FEBRUARY 2014

a letter from

Chatter
And yet, theres still that pesky word: Praise. We are happy about this? Our hearts revel in the sufferings of Christ? For here we do not have an enduring city, but we are looking for the city that is to come, continues Paul. It turns out that this special brand of praise sacricial, outside the city gate is the most brazen, ardent expression of hope imaginable, a down-payment of joy on the unspeakable wholeness we believe will be ours someday nally and fully. It looks ahead to a better city, one we dont see now from the walled-off outskirts but one we will experience soon as restored citizens. Its joy that is preemptive, anticipating and dwelling within an idea so believed in, so bought in-to, that the result in the present poverty is joy. And this miraculous heart-and-mind posture isnt accidental: Paul reminds us that this sacrice of praise, this surrender to hope, can only happen through Jesus. So back to the onion. I can just let it be, cant I? If Im with Jesus, inside of Jesus, and he is with and within me, then everything in my kitchen suddenly loses all power to taunt. No longer is the world a reminder of my poverty, but a place where I can dwell with Jesus Here and Now, and look ahead to better things. An onion becomes a sweet little vegetable again, melting into a creamy stroganoff sauce, and I am dirty and smelly and tired and wishing I didnt have to cook tonight but theres still a little spark, a part of me that jumps up a little bit and taps my ngers against the counter to a silent rhythm. And maybe this little bit is enough to count as Praise, even to count as Sacrice just a pauper moms iteration of the great apostles charge. (Id like to think so, anyway. Sometimes, its the best I can do on a Monday.)

The other day I was in that odd space of discontent where everything

around me took on a certain emptiness, a certain poverty of meaning. I was making dinner and grabbed an onion from the pantry to begin chopping. And when I looked down at that onion, that innocent, meek little vegetable, it began sneering back. Suddenly, it was taking on a ridiculously overblown amount of symbolism for all the things I wanted that I couldnt have. Here it was, so casually occupying space in a world that had let me down. Why should it get to be an ONION? It wanted to be an onion, it was designed to be an onion, and thats exactly what it got to BE, gosh-durn-it, fullling its purpose at the bottom of my skillet. But where did that leave ME?

Back in the early 90s, when bangs overpowered every female forehead and people knew how to spell Jordache, there was a contemporary Christian song that all the evangelical churches were singing: We Bring The Sacrice of Praise. As a cerebral, mouth-breathing tween, I wondered at the apparent incongruity of the title. Praise meant joy, celebration, a positive outow of the hearts delight. But sacrice? That meant struggle foregoing pleasure, being content with less. If youre bringing a sacrice to God, wouldnt it be difficult, a little somber? Certainly it wouldnt result in the feel-good stanzas I always associated with praise music. The song derives, of course, from the Bible, the book of Hebrews, where the apostle Paul is encouraging his readers to press on in the faith. He reminds them of Jesus very great sacrice for all people how he was forced outside the city gate, disgraced, killed for everyones holiness. And so we join Jesus outside the city gate with our sacrices of praise, says Paul, unafraid to associate and align our identities and reputations with him, our suffering savior.

Editor Julie Rhodes Art Direction, Design & Goodness Josh Wiese, Lindsey Sobolik, JD Lemming Admin Extraordinaire Victoria Andrews Our Very Tall Boss Scott McClellan, Communications Pastor

Photography Charles Stafford (2435 Kinwest)* Evan Chavez (Small Group)* Katherine Ivey (Januarys Photo Update)* Patty Thompson (Match)* Writers Cheryl Hume (2435 Kinwest)* Jason Fox (Idle Chatter)* Peggy Norton (Match)*

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Irving Bible Church: a community on a journey.

Thanks for picking up Chatter. Chatter is a publication of Irving Bible Church in Irving, Texas.
Why are we here?
IBC is on a journey committed to life transformation through Jesus Christ. We engage this journey by growing in Christ, connecting in community, and joining the mission. This commitment comes from Jesus words in the Great Commandment (Matthew 22:36-39) and Great Commission (Matthew 28:18-20).

How do we do this?
Growing in Christ At the heart of the journey is the gospel of Jesus Christ, the story of the Son of God coming into our dark world to bring light, life, hope and transformation. The journey begins when we trust Christ, but it doesnt end there. Gods desire for each of us is for our hearts and lives to become more like the one who has saved us (Ephesians 4:11-13). Connecting in Community The gospel story draws us into a community of people whose lives have been transformed by Jesus. This journey is not one that we undertake alone. We are designed to do life together as a community of Christ-followers. It is essential that we walk with one another on the journey (John 13:34-35). Joining the Mission The gospel tells us that one day God will take all that is broken in this world and make it whole. Those of us who are on the journey together are called to be people who do what we can to make glimpses of that day show up in our day. We do this by telling the gospel story and demonstrating gospel-shaped love to a needy world (Matthew 28:18-20).

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The NMCB 15 1000 Chapel service at Camp Leatherneck, Afghanistan, sent by IBCer LT Albert Leddy.

Photo Update: Wheres Chatter?

Over the past several months, we have received numerous Wheres Chatter submissions from the IBC family. Here are a few highlights that didnt make the back cover. If you would like to submit a Wheres Chatter photo, send it to chatter@irvingbible.org.
Charles and Tyler Stafford with buddies Scott and Carter Herring at the Grand Canyon. Amanda and Lloyd Stones daughter Harper Kathryn is already digging Chatter! Clever lass.

IBCer Rachel Cannon threw a party for the kids at an apartment complex in Oberlin, Ohio. Clearly, a party is not a party without Chatter!

Some of the ladies from IBC Partner, My Refuge House, in the Philippines.

Allan and Patty Thompson at Cape Point, South Africa.

Single parent mentors and mentees at the OK border on their way to Turner Falls for their rst camping trip.

Eyes On the Road at

If youve ever taken defensive driving, you know the mark of a good driver is that he keeps his eyes focused 20 seconds down the highway. At 2435 Kinwest, IBCs community night on Wednesdays, experienced leaders are working diligently to anticipate and meet a variety of needs each week keeping their eyes on the road, and both hands at 10 and 2.
JOB TRANSITIONS: FROM CLASS TO COMMUNITY HEALTH CLINIC: IMPACT AND EXPANSION

or many of us looking for work, wed rather use familiar roads than go off the beaten path. Lisa Clark and her team of human resource professionals, Joe Walker, Debbie Elliott, and Tim Foster, guide the Job Transitions community at 2435 Kinwest. They are the rst to admit that the process of nding a job has become complex. Lisa raises her phone and says, Its all going to be done through this. This is how you will get your information in front of the right people. Lisas part is to train in applying the latest social media. Once this necessary step is accomplished, Lisa says, the resume and interview still rule in getting hired.

