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THE BURDEN OF SHYNESS

What is shyness?

Shyness means:
Discomfort-Anxiety
Awkwardness-Unease
Reserved
Reticent-Quit
Backward
Hesitant
Modest-Humble
Insecure-Lacking Confidence
Fearful-Afraid
Nervous-Worried
Suspicious
Cautious-Watchful
Distrustful-Doubtful
Suspicious

How to defeat shyness:

• Identifying fear provoking thoughts


• Setting of goal
• Learning new conversational skills
• Entering into a conversation group
• Question – asking
• Giving and receiving compliments
• Learning assertion skills-How to say “No”
• Practicing skills you already have
• Selecting appropriate practice opportunities
• Preparing a dialogue in advance Learning to build self-confidence
• Maintaining positive attitude
• Seeing failures as milestones to success
• Believing that any situation is an ongoing learning process irrespective of
success or failure.
Motivational Stories:

Everything Happens For The Good

There was once a King who had a wise advisor. The advisor followed the King
everywhere, and his favorite advice was, “Everything happens for the good”. One day
the King went hunting and had a little accident. He shot an arrow at his own foot and
was injured. He asked the advisor what he thought about the accident, to which the
advisor replied, “Everything happens for the good”. This time the King was really
upset and ordered for his advisor to be put in prison. The King asked his advisor, “Now,
what do you think?” The advisor again replied, “Everything happens for the good”. So
the advisor remained in prison.

The King later went on a hunting trip, this time without the advisor. The King was then
captured by some cannibals. He was taken to the cannibals' camp where he was to be
the evening meal for the cannibals. Before putting him into the cooking pot he was
thoroughly inspected. The cannibals saw the wound on the King’s foot and decided to
throw him back into the jungle. According to the cannibals' tradition, they would not
eat anything that was imperfect. As a result the King was spared. The King suddenly
realized what his advisor said was true. The advisor also escaped death because had
he not been in prison, he would have followed the King on the hunting trip, and would
have ended up in the cooking pot.

Success Principles

It is true that everything in life happens for a purpose, and always for our own good. If
you think about it, all our past experiences actually happened to bring us to where we
are today and it is always for the good. All the past experiences make us a better
person. So, whatever challenges that we may face today, consider it happening to
bring us to the next level.
My Dog Can Walk On Water

There was a hunter who came into the possession of a special bird dog. The dog was
the only one of its kind, because it can walk on water. One day he invited a friend to
go hunting with him so that he could show off his prized possession. After some time,
they shot a few ducks, which fell into the river. The man ordered his dog to run and
fetch the birds. The dog ran on water to fetch the birds. The man was expecting a
compliment about the amazing dog, but did not receive it. Being curious, he asked his
friend if the friend had noticed anything unusual about the dog. The friend replied,
“Yes, I did see something unusual about your dog. Your dog can’t swim!”

Success Principles

More than 90% of the people that we face everyday are negative. They choose to look
at the hole in the middle rather than the doughnut. Do not expect compliments or
encouragement from them. These are the people who cannot pull you out of your
present situation. They can only push you down. So be aware of them, spend less time
with them, and do not let them steal your dreams away from you.
Two frogs

A group of frogs were traveling through the woods, and two of them fell into a deep
pit. When the other frogs saw how deep the pit was, they told the two frogs that they
were as good as dead. The two frogs ignored the comments and tried to jump up out
of the pit with all their might. The other frogs kept telling them to stop, that they
were as good as dead. Finally, one of the frogs took heed to what the other frogs were
saying and gave up. He fell down and died.

The other frog continued to jump as hard as he could. Once again, the crowd of frogs
yelled at him to stop the pain and just die. He jumped even harder and finally made it
out. When he got out, the other frogs said, "Did you not hear us?" The frog explained
to them that he was deaf. He thought they were encouraging him the entire time.

