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family's. And sometimes too much focus on your own world is the thing that makes you unhappy. As the clich goes, man is not an island; he needs other individuals in order to survive. But if a person is not in tune with those around him how can he be truly happy? To be able to spread happiness, you must be happy. You cannot give away something that you do not have. When you are happy, there is not much that can upset you. On the contrary, when you are unhappy, you have the tendency to spread this. Being totally apathetic can only make you unhappy. It makes you self-seeking and demanding of others. A person who only thinks of his own happiness tend to get frustrated and tend to resent others for not making him happy. And unless you are unable to overcome selfishness, you can never overcome the frustration and hence can never be truly happy. Spreading happiness is different from wanting recognition. Most people try to be kin din order to get recognized for it. But a person cannot be truly happy if he is spreading happiness for personal gain. Take note that trying to spread happiness may also cause you to be unhappy. Let us admit that not all people appreciate what you are doing and some might even take advantage of you. In this case, instead of being good you are encouraged to be compassionate. Being compassionate is not simply giving but also being willing to understand a person without being judgmental. If you focus on the things that matter and ignore the unimportant details, the happiness you spread will surely rebound on you.
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Count your blessings and you'll realize that despite all your shortcomings, you are actually all set for being happy. When you analyze your life, try to look at your strengths and assets. Let them be the things that inspire you. And when you do look at your weaknesses, be optimistic, and do not focus on the negativities of these aspects of your life, but rather be aware of them so that you can keep improving for the future. Being optimistic does not only include you but the people around you. The grass may be greener on the other side but try to look at your side first; you'll be surprised that though it may not be as green, it is green enough. Most people see themselves as happy someday but do not recognize that they can be happy today. Look at your current life and focus on your family and friends. Celebrate with them. Know that right now you have enough to be happy.
mistakes but do not mull over it, mulling wastes energy, this energy you should be saving to focus on the things that actually went right. But take note trying to improve something doesn't mean you have to focus on improving alone. There should be a balance between the things you should try to correct and things that you should accept and ignore. A problem without a solution should be left as it is and ignored, there is nothing more you can do about it. Giving up on a problem does not make you any less of a person, especially if that problem is indeed unsolvable. It actually gives you more strength to plow forward because the energy that you used to waste on unsolvable problems will now be put into better use, into carving out a new and better future. Spend a bit of time finding an alternative or a solution, if there is none or if it is impossible, move on and spend your time doing better things.
Rule 4: Change What You Can and Accept What You Cannot Change
Essentially, crying over spilt milk never solved anything. It is better to get over past mistakes and focus on improving them. It is okay to evaluate your
Author: Mridula Agrawal Publisher: Rupa. Co Date of Publication: 2006 ISBN : 81 291 0372 9 No. of Pages: 124 pages
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being unable to relax. A person maybe able to rest but never relax. Relaxing is a state of mind, a state of no worries. Let go of your worries once in a while and don't let them control your life. Relax and be happy. The good thing is a person can control being worried. When you find yourself being pulled into the worrisome thoughts, focus on positive thoughts. Sometimes it helps to talk to a friend about your worries and eventually find out that they can sometimes be really absurd. Just like ignoring problems without solutions, you must also ignore worries that cannot be helped. Be concerned but never worry. Do not make something that is unpredictable be predicted negatively in your head.
and accept that fact. It is a good thing to depend on the Almighty and know that He will not give you a challenge that you cannot get over with. Know that small things only bother you if you let it.
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ignoring it altogether. Do not take a criticism and make a statement out of it just because you want to. Analyze it, make it positive and try to improve upon yourself, but not to the point of being obsessed.
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Try to have calm mind when dealing with the world. Relax, meditate and exercise; these things rest the mind and make it ready for all the flaws of the world. Meditation gives the mind a relaxed state and drains all the toxic thoughts from it. It gives the brain time to relax. Exercise pumps blood into the brain, giving it nutrients and rejuvenating it after a stressful day. Be patient with others, but more so be patient with you. Getting instantly angry or upset does not help anyone. Be flexible and understanding. As much as possible spread you happiness to those around you. It does not hurt to be a bit compassionate or to smile to someone you do not know. Give out happiness and it comes back to you. Remember that you have only one life to live, enjoy it. Everything is how you perceive it. There is no such thing as reality, only perception. What you think of what you do is what it is to you.
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