You will know
nothing. That which you can attain by experience,
can never be experienced by logic. Mathematics,
logic, everything, eludes you. But it cannot be
experienced truly in your life. A man can do work in
ten days, but if you put ten people to do it, it can be
done in one day. Logically, it can be done, but
practically, it cannot. They won’t do it. Like a mother
who has to produce a child and bear it in her womb
for nine months. Can nine mothers produce a child in
one month? In logic, it can be proven, but it goes
against nature. It is not possible. If you want to be
happy, you have to change your life as per nature’s
rules. But you cannot change nature’s rules as per
your expectations. As per those people who live in
logic, they will always be in sorrow. It is like sweets
which give you happiness. You may like it, but can
you live eating it every day, every moment, forever?
As per logic, you can, but as per the practical logic,
you cannot. After eating the sweets for sometime,
you will be vexed by it. You may even vomit it out.
Yes, logic may have given some solace to some
people, but is temporary. It cannot give permanent
happiness. If you think you can walk this life in logic,
you will be in sorrow. An atheist can give you logical
answers. One day you may like science, another day,
mathematics. The logic is like a prostitute, a player.
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someone else. You can believe in your wife who is

faithful to you. But logic is like a prostitute, always
remember that.

Once a mathematician was jailed for a small fault.

When he got out, his friends asked him how was jail
life. He said it was okay, but one corner of his room
wasn’t at 90 degrees, so he wasn’t happy. Those who
live in logic and mathematics, are away from nature,
they are away from the landscapes, animals,
humans, and natural world. For them, it becomes
language, logic, numbers, corners and sides. They
become the truth, not nature. If they try to come out
of it, they may not face true life.

A chemist may feel his wife as a bundle of chemistry.

A biologist may feel that his wife is a jumble of so
many basic natural substances. For a physician, one
may appear as a bundle of ailments, then how can
they love their wife? How can they show their love?
While looking at a bundle of chemistry or a bundle of
gross elements or calculations, can they be human?
Can they be happy?

One day a man went to a doctor to ask him to check

on his sick wife. The doctor knows that the disease
cannot be cured, so he refused to come. The man
still asked him to come and said, “If you cure her, it’s
ok. If you kill her, I won’t mind either, I’ll pay the bill.”
The doctor was happy. He gave her the treatment.
After one week, she died. And that fellow refused to
pay the doctor’s bill and the doctor sued him in
court.

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The lawyer asked the doctor, “Did he not tell you that
whether you cure her or kill her he will pay the bill?”

“Yes.”

“Did you kill her?”

“No.”

“Did you cure her?”

“No.”

“Then how can he pay it?”

With logic, anything can be proved, but it cannot be

truth. Life is poetry, not logic. That’s why in
mysticism, the seers of that cult say, life is
unknowable, but it can be experienced in the heart.
Science divides this nature in two ways. Till now we
have what we know, and what we don’t know. We
don’t know everything, but after some time we may
know. Today we may know, tomorrow we may not
know it. But science is so stupid that they cannot
ever know the absolute truth up to the end.

Mysticism always divided it into three parts,

unknown, known and knowable. Unknowable can be
experienced, but it cannot be known. Experience is
not knowing. Experience is imbibing into it. It is like
dissolving yourself as a river unto the ocean. Unless
you dissolve your ego, you will never know the truth.
In knowledge, gñata, the knower, and gñeya, the
knowable, never exist. They are two together.

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Mysticism rose from the Greek word, mysterion, a

secret ceremony. It is unknowable. In that cult, they
used to gather all knowledgeable people and
meditate, not talk. They used to dance and embrace
with no words, no logic, no language. It appears as
madness, but it is a fact that truth can only be known
in that way. They may be considered as mad, but it is
totally different from the normal world.

“Love alone is real. If love is not, all else is

useless,” says Pappa Ramdas.

STOP ASKING QUESTIONS

“Life is not a problem to be solved from

outside. The solution to life is only found by
living it,” says Osho.

If you want to be happy, stop asking questions. Why

can’t you accept this universe as it is? Why are you
asking questions? One great artist, Vincent Van
Gogh, created some art. Somebody asked him what
it was.

Van Gogh beat his head on the wall, “Why is this

question not asked to the flowers, birds, to anything
else in this nature? My art came from nature. Why do
they want an explanation for it? Why can’t they just
enjoy my art?”

If you are sad, then you can answer and say why
you’re sad. If someone asks if you’re happy, can you
tell them anything? It is impossible, because

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happiness is an inner spring. It flows naturally,

there’s no cause for it.

One great poet, Professor Coolridge, was asked what

was the meaning of a particular poem.

The professor laughed and said, “When I wrote it only

two people knew about it, now only one person
knows it. When I wrote it, only God Almighty and I
knew the meaning about it. Nature used me, and
then I knew the meaning of it. You have to ask nature
for the meaning. At the time of writing it, I was tuned
into nature. Now I am not.”

You can be happy without knowing anything. Why

should we know the meaning of everything? Do you
know the meaning of your father, mother, wife,
children, why they are the way they are? What do
you mean by love? What is lust, greed, passion? You
know only the words, not the meaning. You don’t
have to know. Unless one drowns up to the depth of
them, he can never understand it. By understanding
the meaning of the words, you will never understand
it. You have to imbibe it to understand it. Understand
it not only by your intellect. When you develop your
intellect you will get the knowledge, but knowledge is
not going to bring happiness. You have to know the
art of living in society. All our thoughts, feelings,
emotions, and karmic patterns are different.

But with love, happiness follows.

RIGHTEOUS THOUGHT AND PERFECT TALK

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“Be clear, the rest will follow,” says Napoleon.

Napoleon says that if you are clear about yourself,

everything follows. We are reasoning people. We
reason everything. Maybe in our dreams we reason
everything. But is it leading us towards the absolute
truth? Everyone thinks, even the greedy fellow who
is uneducated or educated, but I want you to think
properly. First we have to know what we want. Then
we will be able to proceed. If we really want
happiness, we are supposed to think properly. We are
supposed to talk properly. To talk we need language.
And language should be proper. Every sentence is to
be thoroughly prepared. As per the meaning, people
will proceed toward you. To talk properly, we need to
have proper thinking. Then language will certainly
cooperate with it. It is the conversation between the
people and your mind too. When we converse with
others, and if we cannot express our love towards
them, it means that we have the jealous ego factor.
We have to clear it off.

Once I gave yoga initiation to 120 people in a small

town. Yearly, they had a spiritual program for the
past twelve years. I spent two months there talking
to them. So many saints gave lectures during the
twelve years, but nobody initiated them into deep
meditation. Everyone thought it was supposed to
happen, because it is a spiritual program. Everyone
else who gave lectures was jealous of me. It means
that they were not thinking properly, they weren’t
going into the depth of their heart. Rather, they
started to prove that my initiation methods are
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and everyone blamed me that I initiated him into the

wrong path. It was not proper thinking. Attaching this
point to my meditation technique is terrible. This is
not the proper way of thinking or talking, but people
do it. I’m sorry about it. I wanted to test it
thoroughly, and he was tested by the doctors with
scanning. They found out that he had the problem in
his family for about 50 years. The scanning reports
showed that he had psychological paralysis (or
hysterial paralysis), not physical paralysis. In physical
paralysis, the lower half of the leg or arm becomes
paralyzed. In hysterial paralysis, the upper half of the
leg or arm becomes paralyzed. We can cure hysterial
paralysis with talk therapy, which is called as self-
forgiving. It will try to remove the guilt that was
fixated in his mind. Not only Indians have fixations,
everyone has them. In America, the number 13 is
considered a bad omen. In buildings, the 13th floor is
always skipped. Especially when the 13th day occurs
on a Friday, Americans will be shaken. Then, a book
and Hollywood movies came out based on this
superstition. So many accidents and negative things
happened on this day, but if you analyze it, the same
results could come out on any day. It’s only a
fixation, not properly thinking or properly analyzing.
See, people think in erroneous notions. One says that
it is true because Jesus said it. What is the proof of it?
The Bible is the proof. Is the Bible the proof, or is
Jesus the proof? It is said by Jesus, so it is proof. What
is the proof? Then they go back to the Bible, it is just
like beating around the bush. Muslims say
Mohammad is the proof and the Koran is the bible for
it. This is not proper thinking.

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In Alexandria, Greece, there was a big library. Kalip

Omar entered into the library with a torch in his
hand. He showed the Koran and said, “Is there
anything in this book that is not in this library? And if
everything is there in this book, what is the use of
this library? Because this is the final ordinance by the
God Almighty, so I want to burn it.” He started
burning the entire library. It took six months to burn
this big library. How stupid he was! Is this proper
thinking?

And another anecdote: In a monastery, they had a

rule that in the evening for one hour they will have
time for prayer. They can go into the garden and
meditate. One fellow was smoking a cigarette.
Another asked, “Have you asked for permission to
smoke from our teacher, Gurudev?”

“Yes, of course,” the first guy said.”

I asked him for permission and he didn’t give it to

me. How could he give you permission?” the second
guy said.

“How did you ask for permission?” first guy asked.”

“I asked for permission to smoke while I’m

meditating,” said the second guy.

“No, that’s not the right way to ask the question. I

asked, ‘While smoking, can I meditate?’ That’s the
proper way to ask for permission,” first guy said.

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So there is a proper way of thinking and talking. We

have to learn the art to live in this society with all
others. So many people say, “I don’t mean to say....”
When you don’t mean to say it, why has it popped
out of your mouth? Why don’t you have control of
your tongue? How do you expect to live with the
other people in society?

Take a look at disciples who remain close to their

Guru. Even they don’t know how to listen to their
Guru. They don’t listen, they don’t understand, they
still live in their own way, and let their ego take
control. What about the ordinary person in society?
How are they supposed to think and talk properly
with no real guidance? Without proper listening and
talking, this leads to conflict. And this is happening
worldwide. This is how relationships continuously fail.
Let us discuss further about how properly we can
think and act. One fellow gets up in the morning and
says, “Good morning, Sungod.”

Another fellow gets up and says, “Oh God, it is

morning already.” One is optimism, and the other is
pessimism. Talking is not only from the mouth. With
each limb we can express it. You can talk so sweetly
to someone, but they may get hurt because your
posture indicates that you don’t love them.

Once I spoke to a beggar who complained about

those who did charity to him. I told him that he was
supposed to be thankful to those who gave charity to
him.

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The beggar said, “When I am all alone, if I pester

them for hours together, then they give charity. If
they are in front of other people, they give it quickly.
Especially in front of women they want to show their
greatest charity. They are not giving heartily; if they
give with love I will be happy. That’s why I feel they
are shit.”

Finally, I say a few things; never feel another’s

duty as your right, another’s charity as your
quality, and another’s weakness as your
strength. This is the way of living happily.
That’s how you can express yourself to this
society.

BE SIMPLE

“Everyone is trying to accomplish something

big, not realizing that life is made up of simple
things,” says J.A. Clarill.

Our life is filled with simple things, but we never

recognize it and we want it to be big and great. And
we want to prove ourselves as something else. Don’t
be a fool, be simple, and you’ll attain it. It is a
fantasy of teenagers that they want to be great,
celestial beings, and enter into the film industry.
They think that they can achieve something and
prove themselves as great, as every teenager sees
themselves as a megastar. Those film actors say, “By
acting continuously we forgot our own selves and
have become fakes.”

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Dasari Narayana Rao, an actor/producer/director in

the Telugu film industry says, “We cannot eat our
own food, wear the clothes we like, or talk how we
like. Our entire life is a drama. It has become a film.
Maybe we are great to the society, but we know the
stupidity we live in.”

I am not telling you that simple living means living in

a cave or hut in a forest. I say, live in the truth, not in
the emotions and fantasies. Live in the love. Love
this society in which you are born. You don’t have to
have great ideals. Be a child. Live happily. It is like a
pure fog drop on a leaf. It is like a beautiful sunrise.
Never think of that which is not available now and
whether or not you’re ever going to attain it. You
have everything this second. The Lord Almighty
blessed you. Every American teenager wants to date
someone so that they can be happy. The fact is that
they can never remain together. All of this is
stupidity. Simplicity is the state of effortlessness. You
don’t have to strive for it. Be simple and you’ll attain
it. So many people renunciate themselves to be
worshipped, not for realization of truth. So many
people fake simplicity and surrender meekness to
attain name and fame, as if to say, “See how simple
we are. You should be like us.” So don’t fake it,
simplicity should be natural.

In every religion, it is suggested that you remain

celibate. In Hindu tradition, it has happened and they
have suppressed themselves. In Christian tradition,
they are supposed to follow celibacy during Easter
and Christmas. When the lust is suppressed, women
can become lesbians and men can become gays.

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This happens to lay people and renunciates, those

living lives as priests, monks and nuns. Lust is a need
not desire. There is a lot of difference between desire
and need. In Sanskrit there is a word, kāma, which
means desire, not lust. Maybe lust is a desire, but
really it is a basic need. It is a need when their
desires are not fulfilled. During the teenage and
youth years, it is a natural phenomenon. There is
nothing to blame, and it is not a sin. When we are
hungry or thirsty, we crave for food and drink; the
same thing happens with sex. When lust becomes
predominant, it becomes greed, and greed becomes
anger. The Bhagavad Gita, the Bible of Hindus, says
that lust, greed and anger are the doors for hell. It
has to be explained clearly that they are not the
doors for hell unless they are extended to the
maximum. I’m not stressing if heaven and hell really
exist or not. We can create the heaven and hell on
earth, which will be explained further. In this society,
all needs can be fulfilled, but not the desires. If men
or women crave for more partners, it becomes greed.
It becomes anger when they suppress it. Then it
becomes greed again. It becomes a vicious cycle,
and this becomes the hell. So it has to be balanced;
that is simplicity. When a man or woman craves for
many sexual partners, and if they fulfill that desire, it
creates anger in others, which leads to vengeance.
The same thing happens with money. If someone
hoards everything, then the rest will have nothing.
There is an imbalance unless they use it as media to
share it with the society. If one hoards everything,
then the entire society will lack it. When you try to
hoard something, it becomes a desire, and creates
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on it, it becomes an imbalance in the society. So

sharing wealth with someone in the name of society
does not mean you will attain the subtle lands with
that virtue. Heaven and hell exist here on the earth.
You are creating a balance in the society. And if
someone hoards everything, then someone else will
want to plunder it in anger. And when one starts with
the hoarding, the entire society will be disturbed.
That’s why the Bhagavad Gita says that lust, greed
and anger are the doors for hell, meaning you are
creating the hell on earth, not in some subtle realms.
Lust is the highest energy, and if you suppress it, in
some way it comes out as mental or physical
disease, or you may harm the society in some way.

Here are some anecdotes about heaven and hell.

A man went to hell, and he was brought to an air

conditioned room, and asked God, “Can I smoke here
in hell?”

“Yes, of course,” God said.

“And can I booze here too?” the man asked.

“Yes, why not?” God said.

“And can I eat pizza?” asked the man.

“All that you want, my man,” God said.

“This surely is heaven. How can this be hell?” the

man asked.

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“You can have all these things forever, but we’re

going to lock this door and you can never get out.
Welcome to hell.”

Also, you like pizza. I give you a slice. I give you

another slice, and another, and another. You are in
heaven. Then I go on giving you the whole pizza, and
another, and another, forcing you to eat. You are
totally stuffed, and ready to vomit. Now you are in
hell.

And like when you are in your lover’s embrace. It

feels like heaven, and you want to remain there
forever. You keep telling each other, “I love you.” But
he won’t let you go for hours together. You’re
suffocating and want to get out, but he won’t let you.
Now you are in hell.

A man was sitting under a wish-fulfilling tree in

heaven, and the tree asked the man what he wants.
He could have anything in the universe that he
wants. The man said, “Oh, this is heaven. I just want
a cot underneath you to lie in comfort, oh great wish-
fulfilling tree.” The tree sent him a cot with no
bottom. Then, the man asked for just one bottle of
champagne. The tree sent him a bottle with no
bottom. Then, the man asked for a beautiful woman
to enjoy. The tree sent him a beautiful woman with
no pussy. “Oh, this is hell,” the man said.

Again, a man was under the same wish-fulfilling tree

in heaven. He asked for a cot which he laid on, a
bottle of whiskey which he drank, some food which
he ate, and a beautiful woman whom he fucked.

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Then, for a moment, he had a thought what it would

be like if a lion came. Then, a lion came ate him and
made it hell.

There was a Communist who was in hell. He really

worked hard, cleaned up the place, and grew some
lush plants and nutritious vegetables. Some other
people asked him to confirm if this was hell, and he
said, “No, this is heaven.”

“How can this be heaven?” they asked.

“If you work hard, you can make heaven out of hell,”
the man said.

There are these so-called spiritual leaders who give

big lectures about going against lust, greed and
anger, but so many of them are hoarding so much
money. Due to this greed, when people prostrate at
these so-called spiritual leaders’ feet, their eyes will
be fixed on the women’s breasts and the men’s
wallets. So they lust over the women and their
husband’s money. And if they don’t give any money,
Guru dakshina (donation to the teacher), they get
angry at them, and stare at them with angry eyes. In
their dreams, they become rapists, killers, and
smugglers. And those who are rapists, killers and
smugglers in life become saints in their dreams.

Even in our spiritual family, the young girls to middle-

aged women lust over me, and the teenage boys to
the old men lust over Bhairavi. If we feel sorry for
them, and fulfill their sexual desires, they will crave it
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this go on? These people are supposed to be our

children, and what kind of spiritual person has sex
with their children, of any age? Middle aged women
stare at Bhairavi in anger and jealousy since she is
with me. Due to their suppressed ego they think they
too could also have me, like my young Bhairavi. Men
of all ages stare at her in lustful anger. The teenage
boys prostrate to her feet with the feeling of lust, as
the teenage girls do to me. They want to shake her
hands so they could have her lovely touch, as she is
a Westerner and different than them. This is also an
expression of lust, because they would never dare to
shake hands with any Indian woman.

During the time of the rishis, they were not celibate.

They had a wife to share their life with, and bless the
people with. Together they did all these things as we
do today. All this suppression which relates to lust,
greed and anger started with the Shankaracharya
cult in 7th century B.C. Prior to this great man, the
rishis said there are four stages of life. The first
stage, brahmacharya, the celibacy stage, begins at 6
or 7 years old of any creed, where a young boy gets
initiated into the holy thread and starts to follow the
spiritual path. The Gurukula, the home of the teacher
and his wife, the spiritual family, begins as the boys
accept the Guru and the Gurupatni, his wife, as their
parents. They are supposed to serve the Guru and
Gurupatni and stay for at least 12 years with them to
study and they treat them as their own children. All
creeds can belong to one Gurukula. At that time,
there was no caste system, as only Hindus existed in
India. The Guru, who knows everything and is the
master of all arts and subjects, teaches the boys

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according to their creed. He taught archery and

warfare to the princes, Vedas and ritual aspects to
the Brahmins, potmaking to the potmaker’s children,
etc. If the boy had an interest to learn beyond their
creed, the Guru would teach it. It was not a condition,
as per their creed. They were supposed to learn their
art, but they could learn everything if they wanted to.
Gruhasta ashrama, the household life, the second
stage, is the stage of social responsibility. In this
stage, they have control over their senses, won’t
disturb the society, can get married in their own
creed, and can have children. The kshetriyas, the
princes, the rulers, would handle legal, police and
judicial departments. The Brahmins were the spiritual
guides, priests, ministers, advisors to the kings, and
doctors. They also served the society and taught
spirituality. The vaishyas, the economists and
business men were merchants, and would supply all
food and supplies to the society. They also made
investments, and looked after the agriculture and the
cows. Shudrās are the servants of the society, the
potmakers, woodcarvers, goldsmiths, clothes
washers, maids, etc. The third stage is vanaprasta, in
the old age they turn their minds towards the forest,
meaning a stage of penance. Renunciate thoughts
begin in their mind, and they began a deeper stage
of penance. But they have not yet left their homes,
as they prepare for the full renunciate life. They then
they take the sannyāsa ashram, the final stage
where they leave the home. They are full renunciates
now. They remain in the forest and do their penance,
so society cannot be disturbed. All can be happy. This
was a perfect set-up prior to Shankaracharya’s time
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a boy who took renunciation at 7 years old, was

special, as he took samādhi, death, at 32 years old. It
was possible with him because he was a great man.
He promoted this path to the society, but the rest of
society was unable to handle it. They didn’t have the
control of their senses as Shankaracharya did.
Suppression of lust, greed, and passion in India
began, and perversions sprung out.

This same thing happened in Christianity too. Jesus

sacrificed himself at a young age of 33 for the
society. Then other cults such as the Roman Catholic
Church, which promoted celibacy, also came to be.
The same problems of suppressions and perversions
went to the western world as well. So in the name of
religion, the problems of lust, greed, and passion
evolved worldwide from the suppression of the
highest energy, and it diverted everyone from being
happy, which is where humankind is today. That’s
why we ask the humankind to be simple. That is why
spiritual paths ask for one man to be faithful to one
woman for the whole life, then society can be
balanced. When the lust, greed and anger are
suppressed, they become psychosomatic diseases.

Being a homeopathic doctor, I’ve seen patients that

had urine problems because the bladder opens, and
the muscles will no longer have the capacity to hold
urine. For diabetic patients, they don’t have urinary
control of their muscles. This was happening to
people even though they did not have diabetes.
When I asked the patient what he was doing, he said,
“I’m practicing celibacy.” These diseases are called
as allopsychosis. These people will always jump up

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on others for their own faults, because they have

suppressed their desires. They will blame someone
else for going to someone else’s wife for an illegal
connection, or will harass someone for drinking
alcohol, or nag someone for stealing other’s property.
They do this because they have suppressed these
desires inside that they themselves want to do.
Neither the perversion nor the suppression is
suggested in the Bhagavad Gita.

“Yuktā hāra vihārasya,” says the Bhagavad Gita.

It means everything should be balanced, may it be in

your diet, sexual life, anger, jealousy, everything.
Even if you’re not an angry individual, you should at
least fake it sometimes or people will take advantage
of you and plunder you. Krishna said to Arjuna that
that is being a yogi. And that yogic stithi means the
yogic way, simplicity. For the one who is that simple,
who is practicing yoga, and balancing everything in
his life, then the world becomes a creative university
for him. He can learn a lot because his body and
mind are in a good condition to absorb everything.

Once, I sent a woman to study the Buddhist method

of meditation called Vipassana. She asked me why I
was named Maitreya. She wanted to know if I was
the incarnation of Arimaitreya, Gautama the Buddha.
Arimaitreya is known in Buddhist scriptures as the
future incarnation of Buddha to come. I negated it
and said I didn’t want to be anyone’s incarnation. I
told her I wanted to remain as a simple man. The real
reason why she asked that question is that she
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Gautama the Buddha. That is the subtle ego in her

mind, and I didn’t want to pamper her.

