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Codependancy
The simplest and most understandable way to describe intimacy~
is how we open and share ourselves~
with the outside world around us~
That is what intimacy is all about -
allowing another person to see into us,
To see who we really are~
the ability to share who we are ~
with another person.
It is hard for many people to share a pure form of intimacy~
because at the core of our relationship ~
with ourselves and who we think we really are~
Many of us hold feelings ~
that we are somehow defective, unlovable and unworthy -
because of emotional trauma suffered during childhood~
We were programmed during early childhood
to believe that we were powerless~
And withdrawing into our own little world~
became a defense mechanism that helped us to survive~
We do not want other people to see in to us, because then they will
learn our shameful secret. We have a fear of intimacy because our
relationship with our self
is based upon a false belief~
We have spent our lives trying to protect ourselves from a lie about
who we are.
We have spent incredible energy in our lives
trying to keep the toxic shame hidden.
The secret that is killing us and has made our lives miserable,
the secret we have lived in reaction to - is a lie.
We have been compulsively -
because we were reacting to what felt like a threat to survival
- living our lives in reaction to our need to keep secret
who we feel we really are in the deepest part of our being.
"Because as small children we did not have any perspective or
discernment
we were incapable as viewing our parents
as anything other than perfect Higher Powers.
Our God and Goddess.