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Danny: New Hope FAQ Written by Danny Blackwell and published by New Hope Outreach. Quoted verbatim.

See In ormation on !e"publishin#. Frequently asked questions Those with transgendered attractions 1) What is a transvestite? It is the act o dressin# in the clothes o the opposite se$ to achieve se$ual arousal and clima$. %ypically the transvestite is male& usually heterose$ual and they may have an aversion to homose$uality. 2) What is a transsexual? ' transse$ual is person holdin# stron# conviction that one is a member o the opposite se$ and o ten includes the desire to have the body chan#ed or (corrected( to suit this conviction. 2A) MTF is a male to emale transse$ual. 2B) FTM is a emale to male transse$ual. )* What does %rans#endered mean+ It is a broad term encompassin# those not con ormin# to the #ender e$pressions o bein# male or emale and thus may be a transse$ual or a transvestite or somewhere in between. ) What does intersexed !ean? One who was born with anatomical eatures o both male and emale. ") What is gender identity? ,ender is a person-s sense o himsel or hersel as bein# male or emale and it can di er rom their biolo#ical se$. .eople whose se$ and #ender di er are known trans#endered. #) What does having a gender identity disorder !ean? It is a person that believes they are physically trapped in a body o the opposite se$ and may take steps to chan#e this. It is also called ,ender dysphoria which is the overall psycholo#ical term used to describe the eelin#s o pain& an#uish& and an$iety that arise rom the mismatch between a person-s physical se$ and #ender identity. $) What is sex reassign!ent surgery %&'&) ? ' number o sur#ical operations desi#ned to con orm the body to that o 1

the opposite biolo#ical se$. Sur#ery is normally concurrent with chemical /hormonal* therapies that can redistribute body at& alter skin te$ture and increase or reduce bodily hair. %he de#ree o sur#ery or chemical therapies undertaken can very rom individual to individual () )ow does transvestis! di**er *ro! transsexuality? %ransvestism and transse$uality di er by de#ree. Both behaviours are part o a continuum. %ransse$uality represents the end o the continuum. %ransse$uals are not content with their biolo#ical se$. 'll transse$uals must necessarily #o throu#h a crossdressin# period. +) What is the cause o* transvestis!? No known bio"chemical /biolo#ical* cause has been demonstrated to e$ist. Invariably& transvestites report the practice developin# in early childhood& certainly be ore the onset o puberty. 'uthorities tend to a#ree that cause is multi" actorial. 1,) What is the cause transsexualis!? %here are no scienti ically proven #enetic or or#anic causes or transse$ualism. %here is much indemonstrable speculation and unsubstantiated ideas. 'uthorities tend to a#ree that cause is multi" actorial. http011www.transchristians.or#1archive1new"hope"outreach"archives1danny" new"hope" a2 Archive: Break Free Written by Danny Blackwell and published by New Hope Outreach. Quoted verbatim. See In ormation on !e"publishin#. Break Free 12 Step By !ev. Danny Blackwell %H3 4I5I6 W'!0 %H3 'DDI4%I53 47463 Be ore we be#in the 89 steps& let us look or a moment at the addictive cycle. %his cycle like a lot o thin#s in li e i le t unaddressed can cause ma:or problems or us. On a national scale issues le t to #row can lead to civil war. We also can be at war inside havin# the need to escape our pain throu#h many ways. We all have histories but as ;ohn Stephenson has said& (%he 6ord is the victor o history and that includes personal history.( So how does this cycle 2

a ect us+ We may e$perience trauma or some other event that #ets the cycle #oin# sometime in our lives. 'lso& our minds be#in to play ne#ative messa#es over and over& i.e.. 7ou are no #ood& I-m stupid... So we be#in to ill ourselves with shame and low sel "esteem& because we start believin# our ne#ative messa#es and this causes urther emotional pain. We carry all this pain and develop ways to attempt to handle it throu#h< dru#s& buryin# our emotional pain in a host o thin#s as well as developin# our own uni2ue escapes. We pay a hi#h price or not dealin# with our pain in lost peace& more #uilt& shame and wantin# to punish ourselves. 'll this runnin# rom our pain and livin# in denial runs us ri#ht back into the addictive cycle a#ain and a#ain& unless we ace our pain and reach out to ,od. %here is hope and that hope rests in ;esus as we open ourselves up to Him invitin# Him to work in and throu#h us. ;esus promised that nothin# is too hard or Him. In 6uke =0 8>"8? we read& (%he Spirit o the 6ord is upon @e& because He has anointed @e to preach the #ospel to the poor. He has sent me to heal the broken"hearted& to preach deliverance to the captives and recovery o si#ht to the blind. %o set at liberty those who are oppressed& to preach the acceptable year o the 6ord.( %hus we have hope& new hope. ,od Bless By !ev. Danny Blackwell S%3. B7 S%3. 8. We admitted we were powerless over our same se$ or trans#ender attractions and that our lives had become unmana#eable. 9. 4ame to believe that ,od& the source o all power can and will restore us to sanity. ). @ade a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care o ,od as He instructs us. =.@ade a searchin# and earless moral inventory o us. A. 'dmitted to ,od& to ourselves and to another human bein# the e$act nature o our wron#s. B. Were entirely ready to have ,od remove all these de ects o character. C. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomin#s. >. @ade a list o all persons we had harmed and became willin# to make amends to them all.

?. @ade direct amends to such people wherever possible e$cept when to do so would in:ure them or others. 8D. 4ontinued to take personal inventory and when we were wron# promptly admitted it. 88. Sou#ht throu#h prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with ,od& prayin# only or knowled#e o His will or us and the power to carry that out. 89. Havin# had a spiritual awakenin# as the result o these steps& we tried to carry this messa#e to others and to practice these principles in all our a airs. Why are we here+ He1She could not #et out and now he was desperate. It looked so #ood and elt #reat at irst and he cannot remember the real reason why he was in this place anyway. 6ook a way out& but no it was blocked. I eel a raid& I can only trust meE7et I don-t want to be hereE He is comin#& try to escape but I am trapped. He says trust me and I will #et you out. I-m tired and He #ets me in His hands and takes me out and then He opens His hands and I am ree and soar hi#h. I never thou#ht I could trust Him& bein# a sparrow. But now I am ree. What are your e$pectations as you #o throu#h this material+ 8.FFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFF 9. FFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFF ). FFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFF =. FFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFF (Welcome( Step #1 We admitted we were powerless over our same se$ or trans#ender attractions and that our lives had become unmana#eable. 7ou are downtown and in tryin# to ind an address& you are lost. What do you do0 you can continue to try to ind the address and not admit that you are lost. 7ou can #ive up and #o home or ask directions. Have you ever been in a situation where you needed to ask directions& how did you eel+ Step G 8 is admittin# we are lost and need help rom someone else. 'lso it 4

is about realiHin# our brokenness. It is ok to admit our eelin#s o ailure. It is ok to admit our addictions. It is ok to admit our ears and escapes. .owerless to chan#e ourselves is somethin# we must ace. We tend to hide proo o weakness in us. What do you eel you can chan#e about yoursel and what do you eel you cannot chan#e+ We must ace the truth o our same se$ attractions. What means so much to you that you must have or do it no matter what+ What do your addictions #ive you in return or doin# it+ 'nother aspect o personal powerlessness is the eelin# we must be in control and is able to control our lives. In the book o ;ud#es chapters 8) " 8B& we have the story o Samson. He was #i ted be the 6ord with #reat stren#th& and was a leader o Israel durin# a di icult time. But he aced and ell to his #reatest temptations0 pride and women. While with Delilah /ch.8B*& we read in 8B09D 'nd she said& (%he .hilistines are upon you& Samson.( So he awoke rom His sleep& and said (I will #o out as be ore at other times& and shake mysel IreeJ ( But he did not know that the 6ord had departed rom him. He never saw his need to admit he needed help until he lost his reedom and si#ht. He hit Bottom. 4an you relate to Samson in your stru##les+ How would you chan#e this story o Samson i you could+ %here are two key parts that hide how our lives are lived0 8. Sel " will K (I can solve my own problems(. 9. Denial with its many tricks K (I-ve #ot no problems.( What area o your li e is causin# you the most pain+ What behaviors do you have that is di icult to admit as bein# a problem+ !omans C08>"9D .salm )80?&8D What do these verses say to you about attitudes we must have in order to admit personal powerlessness over habits in our lives+ We must not only deal with powerlessness& but we must admit our lives are unmana#eable. 5

In 6uke 8A0 8C we read0 When he came to his senses& he said& (How many o my ather-s hired men have ood to spare& and here I am starvin# to death.( %he prodi#al son admitted his li e was a mess& he counted the cost& he could #o no lower& he aced reality& he hit bottom. What are the costs or conse2uences o your li estyle+ How do you see yoursel as o today+ 4an you list events that occurred this week that show you the messed up nature o your li e at this time+ 4heck and see i you have these eelin#s0 6oneliness !elationship problems Ieelin#s that I must be ri#ht Lncontrollable compulsive habits Iear o authority i#ures Iear that we don-t belon# anywhere I must always be per ect Who or what do you trust in& to chan#e you+ .salm 8>0B In my distress I called upon the 6ord& and cried out to my ,od< He heard my 5oice rom His temple& and my cry came be ore Him& even to His ears. .salm )=08> %he 6ord is near to those who have a broken heart& and saves such as have a humbled spirit. What is your prayer re2uest or yoursel + !omans C09="9Aa Ior I know that in me /that is& in my lesh* nothin# #ood dwells0 or to will is present with me& but how to per orm what is #ood I do not ind... O wretched man that I amJ Who will deliver me rom this body o death+ I thank ,od& throu#h ;esus 4hrist... .aul in this te$t admitted he needed help and could not ind it within& he looked to ,od. 4an I admit I need help and that my li e is ull o brokenness+ I admit my li e is out o control and that I need and will ask or your help daily. Si#ned Dated Step #2 4ame to believe that ,od& the source o all power can and will restore us to 6

sanity. In 4harles Dickens- classic& (' 4hristmas 4arol(& Scroo#e is in the presence o the spirit o 4hristmas past and as the spirit opens his window& Scroo#e is a raid he mi#ht all and the spirit says& (.... bear but a touch o my hand and you will be upheld(. /p#.9=* So Scroo#e takes the spirit-s hand and to#ether they ly out o the window. In step G 9& we are be#innin# to take the 6ord-s hand and allow Him to lead us out o our addictions and insane li estyle. 't irst& we like Scroo#e are a raid& a raid to trust someone else& a raid we mi#ht ail but as we willin#ly take these irst steps& we can have hope. What ears do you have that are like Scroo#e-s+ Scroo#e-s li e had become one bi# mi$ed up mess and in step G 9& we must ace our insane li estyle and come to believe that ,od can restore us. We must come to see the insanity we live with. Insanity in that we do thin#s over and over that are not healthy and althou#h we e$perience #uilt and shame and pleasure& we continue to do them hopin# or some other results. We look or ul illment in habits& addictive a#ents and other thin#s. What habits do you do over and over that as you think about them& you can admit are not helpin# you+ ;er. 908) says0 @y people have committed two sins0 they have orsaken me& the sprin# o livin# water& and have du# their own cisterns& broken cisterns that cannot hold water. We all have thirsts i.e. thirsts or love& companionship& peace& inancial needs but we all try to ul ill our thirsts in broken ways...broken cisterns. We develop ne#ative li estyles because o ne#ative messa#es that we have always received i.e. (7ou are not #ood enou#h(. What ne#ative messa#es do you remember receivin# while #rowin# up+ In 8. 9. ). =. our mi$ed up insanity& we develop thinkin# that ocuses on I-ll only be... I-ll only be happy..........i I-m rich< I-ll only be happy..........i I-m married< I-ll only be happy..........i I #et drunk< I-ll only be happy..........i I become someone else<