I gave yogic initiations to so many people. When I

was initiated by my Guru, I never heard any sounds
in my inner heart, or never saw any visions in my
inner mind. But those who took initiation from me
claim to have seen visions and heard some sounds.
Of course, in yoga, there are some explanations
about listening to the inner sounds and seeing
visions when the pranic energy crosses all the seven
chakras, the energetic wheels. But I told them that it
usually requires years of penance to achieve these,
rather than right at initiation. It means that they are
faking in competition, saying I got this vision, I heard
this sound, just to show each other up. So many
suppressed women say that Krishna had good sex
with them, and Roman Catholic nuns say that Jesus
Christ had a good fuck with them. This is a disease
known as spectrophilia, where people fake and say
that these divine beings come in their dreams and
have sex with them. It is really their suppressions
that allow these dreams to happen because their
desires aren’t fulfilled. It can be caused by
schizophrenia, another mental disease, where people
say they are possessed by these divine beings. They
move and twitch about saying that they are Lord
Buddha, Jesus and Krishna, but it’s all a show of their
suppressions. So be simple, be real, be honest, there
is nothing to hide, as secrets don’t exist. When living
in truth, there are no secrets, except that this life is
beautiful as it is.

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In old Indian tradition, so many people walk on fire

and pierce swords and needles into their bodies. In
the 13th century, people called flagelentes used to
burn their own bodies in the name of religion.
Followers of Lord Vishnu, led by Ramanuja, still
continue this Indian tradition called as flagellation.
They brand their skin with the marks of a conch and
a wheel, the marks of Vishnu. Now we talk about the
psychic disease called as photism. Those who have
this disease will see lots of colors in their
meditations, and when it is included with sounds, it is
called as synesthesia. If I could have believed in all
these experiences by my disciples that I initiated,
then I could have by now declared myself as the
incarnation of Lord Buddha to save this society. This
is called as paranoia. I didn’t have any diseases
coming out as visions and sounds. That’s why I never
claimed it.

“He who never makes a mistake can never

make a discovery,” said by a great scientist.

So all great discoveries are made by mistakes only.

“Truth emerges more readily from error than

from confusion,” said by Francis Bacon.

So we don’t have to put any conditions to suppress

them. Let the people commit their mistakes and
learn from their mistakes. But this is not a license for
you to be perverted or suppressed.

Bill Brandley said, “Becoming number one is

easier than remaining number one.”

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Once you start faking, once it becomes a habit of

remaining on the top, you can never come out of that
fixation. Then you can never become a simple man
or woman. To keep that status, you have to keep
telling lies and fake a lot. You don’t have to do it.
That’s why I say finally, if you want to be happy, be
simple. When you live for the society, for humankind,
your life will be beautiful. When you never suppress
anything and never pervert anything, then your mind
becomes peaceful, then you can enter all of this
humanhood.

When all of this ends, then spirituality begins.

YES, THIS TOO WILL PASS AWAY

“Life never dies because it goes on changing;

So remember this: This Too Will Pass,” says
Osho.

There was a king with a big dynasty, and in his court

he kept the most knowledgeable people and the
greatest warriors. But finally, he was vexed and was
going through mental agony which he could not
express. He was bored, and asked what all the
nonsense was going on.

He asked his scholars if he could have something

which could give him happiness. He thought, “And
when I’m bored with it, will it give sorrow to me? I
want a ring on my finger which gives all these
miracles.”

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All these scholars and great people sat and discussed

it. Finally they made a ring, and gave it to him. They
said that, “It can be opened. It has a door in it.
Suggestions will be there, don’t open it until it’s very
necessary. Then only will it work. There is a mantra
inside, when the happiness or sorrow goes to the
maximum extent, open it and it will certainly help
you.” He wore the ring and forgot about it.

Meanwhile, another powerful king attacked this

king’s dynasty, killed some of his soldiers, and
occupied his lands. He had to escape. He got on his
horse, and his enemies chased him. He remembered
the ring, but thought, “I might have lost my dynasty
and everything. I may be running way, but it is not
the extreme end for my sorrow. I can go back and
gather more soldiers and attack them back. So it is
not yet the time for me to open this ring.” The
soldiers kept on chasing him. There was an archer
who wanted to shoot his arrows at the king. He
thought that this was the extremity, but meantime
that archer fell off of his horse and died. The king ran
further away upon the horse, and finally his horse
died with exhaustion, frothing from the mouth. The
king found a hill and started running onto the hilltop.
His enemies did not follow him on their horses to the
top of the hill. When the king reached the top of the
hill, he saw a big valley behind it. He could not
escape but he thought, “No, this is not the extreme
end of my sorrow.” He found a tree root, hung onto it,
went into the valley, and hid in a small cave. This
time all of his enemies came. He listened for them,
and heard the stones falling from his footsteps. Now

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his sorrow was at the maximum extent. He thought

he was going to die.

He opened the ring and saw the mantra that said,

“This too will pass away.” The king had peace in his
mind, when he opened the ring and saw the words
that this too will pass away. He relaxed and all his
enemies went away. Slowly he crawled to the top of
the hill and reached a village to take rest. He ate
well, gathered his soldiers, attacked his enemies, and
attained his dynasty back. He was a good king, so all
the people were happy. The king took a royal bath.
He drank good wine and ate well. He sat on his
throne. Dancers danced. Musicians played. Singers
sang. And everywhere hilarious chants went off,
“Hail, hail the great king! Hail!” Now the happiness
went to the extreme. He opened the ring again, saw
this too will pass away, and was relaxed.

Happiness, sorrow, lust, greed, and anger, all these

are excitements. They are not permanent. They will
pass away. One who knows about this can remain in
happiness ever. Actually we can bear with sorrow,
not with pleasure. When pleasure goes to the
maximum extent, it is intolerable. Those who suffer
in sorrow can live long, but not those who have lots
of pleasures. They will be diseased, and that
excitement literally makes your blood vessels burst
in diseases like heart attack or paralysis. I have
never seen a person who died in sorrow. But I have
seen so many people dying in the excitement of
pleasure. You should be able to master all of these
emotions. Emotions can never make you reach the
absolute reality, that which is happiness. All these

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emotional problems harm us first, then the society.

That’s why the rishis of yore say to control them,
never to suppress them and never be perverted.
Anytime anything goes to the extreme end,
remember this mahāmantra as, “Even this too will
pass away.” Be the master of your mind. Be alert. Be
conscious of your emotions, thoughts, and feelings.
Actually, your consciousness always speaks to you.
You should be alert and aware to receive it. If you
cannot, it is because you are in your emotions,
thoughts, and feelings. Remember that they are on
the upper surface on the ocean of your mind. There
are no ripples in the depths of the ocean. That is your
heart.

Finally what I wanted to say is, the social

circumstances or your emotions, feelings, and
thoughts, nothing is permanent. Even this too will
pass away. One day you won’t have to worry about it.

Be stable and happiness is yours.

ACCEPT THE OLDER GENERATION

“When you want to love this universe, it means

you are ready to receive your own life.”

You may have learned about the share market or the

stock market. When you invest shares in various
companies and you get profits out of it, you’ll be
calculating in which share market you should invest
in next. When you get the profit in a particular
company, you’ll want to shift it to another company
where you can get more profits. Life is not a

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business, but it goes on in the life of the human. If

you won’t change this way of living, you can never
be happy. To understand this, I’ll give you an
anecdote. A child’s father died at a very young age,
and his mother worked hard to bring him up. For her,
he is everything. When he became 25 years old, she
asked him to get married to a woman.

He said, “Mom, we may not tune together and we’ll

have trouble. She could be a wall in between you and
me.”

“Don’t worry,” she said, “I want you to be happy, and

it’s a right age for you to get married.”

Finally, she forced him and he got married. Now, his

investments shifted from his mom’s company to his
wife’s company. He started calling on his wife,
instead of his mother, for everything. His insecurities
moved from his mother’s account to his wife’s
account. His mother started feeling that his son
doesn’t love her anymore since he now has a wife.
Since another person came into his life, he has to
love her too. From where is he going to get the love?
From his love treasure box. When he started sharing
his love, his mother got jealous, and started having
sleepless nights. As mother and son, they used to
sleep together and she used to gaze at him while he
slept. Now she feels insecure because he’s not
available to her for the first time in 25 years. She
also feels guilty that she encouraged the marriage,
and regrets getting involved. She becomes paranoid,
and acts as if she has a heart attack to disturb their
privacy, because she wants attention. Now the

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couple has a child, a son. As a father, he has to

invest in that child’s love treasure box. Now the love
has to be shared, and the grandmother becomes
jealous of the child. The grandmother of the child
becomes more paranoid because all the love is not
available to her now.

Who is responsible for all that happens? Who is to

blame? If one is to be blamed, it is the grandmother,
because she forced this whole situation. All of the
problems started with the expectations. Life is not a
business. If you believe, since I love you, you’re
supposed to love me in this particular way, you will
suffer, just like the grandmother. If a parent tells a
child, become a dentist because they are dentist and
want their child to take over the family business,
they are saying, “Your happiness lies with my
expectations of wanting you to become a dentist.”
The child will never be who they can really be, and
they will never be happy. They will not live up to their
full potential, may resent their parents, and become
a problem to society.

River flows downward from the mountain. The

natural flow of the hierarchy goes downward. But if
they think that they can reverse the flow upward,
then they are mistaken. This is certainly unnatural.
Let’s go back to that family. The new parents had
another child, and again the father has to reinvest
his love. He seizes it from his mother and it gets
placed in the new child’s account. He had to take
some of the investments in his mother’s company,
move it to his wife’s company, and the older child’s
company, and then into the newer child’s company.

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The grandmother feels totally deprived in her own

company. While the son has two young children, the
grandmother feels like her life has gone to the dogs.
She feels like she’s been thrown into the backyard,
and being tossed some food. She hires a maid to look
after her. The maid is not looking after her with love,
because it is her duty to look after the grandmother.
The maid curses the grandmother while she serves
her. Now her son has no time to talk to his mother
due to his added responsibilities. And one dark day,
she died. Why has it happened? Whose responsibility
is it? Why is there so much jealousy and self-
suppression? All these questions may rise. Accept it
as society’s truth at present. This man is considered
as selfish. We can see it everywhere in society. Why
do we have so many expectations? Without them,
can we not live? Yes, we can. The old woman is the
real cause for it. There’s no one else to blame. It is
the duty of the higher generation to serve the lower
generation, not the lower ones to serve the upper
ones. If at all someone is serving like that, they can
be considered as angels descended on the earth. The
son who serves his mother on her deathbed can be
considered a celestial being. Selfishness is normal in
this society at this time. Of course he’s selfish, that’s
why he looks down towards his lower generation.
He’ll expect his children to take care of him. But his
vision cannot go up for the higher generation, and
the same thing will happen to his children too. The
old woman passed on her selfishness to her son, and
her son will pass on this selfishness to his children,
as this is the situation he’s been raised in. It is a
natural phenomenon going on in present day society
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say, “I’ve spent so much money on him, educated

him, served him, and gave him all the clothes and
comforts. What is it that I’ve got in return? What has
he given to me?” They think that when they serve
their kids, they’re so much more responsible than so
many other people. But still, who will get the result?
If the parents see their child who has become self
sufficient, great, and popular, they should get the
pleasure of it. But they can never get this feeling if
this is the way of living. If they won’t do it, they will
have the sorrow.

Here’s some direct advice. If you really accept them,

you should know the truth that your children are not
going to look after you. So save something for your
old age. Old couple, please never expect any money
from your child because you are here to give.
Otherwise, you’ll create stress in your mind and body.
I’m sorry, you may have a heart attack too. If you
keep your body and mind free of expectations from
your children, even in your old age, you can be
strong. So don’t expect to take any services from
others. Senior citizen’s lives will be horrible in Europe
compared to any other Asian country. In Asian
countries, still the families are together as big,
combined families. One or the other will be taking
care of the old people. For example, in my family we
are four brothers. Three of us are useless, but at
least there is one brother there to look after our
mother. Neither old age is the problem, nor the social
circumstance, just your mental capacity to receive
them as they are. Listen to the standards of society
to be happy.

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During 1984 in France, there were 200,000 senior

citizens who wanted to commit suicide because they
were depressed of their life. To boost their spirits, one
establishment was set up called “Little Brothers.”
Members were children older than ten years, and
they would be trained to handle the old people and
bring them out of their depression. These children
would go to these senior citizens, play with them,
talk with them, and exchange their ideas. Then these
seniors started to feel one with their family. And
these younger ones would learn how to love the
senior citizens. When you are in lethargy, especially
in your old age, this psychological phenomenon
occurs. So I say, forget your lethargy and work. At
night, take good rest. Even the atmosphere in India is
changing as so many senior centers are sprung out.
Is the love of the Indian hearts going away? Oh well,
these are present day truths. We will have trouble
when we try to change them; we will be in sorrow
when we think about them. All we can do is accept
them as they are so that we can be happy.

A French person named Rawlshiz had a normal

household life, fulfilled all his responsibilities and he
learned 200 languages. He translated so many books
from one language to another. When he retired from
his duties, he said, “Now I’ll have time to write and
read. To the end, I will be doing this work.”

“They hear his faintest whisper above earth’s

loudest song. They see his slightest signal
across the heads of the throng.”

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“Be happy. It is a way of being wise,” says

Stephen Koachi.

Be strong in your mind. Never give up. Then in your

meditation, you’ll be able to listen to the divine
words. You can see those people who are in trouble.
You can give them the solace. Grow. Be happy. It is a
way of being wise.

“I think I can only be happy with the animals.

In their eyes, there is tranquility. In their
posture, there is confidence. They are never
depressed. The entire night they won’t be
waking up and asking me stupid questions
about God, sky rides, and bullshit. They don’t
have any satisfaction, and they never prostrate
at each other. They never care where they
came from. I prefer to live with the animals
than with the human kind,” says Maitreya.

NEVER STOP

“To grow and walk further to reach your goal,

is the dharma, the absolute reality of nature.
So don’t ever stop, it goes on and on,” says the
Vedas.

We’ll hear from these people that this old age is a

curse. “I could have died in my young age. It has
made my life a hell.” These people did not do any
exercise or yoga. They sat in a corner, so all their
limbs are rusted.

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“His feet will be strong, he who will be walking

always,” says Aitreya Brahmana, from the Vedic
yore.

All the senior citizens will be filled with experience. If

they stop it’s not only sorrow for them, its sorrowful
for the entire society. The next generation will lack
the proper guidance from them. We need the senior
citizens to guide us. It is true that in old age, our
memory power and emergency response decreases.
The energy to take a decision also will be in a
dilapidated condition. We’ll forget everything. But
when we look back in history, all of these false
aspects are not true.

Do you know the so-called philosopher Socrates

established his school of philosophy at age 70? He
propagated it for 10 years, and was killed by poison
at age 81. The king asked this rebel to either give up
his philosophy or his life. The king kept in one vessel
a beautiful lotus flower, and in the other glass vessel
was the poison. Socrates took the poison and happily
died knowing that he completed his mission. Do you
still think that this old age is a curse? Socrates knew
that he was going to die and never see the sunrise
again. It was ordained by the king. His disciples were
shedding tears all night long in his prison cell. But
Socrates did not have any stress, and he played with
the lotus. Somewhere he heard someone singing a
song. Socrates called over the jailer, and he told him
he wanted to learn the song.

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The jailer himself was his disciple, and said, “Till

morning you’re not going to live here anymore. Why
do you want to learn it?”

Socrates said, “My boy, we know that death is upon

us. We know that tomorrow, we can die. I am alive
now.” What is the proof? Every second, one who
learns it from the nature, is alive. Then the entire
night he learned that song. In the morning, he drank
the poison and he died.

Cicero, at the age of 63, produced his greatest book

“Treatise on Old Age.” Chiro, at the age of 80,
learned the Greek language. The poet, Gote,
completed his greatest work, at 103, entitled “Fast”.
Albert Einstein found his theory of relativity and
Samuel Morse invented the telegraph in their old
age, and still they lived further and continued their
research. George Bernard Shaw and Mahatma Tolstoy
(the title given by Gandhi, the Father of the Nation,
the India), continued their writings till their old age.
Happily they wrote till their death, and we can find
more work in their old age rather than their young
age. Victor Hugo continued his writing till his
deathbed. Tennison completed his greatest work,
“Crossing the War,” in his old age. Robert Browning,
at age 70, completed, “Revelry and Epilogue to
Islandau,” two beautiful poems composed at his
deathbed. H.G. Whales, the greatest writer of all
time, completed more than a dozen of his greatest
works in his old age.

Sri AC Bhakti Vedanta Prapupada Swami, was born

on September 1, 1896. On September, 13, 1965, at

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age 65, he went to America and established ISKCON

(International Society for Krishna Consciousness).
Untill his death on September 14, 1977, at 81, for 12
years he worked continuously day and night. He
produced 216 Krishna mandirs, uncountable
subcenters and vegetarian dining halls, taught
Gurukula, and he established so many associations.
The Russians also offered him some land to open up
an ashram in the Communist way of living. In these
12 years, he produced at least 50 books, and millions
of copies of them are sent around the world. In some
universities, they became textbooks. In Russia, his
books were translated in 23 languages. In English
only, up to 1988, 43,450,000 copies were sold, and
55,314,000 were printed. Before he died in
Vrindavan, he wrote his famous book, “Bhagavad
Gitam, As It Is.” For that book, he needed some
paper, and 76 bogies filled the entire train with
paper. So this is the power of the old man. Do you
still say that this is a curse?

Mahadev Govinda Rānadev, a language professor, a

great man, purchased a paper in a Bengali language.
Immediately, his wife asked, “You don’t know
Bengali.”

He said, “I’ll be on the train for two days, do you

think that I cannot learn Bengali in two days?” Then
he placed his entire concentration on the Bengali
newspaper. He checked the pronounciation and the
script, and as they reached Pune, he could translate
the whole paper to his wife. Do you know what his
age was? He was 60 at that time.

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Not only men, even women in their old age gave so

many gifts to this universe. Mary Samara Huille, at
age 82, founded some equipment for atomic energy.
Mrs. Lucreria, at the age of 80, worked hard to uplift
the lives of the woman and for world peace. So my
dear man or woman, in your old age, forget yourself,
do some social work, and show your capacities
towards society. Never remain idle. lf you can feel the
entire world that you forgot since you got old, forget
all that. When you’re vacant and not doing anything
you’ll be depressed. You’ll feel deprived of this
universe that abandoned you. You’ll invite disease
onto your mind and body. You’ll age fast and be
bedridden. Create some work for the society and the
mind will not have depression or stress. With your
dynamic thinking, you’ll feel confident in the hearts
of those who are depressed. As long as you can boost
the energies of others, you can always be happy
because you won’t have any time to feel depressed.
You should feel totally satisfied in your mind. Be alert
on your work. This is the secret key to the kingdom of
happiness.

You should have the treasure of happiness to

be able to distribute it to the masses.

How to be Happy in the Old Age

1. Old age is a state in everyone’s life. Please

welcome it and accept it.

2. Daily you have to take the minimum

vitamins and proteined food. It is said by Swami
Chinmayananda, “If I rest, I rust.” So do some
exercise or jogging. Or stroll. Make it a regular habit.
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And proper rest is also required. In this old age, then

only can you be healthy, happy, and blissful.

3. Don’t be idle in the old age. You must

engage yourself in some work or other. If you can
create interest in others also, it will be good. If you sit
idle, your mind becomes a devil’s workshop.

4. Be intelligent in your youth. Try to save

something for your old age. Because in that old,
dilapidated situation, you may not be able to work.
5. Take care of all your properties that they
reach the hands of your proper descendents.

6. Never try to find a fault, find a remedy. Have

compassion and friendship with everyone.

7. Never try to criticize the younger

generations. Try to understand them. They are totally
different from your time of existence.

8. If you are with your family, your children

and grandchildren, try to help them with the
household work. Help the children with their
schoolwork, play with them, clean them, and give
them a bath. When your son and daughter go to
work, and the children go to school, try to settle the
house right.

9. Never try to control anybody. That gives you

enmity and your body is not in a position to fight with
them. Try to speak to everyone with love, so they can
also respond to you in the same way.

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10. Disease is natural in the old age. Make

arrangements for the medicine and proper servants
Respect them, and love them so they can cooperate
with you.

11. Don’t worry about the ill health in the old

age. It is natural.

12. Brood over all those past experiences which

were very good in your life.
13. Never worry about the future, because you
have no future. You are going to die.

14. Good or bad will be decided by the social

standards. Try to adjust with them.

15. Have faith in some religion, faith, and

spirituality. Self-confidence will keep you in good
mental and physical health in the old age.

Research Center of Senior Citizens,

Sri Venkateshwara University, Tirupati,
Andhra Pradesh, India

BE YOURSELF

“Be yourself. No one will say you’re doing it

wrong,” by The Season of the Witch.

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There once was a saint who used to live at the edge

of the village and used to dwell in absolute reality,
the absolute happiness. So many people used to visit
him and talk to him, to solve their problems. But he
made them wait hours together. There was one man
that came with lots of family and marital problems,
and he made him sit until the evening. Then the man
asked him, “What is the cause of your peace? How
did you come out of your sorrow? Can I attain the
same status?”

The saint laughed at him and said, “This so-called

peace and happiness, if you want to attain it, then
give up the ego that you have to do anything. The
struggle to attain itself is the hindrance in the
attainment of happiness.”

That man was very sad and said, “I’m sorry sir, I
couldn’t understand what you said. But that absolute
peace in your face, I’m jealous of it.”

The saint laughed and said, “I know what the cause

of your sorrow is. And in time I will tell you.” Many
people came and prostrated at that great man’s feet.
The sun set, and the hordes of people slowly ended
in darkness. It was totally dark, and the sadhu and
that man were in that particular hut. The saint
excited and called him out of the hut, so he followed
him. It was a full moon, so all landscaping could be
seen clearly.

The saint asked him, “Can you see it?” as he pointed

to a tree.

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“Can you see it?” he asked as he pointed to a bush.

My dear man, the saint continued, “this is the cause
of their happiness. This big tree never thinks or feels
sorrowful about not becoming a small bush. And this
small bush does not feel bad that it won’t become
this big tree. Everyone has their own qualities. We
don’t have to compare. Our comparison itself is the
cause for the sorrow. When you look at the people,
those who are financially or politically leading you,
you’ll feel jealous of them. When you look at the
people who’re striving to make their bread and
butter, you’ll get the ego. When you mimic
somebody, you will either lose your own personality”.