This story teaches two lessons:

1. There is power of life and death in the tongue. An encouraging word to someone
who is down can lift them up and help them make it through the day.

2. A destructive word to someone who is down can be what it takes to kill them.

Be careful of what you say. Speak life to those who cross your path. The power of
words... it is sometimes hard to understand that an encouraging word can go such a
long way. Anyone can speak words that tend to rob another of the spirit to continue in
difficult times. Special is the individual who will take the time to encourage another.
The changing role of MNCs

Multinationals are like the Amitabh / Govinda starrer Bade Miya, Chhote Miya. You may
like it or dislike it but cannot ignore it. Multinationals (MNCs) have both votaries and
detractors but they continue to operate with changing roles. India’s first publicized
encounter with an MNC was the East India Company. In those days, MNCs had two
major roles and several consequences —intended and unintended. One role was to
conduct trade and the other was to transport flora and fauna to augment the
resources. Witness the ubiquitous presence of potatoes in India!

We all love economic activity for its benefits. However, economic activity comes
wrapped in cellophanous political ambition which is not clearly visible. The East India
Company’s role as a trader required protection and support and the British
Government provided that by bringing the country under its rule. Colonialism has
strong political and economic underpinnings and MNCs have often initiated,
established and exploited the process. The 18th and most of the 19th century saw
more of the same. The Industrial Revolution and a stable government did bring the
establishment of manufacturing units, transfer of technology and creation of a local
entrepreneurial and managerial cadre. The business model underwent changes and
MNCs were now marketing in India goods made in UK, manufacturing textiles,
engineering goods, processed commodities, chemicals etc. and sourcing raw and
processed material for export to UK. The MNCs brought with them a culture which was
alien but useful in introducing certain practices and values.

The business activity of the MNCs coupled with the introduction of education and
availability of jobs affected the social organization profoundly. What we find today as
a given was in good measure a result of MNC activity. A relative had to be purified with
smea- ring of cowdung for traveling overseas. Later overseas travel which was taboo
was encouraged by the opportunity for trade and jobs.

Focus on research

Another role that the MNCs have played, albeit in a small way, is to bring in research
as part of managing the enterprise through product and process development. Very
few MNCs set up research stations in India but many employed scientists for process
and product development as well as pure research scientists. The Hindustan Lever
research centres, Mahyco’s agricultural research centre and a whole host of them
moving to India now like SKF, Glaxo etc. are part of the trend....
Multinational Companies in India

The post financial liberation era in India has experienced huge influx of 'Multinational
Companies in India' and propelled India's economy to greater heights.

Although, majority of these companies are of American origin but it did not take too
long for other nations to realize the huge potential that India Inc offers. 'Multinational
Companies in India' represent a diversified portfolio of companies representing
different nations. It is well documented that American companies accounts for around
37% of the turnover of the top 20 firms operating in India. But, the scenario for 'MNC in
India' has changed a lot in recent years, since more and more firms from European
Union like Britain, Italy, France, Germany, Netherlands, Finland, Belgium etc have
outsourced their work to India. Finnish mobile handset manufacturing giant Nokia has
the second largest base in India. British Petroleum and Vodafone (to start operation
soon) represent the British. A host of automobile companies like Fiat, Ford Motors, and
Piaggio etc from Italy have opened shop in India with R&D wing attached. French
Heavy Engineering major Alstom and Pharma major Sanofi Aventis is one of the earliest
entrants in the scene and is expanding very fast. Oil companies, Infrastructure builders
from Middle East are also flocking in India to catch the boom. South Korean electronics
giants Samsung and LG Electronics and small and mid-segment car major Hyundai
Motors are doing excellent business and using India as a hub for global delivery. Japan
is also not far behind with host of electronics and automobiles shops. Companies like
SingTel of Singapore and Malaysian giant Salem Group are showing huge interest for
investment.

In spite of the huge growth India Inc have some bottlenecks, like –

• Irrational policies (tax structure and trade barriers).


