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Fred

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Contents

Acknowledgments

PART
The

Understanding

and

Using

Energy

Psychology

Introduction
Genesis

3
Work
Your \342\200\242 The

of Energy

Development

of Energy

Process
CHAPTER

for Changing
1

Psychology

\342\200\242 A

Step-By-Step

Life

Energy Psychology: The Essence of Energy

\342\200\242 Your \342\200\242 How

The Missing

Piece to

Your the

Success Solutions
\342\200\242 \342\200\242 How

15 Are

Imbalances Created?
CHAPTER

System Provides Energy Levels Affect Your Energy

Energy

Life

Summary

Your
Energy

Energy
Meridian
\342\200\242

Meridians
Points
\342\200\242

23
and

Locating

Reversals CHAPTER

Supplemental

Treatment

Tapping Meridian Points Strategies \342\200\242 Summary

\342\200\242

Psychological

Energy
The

Toxins
of Toxic

35
Substances
\342\200\242 Is

Impact

Toxicity

a Problem for You?

\342\200\242

Summary

CHAPTER

Beliefs
What

That Hold
a Belief?
\342\200\242 Alternative

You Back
Change Approaches

41
an Energy

Is

\342\200\242 Social

Approach
C-APTER

and Your Beliefs \342\200\242 Toward Moving to Changing Beliefs \342\200\242 Summary

Identifying Developing
Summary

Problems
Your

that You
Profile

Want

to

Resolve

49

Personal

\342\200\242

Using

Energy

Psychology

for

Your

Specific

Issues

\342\200\242

PART

II

Energy

Treatments

for Specific
and

Problems
55

C--PTER6

Understanding Psychological
St\\

Reversals

Self-Sabotage

Tvpes

of Self-Sabotage

\342\200\242

Treating

Psychological

Reversals

\342\200\242

Summary

VI

Energy

Tapping

CHAPTER
How

Everyone
Do

Is Scared of Something
Fears

65
Your

Get Started?
\342\200\242

\342\200\242

Identifying

Fears

\342\200\242 Basic

Phobias

and Fears

\342\200\242 Related

Phobias CHAPTER

and Fears 8

Treating

Yourself

in Public

Further Places \342\200\242

Reading

\342\200\242

Summary

C)vercorriing
Loneliness,

Anger,
and
\342\200\242

Rage, Guilt, Shame, Embarrassment, Jealousy,

Out

85

Rejection
Purring

Releasing Anger
Embarrassed?

the Rage

Fire \342\200\242 From

Jealousy

to Security
\342\200\242

\342\200\242

Why

Be

\342\200\242

Overcoming

Shame

\342\200\242 Loneliness

\342\200\242

Rejection

Erasing

Those

Negative

Feelings
CHAPTER

\342\200\242

Summary

Feeling
The

Good Again

111
\342\200\242 What

Treatment for Depression \342\200\242 Complex \342\200\242 and Anxiety \342\200\242 Losses Depression \342\200\242 Depression Triggered by Anger Depression \342\200\242 Cause Depression \342\200\242 Massive Reversals So Much Quit Thinking Psychological
Summary

Relieve Depression\342\200\242 Basic

Drugging

of America

Causes

Depression?

\342\200\242

Energy

Psychology Treatment

Helps for

to
that

\342\200\242

CHAPTER

10

Rapidly
The

Resolving
Process

Trauma and Painful Memories

\342\200\242

123
137

Treatment

Summary

CHAPTER

11

Improving
Managing

Your Sports
Performance

Performance
and Fears
\342\200\242

Anxiety
\342\200\242

Creating

Peak

Performance Thoughts

Treatment

Plan
\342\200\242

for Sports
Sports

Eliminate Issues \342\200\242 Summary

in Sports
\342\200\242 Touch

\342\200\242

Self-Sabotaging

and

Breathe
CHAPTER

Specific

12

Developing
Striving

an Effective
Lose

to

Weight
\342\200\242

\342\200\242

Changing

Weight-Loss Strategy \342\200\242

Your

151
Problems
\342\200\242

Mind-Set

Personal

Visualizing

Life

Situations 13

Toning

Your

Body

\342\200\242

Summary

CHAPTER

Eliminating
Gambling

Addictive
Treatment
\342\200\242

Behaviors: Smoking, Alcohol, Drugs,and

\342\200\242

169

Comprehensive Commitment

Psychological

Reversals

\342\200\242

Developing

Emotional

Urge

Reduction

Treatments

CHAPTER 14

A Satisfying
Developing

Relationships

Relationship \342\200\242
Beliefs

179
the

Identifying

Sabotaging

Choosing Wrong \342\200\242 The Relationship

Partner
Plunge

\342\200\242 \342\200\242

Relationship

Obsessions

\342\200\242

Summary

CHAPTER

15

Tools
Into

for a

Lifetime
\342\200\242

201
Psychology

the

Mainstream

Energy

and the

Future

\342\200\242

Insight

\342\200\242

Beyond

Tapping

\342\200\242

Feelings

Bibliography

205

Acknowledgments

is an Just as no person
influences.

island,

a book

Sir

Isaac

Newton,
\"If

great discoverer of
seen

comes into being than others,

it

as a result of a host bowedto such laws, physical

is

of
a truth

in

his own down-to-earth manner,said, is nothing \"There world except the history do not know.\" Therefore you we would liketo acknowledge who contributed to the creation of this work, everyone even those whom we have not met. personally We are deeply indebted to the contributions of Ti, who catalogued Huang meridian theory approximately 4,500 years founder of J. Goodheart, ago; George and Diamondand for their contributions J.Callahan, Roger appliedkinesiology; John in the treatment of emotional problems. to the application of meridian theory We like to thank our family, friends, and colleagues and would for their support
shoulders

acknowledging,
of

I have

further

by

standing

giants.\"

And Harry new in the

S. Truman, in

upon the

encouragement
David acknowledge

throughout
Justin

and

Lee for

to Finally, thank you Beck and Catharine Sutker, in inducting Matt McKay, editor-in-chief,and Kristin and acquisitions, for contacting us and supporting this project. Special appreciation and for her warmth, acknowledgment go to Jueli Gastwirth, our editor, patience, energetic attention throughout the writing of Energy Tapping.

the writing of this book. We would also like to in Energy Tapping. used helping us createthe diagrams all the talented people at New Publications, Harbinger

Understanding

and

Using

Energy

Psychology

Introduction

Your

body

has

the ability

to heal itself.
\342\200\224Andrew

Weil,

M.D.

Energy
energy

used
technique

needles to stimulate a change in the way you think and feel, energy psychology uses 2 method of two fingers on specificpoints of your Once you simple tapping body. understand this processand the location of the via the meridian points (provided will this with elirninate learn how can or diagrams book), throughout you cope you that you have struggled with for As psychologists who have been rroblems years. trained in numerous and to we have found techniques strategies, energy psychology r<e the most effective and efficient process for creating and change rapid effectively issues. treating emotional and/or psychological

Tapping is a unique bookthat will help you to learn how to use your body's to better manage your life. Although several different names can be system to identify the term we this use is This process, energy healing psychology. is based on the ancient Chinese art of acupuncture, instead of using although

The
\"ir

Genesis
was

of

It has years suddenly disappeared. seen said that incidents such as these led the Chinese the existence of an to discover that communicates information throughout the human body. energy system energetic \303\234BS has been called chi energy system (pronouncedchee),and is also known as life iorce. ki, prana, and life energy.
isms

clear when the of energy first discovered five thousand years in \302\273-ere with knives and bows and a arrows, fought \303\274ers who received minor wounds in just the right
is not it \302\261at

Work development and use

Energy

work
China.

began,
At that

ago strange

but legend time, when

occurred: that

has it wars
Sol-

phenomenon found

and ailments

that

they

had

suffered

with for

places

the

physical

Energy Tapping

Acupuncture

led to the developmentof is with altered acupuncture, stimulating, body's energy by twelve that are known as meridians. needles, major pathways specific points along Each of the meridians passesthrough a specific organ of the body, such as the lungs, or stomach. The is entire interconnected so that the chi, or life energy, heart, system travels from one meridian to the next, circulating throughout the body. These meridiansinteract with a number of more concentratedenergy fields chakras. called In acupuncture at needles are the selected tonifiinserted into treatments, body cation or stimulation at increase or selected sedation (to points energy), points (to decrease trial and error, acupuncture has been developed and used energy). Through Chinese a wide of illnesses. by physicians to eliminate pain and to treat variety
the

The discoveryof

human

a procedure

by which the

energy

system eventually

Interestingly,

several

countries

now

use acupuncture

as an

alternative

anesthesia

during as

surgery.

alternative health care treatment we think (although people hesitate because The World Health cited 104 conditions that can they don't like needles). Organization be treated disordersand sciatica problems by acupuncture, including gastrointestinal (Burton Goldberg Group 1993).
viable

Increasingly,

more people in the

United States are accepting

acupuncture

Scientific

Research
viewpoint,

Froma
challenge

scientific

one

problem
it

with energy
Trying

of

creating
with

the

concrete
meridian

proof that
points,

psychology is the
that there
to

exists.

can't You see it, but intuitively gravity or energy in general exists. you know that it's there and you can create tests that will its existence. verify that One of the early findings the belief that an energy field or aura support in A surrounds each was conducted the 1970s. researcher at Yale, Harold Saxon person Burr (1972), took measurements of the fields around trees, animals, electromagnetic and human beings.Hecalled these energy fields Life Fields or L-Fields. His work that an the into existent field that serves as a suggests body grows already energy of its a is the form. For even after a section of leaf severed, blueprint physical example, form of the severed section continues Other studies to be detectable. (Burr energy that a baby animal has a detectableenergy that field 1972) have demonstrated an its size as adult. approximates
Richard disease

energy system

for example,

is much like trying

to prove

is an
that

prove

Gerber

(1988),

author

of

Vibrational

Medicine,

may

begin

at the

the physicalbody. if disturbances Therefore, before physical problems develop,treatment

alleviate

energy level and then eventually

can be
methods

suggests
migrate
at

that
into

physical

detected
in

the

or show field energy

up in
level

time

the

energy

disturbance

and thus
when

occurring.

This today

is not

so

prevent the physical diseasefrom

we
four

will emerge that

can
ever

far-fetched

consider
years. some

completely
your

even more frequently.

points

body

regenerate approximately existed four years

For

every

That parts

ago. And
we
as

example,

get a
the

to the

existence of

energy fields

new liver every six weeks.This all basis of all physical form. The energy

human bodies the fact that is, not one single atom of of our bodies are recycled

\"traduction

field
its

is what
parts

holds the
be created

and body together

provides

the

mold

into which

can

anew.

the body and

Louis Langman (1972)conducted another that examines the relationship study between energy and disease. Hefound that in a sample of 123 women with malignant 5 had a positiveenergy chargein the cervix, and 118 had a cervical conditions, The numbers were reversed in a sample of women with no negative electrical charge. cancerous conditions. This does not that causes cancer, study prove negative polarity that the cancer itself leads to the negativecharge. because it is possible this However, that an energy difference exists betweenthose who research does demonstrate are with a and those disease. healthy to document Therehave beenseveralattempts the existence of meridian points. is an orthopedic and coRobert Becker who Cross Currents wrote (1990) surgeon He was encouraged to further authored The Body Electric (1985). explore acupuncture when it became of interestin the 1970s after President Nixon's trip to China and journalist Reston's remarkable treatment for postoperativepain and James acupuncture Much of the has works research healing. disproved the theory that acupuncture early That so as a result of a placeboeffect. is, when a person simply believesin a treatment much so that it proves to be effective (Becker and Seldon 1985). examined the that meridian Becker theory acupoints are electrical conductors and that meridians are used to send messagesback and forth from the brain and the and the site to create of conscious injury promote healing perception pain. He an and research He interesting pertinent developed approach. proposedthat the meridians were the electrical conductors that information the site of an injury to the from relay central nervous system. He thought that to block needles served perhaps acupuncture to the brain by short-circuiting the electromagnetic the pain messagefrom getting Becker theorized that current in the meridian. the acupoints functioned similarly to that are positioned booster amplifiers He noted that because the lines. along power electric current of the meridianswould have to be of a very low intensity, the booster close to each other (within inches). This is very amplifierswould have to be placed

the casewith
Maria

the

acupoints.

Reicrunanas,
that

cutter-like device

a biophysicist
could

associate of

Becker's,

be

electrical
location
point

skin

resistance.

of the

as

compared

across subjects
these

studies

information.

to the surrounding skin. Their findings were to strongly suggestthat acupoints and meridians imply that meridian pathways exist and that they

acupoint, then

They

rolled theorized

along the meridians to detect differencesin that if an electrical charge truly at the existed there would be a difference in skin resistance at that
consistent

developed

a pizza-

enough

exist. In fact, all of are used to transmit

The
The heart,

Development
development a chiropractor

of Energy

Psychology

of energy

meridian

John Diamond (1985) and of mental experimented with the treatment eliminate on acupoints helped negative
psychiatrist

acupoints

as George Goodbegan in the early 1960s, psychology from Detroit, Michigan, experimented with tapping on various to relieve pain while treating patients holistically. In the 1980s,
psychologist

Roger

Callahan

(1985)
that

each
and

health

emotions, such as anxieties, phobias,

problems.

They found

tapping

Energy Tapping

painful memories.
Thought

Callahan,whosesystem
provided and

Field
and

can effectively concepts used in acupuncture can The that change psychological problems. psychological discovery occur in such a simple way is a breakthrough in mental health. It's a radical departure from talk therapy, which dominated psychology in the twentieth century. still believe that the most effective and healthy method of people Many emotional occurs talk therapy, in which new knowledge or is learned change through it new life skills are developed not verbal communication. through Although may seem realistic that tapping on meridianpoints located on your face or hands can that is as fast or changehow you think or feel, we have not found another treatment effective as energy psychology. remain however, people, skeptical until they Many to eliminate one of their own problems. use this method will be explored further, the basis Although the concepts of energy psychology is of the that eliminate issuesby simply flunking about a technique you psychological issue or on while meridian painful memory tapping specific points. Additionally,we a related will examine treatment that helps to eliminateself-sabotaging thoughts and beliefs that often occur after someone has been traumatized or is in the middleof a
These

Gallo (1998) Gary Craig approach energy psychology world learnits procedures.
to

Therapy,

of the power therapies known as is one work. In the 1990s, Fred the majority\" of the clinical (Craig and Fowlie 1995) developed their own accessible

helped

mental health

cliniciansthroughout the

studies

show

that

the same

be

used

to treat

stressful

situation.

Energy

Psychology provides
your

you

with

psychological issues by use the power of

helping

you own

to unlock to understand and

the

keys

energy

system.

Step-By-Step

Process

for Changing
Part

Your Life
The

book

is divided
understand

into two
and

parts:
a and

I addresses

the basic

help you
specific
The addictive

utilize
for

the methods
variety emotions

treatment
concludes and

methods

of energy psychology.

concepts required to
Part

II provides

trauma, sabotagingbehaviors,

book behavior,

alsois
It

more complex issues, suchas weight loss, by examining A on relationships. chapter improving your sports performance
that

of psychological (such as shame,

issues, including self-

fear, and depression).

included.

is

important

attempting
you

to heal the
learned

smaller problems that

have

you first learn how to treat more complex ones.Often complex

first

common

problems

before

issues

consist

of several

must

be treated
that

the basics

you will
behaviors and

have a new set of

to

of energy your life.

skills

healing can occur.Once in are this which book, presented psychology, will help you to eliminateself-sabotaging
before complete

better

manage

Introduction

an methods. Because chapters guide you through specifictreatment to determine will not be experienced energy psychology therapist present help you where treatment sequences your energy imbalances exist, we have developed in (patterns of places to tap) for each of the problems this book. We also pose explored questions that may help you to determine which of your feelings and/or behaviors A brief outline of each chapter follows: are disruptive and need to be treated. 1 further and Chapter explores energy helps you to understandhow psychology of energy different levels affect your behavior. and of locations for each of the meridian Chapter 2 providesfigures diagrams that will for These diagrams also appear be points tapping particular problems. you
Many

of the

in the chapters

that

deal

addressing.
You

will

learn

meridian,

negatively your energy system. It has beenfound that weaken solutions, symptoms your energy. Various examined.

and how to do a simpletreatment sequence. 3 addresses how potential toxins,suchas food,tobacco, or alcohol, Chapter
affect
that

with the in chapter

specific

2 which

psychological

emotional areas are affected

these such

challenges we will be
by

each

can

substances

produce

as detoxification,
your
that

are
life.
are

It also longer

the and beliefs Chapter 4 explores addresses several approaches that

habits
will

that are
help

negatively
to change

affecting

you

habits

no

that Chapter 5 provides a format that want to resolve. problems you

productive.

will

help

you develop

a personalprofile of

the

Chapter 6 revealsways to identify and treat psychological reversals. Reversals in a of self-sabotage in your life. Your energy can be disrupted are the primary cause that in to are causes to act that opposition something you consciously trying way you \"I'm tired of fighting with my mate; to attain. For example, you tell yourself, may we are going to relax.\" Yet, for some after your mate comes home and reason, tonight
vou

begin

to interact,

fight

still

occurs.

It's not

a lack of

willpower;

it is

a reversal in
your

vour energy system.

Chapter

7 addresses
limit

confidence and

your fears
life of heights,

and phobias, which often

insects,

can

lower

self-

your fears

experiences.

explored,
taking,

including

Chapter 8 helpsyou
of

flying,

mtirnidating

and panic attacks. situations, learn to better manage those powerful

deal

Several specific fears and phobias are test animals, public speaking, elevators,

anger,
Chapter

rage,
9

occurs in everyone's life at some time. of a job or a hometo more difficult or being in a severe accident. as losing a loved one, suffering child experiences, such abuse, Painful affect forward with memories moving many people and prevent them from their lives. The ability to learn how to copewith a past event and move on can be to attained and how This chapter focuses on theseissues through energy psychology. treat them. In many cases, a painful with a single can be addressed memory treatment. to eliminate Chapter 11 provides strategies sports anxiety and other selfsabotagingbeliefs that create mental errors during sporting activities.
focuses

is a prevalent problem in the United States.

embarrassment, guilt, jealousy, shame, a drug-free approach to effectively offers

on

but commonfeelings loneliness,and rejection.

with

depression,

which

Chapter10
includes

trauma,

which

Trauma

everything

from

the loss

Energy

Tapping

the first chapter to deal with the more complex issues. This often related issues loss, which is complex because many lose weight. Although many people have trouble losingweight, sabotage your there It is an energy is a relatively simple solution:diet and exercise. actually imbalance and a most reversal that the obese or overweight likely psychological prevents from In this the that sabotage will beliefs person losing weight. chapter, you identify to on a diet. to in the balance learning your ability stay By energy your meridians, will to a diet of be able have the control to stick to it, and choice, pick you your achievethe elusive goal of having a slimmer, healthier body. addictive behavior, which by itself 13 addresses of selfis a form Chapter also to This avoidance behaviors sabotage. chapter helps you possible you identify and may have. The chapterhas a very strong focus on exploring belief systems reversals. Because addictions are very hard to break and often for a exist psychological treatment methods as well as identifying reason, emphasis is placed on daily
Chapter

12 is

chapter addresses

weight efforts to

replacement

activities

or

behaviors.

on relationships, a complex that has no easy answers. issue an to understand how Energy psychologyprovides approach help people they their the This chose or their own behaviors. sabotage relationships partners they by by information is used to determine which and which must be addressed problems will be most helpful. treatments energy psychology we believe will be future directions in the use of Chapter 15 addresseswhat and concludes energy psychology by summarizing the current uses of this unique tool. It is an approach that can use to help hurdle old problems and with anyone cope new ones. Energy psychology provides the toolsthat to create the allow balance you and controlthat have been missing from your life.
Chapter

14 focuses

Introduction

Frequently

Asked

Questions

In

this

section,
psychology.

we hope

to answer many

of

the

questions

that

you may

have about

energy

Q:

What

types of

issues or

problems

does
two

energy
types

A: Energy
cause

psychologyaddresses
imbalances
specific

of problems:

psychology address? the events in

first

energy
imbalance

when an
energy

event affects

and psychological
meridian

reversals. The

your
often

life

that

points

energy psychology addresses is psychological onceyou have system is reversed.For example, experienced a that or similar about trauma you encounter or think situations your energy respondsas if it were reexperiencing it. Psychological reversals create or false beliefs, which is why in ways that behave negative people their lives. this may sound strange, it explains do things sabotage Although people why that know will be bad for them. They can't because their they stop themselves, behavior like the right thing to do. Psychological seems alsoprevent the reversals energy in your meridians from balance restored. being
of

that creates consequences of feelings inadequacy. There are a numberof ways to think about your energy a term like balance is used, it means system. When that your energy flows freely through Your and each meridian has the same amount of energy. When one of your body meridians is impactedby a trauma, some of the energy in that meridian may become stimulates the meridian depleted, creating an imbalance.Tapping on the acupoints and increases the energy, which in turn creates most of this book balance. Although addresses specificproblems, it also is possible to stimulate meridians to move to a to deal with life issues in general. higher energy level and increase your ability

in your energy that you interpret

system.The result is an as painful memories or

type

occurs

The secondtype
when

problem

reversais-, i.e.,

your energy each time trauma,

Q- How is an
situation.

energy system disrupted? is that an A. The simplest explanation

The

energy

your system, your mind may have forgotten particular them. When remembers events, your body you experiencea trauma, for in a normal If the were example, you manner, respond feeling appropriate emotion. you r<eaten and robbed, for instance,tearfulness at the time. The would be natural arise when this trauma creates an energy imbalance that problems, however, perpetuates the fearful The result can that a phobic be experience indefinitely. develop you reaction that limits interact with other people. your lifestyle and the mannerin which you
in

that problem

and vulnerable to
nervous

resulting

imbalance

in your
similar

energy systemleaves
Every

disruption

is caused
you

by a

traumatic

unable

to resolve

embedded

problems.

situation

you encounter

is

and although

10

Energy

Tapping

It takes

an external experience external experience (energy

to disrupt your
treatment)

energy

system.

Another
it.

is

required

to

balance

For social reasons why energy imbalancesoccurin people. least two there have more than one million divorces been example, generations each year in the United States. Divorce is one example of a type of trauma that can affect you, resultingin feelings is the of anger, a of trust. Another or loss sadness, of As to transient communities. communities continue be more changing dynamics and choose to live in different members the sense of belonging to and cities, family the safety of living in a caring community are undermined. If feel that no one you cares about you, this easily can lead to other problems. It also is possible that energy imbalances can be passed on from one generation to another. Rupert Sheldrake's (1988) research how instinctual information examines is passed on to new generations. As there is no evidence that emotional feelings are one's Sheldrake believes that emotional feelings and learned DNA, passedthrough behaviors can on from one generation to anothervia energy fields. Under be passed this theory, a trauma suffered could be passed on to you in the by your grandmother form of an energy imbalance. This may explain why babies respond to situations with a baby's ability to cope with distinct patterns of behavior. For example, frustrating is very observable within a few months of birth. situations Of course, once children is affected are born, their energy system by their parents and their surrounding will what environment. If any of these situations creates an energy imbalance, it affect someone thinks as well as their senseof self. It could be argued that energy make disruptions at birth lead to certain emotional feelingsand thoughts that you more or likely vulnerable to have certain negative experiences. cause of the energy disruption is not crucialto the actual Although knowing the it can of your as well as your resolving problem, help explain many problems can a and if they are not behavior.Energy have on life disruptions major impact your treated, it is unlikely that the problems will be resolved.
There

are

numerous

for at

Q:
A:

How

can

an

energy

imbalance affect your

when

thinking?

a person has a thought, a chemical neuropeptides, the chemical correlatesof thought, become detectable. not only are presentin the brain, but also can be Neuropeptides found throughout the body, includingin the stomach, and liver. Thus, a kidneys, At the same time, an thought has a real embodied,physical presence. field also can be detected when a person has a thought.This is electromagnetic-like the energetic which Roger Callahan presence or manifestation of the thought, (Callahan and Callahan 1996) termed a thought field. emotions are created by a disturbancein the thought field, which can Negative a physical or emotional trauma. The theory is that the disturbance be caused by in turn, affects a specific energy point that, sets off hormonal, physiological, and cognitive events that result in the experienceof a negative chemical, neurological, emotion. The cause disturbances imbalances that can be experiencedas energy It is

well known
reaction

by scientiststhat
and

presence

or

occurs,

depression,

fears,

or

addictive

behaviors.

Introduction

11

correlatemeridian
Q: What
psychological

When a disturbance occurswithin specificenergypoint on the body. This

points

with

specific

a field, it always corresponds to a thought is why energy psychologists have been able to and develop treatments. problems

is

a psychological

reversal?
happens

A: It's not really

energy

clear what
One
behaviors

reversal.

to a

creating a situation that is the you reverse\342\200\224of what would opposite\342\200\224or the term reversal. Hence, prefer. you often are situation-specific, meaning that they only affect specific Most reversals areas of your life,suchas your ability to achieve a particular goal, overcomea phobia, or get along better with another person. If there was an event in your life that created for it's possible that this event created a instance, strong feelings of shame or guilt, which accounts for with similar reversal, why you may not be copingwell partly in your life today. Another situations feature of a psychological reversal is a lack of For example, when you don't accept a part of who you are, what you self-acceptance. or what are there can be a reversalin your The did, doing, you system. energy is an unconscious outcome act of sabotage against your expressed goals. consciously For example, you might be reversedabout That is, you may successful. being \"I don't to have success in my life.\" Or, \"I am not deserve think, unconsciously of having a in is clear successful situation my life.\" The impact of the reversal worthy when you have the potential to be successful in a particular of but part your life, you aren't. reversal creates the feelings and thoughts that sabotage the parts Psychological of your life that do not accept or feel that deserve. you you create reversals situations that we've all experienced. In certain Psychological circumstances you know what you have to do\342\200\224ornot do\342\200\224and yet you are unable to act the way in which you know should. For instance, consider a situation in you which it would a reversal, what be best to avoid saying anything. When have you happens is that you voice words that make a situation even worse. Further, if you don't are to have\342\200\224a deserve\342\200\224or accept yourself and believe that enough you good in your life, you will sabotage it. situation specific For example, a woman who doesn't think she deserves to be marriedwill the wrong man as a potential partner.Although are most other issues pick continually form of self-sabotage.The is a perfect likely also involved, this type of behavior woman to be actively seeking marriage, but really she is only her appears reinforcing is specific, selfbelief that she doesn't deserve to be married. this Although example sabotage can occurand affect any life event that you feel you don't deserve. can ruin years of hard work. Energy behavior Self-sabotaging psychologists that sabotaging beliefs are a primary reasonwhy believe people experience many in their lives even though they have the skilland ability their goals. to achieve difficulty When you have finished readingthis book, you will know how to correctthe reversals that advice to your sabotage your actions. You also may be able to give helpful friends and to your children about how to overcome self-sabotage. Q:How do you correct an energy imbalance?
and

beliefsor sabotaging

low level,your

theory
energy

to your energy system is that when a traumatic can

a when you experience

event

depletes

your

become end up

negative.

This, in turn, elicits

self-

an energy imbalanceusually with an involves working who has been trained in field. The the energy therapist extensively techniques in this rook will teach you how to do this without the assistanceof a trained therapist.
A

The

process

of correcting

12

Energy

Tapping

Typically,

once
about
fear

to think example, if a
asked
the remember

last

time

occurred.
When

is has describedtheir problemto a therapist, the client For become aware of its associated feelings. of to treated, the client would be asked were on a or in a where the similar location problem they balcony

a client
that

and problem were being heights

about a
difficult

problem or
that

you

focus

your
situation

awareness
that

on a
think

is distressing
than

in touch with the problem). (although may be one way of getting Once you focus your attention on the problem at hand, your body-mind will respond in a small way as if you were actually in that situation. If there are meridian points that need to be treated,you once again bring your that

to visualize it

you

have

to do

other

to you. There about the situation.

problem, all you

are

or is nothing magical
You don't even have

doing

is thinking

energy into that problem to problem you are trying treatment energy psychology

or pattern overcome.

thought
Once

Remember
your

techniques

that

the

emotional

problems

field by focusingyour attention on the are for the have done this, you you ready to help overcome obstacles. your you in that you perceive are mere disturbances

are different for each problem,specificmeridian points\342\200\224which treatment stimulated. We use the word \"algorithm\" to mean or on and torso that of to face, hands, sequences patterns places tap your upper address of and have issues. these specific Through years experience testing, patterns found to be effective. After learn been the locations of specific meridian points, you

To treat a
to

energy

system.
be

problem\342\200\224need

you

will

find

it easy

to use the

treatment

sequences

that

are

provided.

Q:

What

is

applied
the

kinesiology

and

how

is

it related

to energy

psychology?

deltoidmuscle. applied in to their issue, thereis a

What

procedures kinesiology, psychology is calledapplied which is an unique method of evaluating bodily functions of manual by means a muscle Most such as the muscle, deltoid, often, testing is done on an isolated testing. to the shoulder area. clients are asked musclein the large, strong During procedure, think about a problem an arm parallel to the floor, thus tensing the while extending

A: One of

used

in energy

kinesiologists
momentary

found

weakening

of the

is that when clients mentally tune muscles. This is the result of

this
the

an

energy

essential
psychological

psychology was developed usingapplied in this book. We have testing required to do the techniques kinesiology, and various of extensive clinical types problems experience have analyzed through in with treatment for examined this book. As issue provided you sequences every in will with on most different meridian will, learn, tapping points you your fingers
Although

on The application of this highly specifiedprocedure pivots of which allows the muscle-weakening phenomenon, energetic aspects to be diagnosed. problem

imbalance.

the

process

of energy

muscle

is not

cases, successfullytreat

each

condition

or problem.

work? Q: Does energy psychology really A: Some of the best testimonialsthat

growing number
practice.

of

The

president

says, \"I find energy the treatment of all

is effective come from the in their private these treatments therapists of the Canadian Society of Clinical Lee Pulos (1999), Hypnosis, tools in to be the most and effective among psychology powerful varieties of psychological problems.\"
energy

psychology

who

are using

ntroduction

13

Research

to evaluate a therapeutic technique calledsystematic desensitization, developed by Joseph Wolpe (1958). As the term a SUDis evaluation the subjective implies, person as to the impact of a problem. by When doing the treatment sequencesin this book, you will be asked to think about a and then rate it as to how it affects much For example, if you have a problem you. in an tear of elevators, would elevator and then rate the SUDfrom imagine being you 0 to 10, with 0 indicating no impact or distressing and 10 indicating the feeling of distress. highest level As you will notice in Part II of this book, energy psychology uses a rating scale similar to the SUD to determinethe magnitude of the emotional that problem or challenge you are addressing. In 1995,two researchers at the University of Florida, Figleyand Carbonell, clinical with several power therapies,one of which conducted studies was an energy Power that are those can eliminate The treatments trauma. therapy. therapies rapidly to help patients who suffered from -.vere used disorder. The stress post-traumatic it results found that the was not a effective energy therapy approach, only very
term

evaluate its success. The

on energy

psychology often
SUD

uses Subjective

Units

of Distress

(SUD) to

was

first used

worked
m

the fastest.

Additional surveys involved

on

radio

talk shows.
people

had an average SUD rating of 8.3; after presented by callers their prescribed by Callahan, average SUD rating was reduced to 2.1. Ten years later, Glenn Leonoff replicated Callahan's radioshow study (Callaran and Callahan 1996). He alsoworkedwith and also had a callers sixty-eight success rate of 97 percent. The average SUD rating was 8.1before the and treatment 1.5 after the treatment. Our experience has shown that a problem that has an SUDrating of 8 to 10 has i very powerful impact on an individual's life. Conversely, a problem that has an SUDrating of one or two, most often is beingwell and managed by the individual life. ras minirnal on their impact

5L\\ty-eight

on

rroblems
callers

that were
treatment

two who treated individuals who called therapists In 1986, Roger Callahan (Callahanand Callahan 1996) treated radio shows and had a 97 percentsuccess rate. On average,

did

the

0\"

Will

you

give an

example of someone
depressed,

who

has

been helped
have

by

energy

psychology?

\\- Our

For instance, one bright, yet

clinical experiences with

in

energy psychology
teenage

resulted

xx
tnrtv
n=r

girl who was

amount

ready to repeat hersenShe

in many

successes.

year

unmotivated

and

school high not would and

work

graduate.Onceshe agreed to treatment,

minutes
course
Another

was greatly helped complete the minirnal

by energy psychology.
of was could

was

work

there she

a newfound

belief that

a smile succeed.
to

for graduation, she was motivated a is woman example thirty-two-year-old still

and \342\226\240rrrteen

was

tormented
sabotaged

roor
.erser
zrre

by memories
changed

who was rapedwhen

event.

apply

required for her to on her face in less than She not only completed to colleges as well.
she

was

of

the

Her

that

she

perpetually that

her life. After

bothered by the
direction

event. Shereadily
later went
which

one energy treatment,

her

self-image
she

was so
was

no and

view

of herself in
graduate

she

on to complete collegeand
energy

such a posischool

\302\253renrually

became

a licensed

Weight loss
one r\302\253e

is another area in
man

psychotherapist.

LTsrtg

energy psychology, he was treated for

middle-aged

was unable

to lose weight, despitetrying

loneliness

psychology
and

is effective.
numerous

For examdiets.

feelings

of rejection. After

14

Energy

Tapping

one

session,
his

with his
maintain

motivated to begin his diet.Helearned how to appropriately used the on a to help him issues and treatments basis weight regular
he was
and

deal

diet
quickly

to lose
do energy
this

weight.
treatments

Q:

How

work?

on the type of problem being important question depends as the person who is receivingtreatments. will Some people relief after resolve their problem in one treatment; most will significant experience their first treatment. we recommend two weeks of daily treatments for any In general, Once these also be needed. treatments problem, although periodic follow-up may treatments are take a minute to and can be however, learned, complete they only
addressed

A: The

answer to
as well

done

almost

anywhere.

suchas
basis.

Basically,
if

there
house

your

issues. If your house The good news is that

If you

will energy, the healingprocess

take more time to successfully eliminate. We consider loss, weight are addictive issues as and interactive relationships, complex problems. They because there can be several reasons are interactive because complex why they exist;they For these situations occur and reoccur ona regular unlike event traumas. basis, single for and can therecan be several reasons someone to be example, overweight, yet they encounter situations that can sabotage them every day. is works The otherfactor that affects how quickly energy psychology treatment with severe or is different. problems, you. Every person People multiple problems, will feel relief quickly, for some long-term problems need to be patient. Although it will take more time and many treatments to help you to better cope with most, If eliminate low levels of and/or your issues. you believe that you have extremely
issues,

it is a single event, i.e., your home is not robbed on a regular memories this event by using the treatment for (see painful it is that can relief from one chapter 10), experiencesignificant very likely you treatment. You then can use follow-up treatments to reinforce your success. in the last interactive are more difficult and are addressed Complex, problems several chaptersof this book. You need to be patient when treating these types of

are two types of problems: those that are based on single events, is robbed, and those that are such as relationship interactive, that it is a traumatic event. has been robbed, you know firsthand

address

as they
and

take

even

longer.

CHAPTER

Energy

Psychology:

The

Missing

Piece

to

Your

Success

Letting

go

of the
or

emotions

that

trap

you,

painful

anger,

is the way

to a

longer and

memories, fears,
healthier

depression,

life. Chopra,

\342\200\224Deepak

M.D.

\"r the
effective,

last decade,
acceptable

the use of
tool

alternative

medicine

has

made enormous
in this

strides as an
various

that

rroblems.

Although
work

the number

helps
of

people prevent or better copewith

leading

health

contributors

.^rge,
themselves

the

\342\200\224ost

prominent.

of Deepak Each of

and

meviously may have thought possible.Throughtheir work, peoplenow have a better of how their bodies are impacted toxins that can come from air, zrderstanding by and chemicals. These toxins can to disease increase rood,water, people's vulnerability

the Weil is among Chopra, Caroline Myss, and Andrew these individuals has helped peopleto better understand to recognize that they have more controlover than they their lives

growing area is quite

2nd even speed up the agingprocess.

Although

all

three

authors
it

explore

rrsmal
risny

can alter their energy system so, and, by doing if their She that lives. r-jtnge says you spend your energy continually dealing with onto the negative aspects of your and life, you will not have enough energy holding off with other r ward to heal from illnesses, and/or to deal appropriately disease, and Weil have developed distinctive r\302\273?cential Chopra, approaches problems. Myss, r the healing process, although all three of them the importance of letting go stress :* vour negative emotions. In the chapters that follow, we will teach specific you that will help you to do this efficiently and \302\273chruques effectively.
people

energy system,
to understand

is

Caroline

and stress the importanceof life force Myss' (1997) work that especially has

or the

helped

that they

16

Energy Tapping

The
Everything

Essence
you

of Energy
sun,

see\342\200\224the

the

form

the end, when brokendown

positive

of energy.

Whether you
energy

are maleor female,

to

moon,

planet earth,
strong

the solar system,

or weak,

the

stars\342\200\224is

the

and

are all about energy. Toreadthis page, for example, your mind told your hand to open up the book and turn the pages; next, your eyes send the brain; then, images on the pages to your your brain interprets the images so that understand what are the speed at which this about reading. Now, think you'll you at must and for to read. It the of process again happenagain happens speed you in In it is the of our that allows us to do most lives fact, energy. power energy activities and yet, in many areas, energy remains an untapped resource. Bohin David (1980) says that energy saturates every inch of space Physicist the and that it is energy universe that connects us to each other and throughout else in our world. everything Energy psychologyis about the examinationand will of that life to development techniques help you to manipulate and use your energy better deal with your physical and emotional problems. In allows you to tap into your own energy system fact, and, energy psychology or impediments. it, eliminate the causes of any psychological by balancing problems The results:you feel better about yourself, you are more confident,you are better able to cope with a myriad of emotional are and you stop feeling as if you problems, \"stuck\" in your life.
you

ways. Our thoughts are energy,

to read

negative

in our

world and
our

simplest
feelings

structure,
it

you are

energy. Thereis
us in

angry or happy, in

continuously

affects

millions of

are energy,

even the

this book

actions requiredfor

Energy

psychology
you

has manipulate

can help

to

developed and use

emotional

that techniques life your energy

problems.

to

better cope with

Your
Because

Energy
we

System
with our
the

Provides

the

Solutions
our
will

all

lives has
help

becomeone of
to understand
of

struggle

dominant

energy system. One

don't had
away. When

you

that the
the

solutionsto your
perplexing
People developed
they

how to better personal issues,learning manage in our society. Energypsychology themes

problems

are

within

most
it

parts of having a
are certain

problem is that

your body's
often
that

you they

understand why more knowledge

Unfortunately, people

exists.
if

or

taught commonly skills, their

them,

to believe

if

go

don't

to blame
contributes

themselves.This
their

is not always true. understand why a problem is affecting lowers their makes them self-esteem,
this

problems would
they

feel \"stuck,\"
of

are prone
and

to

confusion

about how
is techniques

components of energy psychology have a problemto treatit. The

needed

One they can be helped.

the

most

attractive

that

you
in

this

don't need to understand why book teach you the skills that

you
are

for you

to

\"tap\"

your

problems
that

away.
will
of

In
life.

energy psychology, we will

to treat

take
having

you

through
to

analyze

a step-by-step and discuss

process

enable
your

you

problems without

every piece

Energy Psychology: The

Missing

Piece

to Your

Success

17

Fears

and Phobias:

Case

Study

to go back inside. a situation that he feels he can't change, energy him confront and deal with his fear. Imaginethat before the party, r-svchology helped Bill thinks about his fear of heights and taps with two several times on his fingers evebrow,under his eye, and under his arm. When Bill gets to the party, he goesout m the balcony and finds that, he is not completely comfortable, he can stay although :<ut on the balcony, in the Bill feels his socialize, and enjoy himself. Later evening, rear starting to return. He uses another and while energy technique psychology his touches the side of his hand, under his eye, under his arm, fear, he discreetly feeing and his collarbone. When he again goes out on the balcony, under he finds that he can walk up to the railingand look down and see people walking on the sidewalk him. The situation that used to paralyze him and forcehim to below eshteen stories r? msideno longeraffects him. Bill still doesn't know why he has a fear of heights, what r>CT does he need to. Instead, he has learned is most how to manage important: res fear. In time, Bill will eliminate his fear of heights This is the world of altogether. on a little face or hands seem energy Although tapping psychology. your may it will the door for to make in life that arrange, open changes your you you may not -.ave thought possible.

The fears and phobias that can to be treated with energy range from simple is For Bill a with a fear He is teacher of heights. successfuland complex. example, in of his life, but he has a fear that It seems most he cannot control. aspects competent if he a it he as has always had this fear. As child he became aware of when couldn't anxious. As a teenager, he felt embarrassed climb high up a tree without getting A-hen he couldn't climb a ladder. He had no idea why he had this fear, and he just learned to adjust to it, staying away from the situations that he knew made him an adult, anxious. As he was again faced with such as the time moments, embarrassing an went to a in he to find that the people he eighteenth-floorapartment party only wanted to socialize with were on the balcony.He had a drink and walked out on the ralcony,but his fear soonhad him feeling paralyzed. He looked for a seat away from the end of the balcony, but oncehe looked over the his fear started to railing, him. There was an uncomfortable feeling and then a fleetingthought about overwhelm

-jmping,
Although

and

soon

he

Bill's

fear

felt compelled of heights is

Relationships:

A
affects

Case
all

Study
aspects

the err.orce rate is still extremely in the United States. What's Are high happening? peorelationr^e having difficulty choosing the right person or arethey sabotaging good the aups? There are many ways to createproblem including relationships, ignoring r^tht person or chasing the wrong one. For Ann wants to be in control because she doesn't men. trust example, always chooses to date men who are needy\342\200\224similar 5k to children\342\200\224and who on depend 3er In her relationships, she is the caretaker, most of the decisions. Most making The problem is that her relationships don't irrvrtantly, however, she is in control. she Ann also does all of the work in the relationship, jbk. Although has control, wrench leaves her and frustrated. She like feels feeling angry giving up on men,
how

bookson Despite numerousbest-selling

Your energy level

of your
to

life, including your

relationship

relationships.

resolve

problems,

18
because

Energy

Tapping

are similar to the men in

wants

it appears
find

that the

only men whom she attracts

her

to

a man
to

who she
care of

can trust,

past

relationships.
one

who

and alsobe able

sabotages her
you

take

will

learn more

real goaland

her from finding the right man. In future blocks about this concept and how to correctit.

her. Unfortunately,

who are attracted to her and Ann really wants to change. She will share the workload with her, an energy Ann has imbalance that
chapters,

If

you

reflect

for

when

a minute, you a you sabotaged

can probably think

situation

of

time

in

your

life.

How
While

Are
it

Energy
that problems
finding

is true

to problem, do you have the knowledge,skill, or ability the or is it an If do not lack imbalance? help you problem, you energy the knowledge, then most likely the cause of your is skill,or coping ability, problem an energy imbalance and a psychological from reversal that prevents identifying you or implementing appropriate solutions. For example, of people millions with problems such as weight loss, struggle Our society, and too behaviors. addictive and/or poor relationships, depression, in seem life's smallconcernsand about general, many people chronically angry It seems as though issues. after with the same issues. Often, people struggle year year that can't their own problemsor have understand people accepted many they for Some and authors of effective books develop change. self-help strategies experts that a lack of or skill is when knowledge creating the problem.Yet, people imply to develop sincerely try coping skills and implementself-helpstrategies, they frequently find that it doesn't work for them. This of situation is the hallmark of an energytype related issue: you know how to solvethe problems that but for some encounter, you what is needed. reason you can't make yourself do When we examinethe beliefsthat clients share with us, the word can't is important because, we it a lack causes as isn't of knowledge or skill that contend, your we an believe that imbalance in your energy system sabotages Instead, problems. to achieve of moving on with certain goals in your life and/or be capable your ability is balanced, your life after a traumatic event has occurred. Once your energy system and concentration that are however, you will be able to developthe motivation required to accomplishyour goals, and to do so with far less difficulty. If to accept the ideas that support the effectiveness of energy you are struggling are often confronted with skepticism. It psychology, remember that new approaches wasn't that long ago, for instance, that chiropractic care was viewedas a strange medicine. it offers treatment to more than alternative fifteen million however, Today, a it is one of the fastest growing professions in and its services the people year; country; are covered by most insurance plans (Burton Goldberg Group 1993).
If

lives.

is responsible for
you

Imbalances Created? can occur due tono of your

fault

effective

solutions

to dealing with

own, each person still the challengesin their

have

a chronic

to cope with

Energy

Psychology:

The Missing

Piece to

Your

Success

19

The
is

Chinese
increase

believe that all things

have

Chi,

are

Chi.

If

life to

movement,

then Chi is what makes things move. The ability or decrease this is the basis for healing. energy

How
Your

Energy
personality problems.

Levels
complex
In every

Affect Your Life

and changing element of who you you respond with a different
are
set

is a

and how

you

constructive and others destructive. For did you ever wonder example, at other about those peoplewho scream drivers when they're on the road?Those can samepeople and deal with a complexsituation clear trust, go to work using and It is how can behave communication, understanding. amazing people differently on the particular on a person's depending problem. Much of this depends
some are
balance\342\200\224or imbalance\342\200\224of

cope with

situation,

of emotions,

energy.

a situation that involves an energy imbalance, your is not level sufficient to and to that are associated resort behaviors energy cope, you with low energy. For example,at the moment when peopleexperience \"road rage,\" at the wheel can their behavior they are hateful, impatient, and very anxious.In fact, and be self-destructive At times, they may even try to punish other drivers. vengeful. Their rage seems to be fueled the that to drive exactly belief should be able by they the way want without which often means as fast as desire, they driving they interference. When another slows them down, it elicits of rage. What is driver feelings is that this most is not that life-view. behavior typical equally strange person's likely That is, once they step out of their car, they can leave that feeling of rage behind and is that you almost immediately behave in a calm and thoughtful manner. The point can behave differently in various situations on your level of energy. depending
When

you

are involved in

Map

of
Hawkins

Consciousness

To better
by

understand this
(1985).

concept,

David

writings
extensive energy

of Callahan
experience.
psychology.

and Callahan (1996) or Gallo

The map

we use the Map of Consciousness developed is a theory and shouldnot be confused with the
(1998),

which

are based
are

on

clinical

the However, It identifies emotions

map is a helpful guide to and related behaviors that

understanding
associated

with
are

specific

an experience that severely lowers your energy, you have you lower or level emotions such as shame and/or behaviors, likely energy This can be can that a makes because guilt. confusing, argue negative experience you feel bad and, depending on the experience,they could feel shame. It is clear, anyone when certain come about when you can't change, imbalances however, that energy areas of your life are stagnant, or when emotions such as shame or anger regularly to endure

For example,if

energy levels.

appear
why

in

your

life.

People
people

can also
can

operate at
in one
that

different

be angry

another.

Hawkins believes

and situation and show acceptance few the levels reach people higher

energy

levels

for various

problems. This
inner
of

is
in

strength
consciousness

20

Energy Tapping

it and anger. The map, however,should not be used to make judgments. Rather, a should with to be used as a guide to identify level regard particular your energy It will need to address if you also help you to identify what issues you problem. may are to move to a higher level. What follows is a brief explanation of each energy level, as defined by Hawkins. at which you operate when you Your goal is to determinethe lowest energy level(s) if it is even Remember, attempt to solvea problem. you start at a higher energy level, to the for the lowest levelat which important operate given identify energy you circumstance. For example, you may begin operating in a situation by beingcalmand trustful If level), trying to empower others to solvea problem. (neutrality eventually, frustrated and others for then for this blame the however, particular problem, you get at the guilt level. This information will beused in the situation, you are operating to help you decide which emotions you need to treat to following chapters may
eliminate

and emotions,

such as willingness. mostpeople Instead, operate

at

the

level

of pride

problem.

two questions:

As you

review each

of

the

levels

identified

below,

keep in mind the following

1. 2.

Can

you

identify

a problem

you wish to

resolve?
that

What

is

your

energy

level when

you are dealingwith

problem?

Lowest

Energetic
when

Emotional
and

Levels

the four lowest energy levels. Keepin grief represent are at there is these levels, multiple operating usually your energy it issues and problems causing the energeticimbalance. In these circumstances, will and take more time treatments to rebalance generally multiple your system. Shame: life experiences, such as sexualabuse and Early traumatic lead to shame. In our critical society,however, abandonment,can imperfections, physical sexual orientation, and of shame. other unusual behaviors can also lead to feelings that deal with shame create many This is Situations with self-acceptance. problems one reason why shame create a Shame is the most will reversal. likely psychological most destructive often to behaviors. level, leading energy many self-sabotaging Guilt: People whoseenergy has to the level of guilt tend to develop dropped and/or manipulative punishing personalities. They always behave as if they are a victim of life, and blameis one of their Those who have primary weapons. or feel responsible for a traumatic tend to suffer from unconscious guilt situation

Shame,guilt, apathy,
that

mind

psychosomaticdiseases. of where external helplessness energy is sought from are felt to be a burden by at this level often caregivers. People operating energetic those around them, as they are needy and may endlessly discuss their problems. Grief:Often felt during times of sadness and loss, grief is a feeling that who everyone experiences for short amounts of time during their life. However, people for of time within this level extended and grieve periods operate (years) continually

Apathy:

This

is a

state

live a

life

of

regret

and

chronic

gamblers, who accept failure

depression.

Grief also is the energy level of

as

habitual

losers

and

part

of their

lifestyle.

Energy

Psychology:

The Missing

Piece to

Your

Success

21

Middle

Energetic

Emotional

Levels

The next four

have
they particular

successful
tend

to

are fear, desire, anger, and pride. It is possible levels for to people lives operating at these levels; the energy level is much higher and have their own exhibit healthier behaviors. These levels, however,

concerns.