Thats where Debbie Elliott and Tim Fosters combined years of experience come in. Their trained eyes and compassionate approach help class participants tailor each resume and research recruiters. To bolster interviewing skills, Joe Walker has designed training to build condence in the face of tough employer scrutiny. Rumor is, he still manages to make this otherwise awkward situation fun. Mindy Moser, a past Job Transitions participant, is sold: If you want to know how employment recruiters look for potential candidates, be the person they nd, land the interview and get an offer, then you must be at IBC on Wednesday nights with Job Transitions. Its that simple. For the JT team, keeping their eyes on the road means more than providing effective job search training; it also means providing a community of prayer and healing for those who nd themselves in the midst of huge uncertainty. Lisas blue eyes water a little as she describes her gratitude: I would never have guessed ve years ago that God would use something I enjoy so much and am trained for to serve others in such a tremendous ministry.

o visit with Charles Pierce is to gaze down the road about 50 miles and counting. With a command of the knowledge needed for successful adjustments and an enthusiasm for the future, hes more excited than anyone: What God is doing here is beyond our wildest expectations. Our ultimate vision is spiritual transformation for all involved, and we get to see this happen. But ask him to pick just one or two stories to tell, and hell reply, There are a thousand stories to tell! Come Charles Pierce see for yourself! Enter the vortex at 2435! But there WAS this one time, he recalls, when a patient presented an expired drivers license to clinic staff at check-in one of many little issues that spring up on a given Wednesday night. Charles approached the man and said the clinic would still see him, but gently encouraged the man to get his license renewed. Expecting the patient to be defensive, Charles was taken aback when his response was quite the opposite. The man gave praise for 2435 seeing him anyway, and for being caring enough to confront him in a kind, respectful manner. Charles emphasizes that its not just the medical care that makes a difference in peoples lives; its the respect and dignity they receive. When it comes to predicting the clinics spiritual impact, possibilities abound. As for whats coming next, Charles is excited about four upcoming additions to clinic offerings: Specialist Night, Education Night, Ultrasound Night, and, last but not least, a second weekly Walk-in Well Care Night in addition to its regular Wednesday hours. All is in place and IBC is doing this together, says Charles. Regarding the recruiting of new doctors and specialists, he wants to empower every IBCer: Each time you share about the clinic with your health care professional, you become part of the team to get the word out. The clinic at 2435 needs volunteers of all skill sets to duplicate Wednesday nights from administrative assistants to highly specialized MDs.

Tim Foster, Debbie Elliott, Joe Walker

2435 Kinwest
Norma Urban

But ESL is more than language education. Its more about conveying the posture of the new culture, which can only happen one moment at a time through developing friendships and creating a safe place to adjust. One evening, a young woman shared what prompted her to improve her English. She had been verbally attacked for not knowing the word for towel by a citizen whom she had asked help. I became frightened. I didnt want to feel that way again, she said. This moment of vulnerability made the rest of the class begin to open up and gel. It is so cool to see people who speak different languages come together for the purpose of learning the same language, says Corey. Isolation is abated and friendships are formed. When asked what she sees down the road, Coreys answer glides off her tongue easily: I want to take ESL classes off campus to businesses: restaurants, salons, fulllment centers, etc. A bold vision, one shes not shy to promote. But it wont be easy. To do this, we need several volunteers who love people, are committed to follow Jesus, and not quit when it isnt what they expected.

CITIZENSHIP CLASS: GROUND FLOOR THINKING

ESL CLASS: A SAFE PLACE TO BOND

ccording to Corey Wallis, IBCs intrepid ESL director, the latest statistics claim that Irving is the leading city in the nation in number of languages spoken. This wasnt news for Ms. Wallis, who coordinates eight volunteers teaching three levels of English on Wednesday nights. Weekly, they average 40 students spread across beginning, intermediate, and advanced English. Beginners start with survival language Where are the rest rooms?, etc Intermediate students begin grammar and comprehension; Advanced students tackle culture and idioms. One woman in the advanced class asked innocently why we worship Santa Claus in the United States, says Corey. So you see there are many opportunities for sharing and connecting. Also, you can imagine the confusion over the phenomenon of Texas idioms!

iming is the invisible partner in any endeavor involving people and circumstances. And Norma Urbans is impeccable. Raised in South Texas, Normas rst teaching job placed her in a position to hone the skills required for on-the-road citizenship teaching, a specialized niche. She soon began travelling to where the need was in the Rio Grande Valley. And once she moved away to the big city, her niche followed her: the church she was attending posted the need for a volunteer citizenship teacher. The still, small voice of the Lord was becoming familiar. Again, no sooner had she emptied boxes after moving to Dallas that the voice spoke again. Its Irving Bible Church this time they needed a citizenship instructor for 2435 Kinwest. And Norma didnt miss a beat. Regarding the culture and feel of the church, Norma says, Irving Bible Church is a blend of the important spaces of work and home. Its tting that this particular need is met in this particular space. An educator extraordinaire, Norma is also a wordsmith, contributing regularly to The Dallas Morning News as well as having several articles published in other media. She is lled with passion and interested in many things, and is excited to be on the ground oor of IBCs citizenship class, which launched just under two years ago. Norma recalls that her rst class comprised only one married couple. They participated consistently, accompanied by faithful expressions of gratitude. Norma sees this as just the beginning. The obvious next step: reach more potential participants. And Normas been brainstorming. One idea is to equip those who have been through the class to pass on their learning in their homes and among extended family. Another idea is to offer additional topics in class along with possibly re-thinking the sometimes anxiety-producing title of citizenship. Great things are in store, and ideas are welcomed. One thing is certain: Norma Urban is a timely gift.

2435 Kinwest is, obviously, an address on a road. And how tting. Jesus was called the door, light, bread, the way so why not road? To paraphrase Hebrews 12:2: To nish the trip we need to keep our eyes on the road. Heres to a wonderful trip. Cheryl Hume would like to nominate Corey Wallis for President of the United States.

Corey Wallis

ibc staffer jason stein unpacks ibc s epiphany 2014 gospel statement.

EVERYDAY GOSPEL

s part of a team of IBC pastors and staff that began to dream and pray about what Epiphany in 2014 might look like, I can tell you we got excited thinking about the possibilities. The word epiphany simply means appearing. Epiphany is a season in the Christian calendar in which we commemorate the appearing of Jesus as the Savior of the world. It also reminds Christians of their mission to make him known to a world lost in darkness. We wanted our Epiphany series at IBC this year to be rst about knowing the gospel story and then making that glorious story known. We desired to talk about the goodnews of Jesus how itis good news for us as individuals, as a community and in the world. To help us accomplish this, our communications pastor, Scott McClellan, proposed that we craft a denition of what the gospel is, something easy to remember that IBCers could know and use. So after thinking through Scripture, holding numerous discussions, and drinking more coffee than anyone should consume (Im looking at you, Barry Jones; coffee is not the same as H2O), we arrived at IBCs gospel denition for our Epiphany series: The good news is that Jesus came to rescue and renew the lost and broken. We packed a lot into that 73-character statement. Good news is only good if bad news rst exists. Jesus life, death, and resurrection is indeed good news for everyone, because we are all lost and broken. We all need to be rescued from our sin, our idols, and ourselves. Through Jesus death on the cross, he provides the redemption and soul-saving cure we all desperately need. It is through him that we are found and are made whole. But we are not only rescued, we are also renewed through the transforming work of the Spirit. The Apostle Paul teaches us in 2 Corinthians 3:18 that the

Spirit conforms us more and more into the image of Jesus. Each day, the Holy Spirit is transforming us more and more to live, love, and serve like Jesus in short, we are being renewed. But this renewal doesnt stop with us, for God desires to make all things new. God invites us into that renewal process, to be a light to others. Part of the renewal process involves bringing light to dark places providing clean drinking water to those in need, mentoring kids, offering care through IBCs medical clinic, and restoring broken relationships. But why do we as a church need a gospel denition? Because in 1 Corinthians 15: 1-2, the apostle Paul teaches us that we need to be reminded about the gospel. Pauls point, I believe, is not that we need to be reminded that there is a gospel, but rather that the gospel has big implications for our everyday lives. We need to constantly ask ourselves: how does the good news that Jesus came to rescue and renew impact what I do at work, at home and at play? What are its implications for my relationships, career, retirement, parenting, and dreams? Our aim for this gospel denition is that it would be engraved on IBCers hearts in order that they would not only know the gospel intellectually, but that the gospel would be so woven into the fabric of their lives that others would take notice. IBC desires for men, women, students and children to be able to tell others the good news that Jesus has come to rescue and renew the lost and broken. Jason Stein once spent several summers working in an airport. Only recently did he take his rst plane ride.
Jason assists with the development of events and content for Mens ministry at IBC. He also facilitates sermon series development for Sunday.

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The chemical formula for Dr. Barry Jones: see right.