“Unless we follow such great people as Swami

Vivekananda, how can we grow? Because they are
the inspiration”, one man asked me.

Then I said, “At present, we are discussing about

happiness, not about success. Your question will be
answered in ‘How to be Successful’. And to let you
know, it is not possible to reveal all of it in one book”.

“The worst of times often create the best

opportunities (to earn),” says Donald Trump.

MY FOUR RUPEES

“He who loves most spends most; He who

hoards much loses much,” says Tao.

In a small town of India, a seven year old boy was

sitting at a bus stop weeping. Of course, in all local
buses, a conductor will be there. He wanted to go to

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a place called Koti in Hyderabad, but lost the ten

rupees he had.

“Don’t worry, my bus will cross there and go further,”

the conductor said. So he gave the boy a ticket for
six rupees, and he still wept. He asked, “What’s your
problem?”

The boy said, “With the extra four rupees I had, I

could have used it for some chocolate or some toys.
But I don’t have it, so I’m sorrowful.”

A child never hoards. 60-70% of our problems will

come from greed. It’s all about what we lack. That
unsatisfied heart can never have happiness.

Once I went to Chennai as a guest of a

multibillionaire. I was giving lectures and I saw his
sorrowful face. He told me that he lost 400,000
Rupees in his business. His wife was serving me
lunch. I was talking to her and said, “I’m sorry that
your husband lost 400,000 Rupees.”

She laughed and said, “Swamiji, don’t believe his

words. He lives in a separate world. He didn’t incur
any loss.” “Why would he say this to me?” I asked.

She was trying to control her laughter like anything.

“My dear sir,” she said, “He’s crazy. He thinks that
this year he’s going to incur 100,000 Rupees profit.
When he heard he lost 500,000 rupees, then it felt
like it was a loss for him.”

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Love is everything in this life. If you lack love, then

there enters the greed. There are those who incur
and hoard money, bank balances, name and fame,
for their own benefit. If one gets all that, then they
feel secure, they think they won’t have the fear of
the future. People think they have only one life, and
if they get in an accident, their money will protect
them. Only those who fear tomorrow will hoard
money. For those in love, this one day is enough. In
their language, no tomorrow exists. Once someone
has a sorrowful presence, only they can think of
happiness in the future. Even the slightest bit of
happiness he receives now propels him immediately
to the future. In happy moments, neither you
remember the past, nor think about the future. In
happiness, time ends. In sorrow, time extends. Every
second equals an hour. Such poor people will be
waiting for the sun to rise so that we may end our
sorrows. All of their feelings, thoughts, and emotions
are for the future. If today is not proper, how do you
expect tomorrow to be beautiful? That’s why today
they want a house and a bank balance. Acquiring
anything cannot get you out of your fixations.
Because of the present sorrowfulness, we become
greedy and worry about our future.

This is how this life is linked with this story of four

rupees. Do you want to acquire the love or live
happily? Final advice, that which belongs to the
present time, is the motto. Then only can you acquire
it. But think, there should be no problem to the
society from your desires. If everyone in your society
can be happy with your thoughts, emotions, and
feelings, then only have you attained your goal.

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YOUR BEAUTIFUL PROBLEMS

“Old troubles are always better, at least you

are well acquainted with them.”

One gentleman was going through so many

problems. In Hindu philosophy, it’s called,
ashtakashtāha, 8-folded probems: ill health, the
nagging wife says he doesn’t give anything to her
parents and brothers, the elder daughter came to
deliver a baby in his house and all the dowry which
was offered to him was not paid, in a 2-wheeler
accident his child broke his leg, his younger son
broke his treasure box, took all the money and went
to the film business in Madras, his business partners
are showing him wrong accounts, and they are
hoarding money from the business. Finally, the shop
owner he hired sent him a court notice to vacate it.
Oh that poor old man, he couldn’t handle the
problems. He wanted to go to a monastery and
happily meditate there. He went to a monastery, and
asked for the ochre robes. “Unless you get
permission from your wife, we’re not giving them to
you. That’s the tradition,” the monks said.

The man didn’t know what to do. He found a tree and

sat there. And a crow shit on his head. Then he
wanted to go to the village, but scary dogs chased
him. He wanted to commit suicide as he was vexed
from his life. The man wanted to be stable in his
plans. He thought that one way or another he wanted
to be saved, “Better if I commit suicide.” He got the
necessary items, a rope to hang himself and some

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kerosene oil. He poured it on himself, lit himself, and

tied himself to a branch on the river. He jumped,
thinking either he will jump to his death, hang, or
burn to death. And he had a pistol that he fired on
the rope and let himself go. He fell on a branch into
the water and made it. Because no one really wants
to commit suicide. Only through depression we think
this way, but nobody really wants to do it because
they love this body. Finally, this gentleman really
wanted to commit suicide. He gathered a lot of wood.
He wanted to lie on the wood and light himself.

The village people came and said, “If you want to

die, we have no objection. But go outside the village
or to the next village, because the stinking smell of
your burning body will make us vomit.”

Then, this so-called gentlemen went far away from

this village and sat under a tree giving bad words to
the God Almighty in 1000 different names. He said to
God, “Oh God, you don’t have common sense. You go
on giving unlimited problems. Do you think we are
donkeys to carry the karmic patters? And you go on
sending us the fresh ones.” God said, “Not only you,
everyone thinks the same thing, that I’m only giving
trouble to him only, to the maximum extent. Bring all
your sins to the end of this village where there is a
temple, where you can keep all the bundles of your
sins.”

The man was very happy. He took his bundle of sins

on his head and walked towards the temple. He saw
so many others carrying their packet. Whenever he
looked at those carrying smaller packets he looked

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happy, and when he saw that his bundle was bigger

than some, he was sad. Finally they all reached the
temple. Everyone kept their bundle of sins in the
middle of the temple, and our gentlemen started
thinking, “Okay. I may only require a smaller packet
when he calls for three. But I don’t know what kind of
troubles are there in it. It will be all new for me. I
have got a nagging wife who knows that in the
kicking wife bundle, she’ll be there. All of my son-in-
laws wanted to extract money from me. Every time
they play a new game. But after so many years I
came to know the strategies they applied upon me to
extract the money. But in this new bundle, if I acquire
new son-in-laws, it will take me a lot of time to
understand them. Of course, at present my business
is going into loss due to my partner’s cunningness or
lack of sincerity. And this is not new to me. In a new
package, I may get a well-furnished and well-running
business. But if I don’t know the technical aspects of
it, I will lose everything.”

Our acquainted sorrows are better than our

unacquainted sorrows. God started counting one,
two, and three. When he pronounced three, our
gentleman jumped on his own bundle. No one fought
with him, as they all wanted their own bundle. A
voice came out during dinner, “You people were
complaining about your sorrows. When you had a
chance you couldn’t change your bundles”.

They all wanted to leave the temple and stampeded

out.

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“Oh, all this is a dream,” our gentleman said. “Let me

go back. I have the answer. Let me face the trouble
I’m supposed to face.” If a mother gives birth to a
child who has epilepsy, does she want to get rid of
him and get a new child? It’s absurd. It never
happens, because every mother loves her child. So, if
you want to be happy, accept your problems,
consider them beautiful because you are acquainted
with them and can solve them easily, today or
tomorrow. Finally, learn that divine lesson in all that
happens to you.

DON’T BE IN WILD DREAMS

Once I saw a book named “Think and Grow Rich,” by

Napoleon Hill. In his book, he describes that you
don’t have to do any work. Just close your eyes, and
feel that a Rolls-Royce is parked in your driveway. Of
course you will get the car if you are totally faithful to
your thoughts. This is the misunderstanding of the
truth. You become what you think, but not, what you
think, you become. Your personality is full of your
thoughts, your I-ness, your control over your limbs,
and your intelligent way of living in this society. As
per the thinking, movement happens in the body.
And you will get the result. It’s a natural
phenomenon. But just sitting there closing your eyes
thinking you will get cars and lots of money, you
cannot reach anywhere.

One of the American publishers was ready to print

Hill’s book. Even prior to sending this book out, so
many advertisements went on. So many people
eagerly waited for this book. Because who doesn’t

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want this? This is the weakness of the human, and

these people are cheaters taking advantage of them.

On the first inauguration of his book, Napoleon Hill,

the writer, was sitting in a book shop signing his
autograph on the first 100 copies. Meanwhile, Henry
Ford, the maker of the Ford car arrived at the book
shop. With a question on his face, he asked the
shopkeeper about the new book.

“The writer is there, if you want to talk to him, you

can,” the shopkeeper said. Ford entered and stood in
front of Hill and looked at him from top to bottom.

Then he inquired, “This book which you are attesting,

is it written by you?” “Sir, yes, it’s a very useful book,
take it,” Hill said.

“Sir, how did you come to this shop, by city bus,

hired a car, or do you have your own car?” Ford
asked.

Hill asked, “What is my connection with how I came

to arrive here with this book?”

Then Ford gave him his visiting card and said, “I am

the famous producer of the Ford car, but I never got
any of this by only thinking. With sweat and toil, I
worked hard in my life. Of course, thinking is
necessary. But not applying it to any work becomes
void. I will certainly take your book when you come
to me by your own car. And you’re not supposed to
purchase the car, nor are you supposed to purchase

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the car by the money you earn from this book. I want
you to earn your car just by thinking about it.”

Strong will, regularity in the work, and sincerity in the

work will certainly make you reach the hilltop.
Basically it requires thinking, but not only thinking
will make you attain all these points.

Some teenage students came to me, and said,

“Swamiji, I want to be in Indian Administrative
Services.” These are the difficult examinations that
people take to become aristocrats and administrators
of the state and national government. For the third
time, a boy failed the tenth grade to be eligible to
take these tests. The moment he takes the book into
his hand, he goes into deep slumber.

These children and their parents asked me if there

was any mantra or any tantra that they can do. No
such thing exists. Of course, even if it does exist,
without the strives and struggles of the human
being, it cannot be activated.

I said, “My dear boy, there is a gulf in between your

thinking and applying it practically. That which you
can’t see right in front of your eyes, the tenth grade,
you can’t reach. To be in IAS, you must compete with
highly intelligent people. For that, you have to
sharpen your brain by learning the art of awareness
and alertness”.

The dreams which are good, are dreams. Those

which are not pleasant, are nightmares. One who
dwells in nightmares, will be useless. Everywhere he

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will meet difficulty, and he will not overcome them.

So to be happy, live in the facts of the life.

In Christian countries, a movement started where

every Sunday after the prayers, the members will
gather and tell each other their desires and
problems. The others will console them, and tell
them that it’s all in their imagination, that no
problem exists. This is the strong way of creating the
will. It gives them a boost, but facts cannot be
denied.

One day a female member asked a child, “What

happened? One of our members is your father, but
he hasn’t attended the meetings for the past two
Sundays.”

The boy said, “My dad is sick. That’s why he didn’t

come.”

“That’s nonsense,” the female said, “He’s not sick.

By telling himself so, and this self-hypnotism, he has
become sick.”

And next Sunday, when she saw the boy, she asked
again, “Where is your dad? Is he sick?”

“The problem has gotten more complicated. He

thought in the beginning that he was sick, now he
started to believe that he died. He couldn’t open his
eyes. We couldn’t wait for him to wake up, so we
buried him just now.”

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There is a lot of distance between your imagination

and your facts of life. In actual life, society will be
asking for your qualifications for any of your desires
to be fulfilled. But what about those who don’t have
the qualifications? How are they going to get their
desires fulfilled? Those who dwell in wild dreams,
when they face society, they become a big failure. A
boy may not be able to qualify for 10th grade after
four or five times failing the test. Instead of going to
class, he goes to the cinema. He dreams that one
day these big corporation owners like Tata will see
him, marry him to one of their daughters, and he will
also be a multi-billionaire. I know a boy who
somehow dragged his studies up to the fifth class
and didn’t know the alphabet of his mother tongue.
His voice stammers, he works as a helper to a
mechanic, eat all the food in his home, and spend all
his money for films, cigarettes and CDs. He does
nothing and thinks he’ll marry Aishwarya Rai, the
Miss Universe who is the now the famous Indian
actress. Those with wild dreams and no qualifications
in this world, will certainly drown themselves in
sorrow.

Friedrich Nietzche used to serve Wagner as his

disciple learning music from him. In those days,
Wagner was considered to be a magician in music.
Just as in Hindu epics when Lord Krishna used to start
playing his flute, so many people, even animals used
to gather around him for his music. His wife was a
beauty in herself. Actually, she fell in love with him
only because of his music. This fellow Friedrich, who
came to get some knowledge from him, fell in love
with Wagner’s wife. Friedrich didn’t have Wagner’s

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handsomeness nor his heart of music; actually he is

an ugly man. Wagner’s wife laughed at him.

“You must be a fool, even if Lord Almighty comes and

tries to compete with Wagner, I’ll choose him. I never
thought God himself could be more handsome than
him, more beautiful than him. Whenever I listen to
his music, I go to some subtle worlds. His music is
the reason that I married him. Sometimes I wonder if
I deserve to be his wife. Who would choose you, who
cannot compare at all with him?”

Once Friedrich was negated by Wagner’s wife, his

ego was hurt. He became a female chauvinist, and
starting hating the entire womanhood. He negated all
that indicates femininity. He started taking
vengeance on the entire womanhood. He started
saying that compassion, charity, love, non-violence,
amicability, and surrender, all this is useless. These
are what the cowards use to hide their weaknesses.
All this is propagated by Gautama the Buddha. So he
started hating Buddha himself. He started writing
that, due to Gautama the Buddha, the Indians
became cowards, lost their dynasty, and started
doing slavery. He started saying that all these so-
called renunciates are more useless than the slaves.
So it’s better to be aggressive, be ready for the war,
and attain what you want.

Those people who have weaknesses, and who cannot

attain that which they crave, when it has becomes
totally impossible for them, then they will be hurt like
tigers, and become maneaters. Since Friedrich
doesn’t have the bodily strength to become a soldier,

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nor any creativity to be a great artist, all his

drawbacks and faults led toward the entire society.
He’s become the center of attraction for more
congenital idiots. The first one among them is
George Bernard Shaw, he’s also an ugly personality,
very egoistic, a great poet and writer, and a great
critic. If he didn’t have the ego, the whole world
would have respected him equal to William
Shakespeare.

A woman named Annie Besant came from England to

India and joined the Freedom Fighting Congress
party. Shaw proposed her, and she said she had
better work to do than to get married to a man. That
beautiful woman had physical beauty and a strong
heart too. The Indian Congress Party fighting for
freedom from the Britishers chose Besant, a Britisher
herself, to lead that party. See how dynamic she was;
she founded The Theosophical Society and wanted to
give the world a teacher who is perfect in all the
aspects. She found this Brahmin boy and adopted
him, because he had the potential to be a messiah.
That was Jiddu Krishnamurti, who refused to become
the star of the east. She was developing, but Shaw
was jealous of her. He tried to grow, but started
criticizing everyone to cover his own inferiority
complex.

As egoistic as he was, but his poetry was wonderful.

And finally, Nobel gave him a prize. Shaw gave a
press statement, but refused the prize. When he
refused such a great honor and so much money, it
became big news around the world. From every
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press used to come to interview him in various ways.

For 10-12 days, this was the big news being
discussed. Finally, Shaw said that he’s going to give
the money to a charitable trust where it can be used
for the good of society, and that also became big
news. All the media covered the event while he
received the check. His honorary function went on
beautifully, and again for 5 days, he became the
news. They found out that Shaw himself owned the
charitable trust.

When they asked him about it, he said “When one

day it comes out in the paper, the next day nobody
remembers. Without spending a dime, looking out for
ourselves, we need some sort of advertisement. This
is the way of becoming famous.” Friedrich and Shaw,
both were unsuccessful and they could not overcome
their weaknesses. They both wanted to take the
same vengeance to this society, and this world.

Such another personality is Adolf Hitler. First, he was

driven away from his school of architecture, and fine
arts schools would never take him. Only one who
could free-hand a circle 180 degrees could be
considered an artist. But his unstable mind prevented
him from drawing a straight line. So, he joined the
German military and then the 1st World War came.
He was so lazy that when he had to go into the
warfront, he would complain from back or neck pain
to get out of it, until they finally kicked him out. He
didn’t have a job, so he gathered a group of 18
soldiers who were abandoned, fired, or driven away.
Hitler started brainwashing them in the National
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are the Nordics. We are the ancient and very pure

race. We are here to rule the world, that’s why we
are so fair in color, tall, and handsome. This is why
everyone else wants to look like us.” Actually, Hitler
himself is considered ugly and short. A German army
was created by him. In the Bible, Jews are said to be
the ancient race sent by God. So Hitler’s eye was on
the Jews and he started to kill them, suffocating them
in the gas chambers. Now Hitler had the power in his
hand. He designed some buildings that were ignored
by the Germans, but he was in control. As ugly as
they were, had to be built. At the time of the fall of
the Berlin wall, all of them were destroyed. He was
asked, “Why do you use gas chambers?”

Hitler said, “I don’t want to waste one bullet.” He was

cruel, considered as paranoia in psychology. One
under this disease feels they came to this earth to
rule it. If they feel someone superseding him, they
will immediately kill them. He slept alone; he didn’t
even sleep with his own wife. It was discovered that
Hitler got the disease of paranoia from a prostitute.
He had a virus that eats a portion of their brain and
causes it to malfunction.

They can’t live in the truth, so they keep on living in

their dreams. If you go on living in dreams, neither
can you be happy, nor can you go on living in this
society. Accept this life as it is, as a gift from the
Almighty Lord. Work hard sincerely, and don’t ever
worry about what is not possible with you. It is not
your fault. But please be simple, Superman is the
fantasy for the inferiors. Those inferior people can

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only imagine about Superman. Man is required here,

not Superman.

“Be simple and happiness will be yours. He

who kisses the joy as it flies lives in eternity’s
sunrise.”

I CANNOT UNDERSTAND

The ancient Sanskrit text says that the Rig Veda

syllables will marry those who are alert and aware.
And the Sāmā Veda mantras also reach near him. It
means that to those who are alert and aware, all
knowledge reaches them. Scholarship and study
doesn’t mean one can go into the meaning of the
scriptures. What you do does not matter, but what
matters is if you do it with alertness and awareness.
Life is a chance, and if you can make use of it
properly, that means you know the art of living.

All animals are programmed, except the human

beings. Man is utterly free, as nature never gives any
reasoning or intelligence to animals or plants. When
food comes in front of them, they eat. When nature
propels them, only in particular seasons will they
mate. Nature takes care of them. Like those dogs
which live in the Himalayas, they will have lots of hair
on their body. Those dogs that live in tropical
countries don’t have much hair. Carnivores like tigers
and lions have long teeth to tear upon the animal
flesh. But the vegetarian animals don’t have any

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fangs. This is nature’s benevolent way to sort itself

out.

As for humans, we were given reasoning. Man has to

make proper use of this reasoning. A dog can meet
his brother or sister and have a family with them, but
it is impossible for a human being to produce healthy
children with their brothers or sisters as they will be
born crippled. When nature has given you the
reasoning, you should apply it to every second of
your life, and be very much aware and alert.

The King Dhrutarāstra, father of 101 children, could

not sleep one night because he was facing his
greatest war. He got impatient and couldn’t control
his children because he knew they are not on the
righteous path. When he called Vidura, his younger
son, to him, his four other brothers came. Sanaka,
Sanandana, Sanatkumāra and Sanatkujāta, they are
known as the four rishis, the four ancient seers.
Dhrutarāstra wanted to clarify some of his spiritual
doubts, and he asked them, “What is death? How do
you definite it?”

“Lethargy itself is the death,” the four rishis said.

To understand this in-depth, I will give you some

examples. You come out of your house, take your
keys, and lock the door and go. But after taking a few
steps, you doubt if you locked the door. You go back
and check. In the same way, sometimes we put our
spectacles away, don’t remember where we put
them, and go on searching for it. People say they
don’t have good memories, but when they have total

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concentration, it happens. Why? At the time of work,

you are unable to concentrate. While brushing teeth,
you’ll be thinking of going to the toilet, when going to
the toilet, you’ll be thinking of going to work, when
you’re going to work, you’ll be thinking of coming
home, and when you’re at work, you think about
going home. It means that your mind and body are
not together, as the mind is roaming around so
much. When the body and mind are not together,
then we say a part is missing in you. So how can we
call you a complete human? If you are not a
complete human being, you cannot obtain the
absolute reality, which is complete. Imagine a heavily
flowing river on a rocky land. Fungus formed on the
rocks, and you’re supposed to take a holy dip in it.
Your blood may clot from the coldness of the
Himalayan peaks. You must be careful of slipping on
the fungus on the rocks, and be aware of the heavy
current. With alertness, awareness and
consciousness, you will step. This is the way of living
for the yogis. It doesn’t mean you have to know any
āsanas or pranayāmas to live as a yogi. We all get
chances in this life.

At 10 o’clock at night, a hungry man went to a hotel,

named Beauty and the Beast. When he knocked on
the door, an ugly woman with messy hair and
crooked teeth yelled at him, and asked “What are
you doing here? What do you want?”

“I’m hungry,” the man said.

“So the beggars are also knocking on the door late

night demanding food!” the angry woman said. She

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refused him and slammed the door shut. Again there

was a knock, she answered, saw the same man
standing in front of her, and she got angrier.

“I’m sorry, I want to talk to Beauty now, not the

Beast,” the man said. Everyone gets chances in life,
and when we lose it we blame others. Because of
your own unawareness, you are drowning yourself in
sorrow.

One woman came to me one day, “Swamiji, when

somebody insults me or calls me a bad word,
sometimes I don’t understand it right away. Later on,
if I think about it I can understand it. If I knew on the
spot I could have taught them a good lesson.” So I
told her a story that happened during the time of
Buddha in India. This preacher’s propagation was
spreading everywhere in two different cults. One
belongs to Hīnayāna, a small boat where he alone
can cross the tormenting ocean of this life. And the
other is Mahāyāna, a big ship which can take himself
and many people. Monasteries were established and
called as Buddha Ārāma, where you can rest. Since
their methods of spiritual practice are different,
scholars go from one ārāma to the other to argue
scriptures. One day Hīnayānamata Bikshu, a saint,
came out for an evening stroll. Meantime,
Mahāyānamata Bikshu also came out and asked, “Oh
my brother, where are you going?”

Hīnayānamata Bikshu said, “Wherever my legs take

me.”

