ENGLISH TEACHING RESOURCE CENTRE COMPETITION

AUTUMN 2011
Think where mans glory most begins and ends, And say my glory was I had such friends (W.B. eats, Irish !oet"

CLASSES 11 12 - 13

NAMES and CLASS: .... TEACHERS NAME: ... SCHOOL: ... Dead !ne: 21 N"#e$%e& 2011 SCORE: #...$%&' !oints I( )'%% T*+ +(,-I.* T+A/*I(, 0+.120/+ /+(T0+ *A. /*1.+( 310 IT. A2T24( /145+TITI1( T*+ T15I/6 PEOPLE AND RELATIONSHIPS. PART ONE I. AB12T T*+ 71/AB2-A0 12 (++8 T1 TA-9 AB12T 5+15-+ A(8 0+-ATI1(.*I5. A(8 IT I(/-28+. (12(. A(8 A8:+/TI7+., I8I14. A48 /1--1/ATI1(.. PART T'O 133+0. 12 .14+ 5A..A,+. T1 0+A8 WIT* A 7A0I+T 13 TA.9.. PART THREE I. A W0ITI(, TA.9 I( /1((+/TI1( WIT* T*+ T15I/. T*+ 0+.120/+ /+(T0+ *15+. T*AT 12 WI-- +(:1 B1T* T*+ T15I/ A(8 T*+ -A(,2A,+ TA.9. T1 B+ .1-7+8. PART ONE: (OCA)ULAR* RELATIONSHIPS TO TAL+ A)OUT PEOPLE AND

I. PEOPLE. Ma,-. ,/e #e "0 ,.e 0" "/!n1 -" "23!a na$e4 0"& -e&,a!n 5!nd4 "0 6e"6 e /!,. ,.e -"&&e-, de4-&!6,!"n %e "/. T.e&e a&e ,/" e76&e44!"n4 ,.a, 8"3 need n", 34e. '&!,e ,.e an4/e&4 a0,e& ea-. 4en,en-e. a battle-axe, a busybody, a clock-watcher, a crank, a dare-devil, a day-dreamer, a lone wolf, a name- dropper, a pain in the neck, a rolling stone, a slob, a slow coach, a tomboy, a wind-bag

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*es always got his head in the clouds, always fantasi;ing. ########### .hes <ery in=uisiti<e about my !ri<ate life. ################... *e lo<es taking dangerous risks. #####################. *e cant settle down, he goes from @ob to @ob and !lace to !lace. ########... .hes <ery aggressi<e and bossy. .he likes to dominate. ############ *es always slow and behind the others in his work or studies. #########.. %

C. *es a real nuisance. I cant stand him. ##################... &. .hes a girl who likes to !lay rough, boys games. ##############.. D. .he talks on and on about her o!inions and ideas. ##############. %'. *e dresses and beha<es in a <ery careless, often disgusting way. ########... %%. .he likes to mention all the famous and im!ortant !eo!le she has met. ######.. %). *e likes to do things on his own. #####################. (%) !oints" II. FRIENDS T.e 0" "/!n1 !4 a !4, "0 d!00e&en, 5!nd4 "0 0&!end4 9and a 0e/ a44"-!a,e4 and ene$!e4:. P3, ea-. "ne !n ,.e $"4, 43!,a% e 46a-e !n ,.e 4en,en-e4 %e "/. a-23a!n,an-e a44"-!a,e %"4"$-6a -"$6an!"n -"$6a,&!", -"n0!dan, 0a!&-/ea,.e& 0&!end $a,e " d 0 a$e 6a&,ne& &!#a 0"e

