Acceptance for Change a) How often have you passed sleepless nights due to frustration on account of failure, embarrassment

or sorrow? (You are trying to change a past action or situation) b) How often have you thought of the factors responsible for them? (You are trying to revert the factors responsible for them. Again trying to change the past) c) How often do you think for what went wrong the fault was not your in those troublesome situations? (If TIME and LUCK was with me, If I had an opportunity, Anyhow it is my destiny, we give lame excuses like this) d) How often do you regret for your ill acts and foul words to others in those troublesome situations? (This happened due to lack of competence, confidence, awareness) Yesterday is HiSTORY, Tomorrow is a MYSTERY and Today is a GIFT , that's why we call it THE PRESENT. ALL THESE REQUIRE RADICAL CHANGE...

What is Change: With reference to humans: Change is to adopt different life style and thought process from the one currently being practised. A positive change is adaptibility of such practices that it helps us achieve success and higher standards in terms of health, wealth and status in the society. It implies doing away with or correcting such life style, habits and thought process which have actually become a hindrance in the path of progress. Change is something that presses us out of our comfort zone. But radically there are changes everywhere, in nature, in mother earth, in seasons, in our body, in our mood, in our expectations, in our aspirations... You are in trouble because of confusion between Good and Bad Likes and dislikes Do's and Don'ts Friends and Foes the list continues... The main reason for Confusion C O N F U S I O N Clarity in thought is absent Observation is ambiguous Neutral mind set is absent False hopes and expectations Universal Truth (our mind will confuse and get confused) Strategically indecisive Impulsive decisions are practised Our judgments are vague Negative views reach us fast Change is... destiny-filtered heart grown faith built inequitable 2

 uncomfortable for the better or for the worst (depending on where you view it)

Change has an adjustment period which varies on the individual. Changing from one state to the next upsets our control over outcomes. Change has a ripping effect on those who wont let go. Flex is the key. Even a roller coaster ride can be fun if you know when to lean and create new balance within the change. Change is needed when all the props and practices of the past no longer work. Change is not comforted by the statement just hang in there but with the statement you can make it. We dont grow in retreat, but through endurance. Change isnt fixed by crying, worrying, or mental treadmilling. Change is won by victors not victims; and that choice is ours. Change calls own strength beyond anyone of us. Change pushes you to do your personal best. Change changes the speed of time. Time is so slow for the reluctant, and yet it is a whirlwind for those who embrace it. Change seeks a better place at the end and is complete when you realize you are different. Change is measured by its impact on all who are connected to it. Change is charged when you are dissatisfied with where you are. Change doesnt look for a resting-place; just the next launching point. Change is only a waste to those who dont learn from it. Change happens in the heart before it is proclaimed by our works. If you can change before you have to change, there will be less pain. Change can flow or jerk, depending on our resistance to it. Change is like driving in a fog you cant see very far, but you can make the whole trip that way.

The Big Question a) Why do we require to change? b) What are the constraints in change? c) What to do to develop positive changes? Change is the only constant and it is here to stay. Three Kinds of People Losers Often resist change Users Dont miss any opportunity Choosers Are comfortable enough to make a choice

Following are 17 Ways We Waste our Vital Life Forces 1. All forms of useless talking 2. Being wrongly involved in the life of anyone else 3. Using excessive emotions 4. Keeping "accounts" on those who have displeased you 5. Sitting in judgment of anyone for any reason 6. Becoming identified with anything 7. Useless thinking, such as speculating "why?" 8. Overindulging yourself 9. Resisting your environment or the unpleasant manifestations of others 10. Being concerned with how others see you 11. Defending yourself from imagined enemies, as with quips or sarcasm 12. Puttering around in order to keep yourself feeling productive 13. All acts of frustration, impatience and anger 14. Doing anything in half measures, or leaving things hanging 15. Telling "little" lies 16. Seeking any form of vengeance or retribution, embracing resentment 17. Wrestling with anxious feelings and trying to think your way out of pain

Resistance to Change Change is resisted because of: The fear of unknown Discomfort in transformation of wrong habits Thought of failure Fear of social criticism Persistent and continuous involvement at all stages of change