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Mahāyānamata Bikshu didn’t know what that meant

and asked his Guru. His Guru told him he could have
asked the other saint what he meant. He didn’t
remember to ask what that meant at the time, but
next time he would be prepared.

The next day came and Mahāyānamata Bikshu

asked, “Oh my brother, where are you going?”

Hīnayānamata Bikshu said, “Wherever my wind takes

me.” He didn’t know how to answer back to that
response, because he prepared himself for the
answer, ‘wherever my legs take me.’ When the saint
came back home, his Guru asked what happened and
he told him.

“You fool,” the Guru said.

On the third day, the brothers met again with, “Oh

my brother, where are you going?”

This awareness and alertness can be attained by just

anyone, but spontaneity cannot be attained easily.
You may be a great penant, but without awareness
and alertness you cannot attain the absolute truth. I
know a few people who forget to zip their fly, and
talk about superhuman energies. I know those people
who have a lot of dirt in their eyes and on their face,
and talk about flying, entering into fire, and other
superhuman energies. They are ignorant and use ‘I
don’t know’ as a sentence to escape from
responsibilities. The sentence indicates egolessness.
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they may talk about great things, they forget the

simple things.

“A man of No-Mind is a man with presence of

mind; And a man of mind, a man with memory
is a man who is absent.”

One who is a meditator, one who lost time in his

meditation, for him, no time exists. When the mind is
working for him, then only will he know the time. So
all is present time for him, neither he has past nor
any future. One whose mind is working will fear his
past experiences, will brood over and decide his
beautiful future. That means he’s never available in
his present space and time. When he’s not available
in present time, and always living in past and future,
then can you call him a living being? That’s why
Sanaka, Sanandana, Sanatkumāra, and Sanatsujāta,
the four brothers created from Brahma’s mind, said,
“Lethargy itself is the death.”

“Inner calmness helps us to make the right

decisions.”

There is a saying in yoga, when you keep your legs

warm, your belly soft, and your head cool, then no
disease can reach you. And if a doctor wants to
approach you with some advice, grab a baseball bat.
So for all the insults which you are facing, and all
these cunning talks which you cannot understand, it
means you are not meditating enough.

Be cautious, be alert and you will understand

everything.

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PROBLEMS OF THE WOMAN

First God created Adam. Then he looked at him and

said, “I think I could do better if I tried again.” So he
created Eve.

There are so many problems that woman has. I don’t

have time nor place to discuss them all, but know
this: all men’s problems are linked with women, and
all women’s problems are linked with men. That’s
why there’s a saying in the Indian dialect Telugu:

“It’s better to be born as a tree in the forest,

than to be born as a woman (in India).”

Practically speaking, when looking around there are

more problems surrounding the woman than the
man. And I still haven’t seen one case of a woman
dying of a heart attack. Women have greater
receiving power, and bodily and mental resistance to
withstand any odds. Whereas men lack it. That is
why women can progress faster in spirituality than
men. All the social problems can be solved easily
because a man thinks as a man, and a woman thinks
as a woman. They cannot go into the outfit of their
partners, but if a man knows what a woman knows
completely, he is in her body, mind and heart. And if
a woman knows his personality and character, they
can live together happily.

What is the difference between a man and a woman?

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Man and Woman

1. About an inert object or sentient being, if

one wanted to know, certainly she must be a she,
because man doesn’t have any interest to know
anything in-depth.
2. Woman’s mind is full of imaginations, but
man’s mind is more practical.
3. Woman cannot understand the mental
status of a man, but a man can easily understand a
woman’s heart.
4. It is a woman who shows interest in new
things or abnormal things, but man always want to
go into the routine.
5. Men are always eager to purchase the new
technological instruments, but woman will not have
such interest on such gadgets.
6. When men and women go to the market,
men always decide prior to the purchase what to
purchase and what not to purchase, and they always
go by the list. When women go shopping, the old list
may escape from the new list.
7. Women always give importance to the
security, men never care about it.
8. To do our work or other’s work, women will
have more confidence in themselves. Men will not
have that much.
9. Men think that having their own car and so
many properties are status indications. By that, they
think they will be respected. But the woman always
looks to their husband as their status symbol.

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“Tears: the hydraulic force by which masculine

will power is defeated by feminine water,” says
the Reader’s Digest.

KNOWLEDGE OR IGNORANCE

“The mind is like the stomach, it is not how

much you put into it that counts, but how much
it digests,” says Albert Jay Nock.

The mind is like a stomach, how much you put into it

is not as important as what you digest. That should
be known as the knowledge or the digested essence.
Bhahavadīn Naksband, was a great Sufi Fakir, an
Islamic saint and scholar. Khalīl Ashraf Jāda, came to
him one day and said, “I went to so many places, and
served so many Gurus, and studied various paths to
make us reach the absolute goal. Of all this
knowledge I gathered from these Gurus, I learned a
lot. Please give me initiation and allow me to be your
disciple. May I drink the nectar from your stream of
knowledge and quench my thirst. In that way, may I
learn tarîka, (in Urdu, it is called) the mystic way.”
Bhahavadīn didn’t answer him. He just indicated that
it was time for lunch, and they went. They sat
together, and biryani, rice and mutton, was served.
Bhahavadīn was making Khalīl eat one plate of food
after the other, until finally the vegetable salad was
forced on him. Khalīl was yelling from the belly pain,
but Bhahavadīn forced him to the maximum extent.
In the beginning, Bhahavadīn forced him to eat, and
he was happy. When his belly started to get full, even
in fear of Bhahavadīn, he still ate. With his belly in
pain, he started rolling on the ground. Finally

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Bhahavadīn said, “Khalīl, when you came to me, your

intellect was filled with totally indigested knowledge.
Now you are suffering with indigested food in your
belly! When your intellectual instrument is
overloaded and you cannot digest that knowledge,
you will become sick.”

That is spiritual sickness, where one eats, the

undigested knowledge piles up in his mind, and
lifelong he suffers from indigestion of the knowledge.
Then afterwards, in the presence of Bhahavadvn,
Khalīl gave up his so-called knowledge and digested
all that which is necessary for one to live happily,
and became a great Sufi Fakir.

Some people say ignorance is bliss. Ignorance gives

the strength, knowledge gives the weakness. But
some people say, without knowledge, this human
being is an animal, and knowledge is the way to
absolute reality. Even for those who live in worldly
ways, without common sense they will get cheated
over and over again. And there and those who don’t
understand anything and go on giving trouble to
others. In such countries like India, with slums, you
will meet them. One mother-in-law tried to drive her
daughter-in-law away from the house for not
producing boys. In the egg of the mother, the XX
chromosome is there. In the sperm of the father is
the XY chromosome. If a man’s sperm contains X
chromosome and if that sperm mingles with the egg
of a woman, a female child will be born. But if a
man’s sperm contains Y chromosome and when that
sperm mingles with the egg, a male child will be
born. The sex of the child depends on the man’s

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sperm. Then why does that mother-in-law want to

drive away the daughter-in-law? Is this not
ignorance?

“Wisdom is much grief; and he that increaseth

knowledge, increaseth sorrow.”

We cannot say that for some people knowledge gives

sorrow, and for others, ignorance gives sorrow. If we
know a few things in this world, we can be happy. But
it’s also true that if we know a few things, we can
never be happy. Science has been developed and it
has brought us more comforts and a luxurious life.
But when science development went to the side of
destruction, it brought out atomic energy. Slowly, this
energy is pushing this planet to the Third World War.
Now can you say that science has brought us
happiness? It has certainly brought us comforts, not
happiness. This is the problem of the stupid human
being, not the problems of the animals. This mess is
created by the human. When we apply the human
ways to the animals, then you can understand.

One small rabbit was playing in the grass. A fox

came, and the rabbit was so small that the fox never
saw him before. The rabbit asked the fox, “Who are
you?”

“I’m called as fox, and if I want I can eat you,” fox

said.

“Do you have an identity card or driver’s license with

you? If not, I won’t believe you,” rabbit said.

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So the fox went to the king to get a certificate signed

by him to say he was an authentic fox. He started
reading out his certificate in a wonderful language
and beautiful voice to the rabbit, all about the fox
and all his glory. So over and over he read the same
certificate. After 3-4 lines, the rabbit realized that he
was the one who could eat him, so he ran away. The
fox was very sad, and she went to the cave of the
lion. One deer was talking to the lion. The same
stupid question came, the deer asked the lion, “Do
you have a identify card or driver’s license to prove
it?”

The lion yawned and said, “If I’m not hungry, you or
me, we don’t have to search for any certificate. But if
I’m hungry, I don’t need any papers, because I am
going to eat you.”

The deer ran away to the king and asked, “Is this
what you wrote?”

He showed the certificate to the rabbit and the rabbit

asked, “Why didn’t you tell me all this?” King said, “I
thought you were going to show it to the human
beings so I wrote it. The animals learned all this from
the stupid human being. They have become crazy.”

Finally, neither knowledge nor ignorance can give us

the bliss. As long as we live on this planet,
circumstances, pain, agony, food, comfort, air, water,
whatever we receive from this earth, we have to
learn the message of the universe. Immediately,
please apply it to your life. If you’ve gathered some
useless knowledge, give it up. Reject all that which is

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useless. Don’t be ignorant and get cheated by the

society. Try to find a balance between knowledge and
ignorance. Life is like a tight-rope walk.

Strive hard, struggle hard,and happiness is

yours.

PLEASE DON’T TRY TO DO ANYTHING

PERFECTLY

“He who never makes a mistake never made a

discovery,” says Bill Brandley.

A man went to a pet shop, asked for 67 mice, 23

bandicoots, 17 reptiles, and 136 cockroaches. “Do
you have them?”

“I have four or five white rats, but not for taming.

One multi-billionaire who is cracked out has a python
as his pet. For that, I brought these rats. Why don’t
you get a puppy or a small cat for a pet?” the pet
shop owner said.

That man was irritated, “I don’t want any pets. My

landlord asked me to vacate his home in 10 days,
and it should exactly as it was rented to me two
years back.” When the tenant moved in, all of these
vermin where there. He wanted to return the house
back exactly as it was when he rented it two years
ago.

I worked for sometime as a quality controller in Jayco

Industries, a company that produces wristwatches
and clocks.

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I had a personal interview with the chairman of the

company one day. I asked him what made him
successful in his field.

He said, “I work hard. That’s the main point. If I face

100 problems in one day, I think and take decisions
how it can be solved 100%. But, if I think properly I
can take only 10 decisions daily, and 90 will remain
as they are. But if I react immediately, 10 problems
will boomerang, and 90 problems can be solved. If I
am fast and furious, I can complete 90% of my work.
If I try to perfect everything, I can only do 10% of the
work. That is the secret of my success.”

Those people who wanted to be perfect in their life

go through vast knowledge, information, but they
lose that which is very necessary for the life. Like the
professor in psychology may be perfect in his
subject, but when he comes home he fights with his
wife and beats his children. Is this the perfect way of
living? One who thinks “I should make everything
perfect,” leads to neurosis. Neurosis means the
psychological fixations enters the nervous system,
and then a nervous breakdown happen. Such people
can become psychos and wash their house and
hands 24 hours a day, a cleanliness maniac, and
both will never be clean enough to them.

I know an accountant who used to go to his work one

hour prior to his scheduled duty and leave one hour
later. He’s sincere about his work, but it is a dream
world. He talks to his accounts and does numerology
in his dreams. If he doesn’t have any work, he’ll bring

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out his old books and further calculate. This is called

as arithmomania, and it is a type of compulsive
neurosis. For such people, this world disappears. In
its place, their fantasy world comes out. Depending
on this neurosis itself, some cartoon books such as
Alice in Wonderland came out. In that character’s life,
storks and playing cards, cups, cakes, cats,
everything, is alive and talking. So my dear man,
never try to do anything perfectly. Please do as per
your capacity, because perfection is impossible in
this universe. Don’t make it a psychological disease.

“It’s foolish to expect perfection; it doesn’t

exist.”

YOU CARRY YOUR WEIGHT

“Blame not anyone else for their suffering if

thou wish to be happy.”

If you really want to be happy, never blame anyone

saying they are the cause for the sorrow in you. You
have to take your own responsibility, and then only
can you attain the happiness. When you blame
somebody, saying that because of them you have
sorrow, you are throwing all of the responsibility onto
their head. If he can be the cause of your sorrow,
then why can’t he be the cause of your happiness?
Because no single person in this universe is the
cause of anyone’s sorrow. From every human being,
you’ll receive good and bad, happiness and sorrow.
You should know the art of extracting happiness from
him. Still if you’re not able to see any good in others,
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others, it means that you have given your freedom

onto his hand, and he holds your remote control.
When he wants to make you happy, he’ll press a
button. When he wants to make you sad, he’ll press
another button. Are you not a competent, sentient
being? Why do you always say he is the cause for my
sorrow? Don’t be a slave. Be a proud owner of your
own personality. When you go to these astrologers,
gypsy fortune tellers, or those tarot card readers with
your problem all they say in the beginning is:
everyone is happy. There is a subtle ego here, saying
that people are coming to them, resorting to using
them.

See, 8 year old Jerry went to school and asked his

teacher, “Miss, if we do good deeds, will we be
punished for it?”

“No, my dear boy, it will never happen,” she said, all

good deeds will be honored.

“If someone can’t do some work and we help them to

do it, is it not a good deed?” Jerry asked.

“Yes, of course,” the teacher said.

“Then, when I did it, why did my mom beat me?”

asked Jerry.

“What good deed did you do?” she asked.

“My younger brother wanted something from the

table and I gave it to him. He started weeping.

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Mother never praised me for my work,” Jerry

revealed.

“What did you give him?” she asked.

“A green chili,” Jerry said.

If you want to be happy, neither try to do the good

nor the bad. When you are disciplined, conscious,
you have no fixations, and when your personality
becomes so pure, the spring of happiness comes
from your inner heart. Whatever happens through
you becomes good. Some peoples’ cause of sorrow is
that they crave for the respect in society. They think
that they are great scholars and imminent people,
but this society is not recognizing them. I ask you,
why do you need a certificate from others? Is this not
enough? Those with an inferiority complex, without a
good opinion of themselves nor respect for
themselves, always crave the certificate of others.

A man is walking down the street, and gets saluted.

He takes it for granted and thinks all else will salute
me. If at all you are respectable, you don’t have to be
saluted. If you are not eligible, it means you are not
grown enough to receive the salutations from others.
Try to carry your own weight and grow, then
happiness will be yours.

“Hope for the best and expect the worst.”

Why are we not able to take our own responsibility?

Hindrances are in our moods and emotions.

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“Emotions and moods are the enemies of

understanding.”

So come out of your emotions and moods and come

into the truth. Try to take the responsibility of your
own selves, and you can be happy.

SAME GAUGE FOR EVERYONE

“It may be that men are not equal in all

respects, but they are equally men,” says Hugh
Gaitskell.

At the time of the Old Testament in the Middle East,

people used to practice two kinds of scales, common
measure and royal measure. Royal measure is more
than the common measure. When people used to pay
taxes to the king, they paid in royal measure. When
the king paid the salaries to his court members, he
used to pay in the common measure. When the
government took out a loan, it would be in common
measure, so the principle would be smaller. The
dividend and interest would be in common measure,
but when giving loans to the people, it would be paid
back in royal measure. Nowadays, these gross
measurements have disappeared from common
practice in public view, but they have remained in
our psychological mind.
If a neighbor’s child creates a disturbance, they say
the parents aren’t able to discipline them. When our
child does the same thing, we say, “Oh, he’s so cute,
he’s a naughty boy.” Mentally, the gauge shifts for
them and us.

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But what is love? Love is defined in the social aspect

that if you find faults in your beloved, it’s still
beautiful to you, because you love them. When you
are jealous of the other, you cannot see the
goodness in others. So the judgment should remain
the same for all, us and them. Our needs, desires,
luxuries, and our circumstances are in one gauge.
And for others, we have a different gauge. If
somebody is scolding you with bad words, try to see
yourself in their place. Think for a moment, “Maybe if
I was in their position, I may act more chaotic than
him.” In this universe, everything changes. Maybe
because of atmospheric changes, he may be sick, he
may be in a bad mood, or for any other reason he
said those words. But why do you gauge them so
quickly that they have bad manners?

Ten percent of the entire earth’s population will have

one phobia or another. The peculiar personal fears
are called phobias. A person with the disease who
cannot remain in the daylight for too long nor can
look directly into the sunlight is called photophobia. A
person who always sits alone, always flutters and
shivers like a leaf on a banyan tree is called
ochlophobia. One who is very daring and can face
any kind of dangers, but is afraid of a small street
dog, or one who can kill a 3-foot serpent, but is afraid
of a small mouse, is called zoophobia. From the
childhood we formed our opinions which are recorded
in our mind. With this data only, we analyze the
things which are happening all around us. We may be
able to digest some of our big experiences, but not
all of our small ones. So our mind is a split
personality, sometimes it wants it and sometimes

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not. And even in our own mind, we have so many

gauges, so how are we going to fit ourselves in our
gauges? So first, set right your gauge. Deeply think
where the fault may have lied with you and take
responsibility for it. In those areas where you are not
responsible, give it up. Why should you take on that
impression?

It is 8 o’clock in the night, and 8 year old Jennifer was

asked by her mother to go to the bathroom, not to
wet her bed. She was forced to go to the bathroom,
and the toilet basin became a devil to her that
wanted to eat her ass. She ran to her mother in fear.
Now she is grown with her own three children, but
asks her husband to accompany her to the toilet. And
he gets irritated by her whenever he has to do it.

John and his friends entered into a private property,

jumping the compound wall which has a red gate on
it, and started picking apples from the trees.
Meantime, a tamed dog of that house started
chasing them. All the children ran away. The dog bit
John so many times; he rolled on the ground and
somehow managed to jump the gate. He was
bedridden for ten days with a fever. Now he’s a
father of three children, but whenever he sees a red
gate, he shivers. This is called as anxiety fixation.

In our life, we may have so many bitter experiences,

and daily we get old. When our health deteriorates,
or there is increasing pollution in the atmosphere,
politics and society, gauges change and we cannot
make proper judgment. Everyday this social life is
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human beings is becoming difficult, it’s impossible.

So at this juncture, let’s just come to one gauge. The
same way you put importance in your feelings and
actions, use the same gauge for others. Please apply
your thinking onto you. Have faith in others and in
nature’s law, proper judgment for you, truth, charity,
forbearance and compassion for others.

Here’s the story of Dasharatha’s wife, the king of the

Indian dynasty at the time, who had three wives.
Queen Kaunsilya gave birth to Ram, the incarnation
of Mahāvishnu, the eldest son. Sumitra, the second
wife, is the mother of Lakshmana. Kaikayee gave
birth to the third and forth sons, Bharata and
Shatrughna. Kaikayee was the mother of Bharata,
the third son, and the king had already promised the
kingdom to him, which means she can become the
main queen. Dasharatha’s promise to Kaikayee was
against the tradition, as only the eldest son from the
first wife could be king. Then some dirty thought
came from Manthara, the servant, to Kaikayee, and
told her that because her son is the third, not the
oldest from the first wife, Kaikayee will never be the
queen, only a servant.

So, she went to Dasharatha, who was a good man to

honor this, and asked for three things. Dharma, the
righteous path, is made up of four legs of a bull:
satyam - truth, daya - compassion, dāna - charity and
tapas - penance. Kaikayee asked that through daya,
compassion, he should give the dāna, the charity of
the kingdom to her son, Bharata and herself. She
asked that Ram, the tapas, be given and sent to the
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much, and was going to miss him. She said that in

order for Dasharatha to remain living a life of
dharma, satyam, which is truth in past, present and
future, since he already promised the kingdom to
Bharata, he must honor it. It’s a cunning way to get
what she wanted in her own way, giving the wrong
meaning to the text. She had two gauges, one for her
son and herself, and another for the other son and
the king. But if we let law and judgment come to us
and dharma for others, we will live in the same
gauge for all.

In the end, Dasharatha did all she wanted, and

nature ended up organizing everything accordingly
for all parties. He ended up very sick missing Ram in
the forest, died early of a heart attack, and Queen
Kaikayee, became a widow. When Bharata came
back to Ayodjya, the capital of Dasharatha’s
kingdom, and came to know that in his name Ram
went to the forest to do penance, he rejected his
mother for her wrong deeds. He went through the
pain for the death of his father, and went to the
forest to ask Ram to take the throne. This cunning
way carried itself to present day, so if you really want
to be happy, keep the same gauge for yourself and
for all.

IN THE LAP OF THE NATURE

It was the time of British rule in India, and they

started building railway stations and laying tracks. In
a forest area, there was a railway station to be
inaugurated, and the British governor of the state
went to the opening. Thousands of forest dwellers

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came. All of them live for their bread and butter by

gathering gum, honey, skins, herbs, etc. and they
sell them in town. The governor started giving a
lecture in English, and all those forest dwellers only
knew their mother tongue. Still they listened very
carefully, watched his body and mouth movements.
There was a translator there and the governor asked
a question to be translated in their mother tongue.
“How much time will it take a human load of material
to gather from the forest? Then to go to town, how
much time will it take to go and come back? Please
give us your timetable.”

Sir, to carry the human load, it takes one day. To walk

to the town, it takes three days, then back, three
days, so it’s one week of work,” someone said.

In the seven days that you do work, where miles

together you walk, you can gather the load, sit on
the train for four hours, sit in the town to sell the
goods, then go home in the same day,” the governor
said.

“Then what are we going to do for these five days?”

they asked. The man has invented the wheel to move
things fast from one place to another and science
developed steam engines. Now at this present time,
we have bullet trains that travel at least 140 km/hr.
From scientific development, humans are able to
save time. What are we going to with the leftover
time? That is the question of the baby in the lap of
the nature. All these people work five days per week
and in two days they will drive hours to the seashore.
They go through traffic jams, enjoy the beach, and

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are tired when they come back. Is it the best way to

use the leftover time? Be in the lap of the nature.
When you save the time, you should know what to do
with it. Or all these modern developments can bring
you to lethargy.

