Hindu End of Life: Death, Dying, Suffering and Karma

The rituals that are performed after the death of a person, are, in a way, a message to the departed soul, indicating that the people miss the departed person, remember his qualities, and are trying to get on with life. A lot of religious rituals like prayers, bhajans (religious songs), havans (purifying rituals involving a fire ceremony), etc ., are carried out so that the closure of life for the soul is confirmed. The Hindu death rituals which are followed all over the world, are almost similar, and are drawn from the Vedas. All the family members, including the children, take part in the rituals which are performed with the help of a Hindu priest. An outline of some of these, is as follows: 1. As Death Approaches For the Hindus, dying at home, among loved ones, is considered better than dying in a hospital. When death, due to any reason, is inevitable, Hindu people bring the dying person home, place him in his room with his head facing the east, and light a lamp near his head. Family members and all the loved ones chant hymns, until the soul of the person departs. 2. At Death If the person is unconscious, several mantras (group of words which can create spiritual transformation) are chanted in his left ear. Sandal paste or holy ash is applied to the forehead and few drops of milk, or water of the river Ganges are dribbled into his mouth. The body after death, is kept with the head facing the south direction. The top of the head, and the area under the chin, are tied with a cloth. A Hindu priest is called for the death ceremony. Under a shelter that is built, a fire ritual is performed, which is also known as homa, to bless nine kumbhas (water pots). The chief mourner (the person who leads the fire rites) is the eldest son in case of father's death, and the youngest in case of mother's death. 3. Preparing the Body The chief mourner is then made to perform some rituals, like arati (a ritual in which light from wicks soaked in purified butter or camphor, is offered to deities), and passes the oil lamp over the body, while offering flowers. The relatives then carry the body back to the porch and cover it with a white cloth. The body is bathed with the water from the nine kumbhas and placed in a coffin. Women walk around the body offering puffed rice into the mouth, which is to nourish the soul in the journey ahead. The homa, fire ritual, can now be performed at the crematorium. 4. Cremation To perform the ritual of cremation, only men go to the crematorium. The clay kumbha and the pot containing the burning homa are carried to the site. The body is removed from the coffin and is carried around the pyre thrice in the counterclockwise direction. Now, men offer puffed rice, the way women did earlier. The chief mourner, with the clay pot on his shoulders, circles the pyre; while, a relative knocks holes in the pot at each round, to let the water pass. This signifies that the soul is leaving the body. After taking the three turns, the mourner lights the pyre without turning to face the body. 5. Bone-gathering Ceremony The family returns to the cremation ground after 12 hours to collect the remains (ash and bones) of the body. First, water is sprinkled over the ash and then the ash is collected in a vessel. Later, the ash is offered in the holy river, Ganges. 6. Post Cremation: Ritual Impurity After the cremation ceremony, everyone takes a bath and cleans the house. During these days of ritual impurity, family and close relatives do not visit each others' houses. They do not attend any marriages, they do not celebrate festivals, nor do they visit temples or priests for a year. 7. Various Memorial Rituals On the 3rd, 5th, 7th or 9th day, people gather for a meal, in which the deceased's favorite food is cooked. The food is first offered to the photo of the deceased person. On the 31st day, a ceremony is held, in which cleaning of the house is required. A Hindu priest is called who performs

the sapindikarana (a rite to mark the transition of the deceased and merging with the ancestors). Once the ritual is finished, the impurity ends. The shraddha rite (carried out so that the deceased soul rests in peace) is performed at the end of the year.