FEW TIPS TO SHARE RAMADAN WITH

NEIGHBOUR AND CHILD

Collection By
MAIDUL ISLAM
 01. Buy all necessities for the month of Ramadan before Ramadan so
you can spend less time during the holy month rushing around. You can
be more focused on your religious rituals and spiritual development.
Everyone in the family, even the kids, can participate, writing a shopping
list, preparing some meals to be stored in the freezer.

02. If you have gotten into bad sleeping habits throughout the year,
start readjusting now so you can wake up for Fajr prayer.

03. Sunnah fasts of Shaaban (the month before Ramadan) help to prepare for Ramadan and
help to make the transition into the holy month a smooth one.

04. Reduce TV watching and prepare the family for the new spirit of Ramadan. Engage with
your kids more and more in creative activities that remind them of Ramadan. (Suggested
activities including reading the moral story books in group).

05. Organize your tape/CD collection to make it easy to select and to play nice nasheed
(Hamd/Naat) to sing along together or Quran and Dua recitation, so as to introduce the
spirit of the month gradually.

06. Plan ahead for the time you are spend at home in order not to lose the balance between
your responsibility as a parent to supervise the children's studies and your engagement in
religious practices such as reading Quran and praying Salat.

07. Plan ahead if your daughter needs a hijab to accompany you to the mosque. If possible,
get shoes for the kids that are easy to tie when they leave the mosque. Do you or the kids
need prayer rugs for prayer? Plan transportation to the mosque and back home.

08. Prepare as much cooking as you can before Ramadan. Here are some time-saving tips:

1. Prepare some vegetables and store them in the freezer to have them ready when
needed.
2. If you soak dates in milk or water and eat them for Iftar, pit the dates before
Ramadan.
3. Chop onions, garlic and store them in the freezer to have them ready when cooking
during Ramadan.

09. If you are planning to invite guests for Iftar, the best time to do that is during your
monthly period (menstruation). This has several advantages:

1. You will be able to taste the food that is going to be served.

2. You won't be engaged in some acts of worship so you'll have more time for cooking.
3. You won't have guilt feelings for staying after 'Isha' with the guests and not going to
the mosque.

10. Prepare your kids before Ramadan that they have to help you more in housework and in
setting the table and preparing the Iftar. Relate their action with the notion of Sadaqah and
good deeds. Remind them that the reward of their good deeds is multiplied during Ramadan.

Adopted from islamonline.net with slight modifications.

Eight tips on sharing Ramadan with your neighbors:

The Prophet Muhammad (SAW) said: "He is not a believer who eats his fill while his neighbor
 remains hungry by his side." (Baihaqi)

"By Allah, he has no faith (the Prophet [SAW] repeated it

three times) whose neighbors are not safe from his
wickedness." (Bukhari)

Ramadan is a great opportunity to share Islam and more

specifically, its values of spirituality, generosity and
kindness with others, especially your neighbors. It's a great
time to do Dawa. And Dawa is very much needed in the current atmosphere of anger,
tension and sadness.

Here are some ideas on how you can share the joy with your neighbors this Ramadan.

01. Begin with Dua

Make Dua that Allah give you and your family the sincerity, strength, motivation and wisdom
to do this. Dawa is hard work, and it needs preparation, commitment and organization.

02. Put up a Ramadan banner on your door

This can be something handmade or something more formal.

But don't stop there. Print out a fact sheet on Ramadan and stick that on the door to
educate readers passing by about the blessed month and what it means to Muslims.

03. Send neighbors Iftar snacks

Include a note with the food that the month of Ramadan is here and you are sharing your
joy with them.

You can offer snacks that are not just "Muslims" but also "non-Muslims" (i.e. American,
African, Middle Eastern, Indo-Pakistani, etc.). You can include index cards with the snacks
listing all of the ingredients. This will help neighbors avoid food that causes allergies.

04. Give kids Ramadan Mubarak balloons and candy

Let your neighbors' kids also feel the happiness of Ramadan by including chocolate and
candy among your snacks. Balloons also add a nice touch, and if you can get some printed
which have "Ramadan Mubarak" written on them, they may remember the blessed month
even after it has passed.

05. Publish Ramadan information in your neighborhood newsletter

If you are part of a tenants' association, a group within your housing complex or your
neighborhood block parents' association and they publish a newsletter, inform them about
Ramadan and prepare a short write-up about the month. This is a great way of informing
many more neighbors about Ramadan.

06. Have a neighborhood Iftar gathering

You don't have to invite everyone. Perhaps just the closest neighbors can attend this event.
Send handmade invitations for an "Iftar gathering" at most a week in advance (avoid the
word "party" as it may be misunderstood to mean a gathering including alcohol, loud music,
etc.).

Ask about allergies or other food issues before establishing the menu. Include vegetarian,
American and "ethnic" food.

Be sure to invite Muslim family and friends who are comfortable interacting with non-
Muslims to this event, and brief them about how they should properly share Ramadan with
the neighbors. Also, have some written material on Ramadan available for your guests.

At the gathering:

Be cordial, generous and friendly, but maintain Islamic rules of behavior and modesty. This
should not be a "party" in the common understanding, but more of a religious celebration
that is spiritual and respectful to all.

Don't impose information. Just let non-Muslim guests ask questions, if they want to. As well,
be ready for questions about Islam and violence/terrorism, the oppression of women, etc. Give
neighbors the benefit of the doubt and clarify their misunderstanding in a calm, gentle
manner.

07. Get your kids on it

Tell your kids to inform other neighbors' kids what Ramadan is all about and have the
children invite their classmates to your Iftar gatherings.

08. Talk about what Ramadan means to you

What's it like to fast? How do you work/go to school and still fast? These are some questions
you may be asked. Don't just point your guests to the pamphlets. Tell them and use some
personal examples they can relate to.