Fear:

from danger. As a
jealousy,

As you

probably know, fear

life-view

can be a healthy
state

emotion,
it

as
can

chronically

personality, Desire:

where Desire alsois the energetic of addictions, level helps to drive the economy. more an becomes than outcome. as one desire is craving important Unfortunately,
or destructive. Anger: Energy at this level can be eitherconstructive Anger can or deal cause people to leave problem situations with them. But, as a lifestyle, anger itself as resentment or revenge. Angry people are irritable and explosive, expresses fall can into and tend to distance peoplefrom them. easily rage, Pride: feel as People positive they reachthe level of pride, as they have attained of in their from some level accomplishment lives. If pride originates exclusively if external forces, the inflated ego is vulnerableto attack. Also, a loss of status however, occurs regarding pride,this energetic can quickly move to shame. This is level what we call a \"healthy which differentfrom is closer to the descriptionof pride,\"
neutrality

however, fear of success. Fear also limits the growth of the because much energy is expended on dealingwith fears. The desire for money or powerdictatesthe lives of many people and
or

continual

of being,

it protects lead to

us

high

stress,

or a

achieved,

another

often

quickly

replaces

it.

that

follows.

Highest

Energetic
where
life.

Emotional
emotional

Levels
to be

The last group of

crossover

levels
than

discussed is the
used

beginning of
decisions
own
level

changein your
and the
courage,

point,

power\342\200\224rather

force\342\200\224is

to

make

and create

At

this
of

level, there
are

empowerment

others

the true

is a realization that your keys to success.This

empowerment
includes

to look exciting, challenging, and starts Courage: This is wherethe world At the lower world is seenas or the levels, sad,frightening, stimulating. hopeless, the of to and handle and the Courage frustrating. begins process empowerment cope ability the opportunities of life. Couragebringsout the capacity to face fear or our own and character defects grow in spite of them. At this stage, the world is seen as a complex and Neutrality: place changing without answers or The world no is simple rigid positions. longer viewed as black or white. To be neutral means that not getting one's way is no longer as experienced I I'll or The view is \"If didn't then rather, this, defeating frustrating. get get something else. Life has its ups and downs and I will be okay if I roll with the punches.\" People at level are easy to get along with and not interested in conflict. this who have reached the level of are genuinely Willingness: People willingness a and social and economic success is of have the ability their lives. friendly, part They to overcome inner resistanceand do not have blocks. learning Having let any major of are to look at their own and learn from others. defects willing go pride, they are there is the level, Acceptance: Although higher levels,acceptance according to Hawkins, where there is the realization that the of happiness is within source

neutrality,

willingness,

and

acceptance.

22

Energy

Tapping

oneself.

Love
from

is not
within.

created
discipline

something
Long-term

that

is

given

goals

or taken away by another, but is rather take precedence over short-term goals.Self-

and

mastery

are prominent.

Summary The goal of

provide

was to introduce you to the developmentof energy this work and chapter you with some examples of how your energy can affect your behavior. As can an see, we believe that most psychologicalproblemsare maintained you by is to balance your imbalance. The key to eliminating these types of problems energy

energy. Energy
with

imbalance

is the

problems
will

in your
be able

life. After

reason why you

learning

have had so much

difficulty

dealing

and

utilizing

book, you

to deal with

manner. Lastly, rememberthat to good physical health.

most of your problems in an efficient and effective of of the emotions is one letting go your negative keys

the energy

treatments in this

CHAPTER

Your

Energy

Meridians

Just

because

Chinese

detect, perceive, or measureforces that are does illness important in managing say not automatically mean that do not exist. they
we

cannot

doctors

\342\200\224Andrew

Weil,

M.D.

There
emotional

are a
that
instances,

number
distress.

method
most

energetic balance in your body and thus relieve we book, portable specifically cover a simple,highly can be used by anyone, in practically any place, at almost any time. In eliminate the energy treatments one to three times will repeating your
of

ways

to obtain

In

this

problem

altogether.

Energy
vour head,

Meridian
major

Points
energy

There are twelve

meridians

channels that carry subtle energy specific points on the surface of

through your fingers, and down to your

through
the

in your

body. They run

toes.
Acupoints

from

the

top

of

Meridians
or

are
meridian

the body.
many
described

skin,

of which
in

evidence lower electrical

you

\"vessels\" or points are

will

resistance

relative

to

the

surrounding
environment

skin surface.
enters
treatment

tap on when
acupoints

subtle energy from

interconnect

doing the energy treatments

the

These are the points that

this

book.

the body
points,

through these portals.The

we will
with

It is thought that

To provide
that \\our

are head,

in

your face, upper torso, and hands.Starting we will describe the location of each meridian
are

easy accessto the

addressed

along

the

meridians.

focus on the
the

meridians
We

and

points on the emotions and/or

meridian
meridian.

problems that
also provide

when chapter
points

addressed
additional

the meridian points for

in

stimulating
treating

the point
psychological

on that

will

reversals,

which

will be

further

this

and in chapter
are

treatments

that

are

often used in
used

Seventeen meridian
They

6. And, we will explore two with the treatments. conjunction primary in the treatment sequences in this book.

include:

24

Energy Tapping

Diagram

One:

The

Meridian

Points

Used in Energy Psychology

\342\200\242our Energy

Meridians

25

Eyebrow

Point
meridian nose.

The Eyebrow (EB) energy near the bridge of the evebrow,

trauma,

point The

is located at the EB is often important

begirvning

of
treatment

either
of

in the

frustration,

and restlessness.

Side of Eye
The

Side

eve at the
frequently

side of

of Eye
either

(SE) energy
eye,

helpful

in

alleviating

meridian point is locatedon the below the end of the eyebrow. directly feelings of rage.

bony

orbit

of the

The

SE is

Under Eye
The

Under

eve below
ahead.

either eye, directly

UE is

Eye

(UE)

energy
under

meridian point
the
treatment

The

often used in the

pupil
of

when

is locatedon the bony orbit of the eyes are directedstraight

nervousness,

the

anxiety,

phobias,

and

cravings.

Under Nose
The _n

Under

Nose

the

crevice

above
for

jruquely helpful

under the nose (UN) energy meridian point is located directly and is the upper lip. The UN is used to treat conditions many It is also used in treating what is referredto as embarrassment. reversal.

ieep-level
Under

psychological

Bottom

Lip

The Under Bottom

die bottom
n the
ihame.
treatment

Lip (UBL)
problems

lip,

in the
of

depression it is

many

Additionally, Under

used in treating some types

meridian energy point is located directly under between the lip and the chin.The UBL is also used and is specifically useful in alleviating of feelings
of

psychological

reversal.

Collarbone
next

The Under Collarbone (UCB)

rather placing; a

collarbone,

finger

in the
the

chest bone.The UCB notch beneath where the Adam's is apple

to the

energy

meridian

point

is located
is easily

sternum or
one

directly under
found by (above the
approximately

located
left

ster-

-jm), sliding
me

finger

down

inch and

inch.

conditions.

The indentation is the It has relevance specific

UCB.The UCB
in the

then to the right or

is
of

used
anxiety

in the
and

treatment of many
insecurity.

areas

Under mcnes under

Arm

The Under Arm (UA) energy meridian is located on the side of the body, six either armpit. Men can locate this point by raising an arm, placingthe \342\200\224ee hand on the breast nipple, and then sliding the hand directly under the raised

26

Energy

Tapping

arm.
their

For women, under body

cravings.

the UA is
Sometimes,

either armpit.

located wherethe understrap The UA is frequently

it is

of a
used

bra meets
issues

the side of

to treat

nervousness, and

used to

treat

self-esteem

anxiety, as well.

Under

Breast
(UB) where

The Under Breast

breast,
feelings

approximately

energy the rib

meridian

cage ends.

point is located directly under either The UBis often useful in treating

of

unhappiness.

Little

Fingernail

meridian energy point is located on the inside tip of the cuticle. The LF is easily finger, where the fingernail joins that is locatedby extending the little finger and touching the side of the fingernail in alleviating feelings of anger. facing the ring finger.The LF is important

The Little
little

Fingernail(LF)

either

(pinkie)

Middle

Fingernail

The Middle Fingernail (MF) energy meridian is located on either middle point to the pointer or index finger. The MF is often useful in fingernail, on the sideclosest treating jealousy and addictive cravings.

Index Fingernail
The finger,

Index

Fingernail

on

the guilt

side

of the

meridian point is locatedon eitherindex closestto the thumb. The IF is useful in the fingernail
(IF) energy

alleviation of

feelings.

Thumbnail

The Thumbnail
side

of the

treating

meridian (T) energy point is located on either thumb, nail nearest the body and from the other fingers. The T is away of intoleranceand feelings arrogance.

on

the

useful

in

Back of Hand
meridian point is locatedon the back of either finger ring finger knuckles, in the direction of the wrist. in the treatment of conditions such as physical pain, depression, and loneliness. BH is also used during two additional treatments that The are covered in this book: the Brain Balancer(BB) and the Eye Roll (ER), both describedlater in
The

Back

of Hand
little

hand between the The BH is helpful

(BH) energy
and

this

chapter.

;^r

Energy Meridians

27

Side of Hand meridian point is locatedon the little finger side at the palm of your hand, finding by looking that crease is closest to the and the die palm fingers, noting where the creasecrosses in of the hand closest to the little This is treatment of the finger. edge point important and in the correction of several sadness reversals. of psychological types
The

Side

of Hand

?f either

hand. The SH is easily

(SH) energy

located

Forehead The Forehead (F) energy meridian is located above and between the eyepoint It easily is located by placing a fingerbetween rrows on the forehead. your eyebrows the finger upwards approximatelyoneinch. F point is useful in treatand sliding The of problems, trauma, anxiety, addiction, and depression. including jng a wide variety

Chest
The

Chest

slightly down
runctioning

of

meridian point is located on the chest, and between (CH) energy from the Under Collarbone points.The CH is useful in improving the the immune of other system and a wide variety problems.

Sore

Spot

On the left side of your chest, at the midpoint of your collarbone and down toward your breast, is a tenderspot. it's Sometimes even quite sore, painful. actually is a pressure This and it is referred to spot point or reflex along the lymphatic system, as a neurolymphatic reflex. For simplicity, however, we call it the Sore Spot (SS). It is to affect the energy system. The SSis usedto not a meridian point, although it seems certain of psychological reversals. Instead of tapping treat on this point, it is types with it with rubbed After on the SS, press briskly your fingertips. locating your and in a rub clockwise direction for several seconds. we fingertips quickly Although be a little identify the location of SS in each treatment diagram, its locationmay for each The SS is useful for treating dur\303\250rent massive reversals. person. psychological
Summary
Meridian

of Treatment
Treats
Trauma,

Points
these

Point

emotions

or symptoms
Restlessness

Eyebrow(EB)
Side of

Frustration,

Eye (SE)

Rage
Anxiety,
Embarrassment, Shame .

Under Eye (UE) Under Nose (UN)

Under Bottom
Under

Nervousness,

Phobias,

Cravings
Reversals

Deep-Level

Psychological

Lip (UBL)
(UCB)

Collarbone
Arm

Anxiety, Insecurity
Anxiety,

Under

(UA)

Nervousness,

Cravings,

Self-Esteem

28

Energy

Tapping

Meridian
Under

Point
Breast

Treats
(UB)

these emotions

or symptoms

Unhappiness

Little Fingernail (LF)

Anger
Jealousy,

Middle Fingernail (MF)

Index
Thumbnail

Addictive

Cravings

Fingernail (IF)
(T)

Guilt
Intolerance,

Arrogance
Physical

Back of
Side
Forehead

Hand (BH)
(SH)

Loneliness, Depression,
Trauma,
Improve

Pain

of Hand
(F)

Reversals Sadness, Psychological

Anxiety,
Function

Addiction, Depression
of

Chest (CH)
Sore Spot (SS)

the Immune

System

Psychological

Reversals

Locating
By

and
in

Tapping
the

Meridian

Points
with

participating

location

of the

following exercise, you will become more familiar meridian energy points and how to balanceyour energy:

the

Step

One

Think of
argument

not focus on something

that

something
had

that

causes

complex

you've

that still

causes you to feel a

you a minimal level of at this time. Perhaps you

little

emotionaldiscomfort.Do could think of an old

angry.

Step

Two

Now, rate
situation

the level
the

of

discomfort

that

(for

experiencing right now as you

distress
discomfort

example,

old argument).
think

This should be the

the issue.

you

feel while It may

thinking

about

the

level

of

distress
Rate

about

not be the samelevel

situation.

you are
of

that
on
\342\200\242 Zero

you experienced when a scale from 0 to 10:

means

the you last encountered

your

that

the issue the issue although you're

does not bother

you

at

all;

you're

completely
control.

relaxed.
\342\200\242 Two \342\200\242 Four

means means

that that

causes slight discomfort,but you're in are you you can tolerate the distress,
uncomfortable.

uncomfortable. \342\200\242 Six \342\200\242

means means means

that

highly

Eight

that that

\342\200\242 Ten

is very severe. the distress is the most extremeimaginable.

the distress

\342\200\242; jr Energy

Meridians

29

6 (UCB)

10

(MF)

11

(IF)

13 (BH)

12

(T)

Diagram

Two:

A Numerical

Sequence

of the Meridian

Treatment Points

Step

Three

Use
number

one,

each point

2 and follow the numbered sequencebelow.Begirvning diagram find each energy meridian point and tap lightly with two fingertips
five

with

on

times.

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Energy Tapping

1. Eyebrow (EB)

2. Side of
3. Eye

Eye

(SE)

(UE)

4. Under Nose (UN)

5.

Under

Bottom

Lip (UBL)

6. Under Collarbone (UCB)

7.

Under

Arm

(UA)

8. Under
9.

Breast (UB)
Fingernail

Little

(LF)

10. Middle
11.

Fingernail (MF)
(IF)
(T)

Index

Fingernail

12. Thumbnail
13.

Back

of Hand
Hand

(BH)
(SH)

14. Side of
15. Forehead

(F)

16. Chest (CH)

17.

Sore

Spot

(SS)\342\200\224Instead

of

tapping,

rub

this spot.

Step Four

Next, think
discomfort.

about

the

issue

Rate

the

level

than

it was

before you

did the above treatment

you may

of your

or event that originally caused you discomfort again on a scalefrom 0

sequence?

emotional

discomfort isn't times. of

completely If there is (e.g.,

factors

need to tap the sequenceoneto threemore little or no change in the way feel, this may be due to a number you will be addressedlaterin this that reversals, psychological switching)
eliminated,

Usually,

10. Is it is. If the

to

it

lower

chapter.

the issue that event is simply

In most

Commonly,
caused a

after doing

the issueto mind,however,

instances,
prior

in the you discomfort in distraction vague your

you

the above treatment, it is first place. mind. If you

usually

difficult
That

to fully
it often

is,

think about feels as if the

will find that

this absence
to doing

to realize that
always
gly,

Most people reportthat

tapping

felt upset

about the issue that

they

of distress persistsinto the future. this simple treatment sequence,they

now

the time to really bring do not becomeupsetby it. you

take

Many
always

people
or

come

almost

no

longer

upsets

them.
a matter

feel

calm

and relaxed,

after

on these

tapping sequence is onemethodthat you can use to become relaxed whenever you it. That is, whenever you are feelingstressed, need for whatever take a 0 to 10 reason, and all then on of these in the stress is numerical until order, rating tap points, the relief lasts for an of time. extended Although entirely gone. Generally, period in treating on all of the seventeen energy meridian points is often effective tapping many

seventeen energy

meridian points.As

or even energized and tinof fact, this

:.'

Energy

Meridians

31

In Part liferent problems, the process can becomesomewhat cumbersome. T-x>k (chapters 6 through 14),you will learn how to apply concise treatment \342\200\2243t are to treat various conditions. specifically designed

II of

this

recipes

Psychological
\342\200\242\"\342\226\240-5

Reversals
a psychological
reversed

previously

discussed,

reversal is a
efforts

^\"vrgy

system

that serves
becomes

to sabotage your

disruption in

your

body's

at

getting

whenever there is a psychological reversalpresent, energy psya that any As it is unlikely treatments are not effective. matter of fact, -Tology it is T-erapy will work when you are in a state of psychological reversal. Therefore, to eliminate these blocks. Further details about f-vtremely important psychological that -f. ersals as well as specifictreatment are used for eliminating them sequences
rens.

^-though everyone

at times,

we don't

always know why

what you really

it

want,
hap-

Unfortunately,

ire exploredfurther

in

chapter

6.

Supplemental

Treatment

Strategies
own

on their on meridian (tapping points) are often sufficient Irergy treatments are three treatments rreat a given problem.Following, however, supplemental and !_-2mative to tapping on the meridian points. The Brain Balancer(BB) in ZRi are referenced in each of the treatment this book. sequences

to
Roll

and an
Eye

The Brain
The

Balancer
(BB) is

Brain

Balancer

a treatment

that

is

often

used

in combination

with

of the BB is to activate various areas of your points.The purpose rzrpmg on meridian a specific rrarn so that an energy treatment for will be more effective. For problem in each of suchas directhe various behaviors, different rstance, moving your eyes to stimulate -octs. hununing a tune, and counting, tends different areas and functions c the brain. The BB involves on the Back of Hand (BH)meridian on (located tapping point back \342\200\224t of either hand between the knucklesof the little finger and ring finger, mid\302\253 5V between the knuckles and the wrist) while doing the following:
\342\200\242

rolling rolling

your your

eyes eyes
a tune

clockwise

360 degrees 360 degrees

\342\200\242

counterclockwise

\342\200\242

humming counting

\342\200\242

to

five

\342\200\242

hununing

again

The BB
-x\"tme,
^--though

is not
may and

always neededto bring

we

about

a therapeutic

however,
you do

include

it

in

all

of the

treatments
it

seconds to

determine personally it can't hurt. Give it

whether
a

is

result. As a matter of described in this book, it takes only a few necessary,

try

now.

32

Energy

Tapping

Eye

Roll

Another treatment used throughout this book is the Eye Roll (ER). The purpose of this treatment is to strengthen results the of treatment sequences and to reduce any Brain of stress. The like the also involves on the BH. ER, Balancer, feelings tapping This time, however, as you are tapping, and move steadily your eyes slowly from down at the floor to lookingup toward the (without looking ceiling vertically Like the Brain Balancer, the ER is not always head). moving your necessary, but we routinely include it in the treatment sequences. It only takes a few secondsto do and it feels good. The ER is a helpful, quick stressreducer. it now. Try usually

Switching

Sometimes treatments will not work to alleviate issues due to a psychological or switching. pervasive energy disruption referredto as neurologic disorganization When this condition exists, your energy system is disrupted enough that significantly the treatment sequenceseither will not work at all or will work far too slowly. that Some people experience a chronic degreeof switching requires ongoing in and intensive treatment. In most cases, occurs however, switching directly to specific that are being treated.It alsocanoccur for other relationship problems temporarily such as high levels of stress; to which you are to substances reasons, exposure as foods and chemicals; or improperly executed For exercises. sensitive, such physical fitted shoes or on highly irregular surfaces running with example, improperly
sometimes

can

cause

switching.

Indications
and awkwardness
tendency

that your
with words

difficulties confuse

to

\"possible,\" or saying \"hot\"

switching

is

when

you

are

trying

results
complicated

Therearea number
than

very slowly
others.

or not at all.
of

can be a and spatial relations.Also, there coordination and concepts, such as saying when \"impossible\" you mean mean As another when \"cold.\" noted, sign of you it is producing to implement a treatment and sequence

energy system is switchedmay

include

physical

ways

to treat

One

of the
about

easiest is to do the
two

switching, some
Over-Energy

of

which

are

more exercise.
recipes

Correction
treatment

After
and

doing this exercise for

determine
routinely

minutes,

whether
this
the

do

switched at

You switching influenced their effectiveness. exercise before attempting any treatment sequence,

you can repeat

may

prefer

to

just

in case

you are

time.

Over-Energy

Correction
comfortable

Method:
chair.

1. Sit down in a
2.

3.

at the ankles, left over right. with the palms of your hands facing each Extend your arms in front of you thumbs are pointing down. other. Then, turn your hands over so that your
Cross

your legs

4. Raise your
6.

right

hand

up
your

and over
enfolded
your

the

left,

and

interlock

your

fingers.

5. Bend your arms so that

Place

hands
mouth,

are now
slightly

your tongue

at the roof of

resting on your chest. behind the center ridge.

^i.'

r-ergy

Meridians

33

7. While

maintaining this position, about two minutes.

breathe deeply with

your

eyes

closed

for

Alternative to Tapping
Although jEt

we

believe

rrvsically

meridian points. As rrendian point while breathing deeply.That is,

tapping your
distress

jzt_ but you are

point,

there

is an
at

that tapping is the most effective way alternative. There may be times when you work or in a public area in which you
an

to stimulate
need don't

to treat feel

a merida prob-

comfortable

alternative,

jertor
\303\244ccne

emotional

pressure.

At the

it. uni then release CTxh the reversal treatment points, r^rrte problem.)\" Again, we do not
an alternative \342\200\242$

and then touch each meridian with point you are treating, it for a few seconds, same time, you take in a deep breath,hold This method is also effective for reversals. As you treating energy
think
recommend

you

can think

about the

you

can touch

each

specificprob-

to yourself,
this

\"I

accept

myself

even

method
feel

method

of treatment

when you may

in place
uncomfortable

of tapping, but
tapping

though

in

rubbc.

Summary ~- this of the treatment chapter we have provided an overview points (i.e., acupoints) \303\274*d in Energy a comprehensive treatment that was introduced Tapping. Additionally, in familiar all 3T1 help you to reduce stressand to assist with of the you becoming and that reversals other detailed routines are used treatment acupoints. Psychological the book were introduced, \342\200\224xoughout including the Brain Balancer,the Eye Roll, and the Correction. To stimulate the acupoints,you can use Pitching, Over-Energy sr alternative of Touch and if Breathe are in public technique you (Diepold1999) ireas where you feel uncomfortable tapping. Before into more detail about how going \342\200\242r use a treatments for wide of we will energy psychology array problems, present in the following chapter. r^e important phenomenon of energy toxins

CHAPTER

Energy

Toxins

Aging

is those

accelerated toxins

in your by the accumulation of toxins body will influence your biological clock in the direction
\342\200\224Deepak

...

eliminating

of youth.
M.D.

Chopra.

is continually eavesdrop(1993) believes that our biological system that how and will alter He believes we feelabout ourselves can thoughts. rtr immune systems and make us more to of vulnerable disease. Feelings hopelesscan increase the risk of heart re\302\253*, and cancer, while joy and fulattacks says Chopra, iZment will help to extend our lives. Andrew Weil this theory. In his (1995) supports to health and W eil of to let go their anger and irrroach wellness, encourages people to who that those have made them feel angry. Weil also believes ioress forgiveness that of our bodies' healing system, and the -ealing depends on the efficient operation in our water, air, and food can create emotional and irxms physical problems. If your energy system is in balance, will feel well, achieve your goals, and you \342\200\224.'-ntain On the other hand, if your healthy relationships. body's energy system is It is important other areas of your life will be affected to rsturbed, many negatively. \342\200\224^mtain a balanced energy system. Although painful emotional or physical experiences are the more obvious causes of energetic another disturbance, among energy .rsupter is the foods you eat. find some of the foods that most enticing may be the very Interestingly, you :oes that disrupt energy system so profoundly that your you sabotage your life. That ^ a food that you really enjoy eating may affect your internal thought and process .u.ise you to make unhealthy emotional choices. will be addressed further in (This be irjpter 6.) In short, certain foods and beveragesmay sending you on selfleepak

Chopra

ttt\303\244 on

our

-ar>otagingmissions.

One
of

of

-cme
^notions,

the

the goals environmental

of this chapter is and substance

to help

you

to

identify

and

introduces the tools that < out of balance.

your

relationships,
you

and the achievement of your goals. This chapter need to stabilize your body's energy system whenever
can

toxins that may

be interfering with

guard

against
your

also
it

Our bodies'energy
:*\342\200\242 the major

systems

causes

of imbalance

is painful

go out

of balance

experiences

a variety for or traumas.

of reasons. One In these instances,

36

Energy

Tappin

treatment
triggers

to restore
tapping

while

on the

negative
eliminated

so

we call this cure.

Another

emotions associated with memoriesand othertriggers that distress time. does not return again at any future
cause

balance simply involves on past events and other focusing meridian energy appropriate points.With this method,
are

the

completely

In energy

psychology,

of energy imbalance is heredity. For example,somepeople have anxious or to become This seen in often is tendency depressed. tendency of one family, and not simply because of childhood multiple members distressing experiences. Rather, the tendency for the energy system to become is inherited. unbalanced In this respect, it appears that there are two kinds of heredity: which is genetic, related to genes and chromosomes; and is in which related to disturbances energetic, the energy system. the as there are genes within the chromosomes of cells, Just can contain inherited of the matter, i.e., energy system energetic genes energy system. Note: Even when the causeof an energetic is heredity, in most cases, it disturbance can be treated in book. this successfully by the methods discussed
a

to be

The
Another

Impact
cause

of
of energetic

Toxic

Substances
is energy toxins.This involves

substances that, in form of Toxins come the certain foods, exposure, your energy system. and other such as and to substances, beverages, perfumes cleaning products. Exposure in such as tensionwires and the ions found high electromagnetic pollution, positive fields, seems to disrupt the body's energy electromagnetic system. As you know, each individual is unique. What affects one person may not affect Or the old is man's another. as \"One man's meat another necessarily saying goes, it is to and attention to how the foods Therefore, poison.\" beverages important pay
imbalance
on

alter

that

you

consume

affect

or consuming

being

exposed

or fatigue will
alcohol,

emerge. Substancesthat
disrupt
three

to you. Generally, within thirty to an energy toxic substance,symptoms are

sixty
of

minutes
anxiety,

after
nervousness,

will

Thereare
have
initially

commonly

your energy
related

concerns

to

from being effective, and you may mistakenly work for you. Lastly, the toxin itself can be causing approach the problem, whether it is anxiety, on other emotional depression, any symptoms. to understand, the case abstract, Although intangible concepts are sometimes difficult below further demonstrates how toxins study may impact your energy system.
block

the toxin, thus undoing successful treatments.

energy

been successfully

treated by energy psychology

doesn't

system even faster. energy toxins. One is

may A

especially

toxic, such as

nicotine and
problems

that

that

reemerge

second

concern

exposure to is that toxins may

after

treatments

conclude

that

this

Sarah:

Case

Study

Sarah had a severefear of

involved panic

in attacks

a car

During

these

in for

energy treatments because her fear

on freeways, which began after she was driving accident. Since the accident, Sarah would sometimes experience traffic. while she was driving on a freeway, and especiallyin heavy attacks, she would have to pull over to the side of the road. Sarah came
was

becoming

an increasingly

debilitating

\342\200\242\342\200\242 oxi n s

37

aecciem,
^fci

preventing her
responsibilities.

from

traveling

any

distance

and often
methods,

interfering with work

she

family

After

Sarah
tried

was treated with

heavy

marine
W\303\250en

driving in
she would with

energy psychology
a freeway

could

easily
attacks

traffic

on

without
feel
that

** .ntpd.
*rTH7toms *sxt\302\243

Each time Sarah was treated,she would

return.

to actually

drive in traffic,

however, the

experiencing any anxiety.

anxiety

and

panic

much

better,
in

It became
discussed

increasingly clear
various

something effective

but then the else was interrelieving

a lot

Sarah's

treatments,
One

3B> anxiety, and panic.We

as they
favorite

are usually highly

foods

phoof a

.c^edto consume.
particular kind of
We

of

her

foods was

corn and she alsodrank

and beverages that

Sarah simply
with

tea.
that

determined

aaergv

svstem.
of

Her assignment
until

aencd

time

warned: no more anxiety and x xrasionally eat corn and

Ar\303\247TOximately three

tea were somehow interfering was to eliminatethesesubstances from the accumulated toxins were energy adequately weeks later, the energy treatments provided
the

corn and

Sarah's

her

diet

for a

reduced.

the

panic

while

drink tea without

driving. After this,

creating

it

was

possible

results we for Sarah

an

energetic

disturbance.

Is
There

Toxicity
are

a Problem
symptoms chronic. Some

for You?

that are a result of toxins, but you need only focus on chronic symptoms include constant sneezing, runny blocked \342\226\240xse. mood swings, insomnia, bad breath, blotchy skin, headaches, frequent If you have been experiencing anises, fatigue, anxiety, and chronic achesor pains. for a month or longer,you want to consider the possibilxrf of these symptoms may 1T that a food or inhalant toxin is negatively affecting you.
numerous are
\302\261cee

that

Identifying
Although

Energy
each

Toxins
is unique,

person

Allergens there are a number of

The

and

substances

commonly

cfwn
ic^xDes.

to disrupt
Please

the energy system.

Do not

list

below

includes

some of

these subaffect

note:

assume that each item

on the list will negatively

Refined

Sugar

Coffee

Artificial

Sweetener

Tea

.Alcohol
Wheat

Caffeine

Rice

Corn

Peas

N'icotine

Pepper

Legumes

Eggs

Tomatoes

Shellfish

Eggplant

Herbs
Artificial

Detergents

Fibers

Pesticides

Cosmetics

38

Energy Tapping

Mold

Dust
Aftershave

Gasoline Fumes
Formaldehyde

Toiletries

Perfumes

substanceis energy toxicto you, one of the simplest things As we have noted, there are certain that will altogether. symptoms that to identify is toxic to you. The best way appear shortly after you consumea food these foods is to makemental notes(orbetteryet, written after you eat. You can ones) these substances of emotional and physical the usually by observing patterns identify a effects they create. After food or to be toxic, consuming beverage you suspect you want to ask the following questions: may yourself
to do is avoid
If you

suspect that a
it

\342\200\242 How \342\200\242 Did \342\200\242 Did

did

that

food item

it energize any

make you feel? feel tired? you or did it make you

appear
that

other

the best for

\342\200\242 Did

symptoms
you?

made

you

believe

that this food

is not
after

consuming the substance. If

consumed

your

pulse

rate increase
an allergen

significantly within
it

thirty

to

has,

one

or more

of the substancesyou

sixty

minutes

may toxic
that

be

or energy toxin.
it ones to which you feel addicted, suchas low reasons, physiological

Although

substances
cravings

should
blood

be noted
sugar;

can

for minerals, such as iron and sodium; hormonal fluctuations from these of the foods and brain; and more.Aside reasons, however, types that are often crave the most that can most those disrupt your beverages you readily energy system. You may also find that these foods are the ones that you consume when you sabotage other goals in your life. put, these foods weaken you and Simply
the need

are often the very occur for good

in the

your

body.

Eliminating

Energy

Toxins
all the
may
fun

and Allergens
foods

aware
consuming

The goalis not to remove of their impact. You

than toxins
natural

in your

life, but

rather

for

you

to be

determine

that
foods.

it is
For

on\342\200\224rather

completely is a way

eliminate\342\200\224toxic

of life. The
system.

good news is

better for you to cut most people, however,

your

back

that

body

has

a high-

liver is one of the hardest-working in your body, but it can use organs some assistance. Our recommendation is that if have no additional health you problems (if in doubt, consult your physician), you should detoxify We are your system. not suggesting anything radical. Most health food stores can recommend pills or powdersthat contain the fibers and herbs that are needed to detoxify your system
Your

functioning

detoxification

without you
supplements,

having

to

severely

change
from

then

reduce the amount of

books

you

must

increase

at your

local library or bookstore that

protein

to use your diet. If you don't want any the amount of fruit and water you consume, and foods such as red meat. Thereare a number of address

this

topic.

:~ergy

Toxins

39

Foods toxic

and

other substances
An

that cause
toxin

are invariably allergic reactions

by itself,

energy

necessarily causean allergic reaction. That is, while allergen equals energy toxin, energy toxin doesnot always equal allergen. An allergen disrupts your immune system, causing An energy vour virus invader. body to react as though the substanceis a dangerous In most instances, however, toxin, on the other hand, disrupts your energy system. noth and of a of toxins are As the amount threshold allergens examples phenomenon: the substance accumulates in your system, it reaches a point where the allergy or This is why many people develop allergies laterin life. This surfaces. energy toxicity is known as the barrel the noted to Doris (1991), effect, concept according Rapp a environmental who has seen connection between physician allergiesand conditions and Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. You can think of such as depression
allergic person.
energy
\\

to the

however, does not

our

body
with

as a

barrel.

An

allergy

does

not occur

until

the

barrel

overflowing

the

allergic

substance.

eat a usually not a problem.If you regularly will overflow and you may develop an allergy to it. One simple approach for detoxifying your system is offered is to drink a lot of water 1995). He believes an effective approach vitamin C and E and, at a different of day, take selenium. time

If you

occasionallyeat corn, lot of corn, however,

in

(your
for

body) is
example,

it is

time,

your Andrew

barrel Weil

by

each

day, take

Summary The main purpose of this chapter can was to make you aware that toxins affect in This the methods this book. treatment work, energy including energy psychology does not mean that you must detoxify your system. If you have any of the noted of toxicity, however, it might be a healthy choice for you to seekadvice symptoms in that about this need to too, mind, topic. Keep you recognize and avoid the foods or that If weaken substancesthat are toxic to consume beverages you continually you. \\ou, they may negatively affect your energy system.

CHAPTER

Beliefs

That

Hold

You

Back

Believe

in

yourself!

Have faith in your

own

in

your

abilities! you

Without

a humble

but happy.

reasonable

confidence

powers

cannot

be successful
Vincent

or

\342\200\224Norman

Peale

in Norman Vincent was one of the to realize that their beliefs can affect their lives. rrst authors everto encourage people was filled with statements such as, \"We Zfcok must to succeed if we are to r\303\257s expect * \302\253oHe readers to closely examine their lives and to believein their ne challenged a difference. make ic\303\273zn to
The

above

quote was written

book,

more than

thirty-five

years

ago

s Tm\302\253e

best-selling

The Power

of Positive

Thinking

(1996).

Peale

tx

ane,

Peale's ideas were a step away from which said that hard work\342\200\224don't
life,

the

more
on

prevalent,
luck\342\200\224was

traditional beliefs
the

of

count

noerence in your
H-n

and

that

confidence

came from
you

rewarded
that

am

this

by belief

reale \342\226\240sz
iL-\303\274 to

s adage, sustain
planned.

such

x s

the problem is that while believing a position when important parts

others. Instead, Peale said that will set the stage for your work

must first believe in yourself to succeed. Although there is truth in yourself sounds great, it's difof

your work beingrecognized

way

to make

your

life

are not

going well

vou

What
Se^aes

Is
don't

a Belief?
have

to be

true or
complex,

r^zeis can
V2jr\302\253l,

be extremely

fact-based;they
and

are

merely

perceptions.

Amazingly,
of

is one situation. Appearance, for instance, denning your That vour beliefs when meet difwTFT treat them is, someone, operate. you you may based on their Most of us have experienced situations e^rtiy appearance. purely vre^etwo people are behaving exactly the same way, yet our response to each one is

yet operate

with the

precision

surgeon's

behavior

in each

-<z-.

different.

42

Energy Tapping

Every activity in which you

unconscious attempt\";

belief, focused, Your

positive
\"I

jerk.\"

beliefs

own life

One of their goals was talk For to protect example, \"Don't you a that This is belief almost a child. remembers as Someone strangers!\" everyone you trusted told you that it was to talk to or accept ridesfrom dangerous people you did not know. You listened to storiesabout what to children who did talk to happened and were taken never seen in you These stories instilled strangers'.They away again. a belief that strangers who offered you a ride or wanted a to give were you gift You were also told, \"Don't take candy from You dangerous. probably strangers.\" and not advice about whom to responded by trusting strangers taking parents' your trust. As you got older, you learned to modify thesebeliefsand, basedon your experiences and adult that you could trust. approval, you increased the circleof strangers This is an exampleof a complex about human behavior that belief affects you an if a stranger life. For still believe as adult that throughout example,you may your wants to give you a gift, they want something from you in return. As an adult, to be able to it is safe determine when and reasonable for you to talk however, you ought with and/or acceptgifts from people you don't already know.

to createbeliefsthat

An early

will be exploredin later chapters. source of your beliefscamefrom

would

is accompanied participate by a conscious or A belief can be global, or negative. \"I will fail at whatever I can park a car in a small space\"; subjective, \"He always acts like affect every aspect of your life. The beliefs you have about your

or

your

parents.

from danger.

Social
Radical

Change
social

and Your Beliefs

can affect

and the assassinations of John F. Kennedy,Robert Kennedy, and a altered our beliefs about created sense Jr. King, society's safety of national that can still be felt more than grief thirty years later. Many other events from the within the beliefs of modern 1960s still reverberate The feminist society: movement sought equality for women in the workplace but, in the process,often created and a drug, alienation between the sexes. For the first time, anger marijuana, rivaled alcohol as a mind-altering substance.\"Free love\" dominated college the levels of acceptable sexual behaviors and leaving many campuses, changing people confused about what was morally comfortable.The war in Vietnam divided feeling and older generations, as hundreds of thousands of young men and their younger in a war that had no obvious noblepurpose. These families were traumatized events of the 1960s coincided with a soaring divorce rate and the breakup of millions of a trend that continues to the present day. while those events were families, Further, a dominant It created force. more passive taking place, televisionwas becoming interaction and time less members, among family parents spent learningabout the beliefs their children's behavior. governing Traumas that affect our society as a whole can create significant energy and attack imbalances. This is particularly true when the events divide our country individual much more difficult to attain. Perhaps this is one beliefs, making self-acceptance reason why, in a time of tremendous affluence, many people must struggle harder to be happy, and a we seem of others. as nation, angrierand less respectful why,
trauma

for example,

created and altered the

with

changes

your beliefs. The

beliefs

events that

occurred

in

the 1960s,

of

people

for many

generations. The

associated

Martin

Luther

Se e-s \"not

Hold

You Back

43

Moving

Toward

an

Energy
were
your

Approach
identify and
being
write

ias

been

said

that

if

you

to
life

down

all

of your

beliefs, you would

see

played

out

before you.

Itxkm
rrerent

psychology

supports

the

position
in

sncoonal

Tec to believein yourself.

cleansing

you from achieving

while

that your
life.

beliefs can hold you

popular

back

and

your goals
authors

Many

self-help
life

books exhort

When

are on

3T overcome it. It's exciting tobelievethat your problem can be resolved; as long as yook is *e it may help you to move in a positive direction, and it believable, reading be enjoyable. But did you really change? For a short time you \342\226\240msr feel new may but in many instances, your old habits of thinking, acp'. feeling, and behaving
can be intriguing, but it can't do the actual work that must be accornThat takes time life or make the process of change your interesting. xsd effort. books are designed to give you knowledge and help Generally, self-help wrc the skills that are required for you to change some aspect of your life. If develop can follow sac through on the suggestions,you will most likely succeed. Too many are give up and don't implement the solutions that pcD\303\247ie. however, provided by Aese secular bibles of our modern age. The reason most individuals don't follow is due to an energy problem or energetic that must first be corimbalance iETCcsh
A book
ffss^rually

you

are reading

about a

target, you may even

problem in your

experiencean
and

how

you

return.

rusned to

change

:KC5Kibefore their

efforts

can

be

successful.

Alternative

Approaches
strategies

Mar.
iK

therapeutic

that

In \302\253r\303\251crive.

fact,

we believe

aes.
\302\273e. gnrTT>g

situation. In effect, this person is helping the you stop A be may continually recreating your originalproblem. good is very supportive and provides you with a lot of positive energy. Over iliAj'tst une the goal of talk therapy is to change the energy aroundyour issue from negative B rosrtive. Additionally, if you talk about your problem, you focus on the issues at *e crux of it. Learning to reframe problemsor think about them fredifferently in a positive direction. The process, however, takes much .\342\226\240esry balances energy and demands a lot more effort than \302\253\342\226\240teer energy requires. psychology of several that can help you to better Following is a brief exploration strategies can be very jhl with your problems. These approaches when effective, especially te-c are used in conjunction with energy psychology. One of the common goals is to 3mc*~ethe beliefs that create self-sabotage. find themselves often unable to People is an behaviors. This imbalance that caused mac self-sabotaging energy commonly by
through that .\342\226\240eracve habits
you

however,energy work is one of the most talk therapy, you are in the presenceof
a difficult

Beliefs Changing are designed to help clients dealwith their can be altered your energy by positively
to
efficient,
a person

problems

other

treat-

effective approaches who cares about you

avail-

and is

44

Energy

Tapping

is at
beliefs

the source of
and

their

issue

and

can be

of identified by the presence

self-defeating

behaviors.

strategies or even
approaches

Energy imbalances
taking

also prevent
the

many

time

to

fail.

approaches.
therapeutic

strategies

reversals Psychological As learn how to treat your energy you can be used to help eliminate your less

new from ever implementing them. This is where most self-help commonly leave people unable to use these
people

learn

imbalances,
desirable

traditional

habits.

As you
create

explore problems and/or

which
releasing can

energy

imbalances,
sections,
and

following

assessment,

we encourage you include cognitive

personal reoccur

problem,

imbalances

habits that may change in to utilize the strategiesexplored the and belief behavior visualization, therapy, can treatments correcta Although energy myths. if you don't alter your old habits.
try

to

any of your

Cognitive Therapy
in one of the most popularstrategies\342\200\224especially books\342\200\224that this stated, self-help help you to change your beliefs. Simply maintains that what you think affects how feel and act. This strategy approach you actions. With follows the and logic that the mind controls our feelings cognitive in addition to that event), to a stimulus (an event) and a response reaction therapy, (your
Cognitive

therapy

is currently

can

or self-talk (your interpretation the therapy, your self-talkis creating a belief and subsequent behaviors that prevent you from self-defeating finding solution to The therapeutic strategy is to identify and the internal change problem. your self-talk. This strategy,likemany is much more difficult to accomplish than is others,
component\342\200\224internal

a third intervening

processing

of the

event)\342\200\224is

added.

According

to cognitive

use to help alterold habits. Forexample, that your boss' reaction to most problems is to become let us say in a and and for his the makes target angry prime yell, your position company you in this manner, you respond by withdrawing and feeling behavior. When he behaves would want to know what Ellis (1995) depressed. A cognitive therapist such as Albert this Most believeabout situation. often you your response would be similar to, \"My Ellis believes that it is boss should not (or must not) yell at me for every problem.\" not simply the situation, but rather your irrational beliefs, that block ability to your a not irrational is that should The belief when tell situation change. you yourself that occur when, in fact, it is happening. For example, while you are thinking your a boss must not yell at you, he still does. Ellis says that once you trap yourself with and it to \"must\" or a \"should\" leads such as anxiety thought, negative feelings,
strategies

energy work.Onceyour
are

energy

is balanced,

however,

easier

to implement

and to

you may

find

that

these

depression,

that,

in turn,

prevent you

from

exploring

effective

solutions

to your

problem. That In Ellis'view, irrational belief. the first step is to identify and dispute your the belief reframe is, instead of saying, \"My boss must not yell at me,\" you rationally and say, \"It would for me, or it would be better be nice, if my boss did not yell at me. if he does, once But it is his problem and it does not reflect on me.\" Ellis believesthat it eliminate the irrational to move toward solutions. frees belief, you you that belief The core of Ellis' work is to remove the block, i.e.,the irrational in on that prevents from focuses the idea changing. Cognitive therapy general you problems or perpetuated are created By by a person's interpretation of a situation.

\"e

eh

That

Hold

You

Back

45

recome
irout

ranging

the beliefs,
terribly

you can
It's can

find

most

aspects

of life
effect

unhappy. you

ird to realize that

and

helpful

to become

aware
by

acceptable and,
of

therefore,not
that

the

beliefs

trap you,

negate

some of

their

changing

the way

react

to a

situation.

you

think

Visualization
your beliefsis through visualization.Unless it then e.g., completing a task or being imagine promoted, clearly -. it if a erv that will visualize __situation, happen. Conversely, you negatively - sr>eaks unlikely about volumes internal beliefs and feelings. your self-sabotaging of the most and One interesting studies in the area of visualization sports was and Conference r-esented at the EricksonianApproachesto Hypnosis Psychotherapy - 1986. After tennis players, Swedish psychologist Larsinterviewing professional of their game to determine what Unestahl studied Et_a (1988) videotapes strategies used to serve the ball on a consistent In the interview, he asked them to basis. re. _ :-se their described the position eyes and describe what they did to servewell.Each <- their arm and body and exactly how they tossed the ball into the air to begin the ^r-.e. When the videotapes were examined, the psychologist met with the players At and told them that many times they served just the way had described. \342\200\242ai they rrer times, however, the players' bodies were in different than they positions It's as if were \342\200\224cjsht and aiming. yet, the ball still went to the corner wherethey for the changes that occurred in their serving re: bodies naturally compensated
Another

;u

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to examine

and affect

can

a situation,

Upon closerinvestigation,
,c=c

where

the ball
was

average cLaver

less

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the found that the tennis players visualpsychologist was going before they actually hit it. He also found that the confident and often visualizedthe ball goinginto the net or going

46

Energy

Tapping

Belief

and

Behavior

Assessment
(1988)

In the
that

1980s,Stevede Shazier
an

interesting approach That people \"did\" their problems. that in behaviors were their lives. He and/or people used to perpetuatea problem a of the specific beliefs or behaviors that felt that people are often unaware create and focus on instead the problem, problemitself. if Forexample, to lose weight, being overweight is the problem. The you want \"What solution is diet and exercise. The question posed by would Shazier de be,
explored

how

wrote several books on therapeutic change to looking at problems. He wanted to know what he wanted to the beliefs determine is,

beliefs

or behaviors will

understand
easier

it

The better prevent you from succeedingin losingweight?\" what beliefs and/or behaviorscreatehow you \"do\" the problem, the be for you to use energy psychology it. to resolve

you

Teaching
teaching

Approach
understanding

One strategy for

approach.

how

you how

create or to
\"do\"

as an example,your goal is to teach them how to recreate your problem. Normally, listen and then solutions are offered someone, you share a problem with they on how have shared after you can solve it. In this situation,however, your you I wish I problem in that your friend says, \"Wow! a great problem. That's detail, imagine had that problem. How do you 'do' it?\" For example, if you are overweight, imagine who or to one of those thin claim that no matter how hard they talking people try how much they eat, they can't gaina pound.You \"But tried would have my say, you At that to gain weight. use approach?\" point, you provide the detailed strategy you Don't forget to include any negative beliefs that you use to diminish your self-esteem, in or behaviors use to situations where you are likely to overeat or put yourself you foods. Once have created will be eat fattening this list of you strategies, you to aware of the use create consciously approach you your problem.
when
Observing

have your

problem and they

Although

this may
don't

seem odd, imaginethat

it.

maintain problems is from

someone

wants

to

know

Using

your

life experiences

Exceptions

Another
helping
are

The goal is to
behaving

strategy of
identify

is looking de Shazier's
exception,
your

an
maintain

when
problem,

to create
in a

or

to your problem. doesn't occur. If are your problem you then there should be a time when you
for

the

exceptions

if too are eating support it. For example, you determine when to on diet. are best able foods, wrong your you stay Who are you with and what are you are hard to Sometimes doing? exceptions exist. Once you identify an exception, recognize, but usually they you need to do more of that behavior. For the teaching approach and exception strategiesto be successful, down must time to write the take the details. you

manner that doesn't

much of the

Releasing Personal Myths

(1997) explores people's beliefs by lookingat the personal myths is defined that after such as life onto, they \"My by my wound.\" She believes a is at traumatic there a to look their lives for them event, experience people tendency
Caroline

Myss

that

hold

Beliefs

That

Hold

You Back

47

through the lens of

or

the

wound

that

was created
believes

traumatic

events

long after they have

costly.

occurred greatly
that old,

on to negative by the event. Holding

clirr\303\274nishes a

life energy.

asbad timescanbe the past and does

not

Interestinglyenough, Myss
An accept

holding

on to
star

example that he is

is a
fifty

high school football

good timesas well

who

person's

vital

still lives in

In Myss'

years

view,

accepting

who

in, you must consciously accept it and energy. No matter what stage of life you're it. That live doesn't mean the school football star has to be a couch potato; high fully he couldstillexercise and be a competitive athlete. He has to let go of the mind-set, that he is eighteen years old and a football star. Once you consciously however, it is will life the now, acceptyour way you stop wasting your energy and find many to who are. ways enjoy you

you are

is one key

overweight,
to

and a

couch potato.
your

maintaining

healthy

Summary

This chapter
and

divided into two

beliefs
an

explored how
groups:

your

beliefs

contribute

to your
most

that

are bad

habits. Although
you can
your

sabotaging

beliefs

that are
you

the result of
likely

problems.
energy

Beliefs are
reversals,

becauseof

energy

imbalance,

roots. The better you

however,
specific

to further help In energy

you deal with

understand

use the suggestionsprovidedin

treat

developed

bad habits
this

chapter

psychology, you

can often
the

problems. a problem

without

beliefs

or behaviors

causes,

especially

the better equipped you will be to the and the less likely it is that an energy true of complex problems, such as

direct

understanding its that create that problem,

treatments

energy

at their

imbalance will
where

reoccur. This
beliefs

is

alcoholism,
may

multiple

and

behaviors
following

are at the

source of

the

problem. want

In conjunction
self-help

with using

energy psychology,you

to utilize

the

strategies:

1. Examine
2. Use

your internal self-talkand disputeirrational visualization to test your internal beliefsabout

how

beliefs.

3. Determine

you

\"do\"

a problem

a situation. via your behaviors or beliefs.

4.

Accept

who

you

are

at this time in

your life.

CHAPTERS

Identifying

Problems

That

You

Want

to

Resolve

Insecurity What

is

the

negative

expected.
bothers

are

you

doing

about

what

you?
Shain

\342\200\224Merle

use energy psychology, you need to be clearand about each specific that you want to change in your life. that your entire life Although believing it is too .5 a mess may be a real feeling, and abstract to be affected general by energy Do not worry that there is a specific order in which your rfvchology techniques. .ssuesneedtobe addressed. what is that as you treat one Often happens problem, another is also that situation. problem is revealed that affecting
~j

effectively

rroblem

As you identify in and treat each problem, you will begin to seea change your will some problems Although your outlook on relatedsituations improve. ire very straightforward, such such as a fear of insects,othersaremore complicated,
.ire, and
~> addictive

behaviors.
psychology,

Once you learn the process of energy in a fast and efficient manner. rroblem

you

will be

able to

treat

each

Developing
The

Your
of

Personal

Profile
identify

goal

developing
to

relief that you

rpportunity

believe is creatingdisruptions
any ongoing
have have

a personal

profile is to

each

situation,

behavior,

or

in

identify

rersonal

In our experience, we nrst. Then, once you

profile is not a

themes or chronicproblems have. Your you may onetime list of every issue affecting your life. comprehensive,
found

your

life.

It also

provides a solid
be treated

that

whatever
treated

you

think

of

first

should

successfully

those problems,

you can repeat the

50

Energy

Tapping

process.

aware of
feel you
forgotten.