Once upon a time in India, if one wanted to go to

Varanasi (Benares), the holiest city for pilgrims,
entire families would give them a final send-off. The
journey took months to travel in the deep forest with
bugs, terrible diseases, calamities, muggers and
smugglers. The family doesn’t know if he’s ever
going to return. But the pilgrims were the luckiest
people on earth who had lots of experience in life.
Slowly they made their way to Varanasi, and if they
returned back they will be a learned scholar of
nature. Various foods, languages, cultures, way of
living, clothing; there is plenty to learn. Maybe
security was lacking at the time, but can you learn
anything when you are secure? Maybe in 5-6 years
one may return, as it takes one year to walk there
and one year back from southern India. That five
years in Varanasi equals the experience of fifty years
in his own village. Humankind invented the wheel,
then the horse carts came, and science went up to
airplanes and more. Maybe it used to take one year
to go to Varanasi, and now by flight it can takes few
hours only from anywhere in India. But what is he
losing? The pilgrim who walks the whole way, can
enjoy the mountains, leaves, clouds, sunset, sunrise,
stars in the night, birds chirping, bugs yelling, frogs
croaking, streams flowing, whatever science has
pulled him away from. One who is flying in the sky
cannot even see the earth clearly, what to talk about

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the secrets of the earth? Is it not beautiful to be

relaxed in the lap of Mother Nature, or is it better to
fly away all from all those things? The choice is
yours; it is up to you to be happy.

SAY NO TO “USE AND THROW”

It so happened once I had to refill my ball-point pen. I

asked my disciple, and he laughed as it was a use
and throw item. “Not only that,” he said, “the
shavers used for 3-4 shaves must be thrown away,
you cannot replace the blade.” For a comfortable life,
you can take the help of science. But when it
becomes too much, extended to the maximum,
problems come. One thing is lethargy. When vacuum
cleaners came, people got too lazy to use
broomsticks. Yes, science is successful to give you
comforts but it creates a demonhood, and you will
lose your mental peace.

In western culture, all this use and throw was

invented by Americans, and now it is a habit for them
as they live in what is coined as a disposable culture.
In the same way, they started doing it to people as
well. All these inert things which are used and thrown
leave a particular impression in the mind. When you
constantly dispose of these live and sentient beings
in your life, people can become mere pleasure-giving
instruments, especially in the area of sex. Nature has
created a benevolent lock in progeny, where pleasure
is involved in sex. If this pleasure aspect was not
there, humans would shy away from the
responsibility of continuing the species as it is work
to be in a family. Both men and women do this when

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they have children. They break up and dispose of

their partners for another, and continue the pattern.

A man has children from a former marriage, and a

woman also has her children from a previous
marriage. After their marriage together, they also
produced more children. One day they were talking
about the family and the wife said, “Your children and
my children, all put together, are beating our
children.”

A human relationship can remain forever with all

their flaws and positive aspects. Each individual has
the aspects of their personality that must be
respected. If this happens mutually, they can have a
happy life. If you think of them as different, you’ll try
to exploit that person. Then the family institution
goes to the dogs and affects the entire society. So in
the process of use and throw, up to what extent will
you keep on doing this in your life? What about your
old age? Who’s going to look after you with love?

Now, I’m not here to insult the American culture nor

preach what is sin and virtue. In these combined
families or single parent families, we still can be
happy. Many children do accept stepmothers and
stepfathers as their parents, and the same goes for
parents that accept their new children and love them
dearly. In biological families, there are still situations
where people dispose of their own parents and
children too, leaving instability. But without stability
in society, how can there be happiness? Humans
have always disposed things and changed partners in
history, but what about the neglect and responsibility

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that also gets disposed of? Of course, the things

which we use and throw make your life comfortable
and easy. But what about the impression it is going to
leave on your mind? So, I request, not to allow that
impression to enter your mind, and you can be
happy.

JUST DO NOT HOLD ON TO ANYTHING

It is said that old is gold. Anything new that is

invented, inaugurated, or discovered, society will not
accept it easily. Because people hang onto the
habituated ones, and to accept the new one is very
difficult. This is the way of fools in this world, and
they will be taking abode in other’s intellectual
capacities. They never feel or think about the truth,
but great people thoroughly check up the old and the
new and take up the very best. Even if you are
aware, alert and conscious, still some mistakes
happen to you because you are not depending on
anybody. You take control of your own actions. “If I
am the winner, I am the cause for it. If I am the loser,
I am also the cause for it, but it has nothing to do
with my happiness.”

Those people who have taken this status of minds,

are called as paramahansa, a legendary bird which
divides milk from water. These people are like these
birds. They divide the bad and take only good
traditions out of it. Without analyzing good and bad,
what is useful or not, or what is healthy or not, if one
says, “It has been given by the elders, so I will follow
it.” This mind is without thinking, and they will be
called fools. You will surely have sorrow by hanging

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onto the cause. So if you want to be happy, be

aware, alert and conscious.

Gone are the days that Jar Alexander ruled Russia.

The French Ambassador, Bismarck, was hosted in
Jar’s palace, and was looking through a window
outside. He saw a big playground in front of him, and
saw a peculiar thing. He saw some soldier making
rounds in one particular place.

Bismarck asked Jar the king why he put him there

what is he guarding?

Even the king didn’t know, so he called the ultimate

military commander, and all the subordinates. But
nobody knew. After many days and through Jar’s trial,
it went nowhere. Jar announced if anybody knows
anything of this secret, he will be awarded lots of
money.

Meanwhile, a 105-year old woman came forward,

“About eighty years back, Catherine the Queen came
into this land and saw the cold season. Ice was falling
and in the entire garden only one rose bush was alive
with one flower. It was very cold, and she hired a
soldier to protect this bush. In four shifts per day it
continued on like this for eighty years.”

At the time of the Muslim dynasty in India, the

Mughuls used to kidnap the Hindu brides if they were
beautiful, so a gunghat came out, a cloth to cover
the face. So that’s why they used to marry their
children in a very young age, because Mughuls dare

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not touch a married woman. Now time has changed,

but their habits have not.

Ram Mohan Roy, a great person, started working on

the social problems to end the child marriage. But it
still goes on in corners of India. Still in Rajestan and
other places they will use the pallu of the saree, the
flowing fabric, to cover their faces. So this is how
people hold on to those things which are useless, and
they make other people suffer.

Once upon a time on this planet, there used to be

plenty of forests full of those plants and trees which
died, dried, and used to fall down on the earth. Those
penants who dwelled in the forests used the wood for
the fire worship and to keep warm. There were so
many wild animals that died naturally, so they used
their skins and ate their meat. Now, forests are dying
and animals are being killed for their skin and meat,
and they don’t have to cut down the trees for their
usage. They said, “Our ancestors did it.” It was a
different time, and forests and animals were in
plenty.

Everywhere on this planet, it is considered that if a

gentleman dresses properly and wears a tie, coat,
hat, bow, and shoes, he’s a great man. But if a man
in a cold country cannot cover his neck, he’s
considered a poor man. He has to protect his feet by
wearing socks and shoes. But consider a man
wearing all of these things in a tropical country, he’ll
be considered as a fool. And imagine an Indian saint
wearing only one small underwear on his waist, going
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same way telling that my elders wore these. I know

some fools from south India who go to the northern
states to visit holy places. Their entire life, they only
ate curd rice (rice mixed with plain yogurt) and
curries, which is ideal for the hot weather. But the
same diet does not apply in the colder climates, as it
can make you sick.

In society, there are no steadfast rules. As per the

time, rules and regulations to run this society are
placed in a disciplined manner. But time passes
away. The same circumstances are not available, nor
the atmosphere. So old rules have to be given up,
and new ones have to apply. If you go on holding on
to old rules, then trouble starts. Just receive all that is
amicable, useful, more comfortable for you and the
society too. Then you can be happy.

EVERYTHING IS TUNED

It’s said by a screenwriter Ārudra, “Life is like a

radio set. Husband is the aerial; wife is the
earth; so enjoy the life.”

In its depth, both wife and husband should be

cooperative, tune with each other, compromise with
the flaws of each other, take equal responsibility of
the family life, then the life can be happy. Some
people say they find love at first sight. How can they
even think about loving them for life? Such love is
blind, because they entered into an alliance with
each other. Prior to selecting a bride or bridegroom,
think first. Up to the end of your life or their life, you
vow to remain together. Nobody thinks they are

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getting married to break up later. Divorce is not

synonymous for a happy life, so be alert and see if
everything is tuned or not, then choose the partner.

Every person has a smell, and all cannot tolerate that

smell. Like that, one may have separate habits and
thinking cultivated from his lineage or society where
he lived. The woman may be brought up in a
different atmosphere of society and lineage. Even
those who are from the same neighborhood differ
from family to family. Can you adjust in this
situation? Ok, blindly you may have chosen your
partner. Or per Indian tradition, elders choose for
you. Also don’t have sex right away. First sit and
discuss what you like and what you don’t, what you
can tune into and what you cannot. It is like if you
cannot get the work you love, love the work you get.
Maybe she’s in your fate and you try to make it
amicable without understanding each other.

If you live in a marital lock, hell will be created at

home. That’s why so many families quarrel with
misunderstandings. What is the cause for it? Because
each woman thinks her husband should think like her
and behave like her. Since he is her husband, she
expects him to listen to her and respect her. In the
same way, the husband expects the same from his
wife. Every husband eagerly waits for his wife to
boost his energies, his deeds, and his greatness in
front of so many other people. And he also wants to
know if she loves him, or understands him, but only
in front of a third person will it come out. So he’ll wait
for her to talk. An intelligent wife will not only
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in appreciation. When he loses something or fails,

she boosts him and soothes him with her words. The
husband also has to behave in the same way and not
insult her in front of everyone, nor highlight her
weakness in front of everyone. If he appreciates how
happy he is that he found her in his life, then her
morals will be boosted. Both can be tuned with
society, and society will also appreciate that highly
tuned pair. Everyone will think they should be living
their life happily like this.

Those male children who don’t have a father due to

death or divorce will be attached to only the mother.
Then attachment towards the opposite sex is
created. When they grow and get married,
attachment is too much. The husband won’t let his
wife go out alone as he’s afraid to lose her. And he’ll
try to jail her in darkness. He’ll be jealous when she
talks to any other male. The wife has to understand
his mental status. Like a mother, she has to soothe
him and give him the confidence that she’s not going
to leave. When he gets that same motherly
confidence, he’ll be normal.

Indian girls are mostly insecure. Parents decide their

marriage link, and then she will get married to a new
person with a new family. She feels totally insecure,
because food habits, culture, behavior patterns,
emotions, thoughts, everything is totally different
from family to family. She feels like she came to an
alien land. She feels all alone, and suffers from her
attachment to her parents. So at that juncture, the
husband has to take responsibility of a father. He
must try to teach her in an amicable way and

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console her. If she finds the love that she used to

receive from her biological father, she will feel
secure. Even after taking so many precautions, some
clashes may come between them. So how to remove
all these hurdles and misunderstandings? They have
to discuss these 5 points:
1. What is the position we are in now?
2. What is the problem and how has it started?
3. What are the damages we are going to face
because of this? And if damages occur in our family,
how can we get rid of it?
4. Is there only one way to solve it, or are
there others? And what is the easier way? But be
aware that choosing the easier may bring more
problems.
5. Then, how do we adopt these ideas, how do
we apply them, how do we make our family life
comfortable and happy?

Bertrand Russell says, “I may not agree with all

the thoughts in your mind. But always express
your right to express your feelings.”

So even if you can’t tune in with your spouse, if you

allow freedom of expressing feelings, you can be
happy. Emotions and moods are so black and white
so you have to discuss all this. With a calm mind,
then you can be happy.

Please Weep

“We cough to clear our throats, we sigh to

clear our hearts,” says T.S. Mathews.

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When we are disturbed and our emotions are

perturbing us, our body and mind produces some
chemicals. All these chemicals are in the blood, so
the anatomical functions will be affected. But
sometimes the chemical production will be excessive.
They can be harmful to the body. By weeping we can
exhaust them and send them away. That’s why
whenever we laugh or weep we’ll produce tears. All
this is a healthy aspect, the shit, urine, sweat, sperm,
and menstrual fluid. Even when we send tears out,
we’ll be relaxed. Some men think that all this
hydraulic energy belongs to women, not men. So
many men are suppressed to weep in front of others,
so in loneliness they also cannot weep. All this
suppression can lead to heart attacks. Doctors advise
men and women that they have to weep a lot. Not
only the sorrow or tears, but everything that we
suppress because of social conditions can lead to
lust, passion, greed, or jealousy. Then the mutation
will always come out in the form of disease.

A young American man went to a great personality to

talk about his problem. As he was under the
influence of the Oedipal situation, he wanted to kill
his own father. Day by day the craving increased, but
his inner conscious told him that if he remains there,
certainly he’ll kill him. Then this boy left America and
went to India to a see a great man.

The great man said, “Ok, kill your father. It solves the
problem.”

“Sir, what are you saying? How come I’m going to kill
my own biological father?” he shockingly asked.

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“Don’t take it for granted. I was just joking; I’ll show

you a practical way to come out of it. Take a pillow,
pin one of your father’s photos on it, pinch him, kick
him, take a stick and beat him.”

The young man did this, and the next day he visited
the great man and said to him, “Now I have hatred
towards myself. How could I think to kill my biological
father? What a sinful person I am! I’m regretting my
deeds, and now I’m developing love and compassion
daily towards my father. Now I want to go to him,
prostrate at his feet and asked for his forgiveness.”

The great man blessed him and sent him back to

America.

Maybe due to our social deeds, we suppress so many

things in our mind. They only destroy our mental
peace. So the only one way out of it is to remain in
privacy, weep heartily, and laugh like small children.
If you want to play, play. If you want to dance, dance.
If you want to sing, sing. If you want to express lust,
do it, but do not harm anyone else. Imagine you are
having sexual intercourse with your dream girl or
boy, and exhaust your suppressions.

Love conquers in harmony.

ATTENTION TOWARDS THE CAUSE

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“Bliss is not to be found outside, against

sorrow. Bliss has to be found deep, hidden
behind the sorrow itself. You have to dig into
your sorrowful states and you will find a
wellspring of joy,” says Maitreya.

You can never find happiness against the sorrow

which is inside you. Your happiness is hidden in your
own sorrow inside of you. How sorrowful you may be,
but try to keep your mind calm, and try to go into the
depth, the cause, of that sorrow. Behind every
situation and personality, a cause will be there. We
have to find it out. Without treating the cause, we
can never have the proper result. Never look into the
gross problem; it’s only the effect, not the cause. To
analyze it exactly, go to the main target, then
everything will be revealed to you. As it is, when you
can find the cause, all of your lust, greed, passion,
and sorrow goes away. In its place, love and
compassion comes out. Meditation gives you
alertness. With that, in a worldly life, you’ll have the
patience to go into the cause and express his love to
society. You will feel nobody is at fault, because you’ll
know the cause of it.

Once a woman took a meditation initiation from me

and was staying at my monastery. Some other
woman came to my monastery. They met and had
some clashes and she called this meditator some bad
words and abused her. Actually per her mental
attitude, she’s supposed to boomerang at her, but
she was meditating for so many days. She could not
do it. She felt pain for the abuses of the other
woman. I told the meditator that the other woman

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has an abdominal tumor, and that’s why she lost her

mental balance. When she came to know the cause
behind her behavior, she was relaxed. She was a 40-
45 year old woman, but she started playing like a
small kid. Then she came to me and asked, “Am I
becoming mad? Why am I in this playing mood at
this age?”

Then I explained, “When she abused you, you felt

sorrow. Then I explained the cause for it. The
moment you directed your vision to the cause, love
and compassion started coming from within you.
When you drove out your sorrow successfully,
happiness and joy came in its place. That’s why you
are happy and simple in the mind, like a child.”

If you constantly meditate, you will lose your ego,

stubbornness, arrogance, and rigidity. The actual
cause will be visualized to you, and the spring of
happiness will come out at the highest speed.

RUSSELL’S WAY

“The secret of happiness is this. Let your

interests be as wide as possible and let your
reactions to the things and persons that
interest you be as far as possible friendly
rather than hostile,” says Maitreya.

Bertrand Russell (1872-1970 England) wrote a book,

“Conquest of Happiness.” In it he discussed the
hindrances to attain happiness (negative approach),
and how to remove them (positive approach). I
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happiness are totally different. You may have all the

comforts, but not the happiness. If you have the
happiness, you have everything.

“The tragedy of present day human life is: In

the mindset of increasing comforts, man is
finding a decrease in happiness.”

The more comfortable you are, the greedier you

become, and then you will lose the happiness. Here I
start enumerating Russell’s list of points which he
handled in his book, Conquest of Happiness. I’ve only
taken titles from his book, and explained it in a way
for all.

A) CAUSES FOR UNCOMFORTABILITY

1. Byronic Unhappiness
2. Competition
3. Boredom and Excitement
4. Fatigue
5. Envy
6. Sense of Sin (Guilt)
7. Persecution Mania
8. Fear of Public Opinion

1. Byronic Unhappiness

Ram came home from his office, washed his face,

and sat on the sofa comfortably. His wife brought him
some tea and sat next to him. He started telling her
about his day at the office.

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She abruptly said, “Oh just wait, I kept the milk on

the flame. It might boil over.”

When she came back from the kitchen, he lost his

interest to share his feelings with her. Later on Ram
was waiting in the bedroom, and his wife came to
him after she finished her household duties. She
came to him late, and he wanted to have a good
time with her. The moment he started embracing
her, she started enumerating her list of problems:
the kids are naughty, they don’t study nor listen to
her, the milk man is diluting the milk with water to
make more money, and the maid usually comes late,
or doesn’t come at all. Those women who are not
secure of their place in life want to show others their
specialty. They never want to listen to anyone else.
They don’t have any interest in anything. They can’t
express their feelings properly. They cannot share
their thoughts and feelings of others with love.

When we look at that family from outside, we won’t

find any problem with them. What they lack is
happiness. Everyday boredom and irritation
increases. This man may try to find some other
woman with whom he could share his feelings. Even
if he finds such a woman outside, he can never be
happy because of the sense of guilt and social
problems. At home, he’ll have family problems. We’ll
discuss these later. If he goes out, he can’t be happy
because all of his friends and family are now his
enemies. They will say, “What is wrong with him? He
has a beautiful, amicable, and adjustable wife. Why
should he go to someone else?” He will not have
peace at home or office, will get insulted by society,

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and his life becomes more miserable. Then his life

will be suffocating.

“When our feelings are alive, we are very much

alive,” says Swami Vivekananda.

It means when you have no freedom to feel and

express it, it appears we are alive, but we are dead. I
am 50 years old now, I was born sick, and the
sickness went on my entire life. I was very weak in
my mind and my body. As I was born Hindu, as a
child I used to grow my hair long and put a spot, a
bindi, on my forehead. I have three elder brothers,
and my third brother was very intelligent. He became
an atheist and started searching for a cause for
everything. He used to hate seeing me with the bindi
and the long hair. He used to threaten to cut my hair
off when I was asleep. I was not intelligent enough to
compete with him and discuss with him. One day I
was asleep and he really did cut my hair off. It gave
me a lot of pain and agony in my heart. He used to
think that he’s elder to me so that’s why I had to
listen to him. As he was just two years elder to me, I
was not ready to accept his supervision.

Normally, from 11-19 years, children will have a lot of

mental disturbances. For the males, it may continue
up to 25 years. All the young and teenage boys want
to grow their hair very long. Why? When you trim it
properly, it means you have accepted the society, its
norms, conditions, and traditions. Every child is born
as a rebel, that’s why they want to go against it.
They want to prove themselves as special people.
Maybe they don’t know about all these social norms

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and conditions. When you ask them, they say they

merely like to grow their hair long, as it looks good.
And to those people who are against it, when you ask
them why they are negating it, they too don’t have
any answer. This psychological phenomenon went on
in my family like anything. Since I am the youngest, I
always used to keep myself in a separate position to
rebel against the elders. Whereas my third brother’s
position is different since he has a younger brother
and elder ones. He was sandwiched in between the
two, so that’s why he was not clear about himself.

When my brother went to a job interview in a bank,

they asked him, “What is your caste?”

Then he asked them, “What connection do you have

about my caste for this job? Does this job have any
particular reservations for this caste?”

My brother wanted to supervise me and control me

but rebelled as well when it came from the outside.
He wanted me to cut my hair, but couldn’t tell me
why. Sometimes he was the young one that could
rebel against the elders and control the youngsters.
And I was the only younger one. This is Byronic
Unhappiness, that he has the fixation to control me
which gives sorrow to one and uncomfortability to
others. That’s how he disturbs himself and the family
too.

I met a woman called Rādha, about 32 years old. She

started enumerating her childhood experiences to
me. At four or five years old, she used to like
puppies, piglets, chicks, and kittens. She always

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wanted to embrace them, kiss them, and play with

them. She never used to eat meat, even though she
was forced. She said, “They are my friends, and you
are slaughtering them and feeding them to me.”
Rādha used to have a white hen that weighed about
five kilograms. She used to try to carry her, walk with
her, dance with her, and was barely able to carry it.
One day the family members wanted to slaughter her
and feed her to the family. Rādha felt very bad about
it, as if she was losing a friend. She was weeping,
and for three days she couldn’t touch any food. This
is Byronic Unhappiness. You may have it at any age
with family members, colleagues, friends and
relatives. We have to discuss our situations with
them and clear it off.

2. Competition

“Do not be afraid of opposition, remember, a

kite rises against, not with the wind,” says
Mabie.

We are not alone in this world, and all alone we

cannot enter the forest and live. We have to live in
the society. When we live in the society, competition
is unavoidable. When you accept competition as a
natural social phenomenon, understand it thoroughly
and try to live in this competition, it is good. If you
are not ready for this, then problem comes. But I ask
you a question, does competition really exist in this
world or is it a creation of the mind? Yes, gross
competition does exist. If you are employed, you’ll
have competition with colleagues. If two men love
one woman, there is competition. It is possible in

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children in school with their classmates. Like that, it

naturally exists everywhere. Competition does not
give you sorrow.

In Sanskrit we have a saying, sparthaya vardhate

vidya, which means that only in competition can you
attain the knowledge. When a player accepts his
defeat as a good sportsman, then it can never give
sorrow to him. When he accepts the competition in a
negative way, then the defeat becomes hell to him.

One day a boy was weeping, and his father asked

him what the cause was. “In our class,” he said, “we
are 40 students. In this year, during final
examinations, I got the 20th place. And there are 19
boys prior to me. That’s why I’m weeping”

Then his father said, “One of our neighbor’s sons is

also in your class, and he’s going around distributing
sweets to everyone. Let’s inquire and see what his
position is.”

“In what position have you passed my boy?” father

asked.

“I’m at 21st stage. I’m one behind your son,” the

neighbor’s son said.

“But my son sees that 19 people are prior to him,”

father said.”

When I look around the class I see there are 19 boys

behind me. That’s why I’m happily distributing
sweets,” the neighbor’s son said.

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One who wants development, he should never look

forward. So many people say they are supposed to
look forward. Constantly they are supposed to work,
sweat and toil, but not regret those things which he
could never attain. And they are not supposed to feel
jealous about it. To be happy, look back and see that
so many people do not have what you have. If you
can look into it, you can be happy. This creation is
peculiar. Even forward and backward also changes.
Who is in front of you? Who is in back of you?

