It's Never Too Late To Marry by Virginia Clark

Relationship advice for women that want to get married Visit http://www.itsnevertoolatetomarry.com see that Im definitely 65. A healthy 65; but when did all these changes happen to my body? Youd think that looking at myself in the mirror everyday would have prepared me for what I saw, but somehow when Im telling myself Hello beautiful in the bathroom mirror every morning I dont see what Im seeing now. I figure its because watching yourself on computer puts you in a more objective position from which to observe. Suddenly Im embarrassed that my husband has seen this too. Then the thought of you my followers and clients seeing me this way makes me cringe. All I see are the arms that are no longer toned, the lines at the neck and oh my, those hands! Suddenly every little fault was in high focus and I was shaken. I chastised myself for wearing a top that showed so much skin. I didnt think. I wore it because I love the color and its perfect in the Arizona heat. But lets face it, I should have known better. I try to hide my dismay and discomfort from my husband whos watching the videos over my shoulder. I announce that I need to change my top for the next round of filming. I run to my closet and pull out a long-sleeved pale grey top that I know will cover my arms. I put it on feeling temporary relief, at least now a part of me I dont want seen will be covered up. We go outside to shoot the second round. The top looks and feels ridiculous in the summer heat. And then I ask myself, Whats wrong with me, what am I doing?
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Im Embarrassed to Admit This

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Home Self-Esteem Im Embarrassed to Admit This Written byonJune 25, 2013 Last week I set out to film a new video for my book Its Never Too Late To Marry. My husband and I were going to set up at the back of the house around 7 AM before it got too hot seeing how its summer in Phoenix. He was behind the camera helping me focus. We did quite a few takes and it seemed to me that all was going well. I remembered what I wanted to say and thankfully no planes flew overhead to spoil the sound. When we finished the first round I went inside to look at the videos on my computer to see how I was doing. I grabbed my cup of decaf and settled in to watch. I was not prepared for what I saw. Let me be honest here, seeing myself on screen, filmed in bright daylight was a shock. There was no hiding it, Im not the 35 year old woman I imagine in my mind, I could

Ive always been proud of my authentic approach to life and for the self-acceptance Ive worked so hard through the years to attain. Whered it go? Why am I hiding myself this way, as if no one would notice if I wore long sleeves. Wow, here was a big test for me, challenging my very sense of myself. Ive got to be who I am, thats just me. When my mom offered me a nose job when I was 14 I turned it down. When a Hollywood agent told me she would only work with me if I had my nose fixed I considered it for a day but said no. And now here I am the result of my choices not to alter my appearance. I know if I dont make peace with myself I will be miserable. I will erase all the work Ive done to raise my self-esteem as a woman. I go back to the closet and put the blue top back on. Im going to show my skin, I cant let myself care if people notice my wrinkles and sags. I see the older women around me as beautiful so I can a least extend that same non-judgment to myself. My husband is aware of what Im going through, he knows me well. He is unfazed by my abrupt change of clothes. I cant pretend to him that I look any different than I do, so why bother. So here I am writing this to remind myself what is truly important and also to challenge those of you who judge yourselves too harshly. A Course in Miracles tells us that we are not our bodies and when we identify too much with the body we lose touch with who we truly are; which is spirit. Im happy now to see the video on my website, to know that whatever people think or say about it (why didnt she cover up that neck!) is not my business. In fact through this all Ive come to a deeper sense of self-esteem and self-acceptance. You could say Ive confronted my vanity and sent it on its way. You can view the finished video HERE - Get Your Free Report How To Stop Pushing Love Away PLUS a complimentary subscription to my newsletter full of great advice on how to have the relationship youve always wanted. Unsubscribe at any time "How To Stop Pushing Love Away"

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Dating Rules: How To Stop Waiting For His Call

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Home Being single Dating Rules: How To Stop Waiting For His Call Written byonJune 13, 2013 Weve all been there, a phone clutched tightly in hand waiting for him to text, email or call. So afraid you might miss him, you carry the phone from room to room, from place to place. You check your phone a hundred times while you refresh the mailbox again and again. You send an email to yourself just to make sure the mail program is working properly. If your friend calls you dont pick up. Instead of welcoming her call, youre annoyed by the interruption and it reminds you how it hurts that its not him. Afraid he may forget you, you decide to text him first, just to casually check in and say, hi. Your fingers hit the keys and type, but then you panic and stop yourself just in time.