4an you relate to these& i so ill in the ollowin#< A. I-ll only be happy..... B. I-ll only be happy..... How do you eel about you+ We look at our insane li estyle and then ace the task o takin# ;esus- hand like Scroo#e took the hand o the spirit o 4hristmas past& but we may have doubts. 4an we trust ;esus or will He ail us+ What are your ears about trustin# ,od rather than your own abilities+ Sometimes we have alse views o what ,od is like. David Wan# in his book& (%he 4omin# In luence o 4hina(& recounts the stories o the results 7

o alse belie s o what ,od wants. He tells o two #roups0 one #roup elt one must stand on one-s head to pray& while the other elt that in order to be saved& one must hear ,od-s literal voice. %hese #roups had alse views o ,od because they had one or two pa#es o the Bible only. /.#. >C " >>*. 'lso& we may have been hurt by 4hristians sayin# hurt ul thin#s to us or maybe we were abused by a parent ...so the idea o a heavenly Iather or a ,od o love seems elusive. How do you view ,od and how do you think He eels about you+ How has ,od let you down+ How does ,od really eel about us+ In 6uke =08> " 98 we read the words o ;esus0 %he Spirit o the 6ord is on me& because He has anointed me to preach #ood news to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim reedom or the prisoners and recovery o si#ht or the blind& to release the oppressed %o proclaim the year o the 6ord-s avor. Isaiah =808D says0 So do not ear& or I am with you< do not be dismayed& or I am your ,od. I will stren#then you and help you0 I will uphold you with my ri#hteous ri#ht hand. .hil. 908) says0 Ior it is ,od who works in you to will and to act accordin# to His #ood purpose. ;er. 9?088 says0 Ior I know the plans I have or you& declares the 6ord& plans to prosper you and not to harm you& plans to #ive you hope and a uture. 'll these verses and many more speak o ,od-s love or us and ;esus died on the cross and rose a#ain or us. We are lovedJ . .lease take the above Bible verses and write one out that speaks to you. So what do we do+ @ichael& a riend& who was an addict& that I prayed with& said it best< (I ,od didn-t show up& I would have committed suicide lon# a#o(. ,od does show up today and He asks us to place our hands in His. I still stru##le with ..... But I willin#ly ask or your help& 6ord and I need you. Name Date Step #3 @ade a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care o ,od as He 8

instructs us. He stood be ore 3lisha-s house& be ore this date he had tried everythin# medically he knew but with no results. Naaman the leper now had a choice to make& would he continue as he was or would he seiHe the moment& trust the words o this prophet and e$perience a new li e... !ead II Min#s chapter A. We like Naaman come today to a choice we must ace sooner or later& can we trust ,od with our lives. Step G ) is like openin# a door and the key that opens that door is willin#ness. How do you eel about bein# open about your needs with ,od+ Were you brou#ht up never to show weakness+ Step G ) is a leap o aith or we are trustin# ,od with our lives and at times we wonder will ,od ail us. We in this step are called to elevate ,od rom someone whom we ask or help when thin#s #et rou#h to Supreme 4ommander o our lives and we thus seek His will and #uidance or our lives. How do you eel about #ivin# ,od supreme command over all o you+ What areas o your li e make you eel like there is no hope or you because you have ailed so much+ 's mentioned in step G 9& we all have thirsts0 relationship thirsts& se$ual thirsts& inancial thirsts& success thirsts< the dan#er comes when we make these thirsts the ocus o our whole lives and ne#lect the 4reator who #ave us these thirsts. What thirsts do you admit is a daily stru##le+ 't times our thirsts become so overwhelmin# that they become obsessive" compulsive behaviors and they control us so completely& we depend on them or our lives almost. What obsessive"compulsive behaviors do you admit to havin#+ %here is hope. Naaman was healed and so can we be. ;esus in @att. 880 9>")D says0 4ome to me& all you who are weary and burdened& and I will #ive you rest. %ake my yoke upon you and learn rom me& or I am #entle and humble in heart& and you will ind rest or your souls.Ior my yoke is easy and my burden is li#ht. Whatever your burdens& you can #ive them over to ;esus. I #ive you my burden o ...... and ask you to help me daily ;esus. .salm 88>0 >"? says0 It is better to take re u#e in the 6ord then to trust in man. It is better to take re u#e in the 6ord than to trust in princes. 9

.rov. )0 A"B says0 %rust in the 6ord with all your heart and lean not on your own understandin#< in all your ways acknowled#e him& and He will make your paths strai#ht. Sometimes it is hard to trust ,od because everythin# we have trusted in or everyone we trusted in has ailed however ,od never ails. Have you been let down be ore+ We in this step are asked to turn over ourselves to ,od-s care& but how+ 8. .ut aside our pride and sel "will and talk to ;esus " pray 9. !ead the Bible ). 4ontinue in these steps =. Daily seek to do ,od-s will A. 3$tend ,od-s #race to you /3ph. 90 >"?* B. See ourselves as ,od sees us as we #et to know Him 're you a raid you will be orced by ,od to #ive up too much+ 4ontrary to how we eel& ,od loves us more than we can know. ;ohn )08B"8C says0 Ior ,od so loved the world that He #ave His one and only Son& that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal li e. Ior ,od did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world& but to save the world throu#h Him. How do you eel ,od thinks about you+ ,od loves us despite our sin we all sin. !omans )09) says0 Ior all have sinned and all short o the #lory o ,od. Do you see yoursel as havin# sins+ !omans >08 says0 %here is there ore now no condemnation to those who are in 4hrist ;esus& who do not walk accordin# to the lesh& but accordin# to the Spirit. %hus& we like Naaman& ace a choice& don-t be a raid< we are loved and we can daily turn our lives& messed up as they are& over to ,od-s care. We must not stop& we must #o on to look at ourselves throu#h the eyes o steps G= " 89 and deepen our relationships with ,od and others. 9. 're you ready to turn your li e over to ,od-s care+ I so& write out your own prayer. I....../name* ask you to take complete control o my li e. I stru##le with............ But a ter lookin# at .salm 88>0>"?< .rov. )0 A"B& !om. )09)< !om. 10

>08... I realiHe that I am loved. Si#n N date Step #4 Date @ade a searchin# and earless moral inventory o ourselves. %he .urpose o Step G =0 %o discover areas o our lives that need attention. %o #et everythin# out in the open to brin# healin# %o ace the truth about our actions honestly %o see behavior patterns in our lives. %o be real about our problems. De initions0 O areas that a ect us 8. Security0 %he need to eel secure in areas o our lives can a ect sel " esteem& relationships& need to control& thin#s we hold on to throu#h li e E security blankets. /sel "esteem& relationships* 9. Social0 %he whole area o thin#s that make us eel socially stron#... (I must have it(.... ( I-m only important i I am G8(. /material& emotional needs* ). Se$ual0 %he whole area o se$uality.... relationships& view o #ender& sel Elust.... /se$ual relations & problems* =. 'mbitions0 %he desire or distinction& power or ame. /social& security& se$ual* A. !esentments0 'n#er illed with bitterness towards those we see as a threat& rom childhood onward. /I wasE* B. Iears0 %hin#s we ear0 rom childhood& thin#s we dread& unreal ears and an$ieties. /I wasE* Ior the = charts ill in the area besides each topic. 4H'!% 80 !esentments1 'n#er. I am an#ry at...+ Why am I an#ry+ Sel a ected0 What am I an#ry at+ Why am I an#ry+ sel esteem !elationships0 @aterial needs0 3motional needs0 Se$ual relations0 Se$ual problems0 11

Social needs0 Security needs0 Se$ual needs0 I was sel ish0 I was dishonest0 I was a raid0 I was inconsiderate0 4H'!% 90 Iears I am ear ul o .....+ Why am I ear ul.....+ Sel a ected0 What am I an#ry at+ Why am I an#ry+ sel esteem !elationships0 @aterial needs0 3motional needs0 Se$ual relations0 Se$ual problems0 Social needs0 Security needs0 Se$ual needs0 I was sel ish0 I was dishonest0 I was a raid0 I was inconsiderate0 4H'!% )0 Se$ual problems. @y se$ual problems are...+ %he e ects on sel N on others are...+ Sel a ected0 What am I an#ry at+ Why am I an#ry+ sel esteem !elationships0 @aterial needs0 3motional needs0 Se$ual relations0 Se$ual problems0 Social needs0 Security needs0 Se$ual needs0 I was sel ish0 I was dishonest0 I was a raid0 I was inconsiderate0 4H'!% =0 Harm ul conduct. 12

%he person I harmed...+ I harmed them by... Sel a ected0 What am I an#ry at+ Why am I an#ry+ sel esteem !elationships0 @aterial needs0 3motional needs0 Se$ual relations0 Se$ual problems0 Social needs0 Security needs0 Se$ual needs0 I was sel ish0 I was dishonest0 I was a raid0 I was inconsiderate0 How did you eel about doin# the charts and what did you learn+ Has li e drawn you closer to ,od or pushed you arther away+ si#n N date Step #5 'dmitted to ,od& to ourselves and to another human bein# the e$act nature o our wron#s. 7ou enter the basement or the irst time in years& it is dark and musty with cobwebs and the noise o water runnin# below. 7ou don-t #o to that basement alone and with lashli#ht in hand you be#in to e$plore and show all that has been hidden or years. What eelin#s #o throu#h your mind about sharin# everythin# you learned in step G = with ,od and someone else+ In step G8 we understand the nature o our powerlessness and it-s a ects on us. In step G 9 we be#an to see there is a ,od who cares. In step G) we yielded ourselves to ,od. In step G= we e$posed the roots o our problems to ourselves as we did a earless moral inventory. In step GA we take all we have learned about ourselves and share it& warts and all with ,od " sel " and another person. In 6uke 8A099 we have the story o the prodi#al son... (When he came to his senses& he said& (How many o my ather-s hired men have ood to spare& and here I am starvin# to deathJ I will set out and #o to my ather and say to him0 Iather& I have sinned a#ainst heaven and a#ainst you. I am no lon#er worthy to be called your son< make me like one o your hired men....( 13

%his prodi#al son rom his place o need made a con ession to his ather. How do you think he elt and why+ What types o ears hold you back rom admittin# your aults+