There once was a theater filled with so many people.

They watched the performance, then the owner of
the theater came in front of the audience and said,
“Please sir, let me be my guest for today. I had a
dream as a child, and I wanted to share it with my
invited and uninvited guests. I wanted to show you a
beautiful classical drama. The theater is the same,
people are the same, and nothing has changed. But
those who purchased the tickets for the lesser cost
were sitting in the front, and the costlier tickets are in
the rear and balcony. In reality, VIP guests can only
sit in the first rows in front of the stage. So those who
purchased the costliest tickets have become the
cheapest audience”.

So, have proper thinking. Situations, atmosphere,

social circumstances, and facing the competition; It’s
all very difficult unless you analyze it properly. You
can never come out of this jumble. Competition can
happen even in families.

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As an Indian, as a Hindu, I’ve seen a lot in this

suppressed society. Even a mother wants to compete
with her daughter. A grown-up girl, if she wants to
embrace her father, kiss him or sit on his lap, the
Indian mother gets angry. She says to her daughter
“Do you think you are still a small child to hang all
over your father? Go and study.”

Every girl knows her father as the first man in her

life. It is natural that she’ll have love for him, as she’s
the opposite sex. In the same way, a boy knows the
first woman in his life is mother. And it is natural that
he will have a lot of love for her. When you cannot
understand all this because of your suppressions,
you’ll even feel that your children compete with you.
Accept the social competition as natural when you
strive and struggle. By not thinking about the
competition, not actually competing, but winning the
life, you can be happy.

3. Boredom and Excitement

“If loneliness is a truth, then there is no point

in running away from it. It is better to go into
it. Encounter it. See it face to face, what it is,”
says Osho.

In this modern time, one, big mental disease exists

for this humankind. They want to complete all work
urgently, in excitement. So what happens when this
thinking continues? He can never enjoy his work, and
with all the free time left for him, he doesn’t know
what to do and he feels bored. To get rid of this

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boredom he’ll try to involve himself with unnecessary

things.

Russell says, in this modern age, that we have so

many vocations, that one can deeply and madly
involve themselves in. Vocations are there; that’s
why boredom can never happen. But as for my
experience, the so-called human being tries to forget
his problems and sorrow by turning on the television,
satellite dish, DVD player, etc. But with all these,
boredom increases. For instance, action movies will
create some excitement in you. It also creates non-
violence in your mind as it also suppresses any
violent desires you may have. And your suppressed
sexual desires come out, as you’ll be temporarily
satisfied. As you imagine yourself to be the hero, for
two hours, you may feel like you enjoyed it. Then
you’ll be sent into the boredom or excitement again.
To come out of this boredom and excitement,
humans started going to forests as poachers, and
going to the battlefields as a soldier. It is gross
entertainment for them. In this way, they can
dominate the society and say that they are superior
to you. This is the only way to satisfy the ego. Now
the forests are almost extinct due to the cruel human
beings. They don’t have a choice anymore to hunt
animals, so they hunted the human beings. So war
became gross entertainment for the human beings. If
you won’t look into the depth of this and control it, it
will certainly lead to the Third World War. To get rid of
boredom, people go to the spiritual path or political
path, or they may become social workers, or
terrorists. It’s all very chaotic. They may read all the
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the particular country, or become a lawyer. Or

without studying, they will argue everywhere. It’s all
because of their boredom.

In Greece, during the time of Socrates, this boredom

became chaotic logic. They started arguing, is the
horse itself true? Or is the thought of the horse true?
In India, on Vinayaka Chaviti for 9 days, Ayyappa
initiation for 40 days, God Almighty’s initiation for 40
days, or Hanuman’s initiation for 40 days, they take
up different spiritual practices to clear mental
diseases. But in this form, in the height of it, so many
things can happen. So many Indians go to the town
of Ayyappa at the edge of the ocean in the southern
state of Kerala. After completing this initiation, they
immediately jump on those sensual pleasures which
they suppressed for 40 days, and HIV prevails in
Kerala because of this. To get rid of this boredom, a
politician may organize a meeting, and so-called
terrorists also change this society. They also try their
level best to bring up this society in a disciplined
way. But this causes sound pollution, mental
pollution, physical pollution and disturbance in the
society. Unless we show a way to the human being to
come out of this boredom, they will always go after
emotions and excitements. If this emotional
excitement affects the human being, then he’ll
create more chaotic problems in this universe. What
are those problems which creates boredom and
excitement to the human being? What will be the bad
effects of it? And what will be the family problems?

Once I gave a lecture, then after some time, some

audience wrote letters to me. They went like this,

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“When our beloved friend goes away, we feel that

our home and our mind are empty. It is natural. When
we respect, love, and adore you, and when you are
far away from us, it feels like a portion of our heart
has been pulled out of us. We feel alone, that we’re
going away from you, and you have never given us
back that love. We know that the feeling is only
temporary. Maybe it is the way of the world, maybe
we are deprived from our beloved.”

This is a psychological problem. I always interact with

the people, and they ask me why I won’t be
physically available to them. I’m 50 years old, and I
cannot travel to everywhere. It is a populated
country of more than one billion people, where will I
go? They feel bored when I leave them because they
had a nice time with me, interacting with me, getting
the teachings, and exchanging ideas. They were
happy, but now they feel the boredom. So what is the
solution for it?

“To have a place in someone’s heart is to be

never alone,” says Alejandro Perez.

The boredom is a peculiar problem, and we can

never find a cause for it. Why are we bored? We can’t
answer it. We can solve a problem that has a cause,
but boredom has no cause. And the problem which
does not have a cause cannot be cured. It’s not easy.
Let us go to the psychology. When we are bored, how
will it get transferred into our family problems?
Psychology says it is a “7 year itch” for males, and
the “after 40 syndrome” for women. The married
man can be sincere up to 7 years, and then he’ll be

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bored with his family. Why does it happen? If

somebody says there is some secret, then certainly
everyone will want to plunder it. But once it’s
revealed and no more a secret, he loses interest. He
plundered one virgin’s youth, produced children, and
lost the interest in her because he discovered the
secret of womanhood. Woman’s beauty, her shapely
body, her feelings, and her habits, everything he
came to know now. They have become old, so he
became bored.

But a woman’s mind is not that chaotic. Up to 40

years of age, she can remain with a man as she’s
nearing her menopause. Maybe, as per the Indian
culture, she got married at a young age of 20-23
years. She looked after all financial problems,
combined family problems, and social problems for at
least 15-20 years. All these problems and children
made her life busy so she never experienced any
happiness or ecstasy in her life. When she looks back
at the age of 40 or 42, she’ll think, “Why did I waste
this life? I’m ending my life, so to get rid of the
boredom and mental torture, I may go to another
man”. Now, she may choose a man younger to her. If
she won’t go to this younger man, she’ll continue to
be suppressed. If she goes to this man, she’ll get the
social problems. See how much trouble the boredom
gives? To get rid of it is excitement, but is this the
way out? You have created boredom because you are
unable to face yourself.

In life, there are so many people around you who talk

and talk. They go on pestering you. You can avoid
them and walk away from them, but the bored one

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cannot because of the social and family

circumstances. You’ll face the same situation when
you’re all alone. What is the cause? There are bored
people who talk a lot whom you can tolerate, then
why can’t you tolerate yourself. It means that you
have the personality of boredom. You cannot face
yourself. When somebody is bored, he’ll search for
friends. Or he’ll want to enter into some mental
entertainment factors. Or they may drink alcohol to
forget about all this boredom. Only to get out of this
boredom, people get married, but they can never
have the peace. If you are a scholar, know so many
scriptures and can talk fluently and soothingly,
people will be ready to listen to you. Attain that
position, and if you are bored all alone, try to read
some scriptures, think through your own angle, write
them down, and if it is necessary, refer to the old
ancient scriptures. Gather the information and try to
produce a book. That will make you come out of your
boredom.

As we talked about in other essays, because of

scientific development, calculators and computers
came, and we received more leisure time. This also
gave us more time to get bored. If you like the work
which you are doing, decorate it and massage it,
then you can get the satisfaction. If you can make
use of your time, then where is the time for you to
get bored? In the Himalayan peaks where so many
saints roamed for thousands of years, they didn’t get
bored. Why? Because they crossed beyond their
mind and obtained a peaceful state in the
meditation. They are complete. They don’t have to
depend on anything or anyone outside themselves.

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They know they are all-pervasive and that they are in

every person, bird and animal. They came to know
that they are no different from nature. That’s why for
thousands of years in those small caves, still they
won’t get bored. Please meditate. Television or
internet, snookers or pokers, is not the way. You will
never get the absolute happiness. Be a witness.
Observe the nature and the society, and change
yourself. Then neither boredom nor excitement can
give you trouble. It’s only the way to get rid of
excitement or boredom.

4. Fatigue

“Physical labor carried beyond a certain point

is atrocious torture,” says Maitreya.

When we want to do some work, we’ll be moving our

muscles but sometimes we won’t get the proper
oxygen to do it. Glycogen is there in our muscles and
gives us energy. But lactic acid in the digestive
system comes in the middle and with that we’ll be
losing our activation. This is called as fatigue.
Because of this, so many extra unwanted morbid
materials will be created in our body, called fatigue
toxins. Through the blood, they spread into our entire
body and mind. Because of that, the mind will be in
total lethargy even though you may not work hard
physically. This fatigue is not only a chemical
reaction, it is a defense mechanism. When you are
fatigued, you have to give rest to your body and
mind. When you are fatigued, glycogen decreases, so
you must take some form of glucose. This is natural
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For that, take rest, have a nice bath, and consume

wonderful food. Then sleep again after some hours of
work.

In India, child labor still goes on. When they are 13 or

14 years old and involved in tedious gross work, they
will collapse. They will appear as 50 years of age at
30 years of age. Many people work in the city, but
they cannot afford the cost of living of the city. They
commute from their village for six hours, work for
eight hours, and again commute for six hours to their
home. This gives them mental stress, bodily fatigue,
sound pollution, and environmental pollution. All this
affects them as the mental fatigue is too much.
Everyone will have problems, but if you go on
brooding about it, you’ll never sleep at night. Then if
you don’t have sleep, you won’t be able to wake up.
And if you wake up, you’ll be half asleep. Even
though you had rest, you’ll still have fatigue. When
you think about your problems the entire night, and
you don’t have the proper sleep, how can you go to
your work? Because it is a routine for you, you have
to take rest. Talk about your problems the next
morning. This is a society of speed. There are so
many problems, but one who recognizes it receives a
lot of rest to his mind and body. And when he jumps
to work, he’ll be working like a Superman.

5. Envy

What I don’t have, others have. If I feel pain about it,

this is envy. This envy, when it enters into one’s
heart, makes one rigid. Envious people think that if
they don’t have it, why should others have it? That’s

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how it all starts. But on humanitarian grounds, you

can think, at least they have it. Because someone
has to have it. It won’t be attained easily. When you
cannot fulfill your vengeance and envy, you become
stubborn and you will have hatred towards those
people. This is called dwesha in Sanskrit. Dwesha
came from dwi and visha. That means it is a poison
for both people, the one who has envy and the one
who is facing it. They want to kill them, and they
think how to kill them. With all this thinking, they
won’t get sleep. And for the other one who is
targeted, they too won’t sleep as they are under
attack. So that envy becomes poison to themselves
and to their enemies. How can you attain happiness
in those situations? We came in this world as
individuals. It is our life. It does not depend upon
anyone else. Comparing yourself with others is
foolishness. Those people who admire great people
for their heightened aspects, they think that one day
they’ll attain it. It is ok, no problem. But you came on
this planet as an individual, and you don’t have to
compare with anyone else. If you want to grow, you
can grow as an individual.

My Gurudev Nikhileshwara has billions of disciples on

the entire earth, but he resides with me. Why? I have
no envy. I have no ego. I never compare with
anybody. I don’t want to become a great man, nor a
Guru to rule over the spiritual world. What I want is
the absolute realty, which is true, which is totally
filled with happiness. All the people will compare
themselves to those more developed than them. And
they work hard to reach his level. But that is not the
way. In this mad world, it goes on and on. You don’t

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have to do it. You don’t have to compare with

anybody. If at all somebody has something which you
don’t have, you should be happy. At least they
attained it. But you are not supposed to feel jealousy
or envy about them. There was a person who used to
collect all the crabs which exist on this entire earth,
and had an exhibition. Those people who came to
this exhibition of the crabs told the crab collector,
“Maybe you forgot to put a lid on top of this glass
box. The crabs may get out.” The crab collector said,
“I never forgot to put a lid on it. I know their way.
These types of crabs never run away. If any crab
wants to escape and climb up one foot or half foot,
then immediately another crab will pull its leg down.
These are Indian crabs. I’m least bothered of putting
a lid on them.”

“Half of being smart is knowing what you’re

dumb at.”

If you know in which field you are ignorant, that is

half the knowledge. If it is complete knowledge, you
will apply it on your life. It is not information. If you
know something but you are not able to follow it, it
means you have not understood it. Everyone wants
to have happiness. Till now I haven’t faced a person
who does not want happiness. Then what is hindering
it? It is envy and jealousy. When it is extended to the
maximum it becomes cyanide, which kills any human
being within a few seconds. Imagine the morsel of
food you are going to put into your mouth.
Somebody comes up to you and says some poison is
mixed in it. Will you eat it or give it up? If you don’t
believe them, then to you it is only information

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presented to you. And when you cannot apply it onto

your life, it becomes poison. The moment he said it,
you should have the faith to give up the food which is
poisoned. Who can explain all this? Only a Guru can
explain, one who is all-pervasive and all-knower. And
a guru can be any guide in your life, like a friend,
family member, or teacher. A Guru is one who gives
more than information, much more.

6. The Sense of Sin

7. Persecution Mania .
8. Fear of Public Opinion.

“You are what you are when nobody is

looking,” says A. Laders.

Guilt belongs to the past. Fear of what people may

say belongs to the future as opinion. Russell says if
you have any aspect of these, you can never be
happy. Dr. Sigmund Freud divided the mental moods
into three different categories, Id, Ego, and
Superego. He said everyone will have an instinctive
drive that is known as libido. The suppression of the
society and social conditions of what to do and what
not to do will be a hindrance for the progress to have
a happy life. If he involves himself in the sensual
pleasures, it becomes perversion. If he suppresses
that, it becomes hell and creates diseases. When Id
becomes strong and your personality is weak, then
you will say, “I want it”. It will be propelling you to
fulfill that desire immediately. When it is exposed in
the society, Id will be insulted by everyone. Id wants
all those things which are negated by the society. A
person is sandwiched between his Id and his Ego.

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A snake caught a frog in its mouth. If I ask it to give

up the frog, he becomes angry. If I won’t, the frog
becomes angry because he’s not being supported by
me, and now he’s dying. So he becomes angry. Id
propels a person. Id boosts his Ego, and keeps silent.
But constantly it will be repeating in your mind,
which is against the society and culture. Society is
not going to accept it. That’s why Ego says I cannot
do it, but Id says, you are born as an individual. Why
do you care for the society? Give up all your
selfishness, Ego, and jump into what you want. Still if
the Id is not going to stop this disturbance in your
mind, when you ask back, Id says, “Ok, you can
follow the society rules, with some conditions.” Even
then Ego is not ready to accept it. When a person is
ready to do some work, Id supports and pushes
them. Then Ego certainly will do that nonsense which
is not accepted by the society. If they get a chance
anytime, they will go into the wrong path, because
no one is observing them.

Very few people whom we can count on our fingers

will never do wrong, even if they get a chance. This
becomes suppression in them. Either they get some
psychological disease or become mad too. And those
who did something wrong, they will feel guilt in side
them. Or, they may repeat the same mistakes again
and again. They can become terrorists or devils’
incarnations. Finally they will be. Some day they get
caught, prosecuted and imprisoned. Jailbirds in India
will neither have any law nor protection. There is no
chance for rehabilitation. So bringing some change in
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take the help of Id. They can use the energy from the
society, and it can be called as sublimation. Those
research scholars and those artists belong in this
category. When you do some mistake and feel guilty,
the third part of your personality comes out, the
Superego. In Sanskrit this is the antarātma, the inner
deep soul; it will be scolding Ego again and again.
Somehow it wants to overpower Id. By constantly
scolding, Superego creates a sense of guilt in Ego. Dr.
Freud, the father of psychology, and his disciples Carl
Gustav Jung and Alfred Adler, all of them said that
this unconscious or Id is natural. No, I totally go
against them. This is the creation of the stupid
human being. Nature has some eternal values. And
no one is going to be hurt or pained by this. But there
are some social ephemeral values. Because of them,
a person will always be in struggle.

Once when I was in school we went on an excursion

to a place with beautiful landscape and a riverbank.
At 11 o’clock, three buses full of 165 children and 15
elders started. When we reached, it was 4pm. As
children do, we immediately jumped into the play
and enjoyed like anything. For all of us, food had to
be prepared. The chef took his time, and by 7pm,
food was ready. We were all tired as we had no lunch.
Everyone just jumped up on the food and ate like
anything. One of our classmates showed no interest
in food. He sat by himself. He belonged to the Jain
cult. In their cult, after sunset they won’t take any
food. That’s why he was suppressing himself.
Potatoes and onions were used, and they won’t touch
those things. Jain tradition says that due to the
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vegetables are not suitable for spiritual people

because they don’t see the sunlight. So they consider
the food as unholy. We tried to explain to him so
many things, “We had only breakfast. If you don’t eat
now, the fatigue of playing and travel and still if you
keep your belly empty, you won’t be able to sleep. So
don’t worry, we won’t tell your parents.” He ate three
morsels of rice but immediately vomited it out. We
slept like logs in the night, but he remained awake.

When we forced him, he was cursing us in his mind,

since we forced him to eat. And the sense of guilt
going over his religious rules was also haunting him
the entire night. He could not sleep. If any other
religious person reads this, they may think, what
fanatics these Jains are. But if any Jain reads this,
they say, “Yes, he’s punished for this sin. Being a Jain
child, eating after sunset, and all unholy items! His
sin itself became a snake and bit him.”

Maybe a hundred Muslims will be eating cow meat

together, and if one Hindu goes there, he’ll certainly
vomit. 100 Chinese people maybe eating cat meat
and all other religious people will be running away
from that place. For the Chinese, nothing is unholy,
everything is holy. They eat cows, pigs, cats, dogs,
fish, rats, lizards, turtles, insects, everything. The Jain
child doesn’t know what a sin was (and of course no
one can explain this). If he felt that it was a sin, then
he will have the fear of public opinion. He didn’t have
the sense of sin too, he has persecution mania. When
we made him eat and promised that we are not
going to reveal it to his parents, gave his Id the
strength. And we made his Ego to work. But after

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eating it at night, his Ego started creating the sense

of sin. And early morning, when he stopped worrying
about the food, he got some sleep. But he kept on
pleading us not to report this to his parents.

In some Asian countries, there is a tradition of

getting married to blood relatives. They marry their
mother’s brother’s daughter, their cousin, and they
never feel any guilt of it. Because it’s been practiced
for thousands of years, they won’t be pointed out by
relatives or society. In Muslims, it’s totally different;
they can get married to their mother’s sister’s
daughter. But they can’t marry their mother’s
brother’s daughter. They consider her as a sister. In
north India, they consider both as a sister. In Haryana
and Punjab, two northern states in India, if their elder
brother dies in the family, the younger brothers will
keep the sister-in-law in sexual relation with them,
and they’ll take care of the brother’s children too.
When I was there in Haryana, I asked about this, “You
say that your sister-in-law is equal to mother, so how
can you have sexual relations with her?”

They said, “If she’s young and no one is there to look

after her, she has to choose the path of prostitution.
Is that not an insult to their family? So we take of her
and the children, and consider her as a family
member.” And they don’t want to insult her
traditional family life by sending her out.

I also worked in Himachal Pradesh, another state in

northern India where all brothers get married to one
woman. When I inquired about it, they said, “Look at
our place, Himachal Pradesh is in the hills of the

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Himalayas. We don’t have the plains to plow. Only in

some hills are we able to cut it, and cultivate it. The
little piece of land can’t feed everyone sufficiently if
we all get married separately. One woman can only
produce a few children with one man, and it’s the
same if they go with so many men. But one man can
produce many children with many women. That’s
why they’re only one family. The output of land is
sufficient for the one family.

In Egyptian culture, the kings used to marry sisters

and brothers because they didn’t want to pollute the
royal blood. In India, still today nobody dares to
marry a widow. The widows used to shave their hair
after death, and wear only white saree. They are
considered as inauspicious faces, and it’s considered
a bad omen just to look at their face.

Like that, every society has their own fixations, their

own way of living. This is called as ephemeral values.
These values will be continuously changing years
together in their society. A human, when he thought
that he couldn’t live all alone, created society, and
society created hell for him. So because of the
society and social aspects, he’ll be sandwiched
between Ego and Superego. Id is psychological
torture for him. For one in this uncomfortable
position, how do you expect him to have happiness?

Bertrand Russell wrote another book, “Why I’m Not a

Christian.” He gave so many causes. He asked, “How
much longevity will I have? Maybe hardly 100 years,
not more than that. (Russell lived 97 years.) In 100
years, how many nights will I be sleeping? 50 years

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awake, 50 years sleep. Maybe 60-70 years awake if I

sleep less. How much time does it take to clean my
body, my home, and clothes? In between working
and writing books, how much time is left for me to
commit a sin? Even if I commit sin and a legal
department wanted to punish me, I will be jailed a
maximum of 12-20 years, depending on the age of
incarceration. Why should I wait for the last judgment
in the burial ground till all the people die? Then God
Almighty will judge me, and after I wait for the last
judgment, only then will I be sent permanently to hell
or heaven. So that is why I don’t want to be a
Christian.”

Mark Twain, a famous writer of the past, wrote a

novel, “Adventures of Huckleberry Finn.” It is a story
of black people enslaved in America, when the white
people never considered the black people as
humans. Huck Finn, a white boy, ran away from his
home. He met a black man, Jim, who was also
running away from his owner, Watson. As per the
teachings in the church and home, he’s supposed to
hand over the black slave to his rightful owner.
Blacks were considered to be property of whites. He
knew he was running away from his owner. Either he
had to stop him, or report it to Watson. Both he
couldn’t do. Huck Finn helped him to run away
because he also was running away. The judgment of
the church was so horrible at that time, that if you
helped any black man run away, you’ll directly go to
hell. Though Huck Finn helped him run away, his
Superego taunted him constantly saying, “You
snatched that old poor woman’s property, that black
man. Are you not shameful, being a white man

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helping a black man?” The Superego continued, “You

fool, Huck Finn. It may not be today, but tomorrow,
all the people will know you helped a black man
escape and then can you freely roam in your home of
St. Petersburg? Even after committing this sin, you
may hide yourself, but do you think sin cannot find
you? Certainly it will.” Huck Finn goes against his
Superego and finally says, “Ok, I will hand over this
slave to his rightful owner. Then, can you forgive
yourself? No, you will never. Then what is the use? If
the mistake happens, let it happen. So I’m not going
to hand him to his owner.”

