BDSM Checklist

This checklist can be filled out by a Sub and provided to their Dom/Top before playing with them. This will provide a quick "head-start" to identifying limits negotiating and finding common ground for play. Dominants may wish to work through the checklist to get a better handle on their specific interests. Switches should go through the checklist twice! one persons Dom and Sub interests may be very different. "or each item you need to provide two answers# $%perience &ave you had real time e%perience with the activity' (ndicate )$S or *+ ne%t to each item. ,rite */- if it does not apply to your gender. ,illingness -re you willing/open to try an activity' "or each item indicate the degree to which you are willing to try that particular activity by rating it on a scale of *+ or .-/ 0see rating scale below1. (f you write "no" it means you will not do that item under any circumstance 0a hard limit1. There is nothing wrong with indicating 2no2 on an item. &owever if you write 2no2 ne%t to every item you should probably find another interest to pursue.... like knitting or basket weaving. 3grin3 (f you do not understand what an activity is mark that item with a "'". 4ark with an asterisk 031 those items which you are willing to do only with your current se% partner0s1 but not with casual play partners 5ating Scale 6tterly no desire to do that activity and don7t like doing it 0in fact may loath it1 and ordinarily would ob8ect to doing it but . you would permit the Dominant to do it if they really wanted it 0sometimes called a soft limit1 Don7t want to do or like to do this activity but wouldn7t ob8ect 9 it if was asked of you : ,illing to do this activity but it has no special appeal for you 6sually like doing this activity at least on an ; irregular/occasional basis )ou like doing this activity and would like to e%perience it on < a regular basis (s a wild turn-on for you and you would like it as often as / possible *ote any additional information or nuances which might be important for your Dom to know in the comments section. There is intentionally some overlap between categories. 6nless otherwise stated the sub is the recipient/target of the activity

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: / 6gh ( love this so much it2s not even funny ?ut only if (2m the bottom @@

-nal Se% -nal >lugs 0small1 -nal >lugs 0large1 -nal >lug 0public under clothes1 -nimal 5oles -rm A leg sleeves 0armbinders1 -romas -sphy%iation -uctioned for charity ?all Stretching ?athroom use control ?eastiality ?eating 0soft1 ?eating 0hard1 ?lindfolding ?eing Serviced 0se%ual1 ?eing bitten

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,ould want to try the small plugs first #p

(2m a squirrel furry... that counts right'

*ot sure what this refers to in this conte%t "uck no.

This... this is different from spanking right'

?ite me harder #p

?lood >lay ?reast/chest bondage ?reath control

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. ; *o Bet away from my ability to breathe. ( am not okay with that C.C ( want everyone to see that someone owns me @D@

?randing ?oot ,orship ?ondage 0light1 ?ondage 0heavy1 ?ondage 0multi-day1 ?ondage 0public under clothing1 ?reast whipping ?rown showers 0scat1 =ages 0locked inside1 =aning

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E; "uck yes. Fery curious about ttrying this now This would be interesting #G +wH )uck.

=astration fantasy

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*ot a fetish thing. ?ut Se%ual 5eassignment Surgery is my eventual goal lol ( prefer... you know #p

=atheteriIation =attle prod 0electrical toy1 =ells/=losets 0locked inside of1 =hains

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This... might trigger my claustrophobia. ?ut (2d be willing to try at least once >retty curious about this

=hamber pot use =hastity belts =hauffeuring =hoking

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: < ; *o *ot being able to breathe is a serious phobia of mine C.C ( wanna be a maid and forced to serve in whatever way ( can @D@

=hores 0domestic service1 =lothespins =ock rings/straps =ock worship =ollars 0worn in private1 =ollars 0worn in public1 =ompetitions 0with other subs1 =orsets 0wearing casually1 =orsets 0trained waist reduction1 =uffs 0leather1 =uffs 0metal1 =utting Diapers 0wearing1 Diapers 0wetting1

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( wouldn2t mind worshipping someone else2s cock #p

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; < < ; ; ; ; . / / +nly like... my biggest kink C.C (t... shutup it feels nice This... would give me a nice figure wouldn2t it' #p This sounds pretty fun #p

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"ear 0being scared1 "isting 0anal1 "isting 0vaginal1 "lame play "ollowing orders "oot worship "orced bedwetting

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: : Doesn2t really count for me... yet : < 9 < (... don2t have to be JforcedK but ( woudln2t mind it #p "orce me into a maid2s costume or something please #p ( need to lose weight not gain itH ( don2t need to be forced to have kinky times with girls #p ( definitely don2t need to be forced to have kinky times with guys #p ; : ; / *o *o *o no no. (2d rather my face be uncovered. (2m a good sub @@

forced dressing

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"orced eating

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"orced homose%uality

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"orced heterose%uality "orced masturbation "orced nudity 0private1 "orced nudity 0around others1 "orced Servitude "orced smoking "ull head hoods

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Bags 0cloth1 Bags 0inflatable1 Bags 0phallic1 Bags 0rubber1 Bags 0tape1 Bas masks Bates of &ell 0male1