As you
may

are engagedin
apparent.
of

this

process, that
on

problems

that you

were not consciously

that

become

Review

the areas need to treat.

impact

concern

are listed
your

below and

write down any

are elusive, i.e.,they

The

Do not rely
to your

you

surface

conscious

they

have

on your

awareness, but then are quickly active behavior, however,can remain

identify

memory.

Sometimes

important problems
and

significant.

1. Childhood
that

memories or events any childhood in If life? problems your you you have a memory, but you are not sure how or if it is affecting your present life, list and treat the memory anyway. As we have mentioned, you don't have to remember all will the detailsat once.Memories surface when them. you are ready to treat
feel

memories. Can you

could

be creating

2.

Associated
created

as

a result
Can

beliefs. Can you identify of these childhood

associate

any

beliefs

that

memories?
you

you have that any of

were

3. Fears.
your

you

life?

Remember,

any fears fears can be and/or

public
intimidated,

speaking;
or

or they
on your
that

can be morecomplex,
sports

the problemsin a straightforward, such as fear of insects or

that

have

with

such

relationship

least

one

fear

list, as everyone

performance
is

as a fear of being fears. There shouldbe at

fearful

of something.

4. Controlling
common,

your emotions.Can
you experience
which

you

emotions

yourself

in situations
frustration,

of lonely? Other emotions

in which you
guilt.

regularly? For example,do you

identify

any

uncomfortable,
anger,

yet
often

find

respond

with

or

feel

alone

or

to be

aware include

embarrassment, shame,
there

rejection,
5. Painful events

and

believe or adult behaviors beliefs. affecting your negatively 6. Depression. This is the culmination of many other unresolved feeling usually You can with issues. treat depression energy psychology. To prevent

memories. In addition to your childhood are memories,

are relatedto

that you

have experiencedas an
are

painful

adult?

Identify

any that you

or

depression from

continually
the

reoccurring,

and

treat

underlying
inability

7. Eating. Your
emotional
achievingyour

to
What

problems causing it. what you eat is often control related

beliefs

however, that are

it

is

most

important

to identify
to unresolved
from

problems.
goals
problems.

regarding

you your eating or weight concerns?

alcohol,
You

or behaviors

are blocking

8.

Addiction

common addiction problems.

these and
it

Smoking,

can

use

drugs, and gambling are the most in this book to treat the treatments

success, is
9. Relationships.

any

other

addictions,

such
some

important

are usually filling

a void

to identify
of

as an addiction to what is missing in your

sort.

sex. For long-term

life,

as addictions

This is the
listed.

source of
problems

can be relationshipproblems
have

in most complex issuepresented related identify

this

book,

as the

to

would like the relationshipsin your and what relationship-specific concerns exist. currently
situation,

you

The goal

here is to

any
your

of the
current
life

previous
relationship
to

what you

actually

be,

re-*ifying

Problems That

You

Want

to Resolve

51

10. Common issues or patterns.Identify that can help to guide you and to

any

patterns

or reoccurring

determine

which

treated.

situations problems need to be

Using
-iter T\302\243

Your Specific Issues

reviewing problems

Energy
the you
your

Psychology for
written

questions
life.

in impact

on

hope

above, you should now have a to address as well as someideaof how

profile

(list)

of

these

problems

have

Treatment

Sequence

Overview
follow,

In the
iidress

chapters
types

that

you

various

of problems.
such

will learn specific treatment sequences that Each simple: Generally, the process is very

-equence

includes
Identify

the following
the

steps:

1. 2. 3.

or a feeling, such as being angry. as a fear of insects, of distress the problem causeson a scale of 0 to 10, with 0 indicating no distress and the most amount of distress. 10 indicating
a problem, Now

rate

amount

Identify

and the

treat

any

self-sabotaging

beliefs (i.e., reversals).

lookat sequenced in the the indicated order. numbered meridian tap points 4. on a 0 to 10 scale number should rate distress your 2 and 3. your mind). there is no decrease, repeat steps 5. do the Brain Balancer, which is explainedin each
number Again, (a If Next, treatment

Identify

appropriate

and tap those meridian points treatment All the diagram. diagram you have to do is
just

using a
and

pop into

sequence.

6. Repeat

7. Again
distress

needs

sequence. rate distress on a 0 to 10 scale. It should be lower yet. When your your is within the 0 to 2 range, go to step 9. Sometimes the treatment to be repeated several times before relief is felt from the distressful

the treatment

situation.

8. As long

continue with the treatment as the distresscontinues to decrease, If stalls at any until is no the treatment there distress remaining. sequence a on of this mini-reversal. Treat this the Side indicates point, by tapping
Hand

(SH)

while

still have some of

9. When
technique

saying
this

three times,
problem.\"

\"I

deeply

accept

myself,

even though I
Roll, this

the distress
will

also

be explained
above

the is in the 0 to 2 range,consider doing Eye in each treatment sequence.

The basicstepslisted
\342\200\224ost

are

generally

problems.

^nes to
than \342\200\224ore

completelyeliminate
five

Again,

it is

normal to
the

repeat the
The

all you will

treatment

have to do to eliminate
sequence

two

to three

problem.

entire

minutes

once you

know what you are doing.

process,

however, rarely

takes

52

Energy

Tapping

Summary

a profileof your problems and have some you should have developed idea of how they are contributing to the creationof certain in your life. As situations in more unresolved life issues that have been work, you engage energy affecting your will become part of your conscious memory. Eventually, will eliminate the you in and will these have have to with current issues deal impact problems your only life. We must emphasize: Do not avoid the process of identifying a personal profile. Your problems affect you in many ways and areconnected to all aspects of life. your in it is true that a will cases the treatment eliminate Although specific many a profile and working on all of your associated problem, is the best way issues developing
At this point,
for

you

to

achieve

success

with this approach.

CHAPTER

Understanding

Psychological

Reversals

and

Self-Sabotage

We

cannot
Condemnation

change

anything
does

unless we
liberate,

accept it.

not

it oppresses.
Jung

\342\200\224Carl

where specific problems chapter Tapping, begins the treatment section of Energy =re examined and appropriatetreatment The first step in are sequences provided. is to eliminate reversals. The simplest applying energy psychology any psychological definition of a psychological and reversal is that your energy system elicits thoughts r>ehaviors that are the opposite of what about life one would believe normally if you were asked if you want situations. For to be happy, the expectedresponse example, would But experience has proven that when be are psychologically people \"yes.\" to are be miserable. There is a reversed, deep inside (unconsciously) choosing they ronflict between their internal beliefs and what they are trying to achieve. For that deserve to be or instance, perhaps you don't believe perhaps you did you happy that can't in are ashamed of and something you accept yourself. When people are psychologically often sabotage their lives. For reversed, they example,they may try to resolve a problem with someone they love and, in the and needlessly hurtful. Or, if a rrocess, behave in a manner that is destructive is an reversed for person applying psychologically employmentposition for which they are qualified, and act freeze confusedin the interview. up they may it is as not to what Although readily apparent your physically occurswhen is it is that clear when beliefs or behaviors, have reversed, energy sabotaging you act in opposition %ou to what you are consciously to attain. literally trying for a are reason beliefs, Sabotaging major example, probably people stay in abusive why and in also are first abusive the If an abused relationships, partners place. why ix-dividual's underlying beliefs (suchas, \"I am not good enough\") were treated with
This

56

Energy

Tapping

or weak willpower. Oncereversals aretreated, will experience the difference. In you a when correct reversal are theory, reconnectingthe mind you psychological you (beliefs)with the body (energy) so that you can again create positive energy in the will reversed areas of your life. Once this is done,you the stop making previously a decisions and start toward successful wrong moving lifestyle.
reversal
you

techniques provided in this book, they would realizethat they need to leave the abusive situation, and their partners would realizethat they are only angry at 14 for more on relationships.) themselves. (See chapter An blocks you from seeingsolutions reversal even when you have the knowledge, energy or it prevents the solution have the ability. This is a even you from implementing though you It a in core point of energy is reversal psychology. your energy that prevents you it is an from accomplishing and that creates faulty ideas imbalance energy your goal
the

An

energy

blocks the

have

you from or knowledge,

seeing solutions even

it

when

prevents
you

you
have

from
the

implementing

the solution even though

ability.

Six
Throughout psychological

Types
this reversals.

of
book,

Self-Sabotage
There

a or behaviors. When an energy treatment doesn't work, is frequently the culprit, and it must be treated. psychological reversal Following is a brief with them, descriptionof these six types of reversals. Once you are familiar you can in relation to a particular problem. assess yourself to determine if you are reversed will that you can be psychologically You find reversedwith one problem and not another. Energy treatments are not effective until are corrected. reversals
sabotaging

we will stress the importanceof identifying are six common types of reversals that

and

treating

are at

the core of

all

beliefs

Massive
where

Reversal
major

of your life, especially in those areas aspects all of the time. everything wrong People who experience this type if a of reversal as want to live miserablelife. appear Although they consciously they that they want a happy life, their behaviors createthe opposite of what believe they seek. People who are massively reversed often reject or pass up potentially good can't focus on them and instead often opportunities. recognize Unfortunately, they the one negative aspect of that opportunity. They are unable to identify situations and peoplethat are good for them and, in the worst cases,they actively seek out chronic have bad negative situations. People who continually relationships, addiction depression, or ongoing problems are usually massively reversed.

Massive reversalsaffect
seems

to go

Deep-Level Reversal
Deep-level

reversal

affects

people

who want
their

problem

is too

powerful or too much a part of

to change, but believethat life for them to eliminate.

their
With

. -derstanding

Psychological Reversalsand

Self-Sabotage

57

a person expresses a sincere desireto dealwith and eliminate is no way at an \"There unconsciouslevel hold the belief that, problem, yet they an I'm a and to over this lack of confidence going get inability to problem.\" Usually, this problem helps perpetuate it. visualize their life without
this

type

of reversal,

their

Specific Reversal
Specific

situations,
reversals,

there

of specific reversals is The central heights) you wish to eliminate. question to eliminate whether you are ready the problem now. Although you might want to get over the problem, you may be blocked on letting it go at the present time. You are to eliminate the problem in its may also be blockedon whether you ready

fear of

reversals are the most common and are usually limited or a fear of public speaking.With such as a fear of heights are no other major issues to address, exceptthe particular

to
specific

particular (e.g.,

problem

entirety.

Criteria-Related

Reversal

who problem.For example, people guilt,but they may unconsciously the issue of what they believe they can be effective.

The fourth type of reversal, criteria-related reversal,alsodeals with specific or This of believe issues beliefs. centers on issues such as whether you type reversal deserve a vou to get over will allow yourself to get over problem or whether you
suffer

from must

severe be

believe
deserve

that they

guilt may want to get over the deserve to feel guilty. In this case, treated before further treatments

Mini-Reversal

A mini-reversal

can occur

after

there

is over

the problem remains and the treatment Most likely, you are not ready to completely let go of the can appear in the form of specific, or criteriaMini-reversals problem. deep-level, related reversals. In these situations, you must of the reversals is determine which from preventing eliminating you completely problem. your
sequence

in experienceconsiderable getting progress the progresscomesto a halt. Some of

treatment progress. In a problem but then,

this case, you at some point,

stops

being

effective.

Recurring
When

Reversal
experience original

you
of

resurgence
reversal.

your

This is not

of distress prior to the treatment. This is a treatment can that make the mistake of thinking recognize you isn't as must start effective. Patience is with reversals, process required recurring you and You must also the entire treatment from the again complete sequence beginning. that reexaminethe possibility of each of and reversal reversal treat type any you believe is blocking your success.

rather a
important

recurrence,often

as is the merely a halt in progress,

at

significant progress in eliminating level of distress occurs, it frequently

case

a problem but then a

indicates

with

a recurring but mini-reversals,

the

level

to

because

58

Energy Tapping

understand the various types of reversals, you will be able to identify that situationsin life. The mind/body sabotage ways you your is concrete. the more the better the results will Therefore, are, very relationship specificyou for psychological is necessary for addictive be. In general,repeatedtreatment reversal for or when the problem has resultedin a very problems, very competitive people, low energy level. If your problem involves or long-term grief, shame, guilt, apathy, in is that will level most low area. This very require you to have your energy likely You must be to treat on a basis for several weeksto patience. willing yourself daily will to eliminatethe problem. While are continue this, however, doing you you
Once you
the

specific

receive

some benefits

from

your

treatment.

Treating

Psychological

Reversals

in the As we have been discussing, to using one of the treatment prior sequences if a as it reversal exists, chapters that follow, you need to determine psychological block will the successful elimination of a problem. When are reversed, the first you doesn't and the fact that you have the problem. This mean step is to accept yourself that you aren't going to change. Beforeyou can however, change, you must accept

yourself with
The
unconscious

your

flaws.

reversal may be
mind,

following
so

questions are
you.

designed to help you

of these
purpose

to

determine

which
your

affecting

Many

don't

answer

you choose is the correctone.The

understand

let yourself

Most hesitate when responding.

questions are directed at

in

type of
the

likely,

first

completing

the analysis
from

is to

have an energy reversalin a particular area,it will impede your that these beliefs be explored with treatment. each problem you try to that you have different with different problems. eliminate. beliefs associated Once you have completed the for a particular problem, use the analysis that are provided to correct any reversals that are treatments sabotaging your life. Then, treatment that locateand use the for sequence particular problem. If you immediately wait\342\200\224even the treatment for five or ten minutes\342\200\224before using sequence, the reversal in your energy, it the treatment. Once treat the reoccurand block imbalance may you is far less likely that the reversal will reoccur. If there is a delay after you treat a reversal, just treat it again before using the appropriate treatment sequence.
goals. If you It is essential You may find

help you

the

underlying

beliefs

that may

prevent you

achieving

After

you

treat

a reversal,

you

must

immediately
is

go

sequence and treat the problem that

causing

to the treatment you distress.

Determining

Massive
your

Reversal
general over the

a.

Think

about

life in

last year. Do you

feel

you

have

been:

understanding

Psychological

Reversals

and Self-Sabotage

59

miserable

happy not sure

b.
c.

Are

two

or

more

major parts

of your

life

negative,

such

as your

work and

relationships?
Have

you

been

chronically

depressed?
or

d. Do e. Are
you?

addiction you have a long-term

an

\"addictive

personality\"?

feelings of

shame,

guilt,

apathy,

or long-term

grief major problems for

indicate

If you

have a
multifaceted.

negative. Its presenceis supportedby

answered \"yes\" to any one of the questions, this may massive reversal (whole-lifereversal), where aspects many
the

that

fact

that

the problems

are chronic and

of your

life are

you

Treatment

Spot (SS)on the left side of your chest (see diagram 3).Rub that and or saying to yourself three times,\"I deeply profoundly and limitations.\" it Even if you don't believe accept myself with all of my problems the more now, right say it to yourself anyway. In fact, you don't believe it, the more and it is that you do this treatment. You need to repeat this treatment important daily in the following chapters. always before you use any of the treatments is treated, it is common for other reversals that Oncea massive reversal also must be treated to become apparent. It will take many of massive treatments the energy reversals before remains increasingly positive. You feel some will, however, and time it. is that massive relief each treat The concern progressive change you
Find

the Sore

spot

while

thinking

daily treatments
have

reversalstend to repeatedly reoccur. They

for

also

require

numerous

treatments.

massive

reversal

are

needed

before you can

be sure that

In fact,
you

eliminated

this problem.

Determining
Which vou

Deep-Level Reversal
statements

of

the

below accurately

defines your beliefabout the problem

want

to

treat?

I will

get over this

problem.
this

I will continueto have

If your
may

problem.

answer
This

was,

\"I

will

continue

be

present.

means

that at a

get over
pride

your problem. To help you

your

problem,\" a deep-levelreversal level deep you may believe you are unable to this belief, you must build your sense of change
to have this

and

confidence.

60

Energy

Tapping

UN

Deep-Lev\303\251I

Reversal

UBL

- Criteria

Reversal

Shame-Related

SS or SoreSpot
for

Massive

and

Recurring

Reversals

SH Reversals

Criteria-Related

Specificand

Diagram

Three:

The

Treatment

Points

for Specific

Types of Reversals

jroerstanding

Psychological

Reversals

and Self-Sabotage

61

Treatment
While

you

are

thinking

about a
your

under ^?ur upper lip, directly ?. en if I never get over this

nose

situation where your problem occurs, tap above and \"I three times, (UN), accept myself say

problem.\"

Determining
Which

Specific Reversal
below accurately

of

the

statements

TXi want

to treat:

defines your belief about

the

problem

I am ready to eliminate this problem. I am not ready to eliminate this problem.

Sometimes
\342\200\224*av not r*2te

there

are several

be ready problem,\" you

to eliminate
you

one of

In problems going on at once.

some

instances,

you

them.

this

\342\200\224ae order

think

may want would be best

r*
r-e

problem that annoys you the most.That less frustrating issues.

to make a list of your problems, to solve them.Don'tnecessarily

is,

If you

answered,

\"I

am

not

ready ranking
start

to elimithem in
treating
treating

by

it may

be easier

to begin by

Treatment
Think

about

:n the
accept

Side of Hand (SH)while

myself

a problem

or situation
thinking

even though I

have this problem.\"

where this problem happensand then tap or saying to yourself three times, \"I deeply

Determining
Detenriine

Criteria-Related Reversals
of

which

the

about

the

problem

you want to treat.

following

statements

accurately define your

beliefs

1. I deserveto get
I don't
over

this

problem.

deserve

to get over

this problem.

2. I
3. I am
feel

it's

safe

to get

over this problem.

this

I feel it's not safe to get over

scared to
to

problem.

try

deal
to

with
deal

this problem.
with

I am not

scared to try

this problem.

4. I will feel deprived if I get I will not feel deprived if I

over
get

this problem.
over

this problem.

62

Energy

Tapping

5. I will I will

allow

myself to

get over this

to

problem.

not allow

myself
is

get

over

this

problem.

6. I will

do

what

necessary
is

to get

over this problem. over this problem.

I will not do what

necessary

to get

Treatments

Select
match

the

belief

questions

above

its number to the

statements below.While
problem

that you

feel best identify

thinking

your

problem

and

about

about a situation where your to yourself three times:

\"I

your

occurs,

tap on the

Side of

Hand

problem or (SH) and think

deeply 1.

accept I deserve

myself

even

if\":

to have this
safe to

2. It's not

for get

me

problem. to get over this problem.

this problem.
I get to

3. I'm

scared

over

4. I will feel deprived if 5. I will not allow myself 6. I will not do what
is

over
get

this problem. this problem.

over

necessary

to get

over this problem.

Psychological

Reversal Sample Treatment

life and that too much rejectionin your personal Imagine you have experienced are a life event. After frustrated or about current social reviewing feeling angry you the belief questions on reversals, you decide that not only are you feeling rejected, but that will this Your believe to have continue reversal). problem (deep-level you you is that although you are experiencing are confused because rejection, reasoning you what are or how to stop it. Not understanding you you don't know why it occurs when is very common doing wrong or how to change a problem you are reversed. To treat a deep-level under nose reversal, your tap above your upper lip directly even if I never this over (UN) and say to yourself three times,\"I accept get myself if I and \"I even never You can the statement problem.\" personalize say, accept myself stop being rejected.\" this like an odd treatment, you must accept sounds situation, i.e., your Although in life. Once have treated can create before rejected, getting change your you you

yourself for
rejection,
for

the

reversal,
about

and eliminate as well.

still feeling angry

anger

for sequences you are ready to use the specifictreatment the energy imbalancethat is causing your problem. If you are situations, past sequence you will need to use the treatment
treatment

You may need to repeatthis be although you will immediately

to ensure

more

confident

long-term, permanent success, and less likely to seek out people

.\"O\303\256Tanding

Psychological

Reversals

and Self-Sabotage

63

vre will rejectyou. You

\302\253arcortive

will

also

people have

and

situations
identified

Once you
vou \342\200\242ff-n,

be able to better handle rejection and to focus in the future. any of the above reversals and treated yourself
that other beliefs

on
for

m Onceagain,

may

be able
identify

to identify
the

may
treat

be blocking
it.

type

of reversal

and

you from chang-

Summary are willing to accept that, to problem in your life unless you can occur in your life withinvolved in creating it. A problem :xr: it being your fault; however, your response to it is key to your ability to cope that *rzh The core of a psychological reversalis that if your energy levels problem. a specific situation low due to problems in your past, your \302\273tome very about energy Oncethat happens, view that rar becomenegative. of or another situation and your If are tout ideaof how to resolve a problem can becomedistorted. reversed, you you vZ. actively sabotagea goalthat you are consciously seeking to achieve. Your behavand beliefs at the time, however, will feel appropriate. That .o-\303\247 is why it is essential treat reversals before a treatment. \342\200\242c any possible you employ specificenergy If an is not effective, a psychologicalreversal is usually the treatment energy and This the main reversals has examined of their chapter types r^-prit. matching treatments. Once you learnhow to treat reversals, you are ready to read the chapters and the corresponding treatment sequences to arcut specificproblems to utilize them. \303\274znunate if are the Remember, reversed, you energy treatments for specific will not be effective. Therefore,always treat for reversals before rroblems yourself other treatment to eliminate ^sng sequences specific problems.
\303\256 x

cannot

seme

change a degree, you are

CHAPTER

Everyone

Is

Scared

of

Something

There

are

fear

of

really. The original wound from way back when and the our to and giving up having face the pain, so our fear defenses becomes a roadblock that we service and maintain.
two fears
\342\200\224Merle

Shain

\\o

Fear!\"

and

\"Just

Do

It!\" are

two popular
you

accepted \342\200\224only
\342\226\240-. as having

cultural

fears.

r.ock

out

the fear,

reing fearlessin one part of

-^ve

get out

idea that you The message is that

your

aren't supposed to
should
happen.

product slogans that

think

exemplify

a com-

there, and make it

life

of yourself be able to handle your situation, We have learned, however,

as phobic

that

doesn't
will

The same is admirable and courageous. firefighter, of flying in an airplane. paralyzed with fear at the thought can easily be handled by most children, which Many situations,suchas flying, life. cause serious ran panic for individuals who are fearlessin most areas of their and phobias: What causes panic in one personhasno effect This is the nature of fears Fears and phobias have little whether a person is weak or n another. to do with are _=cks Instead, courage. they are about energy imbalances.Oncetheseimbalances will be able to better cope with the of fear in your life. reared, presence you A common the that for coping with fears is learning to avoid situations strategy and phofears rreate them and trying to accept this part of you. Unfortunately, your r:as are not overcomeeasily, and their for existing has very little to do with reason their The result is that people tend to feel ashamed that can't overcome ?\302\247ic. they are not most ears, especially if their fears are not socially acceptable. In truth, people their without some form of therapeutic help. fears .roing to learn how to overcome In this chapter, we will help you conquer your fears usingenergy psychology. \342\200\242\342\200\242\342\200\242 e will address or flying, as well as the common phobias, such as a fear of insects intirniears that affect your ability to be successful in sports, at work, and in various

a dier areas.For example, firefighter

voluntarily

mean that you enter

are immune to fears in a burning building to

another

person's

life, which

-owever,

may become

;3trng

situations.

66

Energy

Tapping

How

Do
fears

Fears
be exist

Get
to a

Started?
single
natural traumatic

Some
and still
trace

can others

traced as part

incident, defense

others

of our

mechanisms.

a fear,

such as

diminished ability to interpret can elicit a response of fear

When imagining monstersin the closet. you noises and the shapes created by

seem to be learned, You might be able to are in the dark, your

shadows

or
incapable

objects
of

because

monster
dangerous
that

detenriining

if you
no

are safe.
how

Isn't it

your
mysterious

primary
that

sense\342\200\224vision\342\200\224is

children
of

who have

never seen a
something

(and

matter

many times

exists?
designed
for

is

accident,
type of
being

Fears can also developfrom

example, fear in

Most people to protect us.

have a
a

that believe you checkthe closet)

natural

fear

the unknown,

a safety

device

single

traumatic

incident.
has

is easily
trauma.

a similar

of the

they may develop That is, if understood. situation understandably

a fear of
someone

driving

or even

been

person is in a car riding in a car. This in a severe car accident,

If a
existed

recreates feelingsthat
reflective

at the

time

initial

Other

fears

are learned
can

and are

example, some peoplehave

and information

commonly

of

societal

beliefs.

For

a fear

of alien

abduction. In these cases,accurate

too

experience

are ashamed
An

and don't seek outside

theory
of

often help
about

to erase the fear. All

help

often,

however,

that

energy-related

subtle
great
phobia

energy. One way

grandfather
fear.

looking
traumatic

at this

suffered a

or

For

avoided
Generations
are

high places, the

example,

if he
initiation

had a
of

fears is that they can be inherited by way is to imagine that your great-great-greatevent that has been passed on to you as a fall then from the top of a tree and from
problem
of

can help

them to eliminatetheir fears.

of

people

on

the

in the McDougall (1938) conducted one of the longest experiments It lasted more than fifteen and that history suggested years strongly psychology. animals can fears in this manner. So why not people, too? Whether or not develop you believe in subtle energy transference,do keepin mind that it's often impossible to determine the cause of any fear or phobia. No matter what theory you try to employ, true holds for one person doesn't always affect you will find many holes in it. What William
of another.

later, you aware. consciously

now have a fear

heights

may have begun with that for no good reason of

incident.

which you

Have people

you

ever thought

from

success
assume

incomeor position is
more

may be

achieving

reflectedin the fear

achieved,

important goals in their

of

about why your fears exist?In somecases, fears

lives. For example, having

responsibly.

prevent a

fear

of

fear becomes
a

responsibilities.

don't need to understand to problems your them. will eliminate If you simply treat your fears oneat a time, you successfully that to the root of your problem, and eventually eliminate as well. Energy eventuallyget psychology doesn't requireyou to reexamine your life. Instead, it is a simple and rote process that will be effective once you identify the fears in your life.
that

Although with energy

the person may feel that they will be the success as well as the By avoiding vehicle of self-sabotage. the origin of your fears and phobias can be complex,the

behaving

That is,

once a certain

to obligated responsibilities, good

news

is

psychology, you

\303\274-eryone

Is Scared

of Something

67

Identifying
Identifying

Your
and

Fears
fear is

rear, your

address
1987)

will growth and development

dealing

with

generally a lifelong process.As

lead

you

deal

with

one

inevitably

to other

fears that you

must

and

deal

with

as well.
ways

There are a
divides

number of
includes

fears
one

into three

levels:

to identify

the fears that

block your growth. Jeffers

and to you, such as aging or dying, as test taking. 2. Level two fears involve your sense of self, and includefears such as rejection or dealing with mtimidating people. 3. The last level is what underlies all fears:the belief that you can't handle the situations in your life.

1. Level

fears

fears

that

require

action, such

that happen

is the core of all fears. Sheuses the phrase, \"I level three Accordingto Jeffers, if someone handle ...\" to examine fears.For instance, is going on a job interview and has a fear of not getting the job, this is translated not getting handle as, \"J can't fear of not being able to handlethe situation dus job.\"Accordingto Jeffers, it is your dut creates we with this position to some your fear sensations. Although agree we an believe that it is extent, ultimately underlying energy disruption that causes and The this rear fearful thoughts. is to help you learn to elirninatethe goal of chapter and the sensations that are associated with your fears. anxiety un

From
may

an

energy

psychology

viewpoint,

and

two

have

criteria-related

reflective

of a

treated before
treatment

massive reversal. The reversals at the root of these as notedpreviously, using the energy treatments.Otherwise,
won't

people who become stuck in levels one or specific reversals,whilelevel threemostlikely is

levels

must
the

be

sequences

be effective.
that simple

You should
as

a brief

example
in your

identify and write down the fears of the fear situation.It canbeas
can

are

as,

affecting your life \"I'm embarrassed

achieving

as well
that I

can't do
important ?f

and write down all should identify to the overall presence of your complex fear. For old, you may also fear dying, lost opportunities, example, if you have a fear of getting or the reality that certain desired events are not going to happenin your life. With to experience each complex fears, you may be requiredto treat problem individually relief.
goal the

Or, it (something).\"
that

be

a fear that

fears

life. If your fear are contributing

is complex, you

blocks you

from

an

Four Phobias and

In

Fears
fear is
groups

the

individually. It is not that

However,

following

pages,
these

divided into
of fears

four

groups

and

each

is addressed
to be

to

achieve

results

The specific as possible.

with energy
four
fear

psychology treatments, it
include:
animals,
of

are radically

different from
is

each other.
as

important

groups
of

1. Basicphobias,i.e.,
2.

insects,

elevators,
public

heights,
speaking,

flying

Related

fears,

i.e., test

taking, fear

success,

meeting

new

people

Everyone

Is Scared

of Something

69

intrusive

thoughts
that

of

falling

or

jumping.

These

sensations

create the negative

the negative feeling associated is to eliminate heights the negativethoughts will be have this, accomplished you that lesslikely to appear. You can use the same sequence is offered for all phobias and fears.However, in will not treat fear of but will also for heights general, you only the treat sensations fear of or falling such as disturbing jumping you experience, your and your fear of losing control. If you think about each one and rate your feelings, can judge which needs to be treated. you The outcome will be different for each For some people, ongoing person. are needed because the visual stimulus that creates the fear of heights is very treatments the which a to complete,will takes minute treatment, strong. Regardless, only provide relief. If you know that you are going to be in a situation that involves heights, be sure to treat yourself first. beforehand. And, as always, treat yourselffor reversals
The goal

thoughts
this

are

scaring

you.

of treating fear of
Once

with

sensation.

Fear

of Elevators

You must

control?Are
based

clearly identify
afraid

your

fear

of elevators.
an

Is

it

matter

you

of being

in an

on the

sensation that occurs

that something
your

bad will happen, such The better are at identifying trapped? you
fear,

while riding in
as

enclosed space (claustrophobia)? Is your

elevator?

of being

out of
fear

Are

the

psychology

faster and treatments.

with the thoughts and beliefs associated more thoroughly you can resolveit by employing energy

getting

stuck

between

you irnagining floors and being

Fear
This elements

of Flying
situation

come
of of

into

fear fear

taking feeling

that fear of flying is the sameas fear of heights, Although some people think they are Most have fear are amazed that do of heights peoplewho they actually quite distinct. not experience that fear when looking out the window of an airplane. This is because the cause of of converging lines of perspective (which is the primary proximity
fearing

to fear of elevators,although a numberof additional treat each possible You should reason for fear, such as the play. your fear of being out of control, fear of flight turbulence, off and landing, stuck in an enclosed area, or any form of catastrophic thinking.
is similar

heights)

is not

present.

Treatment

1.

Think

such

Try

treat for a
your level
of

for Basic Fears a situation that scares you. It should be a single, about event, specific as a bee in your bedroom, being in an enclosed or riding in a car. place, to be as specificas possible. For example, it would be more effective to
Sequence
fear

of

German

of fear on a scaleof
and the

shepherds
0 to

rather
10, with

distress for

0 indicating possibility

no stress.

than for fear of all dogs. Rate 10 representing the highest level

2.

Treat

of reversal

Hand

(SH) or rubbing the

by tapping repeatedly on the Side of SoreSpot (SS) or saying three times, while thinking

70

Energy

Tapping

3 (UCB)

SS or
for

Sore Spot
and

Massive

Recurring

Reversals

Diagram

Four:

Fear

of Insects,
Flying

Animals,

Heights, Elevators, and

Treatment

Sequence

for

Basic Phobias

and Fears
bone

Meridian Under
Eye

Location
(UE)

Under

the center

of the eye on tip

and

of

Under

Arm (UA)

Six inchesbelow

under

the near

Under Collarbone

(UCB)

One

inch

under

collarbone

armpit throat

Everyone

Is Scared

of Something

71

\"I

3.

hard enoughto feel it. The tapping shouldn't cause any pain. 4. Again, rate your distress on a 0 to 10scale (a number should just pop into the your mind).If there is no decrease, go back to step 2 and cycle through this is probably three sequence again. If there is not a decreaseafter attempts, not an appropriate sequence for or else there is another sabotaging this event, that needs belief (i.e.,reversal) correction. (See step 8.) 5. Next, do the
Brain Balancer (BB) by tapping repeatedly at the Back of Hand while (BH) rotating your eyes clockwise, rotating your eyes counterclockwise, a tune, to five, and humming again. then hurruning counting
Repeat

problems and limitations.\" 4 to identify the locations for the meridian Look at the chart and at diagram for Under Eye (UE),UnderArm and Under Collarbone (UCB). (UA), points the feared item (don't get into it so much that you While thinking about at each of experience discomfort times major any during the process), tap five these meridian points. Tap them in the following order: l->2->3. Tap only
with all my

may be helpful

deeply

accept

myself
to

even though I
the SH

am scared of

(name

tap

or rub the

SS while saying,

your
\"I

fear).\"
accept

It also
myself

6.

the

tapping
level

sequence

l->2->3.
When

7. Again,
the

rate your
you

distress
while

is within

repeat
even

the treatment

of distress from 0 to 10.It should be loweryet. the 0 to 2 range, go to step 9. Sometimes you'll

need

to

several times while you

actual

are

are in the

situation\342\200\224before

from the

distressfulsituation.
is

imagining feel you

your complete

fear\342\200\224or

relief

8.

As until

long there

as there

Treat point, this indicatesa mini-reversal.

is a decrease in the level of fear, very little or no fear remaining. If

this

continue
the

with

treatment

the sequence stalls at any

Side of
9. When

by
\"I

tapping
deeply

on the little
accept

finger
even

Hand

(SH)

while

though I still have

some of

saying
this

three times,
problem.\"

myself,

the distress level is 0 to 2, consider the doing Eye Roll (ER) to lower the distress further or to complete the treatment effects. To do this, tap on the Back of Hand (BH), hold your head and, moving only your eyes, straight, look at the floor and then slowly raise your eyes up toward the ceiling.
it

Although
most

has

been

our

experience

that one

treatment will work to remove

need

fear-based

nmes over a two- or three-week periodbefore they are completely eliminated. It is also a good idea to treat that you know you are goingto encounter yourself anytime a fear-arousing item or situation. Once you memorizea treatment sequence, you will ^e able to treat for that or if starts to item situation even fear come back. yourself your itself. If, after several The first step is always to attempt to treat the fear/phobia doesn't create the results you desire, then we attempts, the treatment sequence What to examine beliefs: are encourage your your you you telling yourself about rear? Do you believe you can be hurt? Are the worst that can happen you imagining in a fear-based will help you x> vou situation? Having awarenessabout your beliefs to break any habits that are to the helping perpetuate problem. However, it will be

problems,

we have

also found

fears that

to be

treated

several

72

Energy Tapping

much easier to

change your the most obvious aspectsof

Testing

beliefs your

once fear.

you

have completed

energy treatments on

Treatment

Effectiveness
of

can

It is important to
easily

test the effectiveness

a friend.

a treatment.

For most
have

do

this

with

for you to test it. If you have a fear of yourself in a situation where it is comfortable for can an elevator with a friend and ride the elevator elevators, get on example, you or down floor. An to this strategy is airplanes. In this case,you up exception only one can fear and testing the effectiveness of this technique by usingit for another prove that result. Or, you can go to an airport and think about flying while you are take off and land. Once you see the positive resultsof energy treatments, watchingplanes that a technique that can help have your confidence will grow and you'll realize you such as flying. Please note: situations, you in even the most anxiety-provoking Reversalsare common with fears, especially fears that you don't have the opportunity very to experienceregularly. Therefore, treat for a reversal before each always yourself

For example, onceyou

situations, you
a fear,

treated

place

treatment.

Treatment for Special Considerations

There

are

specific

phobias

that

approach.

These

include your

turbulence.
complete diagram

You may
from

need to repeatthis
distress.

claustrophobia,

relief 4,

You still

but

you

need

to tap the
for

Treatment

Sequence

listed on use the same treatment points order: points in the following Special Consideration Phobias and Fears

may require a more vigorous treatment to flight fear of spiders, and anxiety related feel three times before you sequence

Meridian Under
Eye

Location
(UE)

Under
of

the center

of the eye on tip

bone

Under

Collarbone
Arm

(UCB)

2
3

One inch under collarbone near

throat

Under

(UA)

Six inches
armpit

below and under the

Under

Collarbone

(UCB)

4
5

near One inch under collarbone

throat

Under

Eye

(UE)

Under the of bone

center of

the

eye

on tip

Related
The

Phobias
group

and

Fears
a fear

second

of fears

people.
by

Each of

these situationsinvolves

includes test taking,

of how

new and public speaking, meeting we will be evaluated or judged

others.

Everyone

Is Scared

of Something

73

Test Anxiety have a strong impact on your millions of students take They example, entrance such as the Scholastic Graduate Record exams, college Aptitude Test (SAT), Exam(GRE), Law School Admission Test (LSAT), and Medical College Admission Test for specific licenses, are (MCAT). Many people must take exams that required certifications, and, in some cases, employment. complaining Unfortunately, simply an that tests are \"unfair\" won't to have help you. At some point, tests are going on life. Don't allow to impact your anxiety prevent you from doing your best. of these statements about test anxiety apply to you: First, determinewhich 1. You know the material, but when you take the test you freeze.
real

Tests are a very

are also

and

life.

a huge

business.Each year,

powerful

tool that can

for

2.

You
first

don't
statement

know the material

indicates

and you

freeze

when

you

take the

test.

The

courses (for the SAT, LSAT, etc.),and you may on your own. You have evidencethat have studied know the material, but when you seems to take the mind blank. is that can answer the The result test, go you your you and easier questions, but you cannotfocusand solvethe moderate difficult questions. This means that anxiety is blockingyou from the test to the best of your ability taking and you should treat yourself for test anxiety. If your text anxiety is caused by the fact that you don't know the material and for the test, you must determine don't what life circumstances and/or you study beliefs cause you to behave in this manner. There are several possible reasons for and you must examine each beforeyou can which one is ascertain behavior, your It is a test to take some when must blocking you. appropriate experience anxiety you for which not and don't have studied know the material. you Our experience indicates that a number of issues can exist that create test in these In the first it be situation, categories. anxiety pure test anxiety, as you know may the material, but start to panic in a test situation.In the othersituation, however, you have been chances for not success sabotaging your may by studying for tests, by or by fearing success. If you find it difficult to study for extended beingimpatient, of time, it to do the be treatment before helpful periods may following sequence

pure

material,you

test anxiety. In this

situation, you know the

have

taken

preparation

treating

yourself

for

test

anxiety.

for Impatience When Studying for a Test are going to study for two hours. Tap nose (UN on under Imagine you your \"I I and three can never even times, 5) accept diagram say myself though study for two hours at one time.\" Then, tap the Side of Hand and (SH) or rub the Sore Spot (SS) say I three even with and times, \"I accept though myself get impatient quit.\" studying If this not significantly does reduce your Next, tap five times on your Eyebrow(EB). for in then use the treatment frustration and impatience, chapter 12. impatience for the treatment test complete sequence Lastly, anxiety.
Treatment

Test Anxiety Treatment

1.

Identify

the

example

below

that best

describes your situation:

74

Energy

Tapping

a. When

you take the test, you your actual ability.

You

become

so anxious

that you

can't perform to
if

b.

below a

certain number. Forexample, you the SAT, then I am a failure.\"

about

anticipate

failing

at some

level or

will not acceptyourself

believe,

you

score

\"If I don't

score 1100 on

Now, think

the

situation
0 to

that creates

test anxiety on and 0 indicating

a scale of
none.

10, 10

anxiety and rate your representing the highest level of

level distress

of

by tapping repeatedly on the Side of SoreSpot (SS) while or saying three times, thinking \"I even I I take tests.\" Or, \"I deeply though freeze when accept deeply myself if I don't even score be accept myself high enough on this test.\"It also may SH to the or rub the SS \"I with all while helpful tap accept myself my saying, It is into problems and limitations.\" always best to try and put the statement your own words. 3. Look at the chart below and at diagram 5 to identify locations for the the 2.
Treat

for

the

possibility

of reversals

Hand

(SH) or rubbing the

meridian points
Collarbone

for

the

Under

Eye (UE),

(UCB).

While

that you experience any major discomfortduringthe process), at each of these meridianpoints.Tap them in the following

thinking

about

Under Arm the test anxiety

(UA),

and

Under
into

(don't get

it

tap

so much five times

Tap only hard enoughto feel it. The 4. Again, rate your
your

tapping

shouldn't

order: l->2->3. cause any pain.

a 0 to 10 scale, (a number should just pop into the decrease, go back to step 2 and cycle through this is probably three sequence again. If there is not a decreaseafter attempts, not an appropriate treatment for this event, or else there is another sequence that needs correction. (See step 8.) belief (i.e., reversal) sabotaging
distress

on

mind).

If there

is no

5.

the Brain Balancer (BB) by tapping repeatedly at the Back of Hand do while (BH) rotating your eyes clockwise, rotating your eyes counterclockwise, then humming a rune, countingto five, and hurnrning again.
Next,

6. Repeat
7.

the tapping sequence l->2->3. rate your level of distress from 0 to 10. It should be lower yet. When Again, the is within the 0 to 2 range, go to step9.Sometimes to distress need you'll the treatment several times fear\342\200\224or while are repeat iinagining you your no longer even while test anxiety you are in the actual situation\342\200\224before your affects your performance.
As as there is a decrease in the level of test with the continue long anxiety, treatment sequence until there is very little or no anxiety remaining. If the stalls at any point, this indicatesa mini reversal. treatment Treatthis by on the little finger Side of Hand (SH) while three times, \"I deeply tapping saying even though I still have some of this problem.\" accept myself,

8.

9. When

the distress level is 0 to 2, consider the doing Eye Roll (ER) to lower or to complete the distress further the treatment effects. To do this, tap on the Back of Hand (BH), hold your head and, moving only your eyes, straight, lookat the floor and slowly raise your eyes up toward the ceiling.

l/eryone

Is Scared of Something

75

3 (UCB)

SS or
for

Sore Spot
and

Massive

Recurring

Reversals

Diagram

Five:

Fear

of Tests, Public
New

Speaking, and Meeting

People

Treatment

Sequence

for Test Anxiety the center

under under
on tip

Meridian
Under

Location
(UE)

eye

1
2 3

Under
Six One

of

the

eye

of bone

Jnder arm (UA) Under Collarbone (UCB)

inches inch

the armpit collarbone near

throat

76

Energy

Tapping

Public
Although

Speaking
we

and Meeting

New People

new addressed public speaking or meeting As we identical to those used for treating anxiety. a that a of and address each fear success is reversal briefly topic below,remember it blocks you from succeedingand may shouldbe treated as such because be how

have

people, the

formula

and

not directly treatments are

you

sabotage

yourself.

Public Speaking
in public, you are taking a risk and allowing yourself to be speak in You a the audience. also had the have negative experience past, by may You may fear that this will mind freezing up or feelingyour go blank. or you may be concerned that will not like your speech. You the audience happen again must belief and treat each sabotaging before you begin the treatment identify For on of Hand the Side (SH) while sequence. example, tap saying three times, \"I I not like my speech.\" am the audience will afraid accept deeply myself even though think in use Then about the situation of speaking Next, public and rate your anxiety. with the treatment the test anxiety statements sequence for test anxiety, substituting
When

you

evaluated such as

ones specificto
Meeting
When

your

public

speaking

engagement.

New
are

People
a new
this

You must decide person, you are beingevaluated. or do you Do you want to be liked by the person from a business a favor? a date is different meeting, Although the same. the first step is to identify sabotaging Again, any such as \"I'm not good enough.\" beliefs, Or, \"This never works for me.\" Once you treat any reversals, employ for test anxiety. If you do not the treatment sequence experience any decrease in distress, it may be because you feel mtirnidated when you in a particular setting. In that case, use the treatment sequence for meet new people that in the next section. mtirnidation is outlined you

want from want them to do you the feelings are often

what you

meeting

encounter.

Intimidating
One

Situations

to yourself when situations to overcome is not being true of situation. This but covers circumstances, they you're many types are essentiallycausedby the same idea: You believe that you can get hurt. It is easy that you have not been true to to feel embarrassed or ashamedwhen believe you are caused unresolved Most these however, old, by yourself. likely, feelings think emotional occur when or wounds. emotional wounds are, are, you you Typically, if to with the resources skills deal even have Later, and/or helpless. developed you similar situations, you react the sameway did when you were traumatized you that It emotional wounds create the is to remember during original experience. important in an energy imbalance that prevents that can these from the most be being you you situations situations. In fact, you most likely are better able to cope with mtimidating than you may believe. A in successfully dealing with mtimidating situations is consideration secondary an unidentified that fear has affected your sense of self, which has, in turn, produced of

the

hardest

in an mtirnidating

./eryoneIs

Scared

of Something

77

an ongoing
situation intimidating
problems

what roadblock in your life. In this case, determine from has prevented You should you achieving.

the

fear

or

treat

any related

that

you

can

identify.

Treatment
As

for Intimidation
you

always,

must

psychology

treatments.

situations.

That is, what

has

some examples:
\342\200\242 Someone \342\200\242 Someone \342\200\242 You \342\200\242 Someone \342\200\242 You

are the ingredients that

over you

attempt You may

to be as specificas possible when want to think about \"how do\" you

create

using

energy

intirnidating

intimidation

for you?

Here are

give

emotionally or physically. has the ability to provide you with something you a person power over you and respondaccordingly. and is not respectful toward is aggressive you.
power that

want.

believe
about

you cannot

be successful. mtirnidating. The

first

1.

Think

a situation

do I respondto an mtirnidating Do I respond with situation? I am told, or become an active in anger, sit quietly, do what participant I don't want to do. There are that could be scenarios examined, something many but the treatments are the same.This is about you and how you respond to a be mtirnidating situation. Therewill always situations in life, but once you can eliminate fears and the beliefs with associated them, identify your you these roadblocks to a better life.
yourself

is: How

that you find

question

to ask

10 scale,with

a specific Select problem

10

and

rate

your

indicating

the

highest

of mtimidation on a 0 to feelings distress and 0 indicating none.

2.

Below

are

some

possibility

of a

Sore Spot (SS) while

reversal by tapping on the

thinking

examples

of mtirnidating
or saving

situations/beliefs.
Side

Treat

for

the

of Hand

one of

times: a. accept
\"I

the following statements three

(SH) or rubbing the

myself

even

b.

\"I accept myself what I want.\" obtain

\"I \"I

are better than me.\" to achieve/ even if I am not myself when I am trying
if I think

people with power

c.

accept accept

myself

d.
e.

\"I accept describe).\"

get hurt.\" even if I give them (or whoever) power over me.\" myself if I am in not to even succeed (name/ myself good enough
even if I believe

I will

If you can identify any other mtirnidating include them. situations /beliefs, Treat for the possibilityof reversals on the Side of Hand (SH) or by tapping \"I three even times, rubbing the Sore Spot (SS)and saying accept myself to tap the SH though (describe mtirnidating situation).\" It also may be helpful or rub the SSwhile saying, \"I accept myself with all my problems and
limitations.\"

3.

Look meridian

at the

chart below and at diagram 6 to identify the locations for the Nose Under Under (UE), points Eyebrow (EB), Eye

for

the

(UN),

78

Energy

Tapping

3 (UN)

4 (UCB)

SSor SoreSpot
for

Massive

and

Recurring Reversals

I0\\

SH

\\

Diagram

Six:

Intimidating

Situations

Treatment

Sequence for

Intimidation
the

Meridian
Eyebrow

Location

(EB)

1
(UN)
(UCB)

Beginning

of
the

eyebrow
of

near bridge

of nose

Under

Eye

(UE)

Under Nose
Little

2 3
4
5

Under
Above

center

the

upper

lip

and

eye on tip of bone below the center of nose

UnderCollarbone
Finger

One
Inside

inch under
tip

(LF)

collarbone near throat of little fingernail on the side

e-vone

Is Scared

of Something

79

Under Collarbone
intirnidating

(UCB),and
(don't

Little

Finger

(LF).

While
that

thinking
you

about the
any

situation

major discomfort
Tap

during the process),tap

The

get into it so

much
times

in the following them points. to feelit. shouldn't enough tapping 4. Again, rate your distresson a 0 to 10

meridian order: l->2->3->4->5. Tap only hard

five

experience

at each

of these

cause
(a

any pain.
number

scale

should
cycle

your mind).
sequence

If

there

is no

decrease,
this

belief(i.e.,
5. Next, do the
(BH)

not an appropriate sequence for

reversal)

again. If there

is not a decreaseafter
event, needs

go back to step 2 and

three

just pop
through

into
the

or else

that

correction.

attempts, probably there is another sabotaging (See step 8.)

this is

Brain

Balancer

(BB) by

tapping repeatedly at the

eyes

Backof

Hand

then

rotating your eyes clockwise, rotating your and hunvming a tune, counting to five, hunvming
while

counterclockwise,

again.

6. Repeat
7.

the tapping sequence l->2->3->4->5.

rate

Again,

your

level of
the

distress
0 to

from

the

distress
even

is

within

repeat
before

the treatment
while the

tion\342\200\224or

problem

several times while you are imagining your mtimidaare in the actual mtimidating situation\342\200\224 you actually is completely resolved.
is very

2 range,

10. It should be lower yet. to go step 9.Sometimes you'll

0 to

When need

to

8. As

with the continue decrease in the level of mtimidation, the treatment little or no If distress sequence remaining. Treat this on the stalls at any point, this indicatesa mini-reversal. by tapping \" I little finger Side of Hand while three times, (SH) accept saying deeply Another type of some of this mtimidation.'' myself, even though I still have If you reversal that occurs with mtimidating situations deals with shame. the possibility have been demeaned in a situation, then you should treat for of a reversal. Tap under your bottom lip (UBL) while saying to yourself three \"I even times, deeply accept myself though I feel ashamed.\"
long

as there
until

is a

there

9.

When

the

distress

level
or

is 0
your

the distress further

Back

to 2, consider doing
the treatment
head

of Hand
the

lookat
Panic

(BH), hold
and

to complete

straight,

floor

then

slowly

raise your

the Eye Roll (ER) to lower effects. To do this, tap on the and, moving only your eyes,
toward

eyes up

the

ceiling.