The chemical formula for coffee is C8-h10-n4-o2.

REAL WORLD: IBC SERMON-BASED SMALL GROUPS

A Sneak Peek into Authentic Community They like to call their group the Homebuilders, and its easy to see why: with eight kids between them and one on the way, the Snelling/Croley/Bearden/ Mechsner group knows something about family togetherness. As a group, theyre light on their toes: sometimes they gather everyone (including kids) together for dinner and prayer request time; sometimes its just the grownups. The group alternates houses and responsibilities for the weekly meals they share, all depending on what works best for the group during a given season. We just make it work, says Melanie Meschner. It is worth it to be able to do life together and enjoy each others company.

Key to crowd control: making peace with organized chaos.

Prayer time works as long as the person speaking gets louder and louder to be heard over the kids. (It usually goes fairly well. Kids are used to it by now.)

Nap Time isnt currently built into Small Group Time.

SMALL GROUP SIGN-UPS

Dont put off connecting in real community this spring. Now is the time to get plugged in. Registration for spring sermon-based small groups closes on February 28, and groups begin meeting the week of March 16. Sermon-based small groups meet weekly in homes to discuss Sundays message, share a meal, and invest in one anothers lives. Groups comprise 12 people or fewer and are formed by leaders who have completed small group leader training.
Tim and Emily Snelling (Ryan3 years, Madison8 months) Darren and Lindsey Croley (Anna5 years, Grace1 year) Chad and Amber Bearden (Corban3 years, Elijah1.5 years) Chris and Melanie Mechsner (Caden5 years, Taylor3 years, one due April 26)

Also, if you are new to Christianity or still feel like you are in the starting blocks in your faith with Jesus, weve designed a small group just for you. Sign up online at irvingbible.org/smallgroups. Questions? Contact Katie at kgeurin@irvingbible.org.

The group has gone from one baby to eight babies over the course of its existence.

A Match (or Two) Made in Heaven

Take two best friends Carlos Galdmez and Jonathan Alexander. Mix in 10-year-old twins Andrew and Zachary Laurendine, and what do you have? Well, a lot of noise for starters.
Main Event, when rst conceived, was almost named Advil Time.

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THE STORYof how this mentoring foursome came to be began about four

years ago when Carlos and Jonathan got involved in the mens ministry at IBC. Carlos and Jonathan had previously worked together and were best friends when they attended an event that featured a particularly interesting talk about singleparent families.

As the boys start to get older, theyll have many other inuences in their lives, Carlos explains. I want to be one of those inuences and I am one hundred percent sure we are impacting their lives in a positive way. Jonathan agrees. We get to see the boys grow into young men and see how God is using them, and us, and shaping their lives. Primarily we are there to be a steady, consistent presence. We talk frequently with their mom Zoe and help reinforce what she tells us is going on in their home. Sometimes we can just be the voice of reason with the boys. The twins mom Zoe can see the difference Jonathan and Carlos are making. It really does take a village, she explains. You need to have good people in your childrens lives, more than just yourself, and these two young men are great examples of how to live the Christian life. Another way Jonathan and Carlos are modeling the Christian walk is doing community service together with the twins. Once a month, the four head downtown to serve the homeless where they pass out food and care packages. Serving together allows the boys to see another side of life and teaches them to be grateful for all the blessings they have. The boys are not the only ones who are blessed by this mentoring experience. Zoe is grateful for the time she gets back when the boys are with their mentors. Sometimes I can just go run errands, go to the gym or just stay at home and rest, says Zoe. If you know any single parents, you understand that life is busy. Even Jonathan admits he now has an even greater respect for single parents. I honestly dont know how they do it. One day I took the twins to Main Event alone and I was exhausted! Carlos agrees and says he has also been greatly blessed by the whole experience, and that it has taught him to be a better parent himself. As a fairly new father, this experience is helping me grow stronger in my parenting abilities. I am learning to be much more patient and understanding. Its also great getting that big hug and seeing someone who is genuinely happy to see you. And those cards made out of construction paper who knew such a simple act of kindness could mean so much? While both Carlos and Jonathan have started their own families, they are committed to the mentoring experience for the long term. As Jonathan explains, I plan on being a part of Andrews life for the long haul. Why wouldnt I be? I mean, Im 30 and I still seek advice from wiser men, so why should it be any different with our relationship? And although Carlos has a job that requires a lot of travel, he too is committed to Zachary. This is a huge commitment, he admits, but so worth it. Carlos wife is also very supportive and encourages Carlos and Zacharys relationship. And its not unusual for the whole crew to have dinner together or for the boys to be included in family outings. Jonathan sums up the mentoring experience well: As a mentor, I have come to realize just how blessed I am, and I want to see the boys blessed as well; I want them to be able to realize their dreams. These boys need us; they need you. Especially the way our culture is today, there are so many single-parent families and so many kids in need, especially young boys who need a strong, adult male role model. We all lead busy lives, but I think we need to prioritize how we spend our time. There is no special talent to mentor; all it takes to mentor a child is a heart to love and the willingness to be a consistent presence in their lives. And as for Andrew and Zachary, when asked how they would sum up the mentoring experience in one word grateful and awesome. That about says it all. Peggy Norton had her rst cup of coffee when she was ve-years-old, provided by her sweet neighbor Mrs. Stevini whose kindness had a big impact on her life.
Peggy is a communications professional with over 20 years of experience. She is also an IBC Small Group Leader.

Jonathan recalls hearing staggering statistics about the number of single-parent families and the number of kids without a male presence in their lives. According to the U.S. Census Bureau, out of the 12.2 million single-parent families in 2012, more than 80 percent were headed by single mothers. Today, 1 in 3 children a total of 15 million are being raised without a father. The stories and statistics broke Jonathans heart and he felt God leading him to become a mentor, knowing that the picture God painted for families was not one of brokenness. Carlos was also affected by what he had heard and had a personal reason for wanting to become a mentor. Carlos sister was a single mother and he had seen rst-hand the struggles she and her son were going through. Although Carlos is very involved in his nephews life, he lives far away and is not able to be involved on a day-to-day basis. Each for his own reasons, Jonathan and Carlos made the decision to make an impact in a childs life and become mentors. Enter the Laurendine family. Andrew and Zachary are 10-year-old twins who arrived in Dallas after Hurricane Katrina. Their mom, Zoe, still remembers what it was like to start over. At the time, the boys were only two years old, and without the support of IBC, I dont think we ever would have made it, she says. I was overwhelmed then by the spirit of generosity of the people of IBC; and through our involvement with the single-parent ministry and the mentoring program, I continue to be amazed and blessed. After the twins lost their dad in 2008, Zoe knew they would need some positive male role models in their lives. She had heard about IBCs mentoring program in the single-parent ministry. At rst Zoe was hesitant. After all, its hard to turn your children over to someone you barely know. Will I be able to trust these men? Zoe wondered. But after talking with Ministry Assistant Marsha Tribbett, Zoe decided to have faith that God would bring the right mentors into the boys lives. And so began a friendship between two best friends and two little boys. When we rst met, the boys were a little shy, says Jonathan. Carlos adds, When they paired us up me with Zachary and Jonathan with Andrew it truly was a match made in heaven. Jonathan is more extroverted and into sports just like Andrew, while Zach and I are more introverts who like science and reading. He adds, But the great thing is that with the four of us together, we all get to try new things and get out of our comfort zones. For example, while I loved playing soccer when I was growing up, football was not my game. But now we all enjoy a rousing game of football every now and then. Mainly, all four agree they just like to hang out together and have fun. The group joins other mentors and mentees in various activities including an annual camping trip, which is one of the twins favorite outings. Zachary especially enjoys listening to stories around the campre. While the four like to have a good time, the relationships between them go much deeper.