As if all this isnt enough to put yourself through, there are questions you keep asking in your head; Does he like me? Did I do something wrong? Is he thinking of me? You hate yourself for feeling needy, for being unable to focus on anything else. Who is this person so consumed just waiting for his call? Weve all been that person and its not fun. So what can you do to stop this craziness and stop waiting for his call? First of all, you have to stop pushing him away with your desperate energy. It doesnt matter that he cant see you; he will feel it because were all energetically connected. This may sound a little woo-woo but Ive experienced this truth time and time again. When you meet someone you like you become subconsciously attached to each other. This happens at a deeper level than your conscious thoughts and cant be put into words. Its something you feel as opposed to something you think. Even if we send a text we hope will be perceived as a casual hi, it wont disguise our neediness or desperation. It will be felt by the receiver for what it really is. Theres no hiding whats going on with you even if he gets in touch. If youve felt desperate waiting for him, no matter how you pretend you havent, hell know it.

emotions and increase the chance of that text, email or phone call coming in that much faster. - Get Your Free Report How To Stop Pushing Love Away

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Where Are All The Good Men?

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There is only one remedy; you have to change your energy by distracting your thoughts away from him. As hard as this might be, you must let go of the phone and turn it off for a good, long period of time. If you cant do this on our own, put yourself in an environment where you have to go to a movie or swim laps at the gym. As your mind gets distracted by other things the energy between you will start to shift. Hell sense your new state of mind and be more inclined to reach out to you. When youve learned to stop waiting for his call youll have a new healthy dating pattern. It will keep your energetic connection clear of your negative

Home Being single Where Are All The Good Men? Written byonMay 26, 2013 My Dear Readers, It has been longer time than usual between posts and Im re-posing one of my most popular ones from 2010. The reason is that for the last 3 weeks Ive been with my 97 yr. old mom who was in her final days on earth. She passed on May 22nd. Her hospice nurse, Li Ann was truly amazing, she gave my mom comfort, support and most of all dignity. It was an immeasurable gift to us who stayed behind. Hospice is truly a calling of the heart and soul and to me she is the very definition of a hero. I will be back to my regular posting very soon. With love, Virginia
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Where are all the good men?! I asked myself this question over and over again when I was dating and trying desperately to find a man to marry. For years I was a magnet for men who werent good for me, men who were not the marrying kind. I couldnt stop myself from dating them and getting involved in unfulfilling and unhealthy relationships. I felt like a victim, a walking target for men who were narcissistic, self-centered and cruel. Then one day I had a wake-up call. I got involved with a particularly cold and aloof man. He acted charming when we were out socially, but when we alone he would become another person. I didnt know there was this other side to him until it was too late. At first he acted like a gentlemen, he was very attentive to my needs and concerned about making me happy. But within a few months his real personality started to emerge, but by this time I was already hooked in. I didnt realize that his treatment of me had changed the way I thought about myself. I got used to feeling unhappy and worthless around him. He was sullen and uncommunicative, making it seem like his unhappiness was somehow my fault. I often got the silent treatment, and could not coax him out of his darkness. I was at a loss as I got sucked deeper and deeper into his dark world. A part of me knew that being in love is supposed to feel good, so I kept trying to make our relationship work. But I couldnt do it by myself, it takes two, so Id end up being dragged into his bad moods and negativity and Id lose myself. Fortunately, I had a good woman friend who finally took me out to dinner and challenged me to look at my life. She pointed out how much I had changed over the past months, so much so that I had to admit it was true. This is what she observed about me: I stopped being social I had no time for my friends I was always tense I seemed perpetually distracted I seemed sad She reminded me that life was too short to be stuck in a miserable relationship with a cold and heartless

man. This woke me up and after going through a lot of angst and self-doubt, I broke up with him. It was hard for me, but he didnt seem to care that much more validation that I was doing the right thing. Once again I felt the disappointment of another failed relationship. I was back at square one, as far away from getting married as ever. I had been dating the wrong men for years, and I again asked myself where were all the good men? Then I had an ah-ha moment. There was only one common denominator through all these years of disappointing relationshipsme! My happily married friends found good men, why hadnt I? I was going through life like a horse with blinders on. I was like an alcoholic who knows the location of every bar and liquor store in their neighborhood, but doesnt have a clue where the bakeries are. To help me find a good man, I decided to observe my friends husbands to learn about the kind of men I should be dating. Here are just a few qualities I discovered: They were supportive and respectful They were reliable and worked hard to take care of their families They were openly affectionate and attentive

Where are all the good men?

