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EXPECTING
GREAT SEX
Rhalou Allerhand investigates the swollen,
hormonal underbelly of pregnancy fetishism
Photo: James Stafford

EVER MIND THE SURGE in started with a sexual act.

controversial granny smut cur-
rently infiltrating the porn market;
nothing raises an eyebrow quite as much
as the contentious subject of sex dur-
ing pregnancy. Whilst expecting, women
are often viewed as sacred and curiously
innocent, or fragile and afflicted with a
medical condition, no doubt thanks to
some twisted Victorian-era related logic,
despite the fact that — medical and reli-
gious miracles aside — every pregnancy
The naked appearance of seven
months’ pregnant Demi Moore on the
cover of Vanity Fair magazine in 1991
marked the beginning of a period in
which perceptions of pregnancy began
to change. The notorious photoshoot
sparked intense controversy and was
widely discussed on television, radio and
in the papers, with the frankness of An-
nie Leibovitz’ portrayal of a pregnant sex
symbol leading to divided opinions, rang-

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Most red-blooded
males find the pregnant
body rather erotic and
desirable
ing from complaints of sexual objectifica-
tion to celebrations of the photograph as
a symbol of female empowerment. Ei-
ther way, it led to the dawn of a new age
where pregnancy is finally starting to be
accepted as a sexually liberated state.
Celebrities and the media have since
portrayed it as a glamorous, fashion-
able and even sexual state of being and
we’re regularly bombarded with images
of everyone from footballer’s wives to the
Spice Girls wearing sexy outfits which re-
veal their bumps whilst expecting. This
change in public opinion of pregnancy
also created a market for photographers
to start producing images of attractive or
even provocative pregnant women, as
opposed to being dowdy and concealed
from the world, and for fashion designers
to start producing sexy and stylish ma-
ternity wear.
But, despite changing attitudes, the
concept of pregnant women as sexual
beings is still somewhat contentious. For
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women, there are
many reasons why
sex during preg-
nancy can be more
enjoyable, includ-
ing engorgement
of the genital area
— which actually
helps some people
become orgasmic
for the first time
— an increase in
natural lubrication,
the lack of birth
control or, if you
have been trying
for a while, a return to sex for pleasure as
opposed to family planning purposes.
On the other hand, there are also vari-
ous reasons why sex might not be on the
agenda, such as fear of hurting the baby,
nausea, fatigue, awkwardness, bizarre
conservative Victorian ideals and so on.
Change is rampant during pregnancy
and while women may start to feel enor-
mous, exhausted and uncomfortable,
on the whole, most red-blooded males
find the pregnant body rather erotic and
desirable.
But for some men, even if it’s not their
wife (or partner) who’s carrying the load,
the concept of an expectant woman is
extremely sexually alluring, to the point
of fetishising pregnancy. Also known as
maiesiophilia, or maieusophoria, preg-
nancy fetishism includes the sexualisa-
tion of women who are pregnant or ap-
pear to be expecting, sexual interest in
different stages of pregnancy from im-
pregnation right through to labour and
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 even the erotic appeal of lactation. turned to her normal self, unfortunately!’
People often tend to still view pregnan-
Paul Stark, a 27-year-old technician cy as a medical condition, and pregnant
from Guildford, has always found preg- women as extremely fragile creatures. ‘I
nant women particularly erotic. ‘I remem- don’t know why some men find pregnant
ber seeing a pregnant woman when I was women appealing and some don’t.’ says
younger and just wanting to curl up with Stark. ‘I guess it differs for everyone, al-
her and stroke her sexy body. It’s just though on some level it’s probably an un-
something about the abundant curves conscious desire to be mothered.’
of a pregnant woman’s body that I find
really sexy. It’s almost like the appeal of While there may be health issues and
fake breasts, the way everything is en- complications during pregnancy that
larged and engorged on a woman. I’ve make certain kinds of sex difficult, for the
heard that some people get off on the most part there is no need to approach
concept of inflated body parts, so maybe sex at this time with anything other than
it’s related. common sense, and no reason to treat a
‘There’s also something seriously al- healthy pregnant woman as if she were
luring about the secrecy of it all, like unwell.
pregnant women are hiding secrets; the Alex, a literacy teacher from Bristol,
answers to the universe are hiding inside has two grown-up children and thinks
of her, she knows things that us men will sexualising pregnancy is actually an in-
never experience. I am just overcome nate aspect of masculinity. ‘I think some
with lust by the entire concept. The mas- men find pregnant women particularly ap-
sive tits are a bonus, too, of course.’ pealing because they can be very wom-
Some men find various elements anly looking, sometimes a lot calmer than
of pregnancy erotic. ‘I’ve made a few usual and the fact that they are pregnant
friends on forums
and stuff who are into
breastfeeding and get
off on the whole milk
thing,’ says Stark, ‘but It’s something about the
for me it’s all about the
shape of the woman’s
body and the mys-
abundant curves of a
tery. My ex was also
strangely placid and
relaxed when she was
pregnant woman’s body
that I find really sexy
carrying, like beautiful-
ly peaceful. As soon as
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by a man might make him feel powerful
and more manly. Also it might bring out
men’s desire to protect women, because
pregnant women look a bit vulnerable.’
Although her sex drive didn’t particu-
larly increase during either of her preg-
nancies, Alex found the whole experi-
ence erotic. ‘It was good not to have to
worry about getting pregnant if you were
already pregnant. Sometimes I thought it
a bit odd that my husband’s penis was
getting so close to the baby’s head and
wondered, ‘Would the baby mind?’ I think
pregnancy is a fairly sexual state to be in,
though. Giving birth, if not too difficult, is
quite a sexual experience. Sometimes a
head leaning against my inner thigh re-
minds me of giving birth.’
Alice from Wells has a one-year-old