So, from the unknown time of past to the unknown

time of future, these ephemeral values will change
from society to society and time to time. In this
mental torture of the society, can anybody be happy?
So I suggest you to give up the sense of sin,
persecution mania and fear of public opinion.
Immediately people ask me, “So you mean to say we
should become terrorists and go against society. We
have to go under the supervision of Id and behave
like barbarians?” As far as possible, try to follow
society’s rules and regulations. Unless you get the
strength to go against the steadfast rules of society,
dare not to go against them.

Again, we have the great man named Ram Mohan

Roy. At his time, Kanyasulka was going on in India; it
means that old, rich people used to purchase young,
teenage girls by paying their parents plenty of
money. They got married to the girls and in 5-10
years the old man would die. At a young age, they
became widows. This gentleman, Ram Mohan Roy,

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fought the social norms and brought the change. If at

all you have the strength and energy to command
the entire society, then go against it. But do not
suffer from persecution mania. Even if you have
committed something which is considered by society
as a sin, at least don’t be guilty for it.

In India, there is a language, Urdu, which is a

combination of Hindi and the Arabic language that
originated from the Pakistanis who settled in India.

A verse in Urdu says, “I never think of nor brood

over my broken ship. Why should I?” I always
sing the song of the future. I’m not the one weeping
for my past sins.

It means not to have fear of your own or the public’s

opinion. Everyone has their own headache, and they
won’t hang on to your problems forever. They have
their own problems. They don’t have time to brood
over your problems. In the name of society, so many
sinners are there. So, other people do not have time
to curse you. There are plenty of people like you. Just
cross over the past, present, and future. Be happy.

B. Way to the Happiness

Till now we were discussing about Russell’s Way, the

causes for the uncomfortability. Now Russell is giving
a positive way, that which makes you feel happy.

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1. Zest
2. Affection
3. Family
4. Work
5. Impersonal Interests
6. Effort And Resignation

1. ZEST
2. AFFECTION
3. FAMILY

“When the shoe fits, the foot is forgotten.

When the tie fits, the neck is forgotten. When
the belt fits, the belly is forgotten. When the
heart fits, for and against are forgotten,” says
Tao.

Yes, man and woman, if they can tune themselves,

they’ll see heaven on earth. But if it’s not a suitable
alliance, it will be a smaller size of the shoe which
literally eats your feet. If it is a bigger one, you’ll lose
it. When the belt is fit, you’ll certainly forget your
belly, when tie is fit, certainly you’ll forget your neck.
So man and woman’s tuning should be like this.

One day a girl proposed Emmanual Kant, a logician

and also philosopher, for marriage. He said, “Let me
think and decide.”

After three years, he took a notebook in his hand and

went to her house, knocked on the door, and her
father opened the door. He welcomed him in and
offered him some coffee or tea. Kant opened his

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notebook and enumerated all the problems and

benefits when people get married.

The old man listened to him patiently, and finally he

asked, “It’s ok, why are you telling me all this? In this
old age, I’m not going to get married again.”

“It’s for me,” said Kant, your daughter proposed me.

I took three years and finally came to a conclusion.
Whether I get married or not, suffering is same.
Suffering is unavoidable, so let me get married and
suffer.

The old man said, “Ok, good thing you told me, but
my dear son, I know you are a great man. I love you
and your character. Certainly I would have offered
my daughter to you in wedlock, I wouldn’t have
refused. But my daughter waited one year and she
got married. Her husband will not let you get married
to her, and she has two children now.”

As for this marital alliance, and about those two

partners, there are so many jokes. Maximum number
of books has come on this subject than on any other
subject.

I will tell you from my personal experience, I know so

many people who are married and happy and so
many who are married and unhappy too. In the same
way, I know some unmarried people who are very
happy and some unmarried who are suffering too.
After marriage, will you be happy or sorrow? For this
question, there is no answer. Some people depend on
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people who drowned and committed suicide in the

river too. If you want to depend on the river and
make your life happy, you should know the art of
living it. If you know this art, you can be happy. If you
don’t know this, even if you are a parent, still you will
suffer.

In the family setup, there is happiness. All the family

members should feel the zest. Zest is there in
everyone. But they should know how to produce it for
the society. This zest in your heart becomes
surrender, in your mind it is patience, on your face it
will be a smile and then only will it be said as zest.
When you project this zest onto the people, then it
will be called as love. When it is complete, then your
entire family setup will be strong. Why am I telling
this?

Till now, in this Indian society, the children are being

tortured. How much negativity went on against this
one group has never gone on with any other. That’s
what the psychologists say. Newly born puppies and
kittens, if you throw them in the water, they will
immediately swim. For the newly born human, it
takes 20-25 years, and then only can he stand on his
legs. Truly speaking, when an infant is born, we never
consider him as an individual. We always consider
him as our successor. He’s younger to us, and he
listens to us because he depends on us now. So we
can exploit him. He may suffer a lot, but he cannot
live because he knows no other source. Compared to
him, we become elders, great people. Everyone
wants to become big. That’s why a useless guy can
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greater than his child and tries to control him. In the

natural world, when we want to become great
people, we have to struggle hard. It is easy to
produce a child by ejaculating so they can dominate
a child, because they don’t know their rights.

In America, it is against the law to beat the children.

In India, the law also exists, but nobody listens to
their elders, much less will they listen to their
children if they complained to the law. And children
are not educated for their basic rights, so they don’t
know they can go to an authority figure and complain
about their parents. When the aspect exists in one’s
heart, and it is sent towards the younger generation,
it is called vatsalya in Sanskrit. The pregnant
meaning of vatsalya is when a cow gives birth to a
calf, she will be covered in shit and so many
chemicals. The substance will be gummy, but the
mother cow licks and eats it. She has no hands to
clean it, like the humans, who use boiled water. Vatsa
means cow’s baby. This is the mother’s love,
disregarding any idea that this substance around her
calf is impure or dirty. She takes into her own tongue
the leftover material that the calf doesn’t need, and
swallows it into her belly.

I once saw a human child with mucous pouring out of

her nose, and instead of her mother using a napkin
or her finger to remove it, she sucked it out herself
and swallowed it. This is motherhood. This is love. Till
now, the atrocities towards children have been too
much. In this creation, animals grow very easily and
fast, as longevity is limited. The animals have to get
control of their senses and use them quickly,

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because their longevity is 12-14 years. But the

human breed has 20-25 years once it reaches
adulthood, then only can he be grown physically and
mentally. Really speaking we never have the love
towards the child. A father feels that this child is born
because of his karmic pattern, but he doesn’t realize
that the child is born because of their own karmic
pattern. In a way, the human being will never have
the total love towards their babies. Why? Because he
is smaller than him and can ordain him. He can make
him do whatever he wants him to.

A newborn mind is not grown, so you can make him a

slave. Is that the humanity you have? If a father
cannot treat a child in a proper way, then later in life
he rebels against him. Everyone wants to become
the elder, the great one, the dominator, and the
guide. But these fools don’t know that they also have
to grow. In the physical world, they want to become
great. For that they have to struggle a lot. So many
have to be co-operative with him. Instead, so many
compete against him. But if a child is born to him, he
can dominate him. With all the problems in society,
we can become elders to the children. That’s why,
whether or not they want to, the father always
advises his son. Every second, he wants to become
the father, Guru, or advisor. Nobody thinks whether
they are experienced enough and educated enough
to give advice. Everyone has their own suppressions
and their weaknesses from their past lives.

A so-called person who thinks he’s above everything

immediately tries to advise him. He has his own
problems, but he always wants to advise someone

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else. He has his own problems and sorrows, and he

wants to control the entire world. And then he says
that it is natural. He says that everything is
impermanent. He says things like, “Your house may
be burnt, but still you have your own shop. Don’t
worry. You’ll get back all that you lost.” It is true that
God Almighty gave us two hands, two legs, one mind
to analyze, and five senses to recognize. What they
see is right. It is very easy for them to give advice,
but they still cannot receive it nor understand them.
Just as all parents want to advise their children, these
Indians always want to become Gurus. They never
think if they have the right to give advice or the
discipline to follow the path. He’s not responsible
enough. He only has the desire to become a teacher.
With that desire, he wants to control everyone. If
somebody’s weak and available to him, he’ll teach all
nonsense and keep them under their control.

When the disciples have trouble, he’ll teach that it’s

all ephemeral. But truth is always permanent. It’s
compassionate. With the impression of this
consciousness, you’ll have all the energies of the
love. Accept it. Be pure. Never have any competition,
jealousy, or ego, then you can be happy. These so-
called teachers, when they give advice and solutions,
they do give results to the disciples. But what about
the one who gave the advice, is he grown? Does he
have any results? No, only his ego is satisfied.

Truly speaking, we won’t have the compassion and

love for the next generation. Meanwhile, they will
have their own sensual pleasures. When we show the
love and affection towards the children, we’ll get

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happiness. What is the cause? It’s a peculiar point.

All those are babies, and they record it in their mind.
And even if we beat them, and scold them, they will
not be ready to accept it. Compared to them, we do
become elders, and everyone wants to become an
elder. Sorry, I don’t want to become an elder. These
so-called elders will say that to really achieve
something you have to work hard in the spiritual
path. It really means, in the name of spirituality, they
want to earn money. I, as Maitreya, gathered so
many children but I’ve never ordained them to follow
the fanatic spiritual paths. When you become Guru,
whether you have the capacity or not, you can give
advice to somebody.

Fakers, in the name of discipline and responsibility,

wear the ochre robes and try to control everyone. But
I ask, by wearing ochre robes and running away to
holy places like Rishikesh or Varanasi, are they
escapists running away from family responsibilities?
When I wore the ochre robes, someone approached
me to take them with me. “Why?” I asked.

He said, “I have lots of debts to different people and I

owe lots of money. I want to escape.”

I said, “Better we don’t go to my place or yours,

because I also owe some money to some people.”

He said, “Better I don’t go with you at all.” They

speak a lot about morals and discipline. When a man
goes through it, they wait for a chance to lecture
someone else. And if a child is born in his family, he’ll
be happy, because all the dirty, useless lectures

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which he heard can be rubbed on them. That child

can’t resist it. That’s why so many children hate their
parents.

One man approached me with a sad face. I asked

him what the problem was. He was making his child
do his homework that was ordained by the school.
The child could not compute his math sums. Then the
father beat his child, and slapped him on the face.
The boy ran away, and said, “Let me grow, then I’ll
kick your ass.” And the dad was shocked with that.

I said, “Yes, it is your responsibility to make him

learn, but it depends on the child. He’s an individual,
whether to learn and go through education or not. If
he’s dumb and cannot understand, try to teach him
with patience. All people’s intellectual capacities are
not equal. Don’t be hurried in your mind. Bringing up
the child is a very difficult task. Of course, today he’s
young, depending on you and your money. But
imagine, when he grows, he won’t consider you as
his father, he’ll consider you as his enemy.”

Then the man asked, “Is it not my duty to make him

go through education?”

I said, “Yes, it is your responsibility, But why do you

expect immediate results? One more point, let him
choose the subject which he’s interested in. Let me
tell you one more secret here: without love, and only
to dominate him, if you beat him, he’ll certainly
recognize it. Then how can he forgive you? Because
the impressions formed in childhood are very strong
and they remain till death. Me, being a saint, so

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many youngsters of 25-30 years of age are attracted

to me and call me dad. At that age, I beat them also,
but no one rebelled against me. Why? Only with love
I did it. When they don’t take responsibility, then I do
it. So, only with love, for his sake, can you do it.
When I beat them, and later felt sorry for it, the boys
themselves feel sorry for it and consoled me. So, look
into your inner heart, did you beat him with love or
with your arrogance?”

Here what is happening in Indian society, the father

can’t express his anger in his office, so when he
comes back home, the small home is available and
he will expel all his anger on his son. That man sat
for so many hours and finally said, “Yes my dear sir,
you are right, I will try to change myself and ask for
forgiveness from my child.”

Khalil Gibran, a philosopher, wrote a book called,

“Prophet.” In it, an archer named as Time holds a
bow in his left hand that is the form of father and
mother. He shoots arrows which are named as
children. It means you are not producing children.
Nature, the Time, shoots the children through this
pair onto this world. So you are only the material
cause, not the intelligent or efficient cause. So you
have not produced the children, they only come
through you. It’s like this: you say you cook the food.
How can you cook the food without the fire, the
flame? But can you say that whenever there is a
flame, cooking of food is happening? So what is the
main cause for cooking? It is the one who cooks it,
the chef. So, parents are like fire, children are like
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know this truth, neither you can praise nor

appreciate the tasty food, nor can you talk about the
drawbacks of it. All the greatness or efficiency goes
to the chef, not the fire. Neither can you make the
children great nor useless. Please help them. Give
them all your property and love. Children can be
produced, but not their fate. They are bringing a
bundle of their fate from their past incarnations.

Love is a wonderful gift of this nature. It is like a well.

You have to distribute the water, or draw and use it
for your garden again and again. Or the water will
stink. In the same way, you have to distribute love. If
you don’t, it will stink. Imagine a celestial being
appearing in front of you giving you a bowl saying it
will produce food. But you have to give it away or it
will lose the energy. Will you do it? Yes, of course. In
the same way, distribute love to your children. Now
he is a child, that’s why he can’t rebel. So you beat
him today. But remember, he’s your seed. And look
back to how you have accepted your father. The
same treatment you got, he’s going to treat you.
After all, he’s your seed. It means there are two
meanings in it, you are the tree and he’s your seed.
And once upon a time your father was a tree and you
were the seed.

Go to any beginning point of any river, and you’ll see

only a small stream. Go to the end of the river you’ll
see an ocean. There will be a lot of difference. Here
it’s so vast and big.

In the same way, now he is only a small child, and he

may become very great in the future. So feed him,

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love him, help him to grow, and he’ll certainly give it

all back to you. Psychologists tell you to shower love
upon the children. If you behave with them like a
friend, and accept them as they are, they will grow
into a great character. They see love everywhere and
they too will shower love upon this society and onto
their children too. Give them the protection, give
them the security, but never claim that you are doing
all this. Then they will have the confidence, and they
will have lots of affection towards you. You discipline
yourself. Don’t break anything in front of them.
Otherwise they will break things constantly, and if
you ask them why they do it, they’ll say you did it
too.

In my childhood, I had an experience while I was

searching the English dictionary. My dad asked me
what I was searching for. I was in the section that
started with the letter Y. He said, “Oh it’s great, very
few words are there that start with Y. At this age, you
want to go through those, it’s great.” It gave me lots
of confidence and strength that I had the energy to
face so many odds and troubles in my life. My dad
was my hero and inspiration. I could go through a
painful, suffering life for 50 years without any
complaint. But never try to pamper the children.

Attachment and pampering is not the love. When it is

needed you give them these. Then only they will
know what is good and bad, and what is to be
applied and what is not to be. If you go on criticizing
their way of approach and faults, then when they
grow, they will apply the same logic on you and
society too. They become criticizers and cynics.

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Never try to mock them. Once they start feeling guilt,

it becomes guilt in their minds. When children want
to express their feelings, and they lack the language,
they may stutter and keep repeating I...... I...... I.
Never say, “Why are your words stammering? Why
can’t you express it? Are you dumb?” Certainly if you
go on saying this, for the rest of his life, his voice will
stammer. Never criticize your children in front of
someone, or never say that your children are
handsome and great. You’ll be creating guilt or ego. If
you show your enmity towards them, criticize them
for every silly thing, and blabber without any proper
logic about their deeds and activities, they will learn
to talk in the same way.

As I’ve previously mentioned, we are four brothers,

and I’m the youngest. All of my brother’s were
intelligent while I was born sick. I didn’t have the
mental capacity to cope up with them. My parents
and my elder brothers used to point out these things
to the guests in our home. My third brother is very
intelligent. And when he used to look at my stupid
activities, he used to criticize me that I’m the
creation of Vishvāmitra, the buffalo. (In India, the
cow is considered a creation of Brahma, the Creator,
and is worshipped as holy. While the buffalo, is
Vishwāmitra’s creation, and is considered unholy.)
Yes, what they said was true, but I wasn’t strong
enough in my intellectual capacities or my inner
heart to receive it. Sometimes I used to go into
depression, but I took it as a challenge. I wanted to
prove myself, that I was not any way less than them.
For that, I struggled a lot in my life. I tried all kinds of
professions, whatever was available to me. I left my

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home, and I roamed the entire India. Of course, it

gave me a lot of experience. But how many children
can come out of such problems easily?

That’s why even if your child is not that intelligent,

he may be a congenital idiot, and he may act as if
he’s stupid, you have to respect and love them. Then
they can develop love in their heart. Then they will
never insult themselves. Then they will have the
confidence in their heart. My father supported me a
lot. At 16, I said I didn’t want to study anymore, and
he encouraged me to work. And once I said I wanted
to join the military, he said ok. When I tried for jobs
in various companies, he never objected it. I got a
government job, but I felt the salary was very little,
so I left it. I wanted to go to Delhi, the capital of
India, and join a private company where I could be
stable. He always supported me. When the parents
are calm and quiet in their mind and treat each child
according to their capacities, the children will learn to
solve their problems. Then when they grow, they can
have the patience and tranquility to handle any
situation.

Once upon a time in India, in the name of discipline,

the teachers of the school used to give a lot of
torture to the children. They used to punish the
children to do wall chair for one hour. They made
them stand against the wall with their legs bent to 90
degrees as if they were sitting on an imaginary chair.
Or they forced the children to do kôdanda, where
they used to hang the children on their hands and
put fire or thorns under their feet. Or they hung them
by their feet with fire underneath them. This is called

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as despotism. Because of that disease they tried to

torture the children. Maybe there are some rare
people who went through all this torture, and created
a history for themselves. But it does not mean that
everyone can do it. So many children were crushed
under this cruelty. So be careful in what you do to
make the children grow.

We first talked about zest, now we are talking about

affection and family. In this family situation, the
children’s part really gives a wonderful aspect in our
life. It is like climbing a steep ladder. It is very
difficult, but if you can achieve it, you can have a
good link between the lower and higher generation.
The mountain is known as parent, and it has to give a
chance to the children who are climbing them.

“Marriage is like chewing gum, which is sweet

in the beginning and sticky in the end,” says Dr.
D. Bhaskar Reddy.

Why does it happen? When in the beginning it was

sweet, why has it become sticky? When you can
express your zest, in your heart, it becomes
surrender.

In the mind, it becomes compassion and

forbearance. In the face, it becomes a smile. Then it
will be called as zest. To feel happiness in your higher
generation, lower generation, or for yourself, you
have to show this zest. But for each generation, you
have to have different techniques. A smile will work
for the children, forbearance for old people, and
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life, you enjoy with surrender. In the other half, you

can achieve happiness with love. Otherwise, your
entire life becomes that food which does not have
any spices.

Wife and husband should have total understanding of

each other. Then only can they lead a good family
life. The man, who understands one woman, is
qualified to understand pretty much everything. But
really is it true that it applies only to the men? I’m
not talking about the nagging woman. I’m talking
about a woman who has total womanhood. Men and
women are totally different in their body, mind,
thoughts, and fixations. That’s why it becomes
almost impossible to understand each other. If you
cannot understand, then how are you going to live
together? If all the humans knew what the other
person thinks about them, then there will not be any
friends in the world. Love conquers in harmony.
Emotions and moods are the enemies of
understanding. That’s why I say that if there is
harmony, without understanding each other, a pair
can be together. This harmony comes only from
surrender.

The zest is like a flowing river. It is horizontal on the

earth. Then it becomes a pleasant life. When you
flow this zest towards your children, it will be a flow
from the mountain. When you flow this love on the
earth, it will be love for your partner.

A man can be intelligent and a scholar, but that does

not ensure he can love. Because even rogues, rascals
and muggers also have knowledge. They don’t have

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the love. You may not be understood by your wife,

but you can be easily understood by your enemy.
Because your enemy will be observing your every
second to find your drawbacks so they can kick you,
kill you or mug you. That’s why the enemy can be
understood easily, but not the wife. She doesn’t need
knowledge, as it belongs to the ego, it is the
ornament of the ego.

Love is the ornament of your heart. Love means to

dissolve yourself, surrender yourself, and become
one with that other personality. So never try to
understand your wife, just love her. When love is
lacking, then you’ll try to understand her. The
moment you try to understand her, the yoke of love
will be broken. Love means accepting the other
person as they are, with all their drawbacks,
problems, diseases, and ugly behavior. If you say,
you are beautiful without any problems and ugly
things, then only will I love and accept you, then it
cannot be love. Any condition you put with your
partner becomes a business. It cannot be a life filled
with love.

“A good woman is known by what she does. A

good man is known by what he does not,” says
Helen Rowland.

That’s why I suggest you never try to understand

each other. Childhood is like a steep ladder; the kids
may break their knees when they lack the love from
the parents. At the time of marriage, they will be in
their fantasies. Since they did not get any love and
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their partner. They will be thinking that after

marriage their life will be like heaven. “He or she will
worship me with flowers. He or she may not allow me
to ever leave the bed. Everything will be served in
bed.” She or he thinks the other will understand their
feelings, and he will cooperate with them. They will
watch movies, and the hero and heroine will
embrace, sing songs, and happily sleep on each
other’s lap. After the marriage, they will learn that
life is far away from all this. Then their hearts will be
broken. Then their life becomes a desert. So many
problems rise between wife and husband because
they were not brought up properly by their parents
and they never had the love from them. They are not
mature. Though they are grown physically, they are
kids mentally. Education has to be given in home or
in school. One of the main things to be educated
about is sexual intercourse. If one is capable to
satisfy the other, so many toxins, fixations, and
mental blockages will be driven from the mind and
body. If the sexual link is good, there can be so many
differences, but all of them can be rectified. After
marriage, they will have the extra burden of
responsibility, but they won’t take it up. As per the
Indian is concerned at present, these suppressed
people think that sex is a sin. Or they take it as a
play. Since it has not been fulfilled, each one will
have suppressions, agony, and tension. That’s why
they suffer.