The good men had always been there, I just hadnt been looking for them. I decided to take my blinders off and I make an effort to look for the men I would normally pass over. Now that I knew what to look for, I began to enjoy their company and want to be around them, even as friends. It was like the world had changed; where I had only seen the bad boys, I now saw good and decent men everywhere! The wrong men didnt disappear; they were still out there, showing up everywhere and tempting me to give them a chance. But I could now smile to myself remembering how I used to fall for their bad behavior. Thankfully, those days were gone, I had a choice and a great many good men around me to chose from. If you cant find the right men to date, do yourself a favor and take the time to take stock of yourself in
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the same way my good friend did with me. You just may find that you have your own a-ha moment one that could lead you down a new and completely different relationship path. - Get Your Free Report How To Stop Pushing Love Away

belong. We feel lonely, like well only find peace when we meet our soulmate. Its not popular to admit this; we want to give the impression that we are just fine without love. Well convince ourselves that self-love is enough. We say that finding true love would be a bonus in an otherwise full life. And this can be true, but not all the time. Just under the surface can lurk a sense of longing, a need for someone we havent yet met. One of the biggest challenges of this love journey is coming to terms with the knowledge that we are indeed lonely.

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But lonely is like a four letter word that we dare not utter. We tend to push that feeling down full of shame and guilt. We wont admit it to friends or family for fear of being judged as weak. Weve learned that we should be fulfilled just as we are; that we shouldnt feel as though a man will complete us. But if your sacred life path is love, its impossible not have a sense of longing for a soulmate who has not yet shown up for you.

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Its like an artist who sees a painting in her imagination and needs to manifest in the world. She wont rest or feel the connection to her purpose until she paints that work of art. A true lover cannot rest until they find the object of that love. What causes so much pain is that we equate being lonely with being needy or desperate; they are not the same. Loneliness is part of everyones life; even married people have moments of intense loneliness. The key to the lovers path is to keep loneliness in balance with our other emotions. If we let loneliness run the show it will fan the flames of our fear. It will encourage negative beliefs that its never going to happen or that well always be alone. It will also cause us to doubt our worthiness of having a great love. Being single makes us more vulnerable to loneliness, but rather than pushing it down because were not suppose to feel that way, its time to let it out of the closest. By embracing our loneliness we make it our friend. It becomes a positive reminder that we are on our sacred path. Like the painter, our loneliness is a call to find love, an inner knowing that there is someone out there who is as lonely for us at this moment as we are for them.
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Lonely Isnt A Four Letter Word

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Home Being single Lonely Isnt A Four Letter Word Written byonMay 9, 2013 Finding true love is a sacred journey; its a path weve been given to navigate this lifetime. It took me years to stop being at war with my desire for partnership and embrace the call for love within me. And if it wasnt your journey as well you probably wouldnt be reading this. One of the greatest obstacles we must overcome on this path is our sense of separation; our feeling that we are alone. When we have a deep call to love within us life can seem empty, as though we dont

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It seems a very good-looking man, who lived one town over from her, started pursuing her on Match. He said he was a gemologist and he seemed more interesting and than most of the men she had been meeting. He said he was ready for a serious relationship, in fact, he told her in the first few days of their correspondence that he was sure she was the perfect woman for him. He was anxious to meet her but a month went by and he just wasnt able to make that happen; he always had a good excuse why he couldnt see her. They emailed at first and then moved on to texting and even phone calls. She began to fall for this man who seemed so loving and so interested in her. Heres an example of what he would write: Honey, I may not get to see you as often as I like. i may not get to hold you in my arms all through the night. But deep in my heart I truly know youre the one that i love, and i cant let you go. Like many of us, she was hungry for love and chose to overlook certain things that were not quite feeling right. For one, his voice did not quite match his photograph. He seemed to be of a different race than his photo portrayed him to be and he had a strong accent and sometimes she found him hard to understand. But he said such wonderful things that all her common sense went out the window. Another indication that something was not quite right was his spelling and his use of the English language. It wasnt that he was a bad speller; he just had unusual grammar and sentence structure. For example: Marcie, i promise to see you before you leave on thursdaywhy i relocated to colorado was when gota decvoice from my ex wife,i will tell tell you more about it not now my dear I can hardly wait to show you all my promises I LOVE YOU SWEETIE. He said he was going on a business trip to Scotland. They were supposed to meet before he left but he canceled at the last minute. She was disappointed again but still not seeing the path he was leading her down. Then she received an email a few days later: Today has been the worst hours of my life. I lost my wallet, just as I finished with the customs clearance and pre-shipment of the boxesBaby, the problem I
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Beware: An Internet Dating Horror Story