%. .he comes from the same country as me. .he is a$an ############. . ). *e and I own this business together. *e is my #############. . >. I<e known ,eorge for ages. Were really good old friends who s!end a lot of time together. *es my ###########.. . ?. *enry .omers wants the managers @ob and so do I. *es my #########. . A. Wanted6 sensible, wellEmannered girl to act as old ladys ###########. . B. .he used to be :ohns girlEfriend. .he is a$an ###########.. . C. In the darkness the soldier couldnt see whether the a!!roaching figure was friend or ########. . &. *e seems a good friend when things are going well, but when Im in trouble hes nowhere to be seen. Im afraid hes a$an ##############. . D. *es the !erson to whom I tell my most !ersonal thoughts, !roblems and fears. *e is my ########## . %'. If you cant afford to li<e on your own, youll ha<e to find a flatE######### . %%. I dont really know him <ery well. *es @ust a$an ############ . %). I @ust meet him occasionally when his firm and my firm work together. *es @ust a business ############. . (%) !oints" III. CHARACTER AND PERSONALITY. Read ,.&"31. ,.e 4,a,e$en,4 %e "/; ,.en de-!de ,.e -.a&a-,e& "& 6e&4"na !,8 "0 ,.e 6e"6 e /." 4a!d ,.e$. '&!,e ,.e n3$%e& "0 ,.e 4,a,e$en, ne7, ," ,.e ad<e-,!#e4 !n ,.e %"7. T.e&e a&e ,/" ad<e-,!#e4 ,.a, 8"3 d" n", need ," 34e. blunt determined superstitious willed callous indecisive thrifty cynical competitive fussy possessive understanding weak-

%. I dont really like my wife going out on her own or with her friends. I !refer her to s!end all her time with me. ). 1f course you can ha<e the afternoon off to <isit your wife in hos!ital. And take tomorrow off too, if you need to. 8ont worry, well manage. >. (o, I dont like your dress, actually. It makes you look fat. )

?. .hall I buy the blue curtains or the red onesF The blue ones are nice but the red ones will go better with the wall!a!er. 1n the other hand, 8a<id !refers blue. 1h, I dont know what to get. A. (o, Id better not ha<e a chocolate biscuit, thanks, Im on a diet. But they look nice, dont theyF 1h, all right then, @ust one. B. I ne<er walk under ladders. Its bad luckG C. Im always <ery careful with money. I ne<er buy anything I dont need, for eHam!le. &. 8ont forget to cut the fat off the bacon before you fry it and remember to use margarine not butter. And also make sure that the eggs are soft this time I you know hardEboiled eggs dont agree with me. D. *es only doing it for the !ublicity. I dont belie<e for one minute hes really interested in hel!ing mentally handica!!ed !eo!le. %'. Im going to get a book !ublished one day. Im @ust not going to gi<e u! until I do. (%' !oints" I(. PASSIONS: REACTIONS AND EMOTIONS. Ma,-. ,.e %e1!nn!n14 "0 ,.e 4en,en-e4 /!,. ,.e!& end!n14. '&!,e ,.e a66&"6&!a,e end!n1 !n ,.e 46a-e4 6&"#!ded. %. :im looks miserable but 0osa looks full of the @oys ############..#.. ). +<er since we mo<ed to the country I<e felt on to! ############..#. >. I<e li<ed abroad for years now but I still hanker ###########...###. ?. I stick to my diet but I still ha<e occasional cra<ings ###########.##. A. Biddy did her best to defuse ###################.#### B. They ha<e a!!ointed an officer to conciliate ################... C. I feel great !ity ############################. &. :oshs !arents were blissfully ignorant ################### D. Alicia has im!lacable #########################... %'. .ince I got the @ob, I feel as if I<e been walking ############### #.. hatred for in@ustice. #.. the tense situation. #.. for sick children. ..# of his !oor marks. ..# for chocolate. #.. after my mums cooking. ...... on air. ..# of s!ring. #.. of the world. .#. between the two sides. (%' !oints" (. N"/ 34e ,.e a66&"6&!a,e ad<e-,!#e4 0&"$ ,.e !4, ," $a5e COLLOCATIONS 9/"&d4 ,.a, 1" ,"1e,.e&: de4-&!%!n1 &e a,!"n4 and &e a,!"n4.!64 and -"$6 e,e ,.e 4en,en-e4. bad firm stable casual friendly close moral complete social cordial