Steps G = N A #ive us practical and healthy ways to see our sins& con ess them and be healed spiritually as well as socially. Step G A allows all the poison hidden in us to come to the sur ace and be released like breathin# in and out. %here ore con ess your sins to one another& and pray or one another& that you may be healed. ;ames A08B Is this hard or you to do+ Have you ever been asked& ( How are you+( and only say ( ine(& when you wish you could say& (I-m hurtin# today&( but couldn-t because o the ima#e we present to our world is not always what we eel. Do you think shame& #uilt& and low sel "esteem are holdin# you back rom con essin# your real eelin#s at this time+ .lease e$plain. !ead Hebrews =0 89" 8B ;esus our Hi#h .riest understands us and in doin# step G A& we lower our de enses and become open but we must irst e$tend compassion to ourselves the same as i we were #ivin# it to someone else. Is hard or you to love you+ Some thin#s that will happen as a result o doin# step G A 8. We are no lon#er alone with our pain. 9. We will have a sense o accountability. ). 6ike the prodi#al son it will result in humility. =. We will overcome our denial< we can hide denial rom ourselves easily... A. We will lessen shame and #uilt. B. We will no lon#er be hidin# our deep dark secrets. C. Sharin# with another person will keep in balance our sharin# with ,od and sel . How did you eel doin# step G =+ %here are three parts to step G A 8. 'dmitted to ,od !ead I ;ohn 80 C"8D 1 .salms )90 )"A 1 .salms A8 We must brin# everythin# to ,od& all our past& passion& and poison. %ake a moment and write our your con ession to ,od. 9. 'dmitted to ourselves< We continue to do step G = and push to the sur ace our inner world. 'nswer these two 2uestions. a* What must I do to eel loved+

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b* What must I do to eel valued+ ). 'dmitted to another person0 %his is our road to bein# honest& real& not alone. .ractical aspects o doin# step G A with another person. a* same se$ b* someone you can trust& lovin#& compassionate c* someone knowled#eable with 89 step pro#rammed d* .repare yoursel or that appointment by #oin# over 89 step material * 's you share listen to your attitudes and emotions #* don-t e$plain why did somethin# or don-t blame someone else :ust share your character de ects and sins h* hold nothin# back& be transparent I* there mi#ht be eedback o some kind& be prepared or it %his step is not complete until sections 8& 9& and ) are done 8* 4on essed to ,od0 Date completed 9* 4on essed to Sel 0 Date completed )* 4on essed to 'nother0 Date completed =* Who is it+ A* 'ppointment time B* Date completed Step #6 Were entirely ready to have ,od remove all these de ects o character. 7ou are learnin# to swim& you have held your breath under water and you have discovered how to kick your eet. Now you embark on a new step& you enter the deep end and must be willin# to trust your teacher to support you as he holds you up as you be#in to swim. 7ou are used to the way thin#s have been in the shallow end and despite your ears and doubts& you willin#ly #ive yoursel to your teacher who is teachin# you to swim. 4an you relate to this kind o ear+ We have discovered a lot about us& some thin#s we want to #et rid o and some thin#s we eel we need and have had like security blankets to protect us. Now in step GB we must con ront all our de ects o character and become willin# to have ,od remove them. Sounds scary and hard """"hard or impossible or us but the key is a willin#ness to let ,od be our 4ommander and 6ord as He leads us. What ears come to mind about bein# willin# to have ,od remove all our de ects o character+ What character de ects do you eel you need despite their ne#ative impact on your li e+ Step G 9 and step G B are alike in that both steps re2uire that we admit we 15

have problems and both re2uire that we look to ,od or solutions. !ead @ark A09A")= %he woman in this te$t had a problem in her li e without human solution despite her human e orts& she took a leap o aith and willin#ly reached out to ;esus and was totally healed. How have you& like the woman in this story hid your problems or tried to solve them yoursel + denial& hidin#& runnin#& blamin# or #ivin# up... %he woman-s problem caused her to e$perience a lot o losses& i.e. loss o di#nity& loss o money& shame& re:ection and yet ;esus never hurt or re:ected her in any way. Do you eel you can brin# all you have discovered about yoursel in steps G= and GA and willin#ly ask ,od to remove them+ Why+ @icah C0> (Do not re:oice over me& my enemyJ %hou#h I have allen I will arise. %hou#h I sit in darkness the 6ord will be a li#ht unto me.( %his verse speaks o a li etime :ourney& (I may not be per ect but I will not #ive up or turn back. We must never #ive up< we must be willin# to have all o our character de ects removed. What is your bi##est challen#e in step GB that you see+ .salm )C0="A (Deli#ht yoursel in the 6ord and He will #ive you the desires o your heart 4ommit your way to the 6ord& trust in Him and He will do this.( ;ames =0 8D (Humble yourselves be ore the 6ord& and He will li t you up.( What practical ideas are present in these verses to do step GB+ .salm 88?0 8D " 89 (I seek you with all my heart< do not let me stray rom your commands. I have hidden your word in my heart that I mi#ht not sin a#ainst you. .raise be to you& O 6ord< teach me your decrees.( %hese verses speak about a commitment to #et close to the 6ord throu#h prayer& Bible study& and worship< do you have a personal daily plan to do these and what di erence does it make in your daily li e+ I you consider all your character de ects& those you know you must willin#ly have ,od remove and those you want to keep around awhile& what #oals are you willin# to work towards.../like in one year I would like to have ,od lessen my tendency toward an#er*. One @onth ,oal One 7ear ,oal .aul in .hilippians )089"8= said....(Not that I have already attained& or am already per ect& but I press on...I press toward the #oal...( We must move toward ,od-s will or us /see II 4or. A< 8C 1 ;er. 9?088* and never #ive up. Do you eel like it-s possible or ,od to lead you into reedom+ Why+

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!ead Hebrew =08="8B %o complete this step& write out a letter o bein# willin# to have ,od remove all your de ects o character ...address it to ,od. Dear 6ord& I stru##le with... Date Name Step #7 Humbly asked ,od to remove our shortcomin#s. @ark 80 =D" =9 %hen a leper came to Him& implorin# Him& kneelin# down to Him and sayin# to Him& (I you are willin#& you can make me clean&( 'nd ;esus& moved with compassion& put out His hand and touched him& and said to him& (I am willin# be cleansed. 's soon as He had spoken& immediately the leprosy le t him& and he was cleansed. %his man in his day aced a situation he could not handle& he elt shame& ear and doubted a little and yet he came to ;esus. Step G C ocuses on us as we stop actin# like we can solve our problems and brin# everythin# that is in us to ,od and humbly #ive ourselves to ,od. 'lthou#h we ask ,od to remove our shortcomin#s& we realiHe that this is not #oin# to happen all at once and is a daily commitment to dependin# on ,od. Seein# how the person in @ark 80=D " =9 may o elt& how do you eel about brin#in# yoursel to ,od and yieldin# to Him+ Havin# depended on you to solve your problems or escape rom them& what role do you eel ,od should play& can He help+ How+ What does humility mean to you+ !ead @ark 8D08C " 99 When we humbly brin# ourselves to ,od in step GC& it-s not or i$in# us up so we can still be G80 it is to be#in a li e where ,od is G8& but some thin#s are harder to #ive up than others. What is easy or you to #ive up o your shortcomin#s and what is hard or impossible at this time+ 4an you trust ,od with your li e+ Humility is what step GC is all about ...read .salm )90B"> 1 .roverbs 9)09B 1 @att. 8>0= 1 I .eter A0B&C 1 I ;ohn A0 8="8A and write what you eel humility is. Humility is... We make humility practical in our daily lives by0 a* .rayer " see .hilippians =0B"> b* Bible study c* Meepin# a :ournal o you eelin#s d* 3$tend #race to yoursel ...we are not per ect e* Doin# all the steps * Worship ,od in music #* !ead #ood books 17

Surrenderin# our lives to ,od is also what step GC is all about. !ead .salm )C0 ="B What does it say to you and how do you do what it says+ Doin# step GC is not a one"time event but a walk and a li estyle. !ead .salm 9A0>"88. How is ,od #uidin# and teachin# you today+ Step GC re2uires that we consider all we are both #ood and bad and brin# all our character de ects and throu#h prayer askin# Him to be G8 in our lives. What is your present relationship with ,od like+ %he apostle .aul in 'cts ch >"? went rom an#er toward people whom he didn-t like to love or them and all this happened as he yielded control o himsel to ;esus and the 6ord chan#ed him. We also will e$perience positive chan#e in our lives as we yield to ,od and #row in Him. Do you see or e$pect positive chan#e in yoursel + Iinally step GC is about askin# ,od to remove our shortcomin#s and we are declarin# our trust in Him& we are surrenderin# our lives to Him knowin# He can be trusted to lead us into His will. .lease write out your own prayer to complete this step. Date Si#n Step #8 @ade a list o all persons we had harmed and became willin# to amends to them all. @y name is .aul now and a lot has chan#ed since I was called Saul. I look at this step G> and how I had to do it nearly 9DDD years a#o& see my story in 'cts ch. > N ?. Ior me it be#an with the disciple named Stephen who was stoned in ;erusalem and I was a #overnment witness who became the leader attackin# the early church and I caused a lot o pain to a lot o people. 'll my an#er and blindness towards 4hristianity ended on a lonely road about noon on the way to Damascus.... I met ;esus and it all chan#ed.... now I preach what I once tried to destroy. So with all this chan#e in me& my aith was now in 4hrist and past sins or#iven< but I still elt shame and #uilt and sick eelin# about those 4hristians I hurt. %hus I made a list& prayed and went to these people& at irst they didn-t trust me with reason& I had wanted them in prison be ore. However when I shared my wron#s and how I hurt them as well as helpin# them in practical ways or the hurt I caused& I e$perienced healin# and :oy like never be ore. ,od Bless .aul 4an you relate to this story and i so how+ .urpose o Step G >

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We have looked at our wron#s& admitted them to ,od and to another human bein# now it is time to be willin# to make amends or our wron#s. Not how they hurt us but our wron#s. %hus we take responsibility or our actions. the buck stops with us& we take responsibility or our li estyle. @akin# amends is not the same as apolo#iHin# (I-m sorry( but include makin# better or repairin# the idea o what Oacchaeus did in 6uke 8?0>...(I I have cheated anybody out o anythin# I-ll pay back...( What do you eel about makin# amends+ 6ike the above story about the 'postle .aul& we carry #uilt and shame about past relationships and at times we may say (ya but they hurt me and made me mad.( Step G> N G? are about cleanin# out the dark eelin#s o an#er& #uilt& shame and thus startin# over a resh. We only concentrate on what we did and take responsibility or it. In @att. C0 )"A we read0 'nd why do you look at the speck in your brother-s eye& but do not consider the plank in your own eye+ Or how can you say to your brother& let me remove the speck out o your eye& and look& a plank is in your own eye+ HypocriteJ Iirst remove the plank rom your own eye& and then you will see clearly to remove the speck out o your brother-s eye. %hus in step G > we become willin# to make amends and in step G? we will make amends. It re2uires humility on our part to say to people& I was wron#.... What is your de inition o humility+ 'lso& we must release our need to #et even or make others su er which means lettin# #o o shame& an#er& and reven#e. Is it hard or you to or#ive people+ 3$plain. !ead @att. 8>0 98")A 1 6uke 8?0 8"8D and write out what or#iveness means to you. Ior#iveness is... What step G> involves0 a* @ake a list o all people we have harmed "On the ne$t pa#e. How we hurt people0 physical ...se$ual...emotional& control people.... dominate...intimidateE#ossip& i#nore people i.e. shut them out& unload everythin# on them. b* We may have e$perienced0 #rie & ear& an#er& denial& eelin#s that the past is the past& thus or#et it. !emember we are asked only to be willin# to make amends. & use the 19