The foursome with mom Zoe (L to R top: Jonathan, Carlos; bottom: Andrew, Zachary).

Men, if you are interested in mentoring a boy, visit the Single Parents at IBC kiosk in Town Square or contact Marsha at mtribbett@irvingbible.org.

Zooey Deschanel shouldnt spell it that way.

In Greek mythology, the goddess Athena disguised herself as a man named Mentor to impart encouragement and advice to Telemachus.(He was this other dude. Long story.)

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A Letter to Pastor Andy:

Stories from Journey On

Its been over a year now since IBC launched its Journey On campaign to eliminate its mortgage debt. Since that time, many stories of provision and blessing have come out, including this one from Stephanie and Ryan Behring. If you havent joined Journey On yet, its never too late to begin. Visit irvingbible.org/journeyon.

Pastor Andy, The Journey On campaign happened to come at a time in our lives when we had already planned to reassess our nances. Before we knew of the campaign, God had prepared us for it. Through our prayers for Journey On over the last few weeks, I was reminded of the many powerful ways that God has been faithful and generous, and it brings me great joy to share these stories with you. I grew up being well-provided for in an upper middle-class home. I, unknowingly, expected at least a similar standard in college, and took on credit card debt to obtain it. After college and grad school, I had $26,000 in student loans and $8,000 in credit card debt. I worked 50-60 hour weeks at two part-time jobs just to pay my minimums. At this time, I attended another church in the area, and through that teaching was convicted that I should be tithing. A full 10% felt far beyond the realm of possibility, and 1% was just pathetic, so I began to faithfully tithe 2%. Not long after, I was given commission on a project at one of my jobs, which almost doubled my pay for several months. A large amount of my credit card debt was paid off. Almost a year later, I was almost done with credit card debt, but another large cost was looming. I had one more class to nish for grad school, and was going to have to delay paying off the last of my debt to pay for the class. In a dizzying array of providence, at this same time my dad suggested that I sell a gold coin that I had in a safe-deposit box, since the price of gold was so high. Mind you, this was a gold coin that I found in the dog food as part of a contest the dog food company was doing when I was 5 years old. The gold coin sold for almost the cost of my tuition, and I paid for the class and the last of my credit card debt in the same month. The Lord has continued to show his faithfulness in our new marriage. In our rst year, he has been faithful in using typical nancial arguments to grow our marriage and our trust. Early on, we were convicted to tithe (the full ten percent!) and the Lord has been faithful to provide. In this rst year, we paid off the remainder of my student loan debt. The elimination of this debt, combined with a growing discontent with knowing many missionaries personally and yet not supporting them nancially, brought us to a place of re-assessing our giving. By Gods perfect timing, this also coincided with the Journey On campaign. Our prayers over these past weeks have led us to a beautiful place. We have not only decided on a number for the Journey On campaign, but have begun nancially supporting our friends in the mission eld. We have had many of these friends over to dinner and will soon Skype with those currently in the eld. It brings us great joy that we can be a part of their teams. It bring us great joy that we can help our church become debt-free, as we have, so that IBC can increase its giving to the mission. It is our prayer that through Journey On, there would be a multitude of stories to share of Gods faithfulness. God Bless, Stephanie and Ryan Behring
Gold coins rst appeared in the 6th century B.C. in Asia Minor. The company name Skype is a mash-up of the words sky and peer.

What could the people of God do for the Kingdom if they were completely debt-free?
WHAT COULD YOU DO?

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Harry Sally...
WHEN MET
Rob and Julie Nickell Rob: Julie and I met in the summer of 2001 in Charlotte, NC. My roommates and I, a bunch of single 23-year-old guys, were out on the town and had ventured into Have a Nice Day Cafe on college night for some dancing and fun. My roommate noticed Julie and her sister standing near the bar. He went over and said hello, then came back and got me and said, You have to meet this girl over there. Shes religious. Ha! Two years later, we were married. Katie and Adam Lacey

(IBC-Style)

Rebekah and Stan Massey Rebekah: Stan and I met in the singles ministry at Christ Chapel Bible Church. At the time, he had been dating a girl for a couple of weeks. I never knew they broke up, however, because it turned out that she was an identical twin, and her twin sister and Stan happened to play on the same softball team. So when Id see this girl and Stan together playing softball, I figured they were going strong. (I also noticed she was everywhere, knew everyone, and was always changing clothes!) Eventually, I gured out my error and the rest is history.

Steve and Ellison Widener Steve: Ellison and I met through the singles group at Fellowship Bible Church in Dallas. We were part of a group that liked to go to the Dallas Symphonys free Ballet Under the Stars. We got to know each other rst as friends. One week, I called Ellison to see if she wanted to go to another performance that was scheduled for that Saturday. As I was on the way to pick her up, I had the newspaper in my lap and was checking the schedule when I discovered that there was no performance that week. Suddenly, I didnt care about the ballet; I just wanted to see Ellison! So I picked her up and we had our rst date. (By the way, its a very funny feeling kissing your friend the rst time, but weve struggled through it, and that was 34 years ago.)

Christina and Zach Lyons Zach: Christina and I met when I nally decided it was time to grow up just a little bit and make the leap from apartment dweller to home-owner. Little did I know that the person I would purchase the house from would eventually become my wife. Several months after moving in, I received a call from her asking if she had left some Christmas bins in the attic. Indeed she had. This was the beginning of our communication, which eventually led to her getting her house back. I clearly didnt read the ne print in the contract, but I did get my best friend and an amazing mother for my children by far the best purchase I ever made!

Katie: An 8th grade science eld trip to Enchanted Rock isnt the way you dream youre going to meet your husband, but it was for me. I didnt know it at the time, of course. I thought this guy sitting next to me on the bus was really goofy. When my best friend blackmailed me into a picture with him, I tore it in half the moment I got a hold of it. Fastforward two years: we started dating. I come from a divorced family, so nding my husband was a pursuit I took very seriously, and rather anxiously. But there was something so charming about this guy. He loved the Lord and desired to grow in his walk. He made me feel cherished, and made me laugh harder than anyone. After 9 years of dating off and on, plus a lot of counsel from parents and professionals (seriously), a Masters degree in Marriage and Family Therapy, and a lot prayer, we married.Not necessarily the story you want for your son or daughter, but it is mine. Not too long ago, my best friend gave me the picture from the eld trip still torn in half. It is with great joy I can claim the verse, Mark 10:9, What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.

JOIN US FOR A SPECIAL WEEK OF MARRIAGE AT IBC.

When: Sunday, February 23 at 9 a.m. Where: High School Room Guest speaker: Debby Wade, marriage counselor and Certied Sex Therapist.
Everyone is welcome. Questions? Contact marriage@irvingbible.org.

PRAYER IS ONE OF IBCS CORE VALUES, and it marks everything we do. You can make prayer a more signicant part of your week by receiving the weekly Prayer at IBC eLetter or by participating in the prayer gatherings held the 1st or 3rd Wednesday of the month in The Chapel. In the meantime: pray for SchoolWorks. O

by providing weekly Half Hour Heroes Reading Buddies (elementary), Lunch Buddies (middle school) and Mentors (high school) for at-risk kids. You can help in many ways, but rst: will you pray?

SchoolWorks connects local churches with the public school system

Would you be willing to commit to pray every week for a Half Hour Hero and his/her student? Would you pray for God to be at work in the hearts of the students and that they will see the love of Jesus in each volunteer? Would you pray for wisdom for our Half Hour Heroes for them to speak words of encouragement to their student, and that the student would be impacted by the care and consistency of their Reading Buddy, Lunch Buddy or Mentor? If you are willing to be assigned to a specic Half Hour Hero pairing, contact Jan at schools@irvingbible.org, and well assign you a pairing and let you know what day and time they meet. For more information about Prayer at IBC, visit irvingbible.org/prayer.