%. I don know her well I were @ust ###########.. ac=uaintances. ). We ha<e been on #########. terms e<er since :ack refused to return the money I lent him. >. 3or many !eo!le the Internet !lays an im!ortant role in de<elo!ing #####.. networks. ?. :ack Whitley was a #########.. confidant of the 5rime 4inister in the %D&'s. >

A. Their relationshi! hasnt been <ery ########.. . They<e broken u! and got back together again se<eral times. B. .he told her entire life story to a ########. stranger on the train. C. Bethan and I ha<e been ######### friends for many years. &. Thanks for all the #########.. su!!ort you ga<e me when I needed it. D. 8es!ite their !olitical differences the two leaders ha<e always en@oyed .###### relations. %'. -eslie and I ha<e remained on ########. terms des!ite our !rofessional disagreements. (%' !oints" (I. IDIOMS ,.a, -"$$en, "n 6e"6 e. In ea-. "0 ,.e 0" "/!n1 4en,en-e4 "ne /"&d !4 /&"n1. C"&&e-, ,.e $!4,a5e4: -&"44 "3, ,.e /&"n1 /"&d and 1!#e ,.e &!1., "ne !n ,.e 46a-e 6&"#!ded a0,e& ea-. 4en,en-e. %. Im getting a bit fed u! with the way 4yra ra<es on and on for her new @ob. #####.. ). /harles is certainly bright but he u!sets others by being such a shar! aleck. ######. >. The way 0oger talks down to other !eo!le really goes on my ner<es. ...#######.. ?. our really need to use your brown matter to sol<e cry!tic crosswords. ...######.. A. .ue and -arry are the !erfect cou!leJ theyre done for each other. #########.. B. 4arks been in the business for years and he certainly knows whats that. ###### C. Im sorry I told +mma your !lans. I didnt mean to let the cat out of the house. ...###.. &. If you come and see me after the meeting, Ill make you in the !icture. #######.. D. Tinas <ery bright I youll ne<er be able to !ull the hat o<er her eyes. #...######. %'. our dad wasnt born today I hell guess what youre u! to. #...#########... ()' !oints" PART T'O: THE =OLLO'ING PASSAGES ARE A)OUT RELATIONSHIPS IN THE =AMIL* AND AMONG =RIENDS 'ITH A (ARIET* O= LANGUAGE TAS+S (II. Read ,.e ne/46a6e& a&,!- e %e "/. U4e ,.e /"&d4 !n ,.e %"7 "n ,.e &!1., ne7, ," ,.e !ne4 ," 0"&$ "ne /"&d ,.a, 0!,4 !n ,.e 4a$e n3$%e&ed 46a-e !n ,.e ,e7,. The Ritual of Givin The gi<ing of gifts has been !ractised in e<ery ................................ (%" e<er studied. It is a ........................ ()" human ritual that has a !lace in e<ery culture and religion. ,ifts are gi<en to mark occasions throughout life, such as ....................... (>", marriage and ............................. (?". .ociologists <iew gifts as a marker of the social relationshi! between gi<er and reci!ient. When friends swa! gifts, for eHam!le, there is an unwritten ................................. (A" that the gifts will be of roughly the same <alue, showing that the friends ha<e .................................... (B" of status. In hierarchical relationshi!s it is a different story. If an em!loyee and boss were eHchanging !resents, the boss would be eH!ected to gi<e a larger !resent. In return for this ................................. (C", the em!loyee would be eH!ected to both work hard and be .................................... (&". 91: CI(IL 92: )ASE 93: )ORN 9>: RETIRE 9?: E@PECT 9A: EBUAL 9C: GENEROUS 9D: RESPECT