Attacks

One of the scariestevents in a person'slife is to have a panic attack. As with most fears and phobias,thereis often no rational reason why a particular situation a panic attack sometimes occurs \"out causesa panic attack, or why of the blue.\" Yet it from is all very real for people who suffer attacks and panic they commonly lose control over The have functions. response people duringa panic attack is many physical in a terrifying similar to what people experiencewhen they are situation; it is symbolic of their of The can be and diverse numerous feelings helplessness. symptoms Common on the or the of attack a situation depending type person experiences. of breath, rapid heart rate, disorientation, rapid pacing, symptoms includeshortness

80
of the
and

Energy

Tapping

tightening
of

anxiety\", These

imminent danger. It

chest, a feeling of losing control, inability of or thoughts dying going crazy. are part of your natural survival symptoms

to breathe,
mechanism

intense feelings
for dealing

has beenreferred to as
secrete

the

extra oxygenand nutrients to be available

arms

times, the adrenal glandsrapidly

and

\"fight-or-flight

mechanism.\"

with At such

adrenaline
to

specific

to speed areas of of your

legs.

The tingling
you

that

blood times
that

incur a
such

is being

drawn away

sensations experienced
from

during panic are an

body so
down
A that

up your heart, allowing your body, such as your

indication if

the

surface

physicalinjury,
are

would

not
arms

is indicative
in line with

energy to
symptoms

of the digestive processslowing

running,

readily bleed to

death. Stomachdiscomfort
to array
wide

you

were

to
at

your legsfor

the intention
mechanisms greatly

for fighting,
of

etc.

needed divert of other

survival

also

occur.

is that sensations and appears to cause panic attacks anxiety-produced are Those allow your false thoughts interpretedcatastrophically. interpretations out of and to control. it normal for For is thoughts feelings spin example, you to feel at where sensationswhile on curves elevations, strange driving high your especially view of the elevation is panoramically clear. Also, a scary it is not that odd to have at these times, such as the thought of crashing off the bridge. The or falling thought when take notions occurs such can't let problem go of them, and they you seriously, feel out of control, the door is open for a panic start to overwhelm you. Onceyou

however, these survival looming dangeris being

What

During

are exaggerated.

being

erroneously

a panic attack, triggered because the

attack

to occur.

The actual thoughts that cause a panic attack may not be at a conscious level. Sometimes a scary thought occurs, suchas the possibility of losing someone dear to before have had a chance to consciously you, and the thought gets suppressed you
sensations. In turn, you misinterpret the anxiety danger, thus triggering anxiety sensationsas a sign that there is something dangerously wrong with you. This adds in your thought process spinning wildly to the scary thoughts, of out resulting what to a and is referred as attack. control, producing panic are an aspect of panic attacks, do not such Although scary thoughts thoughts have and do not succumbto such thoughts people invariably produce panic. Many to become panic. The key is the energy imbalance, which allows such thoughts

registerit.
as a

However,

your

survival

mechanisms

noticed

it

and

interpreted

it seriously

frightening.

Treatment

for Panic
about

Attacks
when

1.

you had a panic attack. It shouldbe a single, first specific panic attack or the worst one.For memory, maybe your a it be of example, memory feeling frozen and not beingableto move.Try to may be as specific as possible. The goal is to focus on an isolated, event, specific but don't focus on it so much that it could trigger an actual panic attack. Rate level of distress about the panic attack on a scale of 0 to 10, with 10 your the level of distress and 0 indicating no stress. (This representing highest treatment be used to \303\251limina te a panic attack while it is occurring.) may
Think

a situation

2. Treat
Hand

for the
(SH)

possibility of

reversals

or rubbing

the Sore Spot (SS) while

by

tapping

repeatedly

on the

Side of

thinking

or saying

three times,

\303\257.eryone

Is Scared

of Something

81

4 (UCB)

SSor SoreSpot
for

Massive

and

Recurring Reversals

Diagram

Seven:

Panic Attacks

Treatment

Sequence

for

Panic

Attacks

Meridian

Location
Eye (UE)
Arm

Under

Under
Eyebrow

(UA)

1 2
3

Under the centerof the Six inchesunder armpit

Beginning

eye

on tip

of bone
nose

(EB)

of eyebrow
of

near bridge of
throat

Under
Little

Collarbone (UCB)
Finger

near One inch under collarbone

(LF)

Inside tip

little

fingernail

on the

side

82

Energy

Tapping

3.

\"I deeply accept myself even though I have this panic be helpful to tap the SH or rub the SS while saying, with all my problems and limitations.\" Now look at the chart and at diagram7 to identify

problem.\"
\"I

deeply

It may also accept myself

4.

tapping shouldn'tcauseany pain. number should (a Again, rate your distress on a 0 to 10 scale just pop into 2 If there no back to the is decrease, go step and cycle through your mind). If there not a after three this is decrease is probably sequence again. attempts, not an appropriate sequence for or else there is another sabotaging this event, belief (i.e.,reversal) that needs correction. (See step 8.)
Brain

the locations for the Arm (UA) Eyebrow (EB),Under the panic Collarbone and about (UCB), (LF). While thinking attack (don't get into it you experience any major discomfort meridian tap five times at each of these duringthe process), points. Tap them in the following order: l->2->3->4->5. to feel it. The hard enough Tap only

meridian points for

Under

Eye (UE), Little Finger so much that

Under

5. Next, do the

Balancer

(BH) while rotating your eyes clockwise, rotating then hunvming a tune, counting to five, and
6. Repeat
7.

(BB) by

tapping repeatedly
your

at

the

Back

of Hand

eyes

counterclockwise,

hunvming

again.

the tapping sequence l->2->3->4->5. rate your level of distress from When 0 to 10. It should be lower yet. Again, the distress to is within the 0 to 2 range, go to step 9.Sometimes need you'll treatment the several timeswhile are repeat irnagining your problem\342\200\224or you even the actual feel complete relief from your panic situation\342\200\224before you

attacks.

8.

As

long

as there

is a
until

decrease in the level of

there

distress,

continue

with

the

treatment

sequence

are

rninirnal

feelings

of panic.

If the

treatment stalls
accept

at any point, this

finger

indicates

a mini-reversal.

Side

of Hand

even though
treatment

I still have someof

(SH) while

saying three times,\"I

this

Treat this by
problem.\"

tapping on the little the

myself,

deeply

panic

Then repeat

sequence.

9.

When Back

the distress of Hand

the

the distress further

level is 0 to 2, consider doing

or

lookat
If after
recommendations.

(BH), hold
and

to complete
your

the treatment
head

straight,

the Eye Roll (ER) to lower effects. To do this, tap on the and, moving only your eyes,
toward

floor

then

slowly

raise your

eyes up

the

ceiling.

three attempts, your distresslevelis not lower,therearetwo traumatic First, panic attacks may be based on a previous experience. your in chapter 10 beforethe this is the case, you must use the treatment for trauma treatment for panic will be effective. Second, the alternate clusterof meridian sequence below be treat listed points required to effectively panic problem. may your

If

Alternative

Panic Treatment
7 to
(UCB) Eyebrow (EB),Under Collarbone

Lookat
(UA),

diagram

identify

the locations for

the

meridians
and

for the
Little

Under
Finger

Arm

Under

Eye (UE)

(LF)-

E.eryone Is Scaredof

Something

83

Use the

same steps
2->l->3->4->5.

order

one through nine listed above,

but

use

the

alternate

sequence

of

Treating

Yourself Once

in

Public

Places

be uncomfortable you may tapping a sequence when you are in have treated the public. you successfully using suggested tapping yourself treatment sequences, you can use the Touch and Breathe (Diepold 1999) technique in chapter 2. Instead of tapping, you can simply discussed touch the meridian briefly to treat eliminate reversals and to When points your feelings of fear. you use this that actually causes the distress, so thereis no technique, you will be in the situation needto rate it. Inhale, \"I touch the Side of Hand (SH), exhale, and say to yourself, even I accept myself though still have (name your problem.)\" Then, inhale deeply and touch under your eye (UE) and exhale, then inhale and touch under your arm collarbone and exhale. iUA) and exhale, and then inhaleand touch underyour (UCB) there is no more distress. You can use this with Repeat this sequenceuntil approach must remember, however, any of the treatment sequencesin this book; your problem treatment initially be treated by using the tapping approach.

In someinstances,

Further

Reading
books you
Although

There are a numberof

are created.
successfully
Anxiety

don't

treat
Disorders

them, you
and

go into great detail about how fears and need to understand where your fears from to be in We more recommend information. may
that

phobias come
this

interested

Phobias

designed
Do It

relationships between anxiety

Anyway

for clinicians, it
by

does provide well-written

and

by Beck

and Emery (1985). Although

explanations

book

is

of the

functions
Fear

and
and

phobias.

A more

general book

is Feelthe

Jeffers

(1987).

Summary

time to treat them and move on with past life. Your have never meant that fears are any less of a person. Rather, fears your you that you have had an energy imbalancethat indicate at prevents you from being your best in certainsituations.Although some have more fears than others, what is people is that them. The more important you identity your fears and treat you grow and the more new fears there will be to hurdle. By learning the treatment develop, in this chapter, however, you now have a new tool that will help you to sequences clear those hurdles. successfully
behaviors

There are many about any of your

fears

in our

lives that can hold or beliefs, it's

us back.If

you

still

feel embarrassed

CHAPTER

Overcoming

Anger,

Rage,

Guilt,

Shame,

Embarrassment,

Jealousy,

Loneliness,

and

Rejection

and are

that makes peoplefeel alive and that they matter lives. So people often feel a need to renew their charge the anger long after the cause of it has died. It is a protection against ... and for a while makes them feel less vulnerable. helplessness
Anger

is

a passion

in

of their

\342\200\224Merle

Shain

In this chapter we explore the emotionsof anger, with along jealousy, loneliness,and rejection,

rage, guilt, shame, for each. treatments

embarrassment,
In addition,

we
want

introducea unique treatment

can

that

can

be used with

treatments

be

used

alone or in

combination with resolvingotherproblems you

almost any

problem.These

to

eliminate.

All of the treatmentsin this book are only as effective as your willingnessand commitmentto apply them consistently to achieve the results you desire. If read you about a particular treatment and then apply it haphazardly, you won't experience much in the way of results. The treatments If you entirely depend on your dedication. have a tendency to not be diligent, to suspect that you have a you ought psychological reversal that (see chapter 6). As always, it's advisable you test for and correct
psychological

reversal

before

attempting

any treatment

sequence.

86

Energy

Tapping

Releasing

Anger

stories about the These are a to find relief by conversations often upset way a in the situation. a nd chance to humor find some sharing feelings, they give people a For some people, is chronic at work or at home Situations however, anger problem. of evoke their see themselves as these feeling anger. Usually may instantly people victims of their life's events, and their angerisa response totheir feelings of of helplessness. This not mean that all anger is unjustified; there does is no shortage unfortunatesituations is rude or that cause legitimate such behavior as whose anger, people 1999).When people get together
that with

number It's possible that anger is America's a within to be anger significant problem
friends,
situations

one emotion.
the

recent

survey

found

work

setting

(Wall Street Journal

they

often share

them

that day.

cruel.

The best strategy

situations

for

interacting
and

with

that

caused

it. For time

irrationally, leaping into the

that

some people,
fight,

however, once
often

anger is

to accept and deal with

they

the

are

angered,

the

more

change, the more you reinforce your never works to your advantage).

you spend

being angry about situations

tendency

making

the situation
you

worse. It is clear
control
this

they

behave or

cannot
if

to use

anger (even

solution

Carol and Helen:

What follows
situation

Case

Study
energy Carol

that

was

and who often made cruel remarks about issue was that Mark had a poor sense of and self Helen too much, especially to deal with blamed for drank Carol problems. largely the of Helenwould often exclude these behaviors. their Also, during years marriage, Carol and the children from extended family Even the mention of Helen gatherings.
was

Helen, whom she felt

is a description of how a great deal of anger. creating

self-centered
Mark.

treatments was

helped a family with her mother-in-law, angry

Carol's

husband

The

real

immediatelymade Caroldefensive.
Carol's

resentment

toward Mark

possibly

an excuseto go out about his mother.

gave him
The

preventing

Helen was from dealing with

drinking,

and also interfering with her marriage, At it the his alcoholproblem. least, very have because would frequent arguments they

reasons Carol found in simply discussing the why a talk lines were met with to these attempts along it was amount of resistance, as would be expected. tremendous Therefore, suggested to Carol that energy treatments might at least help to takethe edge off the emotional for Helen. This way, if Carol absolutely had to be around Helen upset she felt toward some unforeseen Carol reason, she would be better ableto cope. agreed. After Carol through a rather extended energy treatment for this taking problem\342\200\224about minutes\342\200\224her Helen to about response changed rather twenty thoughts in The occurred she felt and resentment; change anger dramatically. layers: Initially after a few rounds of the anger-releasing treatment, she felt a reduced degree of Carol's irritation she felt a dissolved into feelings of sorrow; and irritation; next, finally, sense of relief. After the energy treatment was completed,Carolsaid,\"I guess Helen with this problem, too.\"From then just can't help herself. I wonderif she's struggled Carol it much more found comfortable to be around Helen. In time, their on, solution

was

not

to be

ought to overcome

her anger.Any

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Rage,

Guilt, and

Shame

87

relationship even improved and Carol and Mark events. Carol alsolearnedhow to apply energy
\342\200\242.vith Mark,

were

regularly

invited

treatment

to her

and

their

relationship

improved as well.

relationship issues

to family

Forgiveness
Many understandably person

people harbor

who anger

have about

trauma and other negative events experienced the incidents and those who causedthem.Oncea

has

been

violated,

causes

emotional
blaming
and

associated with

rle

every conscious and even upset. Anger is one of the principal as well as the inability to forgive
even

unconsciousreview of
emotions here, the circumstances,

the

event

and it is the other

peo-

involved,

oneself.

normal to objectto the ideaof forgiving someone who has wronged you. In feel that that what the would be to forgiveness may your equivalent saying this is not what forgiveness is about.When person did.was okay. However, you that what the other persondid was wrong\342\200\224otherforgive someone, you still recognize would make little sense. When vase, forgiveness forgive, you are not condoning you die other person's behavior. The behavior is obviously wrong. For example, you not condone the behavior of a burglar, a rapist, or someone would who severely It to mistreated be of understanding achieve another level however, might you. possible, the When we forgive, there is a cleardistinction the and to forgive between person. and the deed. person Still,someof you will strongly object to forgiveness. You may ask, for instance, now do you forgive someone for violating an atrocity? Or, how do you or committing .ou let go of the anger when anger seemsto be sowarranted? The of forgiving idea ander such circumstancesmay cause you to shudder. There is another way to think
It is

:act, you

about

person who did you _s stuck with the emotional as we all know, And, consequences of remaining angry. isn't a or beneficial situation. reeling angry pleasant Emotions such as anger deprive you of your and emotional, psychological, to rhvsical well-being. Thereis even evidence that chronic can lead cardiovasanger attacks ailar problems, such as heart and stroke (Johnson 1990). Therefore, for all it is best jitents and purposes, to alleviate your anger. One way to accomplish this is the a acts of and be of this. can through releasing letting go; forgiveness part
:o suffer?

someonebecause, \"While
Certainly

Comedian Buddy Hackett said

you're

forgiveness,

however.
that

he

couldn't

angry

at them,

not the

understand being angry at out Guesswho gets dancing.\" they're are the one who Rather, wrong. you

Treatment

for or even

Anger
sequence

The following
iirrdnishing this

treatment

has

been
of

found
This

principal meridian involved

anger,

eliminating the feeling

in

to be highly
treatment

effective

in

anger.

addresses

the

anger
of

and
balance.

meridian

is often

out

forgiveness.
When
addition,

When you
experience
this
balancing

are in a state of
meridian

unbalance in this meridian is removed.In way for forgiveness.

you

forgiveness, the makes

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Energy

Tapping

Treatment

Sequence

for Anger

Meridian
Little

Location
(LF)
(UCB)

finger

1
2

Inside
One

UnderCollarbone

inch

tip of little fingernail on the under collarbone near throat

side

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Rage, Guilt, and

Shame

89

1. Think
10,

about

should be a
with

the person (it might be yourself)or a situation single,specificpersonorevent. Rate your level

stress.

10 representing

the highest level

of

distress

angers you. It of anger from 0 to no and 0 indicating

that

2.

3.

by tapping repeatedly on the Side of SoreSpot (SS) or saying three times, while thinking \"I even I'm accept though deeply myself angry at/about (person'snameor It also to the SH or rub the SS while saying, \"I be event).\" helpful tap may with all and limitations.\" accept myself my problems Look at the chart below and at diagram 8 to identify the locations for the meridian points for Little Finger (LF) and Under Collarbone (UCB).While that you experience about the anger item (don't get into it so much thinking on LF while saying any major discomfortduring the process), tap repeatedly \"I release the following statementthreetimes, of this anger.\" myself (Alternative on your preference, include the following:\"I statements, depending the person, (name forgive place, or circumstance), I know he/she/it couldn't
Treat

for

the

possibility

of reversal

Hand

(SH) or rubbing the

help

it.\"

Or,

\"There

best that
tapping

consider the following

I can.\")

is forgiveness
alternative

in my
statement,

heart.\" If

you

are

angry
Tap

Next,
cause

points in the following

shouldn't

tap on the UCB point five order l->2. Only tap hard pain.
(a

\"I forgive

myself,

at yourself, I'm doing the

the

times.

meridian

enough should

to feel it.

The into your

the

any no

4. Again rate your

anger on a 0 to 10scale
is

number

mind).
sequence

If

there

decrease,

belief (i.e.,reversal)
treatment

not an appropriate sequence for

that

again. If there

is not a decreaseafter
this

go back to step 2 and

three

just pop
cycle

through

event,

or else

needs

correction.

attempts, probably there is another sabotaging (See step 8.) Also consider the

this is

for

rage,

which

follows.
Hand

5. Next,
(BH)

while

then

Balancer (BB) by tapping repeatedly at the Backof rotating your eyes clockwise, rotating your eyes counterclockwise, and hurnming a tune, counting to five, hurnming again.

do the Brain

6. Repeat
7.

l->2. the tapping sequence rate your level of distress from 0 to Again, the distress is within the 0 to 2 range, go to
repeat the treatment
even several

10. It should be 9. Sometimes step

you

lower yet. When

you'll
complete

need to
relief

times

while

while

from the

distressing situation.

you

are in the

actual

you are imagining your

feel

anger\342\200\224or

situation\342\200\224before

8.

9.

with the As as there is a decrease in the level of anger, continue long treatment stalls If the sequence until there is very little or no anger remaining. at any point, this indicatesa mini-reversal. Treatthis by tapping on the little (SH) while finger Side of Hand saying three times, \"I deeply accept myself, even though I still have some of this problem.\" the When the distress level is 0 to 2, consider doing Eye Roll (ER) to lower the treatment effects. To do this, tap on the the distress further or to complete Back of Hand (BH), hold your head and, moving only your eyes, straight, the lookat the floor and then slowly raise your eyes up toward ceiling.

90

Energy Tapping

If the

about this

anger should return at

issue

a later

time,

repeat these

will

become

less and

less frequent.

treatments. In time, anger

Putting
Rage meridianis

Out
even

the Rage Fire

emotional reactionthan
as compared to
the

is an

more intense
in rage event
involved

involved

tapping on the Sideof

experienced

a traumatic

people who

were

complextrauma
on

treatment

and

In this situation,peopleactas if they own the road and as if the other is that on it are disobeying their driving rules.The reality most drivers are people driving only vaguely aware of other drivers on the road. Drivers cut each other off or drive what is that the person who is in too slowly without even realizingit. Often happens a rage has a set of expectations about driving, and when thoseexpectations are not that person drive too blames the other driver. It's true that some met, people slowly or are confused about where down. they are going, and they do slow other drivers and if someone hesitates there are also drivers who become honk However, impatient for a fraction but the real of a second once the light turns green. It goesboth ways, issue is that road rage is about taking what other drivers do as a personal affront. It's it has and not personal and, unfortunately, out of hand become gotten dangerous. have shot at other drivers. One man was convictedof murder after he People actually with a tire iron. became enraged over a minor incident and hit another driver In addition to treating rage with the treatment that follows, imagery sequence and visualization are The next time you start to feel a sense of rage, for also helpful. is someone you care emotional example, imagine that the person causing your upset such or a friend. as mother This to break about, up your rage trigger. your may help For many people, road rage and otherforms of rage are a habit. Once you are in certain it triggers the rage response. If you and with situations, consistently it. As dedicationuse the rage treatment, can break and eliminate this up problem you mentioned the operative word here is dedication. The treatment for rage, like many earlier, other treatments,can be used both to prevent situations that typically would trigger rage and to curtail a state of rage.
road rage.

treat the rage with the following can occur in many situations, Rage

by diagram 9). Some peoplewho have and toward the experience chronic rage about the event itself in it. If an event is involved, it is important to use the most for healing focus (see chapter 10) and then to specifically
meridian

anger, and this

anger.

Often,

can

a different be balanced

Eye

(SE) (see

rage treatment sequence. but the most commonly

discussed

one

is

Treatment

for Rage
the

1. 2.

Think

about

person

specific
representing Treat

person
the for

or event.
highest

or situation that enrages you. It shouldbe a single, Rate your level of rage between 0 to 10, with 10 level of distress and 0 indicating no stress. of reversal
the

the

Hand (SH) or

possibility
accept It also

times,
name, saying,

rubbing on

by tapping
Spot

repeatedly

on

the

Side

of

Sore

(SS) while

\"I

deeply

event).\" \"I

accept

myself

I'm enraged at/about (person's be to the SH or rub the SS while helpful tap may with all my problems and limitations.\"
myself

thinking

or saying

three

even though

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Rage, Guilt, and

Shame

91

2 (UCB)

SSor SoreSpot
for

Massive

and

Recurring Reversals

Diagram

Nine:

Rage

Treatment Sequence for Rage

Meridian Side Eye

of

Location

(SE)

Side

Under

Collarbone

(UCB)

One

bony orbit near temple inch under collarbonenear throat

of eye

on the

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Energy

Tapping

3. Look

at the chart and at diagram 9 to identify the locations for the meridian for Side of and Under Collarbone While (SE) (UCB). points Eye thinking it so much about the rage item (don't get into that you experience any major discomfortduring the process), on SE while saying the tap repeatedly \"I release statement three of this rage.\" Then tap on the times, following myself UCB chart five times meridian the (see below). Tap point points in the l->2. hard it. order: to The feel following Tap only enough tapping shouldn't cause
any

pain.

4.

should (a number Again, rate your rage on a 0 to 10scale just pop into your mind). If there is no decrease, go back to step 2 and cycle through the this is probably sequenceagain.If there is not a decrease after three attempts, not an appropriate sequencefor this event, or else there is another sabotaging belief (i.e.,reversal) that needs correction. (See step 8.)

5. Next, do the Brain Balancer (BH)while rotating your eyes

then
Repeat humrning

tune,

tapping repeatedly at the Backof Hand clockwise, rotating your eyes counterclockwise, to five, and humming again. counting
(BB) by

6.

the

tapping

sequence
distress

l->2.
from

7. Again, rate
the

your level of
is
within

0 to

10. It should
step

be loweryet.
you'll
about you

When

distress
even

the

0 to
several

repeat the
rage\342\200\224or

2 range,
times

go

to

9. Sometimes

need to
your

treatment

while

while

relief from

8.

As until

long there

as

Treat point, this indicatesa mini-reversal.

the distressing situation. there is a decrease in the level of rage, is very little or no rage remaining. If
this

you

are in the

actual

you

are

thinking

situation\342\200\224before

feel

complete

continue
the

with

treatment

the sequence stalls at any

Side of
9. When
further

by
\"I

tapping
deeply

on the little
accept

finger
even

Hand

(SH)

while

though I still have

or

some of

saying three times,

this

myself,

problem.\"
Eye

the distress level

to (BH),

is 0 to 2, do the
eyes

Roll
do

(ER) to
this,

Hand

floor and then slowly

If

complete hold your

the treatment

effects. To
up toward

head straight,
raise

and, moving only

lower the distress tap on the Back of look at the your eyes,
In

your

the ceiling.
time,

rage

should

this issue will

return at a later time, repeat thesetreatments. become less and less frequent.

rage

about

Overcoming

Guilt

we feel systemis operating properly, guilt only for violating a closely held value or moral. When we have done something wrong the congruentfeelingis of guilt, that which tells us to pay attention and our behavior for the better. change is not as as is not this. for however, Often, Sometimes, instance, guilt simple guilt

When our guilt

triggered when
or necessary
certain

it

should

be,

for

reasons

that do
such

medications,

as

guilt

or even,

more deeply, shame,when

and sometimes it is triggered when it is no longer not warrant guilt feelings.Thereis alsoevidence that some blood pressure medications,can cause a feeling
we're

of

really

very

innocent.

Therefore, if the

Overcoming

Anger,

Rage,

Guilt, and

Shame

93

treatments we suggest heredonot

prescription

alleviate

your is

medications,
will

you
not

Although

the treatment
treatment

may want to
follows

consult your
frequently
advantage

feelings

of guilt, and
health

you are taking

professional.

care

that

effective
of others.

feelings, the
Some

make

to as antisocial personalities, sociopaths, or in much of a end because do not have psychopaths. people up prison they Many violate laws the of others without of remorse. and sense conscience; they rights any Our intention is not to produce such tendencies in our readers. Values and morals are and societies need to reinforce appropriate values in their citizens. important, direly To suffer chronic is an entirely different matter and serves no useful however, guilt, a in the Once lessonis learned, purpose. ongoing guilt feelings only get way of

this condition

people never feel guilt

and, hence,take

you immune

to feelings of

in alleviating guilt
guilt

altogether.

are clinically

Many people with

referred

of these

healthy

psychological

functioning.

Treatment

for

Guilt
feel

1. Think about the person or situation about which you a single,specificpersonor event. Rate level of your with 10 representing the highest levelof distress and
2. Treat
Hand
\"I for

guilty.

It should
0 to

be
10,

guilt on

a scale of

0 indicating

no stress.
Side

the

possibility

of reversal

(SH) or rubbing the

myself accept It also may be
myself

SoreSpot (SS) while

even

by tapping

repeatedly on the
or saying
the

of

thinking

three times, saying,

\"I

deeply

event).\"

accept 3.

with

helpful to tap the all my problems and

though I feel guilty about

SH or rub

(person's name,

SS while

limitations.\"

chart and at diagram 10 to identify the locations for the meridian While for Index and UnderCollarbone (IF) (UCB). thinking Finger points that you experience any major about the guilt item (don't get into it so much on IF while saying the discomfortduring the process), tap repeatedly \"I release statement three times: of this guilt.\" (Alternative following myself
Look

at the

statements,

depending

on

myself,

because
\"I

I didn't
forgive times.

heart.\" Or,
Only

UCB point five

tap

hard

enough

include the following: \"I forgive preference, in my do anything wrong.\" Or, \"There is forgiveness I I'm the best that on the Next, can.\") doing tap myself. in the order l->2. the meridian Tap points following to feel it. The tapping shouldn'tcause pain. any
your

4.

on a 0 to 10 scale(a number should just pop into your the decrease, go back to step 2 and cycle through three this is probably sequence again. If there is not a decreaseafter attempts, for not an appropriate sequence this or else there is another sabotaging event, belief (i.e.,reversal) that needs correction. (See step 8.)
Again,

rate your guilt

If

mind).

there

is

no

5. Next, do the
counterclockwise,

Brain

Balancer

(BH) point while rotating your

then

(BB) by
eyes

tapping repeatedly
clockwise,

at

the

Back

of Hand again.

rotating
five,

humming

a tune,

counting to

your
humming

eyes

and

6. Repeat
7.

the tapping sequence'1-\302\2732. rate your level of distress from 0 to 10. It should be lower yet. Again, within the 2 the distress is 0 to range, go to step 9.Sometimes you'll

When

need

to

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Energy

Tapping

2 (UCB)

SS or
for

Sore Spot
and

Massive

Recurring

Reversals

1 (IF)

Diagram

Ten:

Guilt

Treatment

Sequence for Guilt

Meridian Index
Finger

Location
(IF)

1
(UCB)

Inside

tip

of

index

fingernail

on the
throat

side

Under

Collarbone

near One inch under collarbone

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Guilt,

and

Shame

95

repeat
or

even

from the

the treatment severaltimeswhile you are while you are in the actual situation\342\200\224before

thinking
you

about
feel

your

guilt\342\200\224

distressing situation.
is very

complete

relief

8.

As until

long there

as there

Treat point, this indicatesa mini-reversal.

is a decrease in the little or no guilt

while

level of

guilt,
If

continue
the

with

remaining.
this
\"I

treatment

the sequence stalls at any

Side of
9. When
further

by

tapping
deeply

on the little
accept

finger
even

Hand

(SH)

though I still have

or

some of

saying three times,

this

myself,

problem.\"
2,

the distress level

to (BH),

is 0 to

do

the Eye

Roll (ER) to
do

lower the distress

on the
eyes,

Hand

floor and then

If

complete hold your

slowly

the treatment

effects. To

this,
your

tap

Back of
at the

head straight,
raise

and, moving only

look

your

eyes

up toward the

ceiling.
In

guilt

should

return

at a

this issue

will become less and

later time, repeat thesetreatments.

less

time,

guilt

about

frequent.

From

Jealousy
seems

to
be a

Security

combination of fear, hurt, insecurity,and anger,and Jealousy sometimes can elevate are jealous, to the level of rage. When you you feel that someone is on what is with a is Sustained intruding rightfully yours. jealousy often associated trauma. In such instances, the trauma should and most be targeted treated with the trauma in chapter treatment 10. After the complextreatment, residual complex can be treated with the following therapeutic treatment sequence. jealousy
to

Treatment

for

Jealousy
about Rate

1. Think about the personor situation

which

a single, or event. person specific

10, with

stress.

10 representing the

highest level of

your

level

feel jealous. It should be of jealousy on a scaleof 0 to and 0 indicating no distress

you

2.

for of reversal by tapping repeatedly Treat on the Side of the possibility Hand (SH) or rubbing the SoreSpot (SS) while thinking or saying three times, \"I or the deeply accept person myself even though I feel jealous about (name It or SSwhile \"I also to SH rub the be the event).\" helpful tap saying, may and limitations.'' with all accept myself my problems

3.

the chart and at diagram 11to identify for Arm Middle Finger(MF), Under points
Look

at

the

locations

(UA),

and
it

for the meridian Under Collarbone

so

on the experience any major discomfortduring the process), tap repeatedly MF while saving the following of this statement three times: \"I release myself in on and Then the UA UCB five times. them the tap Tap following jealousy.\" order: l->2->3.Tap only hard enough to feel it. The tapping shouldn'tcause
any

While (UCB).

thinking

about

your

jealousy

(don't get into

much

that you

pain.

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Energy Tapping

Diagram

Eleven:

Jealousy

TreatmentSequence
Meridian

for

Jealousy

Location

Middle

Finger (MF)

1
2
3

Inside tip
Six inches
One

of

middle

fingernail

on the

side

Under Arm (UA) Under Collarbone (UCB)

inch

under armpit under collarbone near

throat

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Rage, Guilt, and

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97

4.

0 to 10 scale (a number should just pop into decrease, mind). your go back to step 2 and cycle through the If there a after three attempts, this is not decrease is probably sequenceagain. not an appropriate sequencefor this event, or else there is another sabotaging belief(i.e., that needs correction. (See step 8.) reversal) 5. Next, do the Brain Balancer (BB) by tapping repeatedly at the Backof Hand (BH) while rotating your eyes clockwise, rotatingyour eyes counterclockwise, then humming a tune, counting to five, and humming again.
Again,

rate

your jealousy If there is no

on a

6. Repeat the
7.

l->2->3. tapping sequence

your

When level of distress from 0 to 10. It should be lower yet. to Sometimes need to is within the 0 to 2 range, 9. go step you'll are about the treatment several times while thinking repeat you your feel complete even while you jealousy\342\200\224or you are in the actual situation\342\200\224before relief from the distressing situation. Again,

rate

the

distress

8.

As

long

as
until

there
there

is a

sequence
stalls

at any point, this indicatesa mini-reversal. Treat this by \"I little finger Side of Hand three while times, (SH) saying I of this even still some have though problem.\" myself,
9. When
further

is very

decrease in the level of jealousy, continue If the little or no jealousy remaining.

deeply

with
treatment

the

tapping

on the
accept

the distress level

or

is 0 to 2, do the
straight,

to

Hand (BH), hold your

floor

complete

the treatment
head

and

jealousy

If jealousy about this

the ceiling. eyes up toward should return at a later time, repeat these treatments. issue will become less and less frequent.

then

slowly

raise your

Roll (ER) to lower the distress Eye effects. To do this, tap on the Back of and, moving only your eyes, lookat the

In

time,

Why

Be

Embarrassed?
is the
you

Mark Twain \"Man said, feel embarrassed when

would

only animal
\"caught

that

blushes.

Or

needs

to.\" You tend to

you

are

in the act\"

know you were doing.That is, when you are embarrassed, about others have seen you make a mistake, or they've gotten a glimpseof something Twain's wit and wisdom are that rather While Mark would keep private. you you of embarrassment are based on we believe that most instances profound, \"greatly if embarrassment about your normal human frailties.But even thoughts exaggerated\" has occurred? It's over and is warranted, why blush about something that already and done with. You might as well learn a needed lesson from your embarrassment treatment eliminates then tap the unwanted emotion away. The following sequence
rather

of doing

something that

others didn't

embarrassment.

Treatment

for
about

Embarrassment

1.

feel embarrassed. It the person or situation about which you event. Rate level of a or embarrassment should be single,specificperson your
Think

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Energy

Tapping

2 (UCB)

SS or
for

Sore Spot
and

Massive

Recurring

Reversals

Diagram

Twelve:

Embarrassment

TreatmentSequence
Meridian

for

Embarrassment

Location

Under
Under

Nose (UN)
Collarbone

1
(UCB)

Above

upper

lip

and

below

the center

of

nose

near throat One inch under collarbone

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Rage, Guilt, and

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99

on a scaleof
indicating

0 to

10, with

no stress.
the

10 representing the
of reversal

highest level of

distress

and

2. Treat for
Hand

3.

by tapping repeatedly on the Side of SoreSpot (SS) while or saying three times, thinking \"I I feel embarrassed.\" also be It accept deeply myself even though may \"I helpful to with all my tap the SH or rub the SS while saying, accept myself problems and limitations.\" Look at the chart and at diagram 12to identify the locations for the meridian for Under Nose and Under Collarbone (UN) (UCB).While points thinking
possibility

(SH) or rubbing the

about
major meridian

your
points.

embarrassment
during Tap

(don't get
the process),

into

discomfort

them

in the

feel it. The

4.

tapping shouldn'tcause

following order l->2. Tap

any

much that you experience any five times on eachof these tap
it so only

hard

enough

to

pain.

embarrassment on a 0 to 10scale should (a number just pop there is no decrease, 2 back to and go step cyclethrough If there the sequenceagain. is not a decrease after three this is attempts, not an for this or else there is another event, probably appropriate sequence that needs correction. (See step 8.) sabotaging belief (i.e.,reversal)
Again,

rate your

into your

mind). If

5. Next, do the
counterclockwise,

Brain

Balancer

(BH) point while rotating

then

(BB) by
your

tapping repeatedly
clockwise,

at

the

Back

of Hand again.

eyes

humming

a tune,

counting to

rotating
five,

your eyes
humming

and

6. Repeat
7.

l->2. the tapping sequence 0 to 10. It should be lower yet. When rate your level of distress from Again, the distress is within the 0 to 2 range, go to step 9.Sometimes need to you'll the treatment severaltimeswhile are about repeat you thinking your feel embarrassment\342\200\224or even while you are in the actual situation\342\200\224before you relief from the distressfulsituation. complete
with decrease in the level of embarrassment, continue is very little or no embarrassmentremaining. If the this treatment stalls at any point, this indicatesa mini-reversal. Treat by Side of Hand while \"I on the little three times, (SH) finger deeply tapping saying even though I still have some of this problem.\" myself, accept
As

8.

long

as

there

is a

the sequence

until

there

9. When
further

the distress level

or

is 0 to 2, do the

to

Hand (BH), hold your head straight, floor and then slowly raise your
If embarrassment embarrassment about

complete

the treatment

Roll (ER) to lower the distress Eye effects. To do this, tap on the Back of and, moving only your eyes, look at the
toward

eyes up

the

ceiling.
In

should return this issue will

become less and

at a later time, repeat thesetreatments.

less

time

frequent.

Overcoming

Shame
from

Shame is different
something

embarrassment

wrong;

when you

experience shame,you

or guilt. With guilt,

feel

you feel that

that

you've

done

there

is something

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Energy

Tapping

about you, that is, something is wrong at the core of your being. wrong essentially This emotionalstate is also moreprofound than embarrassment. Many deep-seated involve the of shame. psychological problems sharp edge When you experienceprofound it is difficult\342\200\224if not impossible\342\200\224to look shame, in the eyes. The inclination is to hide, to avoid others socializing. Experiencing are of shame can also be a side effect of certain such as some that medications, feelings to regulate blood pressure. If you suspect that this may be the case,please check used with health care provider. Most shame, however, is rootedin experiences from your be childhood. learned to ashamed of it is Somehow, you yourself. Perhaps your to reach back into those formative experiences and eliminate the traumas. necessary can use the treatment to Additionally, you following therapeutic sequences dissipate feelings of shame.

Treatment

for Shame
your
10

1. 2.

Think

about

feelings

of shame.

to 10, with

stress.
Treat

representing

the highest

Rate your level of shame on a scale of 0 level of distress and 0 indicating no

for

the

Hand
deeply

(SH) or
accept

the SH or rub
limitations.\"

of reversal by tapping repeatedly on the Side of possibility or saying three times, \"I rubbing the Sore Spotwhile thinking It alsomay be helpful to tap myself even though I feel shame.\" with all my problems and the SS while saying, \"I accept myself

3.

Look

at the
for

chart and at
Under

points
thinking

Bottom

about

major discomfortduringthe
meridian

your

Lip (UBL) and Under shame (don't get into it so much

process),

diagram 13to identify

tap

the

locations

for the

meridian

Collarbone (UCB). While

that

five times

on each
only

you experience
of

any
to

these

points.

Tap

them

in the

feel it. The

4.

Again, sequence

rate

pain. tapping shouldn'tcause your shame on a 0 to 10 scale

any

following order l->2. Tap

(a

hard

enough

number

should

your mind). If

there

is no

decrease,
this

not an appropriate sequence for

again. If there

is not a decreaseafter
event, needs

go back to

step 2 and cycle

attempts,

just

pop into
the

through

three

this is

or else

there is another

probably

belief (i.e.,reversal) 5. Next, do the

while

sabotaging
Hand

that

correction.

(See step

8.)

Brain

Balancer

(BB) by

tapping repeatedly at the

eyes

Backof

6.
7.

(BH) rotating your rotating your eyes clockwise, then humming a tune, counting to five, and hunvrning l->2. Repeat the tapping sequence
Again,

counterclockwise,

again.

rate

your

level of
the

distress
0 to

from

the

distress

is
even

within

repeat
complete

the
relief

treatment
while from

shame\342\200\224or

several times while you are in the actual

distressful

2 range,

10. It should be lower yet. to go step 9. Sometimes you'll

0 to
you

When need

to

are

thinking
you

about
feel

your

situation\342\200\224before

the

situation.
in

8. As long as there is a
sequence

decrease

the

level

of shame,
If

continue
treatment

with

the

until

there is little

or no shameremaining.

the

stalls at

Overcoming Anger,

Rage,

Guilt,

and Shame

101

2 (UCB)

SS or SoreSpot
for

Massive

or

Recurring Reversals

Diagram

Thirteen:

Shame

TreatmentSequence
for

Shame

Meridian

Location

(UBL) Under Collarbone (UCB)

Under

Bottom Lip

1
2

Under One
inch

bottom

lip

in

chin

cleft
near

under

collarbone

throat

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Energy

Tapping

any

point,

this indicates
of Hand

finger Side

(SH) while

though I still have

9. When
further

some of

a mini-reversal. this Treat \"I three times, saying

this

by tapping
deeply

on the little accept myself, even

problem.\" Roll (ER) to lower the distress Eye effects. To do this, tap on the Back of and, moving only your eyes, lookat the
toward

the distress level

or

is 0 to 2, do the
straight,

to

Hand (BH), hold your

floor

complete

the treatment
head

and

then

slowly

raise your
less

eyes up
frequent.

the

ceiling.
time,

If shame

about

should return at a later this issue will become less and

In time, repeat thesetreatments.

shame

Loneliness

There is
national
loneliness

little

doubt

that
that

human
36

contact
percent

survey found
(Olds,
to

of all
contact,

Schwartz,
share

and Webster in your

it

loneliness,

in which

lack friends
understand
blaming you differently

you lack intimate

activities
is

1996). Lonelinesshas two

and it in

is an essential part of happiness. A recent of Americans reported recent feelings

forms:

emotional

social

loneliness,
your

in which

how your beliefsor actions

else. Rather, your life.

life. To clearlyaffect
create

you
must

loneliness,

or anyone
to

about

your life. This is not what you have understanding

about to do

you

people

live often forces people away from society in which we currently their families and, in part, forcesthem to recreatea sense of to ward off community a For those who of chronic loneliness, however, feeling lonely. experience pattern there probably are multiple issuespresent, such as feelings of depression, shame, and treated Each of these must be before of loneliness can be rejection. your pattern broken. You should also look at how you escape from loneliness. For example, do you use drugs, watch an excessive amount of television, or even read too much? If become aware of your escape mechanisms, which are part of the way you you then can treat them are as well.These mechanisms sabotage yourself, escape you another form of psychological reversals. Lonelinessis not always a response to being in the company alone. Some people feel habitually of others, whereas other lonely

change

The mobile

feel

quite

comfortable

being

alone.

Treatment

Sequence
about

for Loneliness
of loneliness.
10

1.

Think

your stress.

feelings

scale of
indicating

0 to 10, with
possibility\"

representing

the highest

Rate your level of loneliness on level of distress and 0

no

2. Treat
Hand

of reversal by tapping repeatedly on the Side of the Sore w hile three times, or saying (SH) Spot (SS) thinking \"I even It I'm also be to tap accept though deeply myself lonely.\" may helpful \"I the SH or rub the SSwhile saying, with all accept myself my problems and

for the

or rubbing

limitations.\"

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Anger,

Rage, Guilt,

and

Shame

103

2 (UCB)

SS or
for

Sore Spot
or

Massive

Recurring

Reversals

Diagram

Fourteen:

Loneliness

Treatment Sequencefor
Meridian

Loneliness

Location

Back of Hand (BH) Under Collarbone (UCB)

1
2

Back

of

hand

between

little and ring

throat

fingers

One

inch

under

collarbone near

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Energy

Tapping

3. Look at

the chart and at diagram14to identify the locations for the meridian Hand and Back of Under Collarbone While (BH) (UCB). points thinking about loneliness into it so much that (don't your get you experience any on the BH twenty to fifty times and major discomfortduring the process), tap then tap on the UCB five times. them the in Tap following order l->2. Tap hard to feel it. The shouldn't causeany pain. only enough tapping
for

4.

loneliness on a 0 to 10scale should (a number just pop into is no decrease, back to 2 and the go step cycle through If there is a after three this not decrease sequence again. attempts, probably is not an appropriate sequence for this or else there is another sabotaging event, belief (i.e.,reversal) that needs correction. (See step 8.)
Again,

rate your

your mind). If

there

5. Next, do the
(BH)

then

Brain Balancer (BB) by tapping repeatedly at the Backof rotating your eyes clockwise, rotating your eyes counterclockwise, a tune, counting to five, and humming humming again.

Hand

while

6. Repeat
7.

the tapping sequence l->2.

rate

Again,

your

level of
the

distress
0 to

from

the

distress

is

within

repeat

the treatment
while

loneliness\342\200\224or even

relief from

the distressful situation.

there
there

several times while you are thinking you are in the actual situation\342\200\224before

2 range,

10. It should be lower yet. to go step 9. Sometimes you'll

0 to

When need

to

about
you

your
feel

complete

8.

As

long

as
until

is a

a mini-reversal. Treat this by tapping on the point, this indicates while \"I of Hand three times, (SH) accept finger saying deeply even though I still have some of this problem.\" myself,
stalls
little

sequence

is very

decrease in the level of loneliness, continue If the little or no lonelinessremaining.

with
treatment

the

at any

Side

9. When
further

the distress level

or

is 0 to 2, do the
straight,

to

Hand (BH),hold your

floor

complete

the treatment
head

effects. To do
moving
toward

Eye

Roll

(ER) to
this,

lower the
tap

distress
Back of

on

the

and,

only your
the

and

then

slowly raise your

eyes, lookat the

eyes up

ceiling.

loneliness should return at a later time, repeatthesetreatments. time, symptoms will become less and less frequent. loneliness and their Once you have treated the reversals surrounding your in and it is time to make some behaviors, feelings changes your life. accompanying with That it's time to the behaviors use to loneliness is, healthy, replace you escape more productive ones.If you like to read, for example, attend author events at your will begin to recognize local bookstore and spend a few hours there. In time, you in reading, it will be a interest Because have common other customers. you already is to take a class that teaches a topic in easier to start a conversation.Another option on almost every which you are interested. Therearenumerous classes available is to get out there and meetpeople who have similar interests as you. The subject. goal will social reduce of loneliness Once you do, you life\342\200\224and expand feelings your your considerably.
If the

feelings of

In

recurrence

of loneliness

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Anger,

Rage,

Guilt, and

Shame

105

Rejection Thereis little

is one of the hardest feelings to accept, even rejection though can feel a You when are to sell rejected product for everyone. you trying or an idea to your boss. Feelings of can also surface when you rejection a date or when you are not askedout ask someone out for dates. of for Regardless when the feeling arises, no onelikesbeing feels it like rejected; you just got slapped it hurts. and The treatment of sequence that follows will help you soothe feelings in If is a hand other issues are at and rejection. rejection pattern your life, however, vou need to figure out what you are doing to help create it.
doubt

that

it happens to \\ our business

Treatment

for

Rejection
situation

1. Think about the

10, with

for
event.

which
Rate

single,specific personor
stress.

you
your

10 representing the
the

highest level of

are feeling rejected. It level of rejection on a

distress

should be a scale of 0 to
no

and

0 indicating

2.

of reversal by tapping repeatedly on the Side of possibility\" three times, while or saying rubbing the SoreSpot (SS) thinking \"I It alsomay be helpful to accept deeply myself even though I feel rejected.\" with all my problems tap the SH or rub the SS while saying, \"I accept myself
Treat

for

Hand

(SH) or

and
3.

limitations.\"

Look

at the

chart and
While

at

points
Collarbone

for Eyebrow
(UCB).

(EB), Under Eye

thinking

diagram

15 to

identify
Under

(UE),

the locations for the meridian Arm (UA) and Under

about
discomfort

experience any major during tap five times in at each of these meridian them the points. following order: Tap hard to cause l->2->3->4. feel it. The shouldn't Tap enough only tapping any
that you
the process),
pain.

the rejection

(don't get into

it

so much

4.

should rejection on a 0 to 10 scale(a number just pop into is no decrease, the through go back to step 2 and cycle three this probably is sequence again. If there is not a decreaseafter attempts, for this not an appropriate sequence or else there is another sabotaging event, that needs belief (i.e.,reversal) correction. (See step 8.)

Again,

rate your

your mind). If

there

5. Next, do the

Brain

Balancer

(BH) while rotating your eyes clockwise, rotating then humming a tune, counting to five, and 6. Repeat the tapping sequence l->2->3->4.
7.

(BB) by

tapping repeatedly
your

at

the

Back

of Hand

eyes

counterclockwise,

humming

again.

Again,

rate

your

level of
the

distress
0 to

from

the

distress

is

within

repeat

the treatment
while

even rejection\342\200\224or

relief from

the distressfulsituation.
there
there

several times while you are thinking you are in the actual situation\342\200\224before

2 range,

10. It should be lower yet. to go step 9. Sometimes you'll

0 to

When need

to

about
you

your
feel

complete with

8.

As

long

as
until

is a
are

sequence

decrease in the level of rejection, very little or no feelingsof rejection

continue remaining.

the
If the

106

Energy

Tapping

4 (UCB)

SS or
for

Sore Spot
or

Massive

Recurring

Reversals

Diagram

Fifteen

: Rejection

Treatment
Meridian

Sequence

for Rejection

Location
(EB)

Eyebrow

1
2 3
(UCB)

Under

Eye (UE)
Arm

Under
Under

(UA)

Collarbone

near Beginning eyebrow bridge Under the center eye on the tip Six inches armpit One inch under collarbone near
of of under

of nose

of bone

throat

Overcoming

Anger,

Rage, Guilt,

and

Shame

107

9.

a mini-reversal. Treat this by any point, this indicates Side of Hand while three \"I deeply times, (SH) finger saying tapping I have even still some of this accept myself, though problem.\" When the distress level is between0 to 2, do the Eye Roll (ER) to lower the distress further or to complete the treatment effects. To do this, tap on the Back of Hand (BH), hold your head and, moving only your eyes, straight, look at the floor and then slowly raise your eyes up toward the ceiling.

treatment
on

stalls at
little

the

If your feelings of rejection should return at a later these treatments. and of rejection symptoms will less time, recurrence frequent. Once you have treated your feelingsof rejection and any other related problems, are vou to develop your new strategies.This may mean more ready acquiring tactics. The question you are always I doing or new to answer is \"Am knowledge trying In

time,repeat becomeless

to sabotage myself and createthis reversalsconcerning be should you rejection,

anything

problem?\"

Once

you
alternatives

able

to see

new

treat any
to

related
old

your

approach.

Erasing
The

Those
sequences
that,

Negative
in this cases,
you

Feelings
there

treatment

sequence
referred

in

to as

the Midline Energy

with

many

quickly
are

but chapter are effective, erases negative Treatment

is another

treatment
is

feelings. This

treatment

(MET).

The basic

approach is similar to

prior sequences
Midline

which

already

familiar.

Energy
about

Treatment (MET)
problem

1.

Think

the

problem (e.g.,
distress

you want
emotion,

behavior,

on

a scale

of 0

and 0 indicating no stress.

to 10, with

to treat. It should be a single,specific belief, etc.). Rate your level of limiting the highest level of distress 10 representing

2.