charts in step G= as a #uide. Be honest and accurate about your actions. Write on the back o this pa#e i needed. Who I Hurt0 !elationship to me0 What I did0 How it hurt the person0 How it hurt me0 's you look over your list& whom have you hurt the most and how+ What pain ul memories do you wish you could :ust i#nore i you could+ 's you become willin# to make amends and search you-re past relationships& remember ,od loves you and He will never leave you nor orsake you. see .salm 898. %o complete this step si#n this statement0 I ... willin# to make amends to all people I have harmed by my li estyle. Si#n N Date Step #9 @ade direct amends to such people wherever possible e$cept when to do so would in:ure them or others. It had been 9D years since he saw his brother and now he was #oin# to meet him a#ain and he was a raid. ;acob had cheated 3sau and he had said he would kill ;acob and now ;acob aced his brother and =DD men with him. In ear and dread he prayed and #ave a #i t o #reat value to 3sau& or you see ;acob had chan#ed. In order to live in peace ;acob had to make peace with his brother. 4an you identi y with this story+ Havin# made a list o people we had harmed& we have been willin# to make amends thus takin# responsibility or our actions.... In stepG? we make direct amends e$cept when to do so would in:ure them or others. StepG? re2uires that we be willin# to chan#e how we live. !emember makin# amends is not the same as apolo#iHin#& it is more than sayin#& (I-m sorry(& it means to re orm& make better or repair the dama#e o the past. !ead 6uke 8?0>. How did Oacchaeus make amends to people+ %ypes o amends to di erent #roups0 a* %hose we need to make amends as soon as possible i.e. amily close riends. 20

b* %hose we can only share a little o what we did lest it hurt them. c* %hose we can not make amends now and must wait till later i.e. hurt is too resh wait till the ri#ht time. d* %hose who we can never make amends i.e. person is dead or where se$ual acts have been involved and could be#in a#ain. e* 'mends to you& we hurt ourselves. What will happen as a result o doin# steps G8 " G?< a* Ireedom that is new. b* Happiness. c* .ast will not control our uture. d* We will know peace. c* We will e$perience a chan#e in attitude that is less sel "centered. d* We will eel ree o #uilt and shame. e* 'ccept ourselves imper ections and all. Which o these results are you now+ be#innin# to en:oy+ What is involved in makin# direct amends+ %o those we can approach now0 share what you did speci ically& try to repair dama#e done& i it involves money or thin#s& we must make an e ort to make ri#ht& pray. %o those we cannot contact0 prayin# about it& write a letter to person& do an act o kindness in memory o person to someone close to that person& maybe we can do it later i hurt is resh. %o those we can only share a little lest it hurt them0 share what you can so as not to hurt them. How would you handle makin# amends to ,od i you elt you o ended Him+ I.e. like .eter when he denied the 6ord. @ark 8=0 BB " C9 ,uidelines to makin# amends0 a* show love and have a #ood attitude b* never blame the other person or make e$cuses c* accept the conse2uences or your actions and take responsibility d* pray be ore you #o and plan what you will say e* i they react ne#atively& we have done our part and don-t have to answer or them * have an attitude o wantin# to clean up past relationships and admittin# you are wron#. #* e$tend compassion to you How do you eel about makin# amends+ !ead .hilemon 80 > " 8C What does this say to you about makin# direct amends+ 4hart G8

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'@3NDS NOW O! 6'%3! %o whom will I make amends and why0 What I ear about makin# amends0 How I will make amends0 When I made the amend0 How it helped me0 4hart G9 '@3NDS I @'7 N353! @'M3 %o whom I will make amends0 How I want to make amend0 What I ear0 Why I may not be able make amends0 When I made it or what I did instead0 4omments0 Date N Si#n Step #10 4ontinue to take personal inventory and& when we are wron#& promptly admit it. It was the best o its day and would carry many passen#ers in lu$ury unsurpassed. It le t port with pride and in an attempt to set a new record it went ast. It-s owners said (,od Himsel couldn-t sink it(& and with this attitude they sped across the 'tlantic not heedin# the warnin#s o iceber#s. %oday the %itanic rests miles down on the loor o the 'tlantic Ocean. Why+ %hey never planned or the situation outside o their control " not even enou#h li eboats on board. %hey never heeded the warnin#s and slowed down or maintained a proper watch in the ni#ht. 'bove all& the #reatest law was the attitude o (...we are unstoppable " pride(. We have come a lon# way in these steps and we may eel that every area is addressed& but we are not per ect and step G8D is where we maintain our watch or the waters that are uncharted and iceber#s o habits& ears& an#er or shame may appear in our path. 22

Have you seen #rowth in your walk with ,od as a result o steps G 8 " ?+ 3$plain. Step G8D can be compared to spottin# rust on a car and be ore it does #reat dama#e it is taken care o . 'lso step G8D is where we use the steps on a daily basis to maintain peace. I character de ects are like rust& what kind o (rust( bothers you the most+ %he Bible has a lot to say about not takin# or #ranted the peace we have now and bein# prepared or times o stress. In @ark 8=0)> we read (Watch and pray& lest you enter into temptation. %he spirit is ready& but the lesh is weak.( What does watch and pray mean to you+ In .salm >A0 >"? we read0 (I will hear what ,od the 6ord will speak& or He will speak peace to His people and to His saints< but let them not turn back to olly. Surely His salvation is near to those who ear Him& that #lory may dwell in our land.( %he victory and peace we have today is not because o our stron# determined will but because we have made the decision to turn our will and lives over to Him and live or Him. 6ookin# at .salm >A0>"?& what promises and warnin#s are listed+ In step G9 we looked at some o our personal insanity-s like0 i only thinkin#< ears< some o our habits and thirsts /see pa#e C">* and what do we do i these and other thin#s resur ace. What are you a raid o rom your past stru##les that could return and still a ect you today+ How to handle a crisis0 you have :ust aced a situation where one o your old character de ects returned& what do you do+ 8* #ive in and throw away the 89 steps " NO 9* punish yoursel in some way " NO )* so what do you do0 a* e$tend #race to yoursel " read !om. )09) 1 I ;ohn 80? b* #o throu#h steps 8"? as needed c* never #ive up or lose heart " read @icah C0> ,od loves you and avoid isolation. 4ontinue to take personal inventory0%ypes08* Spot check0 anytime " it is needed 9* Daily& end o day& " helps us to ocus on ,od )* .eriodic0 re lects on our pro#ress !ead I %hess. A08C"99 1 II %im. 909D"9B What do these te$ts say a daily inventory should contain / eel ree to add more points than in te$t* In order to maintain the peace we have #ained throu#h workin# the steps we need to be humble< transparent< dependin# on ,od< #rowin# in our relationship with ,od by surrenderin# ourselves to ,od and yieldin# our 23

will to His will. !ead .hil. 90 A"88 ;esus is our e$ample. Iinally use the inventory list or a daily (rust check(. Write out your own prayer o dependence on ,od or daily help and or#iveness. Step #11 Sou#ht throu#h prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with ,od& prayin# only or knowled#e o His will or us and the power to carry that out. He was ollowin# a new direction and he was no lon#er wanderin#& but ollowin# ,od. He remembers the day he le t the amiliar ways and li estyle& it was a memory now...now his li e had purpose and althou#h he didn-t understand it all& he trusted ,od. He was told by ,od to do new thin#s he never would have tried had his li e not #one a new direction but he trusted ,od. Sure he made mistakes but he prayed and thou#ht o ,od and now ,od had #reat plans. 'braham-s #oal in li e now was to know ,od-s will and he did ollow that will. How has your li e chan#ed since you be#an the 89 steps+ 7es& li e has chan#ed or us in step G) we made a decision to turn our lives and will over to ,od and steps G="8D helped us to clean house< stop sel " destructive behaviors< make peace with out past and release our shame and #uilt. Step G 88 is where we ocus our will and our lives on ,od and #et to know Him better on a daily basis and He will lead us daily. In ;ohn =08)"8= we read0 (Whoever drinks o this water will thirst a#ain& but whoever drinks o the water that I shall #ive him will never thirst. But the water that I shall #ive him will become in him a ountain o water sprin#in# up into into everlastin# li e(. We have talked about our thirsts in an earlier step and we all have thirsts< thirsts or physical needs& emotional needs and spiritual needs. However the dan#er e$ists when we tried to satis y our thirsts apart rom ,od and our thirst becomes G8 in our lives. But& we have seen our situation and have put our trust in ;esus 4hrist who alone can meet our needs as we put Him G8 in our lives as we did in step G). 're there thirsts in your li e you have not #iven over to ,od+ 3$plain. So we ocus our lives on ,od on a daily basis+ 8* .rayer daily " mornin# " a ternoon " evenin#. 9* Bible study. )* @editation on ,od-s Word. =* Be#in astin#. A* 4on essin# all known sin daily to ,od doin# steps G="8D 24

B* Iellowship with other people in church and #roups. C* Seekin# ,od-s direction or our lives. Which o these activities is hard or you to do+ ,od has #reat plans or our lives and we read about this ;eremiah 9?088. (Ior I know the plans I have or you& declares the 6ord& plans to prosper you and not to harm you& plans to #ive you hope and a uture(. What do you think ,od-s will or your li e is+ Seekin# ,od-s will or our lives is ound as we seek Him& He will lead us. How to study the Bible& pray and meditate on it better. 6et us look at the 6ord-s prayer as an e$ample0 @att. B0?"8) v.? Our Iather in heaven& hallowed be your name. v.8D 7our kin#dom come. 7our will be done on earth as it is in heaven. v.88 ,ive us this day our daily bread v.89 'nd or#ive us our debts& as we or#ive our debtors. v.8) 'nd do not lead us into temptation& but deliver us rom the evil one. Ior yours is the kin#dom and the power and the #lory orever. 'men. %o study the Bible0 8* Meep a notebook handy to write thou#hts down. 9* .ray and ask the Holy Spirit to speak throu#h the Word to you. )* !ead the whole chapter in two translations i possible to #et over all view. =* 'sk yoursel these 2uestions.... What does this te$t tell me about ,od& His abilities and what+ I-m to do...+ A* In one sentence what is the theme o the te$t to you+ B* What words stand out i.e. Iather in heaven... @att. B0?"8) on prayer0 Our prayer contains 8* Worship or who ,od is v. ?"8D& v. 8) 9* !eco#nition that ,od is our source )* %ells us we must or#ive others =* %ells us to ask ,od to lead us A* Helps us to ocus our thou#hts on ,od and not :ust ask or thin#s i.e. He is not a cosmic Santa 4lause What would you include in prayer or what is important to you+ Does ,od speak to you throu#h prayer and Bible study+ @editation0 %ake the te$t0 read it& study it& and apply its principles... use your ima#ination& place yoursel in te$t and make it personal to you 25

memoriHe te$t. %ry this0 !ead ,enesis 8908 @editate on this scripture and ima#ine you are 'braham or Sarah and you are told what the te$t says and e$plore how you would eel+ Do one o the ollowin# two 2uestions0 8* !ead ,alatians 909D 1 .hilippians =0B"? 1 .salm 89C0 8"9 What do these verses say is our role and ,od-s role in step G88+ or 9* !ead ;ohn 8A0 ="88 What does ;esus promise to those who seek Him+ 'braham 6incoln once said& (I have been driven many times to my knees by the overwhelmin# conviction that I have nowhere else to #o(. Iinally it is ,od-s will that0 We seek Him .salm 8DA0= !eturn to the 6ord Hosea B08 See ourselves as sinner-s !om )09) 6ook to ;esus as Savior 3ph. 80C Saved throu#h ,od-s #race 3ph. 90>"? !ealiHe that ,od can help us Isa. =808D We can depend on Him ;er. )909C .ut ,od irst daily @att. B0)) We ask Him to or#ive us I ;ohn 80? We don-t condemn ourselves !om. >08 We pray and worship ,od .hil.=0B We humble ourselves .hil.90 A"88 We love people I ;ohn =09D"98 We know the peace that only ;esus #ives Is. 9B0) Write your re lections on step G88 Step #12 Havin# had a spiritual awakenin# as the result o these steps& we tried to carry this messa#e to others and to practice these principles in all our a airs. ('maHin# #race& how sweet the sound %hat saved a wretch like me. I once was lost but now am ound& Was blind& but now I see.( ;ohn Newton& the writer o this son# e$perienced a chan#e o direction& a spiritual awakenin#. He went rom a slave trader to lovin# and respectin# all people when he ound ;esus 4hrist as 6ord and Savior. ;ohn Newton-s spiritual awakenin# a ected his li e-s direction and he was never the same. We durin# these 89 steps have had a spiritual awakenin# also. We have #one rom0 loneliness& shame& addictions and our instincts #one wild to balancin# our emotional& physical and spiritual needs. 'lso& as we surrendered ourselves to ,od we ound peace. %he key to remember about step G89 is this idea o a spiritual awakenin#. How have you chan#ed since be#innin# the 89 steps+