(& !oints" (III. Read ,.e ,e7, %e "/ a%"3, T!O "ROTHERS and ,.en de-!de /.!-. /"&d %e4, 0!,4 ea-. 46a-e. SI"LING MEMORIES 4y brother and I used to fight a great deal as children. We did a ########. (%" of things together, not always in com!lete ######## ()". In ########.. (>", he actually ###########.. (?" my arm on one occasion. It meant that I missed the school eHams for that year, so I su!!ose that really he did me a ########. (A". Tony was a year older than me, so he was always first at doing things that I wanted to do I to ######### (B" in !ublic, for eHam!le, at school. I was full of ######.. (C" when, at fourteen, he got to !lay solo in a school concert at the /ity *all. I had to #######. (&" fifteen years before I could do the same as a !rofessional musician. *e definitely bla;ed a #########.. (D" for me. It was ob<ious that Tony was always going to be successful in his choice of career. When he had @ust left school and had ########.. (%'" a @ob as a designer ,lasgow, he was soon in demand from other com!anies wanting to #########. (%%" him !art of their team. 3or him music was @ust something that you ######### (%)" at school. And his #######. (%>" were always in the <isual arts I that was his main area of interest and ob<iously the ########## (%?" thing for him. When our mother was running an Art ,allery for a ########.. (%A" Tony, still in his teens, used to organise all the !ublicity for her I he was incredibly ##########. (%B". 1 2 3 > ? A C D E 10 11 12 13 1> 1? 1A A A A A A A A A A A A A A A A A lot concert essence ri!!ed courtesy !erform anHiety !ost!one !ath taken ha<e did feelings !recise turn !ractical ) ) ) ) ) ) ) ) ) ) ) ) ) ) ) ) deal unison fact smashed !ri<ilege !resent en<y delay road changed kee! made insights right time workable C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C C collection harmony general sna!!ed fa<our !roduce guilt sus!end trail resigned make !layed senses straight tour realistic D D D D D D D D D D D D D D D D =uantity unity reality broke benefit !ractice contem!t wait way abandoned get carried instincts !ro!er stage useful

(%B !oints" I@. C"$6 e,e ,.e 0" "/!n1 -a4e 4,3d8 "0 A TEENAGE GIRL. T.e ,e7, !4 6a&, "0 a ne/46a6e& a&,!- e /.!-. &e6"&,4 "n ,.e &e43 ,4 "0 a 43&#e8. S"$e /"&d4 a&e $!44!n1 0&"$ ,.e ,e7,. '&!,e ea-. $!44!n1 /"&d !n ,.e 1a6. U4e "n 8 "ne /"&d 0"& ea-. 1a6. I en#o$ hel%in %eo%le .enab Adekunie is %C. 3or the whole of her teenage years she has successfully shared a bedroom with her big sister in Islington, -ondon. .he says6 KWe ha<e identical taste #########. (%" music I maybe because we<e shared a room for so long, I dont know. 1ur tastes are so similar the only thing we e<er argue #########. ()" is when I want to !lay it louder. But e<en then we sort #########. (>" out.L .he is sur!rised to find she conforms so closely to the sur<eys stereoty!e of ####### (?" roomEsharer. .he said6 KWhen Im in a grou! of friends, Im more motherly than the ###..#### (A" in the grou!. I only had one friend who shared a room, but shes mo<ed out into ######### (B" own room so I guess Im the only one now.L KI<e ne<er had a fight at school,L she insists. KI cant a<oid trying to ######### (C" anybody. If I see them struggling in the street with their sho!!ing, I offer ######### (&" a hand. I offer my seat on buses, trains, e<erywhere. When the room gets messy, I dont ####### (D" clearing it u!. I know it sounds so!!y, but she does ####### (%'" same sometimes. Were <ery close.L .he doesnt really regard the bedroom as her !ersonal s!ace. KA!art from slee!ing I only go in there ######## (%%" do my hair or use my sisters com!uter,L she says. .enab recommends ha<ing a big sister in the bedroom to e<ery teenage girl6 KWhen I was an adolescent, ######### (%)" were things I wouldnt want to a!!roach my 4um with. But I ######.. (%>" say e<erything to my sister. KWe do ha<e arguments, about stu!id things, little things. But my mum has worked out that you can @ust lea<e us, and half an hour later well ha<e made it u! and be best friends again.L (%> !oints" @. RELATIONSHIPS: PRO"LEMS Read H! da4 6&!#a,e d!a&8; ,.en an4/e& ,.e 23e4,!"n4. 'ED 23 My relationship with Harry has been rather bumpy lately. Perhaps we should split up. THU 2> I hate being on bad terms with a colleague, but Gemma has been impossible lately. A bit of discord is normal now and again in offices, but things seem to have really turned sour. =RI 2?