Treat

for

Hand
\"I

(SH)

also
with

deeply
may

problems and limitations.\" at the chart and at diagram 3. Look 16 to identify the locations for the meridian for Forehead Under Nose and (F), (UN), Under Bottom (UBL), points Lip Chest (CH). While thinking the problem about (don't get into it so much that at ten times you experience any major discomfort during the process), tap in the following each of these meridian points.Tap them order l->2->3->4. shouldn't cause any pain. Tap only hard enoughto feelit. The tapping 4. Again, rate your problem on a 0 to 10scale number should (a just pop into there 2 If is no back to and decrease, go your mind). step cyclethrough the is a three this is probably If there not decrease after sequence again. attempts, not an appropriate sequence or there is another for this else problem, that belief needs correction. (i.e., reversal) (Seestep 8.) sabotaging
all my

of reversal by tapping repeatedly on the of possibility or rubbing the Sore Spot while or saying three times, thinking even though I have this problem.\"(Be accept myself be helpful to tap the SH or rub the SS while saying, \"I accept myself
the

Side

(SS)

It specific.)

108

Energy

Tapping

2 (UN)

4(CH)

SS or SoreSpot
for

Massive

or

Recurring Reversals

Diagram

Sixteen:

Midline

Energy Treatment

Midline
Meridian

Energy Treatment (MET)

Location

Sequence

Forehead

(F)

One inch
Under

above and between eyebrows

and above
between of

Under

Nose
Bottom

(UN)
Lip

nose

upper lip
and chest

Under
Chest

(UBL)

3
4

Depression

lip your

chin

(CH)

Upper section

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Anger, Rage, Guilt,

and

Shame

109

5. Next,

at the Back of Hand do the Brain Balancer(BB) by tapping repeatedly while (BH) rotating your eyes clockwise, rotating point your eyes a tune, counting to five, then and counterclockwise, humming humming again.

6. Repeat
7.

the tapping sequence l->2->3->4.

rate

Again,

your

level of
the several

distress
0 to times

from

0 to

10. It
step

should be
9. Sometimes
thinking

lower yet.
about

When

the

distress

is

within

repeat the treatment

problem\342\200\224or even

2 range,

go

to

you'll need to
your feel complete

while

you are

while

relief from

the distressfulsituation.
there
there

you are in the

actual situation\342\200\224before

you

8.

As

long

as
until

is a
are

sequence
treatment
tapping

accept

a mini-reversal. Treat this by point, this indicates while three on the little finger Side of Hand (SH) times, \"I deeply saying I still have this even some of though problem.\" myself,

stalls at any

decrease in the level of distress, very little or no feelingsof distress

continue remaining.

with

the
If the

9. When
further

the distress level

or

is 0 to 2, do the

to

Hand (BH), hold your head straight, and then slowly raise your floor
If the
MET

complete

the treatment

Roll (ER) to lower the distress Eye effects. To do this, tap on the Back of and, moving only your eyes, lookat the

distress
In

sequence.

the ceiling. eyes up toward at a later associated with the issue shouldreturn of the become recurrence will lessand time, problem

time, repeat
less

the

likely.

Summary

The treatments in this chapter can be usedaloneor with other treatments described involve of in this book. Traumatic events, for example, often feelings anger, guilt, or with the treatments outlined in chapter 10,if you shame.After treating the trauma in this should continue to experience some negative emotion,the treatments chapter will help you to apply the finishing touches. after treating any problem, such as Also, a panic attack, had the problem feel guilty or angry with yourself for having you may in the first place. This can occurwhen the problem other of your life. If affects areas treat these negative feelings with the treatments described this is the case,you should in if don't treat these secondary negative emotions,over this Remember, chapter. you true when time, they can cause the original problem to return. This is especially with or forgiveness. After successfully treating a problem, you may find it dealing anger had the problem in the first place. To for having helpful to routinely forgive yourself for anger and guilt. do this, follow the treatment sequences

CHAFTiR

Feeling

Good

Again

Although

millions

of Americans
significant

seem to
difference

a \"low mood.\"For the most part, the differenceis determined the of degree by severity and longevity. A low, blue mood for a day, for example, its Life invariably has its of as clinical depression. regardless depth, does not qualify and can An as clinical downs. low mood, however, unrelenting mildly qualify ups at least a for two weeks and includes For if low mood depression. example, persists
might

depressed, there is a
be

be unhappy and may

between

believe

that

they

are

clinical

depression

and what

referred

to as

be present depression may symptomssuchas thoselistedbelow,clinical are the is advisable. the professional treatment longer you depressed, Generally is required to resolve the depression.
Symptoms \342\200\242 \342\200\242

and
more

effort

of

clinical concentrating

depression

include:

Difficulty Fatigue

\342\200\242 Low \342\200\242

energy,

or anergia
making

Difficulty

decisions asleep

\342\200\242 Trouble \342\200\242 \342\200\242

falling

Frequent Early

awakening morning sleep appetite appetite of

awakening

\342\200\242 Excessive \342\200\242 Low \342\200\242 Excessive \342\200\242 Loss \342\200\242 \342\200\242 \342\200\242

pleasure
of of

in previously

enjoyable

activities

Feelings Feelings Ongoing

hopelessness worthlessness feelings of death

guilt

\342\200\242 Excessive \342\200\242 Suicidal

thoughts thoughts

112

Energy Tapping

The
There

Drugging
are

of America

a number of options for treating depression.Somephysicians tend to rely on medication, Tofranil, Prozac, Zoloft, antidepressant including Sinequan, heavily in fact, have become so medications, Paxil, Serzone, Remeron, and more.Psychiatric in are that and such demand popular high many physicians may feel compelledto them even when not be to prescribe they may entirely necessary.In addition conventional medications, alternative such as or St. antidepressants, Hypericum perforatum have been to be effective in clinical John's Wort, reported treating depression (Lockie

however, depression.In most instances, without

and Geddes 1995; Linde and Ramirez 1996). Used properly, medication can be a useful
antidepressant

adjunct

depression

can

medication,

or with

do not cure depressionbecause address one of commonly, antidepressants they only its causes\342\200\224a chemical imbalance. As a result, depression frequently returns after is discontinued, medication even when it is discontinued In the majority of gradually. cases where medication is deemed necessary, the best approach is to receive in conjunction treatment with the medication. psychological Be aware:Certain illnesses are known to produce feelingsand physical behaviors similar to depression. For example, an underactive thyroid or anemia, gland, nutritional deficiencies can cause sluggishness and awareness. Before fogged that causes of concluding you are clinically depressed, be certain to examineall possible
how

very little or only

for treating certain kinds be successfully treated

of

short-term use of

it.

Most

you

are

feeling.

What
A

Causes
of

Depression?
affect depression.
in

number

factors

emotional responses (e.g.,

chemical

intricately
aspects

involved

depression,
the

such
amygdala

to

depression,

and norepinephrine),
uninterested,

the disruption of neurotransmitters the which serve as conductors of electrical

such as
these
of

Certain areas of the brain, for instance, are as those that are instrumental in regulating and there are thalamus). Additionally,
(e.g.,

serotonin

currents

within
excessively.

our

nervous system.Too little

and

neurotransmitters
that

perhaps

anxious;

This

is the
exercise,

cause of
can

you may

also have a tendency to worry

medications
than

and you

become sluggish,
address.

depression
nutrition,
however,

antidepressant

But

neurotransmitters aerobic

often

be increased

remedies.
Surely,

proper
question,

The

with changes associated themselves. must set the ball by Something proverbial

the brain

and chemical
of

vitamins, full-spectrum light, and certain is what triggers depression in the first
depression

by means other

medication,

including

herbal
place?

don't

happen
it

all
the

in motion, or past

rolling events
sort.
the

down

hill
traumatic

toward
In most
to

the valley
instances,
degree
a

depression. recent
that

some
of

the death
financial
however,

loved

ruin all
if

you

instance,

depressed

can instigate the onsetof depression. For depression must believe that the events occurring are significantly lost a job that you disliked very much, rather than you about it, you might actually feel relief or joy. Conversely,

and involve real or anticipatedlossof some and one, the loss of a job, health problems,

depression is triggered by

are

For example, of possibility

to result,
negative. feeling when

For down you

or feel

fee

.ng

Good

Again

113

depressed, %ou think

figures

the What loss. you have negative, perhaps catastrophicthoughts about about a situation, therefore, greatly affects your depression probability. iThis is the core of cognitive which assumes that what you think therapy, directly into

how

So far, the

you

depression chain of
occurs.

feel.)

causes

looks

something

like this:

1.
3.

loss

event

2. You have

frequent unsettling thoughts about Next, certain instrumental areas of the brain
to

this

event.

that

are involved

in emotion
disturbing

become activated

produce

negative

emotions.
unbalanced

4. Additionally, certain are depleted. thoughts

body chemicalsbecome

as

5. Depression results.
Somewhere energy is involved. Energy For operates your system. depressive thoughts to have an impact on certain areas of your brain and neurochemistry, the thoughts need to have within them certain electrical or electromagnetic features. These features, in turn, the brain stimulate is centers and cause the depletion of neurochemicals. real; it (i.e., Energy thought) with interacts in profound ways. your body As an example,vividly into a lemon or a lime. What imagine biting happens? that a Most bitter sensation on their tongue,even people report they experience in reality, there in thought. How does this happen? is no citrus fruit though simply is the lemon or the lime? Your Where about the citrus sends a message to thinking the brain similar to sendingelectricity a which results in a puckering wire, through The same is true for experiences of anger,guilt, jealousy, and even sensation. anxiety,
This

formula,

however,

is incomplete.

nervous

depression.

affect certain depression probability. thinking carry electromagnetic so that the entire depression chain of causes can take place.Then, the charges carries The messages to your senses, throughout your specifically charged thought body. for depression, therefore, might be revised as follows: formula
or chemistry,

Given this, depression

even

isn't simply
the

a matter
four

of the
are

situation, the
and

brain, the

your

thoughts,

although all

important

can greatly

Instead,

must

1.

loss

event

occurs.
about contain

2. You have 3. The

The
activate

frequent unsettling thoughts

this certain

event. disrupted

thoughts are unsettling sincethey

electromagnetic areas certain

energy

characteristics.

4.

features of the

brain

in thoughts
involved

produce negative emotions that

in

emotion.

5. Neurochemicals

become imbalanced

as disrupting thoughts depletethem.

depression.

6.
Of
factors

Depression

results.

course,
indicate

this is
in some

not the only

instances

formula

for

There

involved

siblings

that

(Kendler,

Walters,

Truett, et'al.

heredity

of depression. In fact, some studies is the predominant predisposing factor

are hereditary of identical

of

twin

depression

1994).

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Energy

Tapping

Energy

Psychology

Helps
your energy
treatments.

to
system is out of
These serve
of

Relieve
When

Depression
feel
energy

you

balanceby
of

depressed,
psychology

the

points in specificways,
energy

depression,

which becomes

is within
negative

the realm
energetic

energy.

features
like

system
that
that

balanced,

and the

as being
audiotape

caused by an
produce
field

Think depressionis relieved.

It can be returned to balance. to remove the most basiccause on specific energy By tapping of thoughts are removed, your
of

depression

causes
examples

to be

of

how

this

when you play the tape.Stimulating the energy system thus erasing the depression.Followingare some has worked for others.
the music

energy
erased,

field\342\200\224much

the

magnetic

impressions

on an

Love, Fear, and

Depression:

Case

Study

David had been experiencingdepression for than six months. Although more his physician placedhim on an antidepressant he found that it wasn't medication, him much, if at all. He took the BeckDepression test, which (BDI) helping Inventory determined that his level of depression He decided to participate in was severe. he had not done before. psychotherapy, something After the various issues involved in his depression, David was discussing advised to explore energy therapy. In David's first he was reminded that session, in a there are chemical involved and is this although aspects depression, why his
an physicianhad chosento prescribe fundamentally

caused

told

that his
is

week.

with can be relieved certain quite rapidly be in David did not need to techniques. caught an is to take into consideration (This depression-producing thoughts. important In this regard, we emphasized that account with problem.) any psychological the to focus on negative issues causes energy imbalance, affects continuing negatively a and nervous chemical more. imbalance, system, produces in the energy treatment David took this advice to heart as he openly engaged in this In for later less than five minutes, chapter). sequence depression (provided the David's was After treatment depression gone. original sequence, the importance in was the of David not getting and reemphasized, caught up depressive thinking treatment was reviewed so that he could if sequence repeat it, necessary, during the

and thoughts are not disembodied

by our disturbing

thoughts about eventsin ourlives.Further,

that

antidepressant

medication, an

depression

is
he

was

electrical

or electromagnetic

aspect that

involved
was

It

also

in negative thoughts that emphasized

When

depression severely sequences

vanished.

the took for his session the following week, he again and H e was notable was evident. no longer inventory (BDI), improvement The treatment depressed, although mild depression remained evident. the from the previous week were repeated and residual again depression
David

returned

During his

third

appointment,

the

depression
of

inventory
depression. He said,

what had transpired in such a short period of

again.

At

this

point,

there

was no

evidence

clinical time.

He was

was administered amazed at

\"It's uncanny!\"

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115

With
discontinued.

the assistance
A

of his
telephone

physician,David'santidepressant
contact six

medication there

was was

follow-up

months later revealed that

well.

no

recurrence

of depression. David

was doing quite

The
Jennifer

Death
was

of a
a high

Boyfriend:
school

when he developed a serious condition and respiratory deteriorated and soon became rapidly, eventually dying. Jennifer grieved deeply clinically She missed in her Chris, felt lost without him, and was plagued depressed. images by Her her mind of when he was in his debilitatedcondition, on suffering. physician put a medication. She also saw who her to discuss antidepressant encouraged therapist her grief, to review of the events that transpired during Chris's illness, and to many her him to his focus on illness. Unfortunately, none of this positive memories of prior and, in fact, she becameincreasingly Jennifer depressed. helped Psychiatric
tor more than

A Case Study junior. She had beendating

nineteen-year-old

Chris

two years

hospitalization

was

considered.

great distress.
Next, of

the past. psychology, Jennifer didn't have to focuson events from objective was to have her briefly tune in to the images that were contributing loss of pleasure, to her depression, including symptoms of sleeplessness, crying, poor at the time as being the highest level possible. Her appetite,etc.Sheratedthe distress was one of Chris lying on the couch suffering as he was visual image having was taken through the highly complextrauma treatment Jennifer (see difficulty breathing. a matter of ten minutes, that image no longer causedher 10) and, within chapter

With

energy

The first

we

focused had

at all. Throughout the treatment she It's but it's weird, good.\" frequently When was Jennifer following week she indicated that she had not felt the treatment. In all, only a few visits were initial depressed for three days after neededto help Jennifer improve her mood tremendously. She found it much easierto she sleptand ate better, and her interest in life and teenageactivities concentrate, in social involved returned. Her full-blown never returned. She became depression In with started consultation our activities with friends and eventually dating again.
Jenniferwas

of her hand between the little finger and ring finger (BH) while continuing to focus she described as being centered \"in my heart.\" on the feelingsof depression, which she was asked to tap under the collarbone As her feelings of depression decreased, a few minutes a few times and then return to tapping on the BH.Within (UCB)
not

depression

on her residual feelings of depression. By this time, the feeling decreased significantly. Jennifer was encouragedto tap on the back

experiencing

any depression

exclaimed,

\"This

is crazy. seen the

treatment

of

Jennifer's

depression,

her physician

tapered her

off

the

antidepressant

medication.

Switching

As previously
alleviate neurologic

depression disorganization
alleviate

due

treatment will not work to mentioned,sometimes sequences to an even more pervasiveenergydisruption referredto as

or
depression

do not

the treatment If you find that switching. or low mood, or if they are inefficient,

sequences
correcting

below
possible

116

Energy Tapping

switching may
switchingand

be just what

you

need.

See chapter

2 for

more information

on

an

exercise

to treat it.

Basic

Treatment
Think

for Depression
your

1.

about

feelings
10

scale of
indicating

0 to 10, with
stress.

of depression.
representing

the highest

Rate your level of depression level of distressand 0

on

no

2. Treat
Hand
\"I

for the

possibility of

tap the SH or rub and limitations.\"

(SH) or rubbing deeply accept myself

the SSwhile

reversal on the Side of by tapping repeatedly the Sore Spot (SS) while or thinking saying three times, even though I'm depressed.\" It alsomay be helpful to saying,

\"I accept

myself

with

all

my

problems

3. Lookat the chart points for Back

at diagram 17 to identify the locations for the meridian and Under Collarbone While (BH) (UCB). thinking about into so that it much (don't get your depression you experience any on BH fifty times or more until major discomfortduring the process), tap you a decrease in depression, and then notice on the UCB five times. Tap tap them in the following order l->2. Tap only hard enough to feel it. The
and
of Hand
tapping

shouldn't

cause

any

pain.
number

4. Again, rate your

(a depressionon a 0 to 10scale

should

your mind). If

there

is no

sequence
belief

again.

If there

decrease, go back is not a decrease after

this

to step 2 and cyclethrough the

three

just pop

into

attempts,

this is

not an appropriate sequence for

(i.e., do

event,

or else

there is another

probably

reversal) the

that

needs

correction. (See step

8.)

sabotaging

5.

Next,

Brain

Balancer
your

then humming a tune, countingto five,

6. Repeat
7.

(BH) while rotating

(BB) by

tapping repeatedly
rotating
and

eyes

clockwise,

at the Back of Hand your eyes counterclockwise,

hurrvming

again.

l->2. the tapping sequence

rate the
0 to 10. It should be lower yet. your level of depression from the 2 is within 0 to depression range, go to step you'll the are thinking treatment several times\342\200\224while about repeat you

Again, When need

9.Sometimes

to

your
symptoms.

depression\342\200\224before

you

feel

complete

relief from

the depression

8.

with the is a decreasein the level of depression, continue If the treatment is very little or no depressionremaining. stalls at any point, this indicatesa mini-reversal. Treatthis by tapping on the while saying three times, \"I deeply little finger Side of Hand (SH) accept even though I still have some of this depression.\" myself,
As

long

as there
until

sequence

there

9. When
further

the depression level is 0 to 2, do the Eye Roll (ER) to lower the distress or to complete the treatment effects. To do this, tap on the Back of head Hand (BH), hold your and, moving only your eyes,lookat the straight, the floor and then slowly raise your eyes up toward ceiling.

^ee

>ng

Good

Again

117

2 (UCB)

SS or SoreSpot
for

Massive

or

Recurring

Reversals

Diagram

Seventeen:

Basic

Depression

Basic

Treatment

Sequence

for Depression

Meridian

Back of
Under

Hand

(BH)

Location Back of hand between little

and

ring
throat

fingers

Collarbone (UCB)

One inch under collarbone near

118

Energy Tapping

If the
treatments. frequent.

feelings
time, many

of

depression

In For

recurrence people,

return at a later time, repeat these should of depression symptoms will becomelessand less it will be unlikely for depression to recur at all.

Complex
When

Treatment
Basic

for
Sequence

Depression

for depression does not alleviate your In more some this is due to is instances, complex. likely depression another level of psychological that must be corrected before the depression reversal treatment will be effective to tap at (see chapter 6). For example,it may be necessary I the Under Nose(UN), while \"I if never over this accept myself deeply get saying, In reversals also be other it is not instances, (Alternative involved.) depression.\" may a matter of a reversal, but in rather that is more a pervasively your energy system state of disruption, requiring more treatment the points. Essentially, Complex Depression Treatment involves additional treatment points with the Sequence combining
the

Treatment

symptoms,

it is

that the

Basic

Depression

Treatment
about

Sequence.
feelings
10

detailed

description

of this
of

process follows:
depression

1. Think

your

scale from

indicating no stress.

0 to 10, with

of depression.
representing

Rate your level

the

on

highest

level of

distress and 0

2.

Treat

for

the

Hand
\"I

(SH)

possibility or rubbing

tap the SH or rub

deeply

accept

and limitations.\"
Look

of reversal by tapping repeatedly on the Side of while or saying the Sore Spot (SS) three times, thinking It also myself even though I'm depressed.\" may be helpful to with all my problems the SS while saying, \"I accept myself
at

3.

at the
Bottom

chart and
Lip

points
Finger

Under

for Eyebrow
(LF),

(EB),Side of
(UBL),

diagram

18 to
Eye

identify
Under

(SE),
While

Under

Arm (UA),

Under Collarbone(UCB),Little

the locations for the meridian Eye (UE), Under Nose (UN),

and
it

Index
so five

the process), tap

following
The

(don't get into

much

tapping

order: l->2->3->4->5->6->7->8->9. Tap only shouldn't cause any pain.

about Finger (IF). thinking your depression that you experience any major discomfortduring in the times at each of these meridian points. them Tap

hard enoughto feelit.

4.

the above sequence, identify the location for the meridian While of Hand (BH)and UnderCollarbone (UCB). thinking times or more until you notice a your depression, tap on BH fifty decreasein depression, and then tap on the UCB five times (seeBasic
After

completing

points about

for Back

Depression Treatment

Sequence

chart

above).

5. Again, rate your

needs correction. that (See step 9.) sabotaging belief (i.e.,reversal) 6. Next, do the Brain Balancer (BB) by tapping repeatedly at the Back of Hand (BH) while rotating your eyes clockwise, rotating your eyes counterclockwise, then humming a tune, counting to five, and humming again.

into on a 0 to 10 scale (a number should depression just pop 2 there backto and the If is no decrease, mind). your go step cycle through If there not a decrease after three this is is sequence again. attempts, probably not an appropriate sequencefor your depression, or else there is another

He

mg

Good

Again

119

SS or Sore Spot
for

Massive

or

Recurring Reversals

(IF)

Diagram

Eighteen:

Complex

Depression

Complex

Treatment

Sequence

for Depression of nose

Meridian

Location

Eyebrow (EB)
Side

1
(SE)

Beginning
of

eyebrow

at

bridge

of

Eye

Under Eye
Under

(UE)
(UN)

UnderNose
Bottom
Arm

2 3 4
(UBL) (UCB)
5 6

Side of eye on bony orbit near temple Under the centerof eye on tip of bone Above upper lip and below the centerof
Under Six
near One inch under collarbone

nose

Lip
(UA)

Under
Under

lip in cleft inches under armpit

bottom tip of little
tip

of

chin

Collarbone

7
8

throat

Little Finger (LF)

Inside

Index Finger(IF)

Inside

of

index

fingernail on the side on the side fingernail

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Energy

Tapping

7. Repeat

BH->UCB

the tapping sequence.

followed sequence l->2->3->4->5->6->7->8->9,

by

the

8. Again, rate your level

When
you'll

of

depression

from 0 to feel

the
need

depression to repeat

is within the the treatment

you

several

0 to 10. It should be loweryet. 2 range, go to step 10.Sometimes

times\342\200\224while

you

are

thinking

about your
symptoms.

depression\342\200\224before

complete

relief from

the depression

9.

As

with the is a decreasein the level of depression, continue If the no is little or sequence depression remaining. very at any point, this indicates a mini-reversal. Treat this by tapping treatment stalls while three on the little finger Side of Hand times, \"I deeply (SH) saying I have some of this even still accept depression.\" myself, though long

as there
until

there

10. When
distress

Roll (ER) to lower the Eye effects. To do this, tap on the Back the treatment complete of Hand (BH), hold your head and, straight, moving only your eyes, lookat the floor and then slowly raise your eyes up toward the ceiling.

the depression level

or to

is 0 to 2, do the

further

If the feelings of depression should happento return treatments.In time,recurrence of symptoms depression
frequent.

For

many

people,

it will

be unlikely

for

the

at a later time, will become less to recur. depression

repeat these and less

Depression
Many

Triggered
believe\342\200\224and

by Anger
in

turned event is, someundesirable happened beat yourself an unhealthy dose of depression. up by suffering to chapter to the events that have led to the depression is important. Referring 10, also as traumas and forgive yourself by using the anger you can treat these events and outlined in chapter 8. If the anger at yourself is extreme, the guilt treatments treatment for rage, also in chapter 8, may be needed.

therapists

many

cases

it is
has

true\342\200\224that

inward.\" That

is \"anger in your life, and you In this case, attention

depression

Depression
Often

and Anxiety
and

depression

anxiety

nervousness,and

perhaps

fear
of

of the

feeling and
feel

state

affairs.

depressed

about

in addition

to the depression.Seechapter7

being

are intermixed. Anxiety is a feeling of dread, worst happening. Depression is a down or a de-pressed feel anxiousabout or can often Also, you beingdepressed to treat the anxiety anxious. In such cases, it is important
for

effective

anxiety

reduction

treatments.

Losses
Frequently,

That
significant

Cause
losses

Depression
are involved

important

for you

of the

trauma treatment

to specifically target the

in depression. If this is the case, it may it with loss as a trauma and neutralize
10

be

one

sequences. (Seechapter

for

more

information.)

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121

Massive

Psychological
commonly

Reversals
involved

Massivereversal is
important

in

to frequently

during
intricate treatment

the period
treatment for

when you

repeat the massive reversaltreatment

are

depression

(see chapter

6). Often,
the standard
treatment

it

is

throughout

treating

yourself

for depression.

massive

least

five times

throughout the day:

massage

for massive reversal may prove reversal proves insufficient. You

beneficialif

The following more

the

day

should repeat this

at

1.

Briskly

the

or thinking three times, problems and limitations,

2. Then tap
deeply
even

Sore Spot
even

\"I deeply

(SS) on the left side of your chest while saying and profoundly accept myself with all my
though

I'm

depressed.\"
times,
limitations,

if

at the Under Nose (UN) while saying or thinking three and profoundly accept myself with all my problems and I never get over this depression.\"

\"I

3. Tap
deeply

at

the

and
if

even

Bottom Lip (UBL) while saying or thinking with all profoundly accept myself problems my don't deserve to get over this depression.\"
Under

three
and

times,

\"I

limitations,

Quit
As

Thinking
there

So Much
many

causeis the depression,although the energetic with is much interrelated your thinking very your and have some \"bad habits over the years. energy you may developed thinking\" Even though you have balancedyour energy, it is advisable to observe the connection between your thoughts and when your feelings. Recognizing you are entertaining that in the What fostered is an thoughts past your depression important step. you need are alternative solutionsso you can readily dismiss such thoughts. For example, if reoccur when you are alonetoo much,then take the must depressive thoughts you time to develop a moreactive after social life. This can be as simple as taking classes in work or learning new hobbiesor skills. This to remain a more will help you in balanced state of mind and energy, aiding the specificenergetic treatments provided
noted,

are

causes of

most

fundamental.

Nonetheless,

this

is important to note that dismissing does not mean depressive thoughts to the to suppress them.When just trying you suppress, you're push thought out of but what are still believe that is true. Instead, thinking your mind, you essentially you to make a need shift in of understanding you your depressive thoughts. That is, you need to recognize that the real causeof the depression is the connection between your and As allow such to thoughts thoughts energy. you evaporate, you will see that they were not the truth at all, but rather were a distorted way of thinking about your life to be true because your energy system was and yourself.The thought only appeared In the is a or an and need essence, illusion, disrupted. depressive thought mirage you about it. Once you are able to see through it, your energy will to become dis-illusioned
be

book. It also

balanced.

122

Energy Tapping

Summary In this chapter we have

treatment.

offered

information

about

clinical
and
that

depression and its

that

Although

we

have

provided
treatment

proven
disease,

to be
self-help
suggestions

effective in the
is

detailed energy
of

psychologytreatments
related
you
it

have

depression
find

not
to

these
taking

always
alleviate

sufficient. If you
depression,
for

aspects of this have been able to use

up.

wonderful\342\200\224keep

However,

if

the

treatments
this

have
as an We
for

not proven sufficient indication that effective

strongly in

treatable.
professional

assistance

in approach described

advised against you, you are strongly is eminently help is not available.Depression encourage you to contact a qualified mental health with general and to assist you specifically regard to the energy
this

book.

CHAPTER

10

Resolving

Trauma

and

Painful

Memories

Rapidly

We

must

rid

ourselves today's

of yesterday's negative thoughts new and positivefeelings.

-Sydney

to

receive

Banks

Painful
traumatic

memories
events

are the
far too

result

of

and physical health improve. The treatment in this chapter sequences kinds of trauma have had on your life. you to eliminatethe impact various Have you ever wondered about why you consciously remember so little your information is nonetheless stored inside past? Whether you remember or not, all that the not to your you think, feel, and behave. This you, affecting way only applies memories of traumatic but also to those that remember as positive and events, you The neutral. Your conscious mind has a limited capacity for information. storing in of life is stored as memories filed unconscious mind. majority your away your or thinking Current events about a specific time frame in your life may trigger these memories.If a memory pops up in certain situations or at certain times, it probably has meaning to you. You must evaluate the memory and determine event if the you remember had a traumatic on In most the answeris self-evident. cases, impact you. this addresses the treatment of major traumas, Although chapter primarily you don't want to overlookother negativeevents that may have altered and shaped your life. These events,however, are usually not as traumas. They can classified clinically be events that occurred when you were much younger and now, as an adult, you
and

societyand are the cause of many and that psychological problems unhappiness. Many health care professionalsalsobelieve is a major contributing cause of many trauma such as cancer and disorders, physical heart disease. When the attached to the memoriesof these emotions distressing traumas are their negative effects dissipate as well.Forexample, eliminated, relationships
are

experiencing

traumatic

events.

Unfortunately,

common in today's

emotional

will help

124

Energy

Tapping

should be viewed as trivial. At the time that the incident occurred, to you. the not have the resources now available Therefore, coping you event may have left an emotional mark on you. That is, it may have lowered your sense of self or contributed to your not a part of yourself. This is accepting how imbalances and reversals are created. frequently energy It is amazing how a cruelremarkmade an acquaintance or even a stranger by a have effect on One for woman, significant, long-lasting you. example, said that may a remark made by a shoe salesmantwenty continued to affect the way she ago years about felt herself It can be that Of this doesn't mean that all course, today. simple. events that when were have a will negative happened lasting impact on you younger But or if an incident hurt affected the feel about yourself, you. your feelings way you with it's time to treat that memory the techniques covered in this chapter. There is no shortageof major traumas. the death of a child is the Generally, in most traumatic.In 1997, the United States alone, there were 28,000infant deaths and an additional and young adults ages one to twenty-four 46,000 deaths of children Institute for Health Statistics 1997).Additionally,crimevictims are (National and the often Each there are retraumatizes them. millions traumatized, process year judicial of reported crimes involving and assault. there are countless Further, rape, robbery, families traumatized in the by the 20,000 homicides and 30,000 suicides each year United States alone (National Institute for Health Statistics Other traumatic 1997). events include sexualabuse,incest,natural car accidents, and more. If you disasters, were traumatized can the events such as use treatments in this chapter these, you by to put these painful memories to rest. Traumas and lingering painful memories can lead to secondary problems, such an to some traumatic as let go of the event. After psychologically \"unwillingness\" in reversal can set and blockyour ability to see the situation events, psychological from any perspectiveother than a distressing one. For example, if you were to lose a child, you might believe that if you allowed yourself to let go of the pain, it would child. from mean that you didn't careabout however, could be further your Nothing, the truth. No matter what you do, you will care about your child and you will always continue to feel sadness and loss. Onceyour is balanced about the energy system no will continue to overwhelm you or prevent event, however, the memory longer on with your life. from you moving
believe

however,

that they
did

orbeaten, you were mugged

would
any

alsocan Beingassaulted
either jeopardize
Again,

provoke for

example,
or

your

safety

wrongdoing. the

these

trauma such
resolving

as assault doesnot
trauma

types
invariably

...\" response. If \"unwillingness-to-let-go-of you might feel that letting go of the trauma be equivalent to absolving the perpetrator of of thoughts not accurate. over a Getting
an

are

set

forget what happened or to forget

experience.

That

is,

person in the
does

and what's wrong

not affect

it does not cause you to you gained from the if a specific person assaulted you, you still know to avoid that would future. Also, as far as exoneration is concerned, what's right is right,

helps you

to feel and
any

you up

to be

assaulted again.Although

function

better,

useful

information

is

wrong.
that painful

How
the

the

fact

When you

resolve your able to deal with the

Trauma

you currently react to your memory of the event was nothing short of evil in his actions. memories, however, you become stronger and better
perpetrator memory.
as

traumatic

can also lead to otherproblems, such

shame,

self-blame,

powerlessness,

and resignation.By

reviewing

the

information

belittlement, in chapter 1, you can

Sesolving

Trauma

and

Painful Memories

Rapidly

125

emotions,
it

impact on your energy level.If you are feeling one of these strong that a psychological reversal has occurred, to possible causing you some area of life.In this will also have to treat the case, sabotage your you secondary with the painful memories, in order to resolve the problem.The problems, along in this chapter treatments will make this task easier.
gauge

the trauma's
is

The Treatment
Traumatic

Process
divided

into three groups: simple trauma, complex and trauma, At resolution of traumatic issues times, highly complex may require the who in assistance of a qualified is trained In many psychotherapist energy therapy. in this will cases, however, self-administering the treatment sequences chapter yield
events

are

trauma.

positive healing results.

Self-Treatment
There are some when a traumatic memory will continue to bother instances you even after you have attempted to treat it. In these cases, assume that the simply and then cycle through the appropriate trauma has not been completely treated Be optimistic. with treatment Once the pain associated the has sequence again. memory been completely treated, it should never bother There are in instances you again. or which severe stress toxins causea treated psychological energy thoroughly in treating the traumatic problem to return. This is rare, however, and your persistence memories with the sequences in this chapter will pay off in time.

Treatment

for
feel is

Simple
this

Trauma
chapter,

As was noted earlierin

life

can involve cruel remarks, embarrassing you holding you back. They times when were or mistakes situations, bullied, you perceived you made in life for A which continue to event isolated often can be treated you punish yourself. single this If there is more than one each with however, sequence. part involved, aspect the event should be treated individually, one at a time. For example, let's say that the and was an argument with a friend and that friend said something then, insulting later in the argument, did something elsethat was hurtful. The argument, i.e., the would two distinct aspects, and each would be treated traumatic involve event, that

simple

traumas

can be any event in your

separately.

As always,
not

the
event

first

step

in the

treatment

sequence is to
for

rememberthe event. It's

brief

moment when the except the event to get of is twofold: recalling memory the tuned in it can a distress rating, and to make surethat is so that problem memory be successfully treated. Concerning the latter, to simply go through energy in to the event possiblycouldresult in a pleasant treatments without tuning psychology but it would do nothing to resolvea specificproblem. The feeling of relaxation, problem must be brought to your awareness,although it need be only at the subtlest level.
necessary

to

of

the

experience any discomfort, is recalled. The purpose

126

Energy

Tapping

2 (UCB)

SS or
for

Sore Spot
or

Massive

Recurring

Reversals

Diagram

Nineteen:

Simple

Trauma

TreatmentSequence
Meridian

for

Simple

Trauma

Location

Eyebrow (EB)

1
2

Beginningof
One

eyebrow

near

bridge

of nose
throat

Under Collarbone(UCB)

inch

under

collarbone near

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Trauma

and

Painful

Memories

Rapidly

127

1. Think

about a
Rate

traumatic

or

event.

painful and

memory.

It should
0 to

the highest level of

your

level

of distress
distress

on a

scale of

10, with

0 indicating

no stress.

be a single, specific 10 representing

2. Treat for
Hand

of reversal by tapping repeatedly on the Side of or saying the Sore Spot (SS) while three times, thinking \"I be helpful to tap deeply accept myself even though I'm upset.\"It alsomay the SH or rub the SSwhile saying, \"I accept myself with all my problems and can be specific about the event. limitations.\" You
the

possibility

(SH)

or rubbing

3. Look
points
thinking

at for

the

chart
Eyebrow

and

at diagram 19 to identify (EB) and Under Collarbone (don't

the

locations
While

for the
vaguely

meridian

about

the

event
in

discomfort during the process),tap

get into

(UCB).
that

it

so

much

five

times

you experience any major at each of these meridian

points.Tap

them

the any

It

shouldn't

cause

following pain.

order l->2.

Tap only hard enoughto feelit.

4. Again,

rate your distress on a 0 to 10 scale number should (a just pop into is no decrease, back to 2 and there the go step through cycle a If there is decrease after three is not this again. sequence attempts, probably or else there is another sabotaging not an appropriatesequence for this event, Consider the Complex Trauma belief (i.e.,reversal) that needs correction. your mind). If
Sequence

(in

this

chapter).
Hand

5. Next,
(BH)

then

Balancer (BB) by tapping repeatedly at the Backof rotating your eyes clockwise, rotating your eyes counterclockwise, a tune, counting to five, and humming humming again.

do the Brain

while

6. Repeat
7.

Again,

the tapping sequence l->2. rate your level of distress from

is
within

the

distress

the

0 to

repeat

the

treatment
you

several
feel

2 range,

0 to 10. It should be lower yet. go to step 9.Sometimes you'll you

When need

to

times\342\200\224while

are

trauma\342\200\224before

complete

relief from

the distressing situation.

continue
the

minking

about

your
the

8.

As

long

as
until

there
there

is a

sequence at any point, this indicatesa mini-reversal. Treatthis three Side of Hand while times, (SH) finger saying even though I'm still upset.\"

is very

decrease in the level of distress, little or no stress remaining. If

by
\"I

with

treatment

stalls myself,

tapping
deeply

on the little
accept

9.

When further

the or

distress to

level

Hand (BH), hold your

floor

complete

is 0 to 2, do the Eye the treatment effects.

head

straight,

and,

and

then

slowly raise your

trauma

Roll (ER) to lower the distress To do this, tap on the Back of moving only your eyes, lookat the
toward

eyes up
treated

the

ceiling.

In most

cases, once a
not

has

the distress will

treatments.

return.

If distress

be able

distress will become less and frequent. do not change should be noted that the trauma treatment the sequences the upsetting emotional elements of the memories themselves.Rather, eliminate they will still that treated a trauma, So, when you have successfully memory. you
In

successfully with this sequence, a later time, repeat these return at should
been

time,

less

It

notice

to recallthe event

in

detail,

although

you may

feel rather detached from

it.

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Energy Tapping

Also, you may could before

emotional

notice

that

doing the treatment. This

making
and

you

can actually
is

recall the
you

event

more

because

are no
has

treatments serve to erase the the track visual or sound tracks.Because belief is attached to the the treatment beliefs about the emotional affect track, generally may your them in a more positive direction. trauma, usually moving In some cases, that while the memory no longer bothers however, people report be them, they are no longer able to recall the memory clearly. The imagemight to you, it is described as vague, unclear, disjointed, fragmented,etc. If this happens the not cause for concern. You might like to repeat the treatment, however, because an the event is not and/or sometimes, difficulty seeing hearing although always, the indication that the trauma has not been thoroughly treated. treatment Repeating to clearly see and hear what happened in a calm,relaxed may result in an ability
psychology
negative

happened. It's as sound, emotional, belief. Energy

think

upset,

about what

it possible

for you to
though

look unwaveringly
memory

longer distracted by
at

vividly

than event

you and

the

different

tracks: visual,

emotional

track,

not the

manner.

Complex

Trauma
traumatic in

traumas. single-eventfocused simple understand the types of complex

Generally, complex traumas involve have many aspects and greatercomplexity

The

or terms

other painful memories that of emotional distress than do

following

two

case studies will

traumas

that

can be

resolved by

help you to
energy

using

psychology.

War
Bill

Trauma:
was

A Case
scars

Study

was decorated with honor for his valor in combat. war: an amputated left leg above the knee, a a whole due to and condition respiratory Agent Orange, alcohol and drug dependence, into his dreams at and often host of traumatic memories that found their night, way hours as He flashbacks about surfaced his well. suffered during waking frequent He also who were blown up in the war and the peoplehe had to kill. soldiers fellow of committing maintained the belief that all is hopeless and that he was guilty he was only defending himself in battles, he nonetheless suffered atrocities. Although guilt,
a Vietnam

vet who
of the

However, he borethe

including

survivor's

Bill had
barely

been in
by

guilt.
psychotherapy

before.
and

He
drug

had

tried
energy

alcohol reliving, numerousmedications,

getting

rehabilitation,

group work, emotional and so on. He was any help. On the day
psychology,

in life.

When Bill's sister heardabout

for

she made

of appointment nervous. H e to in Bill was session, exceptionally expected therapy proceed He did not want to take back the same way that he had previously experienced. trips he would into the painful memories, reliving scenesthat prefer had never occurred in the first place. In fact, he would like to forget about them altogether,although that him

a consultation
the

to

see

if

it

would

be of

initial

was

not

Most peoplereceive optimaltreatment

becoming

possible
more

at the
relaxed,
Vietnam.

time.

Bill described
He

one scene that

if they

are in
had

a more

secure mood.After
to haunt
that

continued

him
scene

since his tour in

was

engaged

in hand-to-hand

combat and

Resolving

Trauma and

Painful

Memories

Rapidly

129

continued to be a source of distress. turned white and started to shake.Bill

When
was

told

some other treatments several times and, within the no longer minutes, the memory of that incident bothered what happened clearly,but he no longer turned white, nor did he shake. he was quite calm. With some bewilderment in his voice, Actually, he stated,\"It doesn't bother me. I can see what happened, but it doesn't bother me!\" After the treatment, Bill no longer felt guilty about the event either. He could seeclearly that he had had no alternative other than to defend himself and his fellow soldiersin the war. Bill was seen many times over the next couple years and at no time did that particular memory bother him again.He has remained calm about it ever since. It should be noted,however, that combat that resolving particular was not sufficient to resolve all of Bill's problems. Treatment of many other memory traumatic memories other and issues was needed. He never experienced nightmares, and distress about that specific memory again. Further, as his emotional flashbacks, he experienced improvement in many treatments progressed, energy psychology other areas of his life as well.
repeated

points.He
course

Bill talked to tap

briefly about the event, he on several specificmeridian

this

and

five of approximately him. He could remember

Rape
When

Trauma:
Barbara

A Case Study
was

years old, her eighteen-year-old boyfriend raped her devastated well into her early thirties. She had an extensivedrug and and alcohol anxious and, in most respects, lived a notably problem depressive treatment at a number of inpatient and lifestyle. Over the years, shereceived outpatient When she began energy psychologytreatments, she was facilities. psychiatric a regime and of psychiatric medications, including Lithium, Prozac, taking Desyrel. Even so, she was not doingwell. her first energy treatment session, Barbara During discussed her rape incident; it was evident that she was traumatized. She cried in many and, deeply respects, seemed to be reliving the event in memory. Shesaid she was to blame, that she should have that she had never listened that known better, to her mother.As she spoke, it was as though she were that thirteen-year-old girl
thirteen
her.

This trauma

once

to the rape,therewas
that
than

Although not all of

no

again.

her

psychological

problems

question
of

that
great

the event
The

was a significantly
energy
painful

could necessarily

be tracedback

painful

had set
ten

her on a path
and
painful

misery.

trauma treatment
memory.

took less her belief

only

memory

minutes

it completely

resolved Barbara's
while

Not

did

Barbara no
about

longer feel

emotions

the

situation

treatment

was
when

was completed,
something
of

\"just

Both
treating

the

this

be treated individually,
Treatment

the after changed dramatically as well.Imrnediately she was ableto tell me with obvious that the rape conviction that happened\" in her past and that she was \"not to blame.\" are examples of a complex trauma. Remember, above situations in the traumatic event should type of trauma, each aspect involved

reviewing

the memory, but

and

herself

one

at

a time.

Sequence
about

for Complex Trauma

event. It should
0 to

1.

Think

the

traumatic
and

your

level

of distress
distress

on a scale from
0 indicating

10,

level of

no stress.

be a single, specificevent. Rate with 10 representing the highest

130

Energy

Tapping

(EB)

2(UE)

4 (UCB)

SS or SoreSpot
for

Massive

or

Recurring Reversals

Diagram

Twenty:

Complex

Trauma

Treatment

Sequence

for

Complex

Trauma

Meridian

Location
1

Eyebrow (EB)
Under

Beginning

of eyebrow
the

near bridge
eye

of

nose

Eye
Arm

(UE)

2
3

Under the center of

Six inches
One

on tip

of bone

Under (UA) Under Collarbone (UCB)

under armpit
under

inch

collarbone

near throat

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Trauma

and

Painful Memories

Rapidly

131

2.

Treat
Hand
\"I

for the
(SH) accept

possibility

of

reversal

by

tapping

or rubbing

deeply

can be

specific about the event.It alsomay

saying,
\"I

the Sore Spot (SS) while thinking even I'm though myself upset about
be

repeatedly
what

on the
happened.\"

Side of
You
the

or saying

three times,

helpful

SS while

accept

myself

with

all my

problems and

to tap

the SH or rub
limitations.\"

3. Look at the chart and at diagram 20 to identify the location for the meridian and Under (EB), Under (UA), points for Eyebrow Eye (UE), Under Arm While about the event (don't get into it so much that Collarbone (UCB). thinking you experience any major discomfort during the process), tap five times at each of these meridian points.Tap them in the following order l->2->3->4. cause any pain. shouldn't Tap only hard enoughto feelit. The tapping 4. Again, rate your distress on a 0 to 10 scale number should (a just pop into If there is 2 the no back to and decrease, go your mind). step cyclethrough If there is a not decrease after three this is sequence again. attempts, probably this not an appropriate sequence for or else there is another sabotaging event, belief (i.e.,reversal) that needs As an alternative, consider the correction.
Highly

Complex

Trauma

Sequence

(later

in

this

chapter).

5. Next,
(BH)

do the Brain Balancer(BB) by tapping rotating your eyes clockwise, rotating then humming a tune, counting to five, and
while

repeatedly
your

at the
eyes

Back of

Hand

counterclockwise,

hurrvming

again.

6. Repeat
7.

the tapping sequence l->2->3->4. rate your level of distress from 0 to 10. It should be lower yet. When Again, 0 to 2 range, go to step 9.Sometimes the distress is within the need to you'll the several treatment times\342\200\224while are about repeat thinking your you feel complete trauma\342\200\224before relief from the distressing situation. you
As as there is a decrease in the level of distress, with the continue long If the treatment stalls sequence until there is very little or no stress remaining. at any point, this indicatesa mini-reversal. Treat this on the little by tapping (SH) while finger Side of Hand saying three times, \"I deeply accept myself, even though I'm still upset.\" When further

8.

9.

the or

distress to

level

Hand (BH),hold your

floor

complete

is 0 to 2, do the Eye the treatment effects.

head

Roll

(ER) to

lower the
tap

distress
Back of

To do this,
the

on

the

straight,

and,

moving
toward

and

then

slowly raise your

trauma

only your
ceiling.

eyes, lookat the

eyes up

In most

cases, once a
not In

has

been

the distress will

successfully

treated

return. time,

these

treatments.

should return the distress will become

If distress

at a later time, however, repeat less and less frequent.

with this sequence,

Highly

Complex as you

Trauma

One analogy or
dispenser.

As

soon

to remove all of until the last tray

traumas is that of a cafeteria highly complex tray was remove one tray, another pops into place.If the objective the would continue after to remove one another, trays, you trays, The same line of reasoning had been removed. to many applies

image for

132

Energy

Tapping

psychological

and

emotional

be layered, one on top of another. Arthur Koestler (1967)coinedthe term \"holon\" this concept. A holon to describe is composed indicates a whole that is part of an even greater whole. If a trauma of the and for each element of trauma both holons, instance, encompasses goes many the one that came before it. Consequently, each individual holon, i.e., element beyond the before trauma as a whole can be resolved. of the trauma, needs to be treated Oneexception to this theory is if the trauma being treated is the earliestonein a all of the later ones. In series. Often, resolving the earliest trauma will also alleviate this case, each of the traumas is a holon to the network or seriesof interrelated traumas. One when for example, was physically abused by her father patient, repeatedly she was a child.The first incident she incurred of her trauma was when, at age seven, the wrath of her father after she her baby brother, who physical accidentally dropped cried,but was not seriously injured. She reported that after that particular trauma in which her father was resolved with energy psychology all incidents treatments, abused her no longer caused distress. She expressed the view that perhaps this was because the various events were so similar. Please note: Even though simultaneous collapsing of related traumas frequently a this occur. when does not Therefore, treating disturbing happens, always memory, it is to think about the event sequentially,from to end, treating important beginning each aspect as you go along. In this way, you can be assuredthat the trauma as a treated. whole has been successfully and thoroughly will totally In some cases, the complextrauma treatments eliminate the distress with each associatedwith the painful event, and repeating the treatment component will the not be an untreated of However, problem aspect may continue to necessary. is stir up negativeemotions, it appear as if the treatment is not working.This making and be it is break the trauma events to down into important sequenced prepared why husband suicide shortly after to treat each one.Forexample, one woman's committed an argument with her. Her memory of the event had the following sequential aspects:
aspects.

appears. Problems are often

They

problems. That
not

is, after

you

treat

one

just

singular

events,

but are

problem,
of

another
many

composed

can even

1. An

embarrassing
ensuing

scene at a party
upon

2.

An

argument

returning
a

home
gun

3. Her husband threatening her with

4. Her

husband shooting himself

the

5. Callingher sisteron
6. Calling

phone

for help

911
arriving

7.
8.

The

police

and

accusing
having

her of
to

shooting her husband

move,

Events

related

to the

funeral,

etc.

Each of the scenes in the woman'smemory carried with it specific negative In treating this and then emotions, including embarrassment, fear, anger, panic. had be treated That it was all of these to not enough to trauma, is, aspects thoroughly. treat an aspect that was at a high level of distressand reduceit to a four or five; it had to get down to a 0 (no distress at all). Also, if an important aspect was not

Resolving

Trauma

and

Painful Memories

Rapidly

133

addressed example

at all, illustrates

the patient would continuedto experience The distress. the procedure and benefits of treating complex highly

following

traumas.

The
Debbie
died

Death of a
had been hospital to our initial
child,

Child:
session.

A from

Case trauma his

Study and birth.

suffering

in the

a couple

days

after

ever depression This had happened

They

since her

infant

more
talk

than

two as

years well

prior as on
of

The

trauma

death
that of

her relationship with

and

Harold, her
silence and

was taking its toll

husband.

on her emotionally
were

couldn't

about the

their

Harold's

he a

did

not care

about what

had happenedor about

treatment

to her seeming nonchalance suggested

her.

They

on the

verge

divorce.

Debbie
When

and
arguments

Harold entered
occurred,

because

of

their

withdraw for days, frequently not coming home after work. Their relationshipwas on a downward It was spiral. the trauma the death. Debbie's apparent that neither of them had resolved concerning was was to want to talk about it, whereas Harold'sapproach to leave way of coping
the

frequent

Harold

would often

arguments.

it alone.