• Low invest in infrastructure - physical and information technology.
• Slow reforms (political reforms to improve stability, privatization and
deregulation, labor reforms).

Reports say, performance of 3 out of every 4 'Multinational Companies' has met or


exceeded internal targets and expectations. India is perceived to be at par with China
in terms of FDI attractiveness by 'Multinational Companies in India'. In view of
'Multinational Companies' community, it ranks higher than China, Malaysia, Thailand,
and Philippines in terms of MNC performance. Multinational Companies Operating in
India cite India's highly educated workforce, management talent, rule of law,
transparency, cultural affinity, and regulatory environment as more favorable than
others. Moreover, they acknowledged, India's leadership in IT, business processing, and
R&D investments. 'Multinational Companies in India' are bullish on –

• India's market potential.


• Labor competitiveness.
• Macro-economic stability.
• FDI attractiveness.
Ancient India Tales

Right and Might

WHILE a deer was eating wild fruit, he heard an owl call "Haak, haak" (a spear), and a
cricket cry, "Wat" (surrounded), and, frightened, he fled. In his flight he ran through
the trees up into the mountains and into streams. In one of the streams the deer
stepped upon a small fish and crushed it almost to death. Then the fish complained to
the court, and the deer, owl, cricket, and fish had a lawsuit. In the trial came out this
evidence:

As the deer fled, he ran into some dry grass, and the seed fell into the eye of a wild
chicken, and the pain of the seed in the eye of the chicken caused it to fly up against
a nest of red ants. Alarmed, the red ants flew out to do battle, and in their haste, bit
a mongoose. The mongoose ran into a vine of wild fruit and shook several pieces of it
on the head of a hermit who sat thinking under a tree. "Why did you, O fruit, fall on
my head?" cried the hermit. The fruit answered: "We did not wish to fall; a mongoose
ran against our vine and threw us down." And the hermit asked, “O mongoose, why did
you throw the fruit?" The mongoose answered: "I did not wish to throw down the fruit,
but the red ants bit me, and I ran against the vine." The hermit asked, “O ants, why
did you bite the mongoose?" The red ants replied: "The hen flew against our nest and
angered us." The hermit asked: “O hen, why did you fly against the red ants' nest?" And
the hen replied: "The seed fell into my eyes and hurt me." And the hermit asked, “O
seed, why did you fall into the hen's eyes?" And the seed replied: "The deer shook me
down." The hermit said unto the deer, "O deer, why did you shake down the seed?" The
deer answered: "I did not wish to do it, but the owl called, frightening me, and I ran."
"O owl," asked the hermit, "why did you frighten the deer?" The owl replied: "I called,
but as I am accustomed to call---the cricket, too, called."

Having heard the evidence, the judge said, "The cricket must replace the crushed
parts of the fish and make it well," as he, the cricket, had called and frightened the
deer. The cricket was smaller and weaker than the owl or the deer, therefore had to
bear the penalty.
The Man in the Moon

THERE was a blacksmith once who complained: "I am not well, and my work is too
warm. I want to be a stone on the mountain. There it must be cool, for the wind blows
and the trees give a shade." A wise man who had power over all things replied: "Go
you, be a stone." And he was a stone, high up on the mountain-side. It happened that
a stone-cutter came that way for a stone, and when he saw the one that had been the
blacksmith, he knew that it was what he sought, and he began to cut it. The stone
cried out: "This hurts! I no longer want to be a stone. A stone-cutter I want to be. That
would be pleasant." The wise man, humoring him, said, "Be a cutter." Thus he became
a stone-cutter, and as he went seeking suitable stone, he grew tired, and his feet were
sore. He whimpered, “I no longer want to cut stone. I would be the sun; that would be
pleasant." The wise man commanded, “Be the sun." And he was the sun. But the sun
was warmer than the blacksmith, than a stone, than a stone-cutter, and he
complained, "I do not like this. I would be the moon. It looks cool." The wise man
spoke yet again, "Be the moon." And he was the moon. "This is warmer than being the
sun," murmured he, "for the light from the sun shines on me ever. I do not want to be
the moon. I would be a smith again. That, verily, is the best life." But the wise man
replied, “I am weary of your changing. You wanted to be the moon; the moon you are,
and it you will remain."

