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! 20+ years nonproL experlence, 10+ years consulung
! CraduaLe of u1A, Cklahoma ClLy unlverslLy, auendlng Anuoch unlverslLy
(hu ln Leadershlp and Change-hu candldaLe)
! 1ralned faclllLaLor on Lhe work of kegan and Lahey of Parvard's work,
lmmunlLy Lo Change
! 1ralned on 8elauonal CulLural 1heory
! CurrenLly nauonal CommunlLy LngagemenL ulrecLor, World vlslon uS
rograms
! Member, 1exas nonproL Councll
! AuLhor, 8ules of LngagemenL: Maklng Connecuons
Who am l?
! lck a parLner
! ?ou have Lwo mlnuLes Lo share wlLh your
parLner abouL who you are
! 1he parLner can only llsLen
! 8epeaL
AcuvlLy and ulscusslon
! Lhe sLorles people consLrucL and Lell abouL
Lhemselves Lo dene who Lhey are for
Lhemselves and for oLhers" (McAdams,
!osselson, & Llebllch, 2006: 4).
narrauve ldenuLy
! Share our ldenuLy
! Share our 8elauonshlps (SLrong or Weak)
! Share our Lmouons and Well-8elng
! Share Lhe SLrengLh or SLagnauon
Cur narrauves
! ls..an lndlvldual's posluve psychologlcal sLaLe of
developmenL and ls characLerlzed by: (1) havlng
condence (self-emcacy) Lo Lake on and puL ln Lhe
necessary eorL Lo succeed aL challenglng Lasks, (2)
(opumlsm) abouL succeedlng now and ln Lhe fuLure,
(3) (hope) ln order Lo succeed, and (4) when beseL
by problems and adverslLy, susLalnlng and bounclng
back and even beyond (reslllence) Lo aualn
success" (LuLhans eL al., 2007, p. 3)
sychologlcal CaplLal
! Plgh quallLy connecuons creaLe lasung lmpresslons.
! Plgh quallLy connecuons allow Lhe expresslon of
emouons (good and bad)
! Can endure Lenslon, changes and seLbacks
! eople are engaged and paruclpaung
Plgh CuallLy Connecuons
! LngagemenL
! LmpaLhy
! MuLual LmpaLhy
! 8elauonal AuLhenuclLy
! MuLuallLy
! ulerence/ulverslLy
! LmpowermenL and MuLual LmpowermenL