When the love rises towards the higher plains, it will

be expressed in the eyes as compassion. It expresses
as a smile on the face. Such people can never enter
into old age. It will keep them in youth. This is the

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secret of the spring of youth. That’s why I say, let thy

love be strong. Physical satisfaction and mental
satisfaction in sex is sexual intercourse.

In India, all the family problems come because so

many boys and girls hang onto their parents. They
can’t come out of the attachment from them. And
the parents rule the young couple’s life. That creates
a problem. A girl gets married and goes to the
husband’s house. All of her family culture, habits,
traditional aspects, way of thinking, everything
changes here. She will not be able to adjust to it
immediately. She will think, “Can I ask for whatever I
used to ask my parents?”

That’s why she never feels it’s her house. She always
feels like her parent’s house is her house. When you
look at the same woman after 20 years, and she gets
a daughter-in-law in her house, she will talk like this,
“This is my house, and the family has to run in
my way only. As per our tradition you have to
behave”. That’s how she starts lecturing the new
bride.

For all girls, psychologists say that father is

everything because he is the first man of the
opposite sex. And he is a father only. That’s why they
will have a scale that all men should be like her
father. When she goes to some other family, she will
be expecting her husband, father-in-law, and brother-
in-laws to be like her father. Then she will be talking
like this, “In my house, this never used to happen”.
This creates a mental blockage in the minds of the
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They say, “Still you think that this is your house, then
get out and go to your home. If you don’t like the
way of cooking here, then go back to your home and
cook in your own way. Do you think your father is a
hero? Then go back there and worship him.”

When they talk like this, the bride feels that they
could have insulted her, but instead they insulted her
father. She will feel bad.

All this comes out because of lack of understanding.

Every child has to be given proper training. Then only
can one remain in the family life happily. In the same
way, a boy sees the mother as the first woman in his
life. When he gets married, he may not be able to
adjust with his mother. He cannot tolerate it, because
for 20-25 years he worshipped her as a celestial
being. Until the wife gets some place in his heart,
that family goes to the dogs.

Nagging wives or troubling husbands are not the only

aspects for them. They are the products of their
parents. They should understand this. I know some
Indian families, where a girl who is very soft in her
nature becomes a nagging wife. Why? The husband
runs a cold war that cannot be seen by anybody. He
never takes responsibility of the home. The wife may
ask him to bring home a few items from the
supermarket. He nods his head, but when he comes
home from work he forgets. The next day, she asks
again, and he repeats the same answer. Everyday
she has to repeat that simple, small work 100 times.
Then she starts nagging. Finally it goes to the yelling,

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and she starts abusing his parents who made him a

useless, dirty, irresponsible man.

Some people have the inferiority complex. That’s

why they always expect recognition from others. She
or he always tries to dominate each other. They
won’t accept or agree to any statement that is made
by their partners. Both partners are supposed to take
the responsibility of doing household work and not
doing the work. With all these silly things, life
becomes hell. Those women also create the same
problems because of their life with their parents, and
she becomes a nagging woman. The husband may
have a lot of tolerance, but after a breaking point, he
may start beating her and yelling at her. Some
women have a psychological disease called
masochism. Because of this disease, she will nag him
so he can torture her, then she will be satisfied. Or
the husband has sadism, by torturing the wife, he will
be satisfied. Each of these partners, knowingly
understanding the proper way of cooking, they will
spoil the dishes.

In Sanskrit, the male partner is called bhartha, one

who dares everything. Look at the spelling of
husband; it is actually pronounced as husbend. In
Hindi, hus means laughter or smile. Band means
closing it. So to north Indians, husband means after
the marriage, the smile is closed forever. So they say
it has to be spelled as h-u-s-b-e-n-d, as in the word
bent or bended. But on paper, pronunciation cannot
be clearly delivered as there is a lack of
understanding. In the Anglo-Saxon language, hus
means house. In the Yeomen language, hus means a

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soldier or horse rider or butler. Bua means to dwell in

Yeomen. When you put all of them together, the
meaning of husband means the owner of a house
and also the butler of the house.

Once George Bernard Shaw said, “In this universe,

everyone has problems and troubles, but there is a
difference in the category.” Those who are married
think why they are married. And those who are not
married think why they are not married. That’s why
Montague, another British writer says, “Marriage is
like a snare or cage.” Those who are in it want to
come out of it, and those who are outside want to
enter into it.

Till now we have discussed zest, family, and affection

which lead us to a happy family union. I may not be
able to handle all problems that exist on this earth. I,
being an Indian with an understanding of Western
culture’s family problems, may not have covered all
of their problems. But one point I can say is, any
problem can be solved when you have the love.
When it gets diverted towards your partners, it can
be called as friendship. When it gets diverted
towards the younger generation, it can be called as
affection. When it gets diverted towards the higher
generation such as parents, teachers, patriots, great
people, then it becomes respect or belief in their
deeds, work and character. When you divert this love
towards those who are sick or in a dilapidated
condition, it becomes forbearance.

These sick people might have seen so many things in

their life. They might have won in some aspects, but

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they have faced defeat in some of the situations.

Maybe they have some fixations because of the
mental blockages. Since they have weak senses,
some of them become talkative, totally silent, or
trouble makers. Some will doubt everyone, but we
cannot expect any change in them at this age. They
have no control of their mind or body now, so that’s
why you have to show compassion to them.

Once a daughter-in-law asked me why her mother-in-

law nags her, though she serves her so patiently.
Why can’t she show her some love?

Then I said, “That poor woman does not have love.

She does not have it, how can she give it? But my
poor girl, you have compassion in your heart, give it
to her. Don’t expect it from her. Your love is not going
to end, as it will be growing in your heart further. You
have mental stability and physical strength to serve
her. Attain happiness by serving her. So, try to
develop love in your heart, then you’ll know what to
do, how to do it. When your children will look at you
while you serve your elders, your children will watch
you and they will learn it.”

Certainly they will learn this is the way of teaching

practically. By teaching so many morals you will not
change the children. This way of lovely life is called
unaddressed love. Love is like flower’s fragrance. It
goes everywhere. Fragrance never says I go into a
particular man’s nose because he is an ugly person.
This unaddressed love is like the full moon’s light. It
never expects to be watched by anybody. That is all-
pervasiveness.

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In forest or society, the moon sends its light. It is like

a candle which will be spread from all sides. Then
your entire life becomes happiness.

4. Work
5. Impersonal Interests
6. Effort And Resignation

“Don’t tell me how hard you work. Tell me how

much you get done,” says J. Ling.

In the way of Russell, we reached the three final

steps. First is work, as work can give us happiness.
Yes, for 50 years I worked and I’m very happy. If I
don’t have work, I’ll be literally mad. But it doesn’t
mean all people will be happy doing all works. So find
out the work which gives you happiness. Normally
that work which has no selfishness will certainly give
happiness to everyone. Selfishness contains
expectation.

For the one who is working, his goal and aim

concentration will be on the payment. And that
payment which gives him comfort, food, and clothes,
he will think about them only while doing the work.
So when he’s working, if he thinks about all that, how
can he do that work? And he will be thinking about
tomorrow, then how can he work today? If he’s
thinking about tomorrow, then his body is present in
the workplace, but not the mind. The mind has gone
to the future. When his body is empty without his
mind, it is a dead corpse. When he’s dead for today,
how can he live tomorrow?

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So selfishness leads to greed. Greed makes you die.

So be lively. Be active. Choose those selfless works.

“If you have a garden and a library you have

everything you need,” says Cicero.

That knowledge you receive is the intellectual food,

and you can get it from the library. And if you work in
your garden, your body will be relaxed. When you
love your work, you’ll be swimming in the river of
happiness. When there is no chance for your mind to
go into the future, you go into the present time.
While working in your garden, you’ll be trimming the
lawns, pouring some water and natural pesticides,
cutting the bushes, and in the middle of the earth
you may have a swimming pool which you clean
weekly and happily swim in daily. All this garden work
and swimming is wonderful exercise for your body.
And when you finally look at it you feel so happy in
your mind.

There was a botanist who used to win the first prize

every year in the competition. Somebody asked him
what his secret was. He said, “I go and talk to the
bushes and say, ‘My good friends, never deprive me.
You are my good friends for so many years. Whatever
you want, I will feel it from you. This year we are
supposed to win. If at all we lose, everyone will laugh
at us. If they laugh at me, is it not an insult to you.’
Everyday I say this to the bushes, till now they have
never deprived me.”

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In 1968, Dr. Benjamin Rush said that in mental

hospitals, if all the patients have the chance to work
in the garden, then so many can be cured. In 1806, a
Spanish doctor said that remaining in the garden for
hours together, serving the bushes, touching the
flowers, and smelling the fragrance can make any
person with a psychiatric disease relaxed. They will
have a lot of confidence in them. Everyone calls
them mad, but see the beautiful work they did. Look
at those flowers with so many colors. With such
greenery, everyday they grow and flower. Then, in
their life, they will have the confidence that they will
flower and grow. Then they get out of their
drawbacks, go back to society, and live like any
normal person. With all this selfless work and
dedicated work without impersonal interests, having
resignation, rest, a beautiful, wonderful hunger and
good sleep makes everyone happy.

In America, scientists found an apparatus called as a

feedback apparatus. A person can be operated on
and the equipment can be kept in his body.
Whenever he feels emotions, feelings, and thoughts,
it will be clearly indicated in their minds. Not only
that, the heartbeat or pulse, and any change in the
body or mind will be immediately informed to the
mind. So he becomes very much aware of his mind
and body. But without any electronic equipment, we
can attain this awareness in meditation. In musical
meditation, it is called as listening to ten different
melodies of the heart. So meditation itself is the way
of healing. You’ll attain the awareness and
consciousness. Once the mind is quiet, the body
follows that. Then happiness will be yours.

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LAST AID

“Age doesn’t protect you from love. But love to

some extent protects you from age.”

The scholar, George Bernard Shaw spent his final

days in a small countryside. Somebody interviewed
him and asked, “Why have you left the town?”

Shaw said, “When I was in that big town, I went to a

cemetery, and I saw some writings on a burial. This
person died untimely, only at 110 years. Then I
thought, ‘Why can’t I live in a countryside so I can
live longer?’” Actually, he ended up living for very
long time in the countryside.

Psychiatrists say that the social totality of the

people’s age decides people’s individual lives too. If
a society or a country decides the average is 70,
then at 68 to 72, everyone starts dying. Of course,
there are rare cases, but normally it happens like
this. A person always wants to live in the future.
Why? When he cannot live happily today, why does
he think about the future? It means that today he’s
not living. It means today itself he died. When he’s
not living today, how can he have the future? He
never saw what he’s supposed to see today. He
never attained what he’s supposed to attain today.
He never experienced all the ecstasy which he’s
supposed to experience, then how can he have the
future? How can he attain anything in the future?

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Many of those whoever were considered to be the

greatest saints or messengers belonged to the
families of the kings, rulers and rich people. Lord
Rama was the king of Ayodhya. Lord Krishna built
Dwaraka, which is full of riches. Lord Buddha was
also the son of a king. Jaina Mahavīra was also a
prince of a small dynasty. Mohammad also fought
with the sword to attain his goal.

In the same way, one more point I’m ready to explain

to you is that the so-called richest country, America
has a high rate of suicides. After going through all
this, to be vexed with the worldly pleasures and to go
into the truth, either they have to renunciate
everything or commit suicide. But it happens with
those people only who have enjoyed their life and
riches. A poor man can never do it because he never
forgets his bread and butter today. He’ll be waiting
for tomorrow. So to live happily tomorrow, or to give
up this life, today you have to enjoy thoroughly. I
never saw any beggar committing suicide. He will be
eagerly waiting for tomorrow to become the richest
person. Or he will think, though I lived like a beggar,
maybe in my next birth I can become rich. Those who
live in dreams can never commit suicide.

I know some beggars who hide their identity to make

their children go for the higher education. That is
their dream. Since they are not able to live their life
today, it happens. When a person enjoys thoroughly
his life, he will be vexed with it. He thinks he either
he has to renunciate, or commit suicide. There are
only two ways out. Once a person gives up the desire
to live, his body goes after his mind. Body is only a

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servant to this mind. When you lose the desire to live

in your mind, the body loses resistance. Because of
resistance in the body only, we can face all diseases
easily. That’s why one who has not lost the desire to
live, may become sick, get bed ridden, or may be in
coma, but he can live for so many years.

Today in this world, we are facing a peculiar disease

from the HIV virus. And it is also called as AIDS. It is
entering and pervading into this world very fast. At
original publication of this book in 1993, 400,000
people per year were getting this disease. If it
continued at this rate, by 2020, 3/4 of the population
will die because of this disease. Doctors and
scientists are trying their best to find some medicine
to bring them out of this disease. I say that it is
impossible to find a way. Because it is not a physical
disease; it is a mental fixation. Once one gets it, and
your body resistance disappears, any small changes
in the weather, or any small virus can kill him. He
may die from a cold, fever, or from a heavily
bleeding wound because the body cannot control it.
The body lost its natural way of controlling the
diseases. Is humanity losing the will to live? If it is the
society’s will, the individual cannot resist. But when
has it started, and why has it started? And why can’t
we control it?

When the research scholars did so much research on

this AIDS, they started declaring that it might have
come from homosexuality. Such people may not have
such fixations in their mind, or fantasies, but they are
suffering from the same problem. Then the scholars
said that heterosexuals got AIDS when they had sex

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with a person who had homosexual or lesbian sex.

But I feel that when a person changes so many
partners, they will have it because they are
expecting some variety. Constantly they will change
their partners, searching and trying to go to the
depth of the sexual pleasure. They may think,
“Maybe this person could satisfy me, I didn’t get
pleasure from this person, I’ll get it from other.” This
mad thinking leads them to the edge, and they will
end up in a valley. When they look back, everything
is flooded. All of his partners already recognized him
as a player, and they won’t allow them back. He has
nowhere to go than the end of his life.

All of theories are nonsense because any disease is

karmically linked to our past lives and our fate that
brought us here on the planet. So many babies are
born with HIV, and so many people in the past
unknowingly received the virus from blood
transfusions in hospitals. And any person with a fever
can die from complications if their resistance is low.
Love that springs from your meditation is the last aid.
Otherwise you’ll be in AIDS.

One who has no future nor past will have no

comparison with anything. He will never have
experienced things or unexperienced things. He will
never have the future desires. He never has the past
fears. That is meditation, which is your true nature.
Then you can be happy. Looking to this day for
yesterday is but a dream. Look today, but yesterday
is a dream, and tomorrow is a dream.

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A very well lived today, makes every yesterday a

dream of happiness and every tomorrow a vision of
hope. Therefore, look well to this day.

ALL THIS IS UNTRUE

“Are you aware that man has ever been

deceived by others by as much as he has been
deceived by himself?” says Osho.

An ochre-robed saint went to some place to give

lectures and he was returning back towards his
monastery. On the way, he saw a person selling
some birds, and he had a beautiful bird with him. The
saint liked it. He paid him well and purchased it. He
carried it and while walking towards his monastery,
the bird started speaking to him, “My dear good sir, if
you give me freedom from this cage, I can give you
beautiful advice. Three advices, not only one.”

Astonished, that so-called saint looked at the bird

and said, “Oh you can talk.”

The bird started saying, “Yes, of course, I’m the

divine bird. Like you, I used to give lectures to the
birds and all other birds used to respect me. All my
advice and lectures are beneficial to them, that’s
what they say. So you too can have three of my
advices.”

Then the so-called saint said, “Please, tell me three

great words, and I shall release you from the cage.”

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Then, the bird started speaking. Number one,

However great, rich, saintly, scholarly one may be,
but when he says something which is not logical,
don’t believe it. Number two,
However great your experience may be, never try to
do that work which is impossible. Try to remember
your own limits. Number three, Never feel guilty
about that good work which you did happily.

Then he let her go from the cage, and he continued

to his monastery.
“Oh”, he was thinking in the mind, “What a great
thing she told me. In the evening, I will tell my
disciples. Maybe I have to write it on the boards and
write it on a wall. Everyday I have to read it to them”.

Meanwhile, the bird which he freed landed on a

branch of a tree and started talking again, “You fool, I
have a diamond in my belly. If at all you get it, you
will become the richest person on earth. And you
simply left me?”

The so-called saint was very angry saying, “You really

betrayed me. Just wait I will catch you.”

Then he started climbing the tree. When he reached

the branch where she was sitting, she went up to
another branch. He tried again, and the bird also flew
to the higher levels. It went on and on. When they
reached the final edge, the bird flew away. And that
man who wanted to catch her, slipped and fell down.
He broke both of his legs. He had so many wounds on
his body. He could not even move. The bird came, sat
on the branch of the tree, and started laughing.

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The so-called saint asked, “Why have you cheated

me?” The bird started talking, “Think properly. I
never cheated you. You cheated yourself. If you could
have followed the three advices said by me, you
could not have been like this. I said, in the first point,
never to believe that which is illogical. I said there is
a diamond in my belly. Can any bird keep a diamond
in her belly? It’s not logical. My second advice is
never to try for impossible things. Can anybody catch
a bird with their bare hands? But you never followed
that too. The third one is more important. You gave
freedom to me, and it’s a good deed. But you felt
really guilty about it. Why should you feel guilty
about the good deed you did? It means you have
listened to my three advices, but you have never
followed them. However great the words may be, if
you won’t follow them, they are useless. And you
gather them to teach someone else like an ordinary
scholar. You cheated yourself, I never cheated you.”

Whoever reads this book may like it or may not like

it. Or some may use it to teach others. Whatever I
wrote is from my experience. I’m trying to follow
what I wrote sincerely, that’s why I’m happy. If you
really follow this, you too can be happy. But other
than that, if you use this material for something else,
then I will say you have cheated yourself.

“Those who want your goodness, benefit, and

happy living, they never try to teach you. They
never feel that they are greater than you. They
never feel that they are teachers. They always
behave as good friends. They want your

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happiness alone, they expect nothing,” says

Maitreya.

LAST WORDS

How much importance do I give from the logic, which

sprang from the intellect? The same value I give to
the feeling which springs from my heart. But I always
live only in my heart because the so-called logical
thinking which sprang from my intellect has always
cheated me. They never made me to reach my goal.
I never preach to this society to change. But I always
ask them not to poke their nose in my life.

Beauty in the world is not untrue. Don’t tell me the

body means muscles and bones. Then it is inert.
When you say that the body is the path, it is inert.
But does it not have the potmaker’s creative intellect
in it? Bodily shapes and proportions are beautiful for
the eye. But it has got a touch of consciousness.
Then with the dance it has become a rhythmic
posture. That is beauty. Beautiful eyesight and a
beautiful, comfortable soothing touch. So-called
philosophers say that if you are going to get pleasure
from the body, then why don’t you enjoy the corpse?
But don’t be in lovely lives, they also are hindrances
to attain the absolute reality. But without them, the
heart cannot be melted. When your heart cannot
melt, your inner spirit cannot have the throbbing.
Without the conscious throbbing, life will not be
there. This is my experience. That’s what I wrote in
this book.

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Slowly in a comfortable way, I wanted to insert this

fool. A corpse has no consciousness, but this inert
body has a beauty in itself with a conscious touch. I
am not there in deeper meditations to attain the
higher realms of ecstasy. Yes, of course I wanted to
revel in the lap of the creator who has created this
beautiful world, but yet, I have not attained him.
That’s why I follow “truna jalūka nyāya”, it means
that centipede which catches hold of one blade of
grass, and then slowly it starts pulling its body from
another blade of grass. It inches along on each blade
of grass. In the same way, when I get the glimpse of
the Lord Almighty, the creator, when I get his feet,
slowly I will pull myself, and give this world away,
and reach his beautiful abode.

I am not like any other faking saints. And my

philosophical vision is not away from my life which I
am living. It doesn’t mean I dip myself up to the nose
in sense pleasures. I also say in one more sentence,
I’m not going to give it up in a dark cave, sit and
meditate. I never believe that by closing your eyes in
a dark cave can you obtain the absolute truth.

All the soft corners of the mind and lovely lives are
also the hindrances to attain the absolute reality. But
without them, our heart can never melt. And without
this meditation, we will never have the inner heart
throb. Without that throb, there is no life.

That’s what I experienced in my life. In a soft way, I

wanted to insert my way of philosophy onto the
people.

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Let us see and wait how much I can succeed.

- Maitreya

APPENDIX

1. Always try to keep yourself busy in some work or

other. Try to keep yourself always engaged in
something.
2. Try to be in the company of so many people.
Because you being all alone, you may get bored.
3. Try to do all that activity which is productive and
useful to the society.
4. Please keep your itinerary ready for the entire
month or year. Plan all of your work, think of any
problems that may arise, plan to control them,
and set them right.
5. Never be depressed. Your depression may make
you totally a mere vegetable.
6. Try to decrease your desires and expectations.
7. Think good thoughts and always hope for good.
8. Try to forget about your past and future. Try to
concentrate only on the present time, and focus
all of your energies onto it.
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9. Try to keep your body and mind healthy so that

you can actively participate in your work.
10.Don’t be shy or guilty. Never keep yourself
alone with the society. Try to mix in with them.
11.Accept yourself. Never criticize or be depressed
about your personality.
12.Never try to escape from the problems. Try to
solve them. Never have the negative thinking.
Never allow any depressing thoughts in your
mind.
13.Those who are around you, may they be your
family members, friends, or colleagues. Maintain
good relations with them.
14.In any circumstances, always keep in your mind
that you wanted to be happy.
Those who follow these 14 points suggested by me,
can be happy. Think deeply about all of them.
– Professor P.V. Krishna Rao, director of Andhra
University, Psychology and Parapsychology

“I think I can live with the animals in harmony,

because I see tranquility in their eyes and self-
contentedness in their hearts. That’s why
hours together I stand in front of them and
observe them constantly. They never feel
guilty. They go to sleep in the night happily,
not brooding over their sins. They never pester
me about what kind of responsibility I have
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towards the God. They never have any

dissatisfaction and selfishness. They never
prostrate in front of each other. They never
worship their ancestors who died thousands of
years back. They have no complaint about this
creation,” says Walt Whitman.
“What kind of snake is it? In the bible it is said
that Adam and Eve ate that prohibited fruit
and fell down from the Eden. And from that
time onwards, their progeny, the humankind,
are in sorrow.
As per the yoga, there is a serpent in the
mūlādhāra, the basic energy center located at
the bottom of the spinal cord, and it is sleeping
in coils. When you wake it up with meditation,
finally it reaches the sahasrāra, the top of the
head. And you can attain the absolute
happiness, reality.
In this book, I described about that snake.
Please read it and find it out,” says Maitreya.

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