Their first energy psychologysession was taken details about their up gathering the was second it however, session, relationship and their problems.During to them that a significant aspect of their difficulties could be explained relationship the fact that they continued to feel distressed about the lossof their infant. Although their child back, energy psychology obviously nothing could be doneto bring relieve the trauma and thus increase the chancesof regaining a healthy treatments could
relationship.
she

They were
energy

thought

about

both treatedin the office the death she immediately

psychology

on the
began

same day.

providing

extreme distress
need to that he felt

much calmer manner.Although

had

treatments,
there

she was
explained

able to think

to cry.

Within

Debbiewas first. When a few minutes of

about

the

event

in a
might

was

still sadness

attached to the
this

dissipated. all

It was of

to Debbie that

memory, the
he

treatment

treatments were being provided, energy psychology he startedto cry. We discussed he did his emotions and he indicated that however, under Debbie had an not realize that there was so much distress the surface. that he did care. With his were again to witness the treatments permission, opportunity
the

Next, Haroldwas taken no distress.While

be repeated until

the aspects were resolved. the same type of treatment. through

At

first

claimed

administeredand he felt
A follow-up

much

better.

visit the next

week revealed a significant

shift

in both

Harold

and

their death. there was still Debbie's distress levels regarding infant's Although the death were able sadness of their to child, concerning they finally lay their child to rest.They were now in a better position to deal with their relationship as a whole.

Highly
A

Complex Trauma Treatment

sequence

this follows.Generally, have that memories painful aspects many distress than can be resolvedadequately greater complexity in terms of emotional in the previous involved treatment sequences. If there are a number of aspects traumatic event, each aspectshould be treated a time. one at individually, treatment

for highly

complex trauma

treatment

works

with

traumatic

or other

and
by

the

134

Energy

Tapping

4 (UCB)

SS or
for

Sore Spot
or

Massive

Recurring

Reversals

3(UA)

(IF)

Diagram

Twenty-One:

Highly

Complex

Trauma

Treatment

Sequence

for

Highly

Complex Trauma
near
eye

Meridian
Eyebrow

Location

(EB)

1
(UA)

Beginning

of

eyebrow

bridge
on tip

of nose of bone

Under

Eye
Arm

(UE) (UCB)

Under
Under

2 3
4
5

Under the centerof the Six inchesunder armpit

One
Inside

Collarbone

inch under
tip
tip

Little Finger (LF)

Index Finger(IF)

Inside

collarbone near throat of little fingernail on the side of index on the outside fingernail

;esolving

Trauma

and

Painful Memories

Rapidly

135

1. Think

level of 2.
Treat

your

level

about the traumatic of distress on a

distress

and

Rate event. It should be a single,specific event. 0 to 10, with 10 representing the highest indicating no stress.

scale of

for

the

Hand (SH) or rubbing

possibility
the

of reversal
Sore

three times, or saying Spot (SS) while thinking I'm \"I be even You can about accept upset.\" specific deeply myself though the event. It also may be helpful \"I to tap the SH or rub the SSwhile saying, all with and limitations.\" accept myself my problems
3.

by tapping

repeatedly

on

the

Side

of

Look

at the
(UCB),

chart and
Little

at

diagram

21 to

points
Collarbone

for Eyebrow

(EB), Under Eye

Finger
tap

identify
(UE),

the locations for

Arm

the

meridian

Under

(UA), Under
thinking

(LF), and
so

the event

(don't get into it

process),

Index Finger (IF).While

that

about

much

you

during

the

five times

at each of

experience any major discomfort

these

meridian

The in the following order l->2->3->4->5->4->6->4. Note: times in the sequence. Tap only hard enoughto feelit. The cause any pain.

points.
UCB tapping

Tap them

three appears shouldn't

4. Again, rate your distress on a 0 to 10 scale number should (a just pop into your mind). If there is no decrease, go back to step 2 and cyclethrough the three this is probably If there is not a decrease after attempts, sequence again. this not an appropriate sequence for or else there is another sabotaging event, belief (i.e., reversal) Also there may be an earlier that needs correction.
trauma

that

needs

to be
Balancer
your

addressed.
(BB) by tapping repeatedly at the Back of Hand rotating your eyes counterclockwise, eyes clockwise, and five, humming again.

5. Next, do the Brain (BH) while rotating

6. Repeat
7.

then humming a tune, countingto

level of is within the

l->2->3->4->5->4->6->4. the tapping sequence

rate

Again,

your

the

distress

repeat the treatment several times while thinking the distressing you feel complete relief from 8. As

distress from 0 to 10. It should be lower yet. 0 to 2 range, go to step 9.Sometimes you'll
about

When

need

to

your

trauma

before

situation.

level in the of distress, continue with the long as there is a decrease If the treatment stalls sequenceuntil there is very little or no stress remaining. Treat this on the little at any point, this indicatesa mini-reversal. by tapping (SH) while accept myself, finger Side of Hand saying three times, \"I deeply even though I'm still upset.\" 9. When the distress level is 0 to 2, do the Eye Roll (ER) to lower the distress the treatment effects. To do this, further on the Back of or to complete tap Hand (BH),hold your head straight, and, moving only your eyes, lookat the the raise your eyes up toward floor and then ceiling. slowly

In most cases, once a trauma the distresswill not return.However,

has

successfully if distress

been should

these

treatments.

In

time,

distress

will become

less and less frequent.

treated with this sequence, return at a later time, repeat

136

Energy

Tapping

Summary

This chapter
memories. rage,

has covered how

conditions negative
experiences

Many and

other even
from

originate
Weeding out

and other painful to rapidly resolve traumatic covered in this book, such as phobias,panic,depression, are capable of doing beliefs about who you are and what you that can be effectively treated with these sequences.

the

traumas

of our
and

lives is an

important

step

toward

becoming

psychologically, emotionally,

used

on

widespread

Heimlich

maneuver),

quickly dissolve.

of the example, as the psychologicalequivalent the we in society would experience many of problems that

physically basis (for

healthy.

Perhaps if these treatments

were to be

CHAPTER

11

Improving

Your

Sports

Performance

The

game

of golf

is 90

percent mental.
Nicklaus \342\200\224Jack

of that is, to maintain your ability; to come without hesitationor your ability through This doubt. doesn't mean that you'll win\342\200\224it means that are you giving yourself every opportunity to win. The key to doing this is to eliminate the self-defeating that beliefsand anxiety can cause mistakes and result in you playing at less than your

goal in an athletic event an energy level that allows

The

is

to play

to the

best

natural

of ability or the practice required to to eliminate however, help you any sport. any sabotaging thoughts at your best, especially in crucial and excessive anxiety that prevent you from playing situations.When to improve your sports performance, using energy you psychology in your skill level and mental attitude must factor when evaluating your success. what are trying to accomplish. For Additionally, you must be realisticabout you in a the 90s isn't make the pro tour just by using who shoots to instance, golfer going but that eliminatea can lot of needless mistakes methods, player energy psychology and probably shoot consistently in the 80s. Athletes often lose their mental focus when playing a sport, especiallyif they have that are playing unrealistic or feel expectations they poorly. Energy work can about help you to regain your focus, but you still need realistic expectations your from experience that you normally ability that day. For example,if you know playing hit 70 percent is what of your free throws in basketball,then that you should expect in crucial if are to do situations. That means that even focusedand at your best, you in you becoming angry or losing your focus, you can miss the shot. If the miss results this is a self-defeating behavior. When used is a tool regularly, energy psychology that can be less anxious in crucial situations will help you to improve your game. You

ability.

excel

Energy work will not

at

compensatefor

a lack

It can,

and will remain focusedand

positive

while

you

are playing.

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Energy

Tapping

Energy
but

psychology
it certainly

will

not
you

improve
to

your
play

natural

athletic
at your

ability,

can

help

consistently

best.

The energy psychology

athletic

techniques

in

this

situation. play competitive created purely by anxiety.Most likely, you that an athlete is anxious,for example,

If you

is they cannot perform a task that within their ability level. What occurs when a professional basketball player really air ball an from the free throw line misses short putts? If golfer repeatedly it happens often or in crucial situations, anxiety, fear, and beliefs are self-sabotaging

sports, you know that know the feeling as it

chapter

can easily

be appliedto any
some

mistakes It is

are

occurs.

obvious

when

shoots

or a

probably involved.

Managing
Choking crucial

Performance
the during

Anxiety
to an
inability

and Fears
manage

in times

sports world refers athletic events. muscles

to

choking, negative
instance,

beliefs can also fuel

Although anxiety
this

is

anxiety
the

and fears at
central

usually

cause

of

and feel that

try

your
is

to

compensate When

tighten up and can cause you to lose in any athletic event. Once that crucial subtle harder whichis generally or faster, by doing something

feeling.

When

you are too tense, for the keen sense of touch is lost, you may feeling
an

ineffectivesolution.

athletic it is using performance, energy psychology to improve your in crucial situations which have the skill to know that to important identify you you err. and For a has an most better, play yet you regularly example, golfer likely energy can hit the problem if 80 percent of the time that they are on the driving range they ball high and 140 yards with their seven of a pond, iron, but when they are in front they consistently slice the ball or hit it into the water. In this situation, the golfer's belief that they can't hit the ball over the water sabotages their so game; they become anxious in front of the water that it prevents them from completing their normal

swing.

Focus
The

most

difficult

task
that

in many
energy

sports is maintaining
helps

focus.

athletes
significantly. overlap,

have reported
There

energy

focuswith
skills,

such

concerned about your mechanics focus mentally. This, in turn,

Energy

types of focus: mechanicaland mental. Although they affects the latter. You need to work on your mechanical primarily a qualified instructor or coach. Mechanical considerations includephysical as how you would stand and set up to hit or putt a ball. If you become too
are

psychology

them to

improve their focus

Many

professional

two

work

during
limits

a game, ability

however,
to relax

it

is

difficult
your

your

use energy work to decrease and eliminate your anxiety sabotaging thoughts, you will find it much easier to identify and correct your mechanical skills. For example,

psychology

indirectly

helps the

mechanicalpart

and play at
of

for you
best.

to

your

game.

As you

mproving

Your

Sports

Performance

139

will lead you to feel anxious and putts continually missing short-and medium-length in your game. Once you balance your confidence and lower your no energy will be able detect and real better to resolve however, you performance anxiety, issues that may, in part, be mechanical. must focus because of any one You also have faith in yourself and not lose your same level No athletecan at the particular performance. every day. The goal perform is to stay focused no matter what happens and continue playing to your best ability. will If you lack confidenceor have unrealistic start to focus on your expectations, you hand. and less the task at mistakes or bad breaks focus on put is to Events that are not within your control can also alter the game.The key determine how you respond to a situation that's out of your control. Again, if you will lose focus and about what happened or dwellon bad outcomes, worry you minimize chances success. If use these for work to situations, you energy accept you your will stay focused. Your opponents may encounter similar situations and eventually the lose their focus.You never know, even professional athletes \"fumble so to ball,\" ever mind don't in that it is to at speak. So, give up. Keep impossible perform your best skill level when you become or blame outside situations. or frustrated angry In the treatment we will examine the beliefs that create section that follows, will and and treatment that eliminate self-sabotage provide sabotage sequences any that accompanying anxiety.We will also help you to identify a single treatment point will help to reduce anxiety and keepyou focused while you are playing your sport of
have

choice.

Creating

Peak
always

Performance
a

in
a mistake,
to

Sports
you are less likely to succeed. or work harder. There is a big
become

is Self-acceptance
yourself
This difference

crucial

element
make
trying

of success in
improve

or the situation
mean
between

when you
not
who

sports.

If

you

can't

accept

doesn't

that

you are

players

angry

or blame

others for their

play better and those who own poor performance.

think

they can

Three CommonBeliefs
There

are

three

common

success,

overcompetitiveness,

a fear beliefs that affect your sporting performance: and outside influences.

of

Fear of Success
We're enough to succeed.

think don't you are good you sense athletic but skills, talking your overall your if became a athlete? of who you are. What would change great (at your level) you or treat you differently. about Perhaps by selfPeople might think you differently it a have about certain belief you sabotaging your skill, helps you to maintain as that you don't deserve to win, or that aren't of the situation. yourself, such you worthy
Fear

of

success

centers

around

the fact

that

not

about

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Energy

Tapping

Overcompetitiveness
are winners never lose the is an outcome, not a process. Thosewho their at best. If focus becomes one or focus that allows them to composure your play must or activity that of beating your opponent, rather than the strategy complete, you Thereis a fine line between being a winner and behavior. you have a self-defeating wanting to win too much,but once you cross it, you are no longer focusedon playing

Winning

at

the

best

of your

ability.

Outside Influences, AKA \"I'm Not Getting Any Breaks\" Here the athlete believes that they aren't lucky or that other athletes are lucky. comes from Although perhaps this may be true to some extent, luck in sports usually to accomplish the athlete not making any crucialmistakesor not trying goals that are beyond their ability level. If an athlete blames their game on outside influences, they the situation. lose focus and become angry or frustrated with Then they may usually a believe that only something special will make the difference and thereforeattempt it's \"turn beliefis that their to low percentage or shot. their get lucky.\" play Perhaps In this case, the athlete has moved away the central from point of all athletic events: to stay focused and execute your role to the best of your ability. can You may be aware of other beliefs that limit your success in sports, and you
easily
make
emotions

include
you
such

them in the

lose

your focus or
unlucky,\"

following treatment

plan. from

Look

as anger,
\"I

frustration,
to

care anymore,\" \"I'm

suchas

don't

deserve

and anxiety; or beliefssuch as, \"I can't win,\" \"I don't or \"I'm not good enough.\" While deep-seated beliefs real and limit win\" may sound strange, they are very

prevent you

regaining

for emotions it. Examples

or beliefs include

that

many athletes.

No matter what happens stay focused is the only

when
way

to

you play, your play to the best

ability

to
your

accept
ability

it and
each

of

day.

Treatment
All

Plan

for

Sports

Issues

When are treatments to some degree revolve around self-acceptance. you that the are situation should not or lose trust in thinking happen. angry yourself, you be so concerned You can about the outcome that you lose your focus. This, in turn, On the other hand, once you blocks your ability to reach your peak performance. have if the door to change, opened accept yourself\342\200\224even you do not succeed\342\200\224you focus. to get back on track and regain your enabling yourself the examples in the following treatment focus on golf, the same Although be used can in any athletic or performancesituation. concepts

energy

1.

and that you want to resolve.It must be specific I level achieve.For \ "When become of to example, your ability make during practice.\" Remember to I miss short putts that I easily anxious be specific and not to generalize, such as, \"I stink at golf.\" You can, however, Clearly

define

the

problem

within

current

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Your

Sports

Performance

141

4 (UCB)

SSor SoreSpot
for

Massive

or

Recurring Reversals

Diagram

Twenty-Two:

Sports

Performance

Treatment
Meridian

Sequence
1
2

for

Sports

Performance

Location
(EB)
of Beginning of eyebrow near bridge Under the center of the eye on tip of

Eyebrow

nose

Under

Eye (UE)
Arm

bone

Under
Under

(UA)

Six inches

below armpit

Collarbone

(UCB)

near throat One inch below the collarbone

Energy

Tapping

Now rate your nervousnessor level of tension on a scale of 0 to 10, with the highest level of tension and 0 indicating no tension. representing
Identify

with some generalizations, crucial times.\" The more specific your

experiment

such as
statement,

\"I

always

make

the

better

at mistakes the outcome.

10

any

performance.Don't

sabotaging be hesitant.
time,

takesa minute.In
of

Side of
\342\200\242 I \342\200\242 I \342\200\242 I

you

and
Hand

need to
(SH)

yourself the
accept accept

sabotagingbelief.Below

be treated regularly.Treat each reversal by tapping on the while or rubbing the Sore Spot (SS) or saying to thinking
are

think beliefs or feelings that affect you be a problem, If you think it could you will come to know whichbeliefs

your

aremost

treat it. It only

typical

some

examples:

myself myself myself

even though I am too competitivein sports. even though my anger makes me losemy focus. even though I even though I
think

80s.
\342\200\242 I If

accept

I'm

not

good

enough

to shoot in the

accept
you

myself
think

am too nervous when I putt.

that 6) and problem is a deep-levelreversal (seechapter then under while over nose (UN) you your problem, tap your get even if I can never get over (name the saying three times, \"I accept myself

your

can never

situation)\".

Now

look

at the points

chart and
for Eyebrow

at

diagram

22

meridian

While the situation Under Collarbone(UCB). about thinking five times at each these meridian of tap points. Tap them in the following order l->2->3->4. Tap only hard enoughto feelit. The tapping shouldn't

(EB), Under Eye

to identify
(UE),

the locations
Under

for

the

Arm

(UA), and and/or feeling,

cause

any pain.
distress
is no

into your
the

Again, rate your level of mind). If there

sequence

or else there is appropriate sequencefor this situation, that needs another sabotagingbelief (i.e.,reversal) correction. (See step 8.) Next, do the Brain Balancer (BB) by tapping repeatedly at the Back of Hand (BH) while rotating your eyes clockwise, eyes counterclockwise, rotating your

possibly not the

again.

If there

is no decreaseafter

on a 0 to 10 scale(a decrease, go back to

number

should

step 2 and cycle

three

just pop
though

attempts,

this

is

then humming Repeat

Again,

a tune, counting to

five,

and

humming

again.

the tapping
rate

the distress repeat

even

the
while

sequence l->2->3->4. level of distress from 0 to 10.It should be lower When yet. your 0 to 2 range, go to step 9.Sometimes need is within the to you'll treatment several times while you are imagining fear\342\200\224or your
you

are in the
is a
there

actual

situation\342\200\224before

from the
As

distressfulsituation.
there
until

you

feel

complete with

relief the

long

Treat at any point, this indicatesa mini-reversal. this by three little finger Side of Hand while times, \"I (SH), saying even though I still have some of this problem.\" myself,

sequence
stalls

decrease in your level of distress, continue is very little or no tension remaining. If the
deeply

treatment

tapping

on the
accept

-nproving Your Sports

Performance

143

9. When

the level is 0 to 2. consider the distress doing Eye Roll (ER) to lower the distress further the treatment effects. To do this, tap on the or to complete Back of Hand (BH),hold your head and, moving only your eyes, straight, look at the floor and then slowly raise your eyes toward the ceiling.

Note:

Results

sometimes do not
are

minutes before you

Visualization
Visualization

happen instantly.
playing

In

fact,

it may

be five

or ten

focused

and

better.

Practice
is

sports,

as well

as a number of
your

usually

a beneficial
other

means of

improving your
of

performance

in

areas.

The more
One

accomplishing
vour diagram

goal,

the
difficulty

greater

your
visualizing.

chances are

confidently you can

actually

visualize
it. (see

achieving

Some people
visualization 22)

have
ability

five

times

process several
any

achieving your goal in as much detail as possible.You

is to tap on each, while thinking

see

the EB and the UA

about

strategy desired
may

that helps
meridian

to enhance

points

your

timesbefore you

results.

You can

confidenceor pridein your hard work. Imagine, for example, that or to break a score of 90 foot putt to put you ahead in a golf match Now, imagine that you are feeling a little anxious in this situation, but also confident and the ball focused. See yourself putt the ball and watch go into the cup. Smile! each differs in their to knows visualize, Although person ability your mind/body what you are doing and even a vague image be all that is for required you. may
Be sure to is again used as the example in the treatment below. Golf sequence mental match the substitute appropriate phrases and to of sport your choice. images 1. Imagine yourself on the putting green attempting a difficult putt. Now, ball the hole. imagine that the ball, and see your toward you have putted rolling Did it go in? If yes, then continue to pick new situations. If you did not see the ball drop in the hole,then what do you think the problem is? Do you have or are you feeling too anxious? doubts

positive

feelings

that could

be associatedwith

also attach to your

goal,

goal. Now visualize need to repeat this

visualization

your

such

as sensations of a fiveneed you for the first time.

2.

If rub

you the

did

even

if

the ball roll into the hole, tap or saying Spot (SS) while thinking me from sinking my anxiety prevents
not see
Sore
about

on

the

Side

of Hand
\"I

(SH) or
myself

three
this

times,
putt.\"

accept

3. Again,
meridian

repeat tapping on the following In 22). Now imagine the situation points: again. most instances, you will be able to see the ball roll into the hole. If the putt still doesn't go in, repeat steps 2 and 3. Then tap under your nose (UN) while even if I never sink this putt.\" Next, myself saying three times, \"I accept l-5\302\2732->3->4. In most the tapping sequence: instances, repeat you should now be able to see the ball go in the hole. If not, another type of reversal be may with your success (see chapter 6.) interfering
think

the

l->2->3->4

and problem (see diagram

use this exercise also such as situations, achieving a hit in in first serve tennis, or hitting good
You

can

to learn to cope with

baseball
a

other

anxiety-provoking

when over

ball

the bases water in golf.

are loaded, hitting

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Energy

Tapping

Key

Meridian
at

Points
this

that helps you to meridian point key when beliefsor are anxieties blocking success. game your In most instances, when you tap on one of the four meridian points listed below, you will regain significant in a short period of time, assuming that focus are not you reversed. (See chapter 6 for more and self-sabotage.) You should on reversals which experiment to determine meridian points work best for you. point in your
\342\200\242 Under \342\200\242 Under \342\200\242 Under \342\200\242 Under

The strategy focus at any point

the During is to identify a

Game

Eye

(UE) (UCB)

Collarbone Arm Nose

(UA) (UN)

Eliminate
Although

Self-Sabotaging
this

chapter

has

in performance

self-sabotagecan frequently
reoccur

any

sport

is a

complex and interactive

occur.
It

provided

Thoughts effective treatments

activity.

for

anxiety,

your

This

means

that reversals

and

If you

over

and

over.

is

very

common

are reversed, your original problemcan to have reversals in crucial situations or

when

you

instances

period of
information on

beliefs sabotaging
reversals

nearing a breakthrough of reversal will most likely require time. The good news is that if you
are
and

reach

your

peak

extended are persistent, you will eliminate those (See chapter 6 for more performance.
numerous

goal.

Therefore,

significantly

reducing

treatments

over an

and

this chapter, people tend to quit when they success with their mental element of sports. A mental but work, and time to develop;it is complex, strong more once you learn to stay focusedfor long periods of time, you will be ableto play at your highest skill level. The good news is that the more clearly you consistently it can identify beliefs the easier is them. or to correct issues, your particular don't

As we
receive

pointed out in the beginningof

immediate

self-sabotage.)

and long-lasting takes practice, component

Be aware
middle

of

flashing

thoughts
If

when
have

of your
hitting

game.
the

you

you are in the a negative thought

or visualize
thought

ball

or

reversal

poorly, you have that needs to be

a self-sabotaging corrected.

When

you
first,

sense

For the
thinking problem).\"

simply

or If

saying that isn't

that you are reversed, there tap on the Side of Hand three times to yourself, \"I accept

are (SH or
)

two

common

rub

effective,

problem. To treat this type saying several times to yourself,\"I

problem).\"

perhaps you believe that of reversal, tap under your

accept

myself
you

of reversals. types the Sore Spot (SS) while even though (name can never eliminate the
while

nose (UN)

thinking

or

myself

even

if I never

get over (name

Improving

Your Sports

Performance

145

and be ready to play more Then, tap on your key spot to regainfocus at best these After be more relaxed should exercises, consistently your ability. you doing and that should in your game and your be reflected it. to ability improve

Touch

and
treatment

Breathe
be

The Touch and Breathemethod (Diepold should 1999)

learn the
achieved
sequences

used

tapping, you are ready to try the Touch and Breathe technique. It is You use the same methods to treat but instead of tapping, very simple: problem, your use mild the while two to on meridian you fingers place pressure specific point in a deep and it. that For i f feel it, breath, holding releasing example, you taking you are too nervousto sink your putt on the golf course or to successfully shoot a free throw, touch the Sideof Hand (SH), while thinking or saying to yourself, \"I accept myself even if I miss this putt (free throw).\" Then touch your key point and, if you feel the while \"I can make this putt (free throw).\" need, touch the Under Nose(UN) thinking,
success

by

tapping

on your

meridian points. Onceyou

only

after you first

have

Specific
Energy

Sports
can

to deal with many sports-related issues.Following some for basketball, baseball,tennis, and golf. It is best to specific suggestions with start a situation over which you have the most control, for example, free throw in these sports can depend on the ability shootingin basketball,as your performance and skill of your opponents.
psychology

be used

are

Basketball In basketball, improving

effective

your

performance

at the

free throw

line is the most

psychology to improve your game because your and you know your free throw shooting The to ask yourself is does your anxiety affect free throw? question your percentage. than when Nothing can create more tensionin basketball your free throw will determine the level final outcome of the game. Your can skyrocket or your anxiety beliefs can quickly surface. Other basketball-related situations that respond sabotaging well to energy psychology include when you feel cannot you guard your opponent and when shots that you normally make are not going into the basket.
place

to begin

opponent

does not

using energy
your

affect

performance

1.

Think

about
that

a specific
made

situation
vou

basketball
distress

feel anxious
10

or belief that and /or

representing

tense. Rate
the highest

you

have

had
your

while
level

playing
of

on

a scale

of 0

and 0 indicating no distress.

to 10, with

level of

distress

2.

beliefs (i.e., reversals) by tapping on Sideof Hand the Sore Spot (SS) while or saying to yourself three (SH) or rubbing thinking such \"I deeply times something as, accept myself, even though I miss free at the end of the game.\" It is bestto phrasethe in your own sentence throws
Treat

for

any

sabotaging

146

Energy

Tapping

words.
accept

It also
myself

with
the

may be helpful to tap the SH or rub the all of my problems and limitations.\"
chart

SS while

saying,

\"I

3. Now
locations

look

at

below

and diagram
While

for the
five

(UA), and

Under Collarbone (UCB).

times

meridian points
at

22 (on page 141)to identify

Under

the

Eyebrow(EB),

Eye

(UE), Under

thinking

about

Arm the situation or

feeling, tap
following

each

of these

order:

l->2->3->4.
any

shouldn'tcause
Treatment

Tap

meridian points. Tap them in the only hard enough to feel it. The tapping Performance
of eyebrow
the

pain.

Sequence

for Basketball

Meridian
Eyebrow

Location
(EB)

Beginning
nose

near bridge of
eye

Under

Eye

(UE)

2
3
4

Under the center of of bone

Six inches
One
throat

on tip

Under Arm (UA) Under Collarbone (UCB)

4.

inch

below

below armpit the collarbone

near

on a 0 to 10 scale(a number should just pop into decrease, go back to step 2 and cyclethrough the this is probably sequence again.If there is not a decrease after three attempts, not the appropriate sequence for this event, or else there is another belief that needs correction. (Seestep 8.) (i.e. reversal) sabotaging
Again,

rate

your distress
there

your mind). If

is no

5.

Balancer (BB) by tapping repeatedly do the Brain on the Back on Hand Next, counterclockwise, (BH) while rotating your eyes clockwise, your eyes rotating then humming a tune, counting to five, and humming again. 6. Repeat the tapping sequence l->2->3->4. of
7. Again,
distress

rate your
is

within

the 0

the treatment severaltimeswhile you you are in the actual situation\342\200\224before

distressful

distress from 0 to 10. It should be lower yet. to 2 range, go to step9.Sometimes you'll

are

When

the

need

to repeat
while

imagining your feel complete you

fear\342\200\224or even

relief from

the

situation.

8.

As stalls

long as at any

there is a decreasein
there

the

level

of distress,
this

continue with the

the

sequence until
little finger
myself, 9. When
distress

Side of

Treat point, this indicatesa mini-reversal.

is very

little or
(SH)

no tension remaining. If
by
\"I

treatment

tapping
deeply

on the
accept

Hand

while

even though I

still have some of

saying
this

three times,
problem.\"

the distress level is 0 to 2, consider the doing Eye Roll to lower the or to complete the treatment effects.To do this, tap on the Back of Hand (BH),hold your head and, moving only your eyes, look at straight, the and then slowly raise your eyes up toward the floor ceiling.
further

Repeat
visualization

this treatment
explored

until

you

have

exercises

previously

little or no anxiety and then in this chapter. In a game situation,

use

the
you

can

-Tiproving

Your Sports

Performance

147

quickly treat
focused.

your

key

point

using

the Touch

and Breathe technique to help

stay

to regain focus, play smart, and perform goal of energy work is to help you the same of your ability that day. The result is that you stop making mistake That at eliminate is, plays repeatedly. you any psychological the same level in every game; you may need to adjust to your game compensate by that team help you on defense. are you passing more requesting your

The

to

the

best

reversals. No one Once

is wrong

or

thinking clearly correct

and

are not

too tense, you will

understand what

and

how to

it.

Baseball

of the game. The components team member is batting. If you have opposing a the batter a home this is such as run, flashing thoughts, strong signalto treat hitting treat vourself and reevaluate what you intend to do. After you any distress, you should be able to visualizeyour pitch to the plate and a successfuloutcome. Because the will be hit. The batter's skill is going to affect the outcome, even good pitches goal, as in basketball,is to play smart and not make crucial mistakes. Energy will psychology help you to achieve this.
In baseball,
each pitcher is under pressure

pitching and

hitting

are

two

dominant

time

an

Hitting is another situation

As

that

can

be successfully

psychology. hitters

average when no one is on base, but whose batting with players on second or third base. Clearly there are in scoring is more anxiety and pressure when otherplayers positions. Once the and beliefs that are creatingyour situations anxiety, you can you identify specific use the following treatment to address your fears. Then, when you are goingto bat, what you want to do, take a deep breath, let it out, visualize touch your key point,
who

always, have a

defining

a situation
in

is very

important.

addressed with energy there are For example,

great batting

average drops

significantly

situations

and step up to the plate ready

1. Think
baseball

for

success.

about a
that

specificsituation

made
0 to

on a

scale of
for

indicating

no distress.
any

that you have had while playing or belief Rate level feel or of distress anxious and/ tense. your you the 10 level of distress and 0 with 10, representing highest

2.

beliefs (i.e., reversals) by tapping on the Side of three the Sore Spot (SS)and while thinking or saying even I times something such as, \"I deeply rarely get accept myself though in with the bases own hits loaded.\" It is best to phrase the sentence your words. It also may be helpful to tap the SH or rub the SS while saying, \"I with all my problems and limitations.\" accept myself
Treat

Hand

(SH)

sabotaging or rubbing

3.

Now locations
Arm

look

at the
for the
and

chart below and at meridian points for

Under

diagram Eyebrow

22 (on (EB),

page 141) to identify Under Eye (UE),

about

the

Under

(UA),

Collarbone
at each
Tap

(UCB). While

thinking

the

situation

or feeling,
following

tap

five

times

of these
only

order:

l-\302\2732-\302\2733-\302\2734. any

shouldn'tcause

meridian points. Tap them in the hard enough to feel it. The tapping

pain.

148

Energy Tapping

Treatment

Sequence for Baseball Performance

Meridian
Eyebrow

Location
1

(EB)

Beginning
of

eyebrow

near

bridge on

of

nose
Under

Eye
Arm

(UE)
(UA)

2 3
(UCB)

Under the center of of bone

the

eye

tip

Under
Under

Six inchesbelowarmpit
One
throat

Collarbone

inch

below

the collarbone

near

4.

on a 0 to 10 scale(a number should just pop into decrease, go back to step 2 and cyclethrough the your mind). If there is not a decrease after three this is probably sequence attempts, again. not an appropriate sequence for this or else there is another situation, that needs correction. (See step 8.) belief (i.e. reversal) sabotaging
Again,

rate

your distress
If

there

is no

5.

Next,

do

the

Brain

Balancer
your

then humming a tune, countingto five, 6. Repeat the tapping sequence of l->2->3->4.
7. Again, rate the distress

(BH) while rotating

(BB) by

tapping repeatedly
rotating
and

at

the

Back

on Hand

eyes

clockwise,

your eyes counterclockwise,

again.

humming

repeat
even

the

while

from the

distressfulsituation.
as
until

range, go to step 9. Sometimesyou'll needto times while you are imagining your fear\342\200\224or treatment several feel complete relief you are in the actual situation\342\200\224before you

your level of distress is within the 0 to 2

from

0 to

10. It should

be loweryet.

When

8.

As

long

there
there

is a

9.

at any point, this indicatesa mini-reversal. Treat this on the by tapping little finger Side of Hand while three \"I times, (SH) deeply accept saying even though I still have some of this problem.\" myself, When the distress level is 0 to 2, consider to lower doing the Eye Roll (ER) the distress further or to completethe treatment effects. To do this, tap on the Back of Hand (BH), hold your head straight, and, moving only your eyes, look at the floor and then raise slowly your eyes to the ceiling.
stalls

sequence

is very

decrease in your level of distress, continue little or no tension remaining. the If

with
treatment

the

Tennis
effective in improving your tennis game.When receive a serve or to volley, use the to should your ability you you at the plate same procedure as a baseballplayer The above more (see sequence). you be for you in an actual game. You do prior to the match, the easier it should should treat visualize how you any anxious feelings or doubts and be able to successfully it is your turn ball. When and want to serve and receive the the treatments to play, exercises that you did before the game will allow you moretimeand control. Then, take a deep breath, and point, just before serving or receivingthe ball, touch your key let it out. You should now be focused.
Energy

psychology

can

be quite

want

to enhance

mproving

Your

Sports

Performance

149

Golfing
At

the

beginning

of this

over a long duration. When but hours, you play golf, you are on the course for four vou actually golf for less than thirty minutes. You walk a lot, talk to other players, and ball. You have to do this again and then, you must stop, focus, and hit your again.Onceit is your turn to hit the ball, many elements can negatively affect your The treatment game. sequences in this chapter all apply to the game of golf. are golf-specific however, Following, sequences and suggestions that may help you to
further

game

of

golf is 90

percent mental.\"Onereasonis

chapter, Jack

Nicklaus was quoted as

the

saying,

\"The

difficulty

of

staying

focused

improve

your

game.

Practice

Range
golf

Situations
in reasonable
on

1. Setup
par

balls

or a

birdie. Now
of

your level
nervousness

imagine a situation

locations where you

that

are leastcomfortablefor
make
10

could

you nervous. Rate

indicating

nervousness

a scale

of 0 to

and 0

indicating calmness.

10, with

extreme

2.

Treat rubbing

for the

accept

words.)
while
3.

Hand of reversal by tapping the of (SH) or possibility or saying to yourself three times, \"I Spot (SS) while thinking even if I become nervous myself (put the statement in your own It also may be helpful to tap the SH when rub the SS putting.\" with all my problems and limitations.\" myself saying, \"I accept

the

Side

Sore

or

Look
locations

at the
for

chart below
meridian
at

the

and at diagram 22 (on page 141) to identify Arm for Under Under points Eye (UE),
about

the (UA),

and

Under

Collarbone
times

order.- l->2->3. Tap only

tap

five

(UCB). While thinking each of these meridian

the it. The

situation
them

and/or
in

feeling,
following

hard enoughto
for

points. Tap
feel

the

tapping

shouldn't cause

any pain.

TreatmentSequence
Meridian

Practice

Range

Situations

Location
1

Under Eye (UE)

Under
Under

Under
of

the

center

of the

eye on tip

bone

Arm (UA)
Collarbone

2
(UCB)

Six inchesbelowarmpit near One inch below the collarbone

throat

4.

level of distresson a 0 to 10 scale (a number should just pop is no decrease, go backto step 2 and cycle though If there the sequence this is three attempts, again. If there is not a decreaseafter or else there is probably not an appropriate sequencefor this situation, that another sabotagingbelief (i.e.,reversal) needs correction. (See step 8.)
Again,

rate your
mind.)

into

your

5. Next, do the
(BH)

Brain

Balancer

(BB) by

rotating then humming a tune, 6. Repeat

while

your eyes clockwise, rotating

tapping repeatedly on the

your

Backof

Hand

eyes

counterclockwise,

counting to

five,

and

humming

again.

the tapping sequencel->2->3.

150
7. Again, rate the distress

Energy

Tapping

your level of distress is within the 0 to 2

you

from

0 to

10. It should
Sometimes

repeat
even

the treatment
while

several times while you

actual

range, go to step 9.
are
situation\342\200\224before

be loweryet.
you'll

When

need

to

are in the
is a

from the

distressfulsituation.
there
until

imagining feel you

your complete

fear\342\200\224or

relief

8.

9.

decrease in your level of distress, with the continue is If little or no tension the treatment sequence very remaining. stalls at any point, this indicates a mini-reversal. Treat this by tapping on the while saying three times, \"I deeply little finger Side of Hand (SH), accept even I still have some of this problem.\" myself, though When the distress level is 0 to 2, consider the doing Eye Roll (ER) to lower the distress further the treatment effects. To do this, tap on the or to complete Back of Hand (BH),hold your head and, moving only your eyes, straight, lookat the floor and then slowly raise your eyes up toward the ceiling.
As

long

there

Practicing
of your

Long

Putts
(more

the than fifteen feet) is a good test to determine balls start feel connection. several until to First, putt strength mind/body you the speed of the green. Then, go to a different do your normal setup, and line up hole, ball. Don't Once beside putt. you have your line, take somepractice swings your your look down. Instead,lookat the pin or the cup and let your arms swing backand forth in a putting motion. What should happen is that as you focus on the cup, your eyes back be shouldsend signals to your brain/body about how hard you should a Once trust Set as feel would for this, you yourself. up you normally putt, and swinging. ball with the should the correct If cannot do then this, putt pace. you you may you the treatment still be too anxiousand needto repeat sequence or treat for reversal.

Practicing long putts

Summary

have pointed out throughout this chapter, will need to work on your you mechanicalskillsas wellas your mental game. Energy psychology will help you to be when you are playing your sport of choice. As a result, morefocused and confident in will aware the mechanical flaws most become more of likely your game that you need blame As need You should have less outside situations. also to improvement. in an eliminate feel increase beliefsand anxious you may you self-sabotaging feelings, the amount of enjoyment that receive from you playing your sport.
As we

CHAPTER

12

Developing

an

Effective

Weight-Loss

Strategy
his

During

his
that

morning
was

eaten breakfast,

reading

commute, him helping

they

so

a section On the way to the counter, he saw banana, an apple, and a bottle of water. full of cakes and doughnuts, and he proceeded to share his expertise on this subject. He picked out a box of chocolate-covered and said, \"Always get the ones doughnuts with devil's cake inside. They are much tastier than white food the cake.\" Then he said that he had read that one shouldn't combine the fructose from the fruit with foods high in carbohydrates (and fat) such as chocolate He put the fruit doughnuts. a cup of coffee to go with his doughnuts. back and bought that was not what Clearly, he was reading had in mind. the authors of the book

a man was talking to to change his diet. Later, at a store. He saw stopped

friends
he

about
fruit

mentioned

that
and

a book he was he had not

picked

a sign for

up a

Striving
Have crumble the

to Lose
ever

Weight
decision are

you

made

moment

a decision to go on a diet, and then watched that foods that you love? The foods that you encountered

healthier

and

helpful
If

to your
haven't
you'll

weight-reduction plan are

forgotten

as will

soon

begin.
\"I

you

food\342\200\224and

dealt with your even find a way to

\"It

make it
hurt

food cravings,you
seem

find

rational.

You
\"I

cravings to eat that may say to yourself,

a reason
bad,

as the

have Or,

to cheat \"I'll

sometimes!\"
cravings
of

won't

just this once!\"

in

feel

this!\"

start

how to decreaseyour

my diet tomorrow.\" The information

the

this

chapter

so I deserve will teach you

Interestingly, some

certain foods. foods that you crave

for weight

self-sabotage many
in

areas

authors on

of your
and

diet, nutrition,
are

dealing with the emotional issues that sabotage is often a symptom of another an inability to diet

life. We believe, along with loss, that the focus of losing

your

are energy toxicand can create

a growing

weight

number of must be on

Oncetheseissues
you

weight-loss that problem

goals. Overeating or must also be treated.

will

addressed,

to maintain

a diet, lose weight,

you

will be
and

able to
into

get

the shape

that createthe changes desire. you

help

152
are

Energy

Tapping

you aren't alone. The United States represents in the world. In 1998,The National Heart, overweight Lung and Blood Institute (NHLBI1998) reported that 55 percent of all Americans are In the last thirty the percentage or obese. of obese adults has almost years, overweight and of that increase occurred in the 1990s. doubledto 23percent, most To complicate

one

If you
the

trying

to

lose

weight,

of

most

societies

matters
data

further,

people

Itis problem.
because
every

support

our belief that

unlikely

at least

one

These overweight at an increasinglyyoung age. lese is an cannot people weight energy-related that the problem is due to a lack of knowledge about dieting, new bookon weight-loss the best-seller list on strategies appears are

becoming
the

reason

year.

a myriad of contradictions health and about a been the United States lifestyles. growth industry, yet that claims to be a very health-conscious The result is diet books, society. magazines, health and diet foods, exercise and health have flooded the market. programs, spas Yet these and all of the media attention loss still have had a about products weight minimal effect the majority on of the population's commitment or ability to lose
American

society

perpetuates

Fast-food

restaurants

have

weight.

higher risk of
types

If you
of

are one
developing

of

the

(NHLBI 1998). The correlation betweenheart disease\342\200\224a is often ignored. It has also been of premature death\342\200\224and obesity in American increase adults' consumption of sugar is related to the rise
cancer
adult

million blood high

97

adult Americans, overweight pressure, gallbladder disease,

and even certain

major
that

then you have a

cause
the

suggested

in the onset

of

diabetes.

between health problems and weight has had little losing their unwanted and unhealthy impact people successfully pounds. Every time our society takes a healthy step forward with more on diet and emphasis to take two steps backward as our consumption of fast food continues exercise, it seems to grow. each Another fact is that most dieters gain even more weight after discouraging able diet attempt. for those who do lose a small are to And, weight, percentage only maintain than the loss for more two For Americans, weight especially years. many it seems that they are forever going on and off diets diet effect) women, (the yo-yo and never succeeding in achieving their goal of substantial loss. weight There are three main reasons can't or lose weight why you keep permanently
However,
on

the correlation

the

weight

off:

1. There

2.

is required.
You

is a physical
insufficient

reason

why

you

can't lose

assistance weight, and medical

design an effective
diet

have

knowledge

about

how to

and

lose

weight.

and sabotages 3. You have an energy-relatedproblemthat triggers cravings an This means that have your attempts to implementany diet program. you and that self-sabotaging energy imbalance possibly due to a prior trauma beliefs undermine your motivation and to diet successfully. ability
Any treatment

combination sequences
including

of the in this
frustration

problems,
more.

above concerns may apply in your individual case.The chapter, however, will focus on correctingenergy-related and food cravings, urge reduction, and impatience,

Developing

an

Effective

Weight-Loss

Strategy

153

Physical

Issues
any

It you
weight,

have

health

concerns

suits your individual circumstances. have You may hormonal that necessitate medications or a specialized problems programto lose weight. Energy psychology will help you and treat the to identify help you safely emotional problems that block from successfully you implementing the lifestyle
designing

you

should

definitely

a diet that best or ailments

or if you need to lose a significant amount consult a health care professional to assist you

of

in

changes you
Having
Having

desire.

Sufficient
sufficient

Knowledge
as to

knowledge

that researchand information can assist you. There are dozens of diet plans; you can select one or combine parts from several different plans. Once you understand the in dieting, you can design an eatingplan basic strategies that are that involved best fits you. If you don't know how to diet, and even if you that you do, we recommend that as a guide as you develop your review a few diet programs can serve plan. Sugar Busters (Steward, Bethea, Andrews, et al., 1998) identifies that may be fattening, foods even though they are not generally thought Ten of as such. Making the Connection:

Although

most people

do know how to lose weight,

Information how to lose weight is

there

and

your

first

priority.

is

a growing

body of

Steps

to a

Better Body
There

and

a Better

water daily.
nutrition

approach that involves

are

exercise,eating morefiber
dozens
the

Life (Greene

and
that

Winfrey

1999)

offers

an overall

and you

of other
better

books

The more you

program.

know,

equipped

you'll be to
it
if

It takes and the

planning
achieve basics,

weight.

With

all the
diet

stick to a healthy Onceyou understand

personal

fast-food options available,

to change your
you

design an appropriate approach to eating and to lose

are

fat, and drinking wish to explore. might

less

more

will

your goals you can design

a unique eatingplan

be much harder for with not prepared

that

you to
your

a plan.

meets

needs.

Changing and you put

However, forth

Your
losing

Mind-Set
weight

Formostpeople,
Americans

can

the

effort,

without

are

bombarded

which can

undermine the desireto

and
it

cheating, you will lose weight. with information about how hard it is to lose weight,
too much
try.
even

be challenging.

However,

if

you

have

a good

plan

Frustration

Impatience
takes

become

it did to gain it, you can longer to lose weight than frustrated with the diet T hereis no evidence to and/or impatient process. fun these The fact it's not as much to or lose is, thoughts feelings. just weight support as it is when you are eating delicious foods and putting on weight. The amount you what will deviated be from your normal food intake to gain weight is exactly a in to it. This mind-set from one direction lose required requires change your in moderation). that to another You may also have forgotten (overeating) (eating you

If you

believe that

154

Energy Tapping

in two weeks. So don't focus on crashdietsand didn't gain all of your weight to try will lose it all in two weeks. In fact, to from fight your body prevent you losing As we all know, however, if 1998). weight by slowing your metabolism down (Jibrin keep you overeating, eventually you'll gain those excess pounds. Think back to all those times that you ate large amounts of fattening foods day it is more after day, engaged in late night eating,or consumed alcohol. Just because it is to take it to on than the that off doesn't fact weight enjoyable put weight change maintenance is still a fair deal. With exercise and a proper change of diet, it is that will lose weight. inevitable you in It is not an event Effective weight-lossprogramsrequirea change lifestyle. that that and then in a return habits created abandon favor of to the old you complete the problem in the first place. Once you view diet and nutrition as a lifestyle process, will change as you learn what foods createproblems for and what is your plan you for that to achieve We recommend and goals. required you your hope you will keep in mind this when you determine your timetableto alter your diet so that you can will lose weight. The timetable not determine how long you have been overweight, but rather can accept that the time it took for you to gain the excessweight. If you is a it will fair minimize the that to frustration deal, losing weight help you happens when you don't lose weight as quickly as you may prefer. Once you develop a plan, with the foods readily available, you will find it easier to maintain your proper
nutrition

program.

and Impatience these commonsense Although tips can help you to plan and better maintain can't deal with the emotional issues that often undermine diet, your they help you to This is true with and frustration your program. especially impatience. Thesetwo cause critical problems in losing weight becausepeoplegive emotions often thinking up, and that their diet isn't working, \"so why If you find that frustration bother?\" will prove impatience are a problem treatment beneficial. for you, then the following
Treatment

Sequence

for

Frustration

1. Identify the problem with

want.\"

as: \"I'm not losingweight as fast as I eating and I still don't lose weight.\" It is and rate about the problem always best to put it in your own words. Think or impatience 10 meaning on scale of 0 to 10, with your level of frustration that you are completely impatient and frustrated to the point of giving up, and 0 meaningthat you experience no impatience and frustration (and you understand that if you stick to your diet, you will lose weight).
a phrase

such

Or,

\"I

have

cut

back

on my

2.

of reversals by tapping repeatedly on the Side of the Sore Spot (SS) while or saying to yourself thinking three times, \"I accept myself even though I'm impatient and frustrated about it is always best to say it in your not losing weight as fast as I want.\" Again, own words. For example, the words \"upset\" or \"distressed\" may be preferred to \"impatient\" or \"frustrated.\" It also may be helpful to tap the SH or \"I accept rub the SS while saying, and myself with all my problems
Treat

for

the

Hand

(SH)

possibility or rubbing

limitations.\"

3.

Look

at the
(UCB),

chart and
and

at

diagram

23 to

points
Collarbone

for Eyebrow

(EB), Under Eye

Finger

identify
(UE),

the locations for

Arm
about

the

meridian

Under
thinking

(UA), Under
your

Little

(LF). While

feelings

of

Ze/eloping an

Effective

Weight-Loss

Strategy

155

4 (UCB)

SSor
Recurring

Sore

Spot

for Massive

or
Reversals

Diagram

Twenty-Three:

Frustration

and

Impatience

Treatment Sequencefor Frustration

and

Impatience

Meridian
Eyebrow

Location

(EB)

1
2

Under

Eye
Arm

(UE)
(UA)

Under
Under

of Beginning of eyebrow near bridge Under the center of the eye on tip of Six inches under armpit

nose

bone

Collarbone

(UCB)

4
5

Once inch belowcollarbone near

Inside

throat

Little Finger (LF)

tip of little fingernail on the side

156
frustration
them

Energy

Tapping

impatience

and
is

The UCB
The

meridian points. Tap

repeated

twice

cause any pain. 4. Again, rate distress on a 0 to 10 scale(a number should your just pop into If there is back 2 no to and the decrease, mind.) through your go step Cycle If a there is decrease after three this is not sequence again. attempts, probably this not an appropriate sequence for or else there is another situation, belief that needs correction. (See step 8.) (i.e., reversal) sabotaging
tapping

at each about dieting, tap five times of these the following order: l->2->3->4->5->4. Note: in the sequence. Tap only hard enoughto feel it. in

shouldn't

5.

the Brain Balancer (BB) by tapping do while (BH) rotating your eyes clockwise, rotating then humming a tune, counting to five, and
Next,

repeatedly on the Back

your

of

Hand

eyes

counterclockwise,

humming

again.

the tapping sequence 1\342\200\224\302\273-2\342\200\224\302\273-3\342\200\224\302\273-4\342\200\224\302\273-5\342\200\224\302\273-4. 7. Again, rate your impatience and frustration 0 to 10. It should be lower from 2 When the distress is within the 0 to yet. range, go to step 9. Sometimes you'll need to repeat the treatment several times while you are imagining your or even while frustration impatience\342\200\224or you are in the actual situation\342\200\224before feel relief the from situation. frustrating you complete a in 8. As long as there is decrease your level of frustration or impatience, with continue the there is very little or no tension treatment sequence until If the treatment stalls at any point, this indicatesa mini-reversal. remaining. Treat this on the little Side of Hand (SH) while saying three finger by tapping times,\"I deeply accept myself, even though I still have someof this problem.\" 9. When the distress level is 0 to 2, consider the doing Eye Roll (ER) to lower the distress further or to complete the treatment effects. To do this, tap on the Back of Hand (BH),hold your head and, moving only your eyes, straight, the look at the floor and then slowly raise your eyes up toward ceiling. this treatment effectively relieves frustration and Although impatience, you must be realistic. If you are easily frustrated, it will be necessary to treat this problem an occasional occurrence. Although you will still regularly beforeit becomes and frustration, this approach will significantly experience moments of impatience reduce this tendency rather feel more patient, during certain situations in which you would such as with your eating plan.
6. Repeat

When

trying

to

lose

weight,

it

is

important

to

consider
reversals.

all

potential reversals including massive or

deep-level

Food

Cravings

How
seldom

often have you

this

heard or madethe
is an
to

statement,

\"I

need

to lose

a few
to

pounds.\"Although
hear

admission

give

up ice cream,\" \"I'm ready

any

is people

making
A

and being

committedto statementssuchas,\"I'm
losing weight is
drinking
cutting

important step in the process, what

you ready

quit

(name

beer,\" or, \"I'm ready to give

back

up

food).\"

difficult

part of

on

consuming

Developing an

Effective

Weight-Loss

Strategy

157

foods
doesn't

that

are

fattening.