baby. ‘Pregnant woman are beautiful. A
pregnant woman does look blooming,
and there is a whole excitement about
your new and changing body and the ac-
tual function of growing a baby: a body
being put to the test and doing some-
thing uncontrollable and unbelievable. I
Giving birth, if not
too difficult, is quite a
sexual experience
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think for a woman also there is a sense
of relief about your physical appearance,
you just have to accept and go with it.’
But the further along in your preg-
nancy you are, the more difficult sexual
intercourse becomes. ‘I think the most
arousing period would be around six or
seven months, when you are getting big
and beautiful with it, but you haven’t be-
come revolting and bloated yet. Your tits
are great and the bump is looking pretty
tidy, too. Towards the end I found every-
thing difficult, though; I found putting my
socks on near impossible so, sure, sex
was difficult.’
Whilst for the most part many couples
still enjoy healthy sex lives during preg-
nancy and view it as an erotic and sen-
sual time, some people take their sexual
interests that little bit further, and actively
seek out pictures and footage of preg-
nant women for sexual kicks. Dr Freak
runs a California based website, www.
pregnancyfreaks.com, dedicated solely
to pregnancy fetishism. ‘Some people
like pregnant wom-
en because it’s not
the norm…. others
just find that bump
very sexy,’ says Dr
Freak, although
the main appeal is
usually the contro-
versial aspect of it.
‘I honestly do not
know why preg-
nancy fetishism
is popular, but I’d
say it’s the risqué
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 factor.’
As far as I know there
Pregnancyfreaks.
com is a relatively
explicit, fun web-
site, dedicated to
the sexualisation of are no health risks
pregnant women and
lactation. Dr Freak
explicitly never puts
involved in having sex
any of the models’
health at risk. ‘As far
as I know there are
while pregnant
no health risks in-
volved in having sex
while pregnant. But if the person is un-
comfortable, or has any pains, then they
definitely should not engage in it.’
As with many fetishes, the unique
appeal of pregnancy fetishism stems
from the mystery factor, as many peo-
ple are sexually aroused by the con-
cept of something obscure or contro-
versial. ‘Most people are tired of seeing
the same babe with fake big breasts,’
Dr Freak says. ‘People want something
they have not experienced or seen; that’s
why my sites are a hit. Most feature cer-
tain types of woman or acts they have
not come across before. We get visitors
from all age groups and genders who like
the niche, you cannot really pinpoint it.
However PregnantFreaks is actually the
one site that I see more females joining
than any of my other sites. Why? I don’t
know.’
Paul Stark agrees. ‘I don’t think there
is anything wrong, or kinky about it, it’s
human nature. It’s not like I go and shag
pregnant women all the time, I just fanta-
sise about it and enjoy the pictures and
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films. I mean, if I met some hot pregnant
bird gagging for it who wasn’t looking for
a replacement father I’d be chuffed, but
it’s not that likely to happen! The likeli-
hood of meeting a hot, single, pregnant
woman is not very high, nor is the chance
of a woman letting me impregnate her
again! But maybe that’s part of the ap-
peal, the kind of allure of the unobtain-
able. I suppose most fetishes stem from
obscure unobtainable things.’
So what about the people who don’t
find pregnant women sexy? ‘They are up-
tight weirdos,’ Says Alice. ‘I think a lot
of women feel unattractive during preg-
nancy, which won’t help, and then there
are the types who feel like they have an
unborn audience, and that they don’t
want to involve their unborn child in the
intimacy, and sexuality of it all. Which, I
suppose, is fair to a point, but it’s how
they got made, so live with it I say! I think
there is also a “contamination” issue with
some people — that their baby shouldn’t
be contaminated with the sticky prod-
ucts of sex, but they aren’t, so unless
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It is difficult to find
pregnant models
prepared to engage in
sexual activity
you can’t get over the actual biology, that
shouldn’t be an issue.’
Sue, a mother of two from London,
agrees. ‘My best friend had that prob-
lem; she was really horny and her boy-
friend just couldn’t do it. It must be the
thought of being so close to the baby. It
is weird, and I did find it quite strange to
start with. But I was only ever told it was
fine and good for you to carry on having
a normal sex life.’
She also discovered that maintaining
a healthy sex life is necessary in the fi-
nal stages. ‘Right at the end when I was
huge it was pretty tricky. But I went 11
days late and all my contacts said that
the best way to get things started was
by having a shag. It’s pretty tricky, but
the good tip was to think of it more as
functionality than romantically! Lo and
behold, I went into labour that night. Men
are useful for making babies and also
getting them out!’
As it’s quite a specialised fetish, Dr
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Freak does find
it hard to source
models for his web-
site. ‘It is very diffi-
cult to find pregnant
models prepared to
engage in sexual
activity. We have
some models who
were models prior
to being pregnant,
so that works out
good. Then there
are some who see
it as an opportunity
to earn some extra
cash, so they seek out producers who
would be interested in shooting content
with them during their pregnancy. But
there are not many women that fall into
those two categories, which is why it is
hard to find such models.’
But Dr Freak is always game to feature
new and interesting fetishes. ‘The freakier
the better! If there is a certain niche your
readers want to see that isn’t out there
much, I’d like to know it and possibly de-
velop it, they can contact me via the con-
tact link on my sites. I try to stay away
from niches such as watersports, BDSM,
fisting etc. Nothing too brutal, abusive or
degrading. But there’s no reason to be
nervous — check out my sites at www.
DrFreak.com to see which ones interest
you… If you feel embarrassed about a
certain niche that you enjoy, remember
there are many, many people who have
an interest in the same niche and there is
absolutely nothing wrong with them, so
relax and enjoy!’
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