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Benital se%

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4mm spankings

( want to serve you in any way ( can @D@ ( won2t say no but (2d rather give them @D@ This sounds like it could be really fun lol

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&ousework is boring unless (2m being forced into it #p (2m a squirrel not a puppyH E; &umiliation +& 4) B+D )$S ( would /love/ to be hypnotised ( have super sensitive skin which makes this a particularly fun way to torture me #p

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(mmobiliIation (nfantilism (nitiation rites (n8ections (ntricate 0Lapanese1 rope bondage (nterrogations Midnapping Mneeling Mnife play Neather =lothing Neather restraints Nectures for misbehavior Nicking 0non-se%ual1 Ningerie 0wearing1 4anacles and (rons 4anicures 0giving1 4assage 0giving1 4assage 0receiving1 4edical scenes 4odeling for erotic photos 4outh bits

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( love being restrained so ( can2t move E; )esssss

-ny bondage is good bondage

Talk to me like (2m a child please E; (s cute E;

(... love having naughty pics taken of me as long as they look okay #p

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This might be a bit too far for me #p ,ell roleplaying is fun and sometimes that requires a name change +wH 4aybe one day...

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(2ve been told this is amaIing Spanking E; >lease let me cum !D! ( love to be made to ask permission E; >ublic humiliation is best humiliation

( am a bit of a masochist #p

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Does hormone replacement therapy count' ( dunno if ( could get into it over the phone.. (2d always be self conscious that someone is listening in #p

>hone se% 0serving Dom1

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>hone se% 0serving Dom7s friends1

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>hone se% 0commercial provider1 >iercing 0temporary play-pierce1 >iercing 0permanent1 >lastic surgery >rison scenes >rostitution 0public pretense1 >rostitution 0actual1 >ony slave

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. : 9 ; : : 9 ; $%posure as in nudity' =ould be fun to have my skirt lifted up while (2m wearing something... embarrassing #p ( would like to be prettier #p but how is th is a kink'

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; 9 9 ; 9 ; . < *o religious anything thanks ( am a child and need to behave #; +, (2d rather worship penises #p

5ubber/late% clothing 5ope body harness Saran wrap Scarification Scratching - getting Scratching - giving Sensory deprivation Serving Serving as art Serving as ashtray Serving as furniture Serving as a maid

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; ; 9 ; ; ; < < 9 . ; < ( wouldn2t make very pretty art $w no. Minda curious ,ould love to do this to my dom0me1 and all his/her friends #p ,ouldn2t mind trying this but don2t think (2d en8oy it much -nd this is where ( draw the line lol This is similar to the maid idea isn2t it' ( really should 8ust get ths over with and do it #p This could be fun ?lindfolds count right'

Serving as a toilet 0urine1 Serving as a toilet 0feces1 Serving as waitress/waiter Serving orally 0se%ual1 Serving other Doms 0supervised1 Serving other Doms 0unsupervised1

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Se%ual deprivation 0short term1 Se%ual deprivation 0long term1 Shaving 0body hair1

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Shaving 0head hair1 Skinny dipping Sleep deprivation Sleep sacks

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Slutty clothing 0private1

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Slutty clothing 0public1

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Spande% clothing Spanking Speech restrictions 0when/what1 Speculums 0anal1 Speculums 0vaginal1 Spitting Spreader bars

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; / ; 9 9 : ; (f (2m going to have my legs forced apart (2d rather it be done with &arderH #p

multiple diapers #; *ot for too long though ( tend to get too wrapped up in my thoughts which can lead to bad things !D!

Standing in corner

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Stocks

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; This might be a little too restrained for my claustrophobia but ( woudln2t mind trying it Seems fun but ( think (2d prefer the real thing #p

Straight 8ackets

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Strap-on-dildos 0sucking on1 Strap-on-dildos 0penetrated by1 Strap-on-dildos 0wearing1 Strapping 0full body beating1 Suspension 0upright1 Suspension 0inverted1 Supplying new partners for Dom Swallowing feces Swallowing semen Swallowing urine Swapping 0with one other couple1 Swinging 0multiple couples1 Tampon training 0in

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/5eally/ want to try this

$www +nly my own so far but that will change soon E; ( really would rather not. =ould be fun #p Does polyamoury count'

ass1 Tattooing Teasing T$*S unit 0electrical toy1 Thumb cuffs 0metal1 Tickling Triple >enetration 6rethral Sounds 0metal rods1 6niforms (ncluding others Faginal dildo Ferbal humiliation Fibrator on genitals Fiolet wand 0electrical toy1 Foyeurism 0watching others1 Foyeurism 0your Dom w/others1 Fideo 0watching others1 Fideo 0recordings of you1 *o )es *o *o )es *o *o *o *o */)es )es *o *o *o )es / / : < < < -s in porn' )es ( do occasionally do that #p (f (2m looking okay ( love having naughty videos of me taken #p -ny humiliation is good humiliation "eels amaIing E; : / : ; ; 9 *o < < Definitely would be lots of fun E; ( want to be tickled until ( wet myself C.C 0which has happened C///E1 Sounds painful oDo *o no no. ( kinda do want a tattoo +h my fuck yes please Minda curious

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