We need to take to heart the mantra "Nothing succeeds like success" which means that Today's great practices and products are certain to fail tomorrow so we must keep the change ball rolling continuously. Obstacles to Change While every change is different, the typical obstacles to change usually include some of the following:

Resistance - This can sometimes be due to a lack of understanding of what is driving the change and the immediate or long-term benefits of making a change. Morale issues - Often times these are due to fear of how the change may affect us personally. Communication breakdown - This can include the full spectrum of communication issues, from no communication whatsoever to excessive communication that leads to confusion and frustration. Insufficient or lack of training - Changing processes, work habits, or policies often requires significant re-training. Budget restraints - Significant changes can sometimes bear a heavy cost, despite their long-term potential to save money.

Your Role in Managing Change Resistance - Explain the rationale behind change initiatives and highlight immediate and long-term benefits Morale issues - By addressing concerns, questions and anticipating ones fears, help improve morale during difficult transition times. Building the relationship can also help in this area Communication breakdown - Communication clear, concise, timely is a crucial component of any change initiative, and can have a huge impact on its success or failure. 7

Insufficient or lack of training - Providing training, feedback, and supervising to ensure adherence to new processes Budget restraints - To ensure budgets are appropriate, we should ideally provide input into budget discussions and letting all know of any budgetary concerns and possible solutions.

Replace these with Old *I can't do that.* New *How can I do that?* Old *I can't become _____.* New *How can I become _____?* Old *I can't afford to do/go/have _____.* New *How can I afford to do/go/have _____?* Okay, here are some specific examples: Old *I can't make ten sales in one week.* New *How can I make ten sales (or more) in one week?* Old *I can't afford to get a better car.* New *How can I afford to get a better car?* Old *I will never be successful with a home business.* New *How can I be successful with a home business?* [Examples of Harappan, Egyptian, Mesopotamian, Chinese, only Chinese survived because it adapted itself to the changing times and responsive to the requirements and dynamics of society, similarly the technologies which have become obsolete and have not innovated to meet the expectations and requirements of society have lost their entire presence in market] The whole focus is on how to break down the resistance to change of stubborn ones. People resist change for good reason. Everyone is under great pressure to meet targets and, to be efficient, we need routines. A great deal of our work may require us to solve problems with some creative thinking, but the bulk of it can be done on automatic pilot once we know what we are doing. This takes a lot less effort than having to think through from scratch how to do something. Change is frustrating because it disrupts people's routines. This is very threatening because it raises the possibility that we might not meet our targets. If we have to learn something new. It is a worrying thought that we might not be competent in the new methods.

 Change is also annoying because someone else is trying to tell us how to do our job better. This is insulting and people resist it for emotional reasons no matter how good the idea might be.

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Famously Bad at School

Akbar the Great The greatest of the great Mughals couldnt even write his name. And the empire was none the worse for it

Abraham Lincoln His formal schooling lasted 18 months. When I came of age I didnt know much. Still somehow, I could read, write and cipher... but that was all. Largely self taught, he joined politics before becoming a lawyer.

Thomas Edison His official schooling ended when the teacher described him as addled. Was home-schooled by his mother.

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Walt Disney Dropped out of high school at 16 to join the army, but was rejected for being under-age. Began his artistic career after stint with Red Cross, won 26 Oscars and 7 Emmys

Dhirubhai Ambani As someone who didnt complete matriculation he had no marksheet to flaunt, but a million shareholders swore by his balance sheets.

A R Rahman Studied till Class XI; later took his Trinity School of Music exams and went on a fellowship to Cambridge University 12

How to Apply Effective Change A key principle is communication, to keep people informed fully at each step of a major change. Involving people in change usually means little more than getting them together to deliver the latest messages. Asking questions which are all variations on "What do you think?" "What would you see as the benefits of doing X?" "How would you implement this in your area?" "If you went back to the drawing-board, which of your routines could you radically overhaul and how?" "How is this leadership opportunity for you?" By drawing solutions for improvement out of the people who have to live with them, the odds of resistance are greatly reduced. Resistance can be tackled by asking people to cite benefits of the change. They are quick to list objections. A better strategy is to ask people to set aside their objections for a moment and make as long a list as they can of the benefits they can see for the change. People are more likely to buy a change if they can put the benefits in their own words. Address each objection in turn, by asking questions like: "How could you address this issue?" "What could you do to get around this obstacle?" The key here is to continually push ownership back onto the people. Cultivating a Change Mind-Set Everyone should be given improvement targets to encourage networking and keeping abreast of the latest practices in their fields. They should identify comparable fields to learn about new practices emerging in related disciplines. Everyone at all levels should be encouraged to see themselves as change leaders.