Adopted from soundvision.com with slight modifications.

Seventeen tips for Parents to Present Ramadan in your Child's Class:

Parents talking to their children's principals, teachers and classmates in public schools about
Ramadan are of immense importance. By doing so, Muslim children feel less awkward
identifying themselves as Muslims, since someone in an authority position has discussed
what they believe what they do. As a result, the children often feel more confident and
secure.

Well, Muslim children need to feel the importance of their own celebrations and holidays,
especially since we are living in a non-Muslim environment where kids don't see fancy lights
and decorations, commercial hoopla or consistent reminders of the "holiday season" during
Ramadan.

And of course, talking to your child's class about Ramadan is a great way to make Dawa to
non-Muslim kids and Muslim kids as well, in particular those who may come from non-
practicing Muslim families.

There are a couple of tips to keep in mind when approaching the school or your child's
teachers about presenting, as well as for how you present the information to the child's
class.
 01. Start early

Calling your child's teacher in the middle of Ramadan

asking to do a presentation on the topic is too late. Now,
less than a month before Ramadan is the best time to bring
up the issue, especially considering Christmas is coming up
and holidays are on the minds of most people, teachers and
students included.

Starting early also helps you think about and gather the right materials to make a good
presentation.

02. Get permission from your child's teacher

While parents do have a lot of clout in the school system, this does not allow them to show
up unexpectedly one day at their son or daughter's class to do a presentation on Ramadan.

Send a letter giving a general indication that you want something done about Ramadan.
Then wait for the teacher to call. If he or she does not do so within a week, call them and
tell them you are following up on the letter you sent earlier.

03. Select the right period in which to do the presentation

Does your child study Social Studies? Or does he or she have a period once a week for Moral
and Religious education? If so, suggest to the teacher that you would like to do the
presentation during these periods. Or, you can of course ask the teacher if he or she has
ideas about which time would be best to come in and do the presentation.

04. Be polite but firm

Speaking nicely to people is part of our Deen, including non-Muslims. We should remember
that the purpose of this exercise is to not just educate the students, but the teachers as
well. Being polite and courteous will not detract from your desire to present. It will serve to
build bridges and communication, and could lead to further contact to do presentations on
other Islam-related topics and more teacher-parent cooperation in the future, Insha Allah.

05. Ask the teacher what areas to cover and how long it should be

This helps to adjust your presentation to the age level of the students, as well as connect it
to what they are already learning. This doesn't mean you can't bring in other information,
but knowing what to cover from the teacher helps you put down what has to be covered and
from there you can develop more points on these or related topics. Asking how long the
presentation should be can also help you decide how much you can include in your
presentation.

06. Read, prepare, read, prepare

Now that you've gotten the permission, you don't just sit back and wait for the night before
the presentation to put it together.

Remember, if you want to appeal to the students, especially younger ones, you are going to
need more than just a talk. Visuals are a great help. You can get a Ramadan banner picture
of Muslims fasting, show part of a video aimed at children about Ramadan (see Adam's
World's Ramadan Mubarak video . To get the right material, you will have to find out where to
get it from, and ordering it might take a couple of weeks.

Preparing is important, even though you may have fasted all of your life and think you know
all about Ramadan. Get a children's Islamic book and read what it says about Ramadan. Or
an article written by a teenager about Ramadan. This will also help you understand what
points to emphasize in your presentation.

Reading up will also clarify any incorrect cultural norms that may have seeped into the
practice of Ramadan which you may not have been aware of. Talk to a knowledgeable
Muslim for advice as well.

07. Talk to your son or daughter about the presentation

Who would know better the mind set of the kids in the class than your son or daughter?
Consult them about what to include, what the kids like, what kind of things they are
interested in. Not only will this improve your presentation, Insha Allah, but it will also make
Ameena or Saeed feel important and more confident as individuals, and as Muslims.

08. A few days before the presentation

Call the teacher to check the date and time of the schedule. This will serve to remind him or
her about your visit and prepare the class accordingly. It will also help you get the exact
time and date.

09. Write presentation points on note cards

Reading off papers about Ramadan will not hold the interest of many people, young or old.
Instead, writing brief notes on note cards that you can look at so you don't miss any topic
will help you avoid straying from the subject while allowing you to make eye contact with
your audience and maintain a conversational style of presentation.

10. Practice your presentation in front of your son/daughter

Practicing helps you identify what can be improved, changed or omitted. Practicing in front
of Ameena will give you the opportunity to present before one of the kids in the class who
can really give you the best advice.

It will also help you time your presentation, so you can make it shorter or longer.

11. Dress for success

This does not mean pulling out the Armani suit or the most expensive dress you have. It just
means looking as a Muslim should-clean, respectable, professional and Islamically covered.
Clothes don't always "make the man" but they do affect others' perception of you.

12. Be early

Teachers and students are busy people. They have a certain curriculum to cover. The fact
that they've squeezed in your presentation is somewhat of a privilege. Don't take advantage
of this by wasting their time by coming late. And anyways, Muslims should be on time as a
principle.

Coming early can also help you set up your audio visual material.
13. Make Dua...

Before your presentation. Ask Allah to help you convey this message sincerely, properly and
clearly. And say Bismillah.

14. Speak calmly and clearly

It's important not to race through the presentation, nor to talk too slowly. A clear,
conversational style, but emphasis on the major points or terms you want the students to
understand can help convey the message properly.

15. When answering questions

If you don't know something, say so. Then check up on it and get back to the teacher. Ask
him or her to convey the response.

16. Thank Allah...

For this opportunity He blessed you with and your ability to go through with it.

17. Send a thank you note to the teacher and class...

Thanking them for their time and attention, as well as their cooperation.

Adopted from soundvision.com with slight modifications.