Unfortunately,
are

fattening
available,

crave the

most, usually

that healthy foods cannot be enjoyable as well, and perhaps even more with and need to different foods food recipesas you may experiment you an develop eating plan. An toward successful dieting is to minimize or neutralize step important your the that are best for foods avoided. We're not cravings suggesting that you will no need do to eliminate longer enjoy these foods, but you cravings that can sabotage diet. is The process your actually quite simple.
mean

readily

and

foods are often often taste

the

good to

very

foods
you.

you
That

so, but

1.

candy bar, etc.Think

Identify

food

that

you crave,
about

such as beer,potato
desire

chips,

a certain

your

for this food in

a certain situation.For
for

type of
which

example,
you

imagine

you

are

with

friends
you

and they are

you

eating the food

might
of

wish

to eliminate

immediately available so that on a scale of 0 to 10. In craving

thinking

cravings.

Alternatively,

have you

the food
of

can

see

and smell it.

this situation,

seriously

about

giving

in to your

means craving and 8 or more

a rating

Rate your level

are
that

6 means

you

would

give in to
any

your cravings.
beliefs

2.

Identify

sabotaging
Hand

and treat
(name

thinking times,
(name

on the Sideof
\"I

about your
deeply

desire for
(SH)

yourself
food)

for

potential

reversals

by three

the

and, while

or rubbing

the Sore

accept

the food).\" If you don't think can you a \"I deeply under for reversalwhile nose (UN) accept your deep-level saying, I It even if never over food also be helpful to myself get cravings.\" may my \"I with all the SH rub the SS while or tap saying, accept myself my problems

myself

even though I

cannot control my craving for ever get over your cravings,tap

Spot (SS)think

tapping repeatedly
or

say

and limitations.\"

3. Lookat
points
Little these
for

the

chart
Under

and
Eye

4->3->2->l.
4.

(UCB), Under Arm (UA), and about Finger (LF). While thinking craving, tap five times at each of your meridian points. Tap them in the following order: l->2->3->
Note

at diagram 24 to identify (UE), Under Collarbone

the

locations

for the

meridian

that

the

UE,

UCB, and
feel

UA

are

sequence. Tap only hard enoughto pain.

Again,

repeated

twice

in the

it. The

tapping

shouldn't

cause any

belief (i.e.,reversal) 5. Next, do the

(BH)

on a 0 to 10 scale(a number should just pop into 2 back and to decrease, go your mind). step cycle through the is a is probably not decrease after three attempts, this sequenceagain.If there not an appropriate sequence for this situation, or else there is a sabotaging
rate

your
If

craving

there

is no

that

needs

correction.

(See step

8.)

Brain

Balancer

(BB) by

while

then

rotating your eyes clockwise, rotating your a tune, counting to five, and hurrvming humming

tapping repeatedly on the

eyes

Backof

Hand

counterclockwise,

again.

6. Repeat
7.

the tapping sequence l-\302\2732-\302\2733-s\302\2734-\302\2733-\302\2732-\302\273l. rate your craving from 0 to 10.It shouldbe lower When the Again, yet. distress is within the 0 to 2 range, go to step 9. Sometimes you'll need to repeat the treatment several times while you are imagining your craving\342\200\224or even

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2 (UCB)

SS or Sore Spot
for

Massive

or

Recurring Reversals

Diagram

Twenty-Four:

Food

Cravings

Treatment
Meridian

Sequence
Location

for

Food

Cravings

Under

Eye

(UE)

Under

Collarbone (UCB)
(UA)

2
3

center of the eye on tip of bone near throat Once inch below collarbone
Under the
Six

Under Arm
Little

inches

below
of

armpit
fingernail

Finger

(LF)

Inside tip

little

on the

side

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an

Effective

Weight-Loss

Strategy

159

while you are in the actual situation\342\200\224before

you

feel

situation.

complete

relief from

the

8.

9.

As as there is a decrease in your level of cravings, with the continue long treatment sequence until there are very little or no cravings remaining. If the treatment stalls at any point, this indicatesa mini-reversal. Treatthis by \"I on the little finger Side of Hand (SH),while three times, tapping saying I even still have this some of deeply accept myself, though problem.\" When the distress level is 0 to 2, consider the doing Eye Roll (ER) to lower the distress further the treatment effects. To do this, tap on the or to complete Back of Hand (BH), hold your head and, moving only your eyes, straight, look at the floor and then slowly raise your eyes up toward the ceiling.

Alternate
If

you

have

effective, sequence
for

repeat order
\"forbidden\"

for Food Cravings treated was for any potential reversalsand the above sequence the treatment and tap on the meridian points using the alternate
Sequence
of 3->l->2->4->2->l->3.
treatment

not

at least temporarily eliminate your craving however, Realistically, you may need to repeatthis several times basis. treatment the craving is significantly reduced on an ongoing it is treat to Also, to substantiallyalleviate \"addiction,\" your important your craving for the targeted food in a variety of situations. For example, you may tend to eat bars when television. about candy you are bored, feeling tired, or watching Thinking will a each of these situations or contexts while the treatment go long way doing toward effectively alleviating your craving for candy bars. is an important For example, Preparation part of dealing with food cravings. it cut down on want have a snack in the is best to to many people evening.Although it hard to if are reduce find to late-nighteating you going your weight, you may a bowl eliminate the late-night snack. The problemis that although of ice cream is it is also very easy to prepare. Once the starts, craving very fattening, you could have can substitute that would ice creamin your mouth in a matter of minutes. What you taste good to you and keep you on your eating plan? It has to be your own choice. The point is that need to have healthy substitutes to satisfy your cravings. you If you continue to have a problem with the targeted food, read further and work in the that are examined the through problems following personal problems and Once eliminate belief systems sections. you any underlying problems, you will be treatment able to more effectively control your cravings using the sequences

In most

instancesthis
food. before

will

the

provided.

Personal
problems

Problems
have

If feel that any of anger, you rejection, fear, shame, and depression. those problems still exist in your life, they should be treated as part of your weightthese must be loss program. Most psychologistsbelievethat underlying problems an can create and effective resolved before you implement weight-lossprogram.We i t find that as treat easier also emotionalissues, becomes for you to change your you

we Throughout previous chapters,

identified

and

provided

treatments for

such

as

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Energy

Tapping

environment
if

and

lifestyle.

overweight, you honestly that are blocking you from

examples:

issue related to being Although we cannot explore every the can most issues examine life, you your likely identify Listed are desired below some goal. achieving your

Sexual

Abuse

Some people
subconscious

who were sexually

may view their

abused

as children

level

them less
abused.

If

treatments
have

sexually desirable.Of course, you do have a history of sexual

from

they

obesity as a shieldthat
not

develop
protects

obesity.
them

At

who everyone abuse, however,

events,

chapter

10 on

resolving

painful memories
you

and trauma. Onceyou

feel much

is obese was sexually you should utilize the

by making

obtained

relief

from those
other

and better able to dealwith

have

early

traumatic

should

stronger
may

issues

in your
shame.

a reversal that

in chapter8.

deals with feelingsof

life, including
The

obesity.You
used to

also

sequence

treat shameis

Rejection
If

you

live
may

in fear
be

or past events for your many cases, results in

the past, you

of being
problems.

rejectedor if
This

you

have

been

inclined

to withdraw

as watching television. television may Although help you to feel better, and the reducedphysical

time you spendingmore

only serves

from socialsituations to lower your

alone

significantly
and

rejected in
yourself
and,

blame

self-esteem

in

doing

sedentary
can

activities,
it

such
cannot

help

to occupy

your time,
lead

activity

while you Simultaneously,

gravitate
that

are

watching

TV or

are otherwise
better.

to weight you need

gain.
may

your
situations

toward food in an effort to help you and fears of rejection so that feelings you

withdrawing,you

feel

Therefore,

to treat
is to

use the

Midline Energy

encourage

overeating.
Technique

can change your lifestyle and this One approach to alleviating problem in chapter 8. described

prevent

Depression
your
which

Feelingdepressedabout lifestyle. For instance,you

also

situation
may

or an bars to go
are

sabotages
depression

your

also

well.
help

blocks your ability

Your

to noticewhen you
include
can

diet plans

because alcoholis fattening.

full,

event in your life can radically and drink to feel better temporarily,
Because

alter

alcohol

it may

may
There

feelings

situations.
you

able to diet effectively.

to understand

If you

don't treat

of anger
depression,

and
it is

cause you to overeat

withdrawal

as
be

from

social

of your feelings

be many

the symptoms

and

sources of your
employ

depression;chapter9

unlikely

that you will

will

treatment.

Shame If you
of

feel ashamed
yourself

of

yourself

for

some
when

reason,
you

had no control or one that

making

feel better.

Shame can

be the result of
were

you may use food

an

as a means
which

event

over

happened

very young and lackedthe

you

De.eloping

an Effective

Weight-Loss

Strategy

161

resources

to help

around
treatment

food, the
sequence

issue you

yourself. To
feel

break the emotional cycle that

about

may

now

revolve
the

ashamed

must first be

treated. You can find

for shame in

chapter 8.

Anger and Guilt

that certain foods, due to their pleasurable taste,areused of feelings,including angerand guilt. Food often becomes a when If you are trying to lose way of comforting yourself you have had a bad day. a healthier of slimmer, weight, however, this approachdoesn'tsupport goal your can even additional of frustration Violating your goals produce feelings body. dietary and guilt, as you realize that weren't able to stick to your diet. Suchemotional you can reactions serve to further sabotage your weight-loss efforts. can find the You treatment for anger and guilt in chapter8.
There

is

no

question

to

help

soothe

a variety

and Frustration, Loneliness,

A
At

Weight

Loss:

Case
age

Study
thirty-six,

herself and to be moreconfident.

After

yet overweight.She often became angry and look her best. Her weak spot was weight a craving for sweets. When she went on a diet, she would and then go frustrated get with cream. It on a binge and overeat, usually foods like ice didn't fattening very matter if she was hungry. She would keepeating she ran out of that food or was until that she became tired and would go to sleep. so stuffed A related When she was alone of problem Sally's was her feelingsof loneliness. at night, she was more likely to give in to her cravings. The first for step Sally was to in Treatment described 8 herto use the Midline to copewith her Energy chapter help fears her to feel better about about being rejected in social situations. This allowed
with

herself because

she would not

Sally

was attractive
lose

a week

alter her sociallife

more able

a three-month period. She picked a diet plan that and She drink her breakfast chose to lunch, using a lifestyle. health that she milk and food blended with skim powdered supplement popular had the better were in fruit. she to more for lower Although supplements, pay they and had She until she more nutrients. found some flavor sugar experimented that satisfied her tastes. She chose a peach-vanilla blendedshakein the combinations and in a shake but she mixed such banana-chocolate for also other lunch, fruits, morning as strawberries. This was a great strategy because lunch for historically had Sally been a high fat and calorie disaster for her, often made up of fast foods. It took Sally the entire three months the twenty-five to lose pounds. During the she used the first treatments for frustration and to help her month, impatience energy the deal with not losing weight as quickly as she would have preferred. She used also reduceher desire her treatment for food cravings to for some of favorite fattening she foods. When went off her weight-loss program, she still drank one meala day and then identified new lunch and breakfast meals that were not as fattening.
twenty-five

lose
worked

to read, she decided weight. at her favorite bookstore and coffeeshop in the evenings. Thereshe time the same to meet friends and socialize. time, Sally was working on her goalto
to

of doing
lose

energy treatments
Because

for

her

problems,

Sally

she liked to

was ready

to

spend

was

At

pounds

during

best

for her

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Energy

Tapping

Whenever

and used

she maintained her desired weight.

old habits started to return, however,shetreatedherself balanced the appropriate treatments to get her energy

for

being

again.

reversed In this way,

Belief

Systems

There are many

creates

beliefs that
may

could fall

block

change. Thesebeliefs
a feeling that

you

from successfully

into

the

under your nose (UN) while three times, saying I because (state your belief).\" weight Following to lose weight. greatly affect your ability

you can never lose weight.To treat

\"I

category

of deep-level
a accept are

reversals if
even
if

making a lifestyle
the

belief

deep-level

reversal,
I never

tap
lose

myself some of

the beliefs that

can

I'm

Too Old
some

Thereare

realities\342\200\224such

and exercise.Age, responds your body that is also a state mind. the fact of If however, accept you are growingolder, you simply and let go of struggle that aging has and upset about this reality, you alsowill realize Whatever with to do to lose nothing weight. your situation, once you ability your in achieve are a much better mental state to it, you your goals. accept that being feel more shapely Another age-related issue is a tendency to \"because I'm older.\" Your weight, however, can affect shouldn't matter, your ability members' lives. And, of course, to participate happily in the events of other family are living health affects the quality of your life. Today, many people your always active lives well into their nineties.As a matter of fact, in some communities a large hundred number of healthy live to be more than one people years old.
to diet

physical abilitiesand the way

as advancing

age\342\200\224that

must

be faced

about your

I'm
When

Too Fat
someone
they

believes
could

visualize how
focus

ever

lifestyle they could have if they lost the excess weight. If you fall into this category, Itis advisable treat both to regularly reversed. you may be massivelyand deep-level the can use the of these reversals (seechapter6).After reversals, treating you visualization exercises in this chapter to realize your thinner, healthier body.

and think only

about what foods they

they are \"too fat to lose weight,\" they reach their desired weight. They have
must

usually cannot
a

short-term

give

up,

rather than the

wonderful

Can't

Change
you

My
can't

Diet
change

Believingthat
Once

this

reversal

is corrected
other

should be
your

able to use the

eating

reversal. may indicate a deep-level this must be on a done basis), you (sometimes regular in this book to implement and maintain treatments
your diet

new

plan.

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Weight-Loss

Strategy

163

J Have

No Time
you

always a problem,but there are solutions. The shakes are a quick way to have a fruit referred to in the previous casestudy meal. Once nutritious otherissuesmay you treat the time-related, deep-levelreversal, that care need to be treated as well.For example, about your although appear you appearance, it may have become secondary to you, and this may frustrate you. After to the cause of your overeating, reviewing any emotionalissuesthat may contribute treat each This may have to be doneon a continual as unforeseen one. basis, create reversals, alter your emotional feelings,and make you situations can more regularly to food cravings. If you continueto use the energy however, treatments, susceptible with vou will be able to implement and stay diet. your
problem

Believingthat
with

have

no time

to plan

multiple that were

issues.

Time is

and implementa diet can be a complex

It
If reversalor

Takes
you

Too Much
losing

Effort
the Side of
you

believe

a motivation-related

or saying three times,\"I accept even though I am not motivated to myself the lose weight.\" for frustration By treating the reversaland implementing sequences and food cravings (found earlier in this chapter), should be able to find the you
thinking

weight takes too much effort, reversal. To treat this, tap

have

a deep-level
Hand

(SH)

while

energy to lose weight.

J Can't Stop Overeating

It

you

believe

reversal. Another

weight. In this
accept

myself

bad

habits

in

situations that you feel contribute to your overeating, try to avoid use the visualizing treatment that follows to help you deal with

reversal to consideris your resistance to the possibility of losing Side Hand while three on of or case, times, \"I (SH) thinking saying tap even though it is not possible for me to stop overeating.\" Situations or can lead Once the life also to chronic overeating. you identify your
those
that

you

can't

stop overeating, then

treat

yourself

for

a deep-level

situations
problem.

or

Visualizing

Life

Situations
to

You can
are
work-related

use visualization

going to have an eating

to minimize
visualize

and become aware of whether certain situations, such as birthdays, problem during will and when children. Visualization events, you're feeding your the sabotage that occurs at those times. In each case, the objectis to
help

you

determine

you

help

to stay on your diet.

Begin

a potential

problem
an

situation

and decide

if

you

need

to use

energetic treatments

you're having trouble doingthis, tap on the Eyebrow (EB) meridian points.
times
image.
you?

See yourself at your desired goal weight. If and ten times on the Under Arm (UA) several You may need to repeat this treatment It doesn't have to be a clearvision\342\200\224just an before it works to your satisfaction. How would people respond to Can you visualize yourself at this new weight? What These mental other events could happen? visualizationsshouldfeelgood
with

overall

visualization:

ten

times

164
and
you

Energy

Tapping

help
could

to reinforce
only
suggest

lose weight.We
for

see yourself

your desireto loseweight. as overweight,

you

If there
then

were
are

use

the treatment
then

details
used

on the
earlier

Sore Spot (SS) and

in this

use

for a massivereversal (seechapter the treatment for frustration and challenges. Once you
the

you

reversed

any negative feelings or on being able to

6

impatience

chapter).
cause eating
may

and then likely happento you. In each example, visualize yourself in that situation rate your desire or cravings for the foods or beverages. Using the same process, rate on a scale 0 to with 6 that of are about 10, indicating yourself you seriously thinking and 8 or more indicating that will giving in to your desires give in to your you desires. If you feel one of the situations is a particularproblem for you, treat yourself the feeling is eliminated. Here are for food cravings and repeatthe visualization until

that might situations Next, identify the of couple following examples,you

review

imagine

situations

that would

most

some

examples:

\342\200\242 You

are

at work

and a

doughnuts,

more than the staff

table going
\342\200\242 You

to waste. What
social club
see
drinks

colleaguebrings in several boxesof can eat. The doughnuts are just

do

your sitting

favorite on

the

you

see yourself
friends

doing?

are

at a

and your
having
the

orderinglow-calorie
\342\200\242 You

drink. Can you

cook

yourself

rest

at the bar are encouraging you to only one alcoholic beverage and then of the evening?
favorite

eating a moderate amount of

\342\200\242 Your

large

quantities

of one your
that

foods.

Can

you

see yourself
foods

food?

children

house.
\342\200\242 One with

What do you
ways you
Can
them.

or your

see yourself
fun

mate loves to have tasty,

doing? with

but
is to

high-fat,

in

the

of the

have

you

calorie

food as a
aren't

substitute?

see yourself
for

having just a bite and

life situations

your

children

eat deliciousdesserts
then

eating

a low-

The goalis to prepare yourself

dieting

the

that can

efforts

if you

key to

prepared for
may

them. Although
have

sabotage your
problems
that

treating

emotional

is
be

losing weight,you

also

created

many bad

habits

must

eliminated.

Self-Destructive
A

Behavior

and

Weight Loss:
reversal.

Case

Study

Carlos was

He

and his gluttony

generally

a classicexample of
was

massive

He had

behaved

one of them. He drank only in a reckless manner. He

well liked, peopleprotected him. a His knees back were and becoming problem.
because

he was
any

excessivelyand usedotherdrugs. had trouble keepinghis job, but

300-pound

numerous problems, was

and
bed

His

body,

however,
for

a source

of continual

couldn'tdo
a large
stuffed.
quantity

exercise. of

His doctor
major

hour eating strategy was to go to happy late at He and to eat foods, high-fat night. usually warned him that because he was forty-five years

pain and he
drinks
went

His

to

old, his lifestyle

could

create

health

problems, such as a heart

attack

or

diabetes.

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an

Effective

Weight-Loss

Strategy

165

Carlos
had

is an

beforehe is ready
a car

example of
to

someone

who

almost

change.

Carlos

accident that put him in the hospital for seeus and we taught him the energy treatments that It was an off-and-on the treatment follow process for two months. He would and then go back to drinking excessively. This some results, suggestions, experience the he was We behavior whole and soon sabotaged process overeating again. encouraged him to join support groups to help him to cope with his many problems. The problem was that his massive reversal would keep coming back and creatingthe sabotaging and self-defeating able to convince Carlos to thoughts and behaviors. We were finally treat his massive reversal and to several other treatments food for regularly apply and addictions, cravings, anger. After a few Carlos finally went to and enjoyed an Alcoholics weeks, attending He a new that were of friends not into his old Anonymous meeting. developed group addictive His use continual of the treatmentsand his changein lifestyle. energy him the his diet stick to focus to and to to it. Although helped develop design lifestyle there were somerelapses the was able Carlos to lose almost during following year, The was the that were onehundred to and pounds. key stop drinking drugs his life. To do that, he had to change his social life and some of his friends. Carlos sabotaging will is a goodexample of how one of life lead to changes in other changing part your areas. Energytreatments that are done on a regular basis can help you the to develop and in life. to overcome limitations willpower strength your many

went bankrupt,

has to literally crash and burn lost his longtime and girlfriend, a week. At that time, he came to he needed to balance his system.

Toning

Your
is a

Body
very important
are

your physical activity. your body as part of the process. The good way you look after you lose the excessweight. is that if you tone your body, it will start to regain its shape much faster, and news will even before you get down to your desired look better Too often weight. you an it think that if aren't extensive exercise won't doing program, help. people they it and is true that the calories burn the faster easier it more exercising, Although you is to lose weight, aerobic exercise isn't a substitute a toning for program. To tone your body, you should do exercises for your arms, back, and chestby and do stomach crunchesand leg extensions to firm up the dumbbells, using light and There that discuss buttocks. are books how to abdomen, hips, good many each the The each exercise of is to do for part goal high repetitions properly body. times with If can't do an exercise fifteen without to exercise, hurting yourself. you twenty a dumbbell, then you are using too much If have an other or weight. injury you health concern, always seek the assistanceof a health care professional before
inclined
If you

to lose a lot of weight, you vou may not like the flabby

Toning your body you become olderand

part

of

the

weight-loss

process,

to reduce

need

to tone

especially as are going If you don't,

beginning

an

exercise

program.

Two common

are time and

should

problems
As

that

interfere

with

mamtaining
daily

motivation.

far

as time

is concerned, the
minutes you

take

no

done

to do a simpleexercise program,

while you

than fifteen to thirty are watching television.If

more
do

program we recommend
it

any exercise

program
can

are

having

to complete, and trouble motivating

be

the

following

treatment

to enhance your efforts:

yourself

166

Energy

Tapping

Enhancing

Your
a

Motivation
when

to Exercise home and

you

1.

Imagine

situation

exercise, even though it will take motivation on a scale of 0 to 10,with unmotivated to do the exercises and 0

you come
just
10

have

no

motivation

to

fifteen minutes.
representing

Rate your level of

are

that
you

exercise.

indicating that

you are highly motivated highly

Side

to
of

2. Treat for
Hand
\"I exercise.\"

the

possibility

of reversal

(SH) or rubbing the

It

while SoreSpot (SS)

by tapping
little

repeatedly on the
or

thinking

3.

to tap the SH or rub the SS while saying, \"I all with accept myself my problems and limitations.\" the Now look at the chart and at diagram25 to identify locations for the meridians for Under Eye (UE), Under Collarbone (UCB), and Eyebrow (EB). While five times at about thinking your lack of motivation to exercise,tap in the following each of these meridian points.Tap them order: l->2->3->2. Note: The UCB is listed twice. Tap only hard enough to feel it. The tapping

deeply

accept myself even also may be helpful

though I have

or saying three times, no motivation to

shouldn'tcause
4.

any

pain.

should motivation on a 0 to 10 scale(a number just pop into is no decrease, go back to step 2 and cyclethrough the three this is probably If there is not a decrease after sequence again. attempts, not the appropriate sequence this or else there is another for situation, that needs correction. (See step 8.) belief (i.e., reversal) sabotaging

Again,

rate your

your mind). If

there

5.

Balancer (BB) by tapping repeatedly on the Back of Hand do the Brain while (BH) rotating your eyes clockwise, rotating your eyes counterclockwise, then humming a tune, counting to five, and again. humming
Next,

6. Repeat
7.

Again, When need

the tapping sequence l->2->3->2. 0 rate your level of motivation from

the

distress

is
even

within

the

0 to

to repeat
motivation\342\200\224or

the treatment
while

of

complete

relief from
as there
until

the distressfulsituation. increase in your level of

motivated
feel

several timeswhile you you are in the actual

2 range,

should be lower yet. to go step 9.Sometimes you'll

to

10. It

are

imagining

your
you

lack
feel

situation\342\200\224before

8.

As

long

is an
you

motivation,

continue
treatment

with
stalls

the
any

treatment

to exercise. If
by
\"I

the

at

point, this indicates

Side
9. When

of

Hand

(SH)

though I still have

some of

a mini-reversal.Treat this while saying three times,

this

tapping
deeply

on the little
accept

finger
even

myself,

problem.\"

the level of distress is 0 to 2, consider doing the Eye Roll (ER) to lower the distress further the treatment effects. To do this, tap on the or to complete Back of Hand (BH), hold your head and, moving only your eyes, straight, the look at the floor and then slowly raise your eyes up toward ceiling.
you complete
should

Once

these treatments, you

this

exercise.You
You can

use

use these sametreatments

will feel much more motivated to time desire lose to exercise. procedure you your any an average or more ambitiousexercise to achieve

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an

Effective

Weight-Loss

Strategy

167

Diagram

Twenty-Five:

Motivation

TreatmentSequence
Meridian

for

Enhancing

Your

Motivation

Location
1

Under Eye (UE)

Under
Eyebrow

Under

the

center

of the

eye on

tip

of

bone

Collarbone
(EB)

(UCB)

2
3

Once inch below collarbone near throat Beginning of eyebrow near bridge of

nose

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Energy Tapping

program. Your
four

goal shouldbeto dothe

toning

program

on a
help

times

a week.

get in better shape faster.

Any additional exercise you

do will

regular basis, three or you to lose weight and

Summary
behaviors can destroy the best diet plans by diet. about is preventing Although knowledge dieting you staying emotional issues that must be corrected to help you maintain important, it is the underlying but there is no reason your program. Losing weight is not going to be donefor you, diet exercise believe that are a or an You for to unable to stickto program. you you a sedentary must understand why you are overweight. and too Yes, lifestyle many Is fattening foods in your diet are a problem, but why do you have that lifestyle? have certain beliefs do or situations to or you your appearance really secondary you in that make it secondary? You need to resolve what causes overeating life, and your in is the best way to start is to use the personal 5. loss a chapter Weight profile and interactive which a of treatments to complex problem, energy may require variety balance your system and to help you to change lose If to weight. you your lifestyle rid continue of the using the energy treatments, you will eventually yourself in the tendencies that undermine sabotaging your ability to achieve your goals in life. And, it is that will inevitable lose end, weight. you
Sabotaging

thoughts

or

unhealthy

from

on your

CHAPTER

13

Eliminating

Addictive

Behaviors:

Smoking,

Alcohol,

Drugs,

and

Gambling
that alcohol, drug, and gambling addictions are a major and United States the world. account for untold throughout problem They in terms In of and health, addition, consequences money, happiness. productivity, in the lives of the addicted addiction can wreak havoc loved ones. Although person's as alcohol destructive and drugs, it tobacco addictionis not as psychologically as continues to a health do mostaddictions. problem, represent major is a dependence When Addiction on a mind-altering substance or activity. you with are addicted, you and your body associate or tobacco alcohol, gambling, drugs, the alleviation of anxiety and other uncomfortable emotional states. In essence, A a is the fundamental addiction is dependence \"tranquilizer.\" upon goal of the addiction elimination of uncomfortable feelings. become addicted in the first place? The fact is that many people do people Why addicted use emotion-altering substancesand engagein activities without becoming can them. due causes becomea to to Addiction,however, (as is hereditary problem the case with alcohol as well as substance is when an addictive or addiction) activity the have a with reduction discomfort. Some or of paired people family history that sets them up for the developmentof addiction, due both to genetic and genealogy causes. had with If many have environmental people in your extended family problems this result a that we in Notice to develop addiction. addiction, predisposition may Even if and said predisposition, not inevitability. in your family many people this does not mean that you will become addicted too. were or are addicted, ancestry There's plenty of room for choice. And with energy psychology, there's plenty of
It

is

common

knowledge

in the

room

for hope.

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that however, you may develop an addiction.Keepin mind, than the simple of addictionis moreinvolved stimulus-response. that the addiction itself is not the obvious up somewhat, it becomes True enter once you are addicted, all sorts of problems primary problem. enough, these the and need be dealt with But most fundamental to too. life, problem is your the way you cope with those original and continuing uncomfortable feelingsof stress, are the result and so forth. To a large extent,these feelings of anxiety, depression, what may be referred to as perturbed which causes a in thought, disruption your For example, body's energy system. you may have the thought that your life is it is true stagnant. To hold this thought in mind without believing that cannot simply cause a disturbancein and of itself. However, if for whatever reasons you believethat the is valid, it may result in a feeling of anxiety or despair. Thosefeelings, of thought can add it even more to your difficulties, possibly making course, significantly that your life will be productive. unlikely Chronic uncomfortable feelings generally do not help you to move your life in a positive direction.Most often, such feelings interfere with your ability to get in touch affect with such as your hope and courage, and resources, your ability to plan your an effective As noted, perturbed thoughts result in a disruption in course of action. that, in turn, causes chemical, neurological,and your body's energy system that further the behavioral challenges from contribute to the problem.Removing disruption these core thoughts that the addiction trigger process is a primary key to recovery. This is where energy psychology techniquescan to overcome help you your addiction.
uncomfortable

a behavioral From involves pairing. perspective, the development of addiction That is, if you are stressed, in and or other bored, uncomfortable, ways depressed, suchas resort an or to to distraction, alcohol, drugs, gambling you emotion-altering alleviate these feelings, you will increasinglyturn to that substance or activity to cope states. This is what is referredto as a stimulus-response bond. The with those emotional be triggered all and stimulus of emotional discomfort, which may internal sorts of by external cuesor triggers, is paired with a substance or activity, which is the response. This response is reinforced because it is accompanied by an alleviation of the
feelings.

In time,

the development If we back

Comprehensive
Although comprehensive

Treatment
treatments

energy treatment

recommend twelve-step programs such as Alcoholics Anonymous, and Gamblers Anonymous. Theseprogramsprovide a Anonymous, the addicted wonderful a fellowship that assists person in many steps to support system, their need for abstinence, making amends for past recovery, includingrecognizing and a to the welfare wrongdoing, developing relapse prevention plan, contributing have a and For those who of on others, focusing spiritual development. sobriety
therapy,

are helpful to recovery, chronicaddictionsrequire a in intensive individual and family Besides involvement approach.

we

highly

Narcotics

difficult

time

with

perhaps
but

seeing
focuses

for Sobriety(SOS), which

also

the spiritual component of programs it as a religious denominationof sorts,

enlists

suchas
there

Alcoholics

Anonymous,

is Secular

many

principles

similar

to the

on scientific

approaches

to overcomingaddiction.

above organizations,

Organizations

Tiinating

Addictive

Behaviors:

Smoking, Alcohol,

Drugs,

and

Gambling

71

It is
scientific

imperative
evidence

that

the

addicted

person

practice

abstinence. There
user

that

extreme alcoholor drug dependence. is considerable In there fact, clinical evidence to the contrary. This also seems to hold true for people who have beenaddicted and even to gambling tobacco. Therefore, we highly recommend that if have had a with seduced not become addiction, you problem you by any claims that it is possible If you start to to occasionally drink, use drugs, gamble,or smoke. in believe that you can occasionally these remember that this is an activities, engage In that and of addiction leads to Alcoholics Narcotics aspect relapse. Anonymous talk about of the addict's \"Slick,\" who is the addictive part Anonymous they Slick is at that can have just one, that into personality. deceiving you very good believing you deserve to drink or no one will that ever and similar other use, know, manipulations. you This is all an aspectof addictive and relapse. It is also consistentwith what thinking refers to as reversal. energy psychology psychological it is crucial for the addicted person to use the personal (see Additionally, profile and treat beliefs and behaviors that may be the sourceof their chapter 5) to identify imbalance. This process, used in combinationwith the reduction energy urge treatments and reversal treatments that will follow, psychological help to break up the
have experienced
be used we provide energy psychology and relatedtechniques that can other therapeutic approaches. Thesetechniques will help you to eliminate addictive urges and support your If you start to have recovery process. that you repeat the treatment that is relapse-relatedthoughts, it is important process
In

a person

can become a

socialdrinker or drug

is no good
once

they

addictive pattern.
this

chapter,

to augment

in this chapter.

Psychological
As

Reversals
throughout to getting
to

we

have

noted

primary

obstacles

reversed,

addictive level even though you know that what are bad a is In when you are reversed, treat for sense, you doing you. you something it were helping you. This type of faulty that is bad as though it is goodor as though draws you back to addictive use even for a after thought process you have abstained time. reversed effective of otherwise period Being psychologically prevents It is important to avoid becoming psychologically reversed treatments if from working. the it are remain achieve to on roadto from addiction. To is this, going you recovery the to treat yourself for reversalson a regular basis. initial important During phase of it is the to correct reversals recovery, important frequently throughout day, even as as once a alarm often an hour. This can easily be prompted wrist to sound setting by whatever means or other every hour, by you might prefer. The importanceof regularly reversal is highlighted by the treating psychological was one who addicted This did not o f woman to medication. experience pain patient have a pain problem,but narcoticswereher drug of choice. After she went through the energy treatment described this woman's below, urges could be reliably in sessions and independently on her own.Unfortunately, had alleviated both this woman her to refuse to use the treatment a psychological reversal that caused time an every
gambling\342\200\224you continue

regardless of the
use

substance or activity\342\200\224smoking,
at an

this book, psychological reversals are frequently over any problem. When are you psychologically
alcohol,

the

drugs,

or

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Tapping

urge

occurred.
the

When
urge

she was
reduction
this

asked why
woman
for

she

chose

to take
don't
of

implement

treatment, she
her

said, \"I
state
this
of

use

pain pills rather than that all the time. It

reversal,

works!\"Obviously,
preferred
recovery

when

was in a
(the
correct

doing what was bad

(the

psychological

she

drugs)
for

treatment).

As she

became aware

to something

reversed, she was ableto consistently

way

the

that could support be psychologically to tendency reversal and then be well on her
most frequently
with

to

recovery.

There
In addition

addicted individuals.

are certain types of reversals that appear to the reversals coveredin chapter 6, the

addiction.

reversals

below

commonly

affect

Deprivation
With

Reversal

are not engaged reversal, deprivation you feel terribly deprived when you is whining. addiction. It's as though your unconscious To treat this reversal, three while or thinking tap on the Side of Hand (SH) or rub the Sore Spot (SS) saying I'll I even feel if over times, \"I deeply accept myself though deprived get my addiction to (name etc.).\" e.g., alcohol, drugs, gambling, your addiction,

in your

Identity Reversal
With

identity

reversal,

the addiction
Hand

has become a
(SH) accept

treat this reversal,

saying

tap on the Side of

three

or rub myself

or
of

a part

thinking
my

times,

\"I

deeply

on the Sore Spot (SS)while even though this addiction is

part of

your

personality.

To

identity.\"

Self-Acceptance

When

doing these
\"I

have corrections,some people

difficult
they

time
really

statement,
helps being

deeply

themselves. This
to able

is all the morereason why

accept

myself,\"

because

they realize that

this

don't

making the accept

instill

a deeper sense of self-acceptance, to get over any problem.

phrase which

should is an

time, it important aspect of

be used. In

Developing
Some

Emotional
one of
to

Commitment

was highly addicted to nicotine. of Energy Tapping time he would muster up of packs cigarettes daily. Every the he to enable him to habit would of enough disgust quit repulsive smoking, relapse. eventually preceding relapse, all of the reasons for quitting smoking Immediately became after he was again less significant, more foggy, and even forgotten. Only
time

He smoked

ago,

the authors

two

three

for smoking at an addictive level did the originalreasons all \"It Mark ain't too To Twain, again, apparent. paraphrase

quitting

become,

once

hard

I've doneit a hundred

Certainly,

to quit smoking;
The
forgot

times.\"

it isn't
that

eventually realized
reasons

easy to remain
he

substance-freewith

any

addiction.
continually

author
the

started

he quit in the first

place. Just before his next attempt

smoking

again because he

at

quitting,

he wrote

\"\"iinating

Addictive

Behaviors:

Smoking,

Alcohol,

Drugs,

and

Gambling

73

the like reasons, which included following: clothing smelling mouth every morning, fear of a heart attack, wasted money, considerabletensionat the end of the day after smoking excessively, being controlled and concerns, tending to plan his day around when cigarettes, complaints family by he can have his next cigarette,and so on.Upon he list carried this quitting smoking, with at all times, realizing that at some point his motivation him fade and would his emotional commitment to not reviewing these reasons would help him reactivate him to be successful.To simply is what smoke.Theemotional commitment allowed consider it to be a fairly good idea to quit or to alleviate any other addiction smoking in life is but have a it is quite one to emotionalcommitment about thing, strong your

down

a list
bad

of his

cigarettes,

taste

in his

another.
In this way, the author was results. His last his resolve to waver. anytime beginning and was than seventeen he has remaineda to more quit smoking attempt years ago, ever since. If energy psychology had been around at that comfortable nonsmoker it would have been a much easier task for him to quit. Now, he uses the energy time, treatments rare when return. for those very periods thoughts and urges to smoke These are in described detail below. techniques

ableto maintain

Ongoing emotional commitment

his

truly

yields

course

he found

Urge
The

Reduction
reduction

Treatments
described below can be used to treat any addictive and so on. The treatment tobacco, alcohol,drugs,gambling,

urge

treatments

will generally eliminatethe urge,sometimes and for extended sometimes briefly the urge is eliminated and you find that resurrect to periods. Once cannot it, it is time you in your directions life. This is a very focus on developing new and more positive and if you cannot do it on your own, you process, important part of the treatment and support groups. As you use should seek the assistanceof qualified professionals a the the treatment on basis, sequences regular period of time that you remain urge-

urge,

including

urges for

free will continueto increase.

Complex Urge Reduction

1.

Treatment

If you

are currently
think

10 scale,
Otherwise,

the 10 representing

the level
2.

of

rate it on a 0 to experiencing an addictive urge/craving, level 0 of and highest urge indicating no urge. a situation that tends to trigger urgesfor you and rate about
urge.
of reversal on the Side of by tapping repeatedly the Sore Spot (SS) while three times, or thinking saying even though I have this urge.\"It alsomay be helpful the SS while with all my saying, \"I accept myself

that

Treat
Hand
\"I

for the
(SH)

possibility

deeply

to tap
problems

the SH or rub
and

or rubbing accept myself

limitations.\"

3. Look at
Little

the chart
(LF).

points Under E\\e

Finger

and at diagram 26to identify

(UE),

the

locations
Arm

for the
(UA),

meridian
and

Under

Collarbone

(UCB), Under

While

meridian points. Tap

thinking
them

about the
in

urge, tap

the

following

of these order: !->2->3->4->3->2->l.

five

times

at each

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Energy

Tapping

2 (UCB)

SS or
for

Sore Spot
or

Massive

Recurring

Reversals

Diagram

Twenty-Six:

Complex

Urge

Reduction

Treatment
Meridian

Sequence for Complex Urge Reduction

Location

Under

Eye

(UE)

1 2
3

Under One
Six

Under

Collarbone (UCB)
(UA)

of eye on tip inch under collarbone

center under
of

of

bone

near throat
on the

Under Arm
Little

inches

armpit
fingernail

Finger

(LF)

Inside tip

little

side

rninating

Addictive

Behaviors:

Smoking, Alcohol,

Drugs,

and

Gambling

75

4.

5.

in the Note: The UE, UCB, and UA are repeatedtwice sequence. Tap only hard enough to feel it. The tapping shouldn'tcause any pain. should (a number Again, rate your addictive urge on a 0 to 10scale just pop back 2 into your mind). If there to and is no decrease, go through step cycle which is the sequence three again. If there is not a decrease after attempts, on to the Reduction Treatment. rare, go Urge Highly Complex at the Back of Hand Next, do the Brain Balancer(BB) by tapping repeatedly (BH) while rotating your eyes clockwise, rotating your eyes counterclockwise, and then humming a tune, counting to five, then humming again.

6. Repeat the
7.

Again,

rate

l->2-\">3->4->3->2->l. tapping sequence is a decrease, continue your urge from 0 to 10. If there
until there

with

the

treatment

sequence

is

very

little

or

no addictive

urge remaining.
Treat

(See step 9.)

8.

If

at

any
\"I

this by

times,
the

tapping on the
deeply

point

treatment

(SH) while saying three finger I still have this urge.\"Then repeat even accept though myself until there is very little or no urge left.
little

the urge

stops decreasing,this
Side

indicates

a mini-reversal.

of Hand

9.

When
further

or

(BH),hold your
and

the urge level is to complete the

head

0 to 2, do the Eye

Roll

(ER)

the raise your eyes up toward ceiling. If the urge should return at a later these treatments. In time, the time, repeat will less and less are recurrence of addictive become frequent. When urges you it to resurrect the urge after this overall is best to avoid unable treatment, doing become involved in activities thinking about your addiction. Onceyou are urge-free, that far removed are from the addiction. the Reduction Treatment effectively reduces most Although Complex Urge at it addictive urges, times proves to be insufficient. In this case, a more is needed, follows. comprehensive treatment such as the one that

treatment effects. To do this, tap and, moving only your straight,

to decrease the urge on the Back of Hand

eyes, look at

the

floor

then slowly

Highly

Complex
you

Urge

Reduction
highest

Treatment urge/craving, rate it on a scale level of urge and 0 indicatingno that tends to trigger urges for you,
urge.

1.

If

are

of 0 to

the 10, with 10 representing

currently

experiencing
about
and

an addictive

urge.
really
Hand
\"I

Otherwise,

think

a situation the

think

about
the

it,

rate

level of that

2. Treat for
to tap the
problems

possibility

(SH) or rubbing accept myself deeply

SH or rub

of reversal by tapping repeatedly on the Side of while or saying three times, the Sore Spot (SS) thinking even though I have this urge.\"It also may be helpful with all my the SS while saying, \"I accept myself

and

limitations.\"

3. Look at points

Under

the chart and at diagram for Eyebrow (EB),Side of

Bottom

Lip

(UBL),

Under

the locations of the meridian (SE), Under Eye (UE), Under Nose (UN), Eye Collarbone (UCB), Under Arm Under (UA),
27 to

identify

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Energy Tapping

SS

or Sore Spot Reversals

for Massive or
Recurring 8(UB)

7(UA)

10
\\ \303\266t

(MF)

(IF)

11

12<T)

Diagram

Twenty-Seven:

Highly

Complex

Urge Reduction

Treatment
Meridian

Seq

uence

for Highly
Location

Complex Urge
of

Reduction

Eyebrow

(EB)

Side of

Eye (SE)
Eye

Under
Under

(UE)

1 2 3
4

Beginning

eyebrow
on

Side

of

eye

bony

near bridge of nose orbit near temple

eye

Nose

(UN)
(UCB)

Under the centerof Under nose and above

Under
Under

on
upper

tip

of bone
lip

Under Bottom Lip (UBL)

Under

bottom

Collarbone

lip in cleft of chin collarbone next to chest bone

armpit

Under
Little

Arm (UA)
Finger

Six inchesunder
Directly

Under Breast (UB)

(LF)

under
of of

breast
little middle

on rib
on the

Middle

Finger (MF)

10

Inside tip Inside tip

Tip
thumb

fingernail fingernail

side

Index Finger (IF)

Thumb

11

of index
tip

fingernial on the side nearestthe

of thumbnail

(T)

12

Outside

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Energy

Tapping

alcoholby
\"pain
feeling, he

For example,
using
of

one patient was having

urge

excellent
At

results
times,

relieving

the desire
he experienced

for
a
the

the

reduction
that

treatment.

however,

He said that although that the feeling would return oncehe was sober again. Although this man's feeling certainly had much to do with the events of his life, his first step which involved the energy treatments for depression, worked rapidly implementing to eliminate his \"emptiness\" he began to fill his life with positive Then, feeling. in such as becoming involved Alcoholics Anonymous, satisfying work, and elements, and the Of course, this took some time. With dedication loving relationships. healthy, help of energy psychology,however, his life improved dramatically.
go away.\"
also

deep feeling

\"emptiness\"

would

cause him to consider drinking to make that drinking would settle the he knew

knew

Summary In this chapter,

we have covered treatment

with

for

addictive

urges
urges.

reversals
regular basis

that

interfere

can

go a
to

is often
trauma,

related
guilt

long way
other

toward eliminatingaddictive
issues,

recovery

commitment. such as

Using these treatments

Addiction,
other

and psychological

on a

however,
chapters

emotional

comprehensive

we that you address it a recommend you have an addiction problem, make way. Besides utilizing the techniques coveredin this book, Your life and happiness, as well as the livesand other positive, healthy life decisions.

feelings,

and

energy

in toxins. These areas are covered

social anxiety, depression, anger,

of
in

this book. If

happiness

of

those

you

love,

are at stake.

CHAPTER

14

Satisfying

Relationship

as to written about male-female relationshipsare very revealing of their primary Americans approach and deal with the dynamics Hate Women and the Women connections. Consider titles such as: Intimate Enemies,Men Who Are from Who Love Them, Men Are from Mars and Women Venus, Perfect Husbands and Make Your Partner Other Tales, Why You Can't or Won't Fairy Happy, and How To Make Fall in Love with Based on titles such as these, it would our You. seem Anyone on a battlefield, where the people we love hate us and are from different occur relationships about partners, but we refuse to make the partners in planets. We fantasize perfect in the end, we still want to be loved by them. If our relationships even though, happy are having not be foreign to you. you problems in your relationship, these ideasmay Most of us, however, still want to be in a successfulrelationship. books Therearemany best-selling on the topic of relationshipsthat offer good to rise above ideas and strategies. In the end, however,your emotions negative ability is the and self-sabotagingthoughts primary key to your relationship success.This behaviors that will keep your will you to choose the right person and to develop help in the direction. Your and growing right relationship is not a relationship strong that is from it is an Instead, you. ongoing \"thing\" separate activity in which you are for and to the actions of actions your responses your partner. responsible your
The

titles

of books

how most

Relationships\342\200\224good,

bad,

or

nonexistent\342\200\224are of

the

most

important

and

complex aspects

your

life.

It could
represent

easily be

argued that

families

are

the core

the

foundation

of our

society. Yet, in many ways,

of all relationshipsand
foundation

that

is falling

apart.

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Energy

Tapping

million couples get divorced, and their children are separated To some divorce or parents. degree, every breakup of a is a is an traumatic event.It never decision. The long-term relationship easy of a termination is often a of and is decided over time long period relationship commonly and loss. Each person involved in the breakup accompanied by anger, frustration, must an important relinquish part of their life, and certainly raising children as a is much harder and more single parent emotionally draining than it is with a loving partner. On the othersideof the relationship coin are the growing number of people in in their thirties and forties who have not found life. also their partner struggle They with their and doubt about why they are not in a relationship. frustration They wonder if with them. Although people is wrong they are doing something wrong or what continueto strive for and seek relationships, they often behave in ways that sabotage
Each

year

more than a

from at least

one of

their

themselves.

to thoroughly are Although specific treatments for bad relationships and creating good ones,this is not a simple task. fixing The quality of your is a reflection of how you feel about yourself and, relationships how to around you. Therefore, of the treatments from relate those that, you many that will help to improve your have been examined in previous relationships already In this common issues are addressed and chapters. chapter,however, relationship treatment that are have usefulto sequences provided proven especially relationships.
exclusively issue.

It would take an entire bookdevoted cover this complex subject and important

to relationships

there

When forgiveness,

we and

think

of \"healthy come to giving

the
conflict,

words
anger,

are quite
resentment,

different, including hatred, misunderstanding, intolerance, sadness, frustration, and vindictive behavior.What happens?
that

tolerance, relationships,\" words such as love, caring, mind. When relationships are not healthy, however,
long-term

One
into degenerate

an

common endless
determine

situation is battle about

or

marital

the relationship. The

strategiesand behaviors usedto gain

the success

controlling what you and your

or failure
of

relationships
partner that

often
have

to do in

control,

even

issues discussed in
knowledge.
popular
there

temporarily,

will

your

this

book,

books

It may behoove you and on the market. Unfortunately,

truly

relationship

those

problems
you

the

relationships have not

is another

affected

the

divorce

As is true of all the of can come partly from a lack love for you to read a few of the best-sellers written about numerous rate. This obviously indicates that
relationships.

In energy psychology, we believethat and psychological imbalances energy in ways that can benefit their relationships. reversals prevent people from behaving and reinforce poor judgment as behaviors Self-sabotaging thoughts may temporarily in a manner that angers and createsan energy well as allow peopleto behave imbalance in their which complicates the problem even further. partner, The selected that are examined in this chapter includechoosing the topics too into a loneliness, blame, wrong person, plunging quickly relationship, rage, and abusive obsessions, dynamics. In addition, somecommon relationship relationship behaviors are explored, including nagging, anger, and feelings relationship and vindictive behavior. Effective treatment sequences are provided frustration, rejection,
for

problem.

each.

* Satisfying

Relationship

181

Developing
Anyone

Relationships
pick

can

the wrong

person choose

choosing people who are not

to

has a quality you one wrong person

person with whom to be in relationship,especiallyif This is only a problem if immediatelyfind attractive.

that you

after another, over a number of

appropriate

years.