&
Townsell Book Drive: Book It! Townsell Book Drive February 16.
Through the annual Scholastic Book Fair Drive, IBC collects book donations for children grades K-5 at Townsell Elementary School in Irving. Our goal: to show Jesus love in a tangible way by providing a book for every child (that is 900 books). Ways to get involved: Purchase a book to donate at the book fair in Town Square on Sunday, February 16. Books will be available after each service. Purchase a book for personal use. Townsell will receive a portion from every purchase in order to buy more books. Questions? Contact Jan at jfanning@irvingbible.org.

60% of at-risk kindergarteners at Townsell Elementary School do not have a single book of their own.
WE CAN CHANGE THAT.

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My Buddy dolls were introduced in 1985. A mere 3 years before Chucky.

The most effective form of prayer, according to studies, is actually doing it.

BIG
TH E

Its that time of year again when the men of IBC leave work behind for a weekend of brotherly bonding and personal growth. Things will be looking a little different this year change of venue: no hotel! but the event still promises to live up to its ever-illustrious, ber-manly reputation. Chatter caught up with Nat Pugh, IBCs own Mens Pastor, for the skinny on a new-and-improved Big Man Party.

M A N PA R T Y

CHATTER Why change up the retreat? NAT There are three main reasons we decided

with action steps that will help them make an eternal difference.
CHAT A lot of guys love the extended time of fellowship at the retreat. Will guys still get time to connect? NAT We understand the strong desire for

to bring the Big Man Party to IBC in 2014:

1. Cost has always been a huge concern; weve known the registration fee causes some men to be reluctant joining the fun. This year, we will be able to cut the cost by more than half (See pricing below in ad). 2. Over the past few years, weve noticed a trend of interest moving away from competition in the Testosterone Classic to more conversation around the re pits. Our feedback forms told us that given the option to compete against each other in sports or have space to talk, the men increasingly called for quality conversation time. 3. Better quality programming. Due to lodging eating up the lions share of the Big Man Party fee, we were limited in how creative we could be in the program itself. Our teaching faculty this year is world-class and we also have the improve comedy team, Pavlovs Dogs, performing for us.
CHAT Whats the most important thing a guy can hope to get from the weekend? NAT Aside from the awesome food and guar-

SETTI NG S
The Big Man Party 2014 Generosity, Family, Priorities, Friends, Risk, Finances, Growth, Faith

hang out time, and are actually providing more time for men to connect than in the past. Our After Party will offer a better (and warmer) venue than the re pits have been at the hotel. We are also offering twice the number of breakout sessions, and conversation time is built into each of the sessions. Plus, conversations over the massive amounts of food that will be served also provide a prime opportunity to get to know others or enjoy being with friends. Sonderman. What will he be unpacking for us?

When: February 28 March 1 Where: IBC, The Commons and West Wing A meaningful life is lived on purpose, not by accident. The Big Man Party is an opportunity to connect with other men on the journey, check the settings of our lives, and take action where needed. Friday, February 28 6:30 p.m. Massive Dinner, Speaker Steve Sonderman to follow 9 p.m. Pavlovs Dogs Saturday, March 1 7:30 a.m. Huge Manly Breakfast 9 a.m. Breakouts begin in West Wing

CHAT Tell us more about speaker Steven

anteed fun, the Big Man Party provides a time of introspection and identication of growth opportunities. You can tell by our ad that were going to be taking inventory of the settings of our life, and pursuing action where needed. The goal is that every man will leave a bit closer to Christ, strengthened in friendships with a few other men, as well as equipped

NAT Steve is the Mens Pastor at Elmbrook Church, in Milwaukee, Wisconsin, and is recognized as one of the leading mens pastors in America. He has written numerous books including How To Build A Life-Changing Mens Ministry, and is the founder of and President of No Regrets Mens Ministry (menwithnoregrets.org). In his opening general session, he will share with us about The Value of An Intentional Life. Steve will also be speaking in two breakout sessions (How to Show the Fruits of the Spirit at Work Without Being Fruity, and Can I Seriously Love Her As Christ Loves The Church?), as well as giving our closing challenge.

Cost: Early-Bird special: $39 / / After February 10: $45 Register at irvingbible.org/men Questions? Contact Kym at kyeichner@irvingbible.org.

THIS MONTH
BIBLE COMMUNITIES
Groups on Sunday
Theres always something new going on in Bible Communities! Heres a taste of whats happening this month:
Synergy 9 a.m. The Alcove Couples in their 30s & 50s If you desire to dive into Scripture and deepen your faith, this class is for you. The Tree 9 a.m. West D 20s & 30s, married and young families The Tree is a community for young marrieds and young families looking to grow together in faith and marriage. Crossroads 10:45 a.m. West C Married late 20s and 30s Join us for teaching topics that facilitate group discussion with the goal of deepening relationships within our community and individually with Christ. Join us for our new series entitled It Starts in the Home learning about marriage and family in the home. Journey 10:45 a.m. The Alcove All Welcome Join us for an informal and relaxed format centered on Bible-oriented lesions, table discussions, and prayer. Join us as we study The Next Christians how to live out the gospel in an ever changing world. On Track 10:45 a.m. Conference Room Single Parents If you are a single parent or a blended family, please join us for Bible study, fellowship and prayer. This month, Amy Aupperlee with be teaching on sons from Luke 15. Thrive 10:45 a.m. West D Singles in their 30s & 40s Join us as we study the basic beliefs and practices of Christianity. Not only will you grow in your understanding of who God is, but how to better communicate your faith to others. Renew 10:45 a.m. Training Center Diverse, all ages and stages Join us as we study Tim Kellers Gospel in Life series. We will be learning how to gospel impacts every area of our lives. Legacy Builders 6:45 p.m. West A All Welcome Join us for fellowship, prayer, and in-depth Bible teaching.

CHILDREN

Infants Through 5th Grade

Zone 6:30 Tuesdays, 6:30 p.m. A small group exploration of the Bible and Gods story. For kids K-5th grade. MyZone Wednesdays, 6:308:15 p.m. Zone/Zone Jr. A mid-week event for kids thats great for bringing friends. K-5 grade. Contact children@irvingbible.org.

Blended Families Sundays, 9 a.m. Conference Room Discover the key steps to building a healthy stepfamily. In this group you will learn useable solutions for everyday living and glean valuable insight and practical tips for raising your stepfamily the smart-nothard way. Contact Jan at janhere@ verizon.net. Recovery at IBC Thursdays, 6:308:30 p.m. West Wing Youth Lounge Do you deal with perfectionism, pride, overeating, inappropriate anger or control? Recovery is confidential and all are welcome. Visit irvingbible.org/ recovery for more info. Grace For the Wounded Thursdays, 6:308:30 p.m. A confidential small group ministry that explores the wounds we have received and the healing journey Gods prepared for us. Female group currently offered. Contact graceforthewounded@irvingbible. org to register. NAMI Family-to-Family Class Mondays, 6:309:30 p.m. West C/D A 12-week course designed for families and caregivers of those with serious mental illness. Begins January 13. Contact Joey at joey@ netbreezeinc.com or Debra at eumoore@yahoo.com. Shelter from the Storm A confidential small group focused on finding hope and healing from sexual abuse. We offer groups for both teens and adults. Contact Michelle at shelterfromthestormibc@ gmail.com or (214) 725-0898. Mental Health Grace Alliance Every other Monday, 6:30 p.m. West A and C The Living Grace Group Every other Monday, 6:30 p.m. West B For those who have mental illness. Begins January 13. Contact Pam Burtis at pamburtis@verizon.net. Family Grace Group Monday nights, 6:30 p.m. West A For family members, friends, and caregivers who support individuals with serious mental disorders. Begins January 13. Contact Buzz Moody at myrabuzz@gmail.com Stephen Ministry at IBC Stephen Ministers provide a listening ear and a caring presence for IBCers going through emotionally difficult times such as the loss of a loved one, loss of a job, illness, injury, divorce or other life events. If you or someone you know could benefit from the care of a Stephen Minister, contact stephenministry@ irvingbible.org.