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Someone wrote in a son#& ( I was lost in a antasy& that blinded me& until your love broke throu#h(< or us this is what a spiritual awakenin# is all about. His love breakin# throu#h our denial. We were lost& blinded by many thin#s until we acknowled#ed our needs and throu#h steps 8"89 yielded ourselves to ,od. Describe your spiritual awakenin#+ 'ndre 4rouch wrote in one o his son#s& (I I never had a problem I-d never know that ,od could solve them& I-d never know what aith in ,od could do...(. What can you thank ,od or about your past+ 7es& the 89 steps have been the means to the end o indin# peace throu#h a relationship with ,od. Sure we were lost and as we yielded ourselves to ;esus we ound peace. In I 4or. 8A08D we read< ( But by the #race o ,od I am what I am& and His #race toward me was not in vain....( II 4or. A08C we read0( %here ore i anyone is in 4hrist& he is a new creation< old thin#s have passed away< behold& all thin#s have become new.( We are new people& but we are not per ect and we can help other people by as someone has said<( showin# one be##ar where we be##ars ound bread( %hus we have had a spiritual awakenin#& so what do we do about it+ 8* We tried to carry this messa#e to others. !ead @ark A08? 1 ;ohn )08B 1 ,al. B0 8 1 4ol. 80?"8) What messa#e o hope would you share with someone else and how+ We can share our e$perience and story and we can help in practical ways. We must remember that i we keep this messa#e to ourselves we will die spiritually. We must evan#eliHe. @att. 9>08?"9D 9* 'lso we can practice these principles in all our a airs. .hil. 80B says< (Bein# con ident o this thin#& that He who has be#un a #ood work in you will complete it until the day o ;esus 4hrist.( 3ph. 908D says< (Ior we are His workmanship& created in 4hrist ;esus or #ood works& which ,od prepared be orehand that we should walk in them.( What situations in li e can you practice the 89 steps+ We are not per ect and urther spiritual #rowth is our #oal throu#h0 prayer& Bible study& church& keepin# a :ournal o thou#hts and eelin#s& practices all steps. %hrou#h these 89 steps two 2uestions have popped up time and a#ain. 8* What must I do to eel loved+ 9* What must I do to eel valued+ Now my answer& i I eel that I must be per ect& rich& stron# or have it all to#ether to eel loved or valued then because I-m not that& I may try to run 27

rom li e and hide in dru#s.... se$.... other thin#s. However& i I put ,od irst and have a stron# relationship with Him throu#h ;esus and i I treat others& as I would want to be treated& then I will know peace. 'lso& I must make it my #oal to #row spiritually then I will e$perience more emotional stability. What i I all back into the old ways+ 8* Never #ive up @icah C0> 9* 4on ess to ,od all sin I ;ohn 80? )* ,o throu#h 89 steps =* .ray and don-t stay alone How will you handle ailure+ I .eter 90? (But you are a chosen #eneration& a royal priesthood& a holy nation& His own special people& that you may proclaim the praises o him who who called you out o darkness into His marvelous li#ht.( In the li#ht o this verse how do you now eel about you+ In Summary0 In step G8 we admitted our powerlessness to handle our dependencies. In step G9 we came to believe ,od could restore us to sanity& as we have done insane thin#s. In step G) we yielded our will and our lives to ,od seekin# His will rather than our own. In step G= we did a earless inventory. In step GA we took that inventory and let ,od& others and ourselves wee us warts and all. In steps GB"C we in humility irst became willin# and then asked ,od to remove our sins and de ects o character. In steps G >"? we took responsibility or our actions and admitted to people we had Harmed& our wron#s a#ainst them< it was our #oal to make amends. However i makin# amends would hurt them we would not do it directly. In step G8D we kept a watch on our lives and throu#h a daily personal inventory made %hin#s ri#ht as needed. In step G 88 our primary ocus& no lon#er bein# (me(& we made it our daily #oal to know ,od-s will throu#h prayer& astin#& Bible readin# and ellowship. In step G 89 we& havin# had a spiritual awakenin# as a result o these 89 steps desired to Share this with others and to practice these 89 steps on a daily basis. Ior to know a new way o livin#& one where the .rince o .eace is 6ord and we are at peace with ,od and man that is livin#. .lease record your eelin#s about this or any other step. ,od Bless 7ou By !ev. Danny Blackwell

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New Hope: Transformation 6 Written by Danny Blackwell and published by New Hope Outreach. Quoted verbatim. See In ormation on !e"publishin#. Transformations Volume 6 Let Us Sit At Their Well By !ev. Danny Blackwell In ;ohn chapter = we have the story o ;esus meetin# the woman at the well. 's the woman came& ;esus& who had entered her world shocked her& P#ive me a drink&Q He said. %he ollowin# interaction proved He knew her and respected her. %his unnamed Samaritan woman a ter an encounter with ;esus was chan#ed. We today are called to enter and interact with people who need ;esus. We have a messa#e they need to hear. ,od loves them R died or them R rose or them and can trans orm them& :ust as He is trans ormin# us. It is interestin#& ;esus chose this unnamed Samaritan woman& a despised people R no one is despised in the 6ordSs eyes. %he #ay community and those in it are the very ones who eel re:ected& :ud#ed and despised by 4hristians. %hus walls e$ist that separate us rom our brothers& sisters and riends. What can we do+ We must be#in by listenin# to their pain& listenin# to their an#er and as we earn the ri#ht we can be#in. It was summer 9DDD& as we stood in the #ay community and asked 8DD people to respond to a survey. Our #oal was& :ust to be#in& by listenin# to them. %he results were surprisin#. Si$ 2uestions were asked that dealt with topics0 what do you like and what is the #reatest need o the community+ 'lso& where would you #o or help i needed+ O most interest to us were the last three 2uestions0 What could a church provide or you+ What advise would you #ive a minister who wants to serve people in the community and i you could ask ,od one 2uestion& what would it be+ %he common thread in the answers about the community and how they elt about it was0 Pa sense o securityQ& Plike homeQ as well as

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Bein# a close knit community& that has a sense o reedom to pursue the li estyles they choose& whether that be #ay or trans#endered& there is an acceptance and unity in the ace o stru##les& which may arise when they need help and their primary direction or it comes rom within. %hus& we as 4hristians& in order to impact the people in this community with the ,ospel& must show respect. In a practical way we can do what ;esus did with the woman at the well. ,o to them& sit in their community and #et a burden or people. %he ne$t three 2uestions deal with 2uestions related to the church. %he irst 2uestion bein#& what could a church provide or you brou#ht answers like nothin#& consumer issues like weddin#s and unerals& and urther re lections reveal that the church is not number one on their list. %he impact o the ne$t 2uestion was overwhelmin#< the 2uestion bein# what advice would you #ive a minister who wants to serve people in this community+ Some o the answers were& be open"minded& donSt be :ud#emental& stop preachin# hatred& donSt be homophobic& treat people e2ually& donSt presume you can measure this community by others where you have been be ore& be ready to listen& become involved& be tolerant& be #ay positive& patience. By lookin# at these answers in a di erent li#ht& it is possible to see how they view us 4hristians& thus they must see us as bein# :ud#emental and close"minded& as well as homophobic. %he author had an opportunity to sit in a restaurant with a #roup o transse$uals and when asked who I was by one member and I told them a minister& he was shocked. %he point bein# i all you have is ne#ative input without meetin# a real person there is a tendency to write the whole community o whether that be 4hristian or #ay. 'll the answers to the 2uestions were really #ood and i we put them into practice& we can make a di erence in any community. %he very last 2uestion in the survey was& i you could ask ,od one 2uestion& what would it be+ %his is a very open"ended 2uestion and I donSt think there is a lot o uni2ueness about the answers. Some o them were as simple or comple$ as PwhyQ to Pwhy am I #ay and why did He make me #ay+Q .ractical steps to reach someone who is se$ually broken 8. It is #oin# to take ,od movin# on their lives as a result o our prayers. 9. We are aced with people who have a stron# sense o community and i we donSt stand alon# side o them& we will loose them. ). We have to ace our own brokenness R the very act that advice was #iven or us to be open& tolerant Emeans that we are not that real about our own brokenness. =. We must step out o our com ort Hone R they are not #oin# to come to us i they donSt sense trust e.#. it is ok to say that ,od loves a homose$ual in church R they are sinners like us. A. 'lthou#h the #ay community appears a ti#ht community it is not really& 30

broken relations& distant amilies loom either in the past or on the horiHon. We need to be a voice o hope or people. B. It is not enou#h to :ust say ,od loves the homose$ual in the church but the church must become a place o healin# and redemption. We have to #o to them and show and live that we care or them. I we donSt #o to them they arenSt comin# to us Iamilies @atter Iamilies who pray to#etherE amilies who play to#etherE but how does a amily handle one o their members who is #ay+ .ray yes& what does it eel like+ We pray that it doesnSt happen in our amily& a amily who has #rown up in the church& but it does. 7ou are a member o a amily and look up to your brother& he played in every sport activity and e$celled. 7ou were close and you thou#ht you knew him completely but then one day he says he is #ay. @y response& PHave you told @om N Dad+ Have you told the pastor+Q With that he lau#hs and says& P %he last time that I was in our church& someone called me a a##ot. Do you remember the pastor sayin# 'dam and 3ve& not 'dam and Steve.Q %he conversation ends& he walks out the door and the brother with whom I had elt at one time so close suddenly we had erected a wall. I put a si#n on that wall& PDo not touchQ. 't dinner the amily who usually talked about every issue& didnSt about this one. 's my brother le t& and my mother cried& Dad went silent& our parents wondered what to do and where could they turn. %his is somethin# that amilies donSt want to talk about to church riends. We keep our per ect 4hristian masks on however a ter the initial shock& a ter the Pwhere did we #o wron#sQ& and a ter the time o amily prayer in desperation& you share. When the cat is out o the ba# and you wonder how sister so and so and brother so and so know and then the inevitable advice be#ins. Lncle ;ohn is like that and he is happyEmy aunt :ust came outEI hope he doesnSt #et 'IDS.I always wondered i he wasE. itSs an abomination you knowEunless he repents& donSt let him back into the houseEso many mi$ed messa#es. %he amily hears but when I put my head on the pillow at ni#ht alone in the dark& the 2uestion plays in my mind& PHeSs my brother why didnSt he trust me with this one+Q 's I dri t o I realiHe that this one is not #oin# to #o away on its own and I donSt know how it is #oin# to end. %ime #oes by. ItSs been ten years since that ni#ht when he shared those ate ul words and thank ully to ,od all the advice that #ood meanin# people #ave were iltered not by ear& not by shame& but by ,odSs love and the act that he is still our brother. Ior me& I aced that wall that I had constructed between mysel and my brother and ,od spoke to me that the bricks that made the wall need to become bricks o pavement& cobblestones to brin# a prodi#al home and one 31