In

effect,

you keep has a

is

push them away before you get to know them and other attractive the problem of choosing the wrong person their qualities. Although in be true for their can someone more of an issue for people twenties, it is usually who are over thirty of about you is true years age. In the end, you must decidewhat Y our and a and your relationshipbehaviors. friends source of valuable family can be information about what you do in this area in your life. of an endless The problem can be in the form string of short-term relationships or becoming involved that you know are ultimately in long-term not relationships to work. Of course, if you are psychologically reversed on this problem, it can going blind in of your life. If you repeatedly fall you to what is really going on in this part love and end up brokenhearted, you are most likely the relationship sabotaging part of your life. The first step in treating relationship issues with energy is to deal psychology to complete with any possiblereversals and the energy treatments for other problem Todothis in a thorough manner, review chapters 5 and 6 to identify areas. any believe are blocking your success or creating sabotagingbeliefs. The next problems you that to is to the situation needs Some identify relationship change. examples step
especially

rejectingthe right type of people. In quality that you do not find immediately
appealing

partners attractive,

for

you, while
\"right

these situations,

the

simultaneously
of person\"
that

type

or they

lack a

trait

you,

so you

include:

\342\200\242 I

rarely

get seek

involved

in long-term
with

relationships.
who

\342\200\242 I often \342\200\242 I tend

relationships

men/women

use

me.

make
\342\200\242 I find \342\200\242 I

to choose me feel. it very bored very often

partners based on

looks/money/power and not on how they love.

difficult

to find anyone I

get

\342\200\242 I am \342\200\242 I am

give up on relationships. good picky and chase many partners away.

easily and involved
with

men/women

who

make

me feel that

I'm not good

is

enough.
The

list

happening

need to

can be endless. It is up to you in the relationship

possible

to you to figure out, in your own words,what

category.Once
underlying

you

select

the

situation,

identify

reversals

(i.e.,

beliefs) such

as:
treat

then you

\342\200\242 I don't \342\200\242 I don't \342\200\242 I'll

deserve deserve be in

to be

married or to have a mate. a relationshipwith

that

to be in

men/women

who

me right.

never

a relationship

works.

182

Energy Tapping

\342\200\242 I won't \342\200\242 It's

do what

it

takes

impossible

for me I am

relationship. to find anyone who I love romantically.

to

be in

a good

\342\200\242 I don't \342\200\242 It would \342\200\242 I would \342\200\242 It's

feel

good enough to have a

be unsafe be deprived possible relationships easily

long-term relationship. for me to have a secure relationship.

in other

not

ways if I got married. for me to commit to one person.

with people

\342\200\242 I seek \342\200\242 I become

who intimidate me. who don't

intimidate

bored

with people

me.

Psychological

Reversals

There are
treatment

before

have multiple
treatment

problems and your

reversal
saying
or

four reversals or sabotaging situations that you use the energy sequences to deal with
relationship

you

should

consider for
If you

a specific

for

a massive and

that will never given up and believe you resolve a specific relationshipproblem, the treatment for a deep-level reversal. You can apply this strategy to the then use or saying on the Under Nose (UN) and yhinking relationshipas a wholeby tapping the following statement three times, \"I deeply accept myself if I never have a at an unconscious Another concern is that, level, you successful, loving happy, relationship.\" have cometo believe that don't deserve to have a good relationship. Forthis, tap you under your bottom lip (UBL) while thinking or saying three times, \"I deeply directly even if I don't deserve to have a successful,happy, accept myself loving my

while thinking
problems

(briskly rub the

times, \"I deeply If you have
will

SoreSpot (SS) on
and

is only

one of

them, then use the

the

problem.

three
that

profoundly

left side of the chest accept myself with all

limitations'').

find the right

person, or

you

never

relationship.\"

Most

problems

can be

may be important in treating your type as a or such as having a whole relationship problem any specific aspects of the problem, to toward or a to cheat. become desire tendency your having angry partner that reversal corrections Remember corrections are not necessarily permanent. Repeated may There are many be\342\200\224and usually are\342\200\224necessary. problems that can negatively affect the and longevity of relationships, including painful memories, vibrancy relationship and more. loneliness, rejection,

reversal (tap on the

resolved by using the

of reversal

treatment

sequence

for

a specific

SH).This

Painful
When

Relationship Memories
have

you

a memory
can

of a

past relationship where you

from

were

hurt

very
have

badly, you may

an uncomfortable

current relationships. This turned out

unconsciously prevent yourself

be
at

being

hurt

the case
times,

even if you feel no

wish

again by

memory and,
In memories,

addresses

differently.

these and

painful

situations, treat that

relationship could have should refer to chapter 8, which you

the previous

pain now, but

sabotaging
still

problem.

So\"

sfying

Relationship

183

Loneliness

Feeling lonely
with
that of

or feeling that
you

you

are

unable

to be

alone and be comfortable

think

yourself
would Hand

can affect
distress

(SH)

while

though I am
Collarbone

unable to be alone.\"
about

potential relationships. To correctthis, and treat yourself for specific reversal. thinking or saying three times, \"I deeply
Then,

about

a situation

First,
accept
times

tap on

the Side

Hand (BH)while thinking

(UCB). you

tap

twenty
the

to
Brain

being

alone.

This

process until
chapter 8

may need feel comfortable

to be

followedby

Then, tap

five times on the

Balancer
being

thirty

even myself on the Back of

Under

and secure with

the idea of

(BB). Repeat this

alone.

(See

for

more

details.)

get
of

Rejection If you feel unable to deal in a relationship, involved

Hand

with
treat

any
yourself

rejection
for

(SH)

while

though I have this fear

following sequence: Collarbone

thinking
of

or saving
Then,

three times, \"I

and have given up even trying specific reversal. First, tap on the
deeply

to

Side
even

accept and

rejection.\"

(UCB).

Eyebrow This may feel

(EB), Under

need to
comfortable

process until you more details.)

be followed by the Brain that you can cope with

tap five times at each (UA) Eye (UE), Under Arm Balancer
rejection.

point in the
Under

myself

(BB). Repeat this 8 for (See chapter

Other Issues
be additional issues that indicate that you don't feel enough a to be in successful yourself you must identify relationship.In this situation, the exact problem, not or not feeling successful. Treat attractive feeling on yourself for reversal. the Side of Hand First, tap (SH) while specific thinking or saying
There

may

good

about

suchas
through

three times, \"I

If

deeply

accept

you

search

for most
a positive
relevant

of the

problemsthat
as

relationship. they

reversals,

You are encouraged, however, to treat often block the development of healthy

even though I have this problem.\" myself the previous chapters, you will find treatment sequences be blocking may you from developing and maintaining
yourself

daily

for

relationships.

Choosing

the
we

Wrong

Partner
sequences.

In this
As

section,

will present

noted,
if

relationship
there

The following
treatments

scenarios provide man}' but can examples, you are additional problems that need correction.

two case studies and appropriate treatment treatments are much more complex than most
substitute

other

issues.

other

The Story of
Tara was

Tara:

Case

Study
woman

and liked to socialize, periodically in The men power positions.

a bright, attractse, successful

had
ones

who

had

she

short-term chose to

relationships.

never been married, Tara was attracted to

be with, however,

misled or cheated

184
on

Energy

Tapping

her.
make

The problem
made

was
same

that

continually

the

to

those

men stopped callingor broke off the relationship. of there could be a number for this situation, in this case, Tara reasons Although was choosing the of man for her. Shewas a woman who wrong type thoughtful very was interested in how people think and feel about situations in life. She also neededa man who would she to feel happy. One problem needed give her the attention that was that when she met men who showed a lot of interest in her, but were not the that she would she shut often down and become bored. She power types preferred, to them without know that because sheassumed weren't them, getting rejected they exciting enough. Interestingly, in her own life, Tara is very much like the average do is give men in less powerful person. What she didn't a chance. Instead, by positions the of man for she maintained a low that her, seeking wrong type self-image reinforced her belief that only by being with someonevery or successful could powerful she feel good about herself. The treatments for problems of this nature are complex, do not instantly and but can be done people change. There are numerous they steps, Once the treatments it a for Tara started to create new awareness quickly. began,
about

relationships

with those men didn't work, and she relationships of mistakes. alsouseda lot of her energy trying She type work. In the end, shefelt disappointed and hurt when the
her

men.

Choosing

the
the

Wrong
in a

Person:
sentence or
you feel

Treatment Option 1
always 0 to

1.

Define

problem
and

own
situation

words.

Rate the

two. It on a scale of problem

is best 10, with

of

to define
person

it

in

0 meaning

clear about the type

with

10 being the
for

worst
you.

your

2. Treat

ability to develop a of Hand (SH) or rubbing the or saying Sore Spot (SS) while thinking the problem three times. In Tara's it would be, \"I deeply case,for example, accept myself even though I need to be with men who I consider powerful and exciting.\"Another related reversal to correct may be, \"I deeply accept myself even though I prefer men/women who don't love me and who lower my self-image.\" Although this may to be at odds with what are trying to achieve, you must first appear you behavior before you can change it. accept your
your

for the specificreversals that interfere on good relationshipby tapping repeatedly

the Side

3.

Next,

balance

your

energy

to the

men/women
the

who are not

you, addiction

system to
but

orbeing help you stop seeking

you.

attracted

think was/is not good for

good for
with

Think

about

whom
covered

Use relationship.
this

treatments

you sought (or still seek) a in chapter 13 to deal with

a person that

you

problem.
to

4. Again,
sequence

rate your attraction to 10 scale. If there is

again.

men/women

no decrease, If there is not a

decrease after
sequence

who are not good for you on a 0 back to step 2 and cyclethrough this go
three

either not an appropriate treatment

sabotagingbelief (i.e.,reversal)

that

needs

then this is attempts, or there is another else you, correction. (See step 8.)
for

Satisfying

Relationship

85

5.

Next,
(BH)

do the
while

then counterclockwise,

Brain Balancer(BB) by tapping repeatedly on the Back of clockwise, rotating rotating your eyes your eyes a tune, counting to five, and humming again. humming
of distress from 0 to 10.It shouldbe lower 0 to 2 range, go to step 9. Sometimes you'll
you

Hand

6. Repeat

step 3.
rate

7.

Again,

your

level

yet.

When
need

the distress repeat

complete

is within the treatment

while from

the

to

concern\342\200\224or even

several times while you are imagining you are in the actual situation\342\200\224before
problem.
your

your
feel

relief

this

8. As long
stalls

in as thereis a decrease until

level

of distress,

continue with the

the

treatments

there

the Side of Hand (SH)while saying even though I still have some of this
9. When Back

at any

Treatthis point, this indicates a mini-reversal.

three

is very

little or

If no distress remaining.

treatment tapping

by

on

times,

\"I

deeply

accept

myself,

problem.\"
the

the distress
and

distress further
of Hand
at

is 0 to 2, consider doing
to complete
head

the treatment
straight,

look
10. This

(BH), hold your

and

the

floor

then slowly

raise your eyesup toward

Eye Roll (ER) to lower the effects. To do this, tap on the and, moving only your eyes,
the

ceiling.

is a complexproblem that additional treatments. The next step requires is to treat the \"lack of interest\" that you feel about men/women that would be best for you (unconsciously, think case, you know who they are). In this about a person whom you like, but for whom don't feel an interest. you

Don't

doing is tuning
Treatment

worry,

you in

don't that

have feeling.

to date To treat

that

(MET) found in
treat
use

chapter 8.
MET

this problem,use the

of

specific

person,

what
Midline

you are
Energy

11. Next,

yourself. To do this,
yourself,
man/woman
\"I

you

should

for a
the

better sense
and intelligent

self

or

a positive
thinking

belief about
or

treatment

while

am

an who

attractive cares
this

until treatment should be repeated To determine this, rate from 0 to 5 the with five indicating that you this statement, it. a have this task. At believe Once to five, absolutely you completed you get it will be to treatment so that the this times, necessary positive belief repeat becomesan ongoingand active part of how you feel about yourself.
of you feel the validity level of your belief about

for me.\"

This

a person and I deserveto meet

saying

to

statement.

12.

Lastly,

you

must

doesn't

fit

12, while thinking about how

your

more patience when develop exact criteria. Use the treatment

you

you meet a new personwho

for

impatience

in chapter

feel

about

this

new person.

men/women
your eliminate

The primary goal

who

of

this

treatment

is

don't

reallv

care

sense

of self,
the

and keep you

stop

problem,

vou will be

you and, equally important, chasing the wrong people.

stuckin negative,unproductivebehaviors. Onceyou of more open to meeting the right type person for
the emotional

about you.

to stop wasting your energy on lower These situationscreatereversals,

damage

that

occurs

from

continually

186

Energy

Tapping

A Case Study old and had never been When to see us, he was forty-two came years Kyle married. He had a good job and enjoyed many hobbies that kept him active and would involved.He had a fear that if he were to get married, his wife never be satisfied or that she would be an emotionalwreck. Heimagined that he would spend all in of his time cateringto her needsand, lose his own lifestyle, one that he effect, in the past who exhibited He had been involved with several women really enjoyed. and that caused him to end thoserelationships. of those such In two behaviors, to avoid he really cared for the person, and he wanted relationships, going through the the next pain of separation again. Kyle felt confused and, in part, believedthat in a would have the same problems. woman behaved Perhapsunconsciously, Kyle manner that attracted or even sought them out to perpetuate his women, needy
The

Story

of Kyle:

sabotaging

beliefs.

Choosing

the
the

Wrong
in a
did
that

Person:
not

Treatment

Option
was

2
by two
all

1.

Identify

problem

statement such
work

as, \"I

traumatized
that

in life. Rate your level of distress from going to create problems your a to scale of 0 on 10, with 10 being the worst situation your past relationships and 0 meaning cause that trauma from past relationshipsdoesnot currently in problems your life.

relationships
are only

out.\" You also

believe

prior

men/women

2.

Treat

for

the

tapping on the Sideof

thinking

possibility three

of the
Hand

reversal

that

all

men/women

are the

(SH)

or rubbing

myself even if I believe yourself, \"I deeply accept in that all men/women will only create problems life.\" To treat the my reversalthat attract can never emotionally healthy people, tap the Under Nose you \"I three times while (UN) saying, deeply accept myself even if I can never
or

saying

times to

the Sore Spot (SS) while

same by

attract

men/women

who

are

emotionally

healthy.\"
you.

3. Think about a situation in your past relationshipsthat traumatized for trauma in chapter 10. treat this problem, use a treatment 4. Again, rate your distress about
(a

To

past

traumatic
If

mind). just again. step 2 and cyclethrough this sequence for three then this is either not an appropriate sequence you, attempts, that needs there is another sabotaging belief (i.e.,reversal) correction.
number

should

pop into your

there

on a 0 to 10 relationships is no decrease, go back If there is not a decrease after

scale
to

or else

(See

step 8.)

5. Next, do the
while

Brain

Balancer

(BB) by

6.

(BH) rotating your rotating your eyes clockwise, then humming a tune, counting to five, and humming Repeat step 3.
Again,

tapping repeatedly on the

eyes

Backof

Hand

counterclockwise,

again.

7.

the distress repeat

When level of distress from 0 to 10.It shouldbe lower yet. need to is within the 0 to 2 range, go to step 9.Sometimes you'll the treatment several timeswhile you are imagining concern\342\200\224or your
rate

your

* So'isfying

Relationship

187

even while you are from this problem.

in the actual situation\342\200\224before

you

feel

complete

relief

8. As

as there is a decrease in your level of distress, with the continue long is very little or no distress remaining. If the treatment treatments until there stalls at any point, this indicatesa mini-reversal. Treat this on the by tapping \"I little finger Side of Hand while three times, (SH) accept saying deeply even though I still have some of this problem.\" myself,

9. When

the distress level is 0 to 2, consider the doing Eye Roll (ER) to lower the distress further and to complete the treatment effects. To do this, tap on the Back of Hand (BH), hold your head and, moving only your eyes, straight, look at the floor and then slowly raise your eyes up toward the ceiling.
used these
that

treatments to get over his trauma about bad and relationships are the same and will ruin his lifestyle. The first behavior was treatment that he no longer sought women who were change he noticed after did when women and, needy needy approach him, he was able to see the problem and not become involved. He also started to view women he differently. Although has not yet found his mate in life, he feels much clearer about who he wants to date and he believes that he can become involved in a relationship again.
Kyle

his beliefs

all

women

Relationship

Obsessions
the

outside obsession is a complexproblemthat requires therapeutic help. But energy that can undermine your ability to obsessive behaviors psychologycan address many with marital obsession, the have a relationship. deals below Although the case study men who treatment could for example, dating, easily apply to those who are casually interest. continually call women who show no reciprocal

have the potential to create always attracted to lose all rational perspective when they feel is not mutual. They feel compelledto continually another person, even if the interest This of control the person loss blocks people and, in the extreme, to stalk phone to others. In the extreme, from moving on with their lives and from being attracted
lack

Relationships,or
Sometimes,

thereof,

obsessive

behaviors.

people

them.

The Story of Kim:

Kim's dating someone,
all

Case

Study
been

Kim is thirty-six
ugly

years old and has never

favorite

married.

the

dresses

she was

forced to wear as a bridesmaid and

about getting

topic

to talk

about is
this

Even when she is not her wedding. Shetalkedabout

what

she

would

do

differently. The details she provided

with wedding) revealedher obsession she was focused dating, obsessively

nonexistent event, married. Instead of

ashamed

and

embarrassed

that she

she received.Thesenegative If they did not about whom she would date. picky
every wedding invitation
think,

the perfect husband. She alsofelt was not married, and this feeling worsened with
on finding
feelings
fit

(her fantasized simply enjoying

made fantasy,

Kim then

her

extremely she would

\"Why

waste

my

time?\"

188

Energy

Tapping

Treatment

for

Obsession

1. Identify the obsessivebehavior in a statement suchas,\"I must get married.\" date men/women who Also, identify any beliefs, such as, \"I should only Think about a specific for marriage.\" clearly meet all my requirements rate your feelings of obsession on a scale of 0 to 10, with 10 being situation and and that you have no obsessivethoughts at 0 indicating completelyobsessed
a\303\274.

2.

belief with the appropriate treatment.If there are for for a massive reversal.Otherwise, multiple problems, yourself example, the the little Side Hand or rub Sore on of (SH) tap finger Spot (SS)while even though I am or saying three times, \"I deeply thinking accept myself next reversal involve the obsessed about married.\" The getting may finding the Side of Hand or rub the Sore To do husband/wife. this, (SH) perfect tap while or saying three times, \"I deeply (SS) Spot minking accept myself even if I am looking for the perfect husband/wife.\"
Treat

each

sabotaging
treat

3. Look at the chart and at diagram 28 to identify the locations for the meridian for Under Eye (UE) and Under Collarbone While (UCB). thinking points about the obsessive feeling, tap each of the meridian five times. Tap points UE is repeated them in the following order l->2->l. Note: The twice in the

sequence. Tap only hard enoughto feelit. The

pain.
Again,

tapping

shouldn't

cause

any

4.

on a 0 to 10 scale(a number should just 2 back to mind). go pop step and cycle decrease after three attempts, through the sequence again.If this is probably not an appropriate sequencefor you, or else there is another that correction. needs (See step 8.) sabotagingbelief (i.e.,reversal) 5. Next, do the Brain Balancer (BB) by tapping repeatedly on the Backof Hand (BH) while rotating your eyes clockwise, rotating your eyes counterclockwise, and then humming a tune, countingto five, humming again.
rate

your

feelings

of obsession
there

into your

If

is

no decrease, is not a there

tapping sequence l-\302\2732-\302\273l. It should be lower yet. 7. Again, rate your level of distress on a 0 to 10 scale. need When the distress is in the 0 to 2 range,go to step9.Sometimes to you'll are concern\342\200\224or the treatment severaltimeswhile repeat you imagining your feel complete relief even while you you are in the actual situation\342\200\224before this from problem. with the 8. As long as there is a decrease in your level of obsession, continue If the is obsession treatment until there little or no very remaining. sequence Treat this on the stalls at any point, this indicatesa mini-reversal. by tapping little finger Side of Hand while saying three times, \"I deeply (SH) accept I of this even still have some problem.\" myself, though
9. When
the the distress level is 0 to 2, consider doing Eye Roll (ER) to lower the distress further or to complete the treatment effects. To do this, tap on the Back of Hand (BH),hold your head and, moving only your eyes, straight, raise look at the floor and then slowly your eyes up toward the ceiling.

6. Repeat

Sc-

stying

Relationship

189

2 UCB)

SSor SoreSpot
for

Massive

or

Recurring Reversals

Diagram

Twenty-Eight:

Obsessive

Behaviors

Treatment

Sequence

for

Obsession

Meridian

Point
(UE)

Location
1

Under Eye
Under

Collarbone

(UCB)

Under the center of the eye on tip of throat One inch under collarbone near

bone

190

Energy Tapping

Because Kim was obsessed with getting her chancesof behaviors and beliefs sabotaged
Kim

married,
finding

she
the

was reversed
right

and her

eliminated her obsession with talk about her future She has not She no need to marriage. longer wedding. found her marriagepartner yet, but she feels more comfortable dating. She believes has had fun dating men whom she that she has started and to look at men differently
used

person

for herself.

the

above

treatments feels any

and eventually

previously

would

have

defined

as \"less than

perfect.\"

Identifying
The

Sabotaging

Beliefs

that may block of this exercise is for you to specifically beliefs identify any goal All have to do is use paper and pencil you your ability to have a good relationship. and start down your beliefs. They could be the list of traits you require your writing future You are to have or your beliefs about men or womenin general. partner the relationship that you desire, i.e., the beliefs that block you from having looking for one that will be truly successful. Here are a few examples:
\342\200\242 Men \342\200\242 Women \342\200\242 Women \342\200\242 Men \342\200\242 All \342\200\242

always are are are men

cheat. only never

after money. satisfied. in a

only care
will

interested about
want

woman's looks. me.

that are

is sex.
to control
of beliefs

He/she

Next, identify
example:
\342\200\242 I will \342\200\242 I am \342\200\242 I do \342\200\242 I am \342\200\242 It is \342\200\242 I'm

the

set

more specificallyabout
what I want.

yourself.

For

never not not too too

afraid

settle for

less

than

exactly

good enough to deserve old to

have a great relationship. to have a great relationship.

have a satisfying relationship. hard to find a relationship that works.

of coinrnitrnents.

\342\200\242 I can't

make
there

a relationship
are

work.
alleviate

Although relationship,

the

essential

and positive thinking. For example,if you think rational disputing that than 10 percent of all more old to married, get remembering you in the Center for the United States of involve over age forty (National marriages people will Health Statistics 1997)probably not affect your beliefs. You need to treat the self-sabotaging belief that you are too old to have a the successful, following reversals: loving relationship by addressing

of the

using the

belief with

energy

beliefs that can interfere with having is to goal identify them, target them, and then treatments.It may not be sufficient to simply try to
many

a positive them

by

talk

yourself

out

are too

Satisfying

Relationship

191

1. Tapping
deeply

on the Side of
myself

Hand

(SH)

while

accept

even though I

thinking or saying three times,\"I believe I'm too old to have a successful,

loving

relationship.\"
while

2. Tapping the Under Nose(UN)

deeply
successful,

accept
loving

myself

even though I

believe I'm too old

thinking

or

saying
to

three times,
ever

\"I

have

relationship.\"

3. Tapping
have

on the
deeply

Under
accept

Bottom

Lip

(UBL)

while

times.
a

thinking

\"I

successful,

myself even though loving relationship.\"

I believe

or saying three I'm too old to deserveto

Sometimes these

beliefswork in combination
partner

with

each

other.
that

Those who
they

are
not

unable
deserving

to

find

suitable

often believe
it's

that good relationship, that are and relationship, relationships

of a

(unconsciously)
for them

are

impossible

to have a

successful
and

unsafe.

These underlying

beliefs and concerns

sabotage
Often many
person

their

relationships.

people characteristics
with

relationship
doesn't

will meet someone who treats them well and that please them, yet they don't follow through that The surface rationale or excuse might person.
good

has

interests

in developing be that the

look

enough,
push often who

doesn't make
away happens have the

Deep inside, however, they treated that well. What

belief

second-bestmatches the feeling and belief that they have inside, an unconscious that drives them are to fail. To correct the beliefsand reversals that blocking in a must them sentence. Don't about identify being you, you worry exact\342\200\224you what know treat these reversals\342\200\224and you feel and believe. Once you may have you this a a while\342\200\224it do on basis for will free to daily up your thinking and feelings, and will less the time chasing spend wrong people. you

a looks, money, and excitement,along with energy seekingpartners knack for making them feel second-best.They this because made to feel do being

because they don't feel is that these people

enough money,

or

isn't
that

exciting
they

deserve

enough. to be

spend their time and

The Relationship
Another

Plunge
problem

type

of relationship

which

is the

are attracted to the person for various reasons person. In this case, you immediately such as their looks, style, mannerisms, fall or interests. You achievements, deeply in are love right away, and then later you come to realize that you and this person At not this some leave the to compatible. point, people repeat simply relationship, only the same mistake with someone else.Othersmakethe errorof sticking it out, living in a state of boredom or unhappiness. If you have an obvious desireto take the relationship plunge, you may scare Such the other behavior comes as across away person. needy, and the reason you time with desire to spend is clear. The following treatment not potential partner your will address to into too quickly. sequence your tendency plunge relationships

tendency to rush into a

referred to as the relationship relationshipbeforeyou really get to

might be

plunge,

know

the

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Energy

Tapping

Treatment

for
the too

the

1. Identify
happen

problem

quickly

or

feelingsof your need a scale of 0 to 10 scale,with about a specificsituation on highest obsession and 0 indicating no obsessive feelings
appropriate
2. Treat

situation and rate your

Relationship Plunge a in statement such as, \"I try to I always chase men /women

make
away.\"

relationships
Think

about

an the

to rush
10 at

into things

indicating all.

for the possibilityof reversal on the Side of Hand (SH) or by tapping \"I the while three Sore or times, (SS) rubbing Spot thinking saying deeply can be more You accept myself even though I rush into relationships.\" specific and use your own words. It also may be helpful to tap the SH or rub the SS while \"I with all and accept problems saying, deeply myself my
limitations.\"

3.

Look

at the

chart and

points
relationships/' following

for Forehead
tap order:

29 to identify the locations for Under Nose (UN), Under Bottom (F), Lip
at

diagram

the

meridian

(UBL), into

and

Chest (CH). While

five

thinking

or

shouldn'tcause
4.

of these meridian points.Tap them in the l-\302\2732-\302\2733-\302\2734. hard Tap enough to feel it. The tapping only
times

saying

aloud

to yourself.

\"I

rush

on each

any

pain.

feeling about the situation on a 0 to 10 scale (a number mind). If there is no decrease, go back to step 2 and three through again. If there is not a decrease after cycle sequence attempts, this is probably not an appropriate sequence for or else there is another you, that needs correction. (See step 8.) sabotagingbelief (i.e.,reversal) 5. Next, do the Brain Balancer (BB) by tapping repeatedly on the Backof Hand (BH) while rotating your eyes clockwise, rotating your eyes counterclockwise, then humming a tune, counting to five, and humming again. 6. Repeat the tapping sequence l-\302\2732-\302\2733-\302\2734.
Again,

rate your

should

just pop

into your

7.

rate Again, the distress

repeat the
even

your level of distress from is in the 0 to 2 range,

treatment

0 to

10. It
step

should be

lower yet.
you'll
complete

When

go

to

9. Sometimes feel

need to
relief

several

times

while

while

you

are in the

actual

you are

imagining your
you

concern\342\200\224or

situation\342\200\224before

from this problem.

8.

with the As as there is a decrease in your level of distress, continue long If the treatments until there is very little or no distress remaining. treatment stalls at any point, this indicatesa mini-reversal. Treatthis by tapping on the little finger Side of Hand while three times, \"I deeply (SH) accept saying I even though still have some of this problem.\" myself,

the distress level is 0 to 2, consider the doing Eye Roll (ER) to lower the distress further the treatment effects. To do this, and on to complete tap the Back of Hand (BH). hold your head straight, and, moving only your eyes, the look at the floor and then slowly raise your eyes up toward ceiling. The tendency to plunge into relationshipsoften a belief that are comes from you A never find sense not good enough or that someone to love. of desperation you'll When this is the case, that inner may strongly influence your approach to relating.
9. When

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193

2 (UN)

(UBL)

4(CH)

SS or Sore Spot for Massiveor

Recurring

Reversals

Diagram

Twenty-Nine:

Relationship

Plunge

Treatment Sequencefor Relationship Meridian Point

Location

Plunge

Forehead
Under

(F)

1 (UN)
2

One inch
Above

Nose

above and betweeneyebrows upper lip and below center of

nose

Under

Bottom Lip

(UBL)

3
4

In depression
Two

Chest (CH)

inches

between your lip and chin and between collarbones below

194

Energy

Tapping

sense
following

of urgency
reversal

and low sense of

correction:

self-worth

should

also be

targeted by
thinking
time

using the three

out

1. Tapping

on the
deeply

Under
accept

Bottom

Lip

(UBL)
a

while

times, \"I

and I'm not

2. Then
Forehead

good enoughto have

Nose

myself

even though I
loving that

believe that

or saying
is running

relationship.\"

again tap the points five

(F),

times

are illustrated
into

Under

(UN), Under

saying aloud or to
also

Bottom Lip (UBL),

relationships.\"

on diagram
and

29:
while

Chest

(CH),

yourself, \"Rushing

Besides should you using this treatment before you even begin a use it whenever this, By you find yourself beginning to take the doing secure while getting to know the person. You need to you can help yourself to remain accumulate the other before falling \"hopelessly in person enough experience with

relationship, plunge.

love.\" In this way, love

truly

becomes

a choice.

Understanding

and
Gray

Accepting
Men
Are

Differences
from

In 1992, John
his book, Gray
better

wrote

the best-seller
to help

Mars,

Women
advice

attempts

men and
to

women understand their differences

insightful

Are from Venus. In

and

to

communicate
improve recurring
Women

with one
respond

and women typically

differently to scenarios,two

another. Gray offers

situations

about
numerous

how men
react

and how

each can learn to

their

relations.

themes
should

Although he provides the book are: throughout

blaming

readers with

1.

mates makemistakes or arein difficult these situations can eliminate many

Men need to be more attentive touches, and hugs. And they
daily problems.

stop

or acting in

a disapprovingmanner when their

Supporting

situations.
problems.

your partner in

2.

through

affectionate

must

also

show

such as flowers, gestures, more interest in their mate's

life.

Showing

your

partner

that you

care also can eliminate many

two do not wish to oversimplify Gray's simple and the be cause of many to maintain on a regular may this problems in We encourage you to read of nature to increase your relationships. and further stimulate about your thinking relationships. We also knowledge Will Is Not the Answer: A Change Save Your Marriage recommend Divorce Heart by George of

Although

we

book,these

behaviors are

difficult

basis,

books

Pransky

(1992) and
Gottman

Why

Marriages

Succeed

by John
information

(1995).

These

books

or Fail: and How You offer common sense and

Can

Make

Yours

Last

about

various
the

sources
is

Tocreate
problems

relationship

that self-examination

achieving success. Onceyou have done this, you book to eliminate or minimize these tendencies. energy and stated, healthy Simply insight knowledge are often not enough to create need You to unwanted relationships. target thoughts, feelings,and behaviorsand then
and

required

of relationship however, you must invest your time in you desire, what beliefs or behaviors are creating to determine
this

research-based and how to correctthem. problems

the

can use the

blocking

you from
in

treatments

balance

your

energy

around

these issues

with

the

treatment

sequences

in this book.

Satisfying

Relationship

195

Relationship

Issues

The following
that

sectiondealsprimarily
or ruining
doubt

with

the

negative
Although

emotions
we

may

be

examples here, no
greatest

hurting

your relationships.
know

have

selected

and behaviors a few

having

affect

on your

relationships. Be sure to review

you

which

feelings

and behaviors
previous

are

the

chapters

to treat

those problems.

Accepting

Your Partner and

to

the

Eliminating

Urge

Nag

in a manner behave you nag your mate is because they you refuse in in the a an man to doctor's office accept. example, waiting room elderly in walked toward the exit door, pulled a cigarfrom his it his mouth, and coat, put to pulledout his lighter. His wife, who was following closelybehind him, exclaimed \"Look at him! Look at him! He hasn't even left the doctor's everyone sitting nearby, and he's \"I'm office trying to smoke that stinking cigar!\"To which the man replied, me about this cigar, sixty years.\" As years old. Sixty years she has nagged ninety-two the man proceeded his cigar, his wife followedhim, out the door trying to light

One reason
For

shaking

her

head.

In almost

belief that
sometimes complaints

are

partner referred to

one

continually

or long-term there is some behavior or relationship, the other partner crazy. These behaviors as pet peeves,and they lead often to one of the most common in relationships\342\200\224a This type of partner believes that nagging partner. by their will their and often mate, (control) nagging berating they change
every marriage
has

that drives

partner's
nagging

behavior.

What

usually
from

happens,
nagging

however,
partner.

is

that

the

person

being
that

withdraws emotionally
mate

their

This doesn't
that

mean
strategy

nagged
the

doesn't

have

nagging rarely
a

anger and frustration.

psychological 1. Think

works to producethe
If the

a legitimate
nagging

concern; it's just

desired

the

of excessive

result.

Nagging
ineffective,

is a
you

combination of
can

is incessant
of

and

be sure

that

reversal

lies at the

heart

it.

where you nag or do not accept a behavior of your as Rate level of frustration and/or partner. specificas possible. your a scale 0 with 10 the and 0 on of to most distress 10, anger representing
about

a situation

Try to be
distress.

indicating

no

2. Treat
Hand

3.

of reversal by tapping repeatedly on the Side of the while or saying three times, Sore (SH) Spot (SS) thinking \"I I even when (name the accept deeply myself though nag my partner It the SH the SS while also be to or rub situation).\" may helpful tap saying, \"I with all and limitations.\" accept deeply myself my problems at the chart and at diagram 30to identify the Look locations for the meridian Arm for Under Under Under (EB), (UA), Eyebrow Eye (UE), points and Little Finger (LF). While thinking Collarbone (UCB), about the situation (don't the discomfort get into it so much that you experience any major during in at each five times of these meridian them the process), tap points. Tap hard enough to feel it. The tapping order: l-\302\2732-\302\2733-\302\2734-\303\244>5. Tap only following

for the

possibility\"

or rubbing

shouldn'tcause

any

pain.

196

Energy Tapping

(EB)

2(UE)

(UCB)

SS or
for

Sore Spot
or

Massive

Recurring Reversals

Diagram

Thirty:

Treatment

for Nagging

Treatment

and Eliminating the Urge to Nag

Sequence

for

Accepting

Your Partner

Meridian
Eyebrow

Location

(EB)

1 2

Under

Eye
Arm

(UE)
(UA)

Under
Under

Collarbone

(UCB)

4
5

Little Finger (LF)

near bridge of nose Under the center of the eye on tip of bone Six inches below and under the armpit One inch under collarbone near throat Inside tip of little fingernail on the side
Beginning

of eyebrow

Satisfying

Relationship

97

4.

Again,
should
cycle

rate your feeling just pop into your

through

attempts,

this

event, or
correction.

else there is another sabotagingbelief (i.e.,reversal)

step

about this situation on a 0 to 10 scale (a number mind). If there is no decrease, go back to step 2 and the three sequence again. If there is not a decrease after is probably not an appropriate treatment this for sequence
that

needs

(See

8.) repeatedly
your

5. Next,
(BH)

do the Brain Balancer(BB) by tapping rotating your eyes clockwise, rotating then humming a tune, counting to five, and
while

on the
eyes

Back of

Hand

counterclockwise,

humming

again.

6. Repeat the
7.

rate Again, the distress

even

several repeat the sequence

l-\302\2732-\302\2733-\302\2734-\302\2735. tapping sequence 0 to 10. It should be lower yet. When your level of distress from is within the 0 to 2 range, go to step 9. Sometimes need to you'll

times

while

you

while

from the

distressfulsituation.

you

are in the

actual

are imagining
you

the

distress\342\200\224or

situation\342\200\224before

feel

complete

relief

8.

As as there is a decrease in your level of distress, with the continue long is very little or no distress remaining. If the treatment treatments until there stalls at any point, this indicatesa mini-reversal. Treatthis by tapping on the little finger Side of Hand while saying three times, \"I deeply (SH) accept even though I still have some of this problem.\" myself,

9. When the the distress

distress level is 0 to 2, consider to lower doing the Eye Roll (ER) effects. further and to complete the treatment To do this, tap on the Backof Hand (BH), hold your head straight, and, moving only your eyes, raise look at the floor and then slowly your eyes up toward the ceiling.
to

In addition anger or frustration.

remarks,
associated frustration.

nagging,
These

can

there are a include low

caring

number of behaviors or no sexual desirefor

your

that
your

can

stem from
cruel
any

and a
do

general lack of
beliefs

partner,
treat

about

negative To

and

reversals,
are

this,

refer to

sequences for the

emotions you
Behavior

the various chapters in this

experiencing.

and then treat your

partner.

You need

to

feelingsof
that

anger

and

book

provide

treatment

Vindictive

When you are feelingvindictive, and an unwillingnessor inability\"

vindictivebehavior

your to

behavior

is blinded

forgive

and

can

you to use your

be very
child

situation. If
vindictive.

you

are

can lead destructive because often emotions your negative in a vehicle to hurt loses vindictive your partner. Everyone as reversed on this issue, however, you will not see yourself
as a

forget. If you

by anger, resentment, have children,

To treat

and painful painful memories causing chapter 10 on trauma that are determine and treat the emotions memories). Next, driving your feelings (see chapter 8). Do Do you need to forgive your you need to eliminate your feelingsof anger? partner? If you feel stuck in your vindictive behavior, reversals are often at the
that

vindictive behavior, you

are

need to

identify,

examine,

and

address

any

it (see

198

Energy Tapping

source, as you

are no longerthinking
them

rationally

about

wishing

to

hurt

(see

chapter

6 on

reversalsand self-sabotage).
Blame

your

partner

when you

are

Battered Partners, Rage, and

We can affect would be remiss if we did not mention how energy psychology the complex and dangerousissues On the surface, these of abusive relationships. in a with are a mystery. Why would someonestay types of relationships relationship a person who continually blames them for their problems and takes out their rageby them? For both the person who is battered as well as the one who batters, beating massive reversals are generally the driving force.Our hope is that if either partner will see the problem for (seechapter 6), they repeatedly treats their massivereversal what it is and use the other treatments in this book to treat the memories, painful and addictions that are at the of abuse issues. because often core H owever, rage, in abusive are outside therapeutic help is a necessity\" most relationships dangerous,

instances.

Treatment
If

for the
involved
treatment

Battered
partner who has hit
may
you

you

are

with a
sequence

the

following

be helpful.
abused
or

or who abuses you verbally, These treatments need to be

repeated

regularly.

1. Think
the

left

about a situation when you were side of your chest while thinking
accept
Hand

unconditionally
unconditionally

tap on the Side of

accept

myself
(SH)

with

all

my

rub the Sore Spot (SS) on \"I and times, saying deeply and limitations.\" Then problems
and three

myself

and

abusive

be abused.\"

relationship,
problem

and saying three times, \"I deeply even though I allow myself to be in this unfulfilling believe that I deserve and even if I unconsciously

while

to

2.

Now

define

your

in a

statement and use the

treatment

for

trauma

provided

in chapter
any

10.
problems, such
with

3. If
Although

you

have

related

as a drinking problem, fear

these

of

alone,

or trouble
these

dealing

rejection,

issues

must also

be treated.
of

being

treatments

this problem,
qualified

we again strongly
the
you

can prove
recommend

to be helpful, in view of the significance that you seek the assistance of a

therapist.

Treatment

for
find

Batterer
are unable

If you your
regularly hitting

that

to control your

or

being

cruel

use

the

following

and abusive treatment:

toward your partner or other people,

abusive

insecurity\"

and

anger,

resulting

in

1. Think about a time

when you
side of

were

Spot (SS)
deeply
limitations.\"

on

the

left

your chest while thinking

to your

partner and rub the

or
my

Sore
\"I

saying
problems

three
and

times,
\"I deeply

and
Then

unconditionally tap on the Side

and unconditionally

three of Hand (SH)while saying times, I'm abusive.\" accept myself even though

accept myself with all

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Relationship

199

2. Now

I am drunk, I let my define your problemin a statementsuchas.\"When I and I him blame her out of beat or for control, my partner, my anger go use the treatments for and in Now problems.\" anger chapter 8. rage provided you

3. If
We

have

any related
with

problems, such
they

as a heavy

drinking,

shame,

jealousy,

or dealing
strongly

rejection,

must

also be

treated.

recommend
damaging

that

help you
It problems

resolve this
important in their

you seek

behavior

is

that

both the
as

exist

and relatedproblems, such

the more
proper

relationship.

One way to
alcoholism.

that batterer and battered recognize

as safely

the assistanceof a qualified to therapist and expediently as possible.

serious is

do this

to

treat
is

any sabotaging beliefs

attain

The more that

help the battered individual

steps

that likely you will seek the outsideassistance

clarity you
needed.

on

this

issue,
the

to

recognize

their safety

is at risk and to

Clarity

may also
take

to deal this

problem.

Summary
It

is

impossible
that

in one
exist

issues

chapter to

in

are willing to participatein self-examination and apply treatment applications. must focus on how can Therefore, help you you yourself to cope with these and to to resolve them. You can also examine problems develop strategies in how your behaviors create or maintain problems your relationship. treatments, Emotionally charged issues, suchas infidelity, may require multiple with treat reversals that are to deal the but you must first any blocking your ability maintain the Your behaviors be to problem problem. self-sabotaging may helping
will change

relationships

are endless.

do justiceto the

complex

issue

of relationships.
partner.

The
They

only if they

You cannot change your

and/or
related

may be

preventing you
memories meaning

from

emotional

justified),and painful relationshipsare chronic,

relationships.

feelings, such as
or

anger or
trauma.
that

finding

a strategy
jealousy

to stop it.
when

Always

treat

any

(even

For some

they

people, the problems in their experience them in most or all of their

you believe

they are

if repeated and ongoing energytreatments are even a often have attached to them and, Relationship required. problems long history a family no one can push your buttons better than member, generally, especially your mate. Considerwhether your mate or the people with whom you are in a relationship are energetically imbalanced or if their behavior sabotages your relationship.If your treatments are effective, then you should be able to feel or recognize your issue This and be able to respond in an appropriate manner. doesn't certainly relationship mean that every situation will work out in an ideal way, but it may allow you to avoid spending much of your time upset about your relationships. In closing, relationships are ongoing activities. You are responsible for your to the actions of your partner. If your are not actionsand your response relationships there is some behavior or belief that is to then working well, helping sabotagethem. are far an issue to casestudies that cover too complex present specific Relationships all relationship and list issues. If you use the personalprofile in chapter5, however, will all of your problems and treat eliminate the issues and them, you underlying shouldhave less difficulty using energy psychology to treat the specificissuesin your Our
give

advice is:

Don't

up

relationships.

CHATTES

15

Tools

for

Lifetime

Be

the

change

you want to

see

in

the

world.
Gandhi

\342\200\224Mahatma

Energy

Tapping

has introduced
your

harnessing the powers of

reaching

a new approachto
body's
people

own

and emotionalproblems. Many

approach.

We have

including anxiety and phobias, otheruncomfortable and limiting beliefs. Energy psychology even makes it emotions, for to enhance and realize average, possible you efficiently your golf swing, or batting in areas life. it's All that's is for you other of And improvement your simple. required to identify the problem by thinking about and then in on it, tap sequence specific
reduce

used to rapidly eliminateor significantly traumas and painful memories, depression

provided a

number of
and

energy system to overcomepsychological consider to be a farpsychology energy

therapeutic

therapy

and

self-help,

based

on

sequences

that

can be

a variety

of problems,

low moods,

meridian points to
Although

treat

the

problem.

all the time, at as There is always all the methods there should be. However, of we have had the opportunity to study it is the and practice so far, energy psychologyis headsabove the rest. We believe that You're to see and hear a lot more about it in therapy for the new millennium. going it offers the years to come. As a self-helpapproach, effective tools you wonderfully of the Heimlich maneuver. for a lifetime. It's the psychologicalequivalent In this final chapter, we would liketo explore some ideas about the current and We hope that this will spur interest and future practice of energy psychology. the application of this approach to areas we haven't even innovation in considered.

we find this approach to least not in our business.

be highly

effective,

in reality nothing room for improvement,

works

Into

the

Mainstream

As increasing
psychology,they

numbers of
applying

therapists

are

trained
to

in the
assist

are

this efficient

method

application
their

of

energy

as such resolving many long-standingproblems, This approach is applicableto many other areas,

those

and clients in patients described in Energy Tapping.

such

as chronic

pain, allergies,and

202

Energy

Tapping

we did not specifically other physical and psychological conditions.Although address these areas in the present to attempt volume of this book, we encourageyou treat and some of these sequences, especiallythe Midline Treatment to (MET), Energy it resolve anything like. Feel free to on you'd try anything. due to its efficiency, but Energy psychology is entering the mainstreamnot only also due to the great needthat exists throughout Most traditional society. therapies at all. do not yield results and, with some concerns, they aren't effective quick to treat certain sometimes Although using energy psychology problems necessarily takes a longer period of time, there are many problems that can and should be The sooner a psychological problem is resolved, the less it is resolved likely rapidly. that it will become a chronic,debilitating We believe that it is the sometimes problem. form of therapy itself that actually causes certain conditionsto becomechronic. For if a severe trauma and the therapy you choose involves example, you experience all extensive the varieties of of even trauma, dredging up forgotten reviewing the therapy but it can also traumas, then may not only prove to be emotionally upsetting, This cause the traumas to becomemoredeeply referred to as process, ingrained. is with effective use of to retraumatization, very unlikely happen energy psychology to a wide array of problems that people techniques. The same consideration applies

many

seek to resolve in
There is therapy
with

therapy.

are

invariably

that many conditions a long-term, arduous

energy

therapy
system,

that
the

effective people are this approach can afford. We believe that the healthier your energy and healthier you will be overall, physically, emotionally, psychologically.

psychology,

not process. Becausethis is generally more inclined to pursue the brief, highly

people

tolerate

because

they believe that the case

Energy
Energy

Psychology
psychology

and

the

Future

in time it will be applied efficient and effective that vocational of business, medicine, education, guidance, therapy, extensively and be limitless. various so on. The to areas, performance applications appear sports, In the area of education, we believe that energy psychology is readily applicable barriers to their success, such as to the needs of inner-city childrenwho suffer many in the offers violence and in the schools. Energypsychology neighborhoods and students opportunities for to alleviate obstacles to motivation, overcometest anxiety, and with school counselors these surmount blocks. psychologists learning Equipping will lead to improvement in these and relatedareas Extensive methods for students. in the larger the of problems use of these methods may also help to reduce incidence

is so

in

the

areas

community.
Energy

psychology stress

also

complements

traditional
down

medical
recover

impact
continual

of

on

physical
illnesses provides

stress
many

can limit
other

lead to
Energy over

the healing process, slow

health, for example,

is well documented. Excessive

from

approaches. The
and

psychology your

such and problems, a tool that you can

as heart disease and hypertension.

area.

surgery,

and

use to gain more personalcontrol

This in sabotaging
focus

health.

is a relatively new enhance sports performance athletesto reduce and alleviate anxiety easily applied technique can help beliefs that produce many mental errors. It provides a meansof regaining
Using

energy work to

':\342\200\242: s for

Lifetime

203

crucial

situations

and helps
business

athletes to separate their natural

and

ability

from

their
offers

mental

mistakes. In the
efficient

areas of
of

vocational

pursuits,

energy psychology
alleviating in

means

coping

problems,
that

that help to establishan energy balance

improving

stress, enhancing creativity, morale, etc. Managers who are trained

will

with job

relationship

these

methods

can
effect

result

in a

positive trickle-down

benefits

the whole

organization.

Insight
that is not simply treating a psychological problem by tapping the cause also prefer to have someinsight into of your problem, which might lead you to seek talk therapy. Many discussion-focused therapists use at client sessions. These techniquesare applied techniques during energy psychology areas in which the feels the session to resolve client points strategic during quickly of room for insight. stuck. This still leaves plenty be into issues to you even if you aren't Having insight your may important with a In this after case, working specific professional therapist. you treat your etc.\342\200\224take some time to think about the problem issue\342\200\224trauma, depression, anger, that used to have. Frequently, relevant insights will emerge. Generally, you will you the find that you think about the once emotional chargeis quite differently problem a the can toward go preventing original problem gone. Insightful thoughts long way a sense of satisfaction in your and can produce newfound from returning

Maybe you

believe

enough.

You may

understanding.

Beyond

Tapping

energy tapping, you can and feelings.Noticethat after treating a with energy psychology, thoughts about the problem no longerhave a problem feel calm the issue. This emotional You now and centered about charge. negative allows you to truly realize that your thoughts cannot have a negative experience are is an effect on you unless you allow them to. You now in a position of choice.This take with life. Each time balance lesson to throughout your important you you energy dismiss such around an emotionally charged issue, it becomeseasierto simply in the future, even without having to tap negative on meridian points. thoughts are remain more brain and to training your energy system Essentially, you your

Once your
identify

energy system

becomes

balanced

through

the

interconnection

between

your thoughts

consistently

in balance.

Feelings
the wonderfully diverse positive emotionsof curiosity, and so on. We gratitude, love, respect, appreciation, such as fear, cherish these also have the capacityfor negative emotions, irritation, anger, rage,jealousy, sorrow, guilt, grief, shame, etc. Here the term negative

Our

lives

are

filled

with

anticipation,

surprise, joy, but we feelings,

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Energy

Tapping

should
your

not be
All

emotion.
fear or

interpreted as meaningbad.
are

In

emotions

essentially
of

infancy.
anxiety

Emotions
alerts

are forms
us

a part
information

there is no such thing as a bad reality, of you; they were presenteven before
and
that

communication.
we

have violated a value or a moral; with we see someone to us of something that is ours; and the \"rob\" jealousy trying list goeson.Just as we benefit from the emotions of joy and love, the so-called \"negative\" emotions listed above also serve an admirable purpose. is full about getting to the point where we can experience the Energy Tapping even the them of without our entire ones, emotions, spectrum negative dominating existence. In the words of the Sufi poet, Rumi, \"Welcome and entertain them all! each has been sent as a guide from beyond.\"Negative feelings becomea Because when we predominantly reside in their landscape, that we is, when problem only most our time there. We want to the where never to however, spend living get point, we the capacity that lose to make the differentiation our negative emotional responses

something; guilt lets

us

to danger;
that

anger tells us
ourselves

strongly

For example, of disapprove

know

we

afford us. It's not

approach

about

creating

a Stepford

to eliminate

In closing,we would like to expressour gratitude to and these effective tools in life. We believe that energy has a explore apply your both and As more and more come to apply effect, resonating positive negative. people this approach their the lives of to enhance their energy and positively lives, improve will others will benefit in the be better for it. whole of and, time, possibly society is the if wish As to to others. Mahatma place Changingyourself truly begin you help in the world.\" Gandhi wisely \"Be the change you want to see advised,

emotional responsesthat

society, but
have

about properly

utilizing

this

become

lives. problems for the time to you taking

in our

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