Marielly Alicea Chap 13 Assess Yourself Questions 1.

Have you ever been in a relationship (family or personal) where you felt threat and anxious but didnt know what to do? >Yes, I have to say yes! I have been in a relationship very personal in which I have felt threaded and anxious and not know what to do. The first years of relationship with my husband were very anxious his jealousy and low self-esteem drove him to be verbally abusive towards me. I did left him and moved away, but after he beg for forgiveness I ended up given in, to the point in which I ended up marrying him. Then years after his behavior continued to be repetitive due to his excessive alcohol consumption. In which he constantly accused me of betrayal. His previous relationships lead him to be untrustworthy towards me and our relationship. 2. Has a family member or loved one ever caused you physical harm? > Yes, my husband has caused me somewhat physical and emotional harm. A second time in the past when I tried to leave my husband I ended up in jail. I was accused by the police for a simple assault for making a scratch on my husband arm after trying to defend my-self away from him during an incident of acute battering in his part towards me while he was intoxicated. In others words, I called the police to come and escort me and my son out of the house until my husband got sober and get back into his senses the police accused me of scratching his arm and took me into jail instead of taking him for battering him during the altercation. I had to spend a whole weekend in jail with no bail and being accused of simple assault while truly the one that was been battered was me. I consider this a scar because that encounter went into my records showing me as the abuser. 3. Does anyone in your circle of friends or close family members ever belittle you psychologically abuse you by making you feel inadequate. >Yes, I have had co-workers friends who had belittle me and made me feel inadequate. There has been occasions in which I been left sitting alone at a school event because I dont fit in the circle or for the simple fact that I am not black or white but beige! I feel like the cheese in the sandwich always trying to stick! Furthermore I have felt belittle by family members for being the bastard of house the child out of wedlock the one who was not able to enjoy the privileges that the other kids; like family reunions or get together or even share a cup of coffee with any of my brothers or sister. All I know is that they exist and that its all! Its all good there is another life after this one.