And in yon high heaven lives he to this day.


The Legend of the Rice

IN the days when the earth was young and all things were better than they now are,
when men and women were stronger and of greater beauty, and the fruit of the trees
was larger and sweeter than that which we now eat, rice, the food of the people, was
of larger grain. One grain was all a man could eat; and in those early days, such, too,
was the merit of the people, they never had to toil gathering the rice, for, when ripe,
it fell from the stalks and rolled into the villages, even unto the granaries. And upon a
year when the rice was larger and more plentiful than ever before, a widow said to
her daughter "Our granaries are too small. We will pull them down and build larger."
When the old granaries were pulled down and the new one not yet ready for use, the
rice was ripe in the fields. Great haste was made, but the rice came rolling in where
the work was going on, and the widow, angered, struck a grain and cried, "Could you
not wait in the fields until we were ready? You should not bother us now when you are
not wanted." The rice broke into thousands of pieces and said "From this time forth,
we will wait in the fields until we are wanted," and from that time the rice has been
of small grain, and the people of the earth must gather it into the granary from the
fields.
The Lord Krishna and the Lapwing's Nest

IT was the battle of Kurukshetra. The white conch shells were about to sound, the
elephants to march forward, and the attack of the archers to commence. The moment
was brief and terrible. Banners were flying, and the charioteers preparing for the
advance. Suddenly a little lapwing, who had built her nest in the turf of a hillock in
the midst of the battlefield, drew the attention of the Lord Krishna by her cries of
anxiety and distress for her young. "Poor little mother!" he said tenderly, "let this be
thy protection!" And, lifting a great elephant-bell that had fallen near, he placed it
over the lapwing's nest. And so, through the eighteen days of raging battle that
followed, a lapwing and her nestlings were kept in safety in their nest, by the mercy
of the lord, even in the midst of the raging field of Kurukshetra.
The Peacock and the Tortoise

ONCE upon a time a peacock and a tortoise became great friends. The peacock lived
on a tree on the banks of the stream in which the tortoise had his home; and daily the
peacock after he had a drink of water danced near the stream and displayed his gay
plumage for the amusement of his friend. One unfortunate day, a bird-catcher who
was on the prowl caught the peacock and was about taking him away to the market.
The unhappy bird begged of his captor to allow him to bid his friend the tortoise good-
bye, as it would be the last time he would see him. The bird-catcher allowed him his
prayer and took him to the tortoise, who was greatly moved to see his friend a
captive. The tortoise asked the bird-catcher to let the peacock go; but he laughed at
the request, saying that was his means of livelihood. The tortoise then said, "If I make
you a handsome present, will you let my friend go?" "Certainly," answered the bird-
catcher that is all I want." Whereupon the tortoise dived into the water and in a few
seconds came up with a handsome pearl, which, to the great astonishment of the bird-
catcher, he handed to him. This was beyond his expectations, and he let the peacock
go immediately. A short time after, the avaricious man came back and told the tortoise
that he thought he had not paid enough for the release of his friend, and threatened
that, unless a match to that pearl was obtained for him, he would again catch the
peacock. The tortoise, who had already advised his friend to betake himself to a
distant jungle on being set free, was greatly enraged at the greed of this man. "Well,"
said the tortoise, "if you insist on having another pearl like it, give it to me and I will
fish you out an exact match for it." The cupidity of the bird-catcher prevented his
reasoning that "one in the hand was equal to two in the bed of the stream," and he
speedily gave the pearl to the wily tortoise, who swam out with it saying, "I am no fool
to take one and give two!" and forthwith disappeared, leaving the bird-catcher to be
sorry ever after for his covetousness.
Let's See On Which Side The Camel Sits