day that will happen by an everlastin# Iather who loves every prodi#al. %he above story is true in so many ways by so many di erent brothers and sisters and it is encoura#in# to know that ,od still calls us to reach out to our prodi#al brothers and sisters to be there or them& not :ud#in# but lovin# and speakin# the truth in love. %here is a ine line to walk& to keep the door open and yet not approve o the li estyle. 'bove all keep the door o communication open. We never #ive up hope because the 6ord is able& in His timetable. I want to encoura#e you that when the advice comes in donSt let it discoura#e your aith in ,od and donSt stop prayin#. 6uke 8A09D "B t !hile he !as still a l"#$ !a% "&&' his &ather sa! hi( a#) !as &ille) !ith *"(passi"# &"r hi(+ he ra# t" his s"#' thre! his ar(s ar" #) hi( a#) kisse) hi(,%ips or Sharin# the ,ospel by !obbi Menney /used by permission* See a person& not a homose$ual. We-re not a clean"up campai#n< we-re ambassadors o love. How would you approach any person you elt needed 4hrist+ .aul 6ittle-s book& How to ,ive 'way 7our Iaith& mi#ht be a #ood one to read or ideas. %here-s nothin# special about homose$uality as a sin in ,od-s eyes. Don-t let it cloud yours. Homose$uals are lookin# or love& :ust like anyone else. ;esus 4hrist is the answer or that need. !emember that the #ospel means (#ood news.( Be sure to present a Savior& not a code o ethics. ;esus is a real person& not a li e philosophy. Don-t be so concerned about a particular sin. ,od wants to redeem the whole person& not :ust his or her se$uality. Mnow what you are o erin#. 7ou are o erin# ;esus 4hrist as 6ord and Savior. 7ou are not o erin# heterose$uality. %here is a di erent between bein# homose$ual and actin# out homose$ual behaviour. When a person makes a commitment to 4hrist& he or she must come into a#reement with ,od that homose$ual behaviour is sin. 7ou are initially o erin# the power to come into abstinence rom homose$ual behaviours""but the eelin#s are not #oin# to chan#e overni#ht. %hat will come with time& the care and concern o riends& and the 2uality o his or her own continued surrender to 4hrist. 'ctively love that person. Words can be so empty. Demonstrate your love by listenin#& by callin#& by con rontin# when necessary& by sittin# to#ether in church. 6ove is a verb. Don-t be a raid to hear some (#ory( details. Some olks don-t know how to e$press themselves in any way but street lan#ua#e. 6isten with love and 32

respond as you seek the counsel o ;esus. 6ove them where they-re at. Don-t be a raid to say& (I love you.( Don-t be a raid to hu#& touch& hold hands in prayer. We all need that physical a irmation o love rom one another. %ouchin# is not se$ual& it-s lovin#. Homose$uals need to learn the place o a ection outside the conte$t o se$ual involvement. %hey won-t rape you. I your intentions are misunderstood& e$plain yoursel & but don-t back away. Share your li e. @any people comin# rom a homose$ual back#round are surprised to realiHe that (re#ular olks( also wrestle with se$ual temptation& loneliness& re:ection& hurt& etc. %hat helps them put their lives into perspective. .resent the whole #ospel. ;esus wants to set them ree rom lyin#& bitterness& pride& rebellion& you name it. Homose$ual behaviour and antasy are only a part. Don-t make homose$uality the ocal point o your relationship. While you should not be a raid to talk about this issue& remember that there are many other areas o your riend-s li e you can discuss. 'nd let them see ;esus& the answer to all their sins. %ell them about 3$odus. Share Scriptures like 8 4orinthians B088 / "... a#) s *h !ere s"(e "& %" ..."/ as well as testimonies o others who have come out o homose$uality. "Faith *"(eth 0% heari#$ ..." %ransse$ualism in the 4hurch0 ' pastor responds Is there anythin# I have learned which could be trans erable to other pastors in similar circumstances+ I am hesitant to #eneralise rom our own e$perience as ;amesS story is such a uni2ue work o ,od. Nevertheless& I hope that the ollowin# are help ul0 Do not allow yoursel to be pressurised by anyone to push a person into a particular course o action or which they may not be ready. %hou#hts o Pwhat will others think i they ind out+Q must be resisted. %ake time to seek ,od. Note care ully the witness o your spirit. Do some thorou#h Bible study. Iocus particularly on issues such as creation identity& the all& the new birth and our identity in 4hrist. Scriptural teachin# on eunuchs is help ul /Deut 9)08< Is AB0)"A*. !emember ,odSs order is always acceptance be ore trans ormation. !emember& however& that ,odSs #oal is trans ormation& but it is trans ormation into the new creation& not into the old creation. ,od& in heaven& transcends the matter o #ender identity. We are entitled to e$pect a #rowth to 4hrist likeness in li e& however a person dresses. 't every step& wherever possible& seek the ac2uiescence o the person. Ior 33

e$ample0 PI need to talk this over with a minister riend o mine. Is this OM by you+Q. 'void puttin# stumblin# blocks in the road by ill":ud#ed indiscretions. 'lways use the terms TheS1 ThimS& TsheS1 TherS appropriately so as to #ive no hint o the true identity o the person unless you know the other person already knows. ,ossip& even in hints is lethal and #reat care must be taken to avoid it. When sharin# in ormation with other members o the church about the transse$ualSs true identity& #ive clear biblical teachin# and counsel on how to understand and respond. ,ive time to members o the church who may be troubled and need to talk it throu#h. Do not rush the transse$ual into counsellin#. Inner healin# and possibly deliverance may be appropriate at the ri#ht time. It was our e$perience that the Word o ,od and the Holy Spirit& in the conte$t o an acceptin# community& did His soverei#n work. So inally what about Deuteronomy 990A+ 1...#"r ( st a (a# !ear !"(e#2s *l"thi#$' &"r the L345 %" r 6") )etests a#%"#e !h" )"es this.'re we not entitled to e$pect a transse$ual& even a post"operative one& to stop cross"dressin#+ Here are some thou#hts... %he sins o the heart /pride& #reed& :ealousy& unbelie & ear etc* are e2ually detestable to ,od. We all know that the process o sancti ication in these areas is o ten #radual. Ior the transse$ual we must allow or a process o chan#e that is rooted in heart trans ormation& rather than e$ternal pressure. 4easin# to cross"dress must be a #oal to move towards. I was privile#ed to be part o a process where at each sta#e a door o chan#e opened without me havin# to push it. O course& that may not always be the case. @arks o true repentance to look or in this process are0 " ' ready acknowled#ement that P,od is ri#ht and I am wron#Q on the matter o #ender. Deuteronomy 990A should trouble the transse$ualJ 'ttempts to e$plain it away /e.#. POh& thatSs :ust Old %estament stu Q* should be challen#ed. " Openness to discuss the past un#uardedly. " ' willin#ness at least to discuss the possibility o chan#e. " 'ctual steps towards chan#e should be looked or. Ior e$ample a willin#ness to become increasin#ly open with others and a #reater modesty in dress and 34

demeanour. " !esistance to steps o chan#e which you suspect is resistance to the Holy Spirit should be #ently& but irmly challen#ed. While naturally I was deli#hted at ;amesS decision to revert to a masculine li estyle& especially& in retrospect& at the relatively short time it took& I was actually reconciled or it never to happen. %his is o course provided that @andy was not resistin# the conviction o the Holy Spirit to chan#e and that there was #ood evidence o #rowin# holiness in other areas. %his is the story o the e$perience o a pastor in the south"east o 3n#land. %he names P@andyQ and P;amesQ are pseudonyms to protect the personSs true identity. http011www.parakaleo.co.uk1 Lsed with permission 7 a( $"i#$ t" p" r " t 8% Spirit "# all &lesh. By Alice Blackwell I was askin# the 6ord or more o His Holy Spirit or mysel and or Danny to come to a sharper ocus or the uture on 4hurch Street. %hrou#hout the weekend I elt a continual need to keep prayin# this prayer and to wait upon the 6ord 2uietly and consistently. I eel that sometime in the uture& somehow there needs to be somethin# permanent on 4hurch Street& a place to belon# or us and or the people to whom we are called to minister 3arly in the mornin# on @onday I awoke rom a dream where the 6ord was handin# me a brown piece o paper& which opened like an accordion. I elt that it was sayin# to me there is a need sometime in the uture or a place on 4hurch Street. 's I was ponderin# this& the 6ord spoke to me P I am #oin# to pour out my Spirit on all leshQ R as this was bein# said& I elt in my spirit that& yes& this will cause there to be a need or a place or these people to come to besides :ust meetin# in a co ee shop. With this I awoke and stood to my eet preparin# to #o to the livin# room or prayer. @y cat Ilu y #ot up o the bed at the same instant and I said to the 6ord& P I 7ou are indeed speakin# to me& it would be nice i my little cat would :ump on my back when I #et down to pray like she used to do a lon# time a#o.Q /She had stopped with the chan#es in loosin# Bootie*. I know this sounds simplistic but I no sooner said it and it happenedJ I elt in my spirit that the 6ord was indeed speakin# to me and I could hardly contain my e$citementJ I work with several people rom the @iddle 3ast and I have been sensin# their spirits to be unsteady with all the news etc. I want to be able to witness to them in some way and I instantly elt peace when the 6ord spoke to me PI am #oin# to pour out my Spirit on all leshQ. %his will take care o the unsteadiness 35

or everyone will see and eel the power o the 6ord. We travelled to the itinerant con erence and there we were handed a book P6ord 4apture @y Heart '#ainQ %here in the irst chapter the writer& 6aurie Smith was 2uotin# rom the Scripture R PI will pour out my Spirit on all leshQ. In the December issue o the .entecostal %estimony R there is an article about P %he 6i e in the 4ityQ R @ontreal 3van#el R >A years a#o& how it started with a solid oundation o prayer& evan#elism and missions. %he cry o my heart is PDo it a#ain 6ord in downtown %oronto& in the 4hurch Street area where 7our love is so needed.Q ' Quote rom another article by ;ohn 'rcher a would be missionary to the 3ast& P...whatever door He opens no man can shut. Ior now& we are on this ra t called aith& and the stron# current o His love is carryin# us beyond the horiHon. In the 3ast the dawn is breakin#. Beyond the horiHon are a new hope and a new callin# and a new vision. Ior now& aith& hope and love remain.Q ifte! from a "hristmas pu#lication from Bethany Bi#le "olle$e% &hen the wise men saw the star in the east that first "hristmas lon$ a$o' it capture! their attention an! they followe!( )t le! them to "hrist( That*s what li$ht !oes( )t lea!s people to +o!( As the worl! $rows !arker our lon$in$ for li$ht $rows stron$er%( http011www.transchristians.or#1archive1new"hope"outreach"archives1new" hope"trans ormation"B

Archive: "ontact ,s Written by Danny Blackwell and published by New Hope Outreach. Quoted verbatim. See In ormation on !e"publishin#. 't New Hope Outreach we would love to hear rom you. !ev. Danny Blackwell at =8B"CB)"?9)C email us at0 nhotorUyahoo.com New Hope -utreach New Hope Outreach is an e$"trans and e$"#ay ministry near %oronto. It was ounded and run by Danny Blackwell. It-s unclear what& i anythin#& New Hope actually did or does and may only be a pseudo or#aniHation. New Hope was on 36

o three members o %rans#ender International Iellowship but was not an 3$odus member. Lnlike ;erry 6each N !eality !esources& New Hope Outreach was more a missionary a#ency than a counselin# one. Here are (Outreach( and (4ore 5alues o New Hope.