So many ups and downs this wee . Harry, Gemma and now !ane and Sarah don"t see eye to eye. SAT 2A #it of a rift developing between Auntie $dna and cousin #ob. %his could become a real family feud. $dna"s side seem to hate #ob"s guts and don"t li e his wife either.

%. Are Bob and +dna becoming closer to each otherF ,i<e a reason. #.######. ###################################.. ). (ame one !erson *ilda works with. ###################.. >. 1n what day did *ilda consider ending a relationshi!F ############. ?. Which is correctF :ane and .arah a" ha<e sto!!ed seeing each other b" do not agree. A. Which !eo!le are running the risk of a longEterm =uarrel with their relationsF ###.. ################################### B. *ilda thinks !hysical fights are normal among colleagues. True or falseF #####... C. Which two !eo!le does *ilda ha<e a difficult relationshi! withF ######### ################################### &. +dnas family dislike Bob, but only slightly. True or falseF ###########. D. When things turn sour, it means a" there are !roblems, but only for a few minutes b" !eo!le get <ery angry c" relations which were good become bad. %'. 2!s and downs means a miH of good moments and bad moments. True or falseF ############# (%' !oints" @I. Read ,.e 0" "/!n1 ne/46a6e& a&,!- e !n /.!-. a $an ,a 54 a%"3, a -.! d.""d FRIENDSHIP. ="& 23e4,!"n4 1-A -.""4e /.!-. "0 ,.e 6a&a1&a6.4 A-G 0!, !n," ,.e n3$%e&ed 1a64. T.e&e !4 "ne e7,&a 6a&a1&a6. ,.a, d"e4 n", 0!, an8 "0 ,.e 1a64. "EST OF TIMES& !ORST OF TIMES I thought the world was ca<ing in, for the first time e<er I lost somebody I lo<edJ he didnt die, he @ust went away, but I still measure all !ain by the hurt 0enM caused me. It was a <ery nice childhood, an adolescence most !eo!le would wish to ha<e, we li<ed in a tiny <illage and were a close family. (%"#########. The ad<entures that children go through are the making of a friendshi!, building a tree house and s!ending a night in the forest I and losing our way back home, these things create a fantastic fabric to the friendshi!. There was the lo<ing element, too, he was <ery caring. 0enM was a tall bloke and <ery strong, and he would be my defender6 If anyone e<er teased me, he would be there. ()"#########.

And then at the age of %?, his family mo<ed to the south of 3rance, and we were in the east of 3rance, which is CA' kilometres away ### the south of 3rance sounded the end of the world. (>"#########. I went =uiet for the news to sink inJ at first it was sheer disbelief, numbness. I couldnt slee!, and then in the night I understood the im!act of the news, I understood that my life would be totally se!arate from his, and I had to be by myself, alone.