MARRIAGE

Growing Together
Marriage at IBC Sunday, February 23, 9 a.m. High School Room Join us for a special week of Marriage at IBC with Debby Wade, a marriage counselor and Certified Sex Therapist. Everyone is welcome. See article, pg. 11.

Visit irvingbible.org/ marriage for more info.

CONNECT

Events and Resources for Newcomers and Small Groups

Newcomer Gathering February 27, 6:30 p.m. The Zone Come find out more about IBC, meet Pastor Andy, staff, and other newcomers. See ad, pg. 16. Small Groups Registration Open See pg. 7.

MEN

Community and Resources

Big Man Party February 28March 1 See article, pg.13. First Watch Fridays, 6:22 a.m. The Commons Join the men of IBC as we explore the book of Philippians. First Watch Replay Tuesdays, 6:30 p.m. Training Center Contact brianarrington1@yahoo. com with questions. First Watch Xtra Meets Wednesdays at 6:30 a.m. in the Training Center. Contact bcope@huntoil.com with questions.

FAITH AND BELIEF

Events and Resources
Baby Dedications February 16 Registration opens January 17 at irvingbible.org/babydedication. Space is limited, so if you have a preference of service times, please register early. Photos of children being dedicated should be sent to Donna at doreilly@irvingbible.org. Hard copies are also acceptable. New Parent Orientation February 9 at 9 a.m. The Training Room Orientation is not mandatory, but strongly encouraged. We will explore what it means to dedicate your child and answer questions about parenting issues and our childrens ministry at IBC.

Visit irvingbible.org/men for more info.

MISSION

Local and Global

Mission Lunch Sunday, February 9, 12:30 p.m. The Alcove See ad, pg. 16. Haiti Mission Trip Informational February 10, 7 p.m. The Alcove See ad, pg. 16. Prayer Meeting 2nd and 4th Wednesdays, 6:458 p.m. The Chapel Join us as we pray for IBC and the needs of our people and the world. Laundry Love first Saturday of the month, 9 a.m.12 p.m. Located at Amigo Laundromat, 3349 Country Club Dr. in Irving (just down from Sam Houston Middle School). Please join us as we provide free laundry cycles and detergent, strike up conversations and build relationships. For more info visit llpirving.org or contact info@llpirving.org.

HOPE & HEALING

Community Care
GriefShare Thursdays, 6:308:30 p.m. West C Begins February 6. Join a caring group of people who will walk alongside you through one of lifes most difficult experiences. You dont have to walk the journey alone. Childcare is available with prior registration. Please contact Sharon at shararrington@verizon.net. Abortion Recovery Counseling One-on-one, confidential counseling for those living with the aftermath of abortion. For information, contact Kym at (972) 560-4632 or kyeichner@irvingbible.org.

Please visit page 18 for more Sunday Bible Communities.

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PARENTING

Events and Resources

Shop Talk March 2, 7 p.m. Save-the-date for Shop Talk on March 2. Our topic for the night will be Listen Up! 2.0. We will have an interactive panel of high school students and adults with special insight into our kids lives.

Middle School Wednesdays The W Student Ministry area, 6:308 p.m. High School Sundays Life Groups Student Ministry area, 6:458 p.m. High School Wednesdays SWAG 7:158:30 p.m. The Alcove Teen Recovery Monday Nights, 67:30 p.m. Student Ministry Area Teen Recovery is a safe and confidential environment for middle and high school students to identify and share their pain and struggles. Contact Trey at tgrant@irvingbible.org. IBC College Ministry Sundays at 3:30 p.m. The Commons Annex

YOUNG ADULTS
20s and Early 30s
The Gathering Thursdays, 7 p.m. The Commons Join us for our current series, Game Changers. We will be looking at the stories of extraordinary young adults from scripture. We will learn how their choices made them remarkable and how they changed the course of history. Sit with us on Sunday! Young Adults sit together in the lower left-hand section facing the stage at the 10:45 a.m. service. Join us!

MISCELLANEOUS
A Little Bit of Everything
FPU Save the date March 19 Financial Peace University will kick off in March. See ad, pg. 10. NICHE (North Irving Christian Home Educators) Monday, February 17, 6:45 p.m. The Alcove Join us for our monthly meeting. No childcare available. For more info visit texasniche.com. Writers Workshop February 8, 10 a.m. Commons Annex Join a community of people who are honing their writing skills. The group is led by published author Betty Groezinger. Scott McClellan, author of Tell me a Story will be our guest in February. Everyone is welcome, no writing experience necessary. Contact Donna OReilly at doreilly@irvingbible.org.

SINGLE PARENT

Community and Resources

Valentines Dinner and Dance February 1, 6-9 p.m. The Commons Join us for our annual single parent Valentines dinner and dance. See ad, pg. 17. Guy Stuff Save-the-Date March 8 Boys in single parent families are invited to join us for Guy Stuff. A chance to eat breakfast and enjoy guy activities like learning camping skills. Contact Marsha at mtribbett@irvingbible.org. Sit with us on Sunday! Several single-parent families enjoy worshiping together in the 9 a.m. service. Join us in the lowest righthand section, Rows 5 & 6, facing the stage.

Visit irvingbible.org/youngadults.

For latest info on times and locations of college events join the Facebook group: College at IBC. Contact mconnor@irvingbible.org.

2435 KINWEST

Wednesday Nights at IBC

Vox Humana Choir Wednesdays, 7:008:30 p.m. IBC Worship Center The choral community of IBC is always looking for new singers, beginner or pro. Everyone is welcome and you can join at any time! No auditions necessary. Contact Crystal at celwell@irvingbible.org. Next Gen Choir Wednesdays, 5:406:30 p.m. Students in 4th-8th grade are invited to join our Next Gen choir. We are seeking to help students grow in Christ through the development and understanding of worship and connecting with each other in song and in Sunday worship services. Please contact Crystal Elwell at celwell@irvingbible.org with questions. ESL: English as a Second Language Wednesdays, 6:308:30 p.m. AZ17, 18 and 19 Do you want to learn English? Improve your English? Come practice all four skills: speaking, listening, reading and writing. Contact Corey at 2435esl@irvingbibl.org. FREE Citizenship Class Wednesdays, 6:308 p.m. IBC For those at least 18 years old who have been issued a Permanent Resident Card. Well guide you through the N-400 paperwork and prepare you for the main components of the new citizenship test. Contact Michael at 2435citizenship@irvingbible.org. IBC Career Transition Ministry Wednesdays, 6:308 p.m. Want to find a job? Come learn how to craft a rock-solid resume, use the Internet and LinkedIn to network, and ace the interview. For more info, contact 2435jobtransition@ irvingbible.org.

TAPESTRY

Ministry for adoptive and foster parents

Waiting Families Group February 8, 7:30 p.m. A group for any who is in the adoption or foster care waiting process, as well as those who are thinking about adoption or foster care. Fostering Hope Sunday, February 9, 5 p.m. This is open to all who are involved in serving children through foster care, including those who are fostering, fostering-to-adopt or are considering foster care or foster care adoption.

Visit irvingbible.org/singleparents.

SPECIAL NEEDS

Community and Resources

In His Image Bible Study Wednesdays, 6:307:45 p.m. Training Room A small group for adults (18+) with special needs. Special Needs Support Group Wednesday nights, 6:307:45 p.m. The Conference Room Contact Lori at lorikuy@gmail.com. SonShine Pals and Room Our SonShine Rooms are available during the 10:45 a.m. service for children with special needs. There are also opportunities for children to be matched with a SonShine Pal.