We want to reach out to the alternate li estyle communities o downtown %oronto. We hope to mobiliHe believers to share the hope o ;esus With compassion and #race to all we meet. With ,od-s help we will show His love to many hurtin# people.

%rans people& and #ays to a less de#ree& were simply New Hope-s tar#et. In ;une 9DD?& New Hope appeared to shut down. Iirst& replaced Danny as their leader with someone named Daniel Burton. Danny-s blo# was immediately removed. ' week later& New Hope-s website was removed and blocked rom search en#ines. .rominent articles rom the site are available at the New Hope Outreach archive. See Als" http011www.transchristians.or#1e$"trans1new"hope"outreach T+)F: Hope in a Trans$en!ere! Bor!erlan! Written by Danny Blackwell and published by %rans#ender International Iellowship. Quoted verbatim. See In ormation on !e"publishin#. ,n!erstan!in$ an! .inisterin$ to a Trans$en!ere! /erson It was a #i t rom my wi e& this second blue :ean :acket& and the irst one was a #i t rom my older brother when I was seven. ' lot o thin#s happened between these two #i ts< thin#s #ood and bad& thin#s that added to me and thin#s that took away rom me. I donSt remember what became o the irst :acket all I remember is the pleasure o havin# and wearin# it. Stru##lin# with #ender identity tends to ill us with mi$ed messa#es and con usin# memories also. %he second :acket didnSt i#nite the same type o :oy but it stirred up the coals o smolderin# masculinity and anned the lames o what ,od wants to restore. Between these two #i ts I have tried to it into clothes and roles not o my #ender desi#n. So ISm le t with a dilemma& do I continue in utile attempts to block pain and escape bein# male or do I embrace the @aster %ailorSs call to put on restored masculinity. %he 6ord used that :acket to help me to see that bein# male is not u#ly& dirty& or somethin# I can put on and o but ,odSs #i t and it is or me. Iunny& the :acket elt bi# and sti with many empty pockets but the 6ord& as the @aster %ailor says #ently& PI am with you and 37

you are not aloneQ. Healin# un ortunately is not as easy as puttin# on a :acket but one o ,odSs #reatest #i ts is our #ender identity and rather than continuin# to discard it& we must embrace what ,od is able to restore. Sure I lost the irst :acket but it was restored to me in love rom my wi e. So also ,od calls us to willin#ly ace our losses and allow Him to clothe us a#ain with His #reat #i t& restored #ender identity. Iortunately we are not called to accomplish this task on our own or He uses His Word& people& and counsellin#. %he 6ord as the @aster %ailor #uarantees His work and He never ails. 's it took time to make and like the :acket< so chan#e in us will take time but by #ettin# closer to the 6ord& we are restored and healed. P7ou are not trans#endered& why are you here+Q %he person be ore me who made that statement assumed that because I wasnSt dressed as a woman and was part o a restaurant #atherin# or trans#endered people& I was a mystery to that person. @y answer to Susan /not real name* was I am a pastor and I care. Susan almost ell o the chair and said P4hristians donSt han# around usEQ I could have easily answered SusanSs 2uestion with& PI use to be trans#enderedEQ %rans#endered can be de ined as someone whose thou#hts& li estyle& or behavior crosses over #ender boundaries thus a man mi#ht eel that he should have been a woman and visa versa. It is a continuum on one end where those who only wear clothes o the opposite #ender to those on the other e$treme who eel that they should be the other #ender. Bei#$ tra#s$e#)ere) is like 0ei#$ i# a 0"r)erla#)' a# area s"(e!here 0et!ee# a**epti#$ "#e2s (ale "r &e(ale i)e#tit%' that is 6") $i9e#. The L"r)' !h" !alks i# that 0"r)erla#)' *alls s t" (i#ister :is heart a#) &ree)"( t" pe"ple there' as :e is a0le t" set pe"ple &ree. Ior those in this borderland there has been rom an early a#e a sense that they were di erent& or some& it e$pressed itsel in wantin# to do opposite #ender activities or play. Ior others there was a cross #ender identi ication that was rooted in abuse& ne#lect or a sense that the other se$ was treated better #rowin# up. ' lot o issues come to#ether and in ocus that puts one on the path to a trans#endered li estyle. %here is a point that a decision may occur in a personSs li e to #o beyond cross #ender e$perimentation to ull #ender transition and thus become the opposite se$ at least in appearance or VV cannot become V7. %his transition happens throu#h multi aceted medical and psychiatric disciplines comin# to#ether& over time& to achieve the personSs #oal. %he cost o achievin# this #oal #oes way beyond inancial e$penditures to impactin# e$tended amily relationships as well as possible irreversible medical procedures.

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Does +o! care for people in this trans$en!ere! #or!erlan!0 1es' for we are all people who have $one our own ways an! trie! to meet our own nee!s without Him until His love reaches out to us with arms that say ) love you' ) !ie! for you an! ) can chan$e you%( What is the best way or us to minister to trans#endered people in their particular borderland+ %he best e$ample o this is seen in ;ohn =& where the 6ord rather than bypassin# Samaria ministered there. Iirst& we must #o to them :ust like ;esus did. %hen we must ollow the three T6SsS look& listen and love. ;esus sat down at a well and reached out and trans ormed a woman who was a despised person in her culture. He reached beyond the ;ewish cultural norm o the day& steppin# out o a com ort Hone. !eachin# a trans#endered person is really no di erent than reachin# anyone else or we are all the same. 's we #o to them and earn the ri#ht to be heard by listenin#& the 6ord will work throu#h our lives. We have to love them actively and use words i necessary as doors open. It is important to walk throu#h those doors and serve. One e$ample o that mi#ht be to look at their practical needs. Some seasonal holidays can be really lonely i one does not have inancial resources or amily support. Our ministry must be balanced and o er hope in ;esusS Name. Iinally& the #reatest hindrance to reachin# these people or any other is our attitude. He cares there ore we must care no matter& thus we are called to care0 %here is HO.3 .salm 8DC 'cts o kindness build brid#es i.e. cold pop& buyin# someone a hot do# and listenin# to them. 4hurch community dinners open doors R we must make riends to share ;esus DonSt be a raid to be yoursel and be a servant o ;esus. !ealiHe that it is their tur & and respect it. Be prepared or opposition rom 4hristians. %hus be ready to listen and talk to them. Be there or the lon# haul. ,o the distance with them. DonSt re:ect people i they all& ail or let you down. Walk with them as they take steps toward redemption. 39

!ememberin# re:ection is somethin# that can open the wounds rom the past. It is #oin# to take ,od movin# on their lives as a result o our prayers. We are aced with people who have a stron# sense o community and i we donSt stand alon# side o them& we will loose them. http011www.transchristians.or#1archive1archive"t#i 1t#i "trans#endered" borderland T+)F: /ractical 2teps to Breakin$ Down &alls Written by (@( /possibly @ark Shick* and published by %rans#ender International Iellowship. Quoted verbatim. See In ormation on !e"publishin#. How do you eel + One o the di icult thin#s that I ind in the 4hristian church is the wall that e$ists between the people in the pew " and the people that are se$ually broken. %here doesn-t seem to be a wall or the people that #ossip+ %here is no wall or people that e$periment with pre"marital se$+ %here is little or no walls or those that have committed adultery+ %here is no wall or people that become an#ry or abusive with their words+ But there certainly is a wall or people that are se$ually broken " you know the ones that are homose$uals and the trans#endered people. It doesn-t take lon# to i#ure out the #reat walls that some people help build between the se$ually broken and the 4hristian church. ' ,oo#le search done o (Hate or Homose$uals( produced 8& CDD&DDD results proves the point. @any o the results point to (christians( that are 2uoted or their stance on se$ually broken people. Have you ever foun! that0 Some how there needs to be a brid#e that is built rom the nice 4hristian world to the broken world out there. %here needs to be some how to break down the walls that separate two worlds that need each other. ) offer the followin$ 6 steps to start the possi#ility of #uil!in$ a #ri!$e to someone !ifferent from you( 8. Iirst remember " It is #oin# to take ,od movin# on their lives as a result o our prayers. 9. We are aced with people who have a stron# sense o community and i we donSt stand alon# side o them& we will loose them. 40

). We have to ace our own brokenness R the very act that advice was #iven or us to be open& tolerant Emeans that we are not that real about our own brokenness. =. We must step out o our com ort Hone R they are not #oin# to come to us i they donSt sense trust e.#. it is ok to say that ,od loves a homose$ual in church R they are sinners like us. A. 'lthou#h the 6,B% community appears a ti#ht community it is not really& broken relations& distant amilies loom either in the past or on the horiHon. We need to be a voice o hope or people. B. It is not enou#h to :ust say ,od loves the homose$ual in the church but the church must become a place o healin# and redemption. We have to #o to them and show and live that we care or them. I we donSt #o to them they arenSt comin# to us. @ http011www.transchristians.or#1archive1archive"t#i 1t#i "practical"steps"to" breakin#"down"walls T+)F: /uttin$ 2ome of the /ieces To$ether Written by Danny Blackwell and published by %rans#ender International Iellowship. Quoted verbatim. See In ormation on !e"publishin#. By D .lease note that this in ormation is not a complete cause or development o a trans#ender person but hope ully serves as an outline. .lease keep in mind that these are some o the issues we all e$perience and they are only su##estions. 'lso& where @%I or I%@ do not appear they apply to both 's we look at developmental issues o a trans#endered person some terms need to be de ined. 'lso we have mi$ed both I%@ and @%I characteristics to#ether. 8. I%@0 Iemale to male transse$ual ie a woman who eels she is a man trapped in a womanSs body 9. @%I0 @ale to emale transse$ual ie a man who eels he is a woman trapped in a manSs body. ). S!S0 Se$ual reassi#nment sur#ery. S!S can be considered a ter psycholo#ical assessment& medical as well as other assessments and re2uires livin# in the chosen se$ role ull time or up to two years& 41

di erent countries have various other 2uali ications. O to B years old ' distant or absent ather i#ure while #rowin# up. I%@ ,enerally comes rom e$tremely dys unctional history o male abuse /not necessarily se$ual*. amilies. O ten a