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Home Online dating Beware: An Internet Dating Horror Story Written byonApril 26, 2013 I feel compelled to write this warning to all you wonderful women who have been reading my blog for the last 3 years. I want to tell you about my newest client and give you a heads-up if youre Internet dating. Marcie is 52 years old and a highly accomplished woman. Shes recently divorced from a long marriage and has a beautiful 24-year-old daughter. Shes a world traveler and has spent much of her life helping women to find their authentic voice and their true-life path. She came to me in shame and embarrassment over a very recent experience she had with a man she met on Match.com. It had deeply shaken her confidence and also broken her heart.

have now is sorting out the agent and final shipment cost. I have called to block my cards. And I have invested so much on this. I feel like a broke man nowI am feeling so bad about it all. What I need now to pay the agents half of his fees is about 4,500 Pounds ($6,885 US). I wish I could just lend from you and pay you on Tuesday. I will be glad if this is possible Honey. I love you. Please get back to me as soon as possible. Well needless to say that message woke her up. She had been scammed. When she refused him and told him to stop writing her, he continued. As I write this hes still texting her the name and address of the bank where she should send the money in London. He also keeps telling her that he loves her and cant wait to see her and whisper in her ear. It may seem obvious to you what had been going on but we cant judge Marcie, weve all been in similar situations at some point in our lives. It kills me to see the damage that this kind of manipulation and betrayal can do. I know that Marcie is one of hundreds, maybe thousands of women being preyed upon on online. Marcie thought she may have met her Mr. Right only to be deeply disappointed. The damage this can do to a womans self-esteem is devastating. So much so that she was having a hard time following my instructions to report him to Match.com, but Im happy to say today she did. I shared Marcies story with you so you can recognize this kind of man if he approaches you on line. As they used to say on the TV show Hill Street Blues, Be careful out there. - Get Your Free Report How To Stop Pushing Love Away

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How To Manifest True Love Quickly

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Home Being single How To Manifest True Love Quickly Written byonApril 17, 2013 I know many of you are struggling trying to find true love. Its a quest that can seem so random and allusive. The hard part is that it feels as though youve absolutely no control over when or how it will happen. Most of life is like that, we go along and then something unexpected happens and we have to adjust to the change. But you can determine the nature of the change you want and be more prepared when it happens. You can use your mind to help you manifest your desires. Follow the steps below and if you do all of them together and consistently, I guarantee you will be able to bring true love into your life. The 5 Steps to Manifesting Your True Love: 1. Know its going to happen. You have to come to the decision that you wont take no for an answer. You have to recognize that your deep desire for a loving partner is proof that you are not meant to be alone. You have to feel in your bones that you are meant for true love and stand in that knowing no matter what the outside world is showing you. 2. Get your conscious and subconscious minds on the same page. This step requires that you explore and unearth your underlying beliefs about men and relationships. This isnt always easy; its called the subconscious for a reason. I didnt know I had a subconscious belief
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that I was destined to be an old maid like my Aunt Betsey. But as soon as I became conscious of this belief that was sabotaging my relationships, it disappeared. No matter how much we might think we want a relationship, if our inner beliefs dont agree it will keep love away. 3. Create a strong vision of what you want. The most important tool we have to manifest true love is our imagination. Every highly successful athlete or performer will tell you that visualizing their desired outcome is an essential component of their success. The subconscious doesnt know the difference between whats real and what isnt. When we visualize being in our ideal relationship it creates a corresponding emotion. That emotion activates the subconscious mind and it will go about the business manifesting that situation for you. Dont focus on what you dont want because that will bring up unwanted emotions. See in your minds eye what a day, week or lifetime would be like with your beloved and let the all the wonderful emotions fill you up. 4. Schedule time to take action towards your goal. Its interesting how we put lunch dates, business meetings and dental appointments in the calendar but we dont schedule time to meet a man. If you dont write it down you may not do it and before you know it weeks have gone by without you making any effort towards your goal. The actions you take can be varied, time on Internet sites, singles events or a coffee at a local caf. Adding these activities to your calendar tells you subconscious that finding true love is important to you. You might feel uncomfortable with this idea because it seems premeditated and not at all romantic. Well it is. Not everything about finding love is hearts and flowers. Like any important goal it needs concerted effort until you have your desire. 5. Allow a space for miracles. With the actions Ive listed above you might feel as though the responsibility of manifesting true love is all on you; that you alone are in control of the outcome. In a sense thats true but part of your control has to include (as they say in AA) let go and let God. Whatever your spiritual beliefs, if you make space for divine timing and hold an

opening for invisible support, your search for love will not feel overwhelming. Follow these 5 steps and you cant help but bring true love into your life. When you manifest your true love youll be grateful for all the time and effort you devoted to your deep desire. - Get Your Free Report How To Stop Pushing Love Away

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