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Preparing for Change The key things to understand with regard to such changes are that you don't know what will change and you don't know how. This makes it very difficult to prepare for and deal with it successfully. Instead, you have to keep yourself focused on what you do while consciously keeping it unfocused in what you can do. The rules of the game, the team members, the audience and even where it is played could change suddenly and only those who can deal quickly and nimbly with the changes are still going to be in the game. Here is a good tip in general when it comes to getting ready to step into anything unknown: Strive to do what is in your power while remaining awake to what is not. It is not in your power to control what will occur or how events will transpire. But it is in your power to be awake to the fearful voices that either project some doom or that denounce you for making mistakes. Realize that these fearful states are secretly trying to keep you captive. The only hold they have is the fear they can get you to buy into about you. Remember: Do what is in your power, not what is not. Dont give up! Youll be tested a thousand times on this. When you look out and say, Theres no hope, no chance, no way, I cant, theres nothing I can do about this, understand that you are living from the hands of a self that has decided to drag you down and keep you in its world. Dont you dare allow that to happen to you! You can do the work and begin to place yourself where the Real Power can do the work its intended to, because you understand your relationship with it.

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Positive Autosuggestion

I claim health now I claim peace of mind now I claim joy now I claim happiness now I claim success now
(Commitment part of feedback form )

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Tips for Managing Change Interestingly, even positive changes can be challenging to manage since we need to make changes and adjustments in our work habits. Overcome resistance by 1) Admitting that you are powerless over controlling the changes imposed upon you. 2) Identifying the things that you can control and take action accordingly. 3) Believing that through introspection and support of others you can restore yourself to a sense of sanity about the situation and events. 4) Seeking to understand the origin of your fears, anger, and resentment about the changes being faced. 5) Developing consciously plans to overcome the causes of resistance and build upon your strengths. 6) Looking for the positive benefits of embracing the change as opposed to dwelling on the negative implications. 7) Realizing that the change is likely to (or has already) occur(ed) whether or not you embrace it. 8) Considering, when you can reflect on the experience, how you dealt with this specific event or experience and seek ways to learn from it. This will help you prepare for the next change, which is most likely right around the corner. Educate yourself... Every letter in Education conveys a message for us "E" for Enlightenment "D" for Duty and Devotion "U" for Understanding "C" for Character "A" for Action "T" for Thanking "I" for Integrity "O" for Oneness "N" for Nobility

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Plan of Action

PLAN Your actions ORGANIZE your thoughts DECIDE your path ATTACK the opportunity WIN the battle

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Twelve Secrets to Living Stress Free 1. Real Success is not measured by what you are driven to achieve, but by what you can quietly understand. 2. Letting Go is the natural release which always follows the realization that holding on hurts. 3. Why seek answers to tormenting questions when it is possible to realize there is no intelligence in torment? So simply drop those painful questions. 4. See the upset not as an exterior circumstance to be remedied, but as an interior condition to be understood. 5. Your secret strength knows that your secret weakness isn't really yours at all. 6. Letting Go is all about finding out what you are not, and then having the courage to leave it at that. 7. Instead of always asking how to get others to approve of you ... learn to ask: What do I really want, the applause of the crowds or to quietly have my own life? 8. Chasing after a pleasure to ease a pain is like running after a breeze to cool you down. 9. Real freedom is the absence of the self that feels trapped, not the trappings that the self requires to make it feel free. 10. Letting Go of yourself is Letting Go of your problems, for they are one and the same. 11. The only thing you lose when you Let Go of something you are afraid to live without is the fear itself. 12. Go along with your longing to be Limitless.

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Remember

Dont think of the days you have lost to defeat. They are dead leaves on a plant, snip them. The roots are alive, awaiting the water From your hand that new growth will emerge For life must flow through you, not to you.
Remember Today is the first day for rest of your life. You can still make a beginning.

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