(?"#########. I had other friends, but ne<er did I achie<e that kind of closeness. 4y world com!letely colla!sed, and nothing was the same, !eo!le, the classroom, nature, the country, butterflies. (A"#########. *e acce!ted that life would se!arate us, he didnt see it as something final, it was my dramatic side to see only the negati<e side, selfE!ity in a way. *e is now li<ing a ha!!y life in 5ro<ence with a beautiful wife and two lo<ely daughters, and he is coming here neHt year, so it is going to be =uite wonderful. It is the first time he has e<er come to +ngland, hes a good 3renchman, and he doesnt s!eak a word of +nglish. (B"#########. It is a good, solid relationshi! that has been established o<er so many years, and has o<ercome all the barriers which life and time can create. I dont think it really could ha<e lasted the way it was. A It was the finest friendshi! anyone could ha<e, a brilliant !ure friendshi! in which you would gi<e your life for your friend. And life seemed mar<ellous, it seemed full of sunshine, full of incredible, beautiful things to disco<er and I looked forward so much to growing u! with 0enM. There is not a single bitter note, there are no !ower games, there is nothing secret, there is nothing which detracts from the !urity of it. 4aybe because he was more mature he understood a bit better that this was !art of life, that life brings !eo!le together and se!arates them, and distance is not necessarily the end. Well our !arents realised it would be <ery traumatic, and they did not know how to break the news, so they @ust announced it the day before. It was a beautiful summers day, around fi<e oclock in the e<ening and both !arents came and said6 KWe are mo<ing away, and ob<iously 0enM will ha<e to come with us.L 1ur neighbours had a son, and my wonderful childhood was shared with 0enMJ basically we grew u! together, we s!ent e<ery day together, went to school together, we did all the things that children can do. It was a childhood s!ent in the woods, disco<ering the beautiful seasons, there was an abundance of !roduce that grew in the wild, and we went mushrooming and frog hunting, and we searched for toadstools under a full moon in winter, which we would sell because my !arents didnt ha<e much money.

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*o!efully, we will se each other more, but it is not essential. We now ha<e a beautifully matured, adult friendshi! where it is easy to talk about anything because we feel totally at ease. And at that time my world sto!!ed, it was the most incredible !ain I ha<e e<er eH!erienced, I couldnt see life without my friend, my whole system, my life was based on 0enM, our friendshi! was my life. And although he was only going away, he did not die, it was the worst loss I ha<e e<er had in my life, still, now, and >' years later I ha<e not recei<ed another shock of that nature. (%) !oints:

@II. Read ,.e 0" "/!n1 ne/46a6e& a&,!- e !n /.!-. 0!#e 0a,.e&4 ,a 5 a%"3, PARENTHOOD. ="& 23e4,!"n4 1-1C; -.""4e 0&"$ ,.e 4e-,!"n4 A-E. S"$e "0 ,.e 4e-,!"n4 $a8 %e -."4en $"&e ,.an "n-e. '.en $"&e ,.an "ne an4/e& !4 &e23!&ed; ,.e4e $a8 %e 1!#en !n an8 "&de&. '&!,e ,.e e,,e& "0 8"3& an4/e& !n ,.e 46a-e 6&"#!ded. '.!-. 0a,.e& "& 0a,.e&4 tries to a<oid !hysical !unishmentF initially resented the restrictions of fatherhoodF made a conscious decision to ha<e a childF arranged his accommodation to be near his childrenF is in<ol<ed in the childrens daily routineF altered his !rofessional duties to take account of his childrenF share interests with his childrenF a!!reciated his children more as they grew olderF treated his children as if they were grown u!F doesnt force his children to maintain contact with himF was not as strict as his children would ha<e wishedF found his childrens interests hel!ed him with his @obF had their children close togetherF would ha<e liked to attend more school e<entsF did not want to re!eat his !arents mistakesF =ROM HERE TO PATERNIT* A T.e ,.ea,&e d!&e-,"& Because of my bi;arre !ersonal life, which I cannot be !roud of, I ha<e been blessed with >A years of small children and I can honestly say I ha<e lo<ed e<ery minute. I had the !leasure of feeding the baby this morning and that for me is what being a father is all about. Im terribly lucky with my children. We all lo<e the same things6 o!era, theatre, books, music. It creates a great bond, es!ecially now that they are mostly grown u! and I ha<e become a friend rather than a father. I dont belie<e in !hysical <iolence. I ha<e been guilty of sla!!ing my children in anger, but I dont condone it. Im sure I ha<e not been a dee!ly attenti<e father but I ha<e always tried to be a<ailable. Im here if they need me, always on the basis that they ring me. As soon as you start chasing them to ask why they ha<ent been in touch, you im!ose this terrible burden of guilt. 4y !arents did it to me and I would ne<er do it to my children. ) T.e ad#e&,!4!n1 e7e-3,!#e I was young when they were born, only around )A, and I admit I found the (%" ............. ()" ................ (>" ............. (?" ............... (A" ............... (B" ............... (C" ............... (&" ............... (D" ............. (%'" ................ (%%" .............. (%)" .............. (%>" .............. (%?" ............ (%A" ............... (%B" ............... (%C" ...............