If you have not attended a support group previously, or have questions, please email Amy at acurtis@ irvingbible.org.

WOMEN

Community and Resources

Womens Bible Study Tuesdays, 9:30 a.m. and 6:30 p.m. Join us as we study the book of Luke. Square One Begins February 6 A class for first time moms. For more info and to register, visit irvingbible.org/women

Contact specialneeds@irvingbible.org.

Visit irvingbible.org/women.

STUDENTS

Middle/High School and College

Middle School Sundays Life on Life Student Ministries area 10:30 a.m.12:20 p.m.

Visit 2435kinwest.org.

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NEWCOMER GATHERING
If you are new to IBC, we invite you to attend the Newcomer Gathering, an event designed to help you learn more about who we are, what we believe, and how to get plugged in. Meet Pastor Andy, church leadership, ask questions, and get to know other newcomers in a relaxed, informal environment.

FEBRUARY 9,12:30 2 P.M. IN THE ALCOVE

These regular lunches are for all who want to engage in the work IBC is doing with local and global missions. Come hear whats new with our partners and missionaries. This months focus will be on our Local initiatives, specifically Mission at IBCs 2014 focus on the many faces of homelessness. Please RSVP to Tricia at tkinsman@irvingbible. org so we have an accurate lunch count.

When: February 27 Time: 6:30-8:30 p.m. Location: The Zone A light dinner will be served. Register at irvingbible.org/connect. Questions? Contact Sherri Sharp at ssharp@irvingbible.org or (972) 5604614.

H A I T I MISSION TRIP
Informational Meeting
FEBRUARY 10, 7 P.M., THE ALCOVE

Hosean International Ministries was

founded in 1984 by Caleb Lucien with one vision in mind: to empower Haitians with the gospel of Jesus Christ through education, leadership development, and economic growth. IBC is proud to partner with this 30-year ministry. If you have ever thought about going on a mission trip but have not taken that rst step of faith, this might be the time. A team from IBC will be joining our brothers and sisters in Haiti this July to help conduct a Youth Camp, July 18th July 26th. Families are welcome! This is a great trip for kids ages 12 and up (with parental attendance). Questions: Contact wsleonhardi@verizon.net.

you are cordially invited to

A Valentines Dinner Dance

for single-parent families

Saturday, February 1 69 pm in The Commons

BAPTISM AT IBC
EASTER SUNDAY, APRIL 20

dinner and dance horse and carriage rides limo rides family photos more $20 per family (you may pay online or at the door)

Baptism is an outward symbol of an inward change, signifying Jesus saving work done on our behalf on the cross. As we go down and come out of the water, we identify with Christs death, burial and resurrection. If you have never taken this important step of faith, what better day than Easter to honor the transforming work of Jesus in your life.
Our next Baptism service will be held Easter Sunday, April 20 after the 10:45 a.m. and 5 p.m. services.

rsvp at irvingbible.org/singleparents you may also register for kidzone at this site if needed. Questions? Email Jennifer at jerlenbusch@irvingbible.org.

Register online: irvingbible.org/baptism. Class: Baptism Orientation is March 2 in West C at 12:30 p.m. A light lunch will be served. Baptism storytelling/lming: March 23 at 12:30 p.m. in the Alcove for adults and students; 5 p.m. for children.

Safety Team
Help create a safer and more secure worship environment every Sunday as part of IBCs Safety Team. Experience with law enforcement and/or security preferred but not required, in addition to anyone trained in the medical eld. Be the eyes and ears in case of emergency as part of an observe-and-report team. To learn more, contact Chris at crose@irvingbible.org.

SUNDAY SCHEDULE
First Worship Service: 9 a.m.
Childrens Classes (all ages) Synergy (40s & 50s), the Alcove The Tree (young marrieds and families), West D

HOW DO I GIVE?
My Time, Talents & Skills
NFNL Volunteers New Friends New Life is in need of women and men to volunteer with its childrens program on Wednesday nights. Volunteers are needed from 5:45-8:15 p.m. one Wednesday night a month to participate in Bible study, academic, and gym time with the kids. Contact Christine at newfriendsnewlife@irvingbible.org. Mercy Street Mentors There are currently 67 children waiting for a mentor to encourage them as they walk through the difculties of generational poverty. For more info, contact Jen at mercystreet@irvingbible.org. Safety Team Do you have a desire to serve and protect others? Then the IBC safety team on Sunday is for you. Contact Chris Rose at crose@irvingbible.org. Please include any credentials and relevant experience. 2435 Kinwest Medical Clinic Volunteers Our weekly medical clinic is in need of professional health care providers (MD, PA, FNP) to provide treatment for our patients. Volunteers do not need to serve every week. Contact Charles at cpierce@2435clinic.org. Tapestry Volunteers Tapestry, IBCs foster and adoption ministry, is in need of volunteers. Contact Amy Curtis at acurtis@irvingbible.org. Mentor Kids in Single-Parent Families Men and women are needed for gender-specic mentoring of children from single-parent families. Contact Marsha at mtribbett@irvingible.org. Special Need Volunteers There any many opportunities from once a month to every Sunday to volunteer with the special needs ministry. Contact Shannon at specialneeds@irvingbible.org.

Second Worship Service: 10:45 a.m.

Childrens Classes (all ages) Crossroads (mid 20s-30s couples), West C On Track (single parents), Conference Room Journey (all welcome), The Alcove Renew (multi-generational), Training Center Thrive (30s & 40s singles), West D

My Resources
Box Tops for Education Box Tops for Education coupons from products such as Kleenex, Ziplocks, breakfast cereals, etc. can go to help purchase much needed equipment for Townsell Elementary. Please bring all Box Top coupons to the box in the donation area by the Training Center. Laundry Soap and Dryer Sheets Laundry Love is collecting laundry soap and dryer sheets for their monthly events in Irving. Please bring these to the Laundry Love box in the donation area by the Training Center. For more info visit llpirving.org or contact info@llpirving.org. Online Giving Option If you would nd it more convenient to donate to the ministries of Irving Bible Church online, visit irvingbible.org/give.

Third Worship Service: 5 p.m.

Childrens Classes (all ages)

Community Dinner: 6 p.m. Community Events: 6:45 p.m.

Legacy Builders (all welcome), West A Middle School, The Commons High School, Student Ministries Area

SUNDAY COMMUNITY MEALS

Join us in the Town Square for our community meal on Sundays at 6 p.m. Meals are $3 per person or $10 max./family. 2/2 2/9 NO MEAL. Enjoy the Super Bowl! Fajita madness, salad bar.

2/16 NO MEAL. Happy Presidents Day! 2/23 Giant baked potatoes with all the fixins, salad bar. If youd like to serve on a Sunday night meal team, contact Pat OReilly at (214) 289-6176 or sundaynightmeal@irvingbible.org.

Interested in learning more about IBCs budget for 2014 or other nancial nuts and bolts? Visit irvingbible.org/budget beginning in February.

WEDNESDAY MIDWEEK MEALS

Each Wednesday night from 5-6:20 p.m., IBC prepares dinner for anyone wanting a good, hot meal. PB&J sandwiches are also available. Cost is $3/meal or $10 max./family. Just come by The Commons and grab a plate! 2/5 Baked potatoes with all the fixins, salad, dessert. Hosted by Lavern Howells team.

New to IBC?
Have questions? Were here to help.