Markers of Cood Connecuon


Cur enure well-belng depends on belng lncluded,
belonglng, engaglng ln safe relauonshlps and
conLrlbuung Lo oLhers.
Cur Well-8elng: 1he Case for Connecuon
1he 8ole of Soclal CaplLal and SLorles
! Soclal caplLal ls a soclologlcal concepL, whlch refers
Lo connecuons wlLhln and beLween soclal neLworks.
! !usL as a screwdrlver (physlcal caplLal) or a college
educauon (human caplLal) can lncrease producuvlLy
(boLh lndlvldual and collecuve), so do soclal conLacLs
aecL Lhe producuvlLy of lndlvlduals and groups".
So WhaL ls Soclal CaplLal?
! varlables such as educauon, lncome and
employmenL are assoclaLed wlLh Lhe slze's of
one's neLwork. 1he composluon of one's
neLwork ls deLermlned by Lhe sLaLus of
employmenL as well. (Moore, 1990)
Soclal CaplLal can lnform Lhe SLory
! MarlLal sLaLus also plays a parL ln Lhe esLabllshmenL of soclal
neLworks. Marrled moLhers sLand ouL as dlerenL from
women ln all oLher caLegorles ln LhaL Lhelr frlends are mosL
slmllar Lo Lhem ln Lerms of lncome, educauon, and age.
Lone moLhers and never marrled and dlvorced or separaLed
women noL llvlng wlLh chlldren have frlends LhaL are more
eLhnlcally dlverse. Lone moLhers do noL have as exLenslve a
neLwork-lnformal or Lhrough organlzauons-Lo fall back
on as moLhers ln lnLacL famllles have" (8avenera and
8a[ulLon, 2007)
Soclal CaplLal can lnform Lhe SLory
! lor women of color, Lhere ls oen an assumpuon
LhaL Lhey lack Lhe soclal and culLural caplLal requlred
for soclal moblllLy. (?asso, 2003). 1he experlences of
women of color are compounded oen due Lo race,
class, and gender.
Soclal CaplLal can lnform Lhe SLory
And my SLory beglns.
My arenLs
My laLher-College CraduaLe and Lxposed Lo
LnLrepreneurshlp Larly
My Chlldhood-1he role of my MoLher
My Chlldhood--lamlly
Plgh School Craduauon-1he llre, 1he lmpacL Sharon
Seulemlre and Caddo MagneL Plgh School
College Craduauon-1he role of SLudenL lnvolvemenL aL u1A
llrsL !ob-A 8esulL of volunLeerlng on Weekends
MasLer's uegree-1he Move Lo CkC and my new world aL
CCu
Marrlage
My Pusband's lamlly-Cross CulLural undersLandlng
SouLh uallas CulLural CenLer-Lmployed by ClLy of uallas
regnancy
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Loss of lamlly
Sue Sulllns, lndla, and Lhe Llfe Changlng Lxperlence
h.u program-CohorL 10 aL Anuoch unlverslLy
8elauonshlps have been Lhe key Lo my sLory and growLh!
1he resenL-auLhor, sLudenL, moLher, wlfe, leader, frlend
and menLor
SLrong ues
Weak ues
8ondlng Soclal CaplLal
8rldglng Soclal CaplLal
1ypes of 8elauonshlps LhaL a parL of our SLorles
! 1he role of Lhe leader ls a cenLral componenL of Lhelr self-
concepL.
! An AuLhenuc leader has achleved a hlgh level of self-
resoluuon or self concepL clarlLy."
So how does knowlng your sLory help leaders?
! A leader musL recognlze Lhe value of self-awareness
ln order Lo address Lhe posslble conlcLs,
LempLauons, and confuslon LhaL can arlse.
undersLandlng ?our !ourney Wlll Pelp ?ou Lead CLhers
! Leaders ..know emouons are conLaglous and
LhaL Lhelr own emouons are powerful drlvers
of Lhelr people's moods and ulumaLely,
performance."
undersLand ?our Lmouons
Pow does percepuon lmpacL our sLorles?
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ro[ecLs ln poor area of hlladelphla, Afrlcan
Amerlcan
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household
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auended one year of Law School
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SLorles of 1wo Crlmlnals: Mado and Mumla
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colleges and presuglous
educauonal and culLural
organlzauons
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8lack unlLed Llberauon lronL, and supporLer
of MCvL
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@75#,*"< ?es, Lwo who were lnvolved ln famlly
buslness and grew up wlLh faLher
?es, Seven who grew up wlLhouL faLher ln Lhe
home
@5*9#"8 )K I<O0"<9" ConnecLed Lo wealLhy lndlvlduals Clrcles of lnuence llmlLed unul aer
lncarcerauon due Lo celebrlLy, nauonal and
lnLernauonal coverage
! 1. 1he role of brldglng soclal caplLal ls lmporLanL ln movlng people from dlerenL
classes, genders, and eLhnlc backgrounds for change.
! 2. SLorles are lmporLanL. WlLhouL a beuer undersLandlng of a person, lL ls easy Lo
sLereoLype and lack compasslon on who we are and how we arrlved Lo our currenL
place ln llfe.
! 3. SLorles share our psychologlcal caplLal. ln bulldlng healLhy relauonshlps, we
creaLe a posluve ldenuLy abouL ourselves and Lhe world around us.
! 4. 8ecognlzlng our narrauve ls lmporLanL. SLorles have power Lo lnuence, educaLe,
and lnform. 1aklng ume Lo llsLen Lo Lhe sLorles of oLhers ls crlucal.
! 3. Lxposure Lo oLher narrauves opens your mlnd Lo new ldeas, perspecuves and
reallues. 1hls exposure can cause us Lo change Lhe way we make meanlng of Lhe
world and even changes our mlndseL.
llnal 1houghLs
Co Lo Lhe eople, Llve wlLh Lhem, Love Lhem,
Learn from Lhem, Work wlLh Lhem, SLarL wlLh
whaL Lhey have, 8ulld on whaL Lhey know, and,
ln Lhe end, when Lhe work ls done, Lhe people
wlll re[olce and Lhey wlll say, 'We have done lL
ourselves.'"
-Lao 1zu - Chlna 700 8.C.

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