ONCE a greengrocer and a potter jointly hired a camel and each filled one side of the
pannier with his goods. The camel as he went along the road took a mouthful every
now and then, as he had a chance, from the green-grocer's bag of vegetables. This
provoked a laugh from the potter, who thought he had the best of the bargain. But the
time came for the camel to sit, and he naturally sat on the heavier side, bearing down
on the pots, and also to have his mouth free to operate on the bag of greens. This
caused the pots to break in the bag, and then the greengrocer had all the laugh to
himself.
The Washerman and The Donkey

A STORY is told of an over-credulous washerman who was childless. This preyed upon
his mind very much and was a permanent cause of unhappiness. One day, in the course
of his work, he went to the house of the town kazi (or magistrate). He heard the kazi
reproaching one of his pupils in this wise: "Not long ago you were a jackass; I made a
man of you," etc. The washer-man did not wait to hear the rest. He hastened home
with all speed and told his wife that he had made a discovery which they were to lose
no time in utilizing. "The kazi, my dear," said the washerman "can make a man of a
donkey. Why should we fret any longer for a child? Let us take our donkey to him and
beg of him to transform him." The washerman and his wife, with their donkey, were
shortly after this conversation on their way to the kazi.
Their mission being explained with many supplications, the kazi, quick-sighted, and
with an eye to business, accepted the charge, and promised to affect the
metamorphosis in a year. The washerman on his part promised to give his services free
for that period. A year passed in waiting and in happy hopes. On the appointed day the
washerman and his companion presented themselves before the kazi. The kazi took
them aside and pointed out a strong young man among his pupils. "There," he
whispered to the washerman, "is your donkey. You see the change: now persuade him
and take him home." The washerman and his wife flew to their newly created son, and
with many endearing terms prepared to embrace him and made other affectionate
advances. Amazed at this unaccountable conduct of these low people, the lad resisted
at first, but as they persisted, he grew furious. After receiving many a cuff from the
lad, a happy idea struck the washerman's wife: turning to her husband she said, "Go
you and fetch his peg, rope, and grain-bag; perhaps they may remind him of what he
was once." The washerman in hot haste went home and fetched them. But it seemed
to make matters worse. The washerman held up each of these articles to the young
man's view, and said, in the most persuasive tone he could command, "Come home, my
son. Do you forget the day you were my donkey? This was the peg to which I would
tether you, this your tether rope, and this your food-bag; come to your home!" By this
time a jeering crowd had gathered round the young man, and this so infuriated him
that he turned to and gave the washerman the soundest thrashing he had ever
received in his life. The poor dupe of a washerman---the story says---went home
thoroughly convinced that what fate had ordained it was useless to fight against,
looking upon his punishment as a just return for his presumption.

The Seven Weavers and The Field of Flax

SEVEN weavers once started on a moonlight journey. They had not gone very far from
their home when they lost the road. After trying to find their way, they came to a field
of flax, which they took to be a river, as the field was in flower, and they fancied the
blue color of the flower to be that of water. They stripped themselves and began
swimming. After hard labor, they got across. To make certain that no one was
drowned, they took the precaution of counting themselves before resuming their
journey; but they discovered that one of them was missing, as each forgot to count
himself. Grieved at the loss of one of their company, they had not the heart to pursue
their journey, but returned home.

Some Proverbs:

• SELF PRAISE is no praise.

• The young crow is wiser than its mother.

• What is play to one is death to another.

• In a treeless country, the castor-oil plant is a big tree

• A scalded cat dreads cold water.

• The washerman never tears his father's clothes.

• A fool went to fish, but lost his fishing-basket.


• A thief is a thief, whether he steals a diamond or a cucumber.

• God takes care of a blind cow.

• One who cannot dance blames the floor.