Were so glad youre here. Sometimes its hard to know where to begin, but we want to make the process of connecting and feeling at home as easy as possible. Here are some ways to start. The Information Center is a great place to get your questions answered, nd help and encouragement for your personal journey, or just have a cup of coffee and settle in. Our team of volunteers would be happy to help you, and our goal is to make you feel at home. The Information Center is open every Sunday after all three worship services. The Newcomer Gathering is an informal get-together for those new to IBC and/or those wanting to learn more about who we are, what we believe and how to get plugged in. Meet other newcomers, ministry leaders and elders. Cant seem to gure out what IBC is all about or how you t into the larger picture? Want free breakfast every Sunday for four weeks? Propel is designed to help you gure out how to best plug in to IBCs culture and calling. Well talk about what it means to grow in Christ, connect in community and join the mission and what that might look like for you. Youll also learn more about membership at IBC. Small groups exist to cultivate deep relationships that advance the kingdom of God in dark places dark places in our world, in our relationships and in our hearts. We do this in the context of sermon-based Bible studies that meet in homes. Groups comprise 12 people or fewer and are formed by leaders who have completed small group leader training. To sign up for a group or get more info, contact Ryan Sanders at rsanders@irvingbible.org.

Information Center
irvingbible.org/connect

2/12 Lasagna, hot breadsticks, salad, dessert. Hosted by Bob Downey and Karen Rails team. 2/19 Chopped beef sandwiches, baked beans, cole slaw, chips, pickle spears, dessert. Hosted by Marlene Brittons team.

Newcomer Gathering
Learn more about IBC and meet others like you.
irvingbible.org/connect

2/26 Chicken with alfredo sauce, scalloped potatoes, mixed veggies, salad, rolls, dessert. Hosted by Pat Downeys team. Changes to the menu may be made depending on food cost, availability, and Bob Downeys whim. If youd like to serve on a Wednesday night meal team, please email bdowney@irvingbible.org.

Ready to get plugged in?

irvingbible.org/connect

Propel

THE MOSAIC CAF (THE MO)

Caf Hours Monday, Tuesday, Thursday: 8 a.m.5 p.m. Wednesday: 8 a.m.7 p.m. Friday: 8 a.m.12 p.m. Closed Saturday Sunday: 8 a.m.12:30 p.m. & 47 p.m. Phone: (972) 4433323

Connect with others on the journey.

irvingbible.org/smallgroups

Small Groups

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age and named Tony V. (sorry, Tony), youve quite possibly heard it applied to yourself. Perhaps by an aunt or an adopted Jewish mother. Perhaps by strangers on Instagram commenting on your vast collection of retro-ltered shots of scaldingly lonely Lean Pockets. As if love is dispensensed by some officially licensed Cupid slot machine to those fortunate enough to hit quintuple jackpots on line 9 while placing a max bet. Or so Ive heard. But being single around this, the season of St. Valentine, has its advantages. Namely, you dont have to make the decision on whether or not to break up with your signicant (though not matrimonial) other before, during or after the Hallmark Holiday of the Month. Because while not having someone to love is a bonade bummer, its a few notches above having someone to loathe that you cant quite shake. After all, as Christians, we have a tendency to be overly nice (except while driving, gossiping or harumphing at point three of the pastors last sermon), and dont really want to hurt someones feelings by, you know, completely rejecting them as a human being created in the image of the Most Holy God. Its enough to make a Gentile verklempt. Nonetheless, honesty is the best policy and is currently offered for $300 less than other character-related policies on Geico.com. But honesty can also be tactful, loving, gentle and appreciated. Characteristics that in no way apply to the following Step-by-Step Guide to Breaking the Bonds of Christian Datingdom Before the Need to Buy Histamine-Requiring Tokens of Loveishness Arises. Or simply, the SBSGTBTBOCDBTNTBHRTOLA. As any good fundamental Baptist knows, the best Bible translation is the one just below the original Hebrew, Aramaic and Greek texts in degree of difficulty to understand the King James Version. And not the New King James, either, hippie. You want to show your not-so-much-beloved just how Bibliotastic you truly areth? Go very old school with both tongue and pen and keyboard and possibly texting if autocorrect doesnt stymie thee. Slap on the already alluded to eth to every verb possible, along with your more malleable nouns. Never see or look, always behold. Substitute Fs for Ss. But watcheth thyfelf before thou wrecketh thyfelf. You may end up sounding like either a pirate (so avoid non-biblical words like scallawag and wench) or Colin Firth. Neither of which is a good thing at this stage. We live in a postmodern, post-ironic, post-everything-to-Facebook world wherein 98% of the under-40 crowd is 100% versed in snark. So back off the clever banter and rededicate yourself to the Truth with a capital T (which you should have already noticed) by hoisting out a Ryrie Study Bible. Weighing in at a scant 57 pounds (slimline version), the RSB lets the object of your disaffection know just how high of a holy roller you are. Especially when thou continually ploppeth the tome in front of him or her with the admonition to check a few of thefe paffagef Ive marked for thee. The heft of the RSB will allow you to ee before it striketh thee in the noggin, forsooth.
STEP 2: LESS WRY, MORE RYRIE STEP 1: EMBRACE THE KINGS ENGLISH

Breaking Up Was Hard to Do

You know the phrase unlucky in love? If youre single and of a certain

Age of Grace, Schmage of Grace. Nothing spreads faux joy and love like twisting the Lords gracious, merciful gift of forgiveness into a works-based system of thou shalls and thou shalt nots. That apple cider been in your lesser halfs fridge a few days past its sell-by date? Accuse her of fermenting with intent to imbibe. Mr. Notsogoodbar a little too skilled at Dance Dance Revolution? Toss his Xbox into the street whilst screaming, Get thee behind me, Satan! Back to the (Bill) Gates of Hell with thee, Boogie Man! Because if successful relationships require exibility, ending them requires exibilidont. A Sunday school teacher once told our class of young married folks that, to stay pure of mind and free of lustiness, we should bounce our eyes whenever an attractive person of the opposite sex came into view. So make it the new normal to continually shifteth your gaze away from the one youre nding increasingly repellent anyway. This works on three levels: First, he or she will think youre hiding something and are thusly untrustworthy. Second, you may be accused of having some sort of Charismatic t which does not coincide with his or her Jacobs Well / Upper Room / The Gathering vibe. Third, once you explain yourself, youll seem even stranger than the rst two reasons. Anyone who thinks technology isnt of the Devil has never tried to set up a multi-point wireless network in their home or built a Macintosh out of nonApple-supplied hardware. But my frame of reference may be a bit narrow. Regardless, show your true commitment to Christ by disavowing all forms of modern convenience like cars, texting, bathing and employment. Churn some butter (eating it is neither required nor recommended). Grow a sweet beard (ladies, too). Wear black clothes. Make sure the previous two items dont make you look like a contemporary Christian hipster as that could cause this whole thing to unravel. A little extreme? Perhaps. But thats what being wild at heartlessness is all about. When in doubt, be absent with your body and present with the Lord. Somewhere else. Perhaps in a closet. Send your now-lonely love disinterest an explanatory SomeEcard via Snapchat and call it case closed. Sure, youll have broken fellowship with another believer and will be forced to seek their forgiveness before God will once again commune with you in prayer, but this is all a small price to pay to get to eat a box of Godivas nest without having to share. Juft dont blameth me if thou cant ftop talking like Mr. Darcy. Jason Fox has nothing but the utmost respect for Mr. Colin Firth despite his appearance in Bridget Joness Diary.
Jason Fox is a writer, advertising enthusiast and bi-weekly bon vivant formerly based in Dallas but now throwing snow in Omaha.

STEP 3: KEEP IT LEGAL WITH A DOUBLE DOSE OF ISTIC

STEP 4: BOUNCE YOUR EYES LIKE A SUPER BALL

STEP 5: GO AMISHISH

STEP 6: PULL A RAPTURE OUT OF YOUR HAT

From the manufacturer web site: the most effective way to cool off a Lean Pocket is to SIGH on it.

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Low on rewood and in the throes of Icemageddon 13, Lindsey Sobolik and Victoria Andrews turned on their old friend Chatter. A moment of silence please.

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