I%@0 %here is a stron# identi ication with the male usually represented by the ather. Other si#ni icant males such as siblin#s can be a stron# in luence. ' very involved mother. I%@0 %he @other& representin# emales& is o ten seen as indecisive& compliant and submissive o ten in the presence o e$treme physical violence directed at her or other emale amily members. I%@0 @ales are seen as decisive& direct and in control. 'lthou#h in the abusive circumstances the @other may have acted to -keep the peace- such repeated actions sometimes creates resentment and re:ection o the emale role by the child. .er ectionistic tendencies that obstruct inner peace. 't a#es D"B there is cross dressin# or other se$"atypical behavior or some. When the parents see this& they do not try to correct this as inappropriate& but ind it cute and amusin#& and actually sli#htly encoura#e it. Ielt separated rom one or both parents. Ieelin#s o #ender1se$ual in con lict prior to the a#e o A years. However memories be ore ive years o a#e are unreliable. @ay have e$perienced physical and emotional abuse. In some there may be a sense o envy about the opposite se$ siblin# or riend #ettin# more attention rom a parent. C"8) years old .erceived verbally abusive ather" i#ure. I%@0 Ire2uently the emale has masculine eatures such as a s2uare acial appearance and a masculine build. In reality such eatures only demonstrate the variance that naturally occurs amon#st emale eatures. @%I0 In a similar way some males are born with naturally occurrin# emale 42

eatures. I%@1@%I0 Some possible cross #ender toys and play desired Iamily ailed to reco#niHe obvious developin# si#ns o trans#ender activity Sensed that he was not really wanted& or e$tremely ill"timed when born I%@1@%I0 In both situations type castin# and vili ication by peers can contribute. Iantasies about bein# a #irl1boy& that donSt #o away. 4onsidered a loner N shy. %een years !e#ularly e$perienced humiliation in playin# sports. 'n inner sense that his masculinity does not match that ound in others. I%@1@%I0 %he best term to use in describin#1listin# the actors that may contribute to #ender ambi#uity is0 -multi" actorial-. 4onsidered a loner. Questions re#ardin# their real se$ual orientation. Deep sense o shame. Steady discom ort or #ender e$pectations imposed by others ,enerally very poor sel "ima#e Notices a chan#e in sel "view and a reedom in relatin# more openly in social interactions when cross"dressed. Harbors a sense o sel "hatred as a male1 emale. %hey may think ne#atively about his1her #ender at least once a day. %hey are an#ry at ,od or allowin# trans#endered eelin#s to be a part o li e. Seriously considered or acted out suicidal attempts. Is not convinced that ,od truly loves him1her. @ay have antasiHed about havin# se$ with a man while in the emale role 43

or visa1versa. @acho type hobbies and behaviors have been used to hide eminine desires %hou#hts that re lect a stron# #ender hatred. 'voids con lict at all costs. %hey have an abidin# sense o #uilt and ear in bein# e$posed and publicly humiliated. Both I%@1@%I0 Desires to receive the non"se$ual love& acceptance& esteem o another same se$ person. ,eneraliHed distrust in men1women. Di icult to stand up or himsel or his convictions& even when he is ri#ht Has #reat di iculty in indin# and keepin# a close male riendship Su ers rom additional problems related to addictions @%I0 @asturbation was an associated problem with cross"dressin# in teen" a#e years. @%I0 3$perienced as a youth euphoric and se$ual stimulation when cross" dressed. 9D"AD Se$ual e$citement when cross"dressed continues. .rivate& sel "conscious and sel "isolated Have attempted to hide trans#ender eelin#s by hyper masculine activity Ieel in erior to other men as a male Sel perceived enli#htened understandin# o women than avera#e or normal men .assive I%@1@%I0 't whatever a#e ... would pre er to be a opposite se$. Sel perceived social advanta#es o belon#in# to the opposite biolo#ical se$. %he social advanta#es do not necessarily correlate with the reality as perceived by the opposite se$.

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Di iculty in e$perienced lastin# reedom rom trans#ender issues i the secret desire is kept to sel . Di iculty talkin# to ,od when alone Has ound 4hristianity ine ective in chan#in# trans#ender eelin#s Some with -6ate onset transse$ualityS came (out o the closet( and be#an hormones and preparation or S!S later in li e @any have an absolute conviction that there is underlyin# biolo#ical cause. 'ttempted some orm o spiritual e$orcism to #et rid o Tperverse demonsS. Have nearly despaired o ,od really havin# the ability to chan#e this condition !arely is there appropriate counsel as to the di iculties in achievin# acceptance in an ac2uired #ender role. Has e$perienced a sense o ailure at his pro essional career.

Have ound that reli#ious ervor1evan#elicalism to not si#ni icantly chan#e eelin#s. Stru##les with bouts o depression and an$iety. Seeks leadership positions to #ain people-s respect. I%@1@%I0 Lncom ortable with and amon# same se$ people. @ay be on presently on a psychiatric medication or a nervous disorder. .ossible other emotional issues that add to trans#ender issues. Ielt that @arria#e would eliminate or take si#ni icant care o the trans#ender eelin#s @%I0 @arried a 4hristian woman. Have reasoned that havin# children would help eliminate eminine desires. %he road to a trans#ender li estyle 3arly crossdressin# e$perimatation that is se$ualiHed at puberty Secret li estyle becomes more open and seekin# o support or inner eelin#s

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Be#ins attendin# pro transition support #roups in transse$ual sub"culture or support %akes on eminine1masculine name and persona as well as dressin# as desired se$ or #roups. 4omes out o the closet and dispute amily re:ection& seeks out a psychiatrist and a doctor or irst phase to S!S. Be#ins livin# as a woman1man ull time and takin# hormones. ' ter two years and ul illin# all the re2uirements has S!S. @oves and lives as a woman1man a ter S!S or cannot a ord the sur#ery and lives as a shemale. %he road rom a trans#ender li estyle 3arly crossdressin# e$perimatation that is se$ualiHed at puberty Secret li estyle becomes more open and seekin# o support or inner eelin#s Be#ins attendin# pro transition support #roups in transse$ual sub"culture or support %akes on eminine1masculine name and persona as well as dressin# as desired se$ or #roups. Due to amily re:ection and stress seeks out counselin# and amily N new riends stand with them. 'lthou#h itSs a lon# road involvin# support #roups& counselin# and aith in ,od he1she be#ins to see the li#ht o day and is acceptin# themselves as a man1woman. Dispute the S!S > years a#o (;ane(1;ake is disillusioned and a ter indin# aith in ,od reverts back to a male1 emale role. I%@1@%I0 %here is a primary need to ocus on the resolution o the ambivalent perceptions o the social advanta#es associated with the opposite se$. Such resolution is a lon# slow and pain ul process. Iinally& eel ree to contact the authors and check out their websites. ,od Bless you http011www.transchristians.or#1archive1archive"t#i 1t#i "puttin#"some"o "the" pieces"to#ether 46

Danny Blackwell !ev. Danny Blackwell has written some articles about trans#enderism includin# his :ourney i#htin# its eelin#s. Danny used to run New Hope Outreach and the pseudo or#aniHation %rans#ender International Iellowship. Danny was bi#ender and its the classic e$"trans pattern. His repression o trans#ender eelin#s was counseled by ;erry 6each& endin# in about 8??8. Danny is married to 'lice /Hebert* Blackwell and they attend the pentecostal @alvern 4hristian 'ssembly outside %oronto. When I checked in ;une& 9DD?& %,II and his blo# went o line and New Hope was trans erred to another person. New Hope-s website disappeared soon a ter. Neither Danny nor New Hope has not returned my call or emails. He can1could be reached at nhoF8Uyahoo.ca& nhotorUyahoo.com& and trans#enderintl ellowshipU#mail.com. 7ou can read Danny-s old writin#s at the New Hope Outreach archive and %,II archive. http011www.transchristians.or#1people1danny"blackwell In ;une& 9DD?& New Hope Outreach and %rans#ender International Iellowship removed their websites without e$planation. %hey also disabled search en#ines rom inde$in# the sites. Ior posterity sake& here is a partial& manual archive o New Hope-s contents. I Danny Blackwell /or whomever owns the copyri#ht* wishes these archives to be removed& I will do so. See In ormation on !e" publishin#. %,II-s email was t#i hopeUyahoo.com. https011sites.#oo#le.com1site1transchristians1archive1archive"t#i poHa http011www.transchristians.or#1F1rsrc189=CDBA?D>?8A1people1danny" blackwell1dannyW9Dblackwell.:p#

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New Hope: Believe At New Hope -utreach &e Believe%( 3( )n accor!ance with 3 "orinthians 6:33 which refers to the power of the $ospel to !eliver' free!om is possi#le an! chan$e can occur throu$h faith in 4esus "hrist' the power of the Holy 2pirit' the stu!y of the Bi#le an! counselin$( 3 "or 6:33 33 An! that is what some of you were( But you were washe!' you were sanctifie!' you were 5ustifie! in the name of the or! 4esus "hrist an! #y the 2pirit of our +o!( 6N)V7 8( 2alvation is availa#le to all( +o! loves us an! has a plan for all our lives( 9( )n the authority of scripture' the historical !ocuments of the "hristian faith as seen in the Apostle:s "ree!( ;"ommitte! to a messa$e of Hope<( https011sites.#oo#le.com1site1transchristians1archive1new"hope"outreach" archives1new"hope"believe Archive: "ontact ,s Written by Danny Blackwell and published by New Hope Outreach. Quoted verbatim. See In ormation on !e"publishin#. 't New Hope Outreach we would love to hear rom you. !ev. Danny Blackwell at =8B"CB)"?9)C email us at0 nhotorUyahoo.com https011sites.#oo#le.com1site1transchristians1archive1new"hope"outreach" archives1archive"contact"us .y 2econ! Blue 4ean 4acket By Danny Blackwell It was a #i t rom my wi e& this second blue :ean :acket& and the irst one was a #i t rom my older brother when I was seven. ' lot o thin#s happened between these two #i ts< thin#s #ood and bad& thin#s that added to me and thin#s that took away rom me. I donSt remember what happened between these two #i ts< thin#s #ood and bad& thin#s that added to me and thin#s that took away rom me. I donSt remember what became o the irst :acket wall I remember is the pleasure o havin# and wearin# it. Stru##lin# with #ender 48

identity tends to ill us with mi$ed messa#es and con usin# memories also. %he second :acket didnSt i#nite the same type o :oy but it stirred up the coals o smolderin# masculinity and anned the lames o what ,od wants to restore. Between these two #i ts I have tried to it into clothes and roles not o my #ender desi#n. So ISm le t with a dilemma& do I continue in utile attempts to block pain and escape bein# male or do I embrace the @aster %ailorSs call to put on restored masculinity. %he 6ord used that :acket to help me to see that bein# male is not u#ly& dirty& or somethin# I can put on and o but ,odSs #i t and it is or me. Iunny& the :acket elt bi# and sti with many empty pockets but the 6ord& as the @aster %ailor says #ently& PI am with you and you are not aloneQ. Healin# un ortunately is not as easy as puttin# on a :acket but one o ,odSs #reatest #i ts is our #ender identity and rather than continuin# to discard it& we must embrace what ,od is able to restore. Sure I lost the irst :acket but it was restored to me in love rom my wi e. So also ,od calls us to willin#ly ace our losses and allow him to clothe us a#ain with his #reat #i t& restored #ender identity. Iortunately we are not called to accomplish this task on our own or he uses His word& people& and counselin#. %he 6ord as the @aster %ailor #uarantees His work and He never ails. 's it took time to make and like the :acket< so chan#e in us will take time but by #ettin# closer to the 6ord& we are restored and healed. http011www.help= amilies.com1:acket.htm

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