res!onsibilities and limitations =uite irksome. It aged me =uickly, but at the same time it ke!t me young, which is something I ha<e always <alued. As they became teenagers, they introduced me to things I could ha<e drifted away from6 music, youth culture, clothes. In a funny way it has been in<aluable as far as running the agency has been concerned. I ha<e ne<er felt out of touch. Because I was struggling to establish the business when they were young there were things I missed6 first concerts, s!orts days. Im sad about that, but there are com!ensations now, like being able to take them on holidays to the south of 3rance. They get on well with a lot of our friends and they come to !arties with us and ad<ertising awards ceremonies without feeling intimidated. I think it has been an ad<antage that I do something they see as glamorous and interesting. C T.e 6" !,!-!an 4y first child was born @ust as I was about to be elected onto the ,reater -ondon /ouncil, and the others followed in =uite =uick succession. 4y wife and I <owed that we would car<e out time for them but since I ha<e become more and more !olitically acti<e, time has become a real !roblem. I make it a condition that I will only acce!t weekEend meetings and !ublic a!!earances where there are facilities for one or more of the kids to come with me. If I did not they would @ust get s=uee;ed out. This way they ha<e a sense of what I do when I am not with them and there is no feeling of 8addy disa!!earing. I<e noticed more and more 45s bringing their kids to the *ouse. 4aybe we are all becoming more conscious of the need to in<ol<e our children in our li<es. D T.e /&!,e& PART THREE: 'RITING

4y first marriage broke u! when 9ate and Bonnie were =uite young, so I was forced to eHamine the whole idea of fatherhood more closely than I might otherwise ha<e done. I made enormous efforts to stay in touch with the children. 4y eHEwife and I e<en eH!erimented with li<ing neHt door to each other for a while, so they could come and go as they wished, but I think 9ate and Bonnie would say now that they found that =uite confusing. 9ate has said in inter<iews that I was always there for her, but I am not sure I was a <ery good father. It is true I was around a lot, but, like a lot of .e<enties !arents, I think I treated the kids as adults too soon. 9ate was com!laining only the other day that we were too liberal. I think I could ha<e introduced more systems, more order. Instead I took this <ery loose a!!roach. I regret that now. I still worry about my elder daughters as much as I do about my youngest. In that way your kids ne<er lea<e you. E T.e T( 6&e4en,e& I was ready for kids. Id hit >', met my wife, we had a lo<ely house, so we thought, Why carry on going to the sho!s e<ery .aturday s!ending our money on new sofas, when we could ha<e a kid insteadF *a<ing my daughter Betty has forced me to come to terms with who I am and what I am. ou feel you are doing something <ery s!ecial when you concei<e a child and you are. But you are also becoming @ust one more !arent in a great long line of !arents. Its a great le<eller. I do resent it occasionally but if e<er there is a moment of irritation, it is dis!elled by @ust one look at her. A babys smile is the greatest selfE!reser<ation mechanism in the world. It can melt a grown man. (%C !oints"

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