The psychodynamics of the helping relationship Active Listening and Inquiry The concept of client ORJI Face-to-Face dynamics Communication and deliberate feedback Task process in groups Interpersonal processes Dialogue Consultation in action Is a philosophy about and attitude toward the process of helping individuals, groups, organizations and communities.
What is going on between the helper and the group or person that is being helped.
1. Always try to be helpful 2. Always stay in touch with current reality 3. Assess your ignorance 4. Everything you do is an intervention 5. It is the client who owns the problem and the solution
Is the creation of a relationship with the client that permits the client to perceive, understand and act on the process events that occur in the clients internal and external environment in order to improve the situation as defined by the client. The person who seeks help is dependent on the other, therefore on a disadvantage. In the beginning, the relationship is imbalanced: The person seeking help is one down Feelings: Resentment, defensiveness, relief, searching for reassurance and transference. The helper is one up Feelings: Power, authority, accepting dependence, pressure, resisting to enter relationship and counter- transference.
Build acceptance No contracting at the very beginning Build relationship through mutual acceptance As the client becomes more accepting, he will reveal more
NEXT PRINCIPLE: 6. Go with the flow Active non-judgmental listening in order to:
Build the clients confidence Gather information, as much as possible Involve the client in Dx and action planning Make it safe to reveal anxiety
7. Timing is crucial 8. Be constructively opportunistic with confrontive interventions 9. Everything is data; errors will occur and are the prime source of learning 10. When in doubt, share the problem Contact clients The first contact Intermediate clients Whoever gets involved Primary clients Who ultimately owns the problem Unwitting clients Anyone who will be affected by the intervention Ultimate clients The community or group whose welfare must be considered Involved non-clients Anything that doesnt fit the above and may interfere and that we should be aware during the intervention. 1. Individual level 2. Interpersonal level 3. Face-to-face group level 4. Intergroup level 5. Organizational level 6. Interorganizational level 7. Larger system level Always be clear who the client is at any given moment in time and distinguish clearly among clients. Be aware that clients may shift according to the level of problem being addressed. It is important to surface implications and ensure that primary client is fully aware of them and willing to own them. Observation Emotional Reaction Judgment Intervention Misperception ID bases of misperception Inappropriate emotional response ID emotional biases Faulty logic or incorrect data ID cultural assumptions Intervening on incorrect facts Do checking procedures: Explicit questioning Use silence Always inquire Communication must be a fair exchange Refuse to take the stage Face Work Lost Face Filters are applied based on self-experience Ask before offering a solution Any information can be feedback
Deliberate and focused feedback is extremely powerful to reach effectiveness
There must be guidance and training 1. The giver and the receiver must have consensus on the receivers goals 2. The giver should emphasize description and appreciation 3. The giver should be concrete and specific 4. The giver and the receiver should have a constructive motive 5. Dont withhold negative feedback if its relevant 6. The giver should own his observations feelings and judgments 7. Feedback should be timed to when the receiver and giver are ready This refers to dealing with larger client systems
Consultants must recognize the processes: How things are said and done is as, or more, important than what it is said and done. 1. How to manage their boundaries, defining who is in and who is out and how to maintain their identity.
2. How to survive their external environment by fulfilling their function or primary task.
3. How to build and maintain themselves as functioning entities by managing their internal interpersonal relationships. Who is in and who is out
Agenda Member feeling toward each other Process of boundary management
Problem solving and decision making Interpersonal processes Recurring processes for maintaing boundaries Recurring task processes, organization structure Formal rules in relation to authority and intimacy Group boundary management Group task accomplishment Interpersonal and group management Content Process Structure Identify and fulfill the missing functions Within the task functions you can find decision making: Cycle 1 Problem formulation, generating proposal for action, forecasting consequences and testing proposals Cycle 2 Action planning, taking action steps and evaluating outcomes You need to choose an intervention focus depending on: The degree the issue is related to the groups effectiveness The degree to which the data is clear, so it can be perceived by all the same It will move the process along, not only interrupt it Interpersonal and groups processes categories How a group creates itself by defining and maintaining boundaries How a group grows and develop its patterns of internal relationships Identity Control and Influence Needs and goals Acceptance and Intimacy Frustration Tension Anxiety Problems Resulting Feelings Tough Tender Withdrawal Denial Coping Responses Group Building and Maintenance Functions Boundary Management Functions Harmonizing Compromising Gatekeeping Encouraging Diagnosing Standard setting Standard testing Boundary defining Scouting Negotiating Technological gatekeeping Guarding Managing entry and exit Culture Implicit Norms Explicit Norms Common Language Inclusion & Exclusions Intimacy and Friendship Rewards and Punishments Dealing with the Unexplainable Learn form experience Integration in internal processes Optimum use of resources Self-knowlegde Agreement about mission, goals and values Deal with environment Dialogue starts with the assumptions that every person comes from a different assumption and that mutual understanding is in most cases an illusion. It is a process for building common understanding, not for problem solving. Its got to be face-to-face Roles Giving expert information Diagnosing and prescribing as a Doctor PC in constant interplay